Dark Psychology

The Definitive Guide to Learning How to Analyze People, Reading

Body Language, Learning the Art of Persuasion, Emotional
Influence, The Secrets Of NLP, Hypnosis and Mind Control

By

WILLIAM STORM
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 Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
CHAPTER 1: PANDORA'S BOX
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CHAPTER 2: THE TWO WEAPONS MOST USED BY THOSE WHO USE DARK
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CHAPTER 3: MOVES OF AN EMOTIONAL MANIPULATOR
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CHAPTER 4: DARK TRIADS
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CHAPTER 5: MANIPULATION AND DARK PSYCHOLOGY; X-RAY OF A SICK MIND
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CHAPTER 8: THE MAGIC OF RELATIONSHIP BUILDING
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CHAPTER 9: SYNC WITH EVERYONE – TRACE AND DRIVE
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 Introduction

I n this book you are going to have the most amazing ride of your life.
You will start from the wonders of Dark Psychology and the two
major weapons used in it, and will end on how Alexander the Great
conquered half the world with the use of Dark Psychology. One you have
finished this book, you will be able to manipulate anyone at all, and
persuade any person you know of into doing something you desire. This
seems fiction, but it is possible with Dark Psychology. Make sure to read
every page and take notes, because the pages are knowledge packed and
you don’t want to miss anything.
 CHAPTER 1:

Pandora's box

P lato envisioned that Utopia, a world with no evil or danger, is

possible. In this world of absolute idealness, there are no
murderers, no criminals to be afraid of, your boss is not the tyrant
he is and your wage is satisfactory to the hours you spend working. You
could go about your day, living a peaceful life with a surety that no one
would take advantage of you and that you are ought to reach home safely in
the night because there are no criminals, to begin with. In such a world, fear
would never grow and peace would prevail regardless of anything. But,
unfortunately enough the world we live in is nothing like this at all.
The real world is cruel, and let's face it, it wouldn’t be wrong to call it hell
at times. This indeed is an over-exaggeration and definitely not all lenses
would show you a cruel world. But we can’t always see from the positive
lens. The best way to look at things is by looking at them in a realist way. If
optimism is filled part of the glass, and pessimism is seeing the empty side;
realism is simply understanding that both perspectives are true and the
impact depends on certain circumstances you are surrounded in. Just like
that, ignoring the good in people, or the bad in them is just confining
yourself to a certain chain that will lead you downslope.

We have to understand that humans are objective and desire-driven

creatures. We all have needs and we all want them badly enough. Some
might work hard trying to keep themselves in the moral-zone, while others
are just going to force their way to their desires. The latter is the majority,
and if you are dealing with these humans, which you are, there is a certain
possibility that you are going to be just another piece in the ladder to
success.

Long story short, if you don’t want to be taken as an advantage, you have to
be very cautious in this world. Here, not everyone, but many people are
going to manipulate you to get what they want. Sometimes its harmless,
like your daughter trying to make you emotional by her cute looks to allow
her the house-party, but at other times it could be lethal and has the
potential to cause you’re a loss of millions of dollars or in a worst-case
scenario; your life.
This is where knowledge of dark psychology becomes absolutely necessary.
Perhaps you could be on the other end of this rope, and would rather prefer
to use Dark Psychology to manipulate others in a better and more efficient
way. The hard fact is, there are always going to be sheep and shepherds,
along with foxes. So, it’s better to be a fox then become a sheep, but it is
even better to understand that shepherds play a more important role.
Regardless of what you might want to achieve, and how, as long as no one
is getting hurt, you fall in the moral zone. So, let’s now discuss what dark
psychology actually is, and where it begins.
Taking out the first mask
If we try to think about it, manipulation is something very fundamental in
us humans. It is one of the most inherent qualities of our survival. For
example, when a baby is born he or she only communicates to its parents by
crying for the first few weeks or months. They can get anything done by
themselves, and that is exactly why they cry. If they need milk or water, or
simply want to eat, their best solution to the problem is crying. It is because
very early on they understand that crying is going to get things done for
them. Now the parents did not train the baby to cry for its needs, it’s a
survival took built in their core. The baby is in turn playing a sort of
manipulating his or her parents to get his needs done otherwise he or she is
just going to burst out crying.
As you can see, how fundamental it is for humans. While, along with time,
the baby learns many things, due to the environment he or she nourishes in.
This new knowledge and exposure lead them in different directions of life,
and most of them require excessive manipulation to survive. Thus the habit
is blended to the bone. Manipulation is a technique of dark psychology, and
what is dark psychology then?
Dark psychology deals with the study of criminal and deviant behavior,
along with the framework for understanding the potential evil in humans. In
other words, dark psychology studies why and how people prey on other
people. The study can both give us insight into how to use it to prey more
people, and to how to not become a victim. It also enlightens us with the
knowledge of human behavior and its cognition. We would be exploring the
first two uses in this book.
Emotional Manipulation Vs Dark Persuasion
Persuasion is simply the way in which you drive people from one style of
thinking or idea or another with the use of a certain set of words or actions
or both. To cause people to do or believe something is persuasion.
Persuasion can be good and is mostly referred to as. To tell your friends
about the real benefits of buying that new game is persuading them to buy
it. While on the other hand manipulation is perhaps a word with more
negativity attached to it. Manipulation is to change or redirect someone’s
thoughts or course of actions by unfair means to make sure you get what
you want. To manipulate you’d have to tell lies to your friends about that
new game so they buy it. The difference is of the objective here, might be
that for every game bought you would get a dollar in your pocket.
That aside, many people are not familiar with the terms of emotional
manipulation and dark persuasion. Emotional manipulation is something far
more dangerous than your regular manipulation. You play with someone’s
emotions and use their weak points to direct them to do something.
Blackmailing on the bases of emotions is also a tact of emotional
manipulation. For example, you might include certain images from the 90s
on your song title, because you know your audience is comprised of people
in their 30s. Here the emotions or to be more precise nostalgia is used as a
manipulation tool. While this may seem harmless, but in other cases, it can
be quite lethal. Let’s say that your boss tells you to work for a lower wage
other he may fire your younger brother working in the same company. This
might lead to stress and, well, a lower wage for your real hard work.

On the other end, dark persuasion is when someone’s use unfair means to
persuade others. Persuasion is, as mentioned above, a perhaps positive term.
It is so because the intent and means of persuasion are fair. But dark
persuasion happens with the intent is selfish and the means are unfair and
are comprised of lies.

What is the Difference

The difference between dark persuasion and emotional manipulation lies
only in the methods. The intent however in both cases is the same;
achieving selfish desires. Someone trying to emotionally manipulate you is
going to find your emotional weak spots and hit them to make you’re their
salve, either for a simple act (like buying something) or for an extended
period of time (Like working for a lower wage). On the other hand, a
person trying to play the game of dark persuasion with you is going to feed
you lies in order to change your thinking about something or someone so
that they can use you for their own benefit. A company offering complete
health insurance in their advertisements, while covering only certain
diseases is emotionally manipulating you, while if the same company is
using the game of words and different marketing schemes to sell you the
lies, it is dark persuasion.
Emotional manipulation and dark persuasion is essentially the core of dark
psychology and the best tool for achieving what one wants.
Magnifying glass on Those Who Use Dark
Persuasion
Let us now analyze the sort of people who would incline towards
techniques of dark persuasion. We would get to emotional manipulators in
depth in chapter 3.
As mentioned above humans are desire-driven creatures, and many would
go to any length in order to achieve what they want. Dark persuasion is
used by owners of big marketing companies, or multinational or national
industries. It has its roots in the film industries and all different sorts of
firms and businesses. In short, anyone who wants to sell you something,
whether it be a service or a good, is prone to use dark persuasion on you.
One thing that should be cleared here, that persuasion is not forced
persuasion. Forcing someone to the limit where they don’t have a choice to
act otherwise is not a characteristic of dark persuasion rather it is not
persuasion at all.

That said, persuading someone to do something for you is very essential to

dark psychology and is a method used most widely. Even your parents
might end up using this type of persuasion on you. The essence here is that
persuasion is easier than manipulation if the person has the required skill of
talking and grip over words. The kind of person with good talking and
marketing skills, while a lack of narcissism to actually lead you to a dead-
end situation is most likely to use dark persuasion over you if other means
of persuasion are not supposed to work.

First Steps
The persuader is first and foremost going to attack your lazy style of
thinking and optimism. Most of us are rather absent-minded and are prone
to be derived in the direction of good looking lies. When a salesman tells us
that their product is going to make your life easier and help you in certain
ways, we are going to take the words on their face-value provider that the
speaker is good. This is because our minds would rather cling to the
positive image of the world than the negative one. Other than that, we are
too lazy to think through logic is the facts told actually have a value to them
or not.
For the people who are rather active thinkers and don’t just take things on
their face value, the persuader is going to add logic to his or her tool-set.
Logic is not wrong and is hard to argue with. It is true indeed that those
luxury looking cups for only 5 bucks are going to look classy affront
anyone, but you may not get any guests at your place, to begin with.

The use of logic here is mostly accompanied by the use of molded facts.
The salesman might tell you that the regular cups in the market are of 60
bucks, to make his product look even more attractive, while maybe, in
reality, the average price is around 50 bucks, which is still high though.
Dark Psychology
Now that we have discussed the core of dark psychology and why people
incline towards it, along with its two major methods of execution and how
the upcoming knowledge is going to help you live a better life, I guess we
are in the position to define dark psychology in a better way. As we now
know that manipulation and persuasion are the basic tools for a person
practicing this sort of psychology, we must analyze that these are just two
tools in the vast majority of methods and techniques and objectives that are
practiced and used in this type of behavior. We must also understand that
studying dark psychology is going to take us to the next level of self-
defense and understanding of human nature. We must also be able to
conclude that it is something that we cannot ignore, as it affects us in our
daily life, from the salesperson to the brand you like the most, to your
friends or boss. Along with all that, we can't ignore the fact that in order to
achieve success in this world, we must be well aware and well-practiced in
the methods of dark psychology.

Consequences
Everything comes with its share of consequences. Studying dark
psychology has little to no consequences that you ought to be concerned
about, but on the other hand, if you are going to practice it, then we can't
say for sure. The intent is what matters the most, but if any sort of
persuasion or manipulation is used to make someone inflict real harm on
someone else, then the consequences could be severe. But as long as you
play a fair game, and no one is getting harmed and you are getting what you
want, I don’t think there is anything to be afraid about.
In the upcoming chapter, we are going to discuss the above-mentioned tools
in-depth and going to look at the bigger picture of their objectives.
 CHAPTER 2:

The Two Weapons Most Used by Those Who Use

Dark Psychology.

I n the previous chapter, we have defined what dark psychology is and

what kind of people use it, we also looked at an overview of what are
the methods used by such people. Now, we must dive into the deeper
oceans of dark psychology. When trying to analyze an army, we first look at
their weaponry. Just like that the people who use dark psychology to get
what they want, use these two weapons: manipulation and persuasion.
We have already talked about the two most lethal and effective types of
manipulation and persuasion in the previous chapter. But those are not the
only ways in which you can manipulate or persuade someone. Here we are
going to dissect the types of manipulation and persuasion and what kind of
people use them. It is essential to have this knowledge to ensure that you
don’t get manipulated or used.
Persuasion
Persuasion is rather positive work and is mostly used as perhaps a not-so-
unmoral means of changing someone’s thinking. But to its core, it is just
another technique that can be used in various ways in order to achieve what
one wants. Of course, persuasion can be used in positive ways, but the
intent may not be the concern when you are trying to learn the art. We can
say that persuasion is an umbrella term for influencing someone. The core
intents are to influence a person’s beliefs, attitudes, intentions, motivations
or behaviors. Let us take a look at the various methods of persuasion along
with the theories of literature.

Usage of Force
From the dawn of time, humans have wanted to achieve specific goals. And
the usage of force has helped them achieve this. In persuasion, the most
unmoral and unlawful strategy is the usage of force. This method does not
have any scientific theories of its own but it is still a valid and widely
practiced method. In times of war, this method has been the most
demonstrated because, well, its war. In times of extreme, people seem to
forget any moral line or code and thus tend to incline towards any methods
in order to achieve what they want.

I have mentioned this method first because it is different from the rest of the
methods used to persuade someone. Now if we try to classify persuasion
tactics or strategies, we can say they fall into two major categories; Logic
and emotion. Other than that persuasion’s methods are aided by these four
techniques:

● Body Language
● Rhetoric
● Personality tests
 ● Sales techniques

How to use these methods and how to detect them would be discussed in
later chapters in detail? For now, let us look at the six weapons of influence
mentioned by Robert Cialdini in his book “influence”.

The Six Weapons of Persuasion

Reciprocity
This method is most widely used by marketing agencies and many
companies, and you have been a victim of it. I am sure you must have
gotten “free samples” when visiting a brand or company. These free
samples induce a subconscious debt in our minds. The world works on the
principle of reciprocity when someone provides us with something we try to
repay him or her in kind. And that is exactly why giving off free samples of
your product can be a benefit.

