Shee in 4} , F =F q ay zi31 DEADLY THINGS SINGLES MUST NEVER DO By Bisi Adewale Published by: LIVING HOME FOUNDATION wrwwfamilyboostercom, Te: +234- 8056497013; 08051912823, 08098312004, (@Bisi Adewale 2004 All rights reserved, No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitied tn any form or by any means without the written permission of the publisier. FIRST WORD Beloved, ‘There was this story was told when wasin Secondary School. I want you to learn from itLong time ago in a village, there was this river where women were forbidden to bath or swim, Every woman knew this and dared not go there for any reason. But in this village lived Ruka, a stubborn young lady, who did not see any reason why she cannct go to a river because of one ‘stupid taboo’ Sne made up her mind togoto the river and see what is being hidden from women, By this she wanted to become the first woman to visit the river ‘One sunny afternoon, she found her way to the river On getting there; she looked around but did not ses anything unusual $0, she decided to take her bath, She un- dressed, nung her clothes on a stall nearby tree, jumped intothe river, tookher bath and came bark to put on her dress, On getting to the tse she discovered the emall tree that ‘was about two feet high was now about 26 feet high. The more she triad to use some- thing to get her clothes, the more the tree grew taller. That means she hac to walk to the village naked, which is a taboo. Anybody that docs so or use leaves to cover herself will go mad. After several unsuccessful at. tempts, she walked back naked to the village and ran mad. Like Ruka, many singles have fallen into er- rors today either due to ignorance or stub- bormmess. This book is to open your eyes to some spirit rivers’ which you must not visit to avoid the bitterness of your actions, Read this book prayerfully, yeu will have a very gpod story to tell. This book will give yousome instructions. Please don't fail to yield to these divine warnings. The Lord be with you! Table of Contents psrunen SEVER LIVE Wirour cums NEVER MAVE A zE0 THINKING NEVERIAVE A PELEVISION WITHOUT VISION NEVER HAVE A LOCK IN THINKING NEVER A STINGING THINKING (NEVER HAVE A EAST LANE MARRIAGE NEVER MABRY FOR THLE WONG REASON NEVER MARRY OUTSDE THE WILLOF ca. NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY YOUDO NOT LOVE 8 FRIL-TO HAVE A PURE COURTSHIP NEVER SEND (NEVER EALL YO ATED INVENDIN COUPLES CLASS [NEVER GO INTO 2LARRIAGE WITHOUT PREEARATION NEVER ALLCW WEDDING BILL TO DESTROY YOUR WEDDING GEL NEVER DRESELIRE AN IARLOT NEVERENGAGEINROCMSERVICE UR HONEY OUI OF THE NOON NEVER F08saRe QUITE TIE NEVER :ALL TO LAUOUE WITH YOUR HANDSNEVER PITCHTYOUR TENT AGAINST GOD NEVER IAILTO READ BOOKS (NEVER SAIL TOPUT YOURSELF IN“GEAR FORCE’ {VER PAIL TO HAVE A FOC [NEVER FAIL TO UPDATE VOURSELE 15" THING NEVER LIVE WITHOUT CHRIST ‘TRUE TALK: If you can afford to avoid Christ you cannot avoid crisis, Greatness without Christis a disgrace in disguise GOD'S WORD: “Blessed is the nation, whose God is the Lord, the people He has chosen as His own inheritance”, Psalm 33:12. ‘The worst thing any single can do is to live without acknowledging Christ as his her saviour. Living without accepting Jesus Christ e8 your Lord and personal saviour is as dangerous as sleeping in the same room with 2 wounded cobra. Don't do it. Dor’t fail to give your totality to Cod. Don’t fail to surrender your all to Him.Don't fail to give your heart to Him. Don't fail togive your heart to Him. You have noth- ing to lose by accepting Jesus. Come to Him, Don't make the mistake of pitching your tent against God, You mey not live to repent from it. Uf you have not given your life to Christ, this isthe right time to do it. Say this prayer sincerely: “Lord Jesus,1 want you in my life 1am a sin- nner, have mercy on me and forgive my inig- ities, cleanse me with your precious blood. 