 Enlight your life through relaxation and scripts for

self-help, personal change and fulfilment

 I deserve to be,
 I want to be,
 I can be,
 I will be,
 I am.
 If you want to change your life you need to change how you think
and change what you do. Self-help, personal change, being happy:
it's up to you. No-one else.
 You decide. This is the first step. Self-help starts with you. Self-help
and personal change starts with your realisation that it really is in
your own hands, and your decision to do something about it.
 Your own self-belief is the key to successful life-change,
achievement, contentment, and happiness.
 Your own mind, particularly positive suggestion and visualisation, will
develop your self-belief, and your determination to make successful
change to your life.
 This page will help you begin to change the way you think, feel and
act.
 Visit it any time you want to boost your self-belief, to relax, and to
regain control of your life and direction.
 Print this page and put it above your mirror, above your bed, above
your desk, anywhere you'll see it every day.
 Make time - actually schedule some time in your planner or diary to
do this. It will dramatically improve your mood, attitude, and
approach to life, and therefore what you get from life.
 Positive suggestion and visualisation, combined with deep relaxation,
is an easy way to make powerful positive personal change.
 Just going through this relaxation exercise alone will help to change
and improve the way you feel. If you combine the relaxation
techniques with a repeated script of positive statements, such as the
'I am' script below, you will begin change the way you think, and
feel, and act, and all that life offers as a result.
 The more you use the relaxation exercise and say or hear the script,
then the greater and more sustainable will be the effect.
 The time it takes to change depends on different people. Stick with it
and it will become easier, more natural, more enjoyable, and it will
work.
 Relaxation exercise
 Sit or lie down comfortably. Properly comfortably. Straighten your
back; put your shoulders back to open your rib-cage.
 Relax your shoulder muscles particularly. Relax your whole body, and
empty your mind.
 Close your eyes (obviously open them when you need to read the
next stage).
 Take ten deep, slow breaths. Breathe from the pit of your stomach
and feel your lungs filling.
 Focus on your breathing. Feel it getting deeper and slower. Feel
yourself relaxing and any tension drifting away.
 Relax your shoulders and neck again.
 Visualise yourself being happy, succeeding, winning, being loved,
laughing, feeling good.
 Relax your forehead, your mouth and your eyes.
 Allow a gentle smile to appear on your face as you feel a calmness
enter your mind.
 Then say (out load ideally) the words below (a script for personal
change) to yourself:
 i am
 I am good person.
 I have integrity.
 I do what is ethically right and good.
 Whatever life puts before me will be useful experience that will make
me stronger, wiser, and more tolerant.
 I am strong enough to understand and make allowances for other
people's weaknesses, and their behaviour towards me. Other
people's behaviour is about them, not me.
 I focus on the joy of living my life and helping others where and
when I can.
 I am what I eat and drink, so I eat and drink good things.
 I am what I watch and play and listen, so I watch and play and listen
to good positive things.
 I take exercise which I enjoy. I walk when I don't need to drive or
take the bus or train.
 I smile and laugh whenever I can - life is good - getting caught in
the rain reminds me that it is good to be alive to feel it.
 I forgive other people. Deep down everyone is a good person, just
like me.
 I am a compassionate and loving, caring person.
 I am a good person.
 I am.
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 about relaxation, scripts and self-help
 The use of scripts while in a deeply relaxed state is a ages-old
method of gaining and maintaining control over our personal feelings
and behaviours.
 Relaxation combined with positive 'self-talk' enables self-help.
 The use of scripts or strong statements while in a deeply relaxed
state enables a 'conditioning' effect on our subconscious.
 Changing our subconscious - our feelings and beliefs - increases our
sense of calm and well-being, and also enables change in our
conscious thoughts and behaviours. It's that simple.
 Some people find it easier than others to relax deeply. It comes with
practice.
 If you find it difficult, allow yourself more time when going through
the relaxation exercise. Create or put yourself into a quiet relaxing
calm environment. Shut out noise and distractions. Lie down rather
than sit.
 When relaxing and emptying your mind it is natural for thoughts to
arise - in which case simply acknowledge them gently and let them
go - visualise them floating away like a balloon into the distance.
Your ability to empty your mind and relax, free from thoughts, will
improve with practice.
 When you practice, you will increase the ease with which you can
relax, and then you will find that you no longer need such a quiet
environment. You will even find that you can achieve a deeply
relaxed state in quite noisy stressful environments. Even sat at your
desk at work.
 Other methodologies and approaches refer to deep relaxation as
'meditation'. Commonly such methods are 'packaged' and surrounded
by mystery or science. Don't be fooled. Anyone can do this. It's
human nature, and instinctively accessible - free - to everyone.
 Deep relaxation alone is good for the mind and body, without the use
of scripted statements. Combining deep relaxation with good positive
scripts is a powerful method of achieving greater happiness and for
making positive personal change.
 The use of repeating scripts (said or listened to) is ages-old as well.
The principle is used in many timeless customs - some which are
forces for good, others not so good - which are used to change or
control feelings, including praying, chanting, singing, etc. Often these
practices are combined with deep relaxation, meditation, trance,
even hypnosis, again some for good aims and some not so good.
 What I'm advocating here is the use of the same basic methodology
-deep relaxation, combined with repeating strong
 statements- to achieve powerful personal change for the good, in
the direction that you want.
 If you are a coach or trainer you can help others with this type of
personal change - see the personal change exercises ideas which use
these relaxation, scripts and positive statements techniques.
 using and changing scripts - what the 'i am' words mean
 The 'I am' element alone is a powerful one because it embodies the
sense of self-determination, which nobody and nothing can ever take
away from you, and it emphasises the value of simply 'being'.
 We each exist as a person of value and worth in our own right,

