This guide will give you all the resources you need to text a girl like a pro.

As
you know, dating apps have become very competitive, and your text game needs to be
on point if you want to succeed. Forget about corny lines or just randomly texting
the girl without a plan. You need a strategy that is designed to help you get the
date.

In general, there are five steps to good text game. I will briefly explain them
here and then go into more detail below. First is the opener, which should be no
more than a sentence or two and make the girl curious in order to elicit a
response. Second is vibing. This is where you flirt with the girl and get her
invested into the conversation. Most girls need to get a feel for your personality
before they meet up with you.

Third is optimal closing. Most guys get this part wrong. In general, you want to
soft close, then figure out her schedule, and finally hard close. Fourth is
confirming the date (if you don’t do this the girl will likely forget). And lastly,
is dealing with any potential concerns or objections that arise. These are things
like ‘How do I know you’re not a serial killer?’. The key is not to argue or get
defensive, but rather to reassure her with humor. For instance, my response might
be “You’re good, I gave up serial killing for lent”
What are the best Tinder pick up lines (i.e opener)
The majority of pick up lines that guys are using on dating apps suck. They are
either too long winded & corny or too boring (ex: hey whats up). As previously
mentioned your opener should be no more than a sentence or two and should catch the
girls attention, without coming off as cringe.

Here is an example of a line that has worked very well for me and my friends

“Hey want to steal my comfiest hoodie?”

This is short & sweet. It is playful and very easy for the girl to respond to. Go
here to learn multiple other great pick up lines

How to flirt over text

Once the girl replies to your opener, you next want to flirt with her and get her
invested into the convo. A lot of guys make the mistake of just asking a bunch of
boring, logical questions, like ‘What do you do for work?’ which results in the
girl getting bored and moving on. Instead, you want to be playful and flirty.

One of the best ways to flirt with the girl is by teasing her. For example if the
girl has a lot of selfies in her profile, I might say:

“I like your extensive selfie collection ;)”.

Just make sure to keep it playful. Another effective flirting technique, is

purposely misinterpreting what she says. For instance, lets say she asks if you
have more pics, you can say “ah worried I’m too good to be true”. Go here if you
want to learn more about how to flirt over text like a pro

How to ask a girl out over text

Once you’ve flirted with the girl and got a good vibe going, it’s time to set up
the date. The common mistake guys make is they go straight from shooting the shit
to “want to meet me tomorrow night?”. This can work, but is highly suboptimal. The
correct strategy is to first soft close (ex: “we should get together sometime
soon”).

Then once she agrees to the general idea of the date, you figure out her schedule.
Don’t overcomplicate this, a simple “what’s your schedule like” will do the trick.
Then once you know what days she is free, you hard close (ex: Let’s do Tuesday, say
8pm?”). By following this three part formula you will greatly increase the number
of convos that lead to dates.

Go here to see my full guide with examples on how to ask a girl out over text

How to confirm the date

This is the easiest part. Once you set up the date, don’t completely abandon the
conversation. You still want to text a little bit back and forth so she doesn’t
forget about you. Then the day of the date, text her something like “hey still good
for tonight”. If the date was set up more than a few days in advance, you should
also text her the night before with a playful reminder. I like to say “pick out a
cute outfit for tomorrow yet”

How to turn a girl on over text

Now that you know the basics, we can get into a more advanced topic. There is this
outdated idea, that you should never be sexual over text because it’s creepy. This
is not necessarily true. You can massively turn a girl on with your texts and get
her much more excited about the idea of meeting you.

The key is to sexualize in a very smooth & progressive way. You don’t go from 0 to
60, you go from 0 to 10 and see how receptive she is before going to 20. I like to
start with a playful sexual innuendo and feel out the vibe. Then if she’s digging
it, I start slowly raising the temperature. Go here to see my full guide with
examples on how to turn a girl on over text

How to get laid on tinder fast

Yes, it is possible to get laid on dating apps that same night. The key is to
recognize the texting cues when a girl is dtf and capitalize on them. If you do not
do this, she will likely move on to a different guy and you won’t see her again. An
example of this might be her texting “I’m bored” or “What are you doing tonight”.
Go here for my full guide with examples on how to get laid on tinder tonight

What are the most important texting & dating tips for men
In addition, you need to be aware of the common dating mistakes that most guys are
making. For instance, not solidifying the date. Make sure you make concrete plans
with the girl. What day, what time, what location. This will increase the
likelihood of the girl showing up. By being too vague, you increase the odds the
girl flakes. For more important tips, go to my dating tips for men guide

How to get a girl to text you back

Sometimes, you can do everything right and the girl stops replying anyway. This is
especially likely with the very attractive girls. Don’t make the mistake of getting
discouraged and deleting her number. At the same time, don’t blow up her phone
either. Most likely she just forgot and there are several great texts that will get
her to respond.

For example, lets say you ask the girl if she is free on Wednesday and she ghosts.
You would wait a few days and say “don’t think too hard”. This playfully challenges
the girl and will often get her to text you back. For more great texts like this go
to our how to get a girl to text you back guide

How to text a girl who is playing hard to get

There are also some girls who like playing hard to get. They will give you short
answers or try to frame themselves to be the prize. The crucial mistake you need to
avoid in these situations is chasing them. Once you start doing that, she is going
to quickly lose interest. Instead, you want to remain aloof and show her that
you’re the prize as well.
For example, lets say you ask a girl out and she says “I’ll think about it”, don’t
try to persuade her. Instead, you can say something like “if you’re too nervous,
i’d understand”. This will flip the frame and put her on the defensive. For more
details and examples, check out my guide on what to do if a girl is playing hard to
get

What are the crucial tinder tips for guys

In order to succeed on dating apps in 2025 there are some important tips you need
to follow.

Keep your opening message short

Be the buyer not the seller – don’t chase
Text like a man – don’t be feminine with your text messages
Text with a purpose – don’t beat around the bush. Keep your purpose in mind with
every text
Sexualize the conversation (in a socially calibrated way)
3 Best Tinder Openers in 2025
There are a lot of opinions on the best and the worst Tinder openers. The problem
is, most of them are based on bullshit reasoning. Maybe a guy on Reddit used a
Tinder pickup line that worked one time. Or a first message got a few responses for
a guy, and so he considers it “good.”

At PWF, we like to keep it simple and short. We don’t want to invest too much time
creating a unique opener. We don’t really believe in “pickup lines,” we’d rather
have a straightforward opener that gets a reply.

With dating apps constantly evolving, we wanted to find the best opening messages
for 2025. Our coaching team did a lot of brainstorming. We settled on 10 messages
we thought were all potentially good for Tinder (and Bumble/Hinge/etc.). Then, we
tested each of them on 15 girls, to see which got the most responses.

