Mother of Son
Mother of Son
Introduction
The practice and implications of surrogacy in the twenty-first century Indian society raise several
interesting questions related to social and ethical issues like commercialization of women which are
of significance in modern times. Surrogacy, however, is not a contemporary practice recently
evolving in modern society. Its roots may be traced to ancient Indian society as depicted in our
myths, where surrogacy was not only practised but also socially accepted. My discussion will be
limited to referring to a few instances of surrogacy and its variations as found in these myths, where
women come forth as strikingly forthright and often take independent decisions regarding their
involvement in surrogate births, thus displaying many ‘modern’ responses.
In the first part of my article, I shall discuss some instances of surrogate births which were
not considered unethical by ancient society in general, though the woman was apparently regarded
as merely an instrument to propagate the family line. What is more, any emotional turmoil or
physical trauma that the woman might undergo in the process was subordinate to the urgent
necessity of producing children to prevent extinction of the family name, involving in most cases the
woman’s active or passive support.
At the start, we must also keep in mind that the study of Hermeneutics, or the re-
construction of the historical context of a literary work, speaks of analysing a text by placing it in the
context of its times and the society in which it was located, while appreciating the cultural and social
forces that might have influenced its outlook. Ethical or moral views and ideas of commercialization
would have been far different in ancient times and therefore the actions and responses of
mythological characters should be judged in the perspective of norms and accepted modes of social
behaviour of that time. Thus what may seem ‘unethical’ or ‘commercial’ in the 21st century may have
been the accepted code of conduct for men as well as for women in their contemporary social
context. For this reason, we should be careful not to impose our own set of perceptions or apply
our present-day standards of the rights and privileges of men and women in modern society on
these ancient men and women who lived and acted in accordance with the ethical values or moral
principles laid down by their society, that in turn controlled or influenced their behaviour.
Birth in Indian mythology is initially conceived of as mental, not womb-born(a-yonija). From
Vishnu's navel a lotus emerges in which Brahma appears. In other versions the first creation is a
golden egg (Hiranya-garbha) from which Brahma appears. Brahma creates mind-born sons (manas-
putra) and a daughter Sandhya. When these do not agree to propagate, he creates from his mind
Svayambhuva Manu and Shatarupa, the first couple, who produce humanity. In Greek mythology
too, Athene appears out of Zeus’s head full grown, like Brahma's sons and daughters.
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It is interesting to note that there are numerous instances of miraculous births in our epics.
Rama and his brothers are womb-born after their mothers have consumed the magical pudding that
the supernatural being appearing from the yajna-flames handed over to King Dasharatha. Jarasandha
is also born after a miraculous mango is given to Brihadratha's two queens by a sage. Each queen
produces half a child and throws that away. The Rakshasi Jara joins the halves together to make a
complete boy who is named after [Link] she gave him life, so she is a surrogate mother in a way.
Even our ‘Thakurmar Jhuli’ is full of tales of children born after mothers eat miraculous plants or
fruits. No male agency appears to be needed. There are also instances of men turning into women
and having children: Ila, from whom the lunar dynasty emerges, was the male Sudyumna and female
Ila in alternate months and had sons in both conditions. Bhangasvana had a hundred sons as a man
and another hundred as a woman, but preferred to remain a woman when given the choice.
Surrogacy and Ethics in Indian Mythology
Instances of surrogacy and surrogate parenthood, involving the practice of giving birth to a baby for
another woman or man who is unable to have a baby, form an important aspect of studies on
classical Indian mythology and reveal several interesting features.
The Anushasana Parva, section 49 of the Mahabharata lists six different types of sons that may
be classed as heirs and kinsmen as allowed by the Manusamhita. These are :
‘one’s own son; son born to one’s wife by an accomplished person; son born to one’s wife
through another by payment; son of a remarried woman by her second husband or to a
woman through niyoga (levirate) son born to the wife before her marriage; and son of an
adulterous wife.’