1 aceept youas my Lord and savior, Thank you Jesus for saving me” You aze now born again. Attend a Bible be- lieving church closestto you, ‘NEVER LIVE WITHOUT CHRIST 2% THING NEVER HAVE A ZERO THINKING True Talk: If you are not thinking, you are sinking God's Word: “I wil stand my watch and set myself on the rampant and watch to see what He will say to me and what I willanswer when Tam corrected." (Habakkuk 2:1) You have vero thinking if you are the lype that doeen't normally engage in mental, con. structive thinking. Many engaged in their minds in worrying, fretting, fearing, lusting, etc; thereby poisoning the source of their strength, They do not make the mind ofsweat to give them the ‘sweet’ they desires (Pro, 4:23). Ifyoware not thinking you are sinking Give your mind no rest. Stir it up. Shake it. Let it harbour for your favour. Make your world what it should be by putting your heart to work. Nobody can think for you. Think! Give your- self tife. employ your brain. ‘NEVER HAVE AZERO THINKING 3° THING NEVER HAVE A TELEVISION WITHOUT VISION ‘True Talk:1f youdo not have 2 goal, you will live like a goat. Godl’s Word: “Where there is no vision the peo- ple perish but happy is he whe keeps the law”. (Prov. 29:18). Most singles can spend 16 hours daily on television and home videos. No time to think, No time topray. No time to create a vi- sion for themselves, That is the reason why 1 said most singles have television without Ack most single: “What is your vision?" ‘You will be surprised that more than 80% of them have none. It is fearful to knowthat we are surrounded by a bunch of vi- sionless, purposeless and, aimless set of people. A generation that is coming from nowhere, fmrrowing without any destina- tion in mind. Get up. Get a vision. Your vision is your life. ‘Your success is totally based on your vision. ‘Aman of vision has laid a solid foundation for distinction. without a vision, you arenot safe, friend. Your future is doomed until you have it. Wake up. Dosomething Get a vision, ‘worldit out and wallsinto a brighter future, (Please get » copy of my book. 22 Pillars of Success, for more on this). NEVER HAVE A TELEVISION WITHOUT A VISION 4™" THING NEVER HAVE A LOCK-IN-THINKING ‘True Talls If you lock your heart to new ideas, you have made yourself a new failure on earth. God's word: “But Jesus looked at chem and said to theme ‘with this is impossible, but with God al! things are possible. For with Gad nothing will be tmposstbte” (Math. 19:26) AF you must make it to the top, then avoid Jock-in-thinking as much as possible, Leck- in-thinking is believing thet things connot bbe betler or eannol be done in a betler way. “Since nobody is rich in my family nobodycan be rich’.Since nobody has never done it, itcan’t be done’, many would sey Lock-in-thinking is the invention of the word. “Impossible”, A lock-in-thinker is good student of history. He tells you more than hundred people that failed to make it and bases his judgment on that. His slogan is, "IF nobody has not, nobedy can” Lock-in-thinking is the main reason why Afsica remains in abject poverty. It is the arch enemy of invention. It explains why black men have remained imitators and not inventors. Tt explains cur limitations be cause imitation is limitation. Get fresh idea, Open your mind to new possibilities. It is possible if you say “I can” (Luke1:45) NEVER HAVE A LOCK-IN-THINKING 5™ THING NEVER HAVE A STINKING THINKING ‘True Talk: If you are lustful, you are “Lost full” God's Word: “The righteousness of the up- ight will deliver them, but the unfaithful wit! be coughe in their lust. (Proverbs 11:6) ‘What I call stinking thinking is what is knowa as LUST. That is giving yourself to mediating on past or perceived sexual im- moralities, Some youth x-ray opposite sex in the laboratory of their hearts and “sleep” with them, Itis dirty. Itis demonic, Bat mil-lions of youth arc just doing it. It makes one unacceptable to God. It brings you into log- gethead with Him, Tt destroys the purpose of God for one’s life and opens you up for the attack of the devil, Tt cerredes your bones, destroys your strength and makes you an enemy of the blessed Holy Spirit. Lust makes ane busy doing nothing. It makes one to be a foot mat of the devil. Do not waste your beautiful ive, stop that stink- ing thinking. Are youunder its yoke? Do you really desire to be free from it? If yes, get acopy of my book SINGLES, SEW AND PU RITY, NEVER HAVE A STINKING THINKING 6™ THING ‘NEVER HAVE AN UNHOLY ALLIANCE True Talk: If you marry an unbeliever, Satan will automatically become your fa- ther-in-law. Godl's Word: “Therefore take heed to yourself, that you love the Lord your God. Or else, if in- deed you do go back and cling to the remains among you, and make marriage with them, and go into them ard they to you. Knew cer- tainly that the Lord will no longer drive out these nations from before you. But they shat! be snares and traps to you and scourges onyour sides and thorns in your eyes until you perish from this good land which the Lord ‘your God has given you" (Joshua 23:11-13) Do not make the devil your father-in-law. Never mary an unbeliever. It is more dan gerous