Body Language Exposed

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CONTENTS

Introduction

Non Verbal communication

Congruence

Incongruence

The mind

Unconscious survival mechanism

First.

Second.

Third

Fourth

Internal language

Visually  Auditory  Kinesthetically

Looking up and to their right

Looking up and to the left

Looking right

Looking left

Down and to the right

Down and left

Comfort zone

Public.

Social space.

Personal space

Intimate space

Tells

Reading

Practice

Baseline

Comforters

Universal changes.

Up, is good

Down is bad

Width

Large movements

Small movements

Preening

The Top

HEAD

Head touching

Comfort

Discomfort

Head Nodding

Head Shake

The Freudian (head) slip

Head up

Head down

Head flick

Face

Forehead

Eyebrows

Eyes

Eye Blocking

Pupils

Other eye movement

Nose

Crinkling of the nose is.

Nose flare.

High nose

Cheeks

Puffing cheeks

Cheek colour

Cheek biting

Lips

Disappearing lips

Lip licking

Biting lips

Stiff lips

Pouting.

Tongue

Winning tongue

Tongue of the loser

Not caring tongue

Got away with it tongue

Concentrating tongue

Mouth

Whistling

Yawn

Smile

False smile

Upside down smile

The sneer.

Agog

The grin.

Chin

Locked jaw

Neck

Neck exposure

Covering the neck dimple,

Fuel gauge

The Middle

Shoulders

Fixed Raised shoulders

Shrug

Shoulder brushing

Torso

Leaning

The truth lean

Torso Covering

Arm crossing

Buttoning jacket

With an object

Alpha male

Towards and away

Arms

Inner Outer

Frozen arms

Wide arms

Arm movement

Hands

Stay away

Hands on hips

Interlaced hands

Steeple

Hidden hands

Applauding

Palms

Palms down

Palms facing in

Shaking hands

Handshake

Strong

Weak

Waving hands

Fists

Hands on knees

Fingers and Thumbs

Thumbs

The Bottom

Genitals

Protecting

Framing

Legs

Leg rubbing

Superior leg rub

Leg crossing, seated.

Leg crossing, standing

Leg movements

Twitching.

Bouncing legs

Wide legs

Feet

Facing feet

Dancing feet

Planted feet

Hidden feet

Shuffling feet

Dangling shoes.

Tonality

Deceit

Is someone lying to me?

Beautiful Game

The yellow card

The red card

Twelfth man.

The Achilles heel

The super sub

Goal for

GOAL AGAINST

On the Attack

In defence

Introduction

Charlie Chaplin, Buster Keaton, in fact all those wonderful stars of the silent movies had no other means of communication but their body language and facial expression, except of course for the occasional text bubble.

Yet they could convey any message they needed to. They could tell an entire story without speaking.

They used these expressions in overt, exaggerated form in order that the audience were in no doubt as to the message being sent. The responsibility was on them to do a good job

In everyday life, conversation and communication, the language of the body is much more subtle. Therefore the responsibility is upon the reader to decipher correctly what is being left unsaid.

Long before the silent movies non verbal communication was an important survival tool, messages from affection to aggression and everything in between were conveyed using this method alone. We would have been experts at reading the tiniest signal from other humans.

Once we started talking the skill became less and less used and dulled, until today it is only usually recognised at an unconscious level.

This book aims to help you re-sharpen those skills, to bring body language back into the conscious realm.

Using observation to once again see what is being said to us by another person.

To bring our instinctive feelings about other people and what they are really trying to tell us back under our control.

Practice, looking for telltale signs and use the information in this book to put yourself in charge.

Ensure you are sending the right messages to others and use your own body to best affect situations and how you are perceived by those around you.

Non-Verbal communication

This is everything we tell others about a situation, our emotional state and our intention, that does not come from the words we say.

This is all about the messages we convey to others and them to us via our body language, our gestures and our facial expression and the inflection in the tone of our voices.

All the things we communicate to each other at a primal level except the actual words that come out of our mouths.

So how do those messages come across to us all?

A whopping fifty five percent of message projection and reception is through body language alone.

This is our stance, our proximity to others as well as our movements, posture, positioning of our feet and hands too.

As well as these body positions are our facial expressions and the changes that take place in each of these in response to various stimuli.

We call them expressions because they are an outward visible expression of the invisible emotion being experienced by a person.

On top of all that there are micro expressions. A micro expression is the same as any other facial expression except it occurs in a fraction of a second.

They happen without us even realising that they have occurred. Micro expressions are completely honest unconscious responses telling us the emotional state of a subject without any conscious interference.

Micro expressions are usually ‘masked’ within a half a second. That is unless of course the person has nothing to hide!

Next coming into the frame is how we say something to another human being, our tone of voice which constitutes a further thirty eight percent.

In all that’s a staggering ninety three percent of our communication has nothing whatsoever to do with what we actually say.

If you’ve done your math correctly, you will notice that leaves a relatively small seven percent of communication left to what we are actually saying.

This leads us to the natural assumption that the least honest part of any communication is in fact the actual verbalised words!

In future when you have a conversation with somebody remember these figures and don’t get sucked into believing what you are told.

In the same breath remember to present yourself properly to others. The signals you send out are received at an unconscious level by others.

Any parents among you will instinctively know that the figures above are correct. You know your children so well that if they try to tell you something which is not true you can ‘feel’ it.

You know when they are uncomfortable or happy they don’t have to tell you how they feel it.

What of course is happening is you are relying