StarChild Sept2008
StarChild Sept2008
    september 2008
“I get so mad at myself sometime
because I hear people say ‘oh I          The quotes on the left are from a friend and beloved
got big after I had a baby’ or ‘I        reader. I had no idea she felt like this. As we went
was on [medication]’. All I can do       back and forth, exchanging messages, e-mails,
is say ‘I'm fat because I ate, slept     empathy and tears, I was moved to a point where all
and became lazy’. I was
                                         I wanted to do was take away her pain. As bad as I
depressed about my weight and I
would diet and exercise but              wanted to hug her and tell her that she IS beautiful
results didn't come as fast as I         and that she IS a phenomenal woman and that her
wanted so I would get lazy again,        smile always makes me smile...I didn't. I knew the
eat and then gain more weight.”          wall of low self-esteem would not allow my
                                         compliments entry into her spirit. And how, you may
                                         ask, can I be so sure that she would not hear me?
                                         Simple. Because she and I are one and the same.
 “I don't want to meet anyone            (Consider this my confession. Consider this my redemption.)
 new. I don’t want to deal with
 guys period. I question why they
 like me, why would you want to          It doesn't matter if the whole world loves you, if the
 talk to me? There [are] so many         best man in the world loves you, if your children,
 other pretty, smaller girls out         family and friends love you... NONE of this matters if,
 there. And if I don't love myself
                                         at the core, you don't totally, 100% love yourself.
 how can I expect anyone else to
 love me? That's not only with           And while I can't expect to wave a magic wand, type
 guys but with my friends too. I         a few words and make everyone's (alleged)
 would look at my friends and…           inadequacies go away, I do expect to bring at least
 most of them are smaller than           one nugget, one iota of a piece of inspiration /
 me and I just be like why do I
                                         enlightenment / encouragement to help you on your
 have to be the big one with bad
 skin?”                                  journey to being all that God has destined you to be.
“Belief and confidence in yourself. Loving you for you. Being your own best friend.”
- Kimberly
“If you're comfortable in your own skin and understand the words from the
"Serenity Prayer” (my dad [instilled] this in my head growing up, and I still recite
it to this day) GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I
CANNOT CHANGE THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN AND
THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.” – Danyalle
P •h •o •t • o • g • r • a • p • h • y
   Tamecika Travalta
   Independent Beauty Consultant
   4699 NW 46th Avenue
   Ocala, FL 34482
   734.730.4049 Cell Phone
   [email protected]
   www.marykay.com/tamecika_travalta
Part I - SUCCULENT SEPTEMBER
                                                               H.A.P.P.Y. Quick Tips
“ANALYZE THIS”                                                         by 1st Lady Gadget
by 1st Lady Gadget
                                                        Dress Seductively, Be Flirtatious, Illuminate yourself,
                                                     Live in the moment, Touch & Pleasure yourself, try Aural
                                                          Aphrodisiacs & an Intimate Shave…you’ll love the
                                                           coolness & the great Finale of the adventure…
Let’s journey back in time before the hymen wall
was torn down by a few what’s his names. Clear your
mind & ease back into your elementary classroom to
the scene of the famous note passed around
class……..Do you like me? Check YES or NO? This                                                  “Most people are
is where it all began.                                                                        about as happy as
                                                                                              they make up their
Those of us who haven’t experienced low self-esteem                                               minds to be.”
can’t truthfully say we know what individuals with low                                         - Abraham Lincoln
self-esteem are going through; such as the
uncertainty, the pain or the aggravation. Self-respect
is confidence in your own merit as an individual
person. Self-esteem is “how much a person likes,
accepts, and respects himself overall as a person”. A
wise person once said: “The difference between the
impossible & the possible lies in a person’s
determination.”
Analyze yourself.