irrespective of possessions and achievements. Accepting and

reinforcing this concept is good for each of us. This, at its simplest
level, is what 'I am' means.
 "There is wisdom in accepting what you are. It is difficult to be what
you are not. Being what you are doesn't require any effort. When
you become wise, you accept yourself the way you are, and the
complete acceptance of yourself becomes the complete acceptance
of everyone else." (From 'The Mastery of Love' by Don Miguel Ruiz,
with thanks to Allspirit.co.uk)
 You can use the relaxation exercise, combined with a script, to

change many aspects of your life and feelings.

 You do this by adding, removing, or replacing statements in the

script.
 Keep the statements positive and in the present tense.

 For example, if you want to be more confident, use a statement such

as 'I am a confident person' rather than 'I will be a more confident

person' or 'I will try to be a more confident person'.
 If you want to stop smoking, use a statement such as 'I am a non-

smoker, because I value my life and body' rather than 'I will try to
give up smoking'.
 If you do not want to give up smoking, merely to cut down, adjust

the script accordingly, for example: 'I smoke only five/ten/fifteen

cigarettes a day, because this is improving my health and my life'
(better than smoking twenty or thirty day).
 If you keep telling your sub-conscious that you 'are', then in time you

will 'be'.
 Use script statements that describe yourself as you want to be.

Repeating positive scripts, combined with deep relaxation, will

change your behaviour from deep within.
 making tapes or script recordings
 You can increase the ease of using scripts if you make a tape or CD
recording of yourself reading your script.
 You can then use the recording any time you want.
 Using a recording also means you can relax completely while
listening to the words, with no need to open your eyes to read.
 You can also listen to your recorded script at bed-time, before you go
to sleep every night, which is also an effective way to reach and
change your sub-conscious feelings.
 be assured...
 Most people judge themselves against entirely artificial criteria.
Material success is not what life is about.
 You can change your frame of reference. You do not have to accept
a frame of reference that others have given you.
 Many of the most materially 'successful' people are deeply unhappy,
yet they strive and search (unsuccessfully) even harder for more
material success.
 Most ordinary good, honest 'being' people are fooled into believing
that what they have is not worth anything. Don't be fooled.
 The answer to happiness and fulfilment is usually found in achieving
a simple acceptance of, and joy of living, a good life.
 Enjoy 'being' and living a good life.
 Next time you get caught in the rain, or bump the car, or get a
headache - enjoy being alive to feel it and experience it.