Intercultural Communication
Intercultural Communication
UNAN-FAREM MATAGALPA
LINGUISTICS
Objectives: At the end of this lesson, the student will be able to:
Questions to discuss
Intercultural communication
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The first party then began shouting at me that I was butting into the line and
should go back to the beginning of the line. I was nonplussed, but refused to
go to the back of the line. The two-person party continued to made a scene,
hollering at me. I motioned to my party that our table was ready and we
were then seated by the waitress. In doing so I asked another party waiting
in line if I did something wrong. I was told I should have waited for the first
party in line to be seated.
Did I act appropriately?
By Elisa Jackson
Posted November 19, 2010
As teachers, we don't just teach students about math, science, and language, we
also teach them how to become functional adults. One of the lessons that we teach
on a daily, and sometimes hourly, basis is how to get along with others. Conflicts
often occur outside at recess or lunch, but the effects spill into the classroom. Even
though we might not be present when the conflict occurs, we can help students
resolve their problems when they get back to class. Here are a few suggestions for
taking conflict and turning it into a learning experience for everyone involved.
The first thing to do is to pull the students involved aside and have them talk to you
one at a time to see what happened. If necessary, you may need to call on a
reliable third party to get to the bottom of the issue. It is important for each student
to tell their side. You can then use your best judgment to figure out what happened,
even if the stories don't match. Once you have figured out what happened, you can
ask students to explain their actions. They usually come up with one of
two explanations for their behavior; either they say they don’t know why they did
what they did, or they blame the other person saying they did something mean to
them. You can start guiding students to discuss how they could have handled the
situation differently. You can ask them why they chose to act that way, and make
them see how their actions hurt people’s feelings. Hopefully, the guilty party or
parties apologize. Once this has happened, it is important to discuss how this
situation could be handled in the future. Have the students tell you what they
should do instead. It’s important that this conversation be student directed and that
they come up with their own solutions for these types of problems. In this way they
can feel ownership and will feel accountable for what they are doing and saying.
After they tell you how they should have acted and will act in the future, you can
applaud their ideas, but remember to remind them of the consequences if this
behavior happens again. If this type of conflict resolution doesn't work, you may
have to resort to a punishment like loss of recess time.And the last thing to do
before sending students back to their seats is to make them shake hands or in
some other way signify that the conflict is resolved! I know it may sound silly, but it
really makes students feel good and get over what they were mad about very
quickly. Once that is over with, you can also assign the students to do some sort of
classroom assignment together to create a bond between them. Here are some
lessons to do with your class to give them the skills to solve their conflicts.
www.lessonplanet.com/article/teacher-education/conflict.
Breaking Up Fights
Basic Techniques for School Personnel
by NEA Staff
Occasionally, arguments between students escalate and erupt into fights. It is
important that school personnel know basic techniques for breaking up fights and
dealing with students who are physically aggressive. Here are some suggestions
from Johns and Carr,1995:
Are You Willing to Build Your Self Confidence by Avoiding Gossip at Work?
by Catherine Pratt
www.Life-With-Confidence.com
Gossip can be found in just about every office. Some will say it’s just harmless fun
but rarely is that the case. In fact, it’s a great way to destroy your own self
confidence. Gossip is seductive though and it’s very easy to get caught up in it.
But, have you ever thought about why you do it when you know you shouldn’t?
In other words, we mostly gossip because we feel powerless and not in control of
our current situation. Gossip is an attempt at gaining back that control. It’s also
sometimes used as a way to boost your self-confidence but it ends up doing the
exact opposite. If you find that you do gossip, you need to take a look at what’s
happening in your life. Do you feel like you’re powerless? What positive changes
can you make? It’s important when you’re feeling out of control that you’re able to
take action instead of only reacting to the events that occur in your life. The other
side of this is that if someone gossips to you, you need to ask, “Why are they
telling me this information?”. You’ll probably find that at least one of the above
points will answer your question. This tells you a lot about the person who’s
gossiping to you.
So, how destructive is gossip to you? Take a look at what happens when you
gossip:
• You lose all credibility with your co-workers and people will no longer trust you.
They’ll wonder what you’re saying about them to other people. They'll also feel if
they tell you something in confidence, you may spread that information. Once you
lose your integrity, it’s very hard to get it back.