Read on to see which online dating opening lines are best in 2025!

What is a Tinder opener and the purpose of it?

Don’t fall under the impression that a magical pickup line is going to get you
laid. It sure helps you set the right frames and can dictate the conversation but
all that it does is it gets the girl’s attention. A hot girl will always have 100’s
of matches to go through. And when she’s scrolling through tinder, she needs to
notice you

Obviously, a decent profile helps. But, taking into account that you guys matched,
we tried out a total of 15 different openers and sent them out to 15 different
girls.

“So, I guess we’re dating now?”

great tinder opener

This is an obviously exaggerated opener and a girl with humor will chuckle and this
can easily lead into a roleplay. Directions you can take it to are introducing each
other to your families, cooking & cleaning. The possibilities are endless

Opener Reply Rate: 12/15 (80% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF Approved

2a. “Can I be honest?”

best tinder openers

Categorizing it into two parts since the opener in and of itself may not be useful
for you guys since you don’t know where to take it. This is an obviously click-
baity opener and if you don’t really have an idea where to take it, don’t use it.
I’ve experimented with answering “You’d look great tied up to my bed” OR “You look
like you’d have a great pussy to eat”. Tinder will think nothin’ of banning you if
it’s too much for a girl and she reports you

2b:

Or here’s a much more safe safe option you can use

“You’re just my type”

This can again lead to many things since you can just describe some obvious
attributes you can find in her pictures (For instance, style, hair, smile, etc)

Opener Reply Rate: 12/15 (80% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF Approved

3) “Hey future lover”

best tinder openers

Another over-exaggerated one which may be a lil corny but can lead to roleplays if
the girl is into it

Opener Reply Rate: 7/15 (46% of the girls replied to this opener) – Not recommended

4) “Hey trouble”

good tinder opening lines

Our trademark PWF opener. Definitely gets girls wondering why you view her as
trouble. She will be curious and want to know the reason you termed her as trouble.
But, it’s been around for a while. So, I think the girls are now immune to this

Opener Reply Rate: 4/15 (26% of the girls replied to this opener) – Shockingly not
PWF recommended anymore

5) “Hey nerd”

nice tinder pick up lines

A neg-ish opener but definitely very unique and much better than a “Hey!” or a
“Hey. How r u?”. The girl is again going to be curious why you think so. You can
always direct it to you being turned on my sexy nerds or just nerds in general
since you are one. But, make sure you have a good profile to counteract the
negative effects of admitting you’re a nerd

Opener Reply Rate: 10/15 (66% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF
recommended

6) “Hey <her name>, you know what’s interesting about your pictures?”

good tinder openings

Another click-baity one. Make no mistake, you may expect a lot of replies to this.
But, keep in mind you may be giving away too much validation if you go the path of
giving too many compliments in the initial stages

Opener Reply Rate: 13/15 (86% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF
recommended, but use at your own risk
7) “Hey, I’m the one! you can delete this app now ;)”

best tinder opener

A bit corny again and some exaggerating. Cocky that she can delete the app and not
talk to anyone else. Again, if the girl doesn’t get the humor behind this, kill her
with “fire”

Opener Reply Rate: 10/15 (66% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF
recommended

8) “How does this work? are we married now?”

best tinder openings

‘Noda exaggerated one which can easily lead to roleplay about honeymoons and
destination weddings. May come across corny to some girls and even “Pick-up line”-y

Opener Reply Rate: 8/15 (53% of the girls replied to this opener) – Not really PWF
recommended

9) “When life gives you <her name> make lemonade”

This opener honestly doesn’t make sense but it’s quite unique and will get the
girl’s attention. As you see in the above screenshot, can again lead into roleplay
about grabbing drinks with lemonades. But, most women might not bite into it

Opener Reply Rate: 6/15 (40% of the girls replied to this opener) – Not PWF
recommended

10) “My 3rd grade’s crush was named Bren. I used to pull her hair and steal her
crayons”

good tinder openersA cute-sy dorky opener but a subtle mention of hair pulling.
This is my personal favorite since it’s indirectly direct and can easily lead into
bdsm kinks and what not

Opener Reply Rate: 9/15 (60% of the girls replied to this opener) – PWF recommended

Conclusion
Even though I have given a detailed analysis of the stats and the openers, always
remember, sometimes the girl may just respond to the opener since that’s the opener
which pushes her buttons.

So, The top 3 openers according to basic math are (according to ranking):

1) “Hey <her name>, you know what’s interesting about your pictures?” – 86% reply
rate

2) “So, I guess we’re dating now?” – 80% reply rate

3) “Can I be honest? ; You’re just my type” – 80% reply rate

1. Start with a Simple Opening Message - Avoid Pickup Lines

Guys get too carried away with sending silly, overcomplicated pickup lines (just
look at the Tinder subreddit). It leaves them looking way too invested in the
conversation (read: lack of abundance).

The goal of your opener is really simple: to get her to reply. I came up with the
easy yet effective “Hey, trouble.” Even though this and similar variations are now
used by guys everywhere, it can still be effective.

For more ideas, we experimented to find the best Tinder openers.

2. Consider Your Message before You Hit Send

Guys often get caught up in the excitement and quickly text a reply to a girl.

Then, they think it over (or worse, overthink it) and decide the text they sent was
suboptimal. They double text to correct their message or back off from what they
said.

Girls subconsciously read demonstrations of lower value out of this double texting.
99% of the time, it’s better to have a single suboptimal message than double
texting her. So, take a minute to think about your messages before you type them
and hit send.

3. Say It in the Shortest, Simplest Way Possible

One beginner mistake: being too wordy in your response.

The more you say, the bigger the risk you’ll slip up and say something suboptimal.

When you’re planning your reply, think about the most efficient way to say it.
Here’s a simple example of handling a challenge from a girl showing the difference:

You: [Explicit text explaining exactly what you’d do to her]

Her: “Well, I’m quite a brat. You sure you can handle me?”

You (suboptimal lengthy reply, subconsciously showing lack of confidence): “Of

course. I’ve put lots of brats like you in their place in my time.”

You (short reply showing confidence): “Yes.”

4. Keep the Conversation Moving in the Direction of the Date

This is another huge beginner mistake: meandering conversations with absolutely no
point. The girl eventually stops responding because she moved on, and the guy can’t
figure out what he did wrong.

Every text you send must have a purpose. Think of it as a game of chess: you should
be thinking not just about your next play but a few steps ahead. Ultimately, the
final play is getting her to agree to a date.

Have a framework in mind about what the path from opener to date looks like. We’ve
shared a simple framework on how to talk to girls on Tinder that’s a great starting
place.

girl and guy online dating tetxing cartoonKeep your tests short and the
conversation moving toward the date, and you'll increase your success rate.