This method can be applied in real life. If a friend of yours is really kind
towards you and is there for you in your times of need. You won't be able to
say no to him when he asks for a favor, even if it’s a big one.
Commitment and Consistency
The concept of consistency states that a person who commits to something,
in writing or even orally, is more likely to honor that commitment. Even
though written commitments are a solid method and that’s why companies
would rather make you sign an agreement beforehand. Commitment is an
effective persuasive technique because once someone commits by any
means, they are more likely to engage in self-persuasion. Examples of this
method come into sight when you think about why marketers make you
close popups by saying “I’ll sign up later” or why children are made to
repeat the Pledge of Allegiance each morning.
Social Proof
Let me quote an excellent example given by Cialdini in his book. In a
phone-a-thon the mechanical voice would never say something like
“Operators are waiting, please call now”. If they say that, then you are free
to assume that the company is not worthwhile because the operators are all
free. While on the other hand, the host might say something like “Operators
are busy, please call again”/ This will give an image that all the operators
are busy and that is because this may be a worthwhile organization.

In simple terms, humans have a tendency to be influenced by the people

around them and what they are doing.

Likeness
This principle is very simple, and you might be familiar with it already.
People are more likely to say yes to the people they like. And simply put,
there are two major factors that contribute to overall likeliness: Physical
attractiveness and Similarity. Well, the tomboy of school has a crowd of
influence because either he is extremely attractive physically, or he may be
extremely relatable.

Authority
Well, we humans are simple creatures at times. We have this certain
tendency to believe something said by an expert or an authority. That is
exactly why you would find thousands of quotes and sayings with names of
big celebrities on them. Although real people never would have said
anything like that, people are simply going to believe just because they
think that a big person said that. That is why toothpaste brands would rather
advertise “recommended by 9 out of 10 doctors” rather than giving data
charts or real effects.
Scarcity
When something has limited supply, people are found to assign more value
to it. In simple terms, people want what they cannot have. Marketers use
this method by entangling it with the unique value of something. People are
going to find something more valuable if they think it has something so
unique that no other product can provide that. That is why many brands
would tell you the unique characteristics of their product.
Another method to make this work is by telling people they are losing
something rather than gaining something. Because what we lose seems like
something out of our reach. Marketers would say that “You will lose $10”
rather than “You will save $10”

Relationship-based persuasion of Shell and Moussa

Another step by step method presented by Shell and Mousa that is used by
multinational companies and marketers to derive their clients is
relationship-based persuasion. This method is comprised of the following 4
easy steps:
Step 1: Survey the situation
Analyze the situation in detail with your goals and objectives in
mind. Make sure you cover every aspect.
Step 2: Confront the five barriers
Five obstacles pose the greatest risks to a successful influence
encounter: relationships, credibility, communication mismatches,
belief systems, and interest and needs.
Step 3: Make the pitch
With the use of rhetoric or communication skills, make sure that
you present your idea in a justified way.
Step 4: Secure commitments
To safeguard the longtime success of a persuasive decision, it is
vital to deal with politics at both the individual and organizational
levels.
Manipulation
Manipulation aims to change the behavior or perception of others through
indirect, deceptive, or underhanded, immoral tactics. By advancing the
interests of the manipulator, often at another's expense, such methods could
be considered exploitative and devilish.
Manipulation is a vast topic and covers far more methods and theories than
persuasion. That is why here we are going to discuss the already-claimed
methods and models of manipulation by Braiker. We are also going to talk
about the motivations of a manipulator and the personality disorders related
to it. This is so that the reader can understand how vast manipulation is and
how to be prepared for it, and also how to analyze and what to expect from
different sorts of manipulators. In the upcoming chapter, we would focus
solely on emotional manipulators.
How a Manipulator controls his victims?
Harriet B. Braiker (2004) explained the following four ways in which a
manipulator controls his or her victims:
Ways:
By Positive Reinforcement
This method includes the following things or behaviors that the manipulator
might exert:
● Praise
● Superficial Charm
● Superficial Sympathy
● Excessive Repentance
● Money
● Gifts
● Attention
 ● Manipulated expressions such as; a forced laugh or smile.
If you look closely, any person exercising these things might be there to
simply manipulate you. When you find a person who is just good in every
characteristic, who listens to you, gives you attention, shows sympathy and
give you gifts or helps you with money, they are most likely just there to
manipulate you into something so that they can get to their objectives.
Negative Reinforcement
This method requires very specific details to be in place, I mean, someone
would offer you a way out of a negative situation for specific other things to
be done. Like when the parents would tell his or her child they won't have
to do the homework if you help clean the garden. For this method to work,
the negative object (homework) has to be very negative as compared to the
positive end (cleaning the garden).
Yes, the example is quite not settling in the place, because for many
cleaning the garden would be harder than doing homework. As I mentioned
in the start, this method requires some specific details to be in place. You
can’t manipulate someone to do something by just offering them a way out,
you have to think how to make the way-out seem like an escape from hell to
them, and in return what you ask for should seem like a piece of cake. This
method can lead to emotional blackmailing, but as long as we don’t cross
the line, we are safe here.
By Punishment
This method is a rather slight variation of disciplining someone. The fear of
punishment can cause many to do what you ask for. Of course, for this to
work, either you have to be in a legit position to punish, like parents or
teachers, or you can create an artificial authority by doing slave-treatment.
Criminals may assert to this method at times, especially psychopaths, who
wants a specific objective to be achieved. Punishment can be also of other
types like if you know your boyfriend is going to start crying every time
you talk to another man online, you are sure to feel it as if you are being
punished every time, and that might make you leave your social life
altogether, while those tears of his might just be of crocodile.
One-trial Learning
This is an extreme case method used by army generals in ancient times,
even now perhaps. The presentation of explosive anger or lethal verbal
abuse establishes your superiority or dominance over the victims. Even one
such presentation can train or condition victims to avoid upsetting or
confronting the manipulator.

Vulnerabilities exploited by Manipulators

Manipulation is not an easy-to-go game, in order to manipulate someone,
you first have to do your homework, depending on what the manipulation is
about, and the extent of demand. Yet, there are a few universal
vulnerabilities that manipulators take advantage of the most.

● The Disease to Please everyone – Victim tries to please everyone

and thus would get easily into the trap of manipulation.
● Addiction of earning the approval of others – Victim wants to earn
recognition and approval thus manipulator takes advantage of this
by giving them the approval they want, in exchange of
vulnerability to manipulate them.
● Emetophobia (Fear of expressing disapproval or anger) – Victim
might fear expressing anger or disapproval and thus it is hard to
say no to the manipulator.
● Lack of the ability to say No – Victim may not have the skill and
courage to be able to say no to others
 ● A vague sense of Identity – Victim is filled with self-doubts, and
has a vague sense of identity, lack of confidence and thus would
likely go on the defensive very easily.
● Low levels of self-reliance – Victim finds it too hard to accept that
people may be bad and may do bad to others.
● Emotional Dependency – Victim has a dependent personality.

Motivations of a Manipulator
If we say that the manipulators have a specific motivation to do what they
do, it won't be right. Because manipulation is something anyone can do, and
what objectives one may be hiding is hard to generalize. While on the other
hand, some people are habitual manipulators and they may share some very
common motivations, like:
● Personal gain
● A “need” to attain superiority and power of other people
● Feeling good being in control
● Boredom – Being bored of the same surroundings and taking
everything as rather a game.
● Covert Agenda – Financial Manipulation or Criminal Intent
● Wanting to hide their bad side – by manipulating everyone to
believe they are good people.

In this chapter, we have discussed the two major weapons of dark

psychology, persuasion, and manipulation. Both the terms are used
interchangeably at times but are vastly different from one another, this
might be clear to you after reading the whole chapter. Now we know the
weapons a person practicing dark psychology may use and the extent of
their danger, we also know an overview of the two major weapons and what
kind of people are prone to use them, and with what motivation. In the next
chapter, we are going to Discuss the three moves of an emotional
Manipulator. Because we have mentioned before that the most lethal form
of manipulation is emotional manipulation.
 CHAPTER 3:

Moves of an Emotional Manipulator

N ow that we know enough about manipulators and their methods

of work, we can dive into a little more depth regarding
emotional manipulation. As mentioned before, emotional
manipulation is something that is rather common and can take lethal forms.
An emotional manipulator is the kind of person who barely has any
emotions of his or her own but, has high emotional intelligence. Just a brief
mention for those who are not yet familiar with this concept, what is
emotional intelligence. If someone has a good emotional intelligence, then
that person is good in analyzing people’s emotions, he can take a look at
someone’s face and would be able to compile a glimpse of their internal
emotional state, thus such a person would be extremely good in the social
interactions and public relations because he would know how to please
people and deal with different sorts of emotions.
Emotional manipulators are always emotionally intelligent people but they
may or may not be heartless, it really depends whether the person executing
the manipulation is doing it with criminal intent or not, whether he has a
personality disorder or not. Most of the time, it's just a little sadistic
behavior that can lead to emotional manipulation, while on the other hand,
the person can be a proper psychopath.

Anyhow, if we do a proper study and take the work-of-action or schemes of

historical emotional manipulators, we would see a pattern emerging. This
pattern is simple, and many young males and females are a victim of this
type of manipulation over the course of history. Here we are going to study
the three moves or steps taken by an emotional manipulator.
Earthquake – Love Bombing
Love bombing is an intriguing and fitting term, for the phenomenon or
method, I am going to explain. In this digital era, almost everyone who is
not single is on various dating apps, attracting people towards them. If we
first take this from the perspective of dating, I think the concept would be
delivered much easily. Once in a while, there is a high possibility that a
predator or psychopath might be looking for prey, on these very apps.
Well, we all want to be loved, and if someone comes into our lives suddenly
and starts showing us with an amount of love and affection we are not
accustomed to, that is love bombing. Of course, not everyone might be a
predator, and maybe the person is genuinely in love with you from the first
sight, but the possibilities are various. Such predators or I should say
emotional manipulators know that we humans are weak when it comes to
love and affection. We are such creatures who would never turn our eyes
towards the harsh reality, and even if we feel there is something fishy, we
would just ignore it if the reality in comparison is filled with love and
excessive care. These manipulators would get close to you, show you, love,
send you long text messages every morning filled with honey-talk, write
poems for you, send you random flowers with your name engraved on
them, tell you that how epic and beautiful you are, how you have changed
their lives with your one-touch, give your surprises, take you to movies,
keep track of your every need. This love bombing wouldn’t last much
longer, only as long as they get their objective. The objective could simply
be a sexual relation at times, while on others it could be a long-term abusive
relationship where they could exercise their dominance.

As mentioned above, we always feel deprived of love and care, and thus
when someone bombards us with those we take the truest form of reality.
We reject any possibility of it being a façade or fake. That psychology is
known by the manipulators and they take full advantage of that. Once they
have bombarded you with love and affection, you are into the trap. You are
emotionally dependent on them and most hours and days are just going for
them. You are getting closer to them and far away from yourself and your
social life. If something like this happens, it is a big signal to stop right
away.
Keeping the dating perspective aside, love bombing can happen in many
cases. Like friendships, or even parents may do that. Love bombing can be
short term or long term.
Cultivation – Empathy
One victim is all set, he or she is in your trap and is getting all the care and
affection in the world. Now is the time to cultivate your relationship, take it
to the main objective and get the fruit of your efforts. Empathy in simple
terms is the capacity to place oneself in another person’s position, to be able
to feel what they are feeling. When someone gets as close to you to actually
be able to exercise personal level empathy, you would start to feel confined
to that person. How does this work? Well, the emotional manipulator starts
to get into your personal life, your history, your childhood traumas, your
likes and dislikes, your fears and everything there is about you. Then they
would exert empathy. They would make you feel secure with them by this
practice and you would be completely vulnerable affront them by now.
If the objective of the relation was developing a sexual relation, this is the
time the predator would start his or her attempts on you. They won't force
you, rather they would make it seem all-natural.
Another method of how emotional manipulators might use empathy to
cultivate the objectives is by using it against his or her own self. That is a
pity. It is not uncommon for emotional manipulators to use self-pity as a
tool to get what they want. They might whine affront you and make you
feel empathetic for them; this would also develop a sort of intimacy that
would be sufficient for them to easily get what they want. For the long-term
predators who are there to make you a slave to their desires of superiority,
the latter may be the best method. After the love-bombing, there would
come a time when you would start to realize the actual bad habits of this
person. As close you get to them, they would be more exposed. Thus self-
pity to make you feel empathy would be their best tool to secure you in
their trap.
On the other hand, friends who are extremely clingy at times may be found
exercising the same kind of techniques to get some personal gains; like
financial help or in order to seek attention.
Carelessness – Removal of Emotional Detachment
This step or move is the third and final in the loop. Yes, loop, and I would
explain that later how is this a loop. Well, once the emotional manipulator
has achieved his short term goals, he or she would start to lose any interest
in you, and thus carelessness is a simple factor. But it may not be as simple
in many cases, many times, the manipulator may create a fake sense of
carelessness so that you may get on track. The first two steps of love
bombing and empathy have left you to be completely emotionally
dependent on the manipulator, and now if he or she exerts any kind of fake
emotional detachment, you would not be able to bear it. Thus this is a
simple attempt to make you lose your identity.
Why making you lose your identity is necessary? Well, at times we may not
be able to do absolutely anything for the manipulator because we still have
a sense of identity. Take for example that if you are a rich woman in her
30s, and you have fallen prey to a charming emotional manipulator. Now he
would want you to name your entire property and business to his name, or
something of that sort. Even after the first two steps, you may not be willing
to do such a thing for him. But if he starts to get distant from you saying
that he is doing all he could but you are not doing anything for him, and as
proof of your loyalty to him he may ask you to name your entire business to
him. At this point in the relationship, you may be so emotionally dependent
on him that his rude behavior might not be bearable for you and thus you
might just simply give the proof of love he demands. This may lead to an
actual emotional detachment because now he has gotten what he wanted.