Pandu lectures Pritha( Kunti) on this in an effort to persuade her to beget sons through other men.
He also mentions six others who have no such rights: ‘the son given away in adoption; the son who,
out of gratitude, calls himself thus, the son conceived before marriage (how does this differ from the
son born to the wife before marriage?); the son born of incest; and the son of a lower caste womb.’1
What follows is a fascinating exchange between Pandu and Kunti as each narrates stories in
support of their views. Kunti refers to the story of Vyusitashva, a famous king in the Puranas, and
Bhadra who was able to have seven sons by lying with her dead husband. Pandu, in turn, gives an
account of the freedom of women in ancient Indian society, which was gradually curtailed with the
advance of Aryan civilization, till the woman became bound by the dictates of the father, the
husband and later the sons:
“ in the past, women
were not restricted to the house,
dependent on family members;
they moved about freely,
they enjoyed themselves freely.
They slept with any man they liked
from the age of puberty;
they were unfaithful to their husbands,
and yet it was not adharma,
for the practice of those times
was promiscuous intercourse.”2
Furthermore, Pandu refers to two more pertinent facts:
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Multiple surrogacy is seen in the case of Kunti after her marriage to Pandu who is cursed
with the inability to have children. Kunti uses Durvasa’s boon, accepting Pandu’s selection of
different fathers who may be regarded as ‘surrogate’ fathers, to give him three sons through three
different ‘gods’, each being an embodiment of their respective fathers’ virtues. The ancient myths
valorized the unknown fathers of princes to be gods, which increased their sense of nobility and
majesty, arousing awe in the minds of common man. For instance, Alexander proclaimed himself to
be the son of Zeus, though Philip of Macedonia was his father. Kunti accepts ‘gods’ or surrogate
fathers to produce sons who would succeed Pandu and, on her husband’s insistence, takes resort to
the ancient, socially accepted custom of niyoga which was used to propagate the family line.
However, she displays admirable self-control, strength of mind and independence of spirit in
refusing to submit herself to further relationships with other ‘gods’ to give the insatiable Pandu
more sons:
“The wise do not sanction
a fourth conception, even in crisis.
The woman who has intercourse
for a fourth is a svarini, a loose woman;
the woman who has intercourse
for a fifth is bandhaki, a prostitute” ( 123. 83)
Despite these socially accepted extra-marital relationships with ‘gods’ or surrogate fathers who assist
in the continuation of the royal lineage of Pandu, Kunti is revered due to her purity of spirit that
remains inviolate, and she is loved by the Pandavas who obey her every command, including her
advice that all five brothers should wed Draupadi. Indeed, Kunti, “the archetype of the Single
Mother” 3 in Vyasa’s epic Mahabharata, provides perhaps one of the earliest instances of the modern
concept of “other mothering”4 for she cares for Madri’s sons Nakula and Sahadeva, also born of
surrogate fathers and who are not her blood relations, a fact which reinforces her as a powerful
mother-figure.
In the epic, surrogacy is clearly seen to have social acceptance and respectability and Kunti’s
status in society remains untrammelled: neither does she express any mental trauma at having to
accept three different men to father her sons. In fact, Kunti is totally at ease with Dharma, (or
Vidura, as Iravati Karve and Pradip Bhattacharya observe) the first ‘god’ of Pandu’s choice, who is
her brother-in-law:
He laughed.
“Kunti, what can I give you?”
She laughed,
“A son”. – 123.4
Here are mature individuals fully aware of their responsibilities, willingly and with good humour,
consenting to participate in an act that is socially necessary and ethically acceptable. There is no
evidence of mental anguish on the part of Kunti , neither does she feel that she is treated as a
commodity by Pandu, who instead regards her with respect and love.
