PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT | MODULE 1
LESSON 1: KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING ___19. I can express my ideas in writing without
ONESELF DURING MIDDLE AND LATE difficulty.
ADOLESCENCE ___20. I am a good listener.
___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled
Most Essential Learning Competencies: when faced with trouble.
Explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept ___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and
his/her strengths and limitations and dealing with others decisions.
better; & share his/her unique characteristics, habits, ___23. I feel and act with confidence.
and experiences ___24. I am a mature person. C. High price selling of
seat belts and income from the automotive industry
Objectives:
At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. explain that knowing yourself can make you accept Scoring: Copy Human Relations Intelligence
your strengths and limitations and thus, leads to this table in your 5 __________ 9 __________
dealing with others better; journal. Write 6 __________ 10 __________
2. share your unique characteristics, habits and your score 7 __________ 11 __________
experiences; and, opposite each 8 __________ 12 __________
3. start and maintain a journal. number and get
the subtotal. Subtotal: Subtotal:
Unlocking Difficulties: Physical appeal
1. Anxiety – (noun) a feeling of worry, nervousness, or 1 __________
unease, typically about an imminent event or something 2 __________
with an uncertain outcome. (Psychiatry) a nervous 3 __________
disorder characterized by a state of excessive 4 __________
uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive
behavior or panic attacks. Subtotal:
2. Brood - think deeply about something that makes one Character Communications Maturity
13 __________ 17 __________ 21 __________
unhappy.
14 __________ 18 __________ 22 __________
3. Emergence - the process of coming into being, or of
15 __________ 19 __________ 23 __________
becoming important or prominent. 16 __________ 20 __________ 24 __________
4. Hone- refine or perfect (something) over a period of
time. Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Activity: SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY HOW DO YOU PERCEIVE YOURSELF?
Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the
following self-concept inventory in your journal. Give Look at the results of your self-concept inventory and
yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = answer the following questions.
weak; 2 = somewhat weak or somewhat strong; 3 =
strong; 4 = very strong 1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score
14-16 or somewhat weak (score of 10-13) and very weak
___1. I have strong sex appeal. (below 10).
___2. I am proud of my physical figure.
___3. I am physically attractive and 2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but
beautiful/handsome. other people consider as your strength? What are these?
___4. I exude with charm and poise. Check with a partner.
___5. I am easy to get along with.
___6. I can adjust to different people and different Example: A lady can say “I`m ugly” yet other consider her
situations. very charming. Or conversely, one can have the illusion of
saying “I am very intelligent or competent” when most of
___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and
his ideas sound unreasonable or illogical to most of the
comfortable with me.
people. There is indeed a big difference between what you
___8. I am lovable and easy to love.
see in yourself (real self-image) and what is projected in
___9. I am a fast learner, and can understand with one the eyes of the others (your social image).
instruction.
___10. I am intelligent. 3. How realistic is your self- image?
___11. I have special talents and abilities.
___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right 4. To what extent does it reflect your real self?
judgments.
___13. I can be trusted in any transaction. Reading: SELF-CONCEPT
___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do
feeling. you see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self?
___15. I have integrity and a good reputation. Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one
___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of
as a model worth emulating. a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your actual self,
___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty. however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self that
___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some
get people to accept what I say. cases, born to have.
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The actual self and the ideal self are two broad
categories of self-concept. Self-concept refers to your 1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving
awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates a specific goal without being distracted by less important
these two selves. In other words, it connotes first the things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with
identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and the help of self-discipline exercise.
second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the
actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self. 2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal
development, as a result of getting aware of yourself, your
The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self- actions and their consequences. Self-confidence is
knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and
insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who physical condition. To develop it, you need to learn yourself
we actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look, and and your capabilities, gain a positive attitude and believe
act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we that by performing the right actions and achieving right
have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual goals you will certainly reach success.
self is our self-image.
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want regardless of emerging obstacles – problems, laziness,
to be. It is an idealized image that we have developed over bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of
time, based on what we have learned and experienced. overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed with the
The ideal self could include components of what our help of self-discipline exercise.
parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our
society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest. 4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in
daily life from the environment and other people. Stress
There is negotiation that exists between the two arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a
selves which is complex because there are numerous lack of information creates the risk of negative
exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency in the
exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are actively changing environment.
adjusted and readjusted, and are derived from outcomes
of social interactions from infant to adult development.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the
Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual self)
problems encountered with a lack of experience. It
is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal self), then
increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving
I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If
goals when obtaining a new experience.
the way that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the
incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence 6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to
between the ideal self and real self, the greater the level of carry out a specific action that no one has tried to use. It
resulting distress. Personal development modules ultimate can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually
aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher the speed of action is greatly increased when using
alignment between these two personality domains. creative tools.