We have discussed these three moves of an emotional manipulator in a

long-term context, while on the other hand, a salesperson may execute these
three steps within a 10-minute long conversation with you. Starting with
honey talk, he may show you that he not even here to sell his product, rather
to only see you as in person. After he may exert empathy and whine about
his poor condition and how he really needs to sell 10 products a day in
order to make a living. Without even reaching the third step, he may be able
to sell you the product. Thus it is important to be attentive and present-
minded and to be sharp when someone shows excessive affection.
This entire emotional manipulation scheme can be caught by a simple step,
love bombing. If someone seems too good to be true, make sure you take
into account his or her every action and evaluate the whys and how’s of
them.

By now we have discussed the tools and methods and weapons of dark
psychology, or a person exercising it. We have looked at the lethal methods
and how they can be used and how they can affect people. What kind of
person exerts such behavior in general and what can be achieved with such
methods, and how? In the next chapter we are going to discuss the dark
triads; diving deeper into the psychology of people who exercise dark
psychology.
 CHAPTER 4:

Dark Triads

N umerous people; wandering around in this world are having

minds so are they, suffering from different psychological
disorders. Now, there are some personality traits that are not
considerably believable but, yes, they do exist and have some extreme
dominating, violating and miserably difficult factors which sometimes
become disagreeable to be believed. These traits are making a separate
society having some extreme traits that are transcended to the normal living
environment.
The person suffering these dark triads can become the most disappointing,
extreme and weird people. If the people having these triads are working
among normal people, there are 90% chances that they are highlighting as a
bone of contention between those working groups or as an individual in
society.

Nowadays, the major highlighted topic in Personality Psychology is Dark

Triad. What actually are the traits’ included in dark myriad? Well here they
are:

● Machiavellianism
● Narcissism
● Psychopathy

These words are often used to annoy someone in daily routine to get
someone on nerves but, what their literal meanings are and how dark they
can be; mostly we are unaware of this fact or actually this dark triad.
According to several types of researches, this is now proved that these
triads are being measured and these personality traits are getting checked
through various personality measuring scales in laboratories.

To underline or highlight the dark triad, there are some possibilities,

through which it can be detected in a person and can further be checked and
tested.
Detection Methodologies
● Start manipulating a person in different acts to see the reaction on
specific situations.
● Start deceiving and betraying the person, to identify the emotional
stability or presence of emotions.
● Creating a situation that someone admires them to see their
reaction or strategies.
● Say those people to paint their dreams.
● According to Freud’s “Dream Interpretation”, people with dark
triads see some celestial or out of the box dreams, so this method
works.
● Perform some actions in which you show your sensitivity affront
these people.
● Do not pay attention to these people, because if you want to detect
this. It will really work because they seek attention.
● Start expecting from them, because if they really are suffering
from dark triad they would want to hurt you through your
expecting behavior towards them.

Now, let’s move on to discuss this triad known as a dark triad with the
inclusion of Machiavellianism, Narcissism, and Psychopathy. First thing
first, What Machiavellianism is?
Machiavellianism
Historical Background
This dark trait was first detected by Niccolo Machiavelli, a great book
writer who wrote the very great book of the century “The Prince.” He
detected a personality trait named as Machiavellianism. He describes the
features of this trait as, (people having this kind of personality are), moral-
less, lawless, unemotional, can easily manipulate others and are cold having
a very less amount of morality. This trait is centered on interpersonal
manipulations mostly. Although it would be wrong to say that ‘he’ actually
did define anything about Machiavellism in his book because honestly, he
didn’t. But later on, his philosophy of living a life and of ruling a state was
coined as Machiavellianism. If you haven’t already, I would definitely
recommend you to read this book, The Prince, in which the author describes
and explains in detail his philosophy of life. He explains every aspect of his
philosophy by giving historic examples to justify his point of view. The
book was dedicated to the ruler of time, so that he may learn a better way to
rule. I would conclude the entire book of his in a quote of Machiavelli:
“Never attempt to win by force, what can be won by deception”.

Now the real philosophy of Machiavelli is mixed with a hundred

interpretations and psychological disorders, and it itself is considered to be
a disorder. We are now going to understand the psychology of a person who
may exercise modern-day Machiavellianism.
Features:
● Interpersonal Manipulations
● No morality
● Unemotional and cold behavior
● Indifferent values and law
 The people having these kinds of traits behave differently and are
indifferent creatures; they have different behaviors that cannot be
considered in normal society. They can be easily detected if you have to eye
to catch a deceiver. But then again, Niccolo Machiavelli says that it is a
double pleasure to deceive the deceiver. So, the bet is, if you can detect a
deceiver, you probably are one too. Anyhow, I have concluded that there are
11 specific characteristics of this trait, let’s explore them.

11 characteristics of this personality

1. They Hate Rules
The very first thing I should mention about the people who can be considered
as high ranked Machiavellians is that they absolutely loathe structure
and rules and obligations. These people tend to stay in environments
where they can be as creative as they want.
2. Business Oriented
eople who score high on the Machiavellian test tent to almost always take an
interest in business platforms. They can also be a good salesperson.
But they would not go even near a profession where they have to help
others or obey a myriad of rules.
3. Keen Opportunists
These people take the opportunity first hand. They are heartless when it
comes to their own benefit. So, don’t expect them to not pull the
trigger on you if you are of no use to them anymore.
4. Life is a game for them
These people take the opportunity first hand. When you might take life as a
garden full of ups and downs, and watching a good sunset view might
give you peace, someone who follows Machiavellianism would
simply be taking life as a game they must win.
5. Emotionally Detached
To understand the psychology of such a person you have to first think about
how it would feel like if everything was a game? When you okay
chess, or some other game, your only emotions are for the game, and
getting a pawn killed wouldn’t make you feel any worse. Such are the
Machiavellians, only that they practice this in real life.
6. Multiple Sexual Partners
Machiavellians are ought to be people with numerous sexual encounters, and
this is because of two simple reasons. Sex is about power for them.
They take it as if they have conquered another land. The second
reason is the ability of emotional detachment. They won't develop
feelings for any of their sexual partner.
7. Lack of Empathy
Machiavellians have no empathy towards another person, and that is why they
can just harm someone for their own benefit because they can't feel
the other person’s pain. But this doesn’t mean that these people can't
pretend to have empathy.
8. Good Teammates
When you are in a team your objective would be to win the game, so what
better thing than to add a Machiavellian to your team? He would do
absolutely anything to win the game.
9. Bad friends
t goes without saying that Machiavellians wouldn't even make any friends,
they just collect pawns for use. But even if you are in a “friendship”
with them, don’t worry, because they might throw you off a cliff
when you are of no use to them.
10. Mysterious or Conserved
Well, a Machiavellian would never open his heart affront others, because he
knows that he is there to win, not make more competitors.
 11. Prefer to be Feared than Loved
Well, this one is rather vague, but Machiavellians would prefer to be feared
than to be loved. But not all of them of course, some may take a
specific interest in being loved, because being loved means more and
more people are dependent on them when he or she can use later.
Narcissism
Another dark triad is Narcissism. Now, this world is commonly used in our
daily life and by a lot of people. Some know the context in depth. Some just
know the literal meaning let’s move on to the history of this Personality.

History
Basically, this is associated with a Greek myth, there once was a fisherman,
who was looking at his reflection and he started adoring the fact that how
beautiful he is. That is how the abstract concept of Narcissism took place.

Traits
● Most of the people having this personality are more likely to
admire their selves. They have a sudden surge of self-love and
they do not care about other people.
● This personality trait lacks empathy for others.
● The people having this trait are mostly arrogant and self-centered.
● These people are patronizing, selfish and manipulative.

People who are narcissist have a specific behavior as an individual and

collectively. So what are those behaviors in this, narcissist fall?

8 behaviors of narcissist people

● Have an intense rate of self-importance.
● They have a constant sense of admiration and mostly in excess.
● Even without working hard or putting effort, these people want to
be recognized as some sort of superior creature having a lot of
achievements.
● If they have some skills, talent or achievement, they are more
likely to exaggerate them.
● They overthink fantasies related to success, love, and the best of
everything and a perfect life partner.
● They look down on people as they are inferior to them.
● Use others to take advantage of what they want in life.
● Emphasize on having the best of everything, for instance, the best
of clothes in the whole family.
Psychopathy
People who terribly lack sympathy and empathy and have no emotions or
remorse system in their heads are called psychopaths. Psychopaths hardly
experience any empathy or sympathy towards others and will never feel any
remorse or guilt even if they have committed terrible crimes. This
characteristic in the core of its objectives distinguishes psychopathy from
Machiavellian. The former seeks thrill and does things for fun, they can
cross any limit to seek thrill, they might not be emotional manipulators or
very keen traitors, but they won't hesitate to pull the trigger or torturing you
to hell. While the latter, as mentioned above, are objective-oriented and
seek control and willing, they are rather keen traitors, but still wouldn’t
hesitate to pull the trigger on you if it for their personal gain.
That said there are three major characteristics that distinguish a psychopath
from any other normal person. These three characteristics are boldness,
excessive meanness, and lack of inhibition. Psychopaths are bold and
fearless people, they are not afraid of anything at all and unlike many of us,
they would happily venture into an unfamiliar territory even if there is a
potential danger there. Unlike many of us, psychopaths have high self-
confidence and social dominance and assertiveness, and thus you would
never see them shy or in anxiety. These characteristics fundamentally
enable psychopaths to get on the path of darkness and commit mass
murders and mayhems without a single blink, like if it were a usual task for
them.
Psychopaths also exert poor impulse control and thus have no control over
their urges. Or we can say that they have an extremely short temper. If you
don’t like a person and want to smash a stone on their face, you would
probably be able to control yourself, while on the other hand psychopaths
would not be able to control themselves. On the other hand, a
Machiavellian or Narcissist would be able to control too. Psychopaths don’t
think about the consequences and rather live in the absolute moment
derived by their urges and whatever they want to do.

Psychopaths are not able to put up a façade. While other people may show
civility and kindness even when they don’t want to, a psychopath would
simply turn the tables around and do something no one would be expecting.

The three most common traits associated with psychopaths are:

Risk Takers
This trait comes from their boldness and lack of fear. While anyone would
be worried about safety, psychopaths would be fearless even in such
situations. This trait can be used as an advantage but psychopaths don’t
really care about a benefit other than their own satisfaction. Yet, the
psychopaths who are groomed in a stable environment can go on to become
successful businessmen or politicians.

Extremely Charming
Well-groomed psychopaths, or such psychopaths who have good control
over themselves, would look like the most charming people on the entire
planet. Their confidence and boldness gives them the edge and thus can
attract a big crowd. Psychopaths can be great students of life and thus can
mimic normal behavior in an excellent way.

Lack of Planning
Psychopaths often lack a sense of planning; this is due to their haphazard
behavior. They rarely think about the consequences of an action and thus
planning fails at them. Yet some may overcome this and turn out to be able
to do short term planning regarding their goals. Talking about criminals, a
psychopath may go to lengths to prey at someone and get them in his or her
trap so they can execute torture on them.

Now let me share with you the 22 behaviors or general traits that
psychopaths share. You can also use these to evaluate your own self.

The 22 Traits of Psychopaths

1. Constant Stimulation
2. Pleasure in manipulating
3. Excessive lying
4. Never say sorry
5. Charming
6. Bold and fearless
7. Impulsive behavior
8. Anger control issues
9. Irresponsible
10. Thinking people as items
11. Weird sexual fantasies
12. Lack of planning
13. Juvenile delinquency
14. Criminal record or tendency
15. Self-worth and God complex
16. Lack of feelings; empathy and sympathy and love
17. Parasitic behavior
18. Non-realistic
19. Glibness
20. Think they are the center of focus
21. Would go to any length to achieve their goals
22. Relate to the character of Joker
 CHAPTER 5:

Manipulation and Dark Psychology;

X-ray of a sick mind

I n this chapter, we are going to focus on the psychology of people who

exercise dark psychology. This is important in order to understand
why many people are unable to exercise dark psychology. Also, this
study would help you understand the ways of these people more, and how
to prepare for their attacks. Along with all this, if you want your children to
not turn out to be such predators, you should keep reading.
From the Childhood
Dark psychology starts to grow its roots in a child’s mind very early in life.
Now that you know what dark psychology is, and what is the extent of its
powers, I hope you understand that even the slightest wrong decisions in
parenting could lead to drastic results. The first factor that should be
mentioned is:

Unsupervised Parenting
Parents who are busy with their lives and do not give proper time to
children are in big trouble. You never know how the nanny would be
treating your child when you are away. Children are sensitive, and when
along with time, they see their parents distant from themselves, they won't
be able to share their feelings with parents. Thus if the nanny or babysitter
brings up her boyfriend who turns out to be a psychopath or has a weird
fantasy to have sex affront the child, you never know what the child may
suffer from. These childhood traumas would lead to various disorders later
in life.

Careless Parenting
The above-mentioned parents were diligent and hired a baby sitter for their
children, if only they give proper time and care along with hiring a good
reputable baby sitter, so the bad situation could be canceled. But on the
other hand, there are parents who are careless about their children,
especially in underdeveloped countries. Now, your nine-year-old comes
home on foot every day after school, so there is a myriad of possibilities
about the things that could happen if the area is not safe. If someone rapes
your child and threatens them to kill their parents if the tragedy is exposed.
Just imagine what such childhood trauma may lead to. These little black
boxes in the mind are going to ruin your child's psychology, and they may
develop either severe insecurities, or dark traits; trying to make people go
through what they had gone through in a way of justifying their pain.