5. Take Advantage of Opportunities to Demonstrate Higher Value

Demonstrations of high value are crucial to success with online dating. I often see
guys miss huge opportunities — or worse, demonstrate lower value — at obvious
opportunities in conversations. Here’s an example:

Her: “How’s your day?”

You (missed opportunity): “Pretty good. You?”

You (demonstrating lower value): “Boring. I’ve just been playing my Xbox all day.
You?”

You (demonstrating higher value): “Amazing! Just finished a workout, looking nice
and jacked for our date.”

6. Show Intent
Again, this is just like cold approach. If you’ve learned how to incorporate intent
into your game, you have seen the difference in your interactions with women when
they’re platonic versus when they see you as a sexual threat.

Well, women are on dating apps to...surprise...DATE someone! By letting the

conversation get too platonic and boring, you’ll end up in the friendzone, and the
girl will move onto one of her other matches.

7. Phone Numbers Matter Less than You Think

Guys generally obsess way too much about getting numbers from women. Sorry to break
it to you, but a number doesn’t mean much in the grand scheme of things.

Getting a number is valuable only in the sense that it’s a logistical step toward
setting up a date, and it solicits more investment from her than just being a name
in her dating app. That’s about it.

You should “number close,” but that shouldn’t be a focus; it should just be a
natural step in your overall framework.

Building rapport – and building a connection – is one of those things I consider

myself pretty talented as a conversationalist at these days. People remark that
they often feel like we’re old friends upon first meeting me; men very often assume
that women I’ve met minutes before have known me for years; and I find it
incredibly easy to have people open up to me about all manner of personal details –
so easy that they typically offer those details unasked.

Kind of funny, in retrospect, considering I spent most of my life as a man apart,

without any close connections of any sort.

So someone you’ve just met thinks of you as an old friend, or the girl you’ve been
getting to know for twenty minutes has told you her life story and now feels that
you know her better than all but two other people in her life. Sounds fun, and
empowering, right? But what’s the advantage of this? Well, as you can probably
surmise, the advantages to deep diving with rapport come in spades, actually. Here
are a few:

You get to know people faster. So you get an idea of whom you’re dealing with. Is
she a consistent, reliable person, or has she used people in her past? Does she
carry a lot of baggage, regrets, and grievances around with her, or is she free and
clear-headed? Is she clingy or independent? Ambitious or unambitious? How open is
she to adventure and new experiences? You have an easier time judging which women
are looking for friends, which are looking for boyfriends, and which are looking
for intimacy that night. You’re good at discerning relatively quickly if a woman
meets your requirements for a girl you’d date long-term – or not.

You make friends and alliances faster. In the social arena, this is absolutelyvital
to your success. The difference between the men who sink and the men who swim – the
men who get blocked by others from getting the results they want, and the men whom
other people help get the results they want – is how good they are at building
friends and alliances. You’re far more likely to take that cute girl you’ve just
met home if her friends think you are an amazing, awesome guy than if they think
the opposite.

You’re “sticky”. You become one of those people that others meet and just want to
hang onto and keep in their lives. You provide something invaluable that almost no
one else does – a ready ear, and an open mind. Because they grow to feel so
connected to you so quickly, they want to make sure they stick to you and hang onto
you as much as possible. This makes everything from same-night seductions to
lifelong relationships much easier to find, manage, and accomplish.

Those sound like some cool advantages that would be nice to have, right? They are –
they make life easy. A lot of the problems that men without the benefits of being
talented at the deep dive run into are non-existent for men who have mastered
conversational deep diving. Phone numbers that flake? Almost non-existent. You’re
burned indelibly into the mind of every woman you spent at least five minutes with,
and they can’t wait to talk to you again. Women who take a long time to warm up to
you? I’ll be damned if I can remember the last time I ran into this situation.
Women become magnetically attracted to you the instant you start getting to know
them.

One strange thing I’ve noticed is that once a man’sgood at deep diving, he seems to
put out this extremely warm, extremely welcoming vibe that others are naturally
drawn to and will begin opening up to without any prompting by him. I’ll try to
break down my current understanding of this below.

I wrote this to be a sort of wrap-up article. There is a lot of information I’ve

covered spread out over the past two years of writing on here that is kind of
strewn about everywhere. This article looks to coalesce a lot of that into
something vaguely recognizable / comprehensible. Hopefully it will give you a
better idea about how to achieve some really cool things in your conversations with
women.

There are some technical elements to the conversational deep dive, and some
personality traits that are important to train yourself on. You need both sides of
the coin – the technical, and the personal – to become highly effective at deep
diving into rapport.

Let’s talk about the technical elements first. These are the ones you can begin
implementing immediately to start seeing some results. Many of these I’ve talked
about before in individual posts – I’ll link to them where relevant below – this
post would be absolutely massive if I went into each of these elements in-depth on
an individual basis!

Technical Aspects of Deep Diving

Getting Past Small Talk: small talk is important to move past quickly, for one
overarching reason (when it comes to deep diving): you don’t cover anything
personal, connection-building, or deep while in small talk. Small talk is like
treading water, socially. It keeps you afloat, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.
Thread-Cutting and Thread-Amplifying: don’t believe I’ve covered these on here
before. Again, long explanations for these; quick and dirty summary is thread-
cutting is a technique for shutting down bad, unproductive, or destructive lines of
conversation (like a girl talking about how she thinks men use women for sex, or
how much her jobs sucks, etc.), while thread-amplifying is a conversational
technique for building up and encouragingproductive lines of conversation (like a
girl talking about things she likes about you, or her favorite childhood memories,
etc.). Try to imagine thread-amplifying as the opposite scenario – rather than
cutting off and changing the topic, you’ll find ways to get a woman talking more
about what she’s mentioned, provide more details, and expand. A good example of
some ways to do this is the “Ask the Right Questions” section in the article on
getting past small talk linked to in the bullet above this one.

Thread-Directing: haven’t covered this one either; it’s a bit of a complex topic,
with a lot of layers, and is quite honestly an art in and of [Link]-
directing is the way you guide a conversation in the direction you want it to go
and get women to independently discover the topics you want them to discover, ask
you the questions you want them to ask, and tell you the details about themselves
you want them to tell you. I’ll write up a piece on this at some point and link to
it here; for now, if this is something you decide to focus on working on, I’d
suggest checking out some of the written reports of a guy named A2daMIR; check out
the link on the left of this page (under “Friends”) for Fast Seduction, and run a
quick search for some of his stuff. Not all of his reports have it, but some of
them contain a number of masterful thread-direction as he guides women in exactly
the way he wants them to go. Chase framing is an example of thread-direction, and
in fact my current model of chase framing was in part inspired by A2daMIR as well
(as well as by a good friend of mine from Southern California who used a great deal
of sexual humor with women).