Traditionally, epic women are revered by their families and society, though they often had
more than one husband or had extra-marital relationships with other men who in turn were required
to act as surrogate fathers. Surrogacy in the Mahabharata is seen to propagate the Kuru dynasty of
Santanu. When Vichitravirya dies without an heir, his mother, Queen Satyavati of the Nishada race
unhesitatingly commands Vyasa, her illegitimate son by the sage Parashara, to impregnate
Vichitravirya’s widows in accordance with the custom of Niyoga to further the family line. Vyasa
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advises his mother to wait till the widows are purified by a year- long vow of chastity, but Satyavati,
citing reasons of the security of the kingdom, refuses to wait. The two widows silently acquiesce but
are terrified by Vyasa’s ‘fearful, stern looks’ and repulsed by his fishy ‘smell’ (105.45) which he had
inherited from his mother. When Vyasa reveals to Satyavati that his sons by the widows, Ambika
and Ambalika, would be born blind (Dhritarashtra ) and sickly (Pandu), Satyavati, in desperation,
commands him to impregnate Ambika again. The latter takes recourse to subterfuge and sends in
her maid-servant in her place and Vidura is born of her. Here Vyasa becomes the surrogate father of
Dhritarashtra and Pandu but it is to be debated whether the unnamed maid of Ambika can be
considered a surrogate mother, for though she bears a child on behalf of Ambika, the latter never
accepts Vidura as her son and he is marginalized at birth, never being considered suitable to ascend
the throne of Hastinapura. Significantly, through Vyasa’s act of surrogacy, the aristocratic Kuru
dynasty is replaced by the Nishada race propagated through Satyavati and Vyasa.
Another example of surrogacy in ancient times is seen in the Adi Parva, Chapter 92 of the
Mahabharata. which contains the story of the blind sage Dirghatamas whom King Bali approached
for sons, having none. Queen Sudeshna avoided the sage’s command and sent her maid instead to
be her surrogate. When this was discovered, she was forced to comply and gave birth to five sons
Anga, Vanga, Kalinga, Pundra and Suhma after whom kingdoms were named (Bihar, West Bengal,
Orissa, North Bengal, South Bengal). Sage Dirghatamas may be regarded as their surrogate father.
Significantly, no allowances are made for Sudeshna’s feelings and her submission to her husband’s
demands is considered to constitute her royal duty. Can we, then, regard this to be an instance of
commodification of women in ancient society? The laws of Manusamhita on different ways of
begetting heirs were presumably a product of a patriarchal society and women generally obeyed – or
were forced to comply with – these laws as a matter of course.
Gandhari’s conception and the consequent birth of her children have certain parallels with
the modern concept of artificial birth. Gandhari, wife of King Dhritarashtra, conceived, but after
two years she delivered a mass or mole. Vyasa found 101 cells that were normal in the mass. He
directed these cells to be placed in a nutrient medium and grown to full term. Of these, one hundred
developed into male children: Duryodhana, Duhshasana and the other Kauravas, and one developed
into a daughter Duhshala. No doubt that Vyasa turns that mass into one hundred sons and a
daughter – but giving life may not qualify for surrogacy (cf. Krishna resuscitating his grand nephew,
the still-born Parikshit). Surrogacy is also found elsewhere in Hindu mythology. For instance, in the
Bhagvata Purana, Vishnu hears Vasudev pleading with Kansa not to kill all his sons and transfers an
embryo from Devaki’s womb to the womb of Rohini, another wife of Vasudev. Rohini, the
surrogate mother, gives birth to Balaram, brother of Krishna, and secretly raises the child, while
Vasudev and Devaki conceal this fact from Kansa, telling him that their child was born dead.
Kartikeya, too, is the surrogate son of Shiva and Parvati.
Surrogacy is present in Biblical times as well. The Old Testament contains the example of
Abraham’s infertile wife, Sarah, who “commissions” her maid Hagar to bear her a child by
Abraham.5 Similarly, Rachel, the childless wife of Jacob, commissions her maid Bilhah to have a
child by Jacob 6 Thus, surrogacy is considered as a social necessity in the face of childlessness and
does not apparently disrupt normal husband-wife relationships, having ethical acceptance in society.