Immoral Parenting
You are not careless, and you keep your children safe from all other harms;
but if you have marital issues, constant fights and a negative environment in
the home, your children may develop the most lethal disorders. If the child
sees constant fights and lives in an environment filled with fear and
uncertainty, they may either get rebellious and develop a “wish” to control
the people around them so that the environment could be the way they
want. Living in caged surroundings in their childhood, these children are
ought to make themselves free, how they do that? By starting to manipulate
people around them. This kind of parenting is perhaps the most dangerous.
Predator’s Story
No matter how bad the criminal is, and no matter how gruesome a crime he
has committed, he always has a story. No one is born the way they are in
their 30s or 40s, people tend to change, learn, and get influenced by their
surroundings. Every predator’s and every superhero’s childhood story starts
with trauma, you can take examples from movies, or from real life, it is
always the same.
Bad parenting or wrong guidance, an ill environment, these all factors lead
to the emergence of the perfect criminal. By the time the child realizes who
he is or what he can do, the dark traits are a part of his personality, and thus
are hard to leave behind even if forced to. Psychopaths on the majority
come from a background where immoral parenting has been away all the
life. In many stories told by the patients and studies done on them, we find
that a cruel father or mother can play the most dangerous role. When the
child grooms in a household where the father is a psychopath or sociopath,
all he would see is the parents fighting, and the father being the Almighty
figure. He can do as he pleases, he would beat his wife, and is the child
does anything bad, he may become the victim of the father’s wrath. This is
a caged environment, and the child is living a life of constant fear and
anxiety. He may want to escape and run away.

Along with time, the child would learn to lie and put on a façade, so that he
or she can fool their father. This method would save them many times, and
thus the skill would keep on improving. By the time the reach adulthood,
they won't even remember who their real selves where they would only
have a set of facades to offer to people. This leads to Narcissistic behavior
in many cases because the person starts to take himself as the best deceivers
and manipulators possible to exist.
On the other hand, if in the same childhood the children see their mother as
a victim, they may start to hate their father to the extent of wanting to kill
him. This may induce in the children a sense of justice, which may, later on,
be changed to ruling the world. The children may have suffered so much
that the boundaries of right and wrong are vague for them, and they would
go to any length to never be under anyone’s control ever again. This case
may produce perfect Machiavellian.
While keeping the same example intact, if the children are exposed to so
much pain, there may come a time when the pain wouldn’t seem anything
to them at all. Once they see the worst of pains, no other kind of pain would
matter to them, they won't feel it. These children become emotion-less and
may produce the perfect psychopath. It is all a matter of thrill for them,
nothing would fear them anymore and they won't be afraid of a life and
death situation.

I have given the example of one household with a specific characteristic,

that leads to so many paths. This is how the story of every criminal starts,
with childhood trauma. Thus it is essential to understand how big a deal it is
to make life and to take care of it. There are a million different scenarios
where a child may become a psychopath or a narcissist, and I can't list them
all here. But this one example should be more than enough to give you an
idea about how child psychology actually works, and just where dark
psychology starts to play its role.
Subconscious Mind
The subconscious mind of a person who practices dark psychology is filled
with black-boxes, which he may not even know to exist. These black boxes
are the memories of early childhood traumas, life experiences and feeling
that all lead to this moment in life where they are heartless enough to kill a
person. Their subconscious minds direct them and make them who they are.
Now we have discussed the actual reasons for someone practicing dark
psychology and what factors you should keep in mind while parenting so
that your child may not turn out to be a psychopath. This discussion would
help us in the upcoming chapters when analyzing different cases and studies
and methods would be used in dark psychology.
 CHAPTER 6:

The Pillar on which Dark Psychology Stands;

NLP.

I n the early 1970s, Richard Bandler and John Grinder did something
that essentially changed the history of human learning and how we
study the human mind. They presented a model or technique named
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), that is an approach towards
effective communication, personal development, and psychotherapy. We are
going to now take this revolutionary and yet less-known technique to
understand dark psychology better and evaluate methods to apply it
effectively and harmlessly in real life. But first, we must understand what
NLP actually is.

Neuro comes from the neurological processes in our brain, as we know that
our brains are a mass junction of different sorts of neurons. Linguistic
means how we use language to communicate ideas and organize thoughts
within ourselves, and the behavioral patterns learned through experience are
mentioned as programming. Thus, making neuro-linguistic Programming.
The fundamental idea here is that, this method ‘models’ the skills of
exceptional people allowing anyone to acquire those skills. Or in other
words, with the help of NLP, we can copy the skills of exceptional people
and paste them into ourselves or others. NLP is so remarkable, that even a
single session can treat problems ranging from depression, phobias, to
common cold and learning disorders.
History and Development
NLP was developed by analyzing the skill set of three exceptional people;
Virginia Satir, Milton Erickson, and Fritz Perls. Bandler and Grinder
initially worked on the minds of these three people to derive and extract
information regarding their skill sets. Then finally they came up with the
terminology of ‘modeling’, which means to duplicate someone’s skill sets
in order to later replicate that in someone else’s mind.
Later, Bandler and Grinder took assistance from the works of Gregory
Bateson, Alfred Korzybski, and Noam Chomsky, along with the ideas of
Carlos Castaneda. Bandler and Grinder’s work proposed how the
therapeutic “magic” used to work that was practiced by Perls, Satir, and
Erickson, as described in their book The Structure of Magic. They
explained that any complex human activity can be broken down into many
core steps, or codes, and thus later on its structure and activity can be
learned by others, essentially duplicating it.
Bandler has said that "NLP is based on finding out what works and
formalizing it. In order to formalize patterns, I utilized everything from
linguistics to holography...The models that constitute NLP are all formal
models based on mathematical, logical principles such as predicate calculus
and the mathematical equations underlying holography."
In the late 1970s, people started to realize the value of NLP. Various therapy
seminars were conducted that resulted in the popularization of this
methodology. NLP was now more developed and claimed to be a study of
communication. The slogan of NLP was “If any human being can do
anything, so can you”. Later on, Bandler and Grinder published a book
named Frogs into Princes, which sold more than 270,000 copies.
Tony Robbins was also trained by Grinder, who later utilized NLP and
presented as his own self-help program.
Work Chart
Let’s explain the working of NLP in a more comprehensive manner. Say
that there are 2 million bits of information available for us, humans, on
Earth every second. How much do you think we humans are able to take in?
Well, only about 130,000 bits of information can be taken as input by us
humans. That might seem a lot, but the question is where does all the other
information go? Well, we delete that. This very process of deleting such
information makes every individual unique in their own way because not
everyone would delete the same information. It depends on what you like
and how.
Yet, out of the 130,000 bits of information, we process every moment, we
are only able to take 7 or so pieces or chunks of information inside our
minds at a particular moment. Now, why does this matter? Well, first let me
ask you think, how do you know that from all that amount of data, what to
delete and what to focus on? It’s simple, it totally depends on your own
unique personality, likes and dislikes and other factors like that.
We take only as little as about a hundred thousand bits of information in our
head, while the rest from the 2 million bits is just ignored. While you may
select a specific hundred thousand from that two million, others may select
differently. We do not have any control over this selection, and in NLP we
try to achieve this ability.
Someone may get a different solution from seeing the same problem as you
do, and that is because they take a different amount of information from the
reality to extract. Another way to explain this is when you focus on
something specific, you are only able to see that thing. For example, you
decide to buy a car, and you think that your wife loves blue so you should
buy a blue one. Blue cars are not that common, but once you have decided
to buy a blue car, you would start to notice all the blue cars on the roads
while you never noticed them before. You would suddenly realize that your
boss’ car is also blue, and you had never realized it beforehand. This
happens because once we focus on a factor, our subconscious mind starts to
emphasize on that one specific thing while collecting information from
those 2 million bits. It makes sense, right?
So, long story short; we take up the information we need, or “feel” is
important to us, on the basis of our own Personal Profile. Once we have all
the generalized information in our minds, through our 5 senses, we start to
compare it. Realize that all this information is directly going inside your
subconscious mind every second and it is being processed with you totally
unaware of all about it. When do you realize that information? We’ll get to
that in a few sentences. First, we compare all that information or collage of
information to the information stored in our minds, to our personal library.
We compare all the kinds of scents we can smell every second to all the
data in our personal library about scents so that we can recognize it and
declare how we should feel about it. By “we” here, I mean our
subconscious.

Another example would be when you would see a bee, our mind would first
start to link that picture of that bee, and all its components to our prior
experiences with the bees. You won't feel scared or pleased right off the bat,
your mind is first going to analyze what that picture means by comparing it.
And then and only then we would be able to derive a meaning out of that
picture. Once our mind has defined a meaning based on all the past
experiences with bees, your brain would release the specific hormones and
chemicals to feel the way it assumes it should. Now realize at this point that
whatever we feel here, scared or pleased, is totally dependent upon the story
we create in our heads. It depends on what meaning our brain derives from
the data, by comparing it to past experiences and references.

After we start to feel a certain way, our bodies would start to react the way
they would do. What does this all have to do with NLP? Well, this is the
model NLP is essentially based on. This explains to us that we can actually
tap into the processes of our brain, our subconscious mind, and change
those processes to our own benefit. If seeing a bee makes you feel scared,
with the help of NLP you can actually tap into the part where your brain
defines a bee as something to be scared of and change it into something
pleasant. You might not want to see the bee as a pleasant creature, but this
methodology can have very positive results when applied to other aspects of
human life; for example, stage fright.
NLP and Dark Psychology
By this time, you would surely be wondering why something so positive
such an NLP is included in this book. Well, to explain this, you must
understand that NLP is just a pack of techniques or methodologies that are
used to refine your own self, but this can also be used to manipulate others
or persuade them. It can also be used to refine your skills or persuasion and
manipulation, and whether you use them or not, learning such skills are
going to help you out pick out the manipulator and not be used.
We are going to focus on the different techniques of NLP, and how they are
used by manipulators and people who use dark psychology, in this book. I
must say that this book is by no means a complete guide towards learning
the various and vast methods of NLP, but rather this book is only going to
focus on the most important sects and techniques of NLP. By going through
the upcoming chapters you are going to be familiarized with how NLP is
used by people who use Dark Psychology and how to use it for your own
benefit.
Now that I have explained NLP’s relation with dark psychology, I must
emphasize that NLP’s techniques are often used by people who practice
dark psychology, and are very effective. Now I am going to mention 2
techniques used in NLP the most, so that you may get a better idea of what
NLP is and how it is used in dark psychology and also in the achievement
of the greater good.
The Two Most Popular techniques of NLP
The two techniques I am about to mention are very widely used and are
extremely effective, but do not by any thought confine NLP to these two
methods alone. These are two of many, and even these two can be used in a
variety of different ways. It is best if you take these methods or techniques
as ‘skills’ because you have to learn them and practice them in order to
achieve the desired results.

1) NLP Anchoring
When you create an anchor in NLP, you set up a stimulus-response pattern
so that you can feel the way you want to, when you need to, or make
someone feel the way you want them to feel. To explain this, let me say that
you are anchored to many things in your daily life. A certain type of smile
of your partner is going to induce a certain set of emotions and feels within
you, without your control. You are anchored to that particular smile, and if
another person were to exhibit the very same and exact certain smile, you
would feel partially the same way as if your partner is smiling because you
are anchored to it. You can use this method to improve your own habits,
such as training yourself to do certain things, when certain things happen.
For example, if you were to take handclap action and associate it with
certain motivational feelings, and anchor it with every time you turn on
your computer and the sound of windows staring hits your ear and practice
this habit for several days every time you turn on your computer, it would
blend in your subconscious. After that, every time you would turn on your
computer you would do that hand clap and a sudden motivation would
come for your aid. Later on, you can start to use the same anchor at other
random times when you need motivation and suddenly you would have it
just by a handclap.
This method is used by manipulators by anchoring certain actions to other
people. Like let's say there is a shrewd salesman at your doorstep while
talking to you, he may experience that his certain expression brings a
certain joy on your face, meaning you feel good. You might notice that
action, but he is a keen observer. Now when he is about to finalize the deal,
he may make the same expressions and you will be persuaded to buy his
product.

2) Rapport
This is surely a vast technique, but or methodology and can be used in a
variety of ways, even hypnosis. It is one of the most effective methods of
influence and persuasion that mentalists use. So, to e test, this out starts
mirroring someone's verbal and non-verbal behavior. People are most likely
to be manipulated or influenced by someone they can relate to. So, match
your target's speaking style, their tone of language, their eye movement, the
reaction on different words and even their breathing pattern. Once the
person is in “sync” with you, they are prone to get persuaded by anything
you would say to them. Of course, this would not just work right off the bat
for you, but with enough practice and skill, you can achieve your goals.

Another test is to argue with someone while walking with them. While
walking it is easy to mirror someone, as when you are walking beside
someone, it is very easy to connect with them and walk in a unified rhythm.
Your chances to win the argument go skyrocket.
 CHAPTER 7:

The three pillars of N.L.P.

