Drops into an Ocean: Continuing the story of Caring For Life

This book is dedicated with love and respect to

Peter Parkinson and Esther Smith

co-founders of Caring For Life

Caring For Life’s 30th Birthday Song

We bring our broken world to You,

The One who sees each tear

You see the hurt, the shame and pain

You understand each fear.

We bring ourselves, for how can we

Begin to meet this need?

Rebuilding lives, not only homes;

Not only mouths to feed.

Chorus

We bring our loaves and fishes

To You, the Lord of all.

We’ll follow in Your footsteps,

And answer to Your call.

Lord, take our small resources,

Take every loving deed.

Turn drops into an ocean

To meet a world of need.

We’ll share Your love, Lord Jesus Christ,

In everything we do.

In caring for this broken world

We’ll try to be like You.

Chorus

To You be all the glory, Lord

For every rescued soul;

For every person found a home,

And every life made whole.

Chorus

Turn drops into an ocean

To meet a world of need.

© 2016 Caring For Life

Lyrics Esther Smith – Music Tim Snuggs & Harriet Saul

Contents

Title

Dedication

Caring For Life’s 30th Birthday Song

Foreword

1.  Learning from the Best

2.  Forward in Faith

3.  Building for the Future

4.  Caring in a Broken World

5.  Meeting a World of Need

6.  One Life at a Time

7.  Not Problems but People

8.  What can I do?

Copyright

Foreword

I have visited Crag House Farm under many guises during the last 13 years, in a formal capacity as Lord-Lieutenant of West Yorkshire and, more important, to escort the charity’s patron, HRH The Countess of Wessex, who is dedicated to the aims of Caring For Life and confers regularly with the executive committee on the charity’s future.

Informally, I have relished the Christmas celebrations many times, have attended the summer Open Day which brings supporters over vast distances to come together, to pray and to celebrate. I have been delighted to see tricky passages from Shakespeare delivered impressively by young people supported by Caring For Life and there have been many concerts given by very well-rehearsed beneficiaries which have given joy to my husband and me. We have even driven a horse and carriage at the farm, following the Countess’s lead.

From personal experience I know how all-encompassing the love given by the Parkinsons and Esther is. I was a bit low physically last winter. When Peter heard about it,he and Jonathan drove over to our village near York, just for coffee, to bring me gifts and to make sure all was well. It was hugely generous, both in terms of time and energy, and typical of their unstinted giving. The visit was followed up by a wonderfully happy lunch in the Granary with all the family present and a hamper of further gifts from them all.

Giving is central to Caring For Life. Everyone privileged to come under its wing at Crag House Farm or as a recipient of regular outreach visits has been given such love, hope and faith, that their difficult lives have been transformed. It is the finest example I know of Christian love in action.

Dame Ingrid Roscoe

Lord-Lieutenant of West Yorkshire

1

Learning from the Best

It is never easy to put yourself in someone else’s place, particularly when that person’s life is a world away from your own. For those of us who are blessed with a loving family, good friends and more than we need to live on, it can be particularly hard. How can we relate to the people we see sleeping rough on the streets of our cities? The drunks and drug-addicts lying in a stupor in doorways or staggering past shouting abuse at passers-by? The unemployed spending their days watching television, smoking cannabis or popping pills, and living off benefits instead of actively seeking work? The selfish and feckless, happy to have casual sex but not to provide for the unfortunate children they create?

Our disapproval is stirred up to outrage when we see such people on The Jeremy Kyle Show and Benefits Britain, or read tabloid headlines exposing the ‘staggering scale of Britain’s underclass’ and screaming that ‘half a million problem families cost the taxpayer £30 BILLION a year’.¹ Why should we, who take our personal responsibilities seriously, working long hours so that we can look after our dependants and pay our taxes, have to pick up the pieces for those who cannot be bothered to do it for themselves? And, more importantly, why should our hard-earned money be ‘raked in’ by ‘lazy bums’ who would rather live on state ‘handouts’ than find an honest job and whose ultimate nightmare is that ‘When the telly goes off … I don’t know what we’re going to do’?²

Such stories are widespread in the media, playing to our prejudices and fomenting anger in our increasingly divided and secular society. In the past there was a widely accepted, if morally dubious, distinction between the deserving and the undeserving poor. This was clearly judgemental and often harsh in practice but at least it saw the need to offer support to those who had fallen on hard times through what was perceived to be no fault of their own. Today, it seems, even that distinction has been swept away. The jobless are simply idle; those who claim benefits are just scroungers. These are easy labels with which to classify and condemn whole sections of society but they do not tell the whole story nor do they address the hard questions as to how and why people become unemployed or homeless in the first place.

Partly in response to public outcry, politicians of all parties have wrestled for many years with the problem of how to deal with Britain’s so-called under-class. They have tried introducing punitive measures such as building more prisons, issuing anti-social behaviour orders and making benefits harder to claim, none of which have had an impact on reducing crime. On the other hand, well-intentioned attempts to tackle the problems at source have also failed to produce the hoped-for results: those who have been in care, for instance, are still disproportionately highly represented in the statistics for unemployment, homelessness and criminality despite the extension of the state’s responsibility from the age of 16 to 21.³ Even the ambitious Troubled Families Programme, which specifically targeted 120,000 families across England with multiple problems, including crime, anti-social behaviour, truancy, unemployment, mental health problems and domestic abuse, missed its key objectives. Despite costing £448 million and providing key workers to mentor such families regularly, the analysis of the first phase of the programme, which ran from 2012 to 2015, found that it had achieved ‘no significant or systemic impact on outcomes related to employment, job seeking, school attendance, or anti-social behaviour’.⁴

If nothing works, then what are we to do? We can’t ignore the problem and hope that it will just go away because, even if we ignore the moral imperative to act, at the most basic and selfish level the problem is one that affects us all socially and financially. There is, however, a different way. For 30 years one charity has consistently demonstrated that it is possible to change lives for the better profoundly and permanently. Year on year throughout those three decades Caring For Life has achieved at least 90% success rates in preventing a return to offending or homelessness; at the time of writing, of the 120 people currently being cared for in the community, not a single one has become homeless.⁵ This is an astonishing record by any standard. The official statistics for England and Wales issued by the Department of Justice in 2015, for example, reveal that since 2004 proven reoffending rates (which do not cover all reoffending) have remained between 25% and 27% and that within a year of being released from custody between 44.1% and 48.6% of adults have been convicted of further offences.⁶ Homelessness statistics are more difficult to obtain as the government only releases official figures for statutory homelessness, a definition based on those