• You may find that the person you gossiped to will go and tell the very person you
talked about. Instant office conflict. Also, you’ll probably feel bad about saying
those things in the first place. Or if you have gossiped in an email, other people
could end up seeing that email (walk up behind the person when they’re reading it,
it gets forwarded by mistake, etc.). Also, people tend to keep email forever so
something you said 6 months ago may come back to haunt you.
• You’re going to worry about what others are saying about you. You end up
making yourself paranoid when you probably don’t need to be.
• It decreases the morale of your workplace which in turn will affect your own mind
set.
• You get wrong information (could be very damaging depending on what you do
with the information). Someone says “so and so said this about you.” It may not be
true and now you have bad feelings about someone and a situation that may never
have happened.
• It could affect your career prospects (if management knows that you gossip,
they’re far more likely to pass you over for a promotion). Also, at some point in the
future you may end up having to work for that person you gossiped about.
• Karma – remember the old saying, “what goes around, comes around”. When we
spread rumours and gossip, it will end up coming back to hurt us.
• We usually end up creating a negative work environment and who needs that?
These are all things that end up damaging your self confidence.
Why are you doing it? (power play, to feel like you belong, to make yourself
more popular)
If these are your reasons, then don’t do it. The wrong motives will lead you into
trouble every time.
• Would you want other people to know that kind of information about you?
if you wouldn’t, then don’t say anything.
Usually it’s best to just “bite your tongue”. And the more often you resist the
temptation of gossip, the easier it will get. Gossip is just not worth it.
How to Avoid Being Involved With Gossip:
So, what do you do if you work in a gossip infested workplace? Here’s a few
suggestions for the next time someone starts gossiping to you:
• Change the subject – try to have something else you can talk about. Make it a
positive subject.
• Distraction techniques – "Hey, do you want to go get a coffee?” Get the person
distracted on to something else.
• Don’t say anything – just let them finish and don’t say anything. They’ll quickly
learn that you aren’t interested in gossiping.
• Tell the person – you can tell the person you’re not comfortable about talking
about the particular subject. For example if someone is telling you about the latest
rumour that your department is about to undergo staff cuts, you can say , “it’s a
rumour. I don’t want to think about that until I know it’s true. I can handle whatever
happens. It’s not worth worrying about things that may never happen.” Or if
someone starts talking about someone else, you can say, “Let’s wait to discuss that
until Joe can be here in person.”
Each time you avoid getting involved in gossip, the easier it will get. It’s the first
couple of times that it will be a conscious effort to resist the temptation. It helps if
you can remember the benefits you will gain by not slipping into this bad habit.
You'll find that your self confidence starts to improve greatly and people will have
more respect for you. You’ll probably also find that you don’t waste anywhere near
as much as time as you used to worrying about things that never come to pass.
You’ll be able to focus on what’s important and what you want to accomplish in
your life.
Read more: http://www.life-with-confidence.com/gossip-at-
work.html#ixzz3a3rhulDS
We all have difficult people we need to deal with in our lives on a daily basis. While
such characteristics may be exaggerations, you may find traits of them in a few of
the people in your workplace, amongst your friends, or even a loved one.
Psychological research has suggested several ways of coping with difficult people
in your life, e.g. hostile co-workers or bosses, complainers, super-agreeables,
know-it-all experts, pessimists, and stallers.
Dealing with hostile people requires both tact and strength. Since persons who feel
they have been wronged are more likely to be belligerent and violent, you should
first try to be sure they have been dealt with fairly.
In addition, it would be wise to help them meet as many of their needs as possible
without reinforcing their aggressiveness or discriminating in their favor. Likewise,
avoid interactions with them that encourage intense emotions or threats of
violence. Certainly do not interact with your angry “enemies” when they are
drinking or carrying weapons. Say or do nothing that would incite more anger or, on
the other hand, cause you to appear to be scared, weak, and a “pushover.”
In most cases, strong retaliation against an aggressive person is the worst thing
you can do. Nastiness begets nastiness. Hostility escalates. Threats of punishment
may also work. Remember punishment is only effective while the punisher is
observing — watch out for subtle rebellion.
If you can divert the angry person’s attention to some meaningful task or a calm
discussion of the situation, the anger should subside. Also, offer him/her any
information that would explain the situation that upsets him/her. Point out
similarities or common interests between him/her and the person they are mad at
(you). Let him/her see or hear about calm, rational ways of resolving differences.