W e manipulate or persuade someone by using some sort of

communication. It is important to understand how far and
deep our communication skills are concerned with dark
psychology. NLP to its core is based on communication too. If a mentalist
tries to judge you, they would look at different signs you give while
communicating an idea or thought of trying to express yourself in some
manner.
Communication is of three major types, Verbal, Non-Verbal and Para
verbal. In NLP, these three types of communication work or function as
essential pillars to hold the entire structure together. Let’s start by looking at
what each of them means
Verbal Communication
In order to explain ourselves or our ideas, we tend to use language.
Language is so developed in our code of life, that we even think in terms of
words and sentences, or simply with the use of language. Every person has
their own way of talking, own choice of preferred vocabulary, their own
tone, and way of executing words. That represents that we all have a unique
way in which we think with the help of language, and it must be connected
to the way in which we use language to express an idea or thought. That
means, that if you analyze language deep enough, and try to understand
how your friend or someone uses words and language in daily life, you can
also analyze how they use it inside their heads.
This is why verbal communication is so important. When talking to
someone, we are constantly telling them all our secrets without even
knowing, and of course, not everyone can read those secrets between the
lines, but a keen manipulator who knows NLP can dissect your psychology
just by analyzing the way you talk.
Non-Verbal Communication
When we try to put forward an idea or thought, we do not only use words
and sentences, but we also use body language. The gestures, hand
movements, poses, eye movements, etc., are all a part of body language. In
order to understand what a person truly means, we must start to analyze
what body language signs mean and how to crack them. Here is a good tip,
while having a conversation with someone while standing, look where their
feet point to. If they are pointing towards you, that means that their
attention is towards you. While if they feet point somewhere else, I would
recommend its time to stop talking too much and start to listen to what the
person has to say. Anyhow, learning to read is a whole art and manipulators
and persuaders are first in the list to learn this art, then of course come the
investigators and agents of the FBI.
Para Verbal Communication
Well, Para verbal communication is a rather vague and vast category, but
yet plays a significant role. We know that words and how we use them are
important, also the body language is important, but something extremely
important other than these two things is the tone in which you
communicate. Your daily life is full of examples of the tone of voice we talk
in and how it affects what the words rhetorically mean. We can ‘goodbye’
in a tone sweet enough that it would show our affection and unwillingness
to say goodbye, while on the other hand, we can say the same word in a
way that would scream that we don’t want to talk to that person ever again.
Your girlfriend might say goodbye after a fight that you know means that
she is angry, and if you look closely enough you can judge the extent of her
anger by her tone alone.
Thus para verbal communication and its analysis are important. When
trying to judge whether the other person is lying or not, para verbal plays a
vital role. They are also used by manipulators to achieve empathy and gain
the trust of their victim along with judging what kind of people are easy to
manipulate.
The 7-38-55 Rule
Let's start by memorizing this chuck of numbers; 7-38-55 because they are
going to be very important in the upcoming discussion. Albert Mehrabian
was an Iranian professor who lived in Los Angeles, he was a professor of
psychology at the University of California. He presented this rule, which
changed the way how we look at conversations and analyze them.
According to him, there are three elements that account for our liking
towards a person putting forward a message. Words, tone and body
language. His findings showed that when our minds try to figure out who to
like, we take into account words for a 7% impact, tone for 38% and body
language for 55%. Knowing this rule changes many things.
Think about it, have you ever tried to realize what factors play a role when
you are trying to judge whom to trust or not, whom to like or not, whom to
listen to and whom to ignore? I am guessing that you, like most of the
people, have never given it a thought. Your lack of observation and
information makes the manipulator take advantage of you. Surely a
manipulator knows about this rule, and he can use it for his own advantage.
Once you realize how the human mind works, it would be a piece of cake
for you to motivate yourself right after waking up, or to manipulate your
boss into increasing your monthly wage. If you have to be good in a
situation, where it is not easy to be so, you can use this rule to help you out.
How? Well, most of us, when exposed to a situation we don’t like, or don’t
want to be in, our sync between words, tone and body language starts to
fade, and the other person can realize that you have lost your interest in
them. It is a bad habit, as long as you do not have control over it. If you are
affront your boss after a long and tiring day, you probably don’t even want
to be there, and your body language would start giving visible signs of this.
If your boss realizes this, consciously or subconsciously, it may work as a
negative factor between you and his relationship.

On the other hand, now that you know this rule, you can simply put on a
façade and pretend that you are a good employee in an effective manner.
With the right sync of words, tone and body language you can start to
influence people more easily. The original work or Mehrabian deals with on
what basis people develop a liking towards someone and these were the
three factors he had concluded.

Take another example, if you clearly want to show someone that you are not
interested in them, simply break the sync in the three factors and you would
easily see the other person start to run away from you.

Misconceptions
One most popular misconception associated with this study is that people
are mistaken about how this rule fundamentally works. When someone is
judging to develop a likeness towards you, they are going to unconsciously
consider these three factors in mind. But if you don’t speak up a single
word, the whole rule breaks.

The entire system is dependent on all three pillars to work in sync or work
together. If you exclude anyone pillar, the building might simply fall and
the rule will cease to exist.
Three Pillars of NLP and Dark Psychology
The three types of communication play the role of three pillars in NLP and
thus they work as pillars of dark psychology too. It is important to note that
dark psychology is a vast subject and NLP is a tool that can be used for
both good and bad. People who use dark psychology often practice NLP to
not only improve themselves but also to manipulate others and persuade
them. Understanding how communication and language work for us
humans is an essential step towards learning dark psychology. One cannot
simply learn a list of hack methods and start to get their way in life, that is
not how things work. You have to understand to its core how things work in
order to get the optimum results out of them.
Until now we have discussed the major weapons of dark psychology, how
to use them and how to defend against the people who may them against
you. We have ventured the depths of the mind of a criminal or a patient and
have realized what makes them different from us. We don’t have to be
psychopaths in order to use dark psychology and it can be used in a more
moral way to get what we want. It is an effective evaluation of the situation.
We may not kill someone in order to get a promotion, but we know that we
can manipulate someone to get the promotion or put on a façade so pure
and good, that people fall in love with you instantly. We have discussed the
major tool of dark psychology, NLP, with the help of which we can execute
manipulation and persuasion more effectively and how NLP works. In the
next chapter, we are going to study how to make effective relationships with
the use of NLP.
 CHAPTER 8:

The Magic of Relationship Building

R elationships are important for us humans; they give us a meaning

to life and a motivation to do certain things. Think about it, why
are you doing that 9-5 job every day? Waking up early morning,
when you clearly just want to keep sleeping, work for hours, and bear the
disappointments on your boss’ face every once in a while. Why? There
must be a reason for all this effort, and for most people the reason is family.
This depends on regional factors a lot, as in underdeveloped countries; there
are cases where one single person supports a family of 15. On the other
hand, it is just plausible to say that you are also derived from your relations
with your family. A good relationship means greater responsibly, and more
power over the person you are in a relationship with. This brings us to the
art of relationship building. How can we improve our “given” relations, like
with our parents and siblings, and how should we create new relations when
we want to, with whomever we want to?
Manipulators and people who practice dark psychology know how to build
a relation effectively, and thus they can trap almost anyone. This goes
without saying that not every manipulator is skilled and armed with the
weapons of dark psychology, but those who are making their way to success
in no time. A layperson should surely consider how to make such
relationships, how to “model” a manipulator for the greater good, and how
to detect when someone is faking a relation with you just to use you in the
end. Just as the example of the rich woman I gave. The more vulnerable and
emotional you are, the more are the chances of someone manipulating you
into your trap. We must start to think logically and make sure we are not the
being-used end of this rope.
Morals
Consider that you have your eyes on a girl, and you genuinely want to be in
a relationship with her, but you lack the skills. You think you have the
potential to become the best partner ever, but you lack the fundamental skill
to go there and talk to her in such a way that she would start to like you and
be attracted to you. What then? Obviously, someone else will win the game
over her with the use of their skill.
Now, if I tell you that you can get close to that girl with the help of certain
techniques you might consider it immoral and unethical. You may even feel
as if you are taking advantage of someone. While this is not true at all. NLP
is based on understanding what skills “popular” or “extraordinary” people
have, and how their minds use those skill, so we can learn them effectively.
In reality, you are just making yourself a better person with the use of
learning in an effective and efficient way.
You learn techniques like rapporting and anchoring, and suddenly you have
a better chance. Of course, there might be a guy who has these skills better
than you do, and he might not even know it. That is the beauty of learning
with NLP. Your competitor may have developed these skills over time with
observation and regular correction, or simply the hard way. He might not
even know how his brain works and why people like him so much. In NLP
we look at those factors of our minds which people do not consider
analyzing. Why people like your competitor? There must be a reason, some
certain skills he is using unconsciously. We understand those skills and
learn them the easy way.

It is just like learning from history. You have all the data already present, to
make yourself a better version of you. But this goes without saying that
NLP is a methodology or set of methods and how we use them is totally up
to us. Manipulators use it the bad way, you can use it a better way, but here
we are just going to discuss the weapon, and learn to use it, the choice is up
to you from then on.
This chapter deals with how to make effective relationships with the use of
NLP techniques, and how to detect when someone is there just faking
everything with you. Before we get into this, we must understand why
building a relationship is far better than just shallow manipulation. And
when is the right time to use either of them?
Complicity – Surface Connection
Immature manipulators often make the mistake of developing surface
connections at the start. These are good when they need something short-
term, but at one point the story starts to crumble and people are able to see
whatever you are up to. With the use of NLP, you can create a short-term
shallow relation, which results in a shallow connection. It may be good in
times, but it isn’t that effective in the long-term.
Take for example a salesperson, he is on the go to sell his product to as
many people possible. With the use of shallow connection making he would
get his product sold but won’t be able to build a regular customer. How?
Well, once he is at your doorstep, consider he uses anchoring and rapporting
and manipulative language to persuade you to buy his product, while the
quality provides is not good, to begin with. Once you’ve bought the
product, you will realize that you’ve been fed lies and thus you will never
buy it again.

What kind of people uses such connections?

If we go and analyze all the different possibilities, there are a few sets of
generalizations we can derive. Short-term connection making is mostly
done by people:

● Who are Psychopaths. (Just a persuasion to get to a specific hotel

room so they can rape you)
● Immature Narcissists
● Salesmen
● Online Marketers who want clicks on their website
● YouTubers
● Shopkeepers
● Vendors
Detection Methodology
Such people are not easy to be caught, you have to be keen. It is better to
develop a habit of thinking logically every moment of your life. Be
attentive when someone is talking to you, especially if the talk is related to
money or transfer of funds. Listen closely to what they are saying; are you
getting anything out of the deal in reality? Can you actually use the
product? Is it necessary? And make sure to check the goods before you buy
them, and take other people’s reviews on the same vendor.
Relationship – Deep Connection
Unlike the shallow and short term connections, building a proper
relationship comes with certain responsibilities, like are you willing to keep
things long-term?
Let’s look into an example. So, you are going for a job interview. With the
help of confidence, the right use of all three pillars of NLP, and public
speaking skills, you get the job. The shallow connection worked just fine,
but now that you have to join the office, and work let say 6 hours a day,
under a specific boss. Now you actually have to develop a relationship with
your boss such that it may benefit you long-term. At least until you have the
job. How would you achieve this?
Let us first take your personal self into account. You have many bad habits,
like waking up late, not being punctual or not meeting the deadlines. You
can’t take a short way out of these issues by hypnotizing your boss. You
actually have to show his work. Thus, we must start by manipulating your
own self.

NLP Swish
Swishing is perhaps one of the best techniques NLP has to offer when it
comes to self-improvement. Swishing is something to manipulate your own
self into not doing “this” and rather be focusing on “that’
Take the example of laziness. Whenever we feel lazy, we actually are
imaging ourselves in a more comfortable and comfy situation. We start to
‘live’ those moments of life, and thus start to feel in a certain way.
To break this chain, we can use swishing. What we do is that we create a
perfect image of yourself, and put it in place of those memories that distract
you. So, when I say “sleeping”, you may get an image of your bed or
bedroom in your mind. Now imagine a version of you that you want to be, a
good smiling image of you who is rich and productive. Put that image of
your perfect version affront the memory of your bedroom. Practice it a few
times and you will get used to it.

This method can be used to break any bad habit at all.

Well, so you are providing your boss with good results, now you want a
promotion, or you want to be in his good-books. Or, you are not providing
absolute good results, and want him to like you due to some other things.
Then, the best technique to use is Rapporting.

NLP Rapporting
Rapport is a sense of connection, acceptance, and openness between people.
We have mentioned this technique in the previous chapter and in this
chapter we are going to take it to another level. But before I explain the
technique, we must consider that this method can be used for a variety of
reasons in a variety of ways.

Where Rapport is used?

● To manipulate people to think in a certain way
● To Persuade someone to take up your philosophy
● To make people not say “No” to you.