Surrogacy is accepted with maturity and practicality – indeed, the ancient, socially accepted custom
of ‘niyoga’ served to simplify the complexities that would inevitably arise out of a king not having an
heir.
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Udyoga Parva, Madhavi’s father Yayati – the son of the legendry King Nahusha and propagator of the
great Chandravamsa dynasty from which the Pandavas descended many generations later – is depicted
as being able to ascend to heaven by virtue of the good deeds of Madhavi’s sons. Thereby Madhavi’s
actions are given heavenly sanction.
In this particular myth then, ethics, defined as moral principles that control or influence a
person’s behaviour, do not seem to be violated, and the modern day views regarding
commercialization, the practice of using something to try to make a profit, especially in a way that
other people do not approve of – do not seem to be applicable, for Madhavi’s actions are approved
by society, and she faces no social disgrace but gains approbation for her selflessness and dedication
to duty.
From the modern viewpoint, however, Madhavi displays a classic case of a ‘womb –on –
rent’ as a strongly patriarchal society rides roughshod over her feelings. Bhisham Sahni’s play
‘Madhavi’ (1982) portrays a modern interpretation to the story, in which Madhavi initially protests
and then silently submits to the demands of her father Yayati and Munikumar Galav in begetting
three sons through three different kings, undergoing intense emotional trauma as she leaves behind
each child to accompany Galav on his mission to obtain eight hundred ashwamedhi horses, in
exchange of her sons. In Bhisham Sahni’s play, she emerges as vocal, for she bitterly asks her father:
“If Mother were alive would she have let you gift me away like this?”
Later, she expresses her anguish to Galav before leaving him and renouncing a patriarchal society
that exploits and humiliates women:
“I am a woman who has given birth to three sons and lost each of them…
I am going to run away… how can I piece together my broken heart? ...
The world is a vast place. I am sure that somewhere there will be room for me.
I have done my duty and fulfilled all my obligations.”7
Madhavi’s final exit from the swayamvar sabha organised by her father is reminiscent of Sita’s
disappearance in Uttarakanda – a later addition to the Ramayana – after she restores her sons to their
father Rama, disillusioned and deeply hurt at her husband’s continuing demand that she give proof
of her purity. Both Madhavi and Sita, by renouncing society, seem to express their strong protest at
the social injustice meted out to them. A recent production of the play ‘Madhavi’ depicts renowned
actress Rashi Bunny in a solo performance that is thought-provoking, focusing on the double
standards of society and the modern day exploitation and commodification of women. The point to
be noted, however is that the story of Sita’s disappearance is present in Uttarakanda – inserted much
later; while Bhisham Sahni writes his play in 1982. Can we then regard the concept of
commodification of women as having been present in the pre-Vedic or early Vedic times?
Hermeneutics would perhaps not advise us to think so.
From the perspective of modern responses we may interpret the myths as depicting women
often being treated as commodities by men – as the story of Madhavi shows. For the same reason,
Pritha(Kunti) can be gifted away to a friend by her father Shurasena; then put at the exclusive
disposal of an eccentric hermit by her foster-father Kuntibhoja and so have an illegitimate son; Jatila
and Varkshi are treated as commodity and forced to have several husbands at a time. Again, in the
dice-game between Pushkara and Nala, the former tempts Nala to pledge his wife Damayanti after
he has lost the kingdom, but unlike Yudhishthira he refuses to do so. But the point is that the wife
was regarded as a possession. Women were essentially son producers and if the husband were sterile
or dead those in power unhesitatingly demanded that they practise niyoga with a relative or a sage.