Being Intriguing / Limiting Displayed Value: you’ll find that the men women open
themselves up best to are the ones who serve as a kind of mirror to those women.
The more a woman feels you are like her, the more comfortable opening up to you she
feels, because she sees the two of you as being the same. Of course, you’re not the
same as any other person on the planet, and the more people get to know you, the
more of those differences become apparent to them. The ideal situation for helping
a woman open up to you is to reveal little about yourself, only revealing aspects
of yourself and your past that match what she reveals to you, to further her
bonding with you.

This is an art I’ve mastered as I’ve moved throughout a number of very different
kinds of people – from upper-middle class white American suburbanites, to black
Americans from the ghetto who stole cars, sold drugs, and got shot, to globe-
trotting internationals, to Southern California surfers and actors and models, to
rough-and-tumble Mexicans spending time on the other side of the border, to wealthy
self-made business professionals, to (most recently) holier-than-thou expatriates
and nose-to-the-grindstone local Chinese. To move freely and accepted with
different kinds of people, you must be highly adaptable and able to showcase
certain aspects of yourself while putting other aspects on ice. Meeting new people
and deep diving with women works exactly the same – showcase the parts of yourself
she will relate to, and sit on the rest.

Getting Your Girl Talking About Herself on an Emotional Level: this is covered a
little bit in the piece on conversational technique tips and tidbits. Your main
focus in conversation should always be on the woman, and the main focus of a focus
on the woman should be on her strong emotional topics – childhood, dreams, past
relationships, goals and aspirations, things that are currently exciting her or
frustrating her in life right now. The reason why this is is because sharing strong
emotional topics is what makes someone feel deeply bonded and connected to another
person. If your aim is to get a woman feeling connected to you at a rapid clip,
this is ultimately how you do it.

(part 2 of the video series, on Advanced Deep Diving, is available to Premium

[Link] viewers here)

Those are the main technical elements. Working on each takes time, but even a low
level of mastery of any one of those aspects of deep diving gives you a huge
advantage in generating strong, connection-forming conversation with others. For
both your goals in seduction, and your general life goals, I highly recommend some
time getting these things down.

The other aspect of getting good at deep diving is personality-based. That means,
you have and showcase the personality characteristics of a man who others will be
inclined to share themselves with and bond deeply with. Men like that are few and
far between – most men are too caught up in their own lives and stories and goings-
on to pay much attention to those of others, let alone to how well they do at
making others want to share and deeply connect. The following are some things that,
should you decide to begin implementing them into your own base personality,
because of their very nature will take you a longer time to learn and incorporate –
but once they become a part of who you are, you will reap benefits in just about
every walk of life where socializing comes in to play – which is to say, just about
every walk of life.

Personality Aspects of Deep Diving

Being Warm and Non-Judgmental: you’ll often hear the advice that you should be non-
judgmental. This advice is some of the best life advice you can get for opening
yourself up to great new adventures and opportunities (provided, of course, you
continue to be discriminating – or, careful in how you asses and screen – even as
you remain non-judgmental). Being non-judgmental is the cornerstone to getting
women to open up to you – people can sense how judgmental another person is, and
the more open they sense you are, the more likely they are to be open and honest
with you. People only hide the things from others that they think those others will
judge them on.

I’d have you go one further than this though, and not just be non-judgmental, but
actually be warm. I think of the spectrum like this: judgmental people are on the
negative end of the spectrum – they shut people down and make them feel lesser and
unworthy. Non-judgmental people are in the neutral zone – they don’t tear people
down, but neither do they build others up. Warm people are on the positive end of
the spectrum – they accept others for who they are, free of judgment, and encourage
them to pursue the positive, constructive aspects of themselves and avenues in
their lives.

When I was younger, I was actually quite judgmental. Eventually I labored to free
myself of that yoke, as I realized that the person I hurt most by being judgmental
was myself – I realized that every spiteful, judgmental thought I had that crossed
my mind actually made me feel a little worse inside, and that I was slowly
poisoning myself with mental toxins. So I focused on shutting out judgmental
thoughts. As I did so, I became more neutral toward others, and moved to the
middle. Eventually though, I wanted others to feel trulycomfortable toward me, so I
worked to view things through their eyes, their motivations, their fears and
insecurities, to try to understand others – even the ones who would hurt me. Why
did they feel the need to try and hurt me?

Once I developed warmth, women began opening up to me in ways I had not realized
were possible. They could sense that I legitimately wanted them to do well and
succeed and be happy, and wanted to share with me as much about themselves as they
possibly could. Work to free yourself of judgment first; and once you have done
that, work to open your heart to others with understanding and care. This probably
sounds like very New Age-y, hippy-ish, Jesus-y kind of stuff, but take my word for
it – from the perspective of making women melt around you and think of you as the
most amazing man they’ve ever met – and feel very comfortable jumping into bed with
you very quickly without the fear of being judged “easy” or a “slut” – genuinely
being warm and caring toward others (and particularly toward women – somethingmany
men are not) is unmatchable.

Being Positive and Constructive: the best way you can possibly put thread-cutting
to use is in cutting negative, boring, hurtful, and pitiable conversational
threads, and switching over to positive, optimistic, constructive ones. Always
remember that women tie the emotions they feel around youto you. If a woman always
vents about how awful her job is to a man, and talks about other crappy life
circumstances, she’ll come to view him as the guy she talks about bad stuff to. But
if she tries that with a different man, and every time she starts on those topics
he thread-cuts and takes her into something positive, she’ll come to view him as
the man who always makes her feel good.

You can show women you are this way very quickly into an interaction if you are
vigilant about it. When a woman begins venting, give her a minute – she does need
to feel you hear her and get her and understand her – but after you quickly relate
to her, move the conversation on. The personality aspect of this is that people who
are quite genuinely positive, optimistic, constructive people have a far easier
time keeping conversations on the right course than people who aren’t – so if you
struggle at all with staying positive, working on this aspect of yourself can have
a big payoff in your socializing and seductions.

Being an Active Listener: when women relate, they need to feel related to back. A
lot of men don’t do this – they don’t know how, or don’t want to spend the time to
listen. It doesn’t actually take much time at all, really, and it’s not all that
difficult to listen. And – provided the women you’re meeting are interesting –
you’ll get a lot out of it, learn, and grow.

One of the reasons why it’s vitally important to me to be meeting fascinating women
with interesting things about them or happening in their lives isbecause I am a
listener. I see a great many men who are talkers, not listeners, and their ability
to build connections with amazing people is limited to how amazing their
conversation is. As a listener, you grant yourself the ability to merge with anyone
from any walk of life, even those you know nothing about, because rather than
seeking to wash your own ideas over others, you allow others’ to wash over you.
Personally, I can talk with the best of them. I have a number of strongly held
opinions and beliefs, and lots of things I can talk about for hours on end (just
look at this post!). But I meet a lot of people who aren’t going to be interested
in those things – so I don’t talk about them. Instead, I let them tell me about
what they are interested in, and I learn and grow and evolve. And at the same time,
they feel rewarded for having someone who cares and is interested in what they have
to say.