Portfolio Output No. 1 – Talent 7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new,
1. Identify two (2) skills they already have and two (2) they original, unconventional ideas. Idea is a mental image of
want to develop. Write three (3) ways for them to improve an object formed by the human mind, which can be
on each of their identified skills. Write it in your journal changed before being implemented in the real world. For
notebook. generating ideas you can use a method of mental maps,
which allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all
Reading: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS your ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of
Personal effectiveness means making use of all new ideas. These are just some, but the most important
the personal resources – talents, skills, energy and time, to personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement
enable you to achieve life goals. of any goal easier and less costly.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself
impacts directly on your personal effectiveness. Being self-
aware, making the most of your strengths, learning new Activity: MY BANNER – THE TREASURE WITHIN ME
skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys
to improving your personal.
Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate
characteristics – talent and experience accumulated in the
process of personal development. Talents first are needed
to be identified and then developed to be used in a
particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics,
etc.).
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire
in the process of cognitive and practical activities.
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining
an action plan to achieve them and risk assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are
performed in accordance with the plan. If the same ability
is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes
a habit that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are
some skills that will greatly increase the efficiency of any In the spaces indicated by numbers, write down
person who owns them: the following (Copy the drawing in your journal
notebook)
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1 and 2 two things I do very well another way – but realize that they have no say in such
3 and 4 my two greatest achievements in life things.
5 what in myself am I proudest of
6 my happiest moment The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does
7 positive words that my friends use to describe me not only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she
8 a personal goal that I have already achieved actually creates the entire movie from her mind. She
9 three blessings for which I am most thankful to God determines what she will say, what she will do, and how
10 three of my positive qualities the movie will end. She realizes she has enormous
11 difficulties, challenges and problems that I was able control over her life, and sees to it that the movie of her
to solve and overcome life will turn out beautiful.
Who are you among these three people?
Do you merely watch your life go why?
Reading: BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK Or do you act out a script that you feel has been handed
ON YOUR WEAKNESSES to you?
Or do you write the script and make your life beautiful?
Most failures emanate from weaknesses that By the way, the Producer of the movie is God.
are not recognized or probably recognized but not given He tells you, “Make the movie beautiful, and I will give
appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a you all that you need for success.”
weakness in communications, personality or ability.
Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action.
“A pen is certainly is certainly an excellent instrument to
Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend
fix a man’s attention and inflame his ambition” – John
personality development sessions or whatever
Adams
appropriate remedies to your perceived weakness.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses,
Generalization:
recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them,
- What life lesson have you learned from this
utilize them to your greatest advantage. This is where
module? Write your answer in your journal
you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped
notebook.
people like Jose Feliciano and other blind singers did
not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized
References:
that they have a golden voice so they searched for ways
to enrich that talent and now they have won international - DepEd Central Office. First Edition, 2016
fame in the field of music. - Source: Roldan, Amelia S. (2003). On
Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on
Portfolio Output No. 2: Journal Reflection from My Personality Development and Character
Banner Building. AR Skills Development and
Write about your banner. Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque
1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities City, Metro Manila.
and talents? - Source:
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compensate for your weakness? concept-in-psychology-definition-lesson-
3. How can you further enrich your assets and quiz.html
strengths?
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4. Where and how do you use it to your best advantage?
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personal-effectiveness-skills/
There are three kinds of people in this world: - Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming
The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the a Winner: A Workbook on Personality
movie of their lives, admires some parts and criticizes Development and Character Building. AR Skills
others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she Development and Management Services
says the whole day is, “I like this thing but I don’t like that (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro Manila.
thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely no
control of their lives --- except to comment about it.
Moviegoers are the most pathetic, miserable people in
the world.
PREPARED BY: Maria Cristina A. Maynigo
The second is the Actor. This person does not Teacher III
only watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes
she’s the Actor – and can control a big part of her life.
She can actually make or break the movie – by how well
she delivers her lines and how she portrays her
character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing they’re
the start of the show and enjoy some level of control.
But many times, they wish the movie would end in