The first step, at the very least is to write down your
strengths & weaknesses. Do you feel powerless? Do
you feel that others don’t value you? Are you easily
influenced by others? Do you become defensive and
easily frustrated & blame others for your own
shortcomings? Do you act independently? Assume                               My Pick for Self Esteem
responsibility? Are you proud of your
accomplishments? Do you approach new challenges                                song of the month:
with enthusiasm? Do you tolerate frustration well?                     Fine by Mary J. Blige
Are you capable of influencing others? Do you prefer
the lights off? Are you comfortable in the skin you are
in? Do you settle for less?                                     “I like what I see when I’m looking
Whether you realize it or not, inner beauty radiates
                                                                 at me-When I’m walking past the
outward. When you feel good about yourself, your                mirror-No stress through the night,
lover will feel good about you, too. Take this                    at a time in my life-Ain’t worried
opportunity to make a fresh start to reveal your full
power & revel in it! Sexy is as Sexy does! Start                about if you feel it-Got my head on
today by attending my Succulent Soiree on                       straight, I got my mind right -I aint
September 28th. Cum let me help you “UnLeash
Your Inner Being!” For more details please visit
                                                                  gonna let you kill it-Aint worried
www.HouseofTrueBlue.com or call 877-69-PLZ-ME.                    about you and what you gonna
                                                                     do-I’m a lady so I must stay
Stay tuned for next months segment………….                          classy-Got to keep it hot, keep it
                Part II -Oralicious October
              “Cumming Out of your Shell”
                                                                 together-If I want to get better…
                     SAVE THE DATE:
                                                                See I wouldn’t change my life, my
        10/31 What’s your FETISH costume party.                           life’s just…..FINE”
A is for Aleeyah, who wears thick garish make-up to (try) and cover up imperfect skin.
B is for Bianca, the half black/half Latina living in a black neighborhood, who all the guys want to impregnate because
she got that good hair.
C is for Constance who met her last 4 dates from off the Internet.
D is for Constance’s friend, Dartrell, who is pregnant by a guy she met on MySpace.
E is for Ebonique, who has 4 children all with different daddies, and has never been married.
F is for Falani who turns her nose up at Ebonique. Falani also has 4 children...all by the same man…who just recently
divorced her.
G is for Gina, the peroxide blond, blue contact wearing, Chinese girl who was adopted by a white family and never truly
fit in…
H is for Heaven, who knows she has low self-esteem, admits it, and learns to work around it in creative ways
I is for Idris (formerly known as Ieesha), who after a failed marriage and a couple of kids “realized” she was homosexual.
J is for Jamie, who, everytime she enters into a conversation, she somehow manages to draw the conversation back to
herself.
K is for Kendreea, who tries to hide her low self-esteem beneath an off-putting personality designed to keep people at
bay, lest they be exposed to her softer side.
M is for Marcia, who continues to relax her hair despite the damaging effects.
N is for Nakee, who can only nervously at best look another person directly in the eye.
O is for Olanda, who stays with the man who verbally and physically abuses her.
P is for Paige, who overspends on her child to perpetrate the notion that they are well off.
Q is for the Queen Mother who always comes through when Paige overspends on her child, under the guise that she is
being a good mother and not an enabler.
T is for Terris, who’s motivation is to make her parents love her as much as her more successful sibling.
U is for Uvi, who contracted AIDS because she was afraid to tell a man to wear a condom.
V is for Vonde, who was sexually molested as a child by someone she knew and trusted.
X is for Xi, the creative soul who uses her poetry and songs to mask the true depth of her pain.
Y is for Yondola of Yondola and Yuliisa. Yuliisa is the pretty twin, Yondola though, not so much.
Z is for Zyon, who laughed when most of the above women reminded her of people she knew…but saw herself in none.
                                                                                                                    B.da © 2007
Study Links Bipolar Disorder                                                cut & pasted
     with Older Fathers
                By L. TANNER
According to one of the largest studies linking mental         No Longer Just an Excuse…
illness with advanced paternal age, children born to
older fathers face a greater chance of developing
bipolar disorder.                                                How to Tell if You are
Previous research has connected schizophrenia and
                                                                   Truly Big-Boned
autism with older dads, and a Danish study published         It’s common knowledge that body-
last year added bipolar disorder to the list. The new
study, conducted in Sweden, strengthens the evidence.
                                                             frame sizes differ, but big or
The leading theory is that older men's sperm may be          heavier skeletons don’t make their
more likely to develop mutations.                            owners overweight or even appear
                                                             that way. If you’re fed up with
Researchers analyzed Swedish national registry data
from more than 80,000 people, including 13,428 with          using big bones as an excuse and
bipolar disorder. The risks started increasing for           want to know, seriously, what type
father’s around age 40 but were strongest among those        of body frame you have, there is a
55 and older. Children born to these dads were 37
percent more likely to develop bipolar disorder than         way to tell if you indeed have “big
those born to men in their 20s. The age of the mothers       bones”. Here’s how:
didn't appear to be much of a factor.
                                                             Have someone else – not you –
Bipolar disorder causes dramatic mood swings, from           measure your wrist with a cloth
deep depression to manic highs. It affects more than 5
million Americans. Lifetime risks for it have been
                                                             tape measure. At this spot on your
estimated at roughly 1 percent to 4 percent.                 frame, muscles and fat won’t
                                                             interfere.