If you think of some of the men who seem to be the most POWERFUL men in the movies,
or in politics, or history, do you think of men who talk and talk and talk? Or do
you think of men who sit there quietly, taking everything in, and only speaking a
little? The strongest men are not the men who talk – they are the men who listen.

Once you’ve got the basics of conversation down, implementing the tools and
techniques and personality elements covered in this post will take your connection-
building to the next stage of its evolution. You will be building powerful, rapid,
lasting connections with others, and being one of the most memorable people they’ll
meet in any given span of time.

You’ll give yourself the foundation on which to move through a seduction with speed
– even when you make mistakes here and there, you still have a strong connection
with your girl to fall back on – and build lasting relationships upon.

You’ll have mastered the art of the deep dive – and you will be someone other
people gravitate towards as they do few others.

Techniques To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In A Conversation

First of all, there are pretty much infinite paths any conversation can take. So,
it’s possible to essentially talk without ever running out of things to say.

Conversations can become pretty random. And as long as you can think of something,
you can discuss it with someone else. (Doesn’t mean they’ll be necessarily
interested in hearing it, but that’s another issue.)

Talk as much as you want with Conversational Threading

The main technique is called Conversation Threading. And you must be a good active
listener to be able to use it. (I’ll show you how to do that later)

Basically, you listen to what the other person says and use their own key words of
interest (or phrases) to create new comments, questions, topics and conversation
threads.

Here’s a quick example to demonstrate it right away how to never run out of things
to say:

Let’s say you’re talking to a girl at a coffee shop and ask her what she’s doing
later today,

She replies she’s going out with a couple of friends to a bar. But first she has to
walk her dog and do a little grocery shopping.

Being the good active listener that you are, you’ve already noticed a couple of
important words that can easily start new threads: Friends, bar, dog, groceries,
shopping.

You can easily start a whole new discussion on any of these words.

You can now talk about dogs, pets, grocieries and food, shopping in general. These
are endless subjects in an of themselves!

You can also ask her about her friends, for example. By saying something like “Oh,
that’s nice, are they like your besties and do you go out with them often?

She may say something like “Oh yeah, I’ll be out with Tim and Ruth. I’ve known Tim
since forever and Ruth is just a collegue from work.“

Now you’ve got even MORE things to talk about: Tim, Ruth, how she’s known Tim since
forever, her work.

So you say something like “Oh, that’s cool. So is Ruth fun to hang out with at
work? Oh, and what do you do for work?”

And she’ll say something like “Yeah, she’s really funny and we often have some
great laughs together. We both work at the hospital. I’m a pediatrician.”
Then you suddenly have EVEN MORE things to talk about: Funny Ruth, Comedy in
general, the hospital, being a pediatrician, work with kids, etc.

I think you get the idea.

From this short conversation, we already see at least 14 different topics of

conversation you can pursue!

And once you start talking about ANY of these subjects, you’re bound to hear lots
and lots more words that can start EVEN MORE conversations.

Like I said, the possibilities are endless. You just have to listen to what she’s
saying and take a mental note of the words or phrases that can open new topics.

However, I STRONGLY suggest you talk about the things that are genuinely
interesting to you. Because that way, the conversation will be much more engaging.
And she will feel your genuine interest and enthusiasm. So she’ll respect and like
you more.

For example, if she says something about going shopping for sports equipment,
shoes, pet food and electronics. Don’t just start talking about shoes IF YOU DON’T
LIKE talking about shoes. Pic any of the other topics instead.

DO NOT FEIGN INTEREST IN THINGS THAT ARE UNINTERESTING TO YOU.

Now let me show you how to take things even further.

Insert your own experiences and ideas into new threads

This technique builds on the first one and turbocharges it, so running out of
things to say becomes next to impossible.

As much as Conversation Threading is amazing, it has its limits.

When you listen to the other person, you’ll notice plenty of words you can use to
start new threads and topics of conversation. But eventually it will become weird
or strange if you keep opening up new threads without contributing anything
yourself.

I mean, it will eventually start sounding like you’re at an interview. If you just
keep asking her questions about all the key words of interest and phrases you hear
her mention. One right after the other.

So, in order to avoid that, you have to contribute to the conversation yourself
from time to time.

You have to insert your own experiences, insights, ideas and interests into the
conversation. Otherwise it will be really one-sided.

Besides, how is she supposed to find out things about you, if all you do is focus
on her?

So let’s take the same example from above and roll with it further:

When you ask what she’s doing later today, she replies the same thing. That she’s
going out with a couple of friends to a bar. But first she has to walk her dog and
do a little grocery shopping.

The words to focus on were friends, bar, dog, groceries, shopping, right?
So let’s say you decide to go with dog this time.

You say something like “Oh, that’s nice, I love pets! What kind of dog do you
have?”

Besides the fact that you already share something about yourself here, namely that
you love pets, you listen carefully.

She says something like “I have a 2 year old yorkie.”

Now, there’s a few things you can do here. You could go on asking her about the
yorkie to continue the conversation. And you should, if you’re interested in
learning more.

Or, you can insert things about yourself here. Now or after you talk about her dog.

For example, you can say that you also have a pet or a dog. And then you TALK ABOUT
THAT.

Say what kind of dog you have and how you treat it. Talk about it’s personality,
where you go to walk with it and whatever else dog owners talk about, etc.

If you have another pet, talk about that. Tell her about all the unique or
interesting things about your pet. And do so with ENTHUSIASM!

If you don’t have any pets at all, talk about that and tell her why you don’t have
pets. Maybe your housing doesn’t allow it, maybe you think it’s too much work to
keep one, etc.

Don’t know what to talk about? This reminds me of…

The other way to expand on the conversation so you never run out of things to say,
is with the magic phrase “Oh, this reminds me of…”

This magic phrase is amazing. Especially if you don’t know what to talk about and
are stuck for content.

However old you are, you’ve lived life and experienced a LOT of things by now.
You’ve surely heard of various interesting, funny, exciting, terrifying, absurd,
ridiculous and so on stories about pets, dogs, or whatever you choose to talk about
with her.

Stories that either happened to you or happened to your friends. Or even stories
you’ve heard about elsewhere. As long as they’re funny or entertaining.

SHARE ALL THE INTERESTING, FUNNY, EXCITING, RIDICULOUS, ABSURD, TERRIFYING, STUPID,
SILLY STORIES WITH HER ON THE TOPIC YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT!