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For similar reasons Draupadi is also treated as a commodity for she can be staked in a gambling
match besides being married to the five Pandavas, for by this latter arrangement, Kunti ensures that
there is a single pivot for the five – spoked wheel of the Pandava destiny: Draupadi. This is because
Kunti, like Yudhishthira, had noticed that when the brothers looked at Draupadi ‘each had her in his
heart.’8
The reincarnation of Shri, the consort of Vishnu, Draupadi is unique in being the only
woman in the epic who in a previous birth had asked Shiva five times for a husband – and had been
destined by him to have five husbands. Thus, her marriage to the five Pandavas, instead of being
considered socially unacceptable, is given divine sanction. Draupadi, like Durga and Athena, emerges
fully grown from a sacrificial fire. Indeed the gods ordain that she would bring about destruction to
the Kshatriyas and there is a heavenly announcement on her appearance at Drupada’s yajna:
Loveliest of ladies,
This dark-skinned beauty Krishna
Will be the cause of the destruction
Of the Kshatriyas. (169. 48)
In this, she is like Helen of Troy, fated to bring destruction and death. Dhrishtadyumna and
Draupadi are both a-yonija, not womb-born, appearing out of the yajna-fire. Drupada is more an
adoptive father, adopting these two children of unknown parentage as his progeny. Drupada's
queen, unable to be present during their emergence, cannot be regarded as their surrogate mother
but as she requests that they regard her as mother, she is their foster-mother, as Yashoda is for
Krishna. Draupadi, daughter of the King of Panchala, is also called Panchali, meaning ‘puppet.’ She
is indeed a 'puppet’ in the hands of her father, a commodity and an instrument of Drupada’s
obsession to avenge himself on Drona who had defeated him.
Conclusion
Mythological women like Madhavi, Satyavati, Kunti and Draupadi are among the few women who
are considered exceptionally virtuous with the singular capacity of retaining their ‘virginity’ or purity
of spirit. In fact, they are revered and held in high esteem despite having extra-marital relationships
or more than one husband. Virginity in these cases is not considered a physiological condition but a
spiritual state of mind and the kanya or virgin is regarded as a-yonija or ‘one-in-herself’ – an
independent entity, as M. Esther Harding observes9. These ‘virgins’ or kanyas10 have to face
insurmountable obstacles and tragic circumstances in their lives that lead to intense suffering and
emotional upheavals. Despite being in positions of power, their lives seem to be singularly lonely,
for they are often confined by patriarchal restraint and demands of marriage and surrogate
parenthood in a largely parochial, male-dominated society.
Myths form an integral part of the culture of every race and may be taken to be a social
document of ancient times. These ancient myths, through a continuous process of re-interpretation
and re-invention, thereby retain their dynamic nature and social relevance in modern times. In a
society where the ability to ‘be the mother of a hundred sons’ was considered a blessing and a
privilege, the popularity and social acceptance of surrogacy and the niyoga system would have been
inevitable and a matter of necessity. Did the practice of surrogacy further increase the sense of
loneliness and suffering of these epic women, while they silently submitted to the demands of
society, never breaking down in the face of exceptional odds? Or was our ancient society far more
permissive and liberal, where men and women equally contributed to the welfare of their families
and kingdoms, often sacrificing their individual aspirations and emotions? Ancient myths and epics
such as the Ramayana and the Mahabharata provide a systematic enquiry into the mystery of human
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existence which remains eternally unanswered and touch upon these universal themes,
simultaneously portraying a complex skein of emotions and relationships that arouse our interest
even today.
Dr. Ralla Guha Niyogi, M.A., [Link]., M. Phil., Ph.D., is Associate Professor of the Department of
English, Basanti Devi College, Kolkata, India. An alumnus of Presidency College and Calcutta
University, she obtained her Ph. D. from Jadavpur University. Her area of specialization is Charles
Dickens and the Victorian Age. She has compiled and edited selections of essays entitled Romanticism
and its Legacies published by Fine Prints, Kolkata in 2009 and Women’s Words published by El Alma
Publications, Kolkata in 2012. She has also written many books for children, specially designed for
the school curriculum and translated Bengali poems into English, in Signposts published by Rupa &
Co. Her areas of interest include the works of Charles Dickens and the Victorian age, Feminism and
Gender Studies and a study of classical Indian femininity as portrayed in Indian mythology.