Almost anything that gets him/her thinking about something else will help.
The Institute of Mental Health Initiatives provide a brief list of ways to calm an
angry person: reduce the noise level, keep calm yourself, acknowledge that the
irate person has been wronged (if true) or, at least, acknowledge their feelings
without any judgment, ask them to explain their situation (so you can tactfully
correct errors), listen to their complaints without counter-attacking, explain your
feelings with non-blaming “I” statements, show that you care but set limits on
violence (“I’d like to work it out with you but I’ll have to call the police if you can’t
control yourself”).
What about the chronic complainers? They are fault-finding, blaming, and certain
about what should be done but they never seem able to correct the situation by
themselves. Often they have a point — there are real problems — but their
complaining is not effective (except it is designed to prove someone else is
responsible).
Coping with complainers involves, first, listening and asking clarifying questions,
even if you feel guilty or falsely accused. There are several don’ts: don’t agree with
the complaints, don’t apologize (not immediately), and don’t become overly
defensive or counter-attack because this only causes them to restate their
complaints more heatedly. Secondly, as you gather facts, create a problem-solving
attitude. Be serious and supportive. Acknowledge the facts. Get the complaints in
writing and in precise detail; get others, including the complainer, involved in
collecting more data that might lead to a solution. In addition to what is wrong, ask
“What should happen?” If the complainer is unhappy with someone else, not you,
you may want to ask, “Have you told (the complainee) yet?” or “Can I tell
__________?” or “Can I set up a meeting with them?” Thirdly, plan a specific time
to make decisions cooperatively that will help the situation…and do it.
3. The Super-Agreeable
What about the persons who are super nice and smilingly agree with your ideas
until some action is required, then they back down or disappear. Such people seek
approval. They have learned, probably as children, that one method for getting
“love” is by telling people (or pretending) you really care for and/or admire them.
Similarly, the super-agreeables will often promise more than they deliver: “I’ll get
the report done today” or “I’d love to help you clean up.” They are experts in
phoniness, so don’t try to “butter them up.”
Instead, reassure the super-agreeable that you will still like them even if they tell
you the truth. Ask them to be candid and make it easy for them to be frank: “What
part of my plan is okay but not as good as it could be?” Help them avoid making
promises they can’t keep: “Are you sure you can have the money by then? How
about two weeks later?” Tell and show them you value their friendship. Let them
know you are ready to compromise because you know they will be more than fair.
Know-it-all experts are of two types: the truly competent, productive, self-assured,
genuine expert and the partially informed person pretending to be an expert. Both
can be a pain.
The true expert may act superior and make others feel stupid; they may be bull
headed and impatient with differing opinions; they are often self-reliant, don’t need
or want any help, and don’t want to change. If you are going to deal with the true
expert as an equal, you must do your homework thoroughly; otherwise, they will
dismiss you. First of all, listen to them and accurately paraphrase their points. Don’t
attack their ideas but rather raise questions that suggest alternatives: “Would you
tell me more?” or “What do you think the results will be in five years?” “It probably
isn’t a viable choice but could we consider…?” Secondly, show your respect for
his/her competence but don’t put yourself down. Lastly, if the expert can not learn
to consider others’ ideas, you may be wise to graciously accept a subordinate role
as his/her “helper.” True experts deserve respect.
The pretentious-but-not-real expert is relatively easy to deal with because
he/she (unlike liars or cons) is often unaware of how little he/she knows. Such a
person can be gently confronted with the facts. Do it when alone with them. Help
them save face. They simply want to be admired.
5. The Pessimist
Another “burden” to any group is the pessimist –the person who always says, “It
won’t work” or “We tried that.” These angry, bitter people have the power to drag us
down because they stir up the old pool of doubt and disappointment within us. So,
first of all, avoid being sucked into his/her cesspool of hopelessness. Don’t argue
with the pessimist; don’t immediately offer solutions to the difficulties predicted by
the pessimist.
