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Waltz-Rushe-Gottman Emotional Abuse Questionnaire (EAQ)
Read each statement, and circle the word that best describes the frequency with which each
behavior occurs.
Isolation Sub-scale
I have to do things to avoid ray partner's jealousy.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner tries to control who I spend my time with.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner disapproves of my friends.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner does not believe me when I talk about where I have been.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner complains that I spend too much time with other people.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner accuses me of flirting with other people.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
In social situations my partner complains that I ignore him.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner is suspicious that I am unfaithful.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner acts like a detective, looking for clues that I've done something wrong.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
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My partner checks up on me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner keeps me from going places I want to go.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner keeps me from doing things I want to do.
Never
Rarely
My partner says I act too seductively
Never
Rarely
My partner keeps me from spending time at the things I enjoy.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner threatens to take the car keys if I don't do as I am told.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner threatens to take the money if I don't do as I am told.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner threatens to take the checkbook if I don't do as I am told.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner prevents me from leaving the house when I want to.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner disables the phone to prevent my using it.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner disables the car to prevent my using it.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
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My partner threatens to pull the phone out of the wall.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner forcibly tries to restrict my movements.
Never
Rarely
My partner acts jealous.
Never
Rarely
My partner keeps me from spending time with the people I chose.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. But Score 1 point for
every "Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally" circled,
and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 51-67, the client is being
emotionally abused through isolation. If the client scored 68 or greater, the emotional abuse is
severe.
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Emotional Abuse - Degradation Sub-scale
My partner tries to catch me at inconsistencies to show that I'm lying.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner tries to convince other people that I'm crazy.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner tells other people that there is something wrong with me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
Very
Often
Very
Often
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner says things to hurt me out of spite.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner has told me that I am sexually unattractive
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner tells me that I am sexually inadequate.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner insults my religious background or beliefs.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner insults my ethnic background.
Never
Rarely
My partner insults my family.
Never
Rarely
My partner talks me into doing things that make me feel bad.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
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My partner tells me that no one else would ever want me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner humiliates me in front of others.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner makes me do degrading things.
Never
Rarely
My partner questions my sanity.
Never
Rarely
My partner tells other people personal information or secrets about me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner swears at me.
Never
Rarely
My partner verbally attacks my personality.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner has insulted me by telling me that I am incompetent.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner ridicules me.
Never
Rarely
My partner forces me to do things that are against my values.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
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My partner questions whether my love is true.
Never
Rarely
Very
Often
Occasionally
My partner compares me unfavorably to other partners.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
My partner intentionally does things to scare me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
My partner threatens me physically during arguments.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
My partner warns me that if I keep doing something violence will follow.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
Occasionally
Very Often
Our arguments escalate out of control.
Never
Rarely
I'm worried most when my partner is quiet.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
My partner drives recklessly or too fast when angry.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. But Give the client 1
point for every "Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every
"Occasionally" circled, and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 7394, the client is being emotionally abused through degradation. If the client scored 95 or greater, the
client is being severely emotionally abused.
Emotional Abuse - Sexual Coercion Sub-scale
My partner makes me engage in sexual practices I consider perverse.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Very Often
Often
Very Often
Never
Rarely Occasionally Very Often
In bed my partner make me do things I find repulsive.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner is not sensitive to me during sex.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner pressures me to have sex after an argument.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner intentionally hurts me during sex.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
I feel pressured to have sex when I don't want to.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Even against my will, violence is a part of our sex life.
Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. Give the client 1 point
for every "Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally"
circled, and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 14-18, the client is
being sexually abused through sexual coercion. If the client scored 19 or greater, the client is being
severely sexually abused.
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Emotional Abuse - Property Damage Sub-scale
My partner threatens to hurt someone I care about.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
My partner intentionally damages things I care about.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner threatens to break things that are valuable to me.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very
Often
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
Occasionally
Very
Often
My partner damages things in our home.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
My partner threatens to destroy my property.
Never
Rarely
My partner does cruel things to pets.
Never
Rarely
My partner threatens to hurt animals I care about.
Never
Rarely
Occasionally
Very Often
Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. Give 1 point for every
"Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally" circled, and 5
points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 15-21, the client is being
emotionally abused through property damage. If the client scored 22 or greater, the client is
experiencing severe emotional abuse.