Examples of Rapporting
Other than the on-going example of a boss and employee, rapport is used to
effectively and instantly build good connections with people. When asking
a girl out, you can use this technique to raise your chances of getting a yes.
Rapport can be used for discounts on shops, to make good friends, or being
in the good books of your teachers.
How does it work
Rapport works on the principle that we humans tend to like people who are
similar to us. When rapporting, we do start to sync with another human in
various ways. We tend to create a sense of similarity and reliability.
Exercises
1. Before meeting someone, find out what you and they have in
common. The mental process will help you get in rapport and
test what happens.
2. When you first meet someone, take a few seconds to note
their posture and tone; the way they carry themselves. Let
yourself match some aspect of their posture in one or two
areas, like folding arms, etc.
3. When in doubt assume you have rapport.
4. Practice breaking rapport (For example, by changing the
subject of a conversation to something they might not be
interested in.) and then re-establishing it quickly afterward.
5. Keep practicing until you see visible results

Using this technique, you can not only improve yourself, but you can build
long term relations with people in a quick and effective way. In the next
chapter, we are going to focus on how to get better at rapporting and the
methods related to rapporting like mirroring.
 CHAPTER 9:

Sync with Everyone – Trace and Drive

P ersuading someone could be hard, placing your ideas in someone

else’s head could be even harder. People who practice dark
psychology use the method of rapport more than anything. This
increases their general popularity and improves their relations with people.
Rapport is just one method, but it is so effective due to its vastness. It
includes in itself more tools and methods. I mean, now we know that we
have to create a sync with someone in order to persuade them, but how
exactly are we ought to do that? Is there anything more than copying their
posture? Well, for starters, we have mirroring and matching.
Mirroring
Mirroring is not something innate to NLP, it has been practiced throughout
history and by animals too. Even chimps use the technique of mirroring in
their groups. If you look closely enough mirroring is done by many humans
subconsciously. We use mirroring without siblings and with other people in
our family who are intimately close to us. Mirroring is used to build rapport
between two people, and that’s exactly why there are many common habits
you and your sister share.
Why do we then have to learn something which is so innate to us? Well, it
is a skill, and we can learn to use the skill better, and improvise. In simple
terms, mirroring is the process of mimicking subtle behaviors of whomever
who are conversing with. But mirroring should itself be subtle and appear
unconscious if you are caught mirroring then the effect might get totally
negative.
Mirroring is achieved by copying or mimicking the following factors;

● Speech patterns
● Body language
● Vocabulary style or specific choices of words
● Pace, tempo, pitch, tone, volume

When it comes to accent, do not even try to mirror it. You will be easily
caught and the results wouldn’t be good at all.

Mirroring vs Positive Reinforcement

We have mentioned before that positive reinforcement is used as a
technique to persuade people, while this is true and it definitely works, but
mirroring is far better in persuading someone. Richard Wiseman is an
American author who conducted a study to analyze the effects of mirroring
and positive reinforcement. He carried out his study on two groups of
waiters, one who used positive reinforcement and one who used mirroring
and the results are staggering. The former group of waiters was told to take
orders from the tables with the use of positive reinforcement (No Problem,
Absolutely, Sure sir, Etc.), while the latter group was told to mirror the
orders while taking them by simply repeating the orders to the customers.
The latter group who performed mirroring got a stunning 70% larger
average tip than those who performed positive reinforcement.

This gives us an idea of why mirroring is so effective and now let’s get to
how should we practice the skill.

Simple Exercises
Now it’s time for some simple exercises you should do regularly when
talking to someone to be able to perform mirroring more effectively.

1. When you talk to someone, realize their body language; are

the more conserved or open, have they crossed their legs or
not, etc. And start to mimic them one by one.
2. Analyze their speech patterns; is the person talking in a high
pitch or low pitch? Are they using a lot of curse words? Is
there language mainly composed of slangs e or formals
words? Analyze these factors and start to mimic them
3. Their choice of vocabulary; formals words or slangs etc.
Focus on them a lot
Matching
After mirroring comes matching. Matching is a rather olden method to
achieve what we achieve with mirroring; a successful rapport, but it is still
effective at times. A simple example difference of mirroring and matching
is if someone is used the word “emphasized” a lot, you use the exact same
word in your sentences too, in a way that if it were natural to you. While on
the other hand, when you are talking with someone you would rather use a
synonym of the word in your sentences. This creates a good possibility of
building rapport. Use both methods at the same time to gain rapport more
effectively. For example, you are mirroring 5 words of that person per 10
minutes of conversation, and you think that if you use more of them you
would be caught. So what you do is that you start matching 10 words per
10-minute conversation along with mirroring 5 words. This works magic.
The best tip here is observation, you should definitely observe people all the
time. Friends, families, people who are hanging out together, all preform
such mirroring and matching and you should observe and realize how to
improve yourself.
Crossover Mirroring
Crossover mirroring is a kind of matching technique used in NLP. In
crossover mirroring, when a person changes one part of his physiology, you
can mirror it by changing some other part of your Neuro-linguistic
physiology. That means if someone is putting his left leg over the right one,
you simply put your left arm over your right one. If someone is breathing in
a particular way, you start shaking your feet in that pattern.
States of Mind
Simply put, we humans tend to be in one of three states of mind; visual,
audible, or kinesthetic. We can say that there are three kinds of people,
people who are more visual minded, people who are more audial minded,
and people who are more “feelings” oriented. This goes without saying that
not everyone falls strictly in one of these categories, and some people may
have two of them, and that is exactly why we should learn to use them in
our favor. At most times, our minds are inclined towards either of these
three states and thus the skill to practice here is talk to the person while
observing their talking pattern so you can make sure which state they fall
into. This would give you a clue of what you now have to say, and in what
tone, thus you can execute mirroring effectively. Here is a helpful chart

State Primary Science Language Patterns

Visual Sight I see what you mean.
Audial Hearing I hear what you are
saying…
Kinesthetic Feeling It feels to me like…

This chart should give you a good sense of how to detect which state of
mind someone is. If for example, someone is in the visual state of mine, you
should rather be describing how your experiences ‘looked’ rather than how
they felt or sounded. This is important as once you establish such
parameters, you can easily build rapport with someone.
Generalization and Cancellation
We, humans, tend to delete a lot of information that we receive, and we
choose to see the very selective amount of information. This factor can be
used to build rapport even more effectively. If for example, you use such
words that make the other person think about specific things then you can
persuade them in a better way.
Take this example, I go and talk to my friend with the objective in mind that
I want to eat a pizza without paying for it. So, first off I just honestly share
my problem with him that I don’t even have enough money to buy a drink
today. Then later when we are in the conversation I use words like a
restaurant, buying, and shops. I also emphasize words that include a double
Z because they would mimic the sound of pizza. This all would get the idea
of a pizza in my friend’s head and he may want to eat one too by the end of
a little walk.
When he decides that he wants to eat a pizza, he starts to think if he should
go alone or with you. But as you have been mirroring and matching with
him, he has grown sudden sync with you and thus wouldn’t be able to say
no to you. He simply invites you to eat the pizza, and wouldn’t even ask for
the money as he knows you have none. Actually, you had put the idea in his
head, but he thinks he thought of it himself.
Metamodels
Once you have established a successful rapport and the deal you wanted to
be done is almost done, now is the time to use metamodels, or simply
putting on the table the “current” situation.
● What is their current situation?
● What are they doing to achieve their outcome?
● What are they doing that will stop them from achieving their
outcome?
In simple terms ask the client or victim; “where are you now?”

Meta Model Questions

This technique was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder based
on the questions used by the therapists they originally modeled. There are
three processes that occur when we speak, we delete the information we
distort it, that is we make untested assumptions and we generalize things,
that is we assume because something has happened once or twice it will
always happen. In short, meta-model questions is a brutal and simple
questionnaire technique that helps the client or the victim to explore and
clarify their mental traps. With the help of these questions, they can recover
and confront information they may be avoiding. One thing that should be
noted is that these questions should only be asked once rapport is
established, the idea is not that we are agreeing or disagreeing with them,
we are simply asking these questions to help finalize the deals and
understand the situation better.

Typical questions in the Meta Model

● How? What? When? Where? Who Specifically?

 ● Who Says? According to Whom?
● Everybody? Always? Never? Nobody? Nothing?
● All? No one?
● What do you mean by that?
● Compared to whom? Compared to what?
● How do you know?
● What stops you? What would happen if you could? How do you
stop yourself?
● What would happen if you did? What would happen if you didn’t?
● And? Tell me more?

In this chapter, we have finalized the deal with rapporting. We have looked
into why it is so important and how to use it in relation to the previous
chapter, and now we have dealt with everything that is related to this
method. We have learned to mirror, to match, to sync with states of mine, or
to use crossover mirroring, and to use metamodels. In the next chapter, we
are going to learn how to influence people with NLP.
 CHAPTER 10:

Influencing People with N.L.P.

W ords are powerful, or we should say that words are power.

The meanings of them crystallize our perceptions and shape
our vision and beliefs. In turn, words create our world. How
are they so powerful? Because we create them so, and we give them the
power to not only create everything around us but also give meaning to
everything we know. Say the word ‘fire’ in the workplace and you can see
the powerful emotional and energetic reactions of people there.

Let me give you a good example from a Japanese scientist’s study to make
you see what I am trying to say. Masaru Emoto in the 1990s conducted an
experiment on freezing water. Water that is free from all impurities, when
frozen, form beautiful structures of ice-crystals that look like snowflakes
under a microscope. While on the other hand, water that is polluted, when
frozen, will not show such crystals. Emoto took water in two different
glasses and labeled on with words like “I hate you” and the other with
words like “I love you”. Results? After 24 hours, the glass of water with “I
hate you” label was frozen as if it had impurities in it, while the other glass
was frozen like pure water.

Thus study may have many biases in it, and to derive a conclusion would be
not a plausible option here. But, the reason to put forward this study was so
that I can make the power of words clear to you. Just like the glasses of
water, negative words impact us and the atmosphere around us very quickly,
while positive words may create a zest or calm without the need for any
other tools. Words are the most powerful tools you have. Until now,
whatever you have learned from this book, was based upon words, how to
effectively use them (persuasion and manipulation), how to find out which
words impact the most (Rapporting), how to make sure than your words
form an impact (mirroring and matching), etc. Now, we are going to see the
power of words on their own and the different techniques used in NLP and
Dark Psychology that could not be categorized otherwise.
Power of Words
Well, let’s dive into some real science to understand the power of words.
According to many studies words have “the power to influence the
expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress”. Words can
change our genes.
Positive words such as peace or love have the ability to alter expressions of
genes, can strengthen areas of our frontal lobe and promote our brain’s
cognitive functions. They propel the motivational centers of our brains and
in short, have the power to impact us vastly.

To understand how this works, we have to go back to what we have learned

about how our brain derives meaning from the world around us. We see an
image, and out of all the bits of information, we select a specific amount of
it to be processed by our brains, this little information in comparison to the
information we could have encompasses is selected on the basis of our
personal profile. After we have this information, we start to assign meaning
to those bits of information. We assign meaning by comparing the
information to our past experiences and knowledge, and once the meaning
is derived, the real game starts. Until the moment when the meaning is
derived, you have no clue what is going on inside your head, and once the
meaning is derived and concluded, our brains start to release certain
chemicals or hormones or neurotransmitters so you can feel the moment
and react accordingly.
Let me give you an example. Imagine you see a dog running towards you
from a distance. This scene goes to your mind, is compared to the past
experiences with dogs (which let's say are bad), and your brain releases
chemicals of fear and hate. Your brains assign these negative words to the
scene, “dangerous” or “Lethal”, and thus you would react accordingly.
We can see here how words are playing major roles in our deep psychology,
and thus to be able to use them is very important. In this example, if we
start to develop the ability to analyze the scenes and assign meanings to
them ourselves we can control our lives. On the other hand, with the use of
words, we can persuade other people more effectively and efficiently.
Interrogations
There are many techniques used by policemen and investigators which are
based on words alone and show remarkable efficiency. One such method is
making the accused say “yes” many times. How does this work? Well, once
we say something over and over again, we feel more comfortable saying
that. Thus, if you ask a liar a lot of questions that definitely lead to the
simple answer of yes, and then ask them about the thing they have done,
they might just simply say yes.
It is not 100% effective, but it definitely works. Another method to use yes
is by making someone confess to lower crimes first. Ask the accused
whether they have ever smoked a cigarette, and if they have, they wouldn’t
hesitate to say yes to that, but this answer will make them more accustomed
to confessing (because most people just think of smoking as a taboo). Then
ask them if they have ever stolen something in their childhood, how many
lies they tell in a day, think about other guilty things they might have
committed and ask them about that. Once you have established these
questions, then ask about the real crime. There is a high possibility they are
simply going to confess.
Truism
A truism is a cliché statement and is highly effective when trying to
manipulate someone or playing the game of words. Such statements, if used
properly, may give a solid back-up to your statement. The truism method of
manipulation is very simple and is not something related to real Truism.
For example, you are debating with someone online about a certain world-
history topic. What you do, id that you give 9 true facts or figures, with
sources and references, and the 10th one you give without any source of
citation, and the 10th one is actually a lie. People are just going to believe
you there. That’s how people are.
You can build the trust of someone by simply telling them true things a
couple of times, and in the meanwhile, you can feed them some lies and
they are just going to believe that. The theory sounds intriguing, but there
are various problems and I am going to give a few practical examples with
a few good tips to make this work out perfectly.

When you want to use truism, there are two starts. Either do your
homework on the person you want to feed lies so that you have the
knowledge which they have. This would make a great start because you can
simply feed them the truths or facts you have researched on, and gain their
trust. On the other hand, if you have a vast knowledge of all fields, or the
fields humans tend to know about, then you don’t really have to do your
homework.

Let's take an example. There is a girl in your class, who is a rather religious
conservative type. Now, you want her to not be so, because you feel bad for
her. If you go and talk to her directly, there is absolutely no way she is
going to let you question her core beliefs. But you can make her question
herself.