6. The Staller
Every group has a “staller,” a person who puts off decisions for fear someone will
be unhappy. Unlike the super-agreeable, the staller is truly interested in being
helpful. So, make it easier for him/her todiscuss and make decisions. Try to find out
what the staller’s real concerns are (he/she won’t easily reveal negative opinions of
you). Don’t make demands for quick action. Instead, help the staller examine the
facts and make compromises or develop alternative plans (and decide which ones
take priority). Give the staller reassurance about his/her decision and support the
effective carrying out of the decision.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/04/15/6-difficult-types-of-people-and-
how-to-deal-with-them/
High-Level Description of the Sixteen Personality Types
Serious and quiet, interested in security and peaceful living. Extremely thorough,
responsible, and dependable. Well-developed powers of concentration. Usually
interested in supporting and promoting traditions and establishments. Well-
organized and hard working, they work steadily towards identified goals. They can
usually accomplish any task once they have set their mind to it.
Quiet and reserved, interested in how and why things work. Excellent skills with
mechanical things. Risk-takers who they live for the moment. Usually interested in
and talented at extreme sports. Uncomplicated in their desires. Loyal to their peers
and to their internal value systems, but not overly concerned with respecting laws
and rules if they get in the way of getting something done. Detached and analytical,
they excel at finding solutions to practical problems.
Quiet, serious, sensitive and kind. Do not like conflict, and not likely to do things
which may generate conflict. Loyal and faithful. Extremely well-developed senses,
and aesthetic appreciation for beauty. Not interested in leading or controlling
others. Flexible and open-minded. Likely to be original and creative. Enjoy the
present moment.
Quietly forceful, original, and sensitive. Tend to stick to things until they are done.
Extremely intuitive about people, and concerned for their feelings. Well-developed
value systems which they strictly adhere to. Well-respected for their perserverence
in doing the right thing. Likely to be individualistic, rather than leading or following.
Logical, original, creative thinkers. Can become very excited about theories and
ideas. Exceptionally capable and driven to turn theories into clear understandings.
Highly value knowledge, competence and logic. Quiet and reserved, hard to get to
know well. Individualistic, having no interest in leading or following others.
People-oriented and fun-loving, they make things more fun for others by their
enjoyment. Living for the moment, they love new experiences. They dislike theory
and impersonal analysis. Interested in serving others. Likely to be the center of
attention in social situations. Well-developed common sense and practical ability.
Warm-hearted, popular, and conscientious. Tend to put the needs of others over
their own needs. Feel strong sense of responsibility and duty. Value traditions and
security. Interested in serving others. Need positive reinforcement to feel good
about themselves. Well-developed sense of space and function.
Assertive and outspoken - they are driven to lead. Excellent ability to understand
difficult organizational problems and create solid solutions. Intelligent and well-
informed, they usually excel at public speaking. They value knowledge and
competence, and usually have little patience with inefficiency or disorganization.
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Personality questionnaires assess personal behavioural preferences, that is, how you like to work. They are
not concerned with your abilities, but how you see yourself in the way you relate to others, your approach to
problems, and how you deal with feelings and emotions. With this type of assessment, there are no right or
wrong answers.
The questions that follow are examples of the type of question you may come across in personality
questionnaires. There are two common formats to personality questionnaires. In one format, you are asked to
rate yourself. In the other, you are asked to choose between different statements that look at different aspects
of personality.
Rating Statements
You may be asked to rate yourself on a number of phrases or statements. After reading each
statement, you would mark your answer as follows:
1 I enjoy meeting
new people.
2 I like helping
people.
3 I sometimes make
mistakes.
4 I'm easily
disappointed.
5 I enjoy repairing
things.
Making Choices
This is the second format widely used with personality questionnaires. You are given a block of statements.
Your task is to choose one statement that is most like your behaviour in work situations and one statement that
is least like your behaviour. You should indicate your choices by clicking the appropriate button in the columns
marked "M" for most and "L" for least.
The first statement below has been completed; the person has indicated that he or she most likes trying out
new activities and least like understanding the underlying theory. Try choosing which statements are most and
least like you in the following example questions. Remember there are no right and wrong answers.
http://www.shldirect.com/en/assessment-advice/example-questions/personality-
questionnaire
At a psychology conference in England years ago, a woman said to me "I'll knock you
up in the morning." I was initially taken aback by her bizarre suggestion, but it did occur
to me that I might not understand her intent. Eventually, it turned out that what she
meant was "I'll knock on your door in the morning so that we can meet for breakfast to
discuss the panel we're on.