The findings "reinforce the notion that there's a strong
biological component to [bipolar disorder]," said Dr.        If you are a man taller than 5 feet
Harold Pincus, vice chair of psychiatry at Columbia          5, and your wrist measures more
University. And although the results aren't definitive, if
the link does prove to be real, Pincus noted that still      than 7.5 inches, you have big
means most people with older fathers won't ever get          bones. For women taller than 5
bipolar disorder.                                            feet 5, the figure is 6.5 inches.
“The study results shouldn't discourage older men from       Women between 5 feet 2 and 5
fathering children,” said Emma Frans, the lead author.       feet 5 have big bones if their wrists
She said the results suggest that similar mechanisms         measure more than 6.25 inches.
might contribute to risks for bipolar disorder,
schizophrenia and autism. Each of these disorders is
                                                             For women less than 5 feet 2, that
thought to have many causes including biologic and           figure is 5.75 inches.
outside factors.
                                                             If you try this, e-mail us at
                                                             [email protected] and let us
                                                             know how you ‘measured up’. ☺
                                                                A computer
                                                              generated photo
                                                              of what Michael
                       Halle Berry’s daughter, Nahla           Jackson might
                                                              have looked like
                                                                  today…
J.Hud
I'd be lying if I said that my eating habits have always been the       To: My Child
best. They haven't. But I'd also be lying not to throw in that I
have been on steroid-ish medication and have also had a baby. I         From: Your Mom
think all three of these are factors that have landed me here.
                                                                        RE: The Carnival
For 3 years I was in a weight loss program that would eventually
allow me to be approved for surgery. However, the ironic thing
is that the the program required me to lose weight BEFORE               I told you that mommy didn't have
getting the surgery. (Duh! If I could successfully do that, do ya'
think I'd be campaigning to be operated on? Not!)                       tickets to ride on the rides with you.
I've told a few close friends and family about my procedure. 97%        The truth was that I was afraid I
have been EXTREMELY supportive. The 3% who refuse to see
the validity in what I am about to do trip me out. They tell me
                                                                        wouldn't fit.
things like: "all you have to do is work out and eat right" or
“you’re doing it the easy way” or "you should do it the natural
way" or "that's so vain of you to do something like that. It's          Next year though? IT'S ON!
cosmetic surgery". The only reason their comments didn't phase
me much is because NONE of the people who are saying this
have EVER been overweight a DAY in their life so they can't
even BEGIN to fathom the bullsh*t which is obesity.
Trust me. I hate that it had to come to this... that I'm so d*mn fat
I need to have surgery to get myself together. But you know
what? In my book, the end justifies the means. I compare this
procedure to bankruptcy, for real.... it's a legal and ethical way to
begin to wipe the slate clean from mistakes and missteps I took in
the past. Only difference is we’re talking weight instead of
money. Some people go through a bankruptcy, only to have to
file again later in life for making the same bad choices. And from
what I hear there are people who have had this surgery and
STILL wind up right back in obesity-ville.
-FREE © 2008
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  The more you can boost your self esteem, the greater your chances are of achieving success.
Using self esteem quotes as well as engaging in other self esteem activities will help you to become
              more of who you truly are. With that being said, here is your homework:
          To wish you were                            "I never loved another              The way you treat
          someone else, is to waste                   person the way I loved              yourself sets the
          the person you are.                         myself."                            standard for others.
          Anonymous                                   Mae West                            Dr Sonya Friedman
          Never be bullied into silence. Never        Aerodynamically the bumblebee       Instead of thinking about
          allow yourself to be made a                 shouldn't be able to fly, but the   what you're missing, try
          victim. Accept no one's definition          bumblebee doesn't know that so it
                                                                                          thinking about what you have
          of your life; define yourself.              goes on flying anyway.
                                                                                          that everyone else is missing.
          Harvey Fienstein                            Mary Kay Ash
                                                                                          Anonymous
          Even if you haven’t encountered great       You don't have to be                Attempt easy tasks as if they
          success yet, there is no reason you can’t                                       were difficult, and difficult as
          bluff a little and act like you have.       great to start, but you             if they were easy; in the one case
          Confidence is a magnet in the best sense
          of the word. It will draw people to you     have to start to be great.          that confidence may not fall
          and make your daily life.. and theirs.. a                                       asleep, in the other that it may
          lot more pleasant. Donald Trump             Zig Ziglar                          not be dismayed.
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To: Whom it May Concern
              As I sit and think of all I want to say, I hope it doesn’t come off as me
complaining in any kind of way. Because it’s not your fault you see. I’m this way
because of ME. They say if God wanted us to all look the same, the world as we know
it would be so lame. And that may be the case indeed, but why oh why God did it have
to be me?
               I know you’re wondering what could it be, for me to be asking God why
me. Am I sick, on my deathbed, did God just take away my one and only friend? In a
sense that all may be true. You see, I lost ME and I’m sad and blue.
                You can say it’s okay to be big today in the USA. But since I’m one that
is not quite fit, I know that’s a bunch of bullsh*t! Everywhere you turn there’s another
lesson to learn about how to stay fit so you can be a hit. Or what about that group of
snickering chicks because my clothes don’t say Ms. It? What about the guy who says
his love’s true? I question is there an ulterior motive… I wish I knew. Does he love me
for me or because he wants to try a big girl which, to him, is something new?
             Then underlies the jealousy in me, ‘cause my friends are a lot smaller than
me and all you can say to me is you’re big but you’re very pretty. That right there
messes with my mentality.
              I walk around with a charade on my face but deep inside I’m praying to
God to take the weight away. It’s not as easy as it may seem, dieting and exercising and
no pounds off. That right there plays with your heart. You tried and tried but to no
avail; now you’re defeated and back at start. So go ahead and call me lazy, so be it, but
then again how dare you sit and ridicule me. You feel I took the easy way out by having
that surgery. Although you see what the weight has done to me physically, I can’t begin
to explain how messed up I am emotionally.
               When I look at me I see that which definitely say’s ugly. My family and
friends try to encourage me but I’m just a big girl that happens to be pretty. I don’t
want to hear ‘even though you’re big you have a pretty face’ cause in my book that’s
more of a disgrace. My sister is smaller than me, but no one ever says to her you’re
pretty to be skinny.
               So I’ll leave you with this, consider it my ending; I may be pretty but in
this society no matter what you say my weight will always define me.
                                           Sincerely,
                                           A Big Girl, Pretty Face
To All My Full Figured Sistas:
                       Sistas:
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 Is Your Hut on Fire?
     The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small,
  uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him,
and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed
  forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little
  hut out of driftwood to protect himself from the elements, and to
   store his few possessions. But then one day, after scavenging
for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke
   rolling up to the sky. The worst had happened - everything was
 lost. He was stunned with grief and anger. "God, how could you
    do this to me?" he cried. Early the next day, however, he was
      awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the
     island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was
              here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers.
Slice the Zucchini and Summer Squash lengthwise and grill on the BBQ or George Foreman
grill. Set aside.
Put meat into frying pan and cook for 2 minutes, or until most of the meat is brown. Add
onion and garlic and cook until meat is no longer pink. Add 1 cup of marinara/spaghetti sauce
and warm through. Set aside.
Mix ricotta, 1 egg, parsley, and Italian seasoning together. Set aside.
Layer 1/2 zucchini and squash into baking dish. Spoon 1/2 of meat mixture next, spreading
evenly over the zucchini. Pour 1 cup of marinara/spaghetti sauce over meat (this makes it
really saucy!). Spoon 1/2 Ricotta mixture on top. Sprinkle 1/2 the Italian Blend Cheese.
Repeat. Bake for 55 minutes at 350 degrees.
DIRECTIONS:
Pour powdered gelatin into mixing bowl
Pour ½ cup boiling water slowly into bowl with gelatin, stirring slowly as you pour
Stir until the gelatin is pretty well dissolved
Stir ½ cup of ice-cold water into the bowl, stirring some more
Pour liquor into mixture, stirring as you pour
Set out shot glasses on a tray, baking dish or large plate
Pour the jello mixture into the shot glasses and then place in the fridge to chill for
about an hour*
Serve and enjoy!
*If time is of the essence and you can’t wait an hour, shots may be placed in the
freezer for approximately 10-15 minutes
                                                        Frozen Cherricane
                                                        2 cups SKYY Infusions Cherry Vodka
                                                        1 cup of Midori
                                                        1 can of frozen orange juice
                                                        1/2 can of frozen pineapple juice
                                                        2 cups of cranberry juice
                                                        2 scoops of ice cubes
                                                        Toothpicks (optional)
                                                        Maraschino Cherries (optional)
                                                        Load all ingredients into blender, starting with ice cubes first.
                                                        Blend until all ingredients are mixed and crushed and have a slushy
                                                        consistency.
                                                        Pour into glass and garnish with 2 cherries on a toothpick (placed
                                                        on the rim)
                                                        Serve and enjoy!
 His hello was the end of her endings,
Her laugh was their first step down the aisle.
 His hand would be hers to hold forever,
 His forever was as simple as her smile.
     He said she was what was missing.
       She said she instantly knew.
     She was a question to be answered.
      And his answer was “I do.”
                  - S.A.T.C.
         P•h•o•t•o•g•r•a•p•h•y
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