So, start going to her for a random talk, totally kind and easy. Help her in
the homework and stuff. Step one is done. Now do some great research on
her religion, and get the loopholes from there. If you are using logic, there
are always loopholes in every single possible thing. Even if the scripture is
well written and you don’t want to reject the entire religion, you can simply
take out the points where the scripture tells people to be social and meet and
greet, then you can exaggerate that and add a few clauses by your own.
Your perfect lie is made. Now you have to implant it in her head.

In your talks with her, you tell her many things about her religion, because
now you have made your research. You talk about history and the obvious
things so that she trusts you as a credible source. Once you think it is time,
you randomly tell her about your perfect lie. Trust me, she is going to buy
that in no time. She won’t be able to say no because you never lied about
any other points, and she would start to question her own beliefs.
You ignited an internal fight, and leave her to it, or you can help her along
the way. Now let us combine some other things we have learned so far. You
mirror and match her and keep her in perfect rapport all the time you spend
with her, even if its 5 minutes barely. This creates in her mind an exception
for you, and she would not only trust your words but also you in person.
After she is done with her internal fight, be there for her, tell her more about
the religion and various other things, keep rapporting and feed her often lies
that lead to your philosophy of life. The game is simple from the moment
on, she would start to admire you and trust you, she has an image in mind
that you are the person because of whom she became a better version of
herself. She would fall in love with you.
Hidden Commands
You would be astonished to see that other than the general methods of
manipulation and persuasion, there are also some specific phrases and
commands that you can start using the right of the bad to persuade people.
Salesmen use these the most.

Weasel Phrases
Tell people how good they’ll feel by buying your product or agreeing to
your plan.
“Imagine how good you’ll feel”

Tag Questions
Questions that have isn’t it, aren’t they, etc. in them are hard to disagree
with, extremely hard for some people. “You won’t mind giving me a lift,
will you?”

Perhaps not Quite

Tell them you are not going to advise them to buy your product until they
are completely satisfied and have done their research.

Relax
Tell them to relax. The word “relax” has a positive effect and makes
someone relaxed and calm, and they are more likely to listen to you and
agree to you.

Other Words
Well, you can use any word in the English language that most people are
familiar with and if it is associated with a certain feeling as a command
phrase or word. Just like the word “relax”. There are many situations where
this would not work fine, and in such moments you can use some other
words like calm or peace.

That all said, now if you look at the method of anchoring, you would be
able to better understand its implications. Anchoring can be used with
words, and quite easily. And just imagine the impact of effects if you use all
that you have learned in this book one single person. Or on your entire
class. You’d be popular, and in no time, successful. In this chapter, we have
looked deep into the implications of words and how they work and how to
use them to manipulate and persuade other people. Now, we are going to
work on some other methods of persuasion in the light of NLP.
 CHAPTER 11:

Persuasion

W e have talked about persuasion before, but this time we are

going to take a deeper dive into the subject. Persuasion is
vast, and not everyone is able to persuade. But those who
master this ability, are ought to achieve success in life. Dark psychology is
based upon manipulation and persuasion. We have talked about what they
are and how they are used by many people, so we won't be discussing that
again. But if we consider persuasion to be an ability and a skill, then we are
ought to look deeper into it in order to understand it well enough.

At the start of this book, we talked about the 6 methods or factors involved
in persuasion by Robert Cialdini briefly. We are going to look at them in
more depth now so you may understand how to use them perfectly in real
life.
Persuasion
Persuasion is a hard skill to master, but we are sure that persuasion works
by doing certain things that appeal to deeply rooted human responses.
Robert Cialdini in his best-seller book Influence, mentions six of those
responses.

Liking
Simply put, if people like you, they are very easy to be manipulated. When
I mentioned this at the start of this book, I was unable to mention the
“How” to make people like you in-depth, due to your lack of knowledge.
But now that we know NLP and its various techniques we can define how
to make someone like you better.

People simply tend to like people who are either similar to them, or are kind
to them, or are very smart and intelligent or have a good personality, etc. In
terms, there are a variety of factors, and these factors may change with
regions. So, your first exercise is to start observing from this day onwards.
Who do you like? And ask yourself the question “why?”. Then observe
other people, who do people tend to like the most in your area, or in your
school or workplace, and why do they like them. This would give you
enough data to start using it against them by developing the habits of people
who are “liked” the most in your region.

That said, there are still many things we can generalize. Like people who
are similar to us, we tend to develop a liking to them. And we know how to
make someone feel that we are similar to them, right? Rapport. Observe,
learn and use rapport. Practice it daily. Your observation skills may be dull
at first and you not be able to tell what are the mental orientation of people
and how do they talk and what things to mirror or match. But trust me, with
time, you will become an expert in this field. If you spend your entire day
observing people, while you are doing whatever you are doing, and spent at
least one hour a day trying to build rapport with someone, I bet you would
be able to see the results within a week.
There are other ways except rapport to make people feel that you are similar
to them. Take social media, for example, you can just build a rapport there
easily, especially on a chat with some stranger. So how would you make
people like you there? Well, build your online presence. Show the perfect
you there. Obviously, the people you see online on social media, who are
supposedly living perfect lives with every day traveling and luxurious
dinners and epic lunches are not real. They have the bad sides in their lives
too, they just don’t show it online. And people tend to be inspired by them.
What you can do that if you use a certain social media site, just start posting
things that are relatable to people.
Let me give you an example of a friend of mine. This guy came built-in
with insecurities about themselves and would spend his days in guilt and
loathe. He was shy and didn’t know how to talk to people, he felt like if no
one liked him at all. One day when I was at his place, I saw his phone. His
gallery was full of the funniest memes of the century, but his social media
profile was dry rotten. I asked him why and he was like what if people don’t
like his type of humor.

Of course, he is eccentric and many memes were dark humor oriented and
people don’t tend to like that in the majority. So, I simply told him to start
posting one meme a day, but something that everyone in his class could
relate to. He started that and turns out the time we met he was explained
how his life has changed so much since he started to get 500 likes per post.
He was popular in school now and this all motivated him to work on his
insecurities. Why be got popular? Because he was saying or posting
something that everyone could relate to. He was making people laugh
(that’s a plus point). He was not popular in school, and barely anyone knew
him. But when they started to see his memes, his only memories in people’s
minds were attached with good laughs and thus everyone had a positive
opinion about him when asked.

Simply put there is a myriad of ways to make someone like you. Just be
open to them (or pretend to), make them laugh, make them feel
comfortable, show them you are relatable to them and build a good rapport
with them. Observance those certain factors based on your region and start
practicing daily.

Reciprocity
This is very simple. People tend to return a favor. People don’t like a burden
on their shoulders. We as people are trained to act “good” and in certain
ways. One of the ways is to make sure that we return the favor. It’s
something found deep in our spine. So, just start to take advantage of that.

It is to notice that the reciprocity principle is not going to work on a

majority, depending on where you live. If people in your city are more kind-
hearted and educated, then this may work just fine. But if we compare it the
first factor, the former is going to win by majority vote. Anyhow, for the
slightly-less majority, this principle is still workable and quite efficient. One
good example is when you get free samples from a store.

Now let's talk about how to use this principle in real life or in real
relationships to make things go the way you want them to. If you want a
specific thing to be done by a specific person, just simply start giving them
favors. Let's take an example here. You have a class fellow, and you know
that he is a damn genius. Now you know yourself and the lazy person you
are.
You are sure that until finals, you will not be able to study the whole
syllabus, but still, you want to pass with good grades. What do you do? At
the beginning of the semester or session, you pinpoint these two extremely
intelligent and study-maniac kind of guys. You start giving them favors.
Simple favors, or fake ones.

Drop a dollar their next step and pick them up for you. When they say it's
not theirs, tell them to keep it because you found it next to their step
anyway. Keep an eye on them, if they need help with anything, help them
out. Nerds are not good at sports, and you may be good at them. Find such
things you can favor them or help them out with. Compliment them
randomly when they wear a new shirt, tell them that that girl was staring at
them at the end of the day. These simple things are going to build trust and
they would start to feel high in your dept.

When the exam day comes, ask them to help you out. Even if they have
never helped anyone out, they are definitely going to help you out because
you helped them in every possible way, even if you were faking all that.

Social Proof
This method is not applicable to smaller situations or too many situations at
all. But the concept is that people tend to do things if they see a majority
doing it. How to use it in real life?

Well, the next time you want to persuade someone to do an action-oriented

thing, simply tell them they “Hey, C’mon! Everyone is doing it!” and it
would be more likely that they would be persuaded. This may not always
seal the deal and you may have to add other things to this (like rapport, or
favors, etc.) to make it work.
When trying to persuade someone to do something you know they are not
going to do at all, it is best to make use of as many methods as possible at
the same time.

Commitment and Consistency

The theory is something like, people who commit, are more likely to keep
their word and do the thing. Of course, if your girlfriend is angry, she is
going to forget all the commitments she has ever made, but the best way to
persuade her even in her anger is to remind her of her commitments. This
may work, or may not; we never know girls.
Anyhow, with the general public, excluding your girlfriend, people are
more likely to abide by their commitments. How to use this in real life?

Well, take the example of the lazy school manipulator. He can make the two
users commit to him. If he can do a big favor to them, he can say at that
time to help him out in the exams. If they say yes right off the bat, note their
words and make sure to keep reminding them. They have committed and
won't be able to say no to you thus.
This method is most widely used in marketing schemes, like giving off free
samples of products.

Authority
People tend to believe something they get expert-vibes from. Students are
going to believe their teachers without question when it comes to their
subject, but how are you supposed to take advantage of this trait in real life?
Well, let’s look at another example.

If the nerd from of yours tells you that there is an alien-baby discovered on
Mars, you are probably going to believe it because you know he is an expert
in his field. This means that if you give people the impression that you are
an expert in something, you can make them believe you easily. How to do
so?
There are two ways, the long term, and the short term. Your nerd friend has
this nerd image or label stuck to him because of his long-term behaviors.
You can do this too. Get into a few fields and study effectively. Let me give
you an example.
Take some short books on Philosophy, read some interesting articles on
Quantum Physics and read a book on the implications of Psychology. And
yes, additional know-how of world politics is an add-on. Now how to study
effectively for the sake of making yourself an expert in the eyes of your
friends? Just memorize the jargon. Understand the concept to your best, and
memorize the jargon of the subject. Jargons are the words that are only used
within a subject. Epistemology for Philosophy. And guess what? 90% of
your friends would have no clue what they mean. So, take advantage of that
fact.

Use that jargon when trying to prove a point. “No, the writer is not trying to
say that. If you have ever read philosophy, you'd know that the study of
these things is called epistemology, and in that Robert Alexander says ….”
They won't question you because you made yourself look like an expert in
the field. Keep using such talking methods to get a label of expert by your
friends, or simply use them once for a short term objective.

Scarcity
No rocket science; people tend to value things more which are scare. So,
tell everyone that the product you are selling is not available anywhere else
because all of them are sold out. “Sir, don’t miss your chance” This
example used Scarcity along with Social Proof.

On the other hand, if you simply add more value to your product, making it
unique people would still have a scarcity effect from it. Try it, it works. The
next time you brag affront your friends about the pen you just bought, tell
them it’s nib is made of two metal alloys, which used to be a way of nibs in
1800s, but no one manufactures them now, except this company. They are
definitely going to be inspired and awed.
Practicing these 6 skills in your daily life is going to improve your life. You
will have a good hand on how to persuade anyone to do absolutely
anything. My simple tip here is, when you talk to people with an objective
in mind, keep in 6 things affront your eyes. Memorize them, and use them
or otherwise you will never be able to see their potential. We all have
objective-oriented talks several times a day, when convincing our sister or
brother to fix a coffee for us, or to give us the remote. When buying
something from the market or when convincing a friend for the new movie.
Thus, keep these 6 factors in mind and decide on the spot which one is
going to work the most effective way here. Don’t hesitate to use them.
 CHAPTER 12:

Deception as a tactic

I n simple terms, deception is the act of deceiving someone or making

them believe or even support a statement or other information that is
not true. It is a simple act, but people who practice dark psychology in
their daily lives use deception more than anything. Manipulation and
persuasion both are based on deception. You cannot do either of them if you
are not able to deceive someone.

Tell me what good is everything you’ve learned so far if when you lie,
anyone can pick it out on your face. You have to learn the art of deception
in order to be a good manipulator or persuader. The world works on
deception, and lies, and being able to use them and also detect them, make
you the strongest person alive. If you are not able to detect someone trying
to deceive you, you will never be able to drive other people
Another factor that plays a role here is the good guy syndrome. Many of us
are just good guys and are trained to be so. We cannot seem to lie to people,
while on the other hand, someone of us is good at lying. Come to think of it,
we all lie at some point in our lives, but if you haven’t ever lied, not even to
your parents, then you are in big trouble because you have never practiced
this vitally important skill. So, start with that. Observe people closely and
detect how they are deceiving you or trying to do so.
Reading this book may have exposed you to the many ways people tend to
deceive us. We are manipulated and deceived by marketers, by social
media, by literally anything trying to sell us their product or their
philosophy. So, it’s time to start thinking and observing closely when you
are in a conversation with anyone at all. Here we are going to take a look at
some more common examples of deception.
Deception Examples
Let's start with the most common example, which you might have
witnessed several times and have done yourself. The deception of children.
Children tend to play the game of deception to their parents by pretending
they have an illness. The simple way out is a painful belly, something mild
enough to not call a doctor, but painful enough to make sure that they are
not ordered to do anything anymore. Early morning painful bellies just so
they don't have to go to school. Sometimes children are caught, and this
compels them to improve their deceptive techniques and acting so they may
not be caught the next time.
Let's take the next example from the medical profession. In medicine, we
have something called Placebo and the Placebo Effect. To explain that, let's
say you have a headache, and your mother gives you a medicine, you take it
and soon the pain goes away. When you ask your mother what the medicine
was, she tells you that it was just a multivitamin. She may have done it so
because she knows your nature to exaggerate things. Just like that, once a
medicine is launched in the market, it is first tested by a Placebo. Two
groups of people, one given a sugar pill labeled as the real medicine, and
the other group given the real medicine. Then the results are compared to
see if the effects of real medicine are real enough or not.