Basically, you talk about her dog and talk a bit about yours if you have one. And
then say, for example “Oh, oh! This reminds me of the time when we went to the lake
with our friends and our dogs almost drowned! Yeah! They’re hunting dogs, and I
guess it was their instincts, but they saw a white rabbit and both ran right after
it. It ran across the bridge and jumped off onto some rocks and the dogs went right
after it. But the rocks were too slippery and they fell right into the water and
collided with each other! Me and my friends went to save them and blah blah blah,
whatever the story was, it’s just an example.

Basically, when something you’re talking about reminds you of any story from your
life you think is either interesting, funny, exciting, ridiculous, absurd,
horrifying, terrifying, stupid, silly, entertaining, or whatever else that stirs
emotions, YOU TELL IT!

And the best way to segue into a story in any converstaion is to say “This reminds
me of…” and go from there.

Suddenly lost for words? Use the Parrot technique!

If you find yourself in a place where the conversation is dying. Or if you’re
suddenly lost for words and are drawing a total blank in your mind for what to say
next. Then try PARROTING your conversation companion.

You simply repeat the last few words they say to you.

This technique is extremely easy but incredibly powerful. Especially if you want to
keep the other person talking and elaborating on the points they already made.

You see, conversations are always going both ways. First you speak, then the other
person speaks, then you speak, then it’s their turn again.

The rhythm of the conversation is like that of a tennis game. The ball goes back
and forth, from one person to another. Often accompanied by nods and comforting or
sympathetic grunts like “Uh huh, mm-hmm, hmm” and so on to acknowledge you’re
paying attention.

So next time the ball goes back to you and you’re thinking “What do I say next?”
You simply repeat, or parrot, the last few words the other person says to you. In a
sympathetic, questioning, curious tone.

For example, let’s say you’re talking to your boss.

They say something like “I’m so sleepy today, I was at a party last night and wound
up staying very late.”

You parrot back: “Staying very late?” They reply back “Oh yes, some celebrities
came by and I decided to stay to see where the evening leads”

You parrot back “Where the evening leads?” and they go on elaborating “Yeah, you
know how it goes, celebrities can get a bit crazy and feisty and weird at times!”

Again, you parrot back “Feisty?” and they go on and on, telling you various stories
of celebrities being crazy and feisty, etc.

Parroting back accomplishes several great things.

One, it shows you’re paying attention.

Two, it makes you seem very interested in what they’re saying. So they’ll have no
trouble elaborating and continuing talking. People love talking about themselves
and the experiences they have.

Three, it completely removes any thinking from your part of the conversation.
Freeing up your mind and reducing the stress or anxiety you may be feeling.

Now that you know how to never run out of things to say, let’s learn how to become
a great listener.

How To Be A Good Listener And Connect With People

Now I’ll tell you how to show genuine interest when you’re listening to someone.

The most important thing you need to do to be a good listener is to be present and
in the moment.

What this means is very simple:

Listen to understand someone and their point of view, instead of listening to

figure out what to reply or say next!

I can’t overemphasize this point enough!

Most people don’t LISTEN to others, they merely judge and interpret what’s being
said. They try to anticipate and prepare a response without trying to understand
the other person’s point of view and where they’re coming from.

They don’t emphasize with the other person.

Basically, a lot of people listen to others just so they can formulate what they
need or want to say next. And often they do it RIGHT AS THE OTHER PERSON IS
TALKING.

This often results in not actually hearing the full content of what the other
person is saying. So they end up missing some words and hearing and understanding
even less. Because they’re effectively multi-tasking and focusing their brainpower
on formulating what to say next. Instead of understanding the content and the
meaning of what’s being said to them.

Don’t be like these people. Because others will often sense this and it’s a huuuge
turn-off.

It shows you’re not very interested in what they have to say. And just want to
“win” the conversation and present your point of view instead.

Basically, by doing this, you’re demonstrating that you’re valuing what you have to
say much more than what they have to say. Which is disrespectful.

To avoid this, don’t think of what you’re going to say in advance.

Instead, let yourself fully immerse into the present moment and listen to their
every word carefully. Focus and hear the content of their words completely.

Watch their body language, facial expressions, mannerisms. Get a feel for their
tonality, inflection, how they say the words.

Maintain eye contact and let them know you’re listening actively by nodding or
acknowledging them when they make some point. By saying things like “Right” and “I
see” and “Uh-huh,” etc.

Why you should be in the present moment and listen to people actively
People really like it when someone genuinely listens to them. Because they
experience it very rarely in their day to day lives.

You see, the majority of people are self-absorbed. They live their lives in their
heads, constantly thinking of things. Because everyone has a lot going on and
everyone has their own problems to deal with in life.

So if you actually make an effort to genuinely listen to people and give them your
full attention, people will notice this.

If you’re being there in the present moment with someone, it shows you respect
them. It shows you value their insights and opinions. And it shows you actually
CARE!

In turn, they will respect you and like you more. In fact, some people will REALLY
like you when you active listen to them. And you’ll be able to connect much easier
with women when you do this.

And if you connect with women on a deeper level by doing this, they will trust you
more and feel more comfortable with you.

What’s more, if you don’t try to think of what you’re going to say next and make an
effort to stay in the present moment, it’s almost like meditation. You focus
entirely on the other person and be there with them and for them. You’ll often even
enter the flow state and your conversation may take a very interesting turn for the
better.

It’s almost like a superpower when you do this. People will think you’re amazing
and they will like being around you. Because it’s so rare and refreshing.

Advanced active listening technique

There’s also a technique to take active listening to the next level.

In fact, this is an advanced debating technique that people use around the world to
win debates and to get their point across.

Essentially, you listen to the other person and their point. And then you repeat
what they say to you, in your own words.

When you do this, it builds massive rapport, instantly. It shows the other person
you get what they’re saying completely and that you care about what they say.

If you’re able to tell the other person, in your own words, the essence of their
point or argument. They will respect you for it massively.

However, don’t overdo it and don’t start repeating whatever they say back to them.

Use this technique sparingly, when someone tells you something important.

This technique will make the other person like you a lot. People will want to be
around you and spend time with you when you take the time to listen to them like
this.

And it’s very easy to initiate. You simply listen to the other person and then say
something like “So you’re saying that … <whatever they were saying but in your own
words> …, right?” Or “So let me see if I got this right, you’re saying that
<whatever they said in your own words, correct?

And then watch their eyes light up. It’s really amazing.

Final thoughts
Let me tell you, once you learn to listen to people actively and be a great
listener, your relationships will change significantly. And for the better.

People love it and people really enjoy being around good listeners.

Also, with just the techniques above, you’ll now know exactly how to never run out
of things to say when you’re talking to women.

I’ve given you tools to have endless conversations. But remember that you should
only talk about the things that genuinely interest you. Otherwise you’ll seem like
a tryhard or someone with an ulterior motive. Which is weird and unattractive.