than your ever imagine. Do not em- barrass God by marzying people that do not believe Him as He is. Any relationship with unbeliever is an unholy alliance, Do not go intoit, An unbeliever will bea snare and trap to you. They will be scourges on your sides and thorns in your eyes Never marry an unbeliever with the inten tion of converting him/her to Ged. It is only the Holy Spirit that converts, [n fact, you are likely to lose your salvation if you marry any one of them. (Deut. 7:2-5) Donot make the mistake of mazzyinga Mus Tim, Ifa/Gurumaharaji worshipper, ete. it is against the will of God 7" THING ‘NEVER ENGAGE IN A DRY RELATIONSHIP ‘True Talk: Those that are in love are those that are in the Lord God's Word: “He brought me to the banguet- ing house and his banner over me is love, sus- tain me with onkes of raisings, refresh me with apples, for I am tove sick” .(SOS. 2:4-5) A dry relationship between two people that are not in love but, for one reason or the other, they still plan to get marsied.Love is the foundation of a successful home. ‘When you discover youand your partner are not in love, do not pretend, Do not say, “We hhave gone too far," we must get married whether there ie genuine or counterfeit love. If you éo, you will live to regret it. You will forever blame yourself for it. Stop that dry relationship, Never allow it to lead to mar- riage. It is dangerous for your colouzful des- ‘ny. I will surely dry your beautiful life. NEVER ENGAGE IN A DRY RELATIONSHIP 8™ THING NEVER HAVE A FAST LANE MARRIAGE ‘True Tall: Those who rush into marriage are boundto be crushed. God's Word: “ To everything theres a sea- som, a thme for every purpose under heav- en” (Eccl. 3:1" For every matter there is a time or judgmen t”. (ecl. 8:6) Fast lane marriage is the one you enter hur- viedly without adequate preparation, Tf you nash into marriage, youcan not rush out but maybe crushed, Do not rush into matriage because all your mates are already marzied, You may live to vegretit. 1 min left in chapear 2006You need to got to know your intending spouse very well before you say." Yes I do” Be very sure that he is of good character. Be surethat heinspires your submission before you go for him, Cheek and be sure that he honours, loves and respects you before giv- ing your hand to him. Fast lane marriage may lead to fast heart- break and fast death. wait patiently. Look before youleap. Never go into an unknown river head first, as you may end up becoming an eye opencr to other potential swimmers. NEVER GET MARRIED INA HURRY 9™ THING NEVER MARRY FOR THE WRONG REASON ‘True Talk: Beauty may turn to pity, fame may turn to shame. President of the fellow- ship may net be a resident of heaven. Great- ness may turn to disgrace and lead to the rave, Never marty for weong reasons, God's Word: “Through wisdom a house is built and by understanding it is estab- ished, by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. ” (Proverbs 243-4) ‘Why are you going into that marriage? 1s it to escape from your difficult parents? To prove to the whole world that you have samebody that cares for you? Ta shaw your 1 min left in chapear aan.enemies who say nobody will marry you? To get somebody that will be focting your ills? To get unhindered access to sex? To have your own babies? To tackle loneliness? ‘To have a man to call your own? Te enhance your status and political fortune? To be able to travel abroad? To compensate a good friend? Gr is itto fill the vacuum created by a lover that jilted you? If any of these is the reason why you are getting married, then you are marrying for the wrong reasons ‘Marziageis not just for financial gain orbaby making, but for companionship, love, agree ment, togetherness, sacrifice, vice, submission, covenant and procreation. Marriage is permanent, Once you are in it you must remain in it till death does you apart, Therefore, you must be very careful when going into it. Go into it for the right NEVER MARRY FOR THE WRONG REASON 10™ THING NEVER MARRY OUTSIDE THE WILLOFGOD ‘True Talk: The will of Ged will not take you taaplace where the grace of God will not be sufficient for you. God’ s Word: “ If the foundation be destroyed ‘whatt can the righteous do”. (Psalm 11:3) God ’s direction is number one of the Lire major requirements for instituting godly home. You must listen to God. You must rea- son with Him. Let him direct you. Let Him 1 min left in chapesr 25%ead you, Sceure the voice of Ged before you say “Yes I do”, As many as are being led by the spirit of God are