Another everyday example is White Lies. These are common deceptive lies
that we tell every day for a variety of reasons. Like telling your sister that
the new outfit is really looking good, although it isn’t. Just so that she may
have an extra layer of confidence for the interview. We tell the elders many
things out of respect, while we do not mean them. We also agree to our
teachers on many philosophies, while we do not accept them by heart.
How to understand who wants to deceive us
Deception is not something you can catch right off the bat without doing
prior observation and developing the skill. You have to start observing
everyone around you more closely and attentively. Yet here are a few tips
that are ought to help.

Attention and Observation

Although this is obvious since I have mentioned it so many times now, just
keep it in mind, whenever someone gets close to you; think what their
objective may be. The human world works on objectives and goals. Every
manipulator and every person who wants to use you will have a goal in
mind. So, take it as a challenge and try to dissect what their objectives are.
Some random class fellow suddenly is being good to you and being
favourous? They obviously need something in return.

Deceptions are Observers too

Deception needs time to think and observe people in order to come with a
good enough lie to feed. This may vary from person to person, but if you
think someone in the class is being extra observant, they may be a
deception.

Deceptors like to repeat

A professional deceptor may be very good at the skill of lying, but he is still
a human with a specific memory skill. If he is telling a different story to
every person all day long, he may not be able to keep track of all that. So,
deceptors tend to only answer the questions which are needed to be
answered.
How this may help you? Well, if someone is talking to you, ask them for
their objectives, ask them many questions and observe their answers. Are
they telling deeply written stories or just vague to the point answers, the
latter may be a deceptor.

Deceptors are also very keen on what are they being questioned so they
may repeat your question to you. This gives them time to come up with a
story and also make sure that they are getting the question right so that no
unnecessary information disclosed.

Other Signs
People who are not professional at lying tend to show off visible signs of
deception. Our minds are not so good at lying. When trying to lie, our
brains have to run an extra mile to come up with a plausible story to tell. So
make sure to look for physical signs such as the tone, and breathing. Are
they sweating, is it taking extra-long for them to answer your question?
These little signs are very important to notice when trying to catch a liar,
That all said, catching a liar is also a skill, and constant practice and
observation is going to improve it. Starting today, you should start
observing every single conversation you have with other people and make
sure to keep a record of it. Note it down in your diary, or repeat your daily
progress on bedtime.
Deception and Dark Psychology
If you have not yet realized it, then let me explain again that deception
serves as a foundation for the people who use dark psychology. In order to
deceive perfectly, you have to make sure that this skill is developed inside
your head. In order to use any method of manipulation and/or persuasion,
you have to first get used to deception. The most basic exercise is lying to
people. If you think you are not a good liar, then start lying. Starting with
white lies.
Tell everyone you meet or talk to in the day something that is a lie. Make
sure to control your expressions and tone and at the end of the day calculate
how many times you were caught and how many times it worked. When the
ratio is looking good, start to put heavier lies on the table.
The best method of exercise to do here is to start building your authority in
the eyes of the people around you. Choose a subject, and study it well
enough in one to two days, after that start preaching. Use jargon. This
method will help you improve your lying skills exceptionally. Once you
start, there is surely no turning back. People will start to believe you more
and more and start to also get inspired by you, and this will lead to people
around you actually liking you. When you have a circle of people who like
you, it is very easy to start practicing manipulative techniques on them.
So, until now we have almost covered everything there is to dark
psychology, and in the upcoming chapter, we will cover what’s left and look
at a few examples from history. Starting from deception, you have to start
practicing these skills on a regular basis to be able to protect yourself from
being used by other people and rather using people to your own benefit.
Even if you are not an evil person and don’t want to hurt people, you can
still use these methods to live a better life.
 CHAPTER 13:

Brainwashing

rainwashing is a long and time-consuming process, and its history goes

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History
The first time in human history when brainwashing was used as a real
technique and was recorded was in the early 1950s. Brainwashing was
defined as the process of though reforming and was implied on American
Prisoners of War caught by Korean and Chinese soldiers. They implied
totally new methods of brainwashing, some of which are still used, to
brainwash these people until they lost their identities, and were made into
war criminals against their own countries. That is the extent of
brainwashing when used on a mass, without any bounds.
Since then the concept is widespread and it is accepted as a psychological
advancement. Brainwashing has also helped many people to regain control
over their own selves but we are not going to discuss that here. Although
the campaign started in the 70s where people started therapies to get
themselves brainwashed into better people. These therapies were mostly a
fraud but worked as the perfect placebo in many people’s lives. From then
onward, brainwashing has been used by many countries as a war weapon
and is also used on a smaller scale to manipulate individuals.
How is it different from Manipulation and
Persuasion?
Brainwashing in dark psychology is defined as the process of thought
reforming of human individuals. Thought reforming means that we
annihilate someone’s identity and create now thoughts in their heads. This
process is hard to comprehend and is used as a major warfare weapon
throughout modern times. Countries now brainwash their own soldiers to
make sure they would never go against them and behave the way they are
required to.
Persuasion is used to get the target to think they’ve changed their own
minds through careful thought and increased knowledge of the situation.
People who use this method want people to feel positive about their
decision while in reality controlling their decisions. The control is never
complete, and in persuasion, the person always has the choice. The
persuader influences someone’s future without rewriting their past

On the other hand, manipulation is the forceful changing of someone’s

thoughts, by blackmailing or other mental techniques, leaving the person no
choice but to submit. Sometimes the manipulation is to make someone feel
that they are in control, while in reality, they are never in control. Yet
manipulation only focuses on the present and the short-term future.

When it comes to brainwashing, it is done solely on the basis of someone’s

past. Brainwashing may include excessive manipulation but the objectives
are different. Manipulation is for a simple short-term thing, while
brainwashing is used to make someone into an entirely new person, or make
them lose their identity
Steps for a Successful Brainwashing
Brainwashing is a vast subject and may require a book on its own to discuss
all the different methods used in different times and how they showed
results. Yet, with the experience, we can derive a set of generalized steps
that every brainwashing scheme shows. It is to be noted that brainwashing
cannot be done in one individual step or with the use of a simple technique,
brainwashing requires careful examination of the victim or target and
careful execution of specific steps with a specific goal in mind.

Rewrite the Past

This is the most important step of brainwashing if it is not executed
properly the whole scheme collapses. To rewrite someone’s past, you make
them question their beliefs and their history. You fill their heads with doubts
and uncertainties about their own selves and what they know. This leads
them to question everything and the view of the world around them.

Induce Guilt
In order to implant new world views in the target’s head, it is necessary that
they completely reject their old beliefs and values. The previous step
doesn’t make sure of that; it only creates the pathway. But if we add guilt
into the equation, such that the target starts to feel guilty of living the life he
has lived, he may start to completely reject the old ideas and embrace the
new world views presented to him.

All is Lost
This is the last step of the first objective in brainwashing. All is Lost is the
moment is life when we are on the verge of collapse when we have lost
faith in everything we ever held close to us and we are filled and
overflowing with guilts and miseries. In these times, many people just
commit suicide, while the protagonist of a story may unlock new powers.
Anyhow, bringing the target to this point is very essential to make sure that
the world views or set of philosophies you present him are going to be
accepted by him as the absolute truth and also provide meaning to their
lives because in All is Lost, they also have lost their meaning to live or
exist.

Taking the First Step

Once the target is drawn to the valley of complete hopelessness, he is then
offered sudden kindness from someone. In All is Lost, he may be seeing
everything as a bad person, but he is ought to see himself as the biggest
villain. Thus, even a simple act of kindness such as a glass of water may
open that person from their misery enclosed and make them want to talk to
you and hear you. This will also make the brainwasher get away from the
bad zone into an allied area.

Confession
In the stage, the target is, he may be willing to do anything at all to make
his current existential misery fade away and regain meaning and existence
with happiness. Thus when the brainwasher shows him hope, he is simply
going to take it. This process may not be as simple with everyone as many
people might have gone so far that any offers made to them are also gone in
vain, they just do not want to live anymore. In such cases, careful
persuasion and motivation can help them get to the point where the
brainwasher wants to see them

Rebirth
Once all the objectives are confessed, and the brainwasher has accepted
them, he is reborn into a new human being. Further manipulations are run to
make sure the effects are gone into the bones and that person is then trained
to comply with the new meaning of life he has. From living a happy life for
his family, like a lay guy, he may now just have one meaning to exist, to kill
the traitors.

Due to these hard-to-carry out methods, brainwashing is not used so

common in your daily life. Yet, it is used indeed. If your thoughts are
affected by anything for an extended period of time, to the extent of
reformation, we can say that you have been brainwashed. A simple example
of this is your parents. Our parents at times end up brainwashing us. From
day one we are made to memorize certain values and beliefs about a
religion or something like that. We never thought about them, but we start
to believe them from our hearts. This is just an example of brainwashing.
Although it is not as effective because once we start to think we can
question those believes and make our own philosophies, yet many people
are never even able to do that.
A professional manipulator who is there just to marry a rich girl may also
be using brainwashing. And now, it’s time to see some famous people
through history who have used dark psychology.
Famous People Who Have Used Dark Psychology
Now we are going to look at a list of some of the many who have
influenced the world in their own unique ways with the use of dark
psychology. All of them belonged to some part of the Dark triad, maybe
they were made this way, but more expectedly they had made themselves
this way, to get the success they had achieved.

Alexander The Great

Son of Philip II of Macedon and Olympias, Alexander the Great was a king
of the ancient Greek kingdom known as Macedon and a raging narcissist as
well. Alexander thought that whatever he saw, belonged to him and he had
the right to take it. The entire world, he wanted in his grasp. He liked to be
called a god and considered himself to be the son of Zeus. But ambitions
apart, he was the one man in history to actually be able to achieve those
ambitions by conquering more than half the globe. Not just anyone can do
that unless they have extremely high and exceptional levels of intelligence,
emotional manipulation skills, blend-in ruthlessness or deception skills, and
the ability to be able to use others for one’s personal sake.

Napoleon Bonaparte
Napoleon become a general in the French Revolution when he was only 24.
Being a total stranger and absolutely nobody in the system, he rose quickly
and everyone recognized his capabilities. He was insecure about his
childhood traumas all his life, and that served as his motivation for
narcissism. Yet, Napoleon rose to become the first Emperor of France and is
considered as the world’s greatest Military Leader. Such titles are not
achieved with mere manpower or simple manipulative abilities. Napoleon
was exceptional in asserting dominance and making people say yes to him.
He became a fine military general at such a young age because of these
skills he had possessed and cherished.

Adolf Hitler
Adolf Hitler lived in the early 1900s and tried to wipe out the entire
generation of Jews, he contributed in both the World Wars and partially
started the former. He introduced the propaganda theory with his friend and
carried out the world’s first and biggest and most effective propaganda
schemes ever. Hitler carried out dictatorship for many years over France
and people happily complied with him due to his extremely persuasive
speeches and talks. Hitler had done so much that people still say that he
may just be alive, there are many conspiracy theories on that.

Charles Manson
Charles Manson is one of the most well-known cult leaders of modern
American history. Manson was an unemployed ex-convict who utilized
psychopathic manipulation to create himself a following which he named
the Manson Family. Manson had the ability to convince young people to
join his family by preying on their weaknesses and making them feel as if
he was their safe place and messiah. After drawing them in, Manson then
convinced them to commit crimes on his behalf.
 Conclusion

I n this book, we have looked and dived in all possible aspects of Dark
Psychology. We have carried this book not only in the manner to make
sure that the reader is aware of its dangers but also is able to use them.
This book is a neutral representation and a skill-guide for Dark Psychology,
we have talked about the how’s, whys, and when’s of Dark Psychology in
detail and in-depth so that the reader is well-acquainted with what dark
psychology is, what kind of people use it, how to defend yourself against
these people and how to use these methods in a more moral way to achieve
success and greatness. We believe that humans are prone to bad, and a
utopia is not achievable, and if we are to live in this world we have to learn
the methods used by the people who rule it. We may have no intention of
ruling it, but we must know how to not be used by these people and how to
help other people free from these chains. The methods described and
detailed in this book can be used for bad and good, and it is completely up
to the reader and the learner. The consequences of actions are also
mentioned along the way, and thus we cover no responsibility for anyone’s
actions.
This Book can be used as a guide and a learning mechanism to understand
and evaluate Dark Psychology. By this point the reader must understand the
extend of the scope of dark psychology and the variety of fields of like in
which it is practiced. The reader has learned everything from persuasion to
manipulation to brainwashing along with the techniques of NLP and what it
is, including the uses of these methodologies.
In the end I would like to mention: Hope you have enjoyed this book to
your heart’s content and have learned myriads from it. Whatever you do,
remember everything comes with a price, and you cannot possibly run from
the consequences, thus it is better to execute the scheme of your objectives
within the law and moral restrain.