Motivation simply explained: Build the right mindset with motivation, discipline and courage

Problem

How is a problem defined?

According to the dictionary, a problem is understood as a difficult or unsolvable task. The word itself carries a lot of weight. It feels heavy and sluggish, like a stone on your back or a 10 kg bag of dung. A problem describes a mental difficulty that requires solutions, an obstacle to reach the desired goal.

Why is there talk of a mental difficulty here? The first thing you should understand is that a problem is a mental thing, something intangible. It describes a state of standstill. You want to ride your bicycle past a person. That could be a problem. You can't just ride through the person. A solution must be found. This arises in your head. You figure you can make a U-turn and ride past the person on the right. You could ring the bell first, clear your throat, or not do it at all. Or you can dismount and walk past the person. You can complain, grumble, smile, say thank you and just keep driving. Possible solutions are many. What you choose in the end is entirely up to you. Once you drive past the person, the problem is solved.

Problems can arise at different moments, at different times and with different intensity. They can be visible to oneself and to others, or exist only in your mind. The cautious mother who lets her child go to the bakery alone for the first time has problems with her confidence and fear that another mother may not even see because she has a different attitude towards the problem. Problems swirl around in our minds like little whirlwinds. Sometimes it's a small gust that makes us take notice. At other moments, it's a violent tornado that wants to destroy the safe haven.

Areas of life

Problems can arise in all areas of life. Professionally, privately, in the family, with friends, with finances, with the children, with the ex-partner, with a doctor or the computer that doesn't do what it's supposed to. You might think that life is made up of little ditches that you constantly have to jump over in order to get ahead. Figuratively speaking, very fitting, isn't it? Think about it: In which area of life are you currently having problems? Where do you see difficulties right now? How big are they? It can start with the can opener, which is broken and because of which you are annoyed every time not to have bought a new one until now. But it can also be the tyranny of your ex-wife, who can't accept that it's over. Or is it the dear money that robs you of sleep every night because you don't know how to maintain the standard of living? Maybe it is also the look in the mirror that is a problem for you; that the dog is not well socialized or the children can't behave at the table is also a problem for some.

What problems arise and how much weight they carry for each person depends on their socioeconomic status. This means that what we consider a problem depends on our environment, culture, level of education, upbringing, family life and social background. A child from the middle class would complain that he still hasn't been given a new Playstation at the age of 10, while others with a lower status are happy to be allowed to use an old Gameboy second-hand - if they have that at all.

Some people would describe something like this as a luxury problem. A problem that only people who have everything else have. While many families throw leftover food in the garbage, some children have to eat at the Ark because they don't get anything at home.

Thus, problems are always relative and subjective and can attack not only any area of life, but also any type of social class. One divides life into five areas:

Money and work - This is the area of life where the storm is most likely to rage. Money and work are among the essential things a person needs to live these days. Unemployment, poor pay or even money in abundance, the handling of money and fulfillment in the job are here in the highest place.

Communality and love - The area of interpersonal relationship. It includes all the areas that have to do with other people: Family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, relatives, sisters, brothers, etc. Even if we do not like other people, we have a relationship with them.

Body and health - This section records everything that makes up the physical and mental state of health. Physical suffering can encompass a great many problems and interacts with the soul. Exercise, fitness and nutrition also fall into this area of life.

Material - It's hard to believe, but material things and places also belong to their own sphere of life. Minimalism is what privileged people call it, for whom it is enough to provide for themselves. While people in developing countries do not know it at all differently and carry their only possession and property at the body. Owning material things can be very significant for some; showing status, showing who you are. This can also be about places, such as a vacation to the Maldives or exploring Africa.

Consciousness and belief - This is the realm of our thought world, imagination, emotions and spirituality. It is also about what we believe in. This does not only mean belief in God, but also belief in realities and in oneself. It is about the higher power, about karma and fate.

Many of these areas of life influence each other. A person who has little money does not even need to think about being able to go on vacation or fly every year if he has to watch how he is going to pay the rent or even the food.

Criticizing others has never spared anyone their own performance.

-Noël Coward-

The problem behind the problem

We never do it consciously, but we all do it. We change our perspective, portray ourselves as victims, trivialize, shift or project onto others. At first, this may seem like a stone's throw to you. To me, too. It is unpleasant to hear such attributions. Basically, however, this is a human behavior that happens unconsciously. There is a blockage deep inside you, a resistance that wants to protect you from psychological damage. You have certainly experienced moments like this before:

Someone comes at you with outrageous insinuations that you think are baseless. For example, the person tells you that you are a liar and that you can take care of yourself. Always the other person would have to do it and you would never do anything. You are a bad person and you only want to annoy the other person.

Well, who wouldn't feel attacked by such attributions? However, in this example, you know that the person is talking more about himself, because your counterpart is the one who is telling lies, telling untruths to family and friends, and trying to portray you badly so that your counterpart