And now that you know all this, you’ll be able to have better relationships, better
dates, and many more opportunities to talk to and seduce women.

How to approach, talk to girls, and get a girlfriend!

How to approach a girl and talk to her

The first thing you should know is that you can’t get a girl to like you with
logic! Let me repeat this again – You can’t logic your way into a woman’s pants
unless you’re rich and she’s a gold-digger!

So let me tell you what I do, and what people who have their shit together do:

I see a girl I like – I then IMMEDIATELY start walking up to her before my mind
realizes what I’m doing and goes into panic mode! Before it starts scrambling my
brain and sounding off various alarms in my head that scream something like “WHAT
ARE YOU DOING? YOU CAN’T!” at me.

And then – I say the first thing that comes to my mind!

Usually, it’s about something that I just noticed in the girl “Hey, I just saw you
and thought you were (cute/funny/weird/silly/interesting/happy/whatever) and wanted
to come and talk to you! I’m Andy by the way. And you?”

And that’s it.

It’s not that complicated, and you don’t have to figure out some mind-blowing or
earth-shattering and interesting thing to say to a girl that you approach. Just go
up to her – and say hello, followed by what you’re thinking at that moment!

That’s because – get this – your opener is completely irrelevant in the grand
scheme of things. It’s just a way to get you into a conversation with the girl.

And you can start a conversation with just about anything: Even ridiculous and
stupid stuff like “Hello, I like bananas, do you like strawberries?“. I tested
hundreds of random sentences like this one, and none of them mattered. No matter
the reaction they elicited – you can deal with it and transition into normal
conversation. And most girls won’t even remember your opening after you’ve had a
conversation with them!

So it’s completely irrelevant, and you can stop trying to figure out “the best,
most mindblowing, and interesting thing” to open girls with.

For example, I have a buddy who lives in the US, and who uses this line on
absolutely every girl he meets, and opens the conversation no matter what: “Hey,
are you from New York?”

Wow – super interesting and panty-wetting line, am I right? Far from it, but it
gets the job done, without fail. He just understands that openers are irrelevant
and get the conversation started, and knows how to transition to normal
conversation.

So just walk up before you talk yourself out of it, and fucking say hello!

In certain circles, this is called the Three Second Rule, or something similar.

And let me tell you why it works!

If you want to know how to attract women, you have to learn to approach them first.
But a lot of us have approach anxiety and various other insecurities, so we often
can’t.

And when we DO force ourselves to approach a girl, we start thinking of HUNDREDS of

random reasons why we shouldn’t, why can’t, or why we’ll fail.

“Oh, what if she doesn’t like me?”, “What if I say something wrong?”, “What if
everyone laughs at me?”, “What if she realizes what a
(sad/bad/stupid/fat/short/unfunny/pathetic/whatever) person I am?”, “What if she
already has a boyfriend?”, “What if she’s out of my league?”, “What if I freak her
out?” and so on and so forth!

A HUNDRED random and irrelevant questions start popping into your mind, up to the
point where you talk yourself out of approaching, start to doubt yourself, and stop
in your tracks!

Now doesn’t this all sound very familiar to you?

But what’s at the core problem – why do we psyche ourselves out like that?

Self-doubt.

But guess what? NONE of it matters! While you may think that all those questions
and doubts that are popping into your mind are relevant and valid – they do not
matter the least bit.

That’s because no one has a manual on life – everyone’s improvising and winging it
as they go along – JUST like you and me are!

So what if she thinks any of those things! Who cares? If she doesn’t like you –
great, because you get to find that out early, stop wasting your time, and then go
on to the next girl, until you find someone who does like you. Getting rejected is
great, because you can stop wasting your time with that person and move on to the
next one!

That’s exactly why the three-second thing works wonders when approaching girls –
you don’t have the chance to start psyching yourself out and start panicking! Your
brain doesn’t have the time to process what it’s doing properly, and you get to the
girl before you self-sabotage yourself!

It’s a very powerful thing – but it’s not fool-proof because you have to practice
to get good at this – to shut out the incessant self-doubting jabbering that goes
on in your head!

That’s the main thing you need to know if you want to learn how to approach a girl!

I’m going to talk more in-depth about how to get over your approach anxiety, in a
very fast and efficient way – in my free newsletter which you can sign up for by
clicking the red paper airplane to the left, or at the bottom of this article.

That’s because I don’t want to get distracted from the main topics – you’re here to
learn about how to talk to girls and how to get a girlfriend. Approaching is very
easy to fix – it’s just a matter of realizing a couple of things and acquiring a
certain mindset.

The other two are a bit more complicated than that.

In any case – here’s the biggest lesson when it comes to approaching: It’s not
about how you open, it’s about how you CONTINUE!

Learn it, repeat it until it starts to make sense, believe it, and apply it. You
will open 100% of conversations if you do.

How to talk to girls

As I mentioned before – you see a girl, you start walking up to her the moment you
see her – and then you say exactly what’s on your mind!

And I do mean EXACTLY what’s on your mind!

Yes, I even went up to girls on the street and said “Damn, I saw you from across
the road and I thought you looked so ridiculously fine that I just wanted to come
here and meet you. I’d love to rip off that dress sometime! How are you even
ALLOWED to walk on the street with no police escort, looking so fucking gorgeous?!”

Yep, that’s what was running through my mind when I saw that particular girl.
That’s just how I talk to girls, by being authentic and genuine with them – not
hiding myself and without fear of being judged.

And guess what? Depending on my execution, and if I was congruent with what I was
saying; if girls saw that I meant what I said with every fiber of my being, from my
body language, my eye-contact, and my attitude, to whether I hesitated or really
meant it – girls would very often just give in to it and go with the flow.

Then the fun started. I had great successes and failures with this thing, and it
all depended on my mood and execution.

But don’t start kidding yourself, it’s not about the girl replying something like
“OH GOD TAKE ME NOW!” to you saying that.

It gets a certain reaction from the girl, probably a huge WTF! Then you have fun
with the reaction, you DEAL with it, and move the conversation onto something else.
But you already planted a seed – one where she knows that you want to fuck her, and
she already imagines this, and it gets her to thinking a certain way about you.

It also shows her that you can get out of a jam, that you aren’t afraid of being
judged and speak your mind, and that you aren’t afraid of people, etc.

And that, my friends, is how you affect girls emotionally.

Of course, developing great body language, eye contact, confidence and the right
attitude takes a lot of time and effort – but anyone can do it, given the right
tools and circumstances.

So don’t try this if you don’t know what you are doing because it will backfire if
you’re not congruent with what you said.

But what if you’re a shy and nervous guy?

Then say that, too! If you’re someone who’s always shy and nervous around people,
and you don’t know how to talk to girls – don’t hide it!

