The Get to the Point! Guide to Getting A Girlfriend

Introduction

Let's be honest: for many if not most people, dating is not easy. Sometimes, it can seem like everyone else is hooking up and having fun, but when you’re not included it can sometimes be difficult to find the onramp to a fruitful social life, let alone meet someone you can truly connect with.

Hi, I'm Marc Allan Moore, bestselling author and award-winning speaker. In my travels I've spoken to thousands upon thousands of people, and if there's one simple thing most men have in common, it’s the complaint that keeping a successful relationship going seems more difficult than they feel like it should be. And in all fairness, looking at the state of many guys’ lives I often have to agree—but the good news is, it doesn’t have to be. Fortunately, I’ve also found there are a few simple steps one can follow to create a more rewarding love life relatively quickly and easily, as long as you’re willing to put yourself out there and put some effort into it.

The truth is, when you have true self-control and confident knowledge of yourself, you are far more likely to find success in the dating pool. And the further your journey into self-improvement takes you, the more you will come to learn that the reverse is also true, each step of progress not only bringing its own benefits but also unforeseen benefits that help make further steps even easier. As you read this book, you will likely find in many places similar principles and advice apply equally to both dating and non-sexual relationships with other people. I encourage you to draw those connections for yourself, as this will help you understand the interconnectedness of any healthy relationship, sexual and otherwise, and the healthier you are able to make every aspect of your life, the better you’ll inevitably do in your romantic life—so don’t be afraid to jump in with both feet. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll be in a position to look back in wonder for the reasons you let yourself be held back from a happier life for so long.

Chapter 1

Clearing the deck

One of the primary reasons I was spurred to write this book was the incredibly poor quality of most dating advice for men I saw floating around out there, in print and otherwise. I don’t claim to be a dating god by any means—although I have successfully maintained truly rewarding relationships with women for most of my adult life—but much of the dating advice I saw put forth by some supposed ‘dating experts’ was so wrongheaded, it was blatantly obvious that the men—and sometimes women!—who were giving it were in no position whatsoever to be giving anyone advice.

If you perused any other books during the search which led you to this volume, this will likely not come as a surprise to you. Unfortunately, the general level of quality for such books ranges from dismal to shockingly terrible, with an average level of writing somewhere around a first- or second-grade command of English, and often not even that. Often when comparing the advice of two different instructors one will find blatantly contradictory statements: one claims looks are totally unimportant in men and another claims exactly the opposite; one claims body language comprises the most important part of human communication and another teaches nothing but getting the upper hand via language. And granted, it would be surprising if everyone agreed on everything, but frequently these supposed authorities couldn’t even