the sons of God” (Rom. 8:14) Tf God ie not leading you, you are walking dangerously. When He leads you then you will get His favour “ He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains a favour of, the Lord” (Proverb 18:22). ‘Those that wait upon the Lord cannot be- If you follow divine instruc- ton, it will lead to distinction, God knows you, He knows what the best is for you and eis ready to give it to you if you can justlis- ten to Him and obey His voice. ‘The will of God cannot take you to a place where the grace of God will not be suffi- cient for you. NEVER MARRY OUTSIDE THE WILL OF cop 117" THING NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY YOU DO NOT LOVE ‘True Talle:If you marry somebody you ean- not celebrate, you will spend the rest of your life tolerating, God's Word : “If you are wise, you are wise for yourself and if you scorn you wilt bear it ‘alone.” (Proverb 9:12) 1 min left in chapear zene‘The second most important consideration after the voice of God is love, Marry only the person you love, Love is the bedrock of a home thet will not hit the rock Do not do what you may live to regret forthe rest of your life. Never marry anybody you do not love for any reason. A loveless mar- riage is worse than a life-long of single- hood. Remember you will live the rest of your life with this person. You will see him/her day and night. You will Ekely have a baby that will leak exactly like him/her. A carbon copy of somebody you do not love will have to sit on your lap for years or even suck your breast, Do not pretend. Never allow a love- less relationship to lead to marriage ‘You may ask, "Whatof iff feel Ged is leading me but I do not love him/her?” t will like you to check your so-called God!’ s direction. You may be wrong, And if you are right, then ‘open your mind. Destroy the image of your dream husband/wife that does not allow ‘you to be in love with God’ s choice for you Destroy that idol and youwill seethe flood of love filling your heart, At times, the present status of the person may be the reason why you do not love him/ her. Let me tell you this: His present position isnot his future, He isin transition goingtoa glorious destination, Be very sure you are in ove before you say “ Yes Ido” NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY YOU DO NOT LOVE 2 mine left in chapter 20812°* THING NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY THAT DOES NOT LOVE YOU ‘True Talk: 1 yournsrry onybody that donot Tove you for any season, it is like drinking poison because of svreet words God's Word: “ fron sharpens iron so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend’. (Proverbs 27:4) Before you go into any marriage, check eare- fally whether the person you want to marcy istruly in love with you. A man that doesnot love yon at the pesk of your beanty will not hesitate to beat you up when the beauty de- teriorates after child bearing, when your fig, ure 8 becomes figure 96 in pregnancy, when your ‘slim-to-march” turns to “mama-me”, “fleshy kit” some years te come. Never make the mistake of marrying some one that does natlove you, “ How ean know amanora lady that loves me?” you may ask. ‘You can know whether somebody loves you or not the way he handles you, your beliefs, opinions, joy or sadness, vision and aspira- tons. Someone that is not proud to introduce you to friends and family members is not in love with you. Somebody that is not faithful to you is not in love with you. Somebody that donot trust you is far from loving you. A per- son that does not respect your opinion for anything cannot be seid tobe your lover. 1 min left in chapear 21%Open your eyes widely. Go for real love! Go for true love, Never marzy anybody base on lust or infatuation, as you are likely to regret it For mors information on how to know whether somebody truly loves you, I advise you get copies of my books, 32 WAYS TO KNOW TRUE LOVE AND PURE GOLD. NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY THAT DOES NOT LOVE YOU 13°* THING NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY THAT IS NOT OF AGOOD CHARACTERS ‘True Talk: A man without cheracter is like a aleeping wild dog. It will scon wake up to bark and Lo bile, Avoid hien. God's Word: "The righteousness should choose his friends carefully for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26. 