13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

“People who avoid failure also avoid success." --Robert Kiyosaki.

This book grew out of a series of tragic events in the author's life. Three years after her mother died, Amy's husband, still young, suddenly died of a heart attack. Now she not only had lost her mother, she had lost her husband as well.

After these tragic events, the author decided to write down what she had personally learned: 13 things mentally strong people don't do. “They were the habits I'd fought so hard against to come out on the other side of my grief." These thirteen habits don't just help you get through grief, they will help you develop mental strength.

Here are some parts of 13 THINGS I thought were especially good:

♦ Developing mental strength requires three different steps: First thoughts, second behavior 3rd emotions.

♦ We have to balance our emotions with rational thinking: “We make our best decisions in life when we balance our emotions with rational thinking."

♦ One of the first chapters shows the problems with self-pity: "Feeling sorry for yourself is is self destructive. It leads to new problems and can have serious consequences." Instead, Amy suggests exchanging self pity for gratitude. The author sites a 2003 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which shows that people who feel gratitude don't get sick as often as others.

♦ A big mistake is a sense of entitlement: "Gget over yourself. Develop self awareness of your sense of entitlement.

♦ A big obstacle to mental strength is giving other people power over you: "Giving other people the power to control how you think, feel, and behave makes it impossible to be mentally strong.

♦ This book is filled with lots of practical suggestions. Here's one simple one: “When you receive criticism or feedback from others, wait a beat before responding. If you're upset or emotionally reactive, take the time to calm down."

♦ Learn from prior mistakes: "Establish behavior that will replace previous behavior. Instead of drinking alcohol to cope with stress, a person could identify alternative strategies, such as going for a walk or calling a friend." Looking at prior mistakes in a positive way helps you to learn so that you don't repeat them again.

Finally, in order to maintain mental strength try coaching yourself. Follow these steps: First monitor your behavior, secondly, regulate your emotions, thirdly think about your thoughts.

√ All in all, 13 THINGS is a practical, well-written book. I learned a lot of good ideas. At the conclusion of the book the author provides references to support her various conclusions.

♫ A Review by Chris Lawson

Note: I do not know the author of this book, and no one requested I write this review.

About a young woman who has barely experienced adulthood. Is a therapist at a young age has family and extended family support and her life ahead of her??? Gee what a surprise .

This is a powerful book that has thoroughly entertained me.

I couldn't go past the introduction (it didn't introduce anything special anyway) . I'm sorry but her voice was so irritating (it had that "valley girl" sound, as if something is stuck in her throat) that it caused me a headache. I would have given it a chance if it were another voice.

Good insights. A lot of reaffirming thoughts and confirmation that I’m in the right track.

Amy Morin, college psychology professor and psychotherapist, describes thirteen behavior patterns, which are ineffective and often the doorway to worse behaviors and negative emotions. Each chapter is entitled by one of them, three of which are:-"They Don't Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves"-"They Don't Worry About Pleasing Everyone"-"They Don't Resent Other People's Success"Each behavioral pattern includes anecdotes; the thoughts, behaviors, and emotions assigned to each; mental strength strategies for eliminating these behaviors, and common traps leading to their return.I'm not saying that this is a cure-all book; however, the strategies included can be beneficial in enhancing your mental strength.

Just an ordinary as any other self help book, if you are used to those book, you can skip one, nothing special that I found

It was way too repetitive. I got bored wit it.

I liked the beginning the most but you lost me at Madonna and Oprah. Not everyone achieves the same level of success. Or wants celebrity and fame. And I’m here to tell anyone who reads this—that’s okay. Definitely could have used more realistic examples or people that are not “entertainers”. A lot of recycled, New Age ideas. No you can’t control your life, but you can control how you react to it says it better.

Too many stories and too generic. I wish the author left more realistic tips

The narrator had a soothing voice and easy to follow I already kinda know a lot of the stuff the book included but having to listen to it again and let it seek in again gave me motivation, positive energy and faith.

I loved this book it is going to help me be the person I want to be!

I reluctantly picked this one up. The title put me off but I had added it to my list and therefore had to go through it. Or at the least sample the first chapter. I thought I need to know what mentally strong people do not don’t do but the author makes a great case. Despite identifying with only 3 (and a half) of these behaviors I gladly went through every chapter because the author not only identifies pertinent issues but has a great practical and sometimes step-by-step approach to how to deal with them. Which is after all the goal. You won’t regret this one.

Positively teaches growth through identifying reality, resilience and thoughtful choice.

Im not that same person anymore after listening to this book
Thanks

A friend recommended 13 Things to me, and I’d like to recommend it to others now that I’ve finished it. It is a self-help book, but it breaks with most of that genre by offering only sensible advice and avoiding quick fixes or magical thinking. The case studies are a little simplistic, and the strategies might seem obvious, but the 13 things she suggests are all things that I know will work. I’ve seen many of them work, either for myself or for others. If you want to set goals, improve your attitude, and achieve, you could do worse than keep this book handy.

The best self help book I read. Makes sense and worth listening twice.

Fantastic! Very well structured and extremely helpful! Brilliant! Hope there are more to follow!

One of the best books ever! All you need in this book to become mentally strong

Surprised with all the rave. The book is full of platitudes and generic. It makes no mention of validating feelings and the complexity of human emotions. It's definitely an easy band-aid for whatever wounds or emotional cuts if that's what you looking for.

Couldn't continue after first chapter, i mean what kind of example someone who eats 1 dozen of doughnuts after the gym wont realize that's the reason they aren't seeing any changes to his body????? And you couldn't be any less enthusiastic in reading this book out to your readers.

This is an excellent book, scientific and real life cases information based upon. Strongly recommended. Thanks.

Good book thank you very much will read again and

This is an amazing book that touches on areas that most people deal with.

Loved listening to the book. It’s inspirational and informative. Thanks

Really could listen to this book over again and different points in my life. Going to get the hard copy to keep forever <3

- - - Fuck you Amy I have clinical depression.

Makes you think a lot about your life choices, worth reading!

Excellent book for everyone.!!!
In this days is important to understand what it means to be mentally strong.

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