When I was a nervous young lad, still learning the ropes at the age of 20-21, I’d
go up to women I liked and said stuff like “Oh hey there, I thought you were
pretty, but I’m not really good at talking to girls, and I’m new in this town.
Wanna chat?”

Or “Hello, I’m Andy! I thought you looked great but I’m rather nervous right now,
and I don’t know why! So who are you?”
Or even “Hey, I saw you from across the room and thought you looked interesting, so
I wanted to come talk to you. But I never really done this before and now I feel
incredibly nervous. Wanna chat?”

Stuff like this may seem ridiculously corny and stupid – but it’s utterly disarming
– she will either accept this and talk to you or reject you and ignore you – but in
any case – you’ll get some respect and much-needed experience!

It’s incredibly rare to find people who speak their mind freely, who say what they
mean, without fear of judgment! And people, in general, respond strongly and
usually very favorably towards such behavior! Girls love a man who is unafraid to
say what’s on his mind, because too often people hide behind masks, uncertainty,
dishonesty and other bullshit!

So more often than not, I found that being genuine and authentic with the people
you talk to really helps.

And guess what – the whole point of going up to a girl and starting a conversation
with her is to get you two talking! And even if the start is slightly awkward or
stupid, or bad, or even excellent – it does not matter in the least bit!

That’s because you started talking to her – and that’s the most important thing!

Now you get a chance to show her who you are – to showcase your personality, sense
of humor, character, and everything else about you that you can think of – and then
find out a little about her!

Approaches are never meant to be perfect, they’re always messy, improvised,

unpredictable, awkward, stupid and sometimes ridiculous. I’m coming back again to
the point that no one has a manual on life and everyone’s just making it up as they
go along! Embrace the randomness and messiness, accept that it’s never going to be
perfect and just approach!

That’s another step in becoming a man – realizing that you can take care of
problems as they arise and relying on yourself.

And this is where the main point comes in – now you have to completely rely on
yourself and your personality to hit it off with the girl! You can’t rely on ANYONE
else! Your show begins, and no one in the world will be able to help you with this
point except yourself.

And that’s both good and bad – because if you have a weak personality, a ton of
insecurities and self-esteem issues – you won’t get far! You will get rejected!

But that’s okay too since you’ll realize that you now have to start investing in
yourself, improving your personality and developing your attractive character
traits, so that next time – you’ll have better chances of hitting it off with the
girl.

And that’s all there is to it – you approach girls, you talk to them like people,
you try to be as authentic and as genuine as possible, saying what’s on your mind
and trying to be unafraid of being judged. And with some time and effort, as well
as a lot of experience – you’ll get out on the other side a much better man!

How to get a girlfriend

And now the other part comes in – getting a girlfriend.

A lot of people have various misconceptions and want to know how to impress a girl.
Others want to know how to get a girl to like you, or even how to MAKE a girl like
you!

Listen – you don’t GET girls, you don’t MAKE girls like you. What you really need
to do is to learn how to attract girls!

That’s because girls are not objects! They are not things, not property, not
trophies, or anything else!

They are people, just like you and me – with their own values, ideals, wants,
needs, aspirations, fears and outlooks on life!

If you realize this – if you realize that girls are just like you and me – people
who eat, breathe, sleep, fart, and shit to survive – then you’ll go a long way.

How can you put girls on pedestals when you realize this? They’re just as you,
equal in every way as a human being.

You don’t make a girl want you; you attract girls by showing them who you are as a
person, and seeing whether they like you or not! But you don’t skirt around your
issues and feelings – you say them loud and clear.

And then, if the girls do like you – that’s awesome! You can continue from there,
go on a date, get to know each other, have fun, and eventually, hook up and choose
if you want to develop this into a more fruitful and serious relationship – or just
stay as fuck-buddies or friends with benefits and have occasional fun with each
other.

If they don’t – you realize that you’re wasting your time, that that particular
girl does not like you – and move on to the next one! There are over 7 billion
people in the world, someone’s bound to like you!

So that’s what you do – you befriend girls – but not in the bullshit “nice guy”
kind of way. You befriend girls by being an awesome guy, a guy who speaks his mind
– even if just to say “Damn you’re so gorgeous, I want to FUCK you right here and
right now!”

And trust me, given the right opportunity, moment and place – she WILL want you to
fuck her, right then and there! Because she is a person, just like you, who LIKES
sex, wants it as much, if not more than you, and CRAVES it every day!

She’s just looking for a non-judgmental, fun, friendly and easygoing guy to have it
with! Or an aggressive, assertive, exciting, sexual and “dangerous” guy. As long as
he’s true to himself, isn’t afraid to live life, to speak his mind and let her know
this!

That’s exactly how you find and get a girlfriend. You find one who likes you for
who you are – you don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.

How to be successful with women

That’s the ultimate trick to being successful with women. You can be whoever you
want; you can have any personality in the world – but if you’re genuine and
authentic when talking to women because they’re people too – you’ll be naturally
attractive to most women in the world.

How do I know this? Maybe because of the fact that I was a virgin until 20, and a
few years later, I got laid like a rockstar whenever I wanted to. But without all
the cocaine, alcohol, and other stuff I didn’t like, involved.
You don’t have to be a certain way and have a certain personality to attract women.
Any personality is enough! You just have to develop it to the point where you like
yourself, where you realize a couple of things, and then let it naturally shine.

Incidentally, that’s exactly why “bad boys” are so attractive to girls. They don’t
hide who they are, are unafraid to live and just don’t give a fuck about what
others think of them!

That’s all I teach, nothing less, nothing more – how to improve yourself so that
you have a well-rounded, balanced and attractive personality; how to develop
certain attractive character traits, and how to rely on them and your wit as well
as your sense of humor, to be naturally great with women.

I never go on dates thinking: “I should say this, that, and then do this and
afterwards that!”. I go in without any particular thoughts and wing it. I do have
certain routines, stories and silly games that I play with almost any girl, because
they’re incredibly fun for me, and for my dates as well – just to increase my
chances somewhat.

But sometimes I even forget to employ these techniques, because I know that I’m
more than enough to have fun with the girl on a date, then attract her enough for
her to like me, then seduce her by utilizing our sexual tension – and then sleeping
with her.

And just to drive the point home, that success with women doesn’t depend on who you
are and what you do – I’ve always been, and still am, a hardcore gamer – a total
computer nerd! I even have 3000 hours played in Dota2, for crying out loud! That
didn’t stop me from developing myself into a person who’s naturally attractive to
women.

I even SAY that to girls, as a point of pride, that I’m passionate about gaming and
computers in general. And guess what? Since I’m completely honest about it and
genuine – they never seem to have a problem with it.

The results of learning all this? Pretty great!