1 min left in chapear aanOpen your cyes widely. Check the character of the person you intend to marry. If the person is not of good character it will be in your own interest to avoid the person. A persen that is lagy, stingy, Lossy, lustful, stubborn, extravagant; anybody with uncon- trolled anger that keeps malice is akways moody; tell lies; smokes; drinks; woman- izes, keeps bad company, takes drugs; night crawls; etc, 1s notof good character. Never expect a stingy bachelor to become a generous husband or a stubbom spinster to become an obedient, meek and submissive wife ‘Marriage don 't naturally change people. We need tobe wise. Don't hall e guy thatsinglehandedly beau up a bus conducicr in your defense, 1 will be your turn to “ enjoy" his boxing feat when you get married. A man that dicobeys his pastor and parents is not likely to listen to you. A man abuses his parents in your pres- ence will eter beat you befoze everyone. Aman that wants you to prove your love for him by having sexisa sex hunter, not a lover ‘Aman that discourages you frem meeting the macriage committee of your church is not thereal man. A lazy man or lacy will be the route for a poverty ridden life, He/she will be an open door fora life of want and penury, Open your eyes ‘When God opens your eyes to all these, be wiseto obey him, When you marry an angry 2 mine left in chapter ave‘man or woman, it may send you to an carly grave, Please be wise! NEVER MARRY SOMEBODY THAT IS NOT OF A GOOD CHARACTER 147° THING NEVER MARRY A STRANGER ‘True Talk: When youmarry a total stranger, hhe will give you a total danger. If youmnarry unknown person, he will give you a known trouble. God's word :" Take a garment of one who is surety for a stranger and hold it as a pledge when itis for a seductress "( Proverbs 20:16) ‘A stranger is a danger. Never marty some- body you don’t know. Take your time to Know the person you want to marry. Pray, ask questions. Let your pastor or marriage counselor investigates him/her. It ic for your ‘own goad. 1 min left in chapear aneA deacon in the chureh may be a dragon at home, A president of the fellowship may not be a cesident of heaven, That dedicated worker in the church mey be a dedicated worker of iniquity, That quiet singer may be a quite serpent. Watch out! Pray. Be patient. Open your eyes, lest you marry 2 saintly prostitute or 2 tongue- speaking, home box- ing champion. ‘Visit him/her at home, Be observant, Check the way people relate with him. Ask ques- tion, Do not hide your feelings. Do not go for the so-called love at fret sight. It is all a ruse. There is nothing like that. Last can come at first sight, not true love. ‘You cant love somebedy you don’t know. Donot plunger yourself into external pool of trouble, Relax. Be sincere with yourself, Lise ten to God, your counselor or even people around you, Make sure youhave at least nine months of courtship and pray seriously for the Lord to expose your partner toyou, NEVER MARKY A STRANGER 157* THING NEVER MARRY WITHOUT PRAYING True Talk: Pray while we pray and work while we work. To be joyfitl and comfortable, this is way. God’ s Word: “Ask, and it will be given to you, seek and you will find Rnock and it wilt be opened to you” { Mathew 7:7) 1 min left in chapear soneNever make a choice on how to live your life without consulting God, Pray. Please pray se- riously before you choose a life partner. Pray ‘when you are in courtship. Pray as you pre- parefor wedding, It takes people that pray to bring divine rain, It takes people that labour on their Imecs to got divine favour. It takes poople that seek and find the face of God to get to another beautiful phase of life. Commit your ways into the hands of the Lord, Entrust your destiny ints His hands Keis able to give youthe desire of your heart, Bs. 37: NEVER MARRY WITHOUT PRAYING 16"" THING NEVER FAIL TO HAVE A PURE COURTSHIP ‘True Talk: When the foundation of a hause is not well laid, its destruction is well pre- pared God's Word: The preparation of the heart be- longs to man but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord, (Proverbs 16:1) Courtship is the period hetween the time a lacy agrees to marsy a man and the time they eventually get married, itis a very im- 1 min left in chapear Laneportant period, which no single should over- look, Courtship period is the time of azzee- ment, discussion, discovery, purity, assess- ment, learning, goal harmonization, pre- marital counseling, and openness, Waiting, praying, planning and preparation for both ‘wedding and marriage. Most singles don’t see anything serious in courtship. Some do not know what it entails or see any reason fori. They do not know that courtship is the foundation of a good home. Do not rush into marriage. Have at least nine months of courtship. Lay a solid foundation for your home. Get to know the person you want to marry before following him/her to the altar. At is not @ period for intercourse, Kissing, hugging or co-habitation, It should be a pe- riod for purity, holiness, righteousness and the fear of the Lord. It isa period to tell God whether He is veleomeor not in your future home NEVER FAIL TO HAVE A PURE COURTSHIP 17" THING NEVER SEND YOUR HONEY OUT OF THE MCON ‘True Talk: When sex comes before mar- riage, it damages matrimony. 1 min left in chapear sensGod's Word: * Marriage is honorable among Gil and bed undefiled, but fornicator and adulterers God willjadge”. (Heb.13:4) Newly married couples often separate two weeks er more to be together for rest, dis cussions, prayer, reflection and sexual inter- It is an enjoyable period for newly mar- ried couples, especially if they have not defiled themselves before wedding. One of the greatest mistakes intending couples can maker isto allow honey togo out of themeoon. ‘That is, destroying their honey meon by in dulging in pre-marital sex. When you allow your courtship to be pure, you ate doing yourself a lot of good. Be determined to have @ pure courtship. Never make the mistake of beaming preg- nant before wedding. Allow your wedding to be honorable with the bed undefiled. NEVER SEND YOUR HONEY OUT OF THE MOON 18"! THING NEVER FAIL TO ATTEND INTENDING COUPLES CLASS (Pre-marital Counselling) 1 min left in chapear sane‘True Talk: What you know is what will make you known God's word: "Through wisdom a house is init, by understanding it is established, by Imowledge the room is filled with all precious and Pleasant riches. A wise man is strong, yea, aman of knowledge increases strength ” (Prov. 24:3-5) knowledge is power. Knowledge is strength. Get to Know every necessary thing about marriage before you go intoit. ‘Therea lot of things to knew about marriage ‘and failure to know them mat spell doom for the home. Most rocky marziages today are not the making of Satan or cemons; they are 50 because of lack of knowledge on the part of the parties involve Fere are some of the leclures you are expected to take during pre-marital coun. seling cession, which normally takes about three months: Understanding Courtship, Understanding Marriage, Communication in Marriage, Adjustment in Marriage, Crisis ‘Management in marriage, Financial Man- agement in mariage, Child bearing and veoving, Understanding Gender Differences, ‘Marriage and Culture, Sex, In-laws and Mar- riage, Understanding Submission, Roles of uns band, Roles of Wife, Intimacy in Mar- riage, among others. Tf you expose yourself to all these teachings, it becomeseasierto enjoy your marriage. But if you lack knowledge, you will do « great harm to your marziage, So you and your partner should make yourself available for 2 mine left in chapter sonthe teachings. It is for your own good. (Note: If your church hes no programme for in- tending couples, getin touch with us.) 1 min left in chapear19™ THING NEVER GO INTO MARRIAGE WITHOUT PREPARATION True Talk: Your preparation determines your manifestalion God's Word: “Prepare your work outside, make it fit for yourself in the field and after- ward build your house”. (Proverbs 24:27) “The preparation of the heart belongs to ‘man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord Prov.16:1) Preparation is the other of celebration. Lack of it may lead to destruction. Prepare very ‘well before you go into marriage. Prepare in the following ways: st Physically:Get an apartment for your- self as a man. Get necessary cooking uten- sils, Learn how to cook good meals as a lady. But household items and take good care of, your kealth ‘Financially: Get a job, Save money. Invest. Pay your tithe, Be generous, learn to manage and master money. Learn to be selflessin spending, + Mentally: Deal with erroneous beliefs about marriage through divine wis- dom. Go for pre-marital counseling (This is very important, Please don't miss it). Read books and family magazines. Attend mar- riage seminars, Listen totapes on marriage. ct Spiritually: Attend intending cou- ple's class, Pray and fast. Study scriptures to Imow what God says about marriage. Listen 1 min left in chapesr 54%to tapes, Go for counsel. Deliverance sessions and praise God. ‘Emotionally: know how to forgive and forget. Leam to be gencrous, to say ‘we’ and! our’ insteadof ‘ma’ and‘T’ 20"* THING ‘NEVER ALLOW WEDDING BILL T0 DESTROY YOUR WEDDING BELL ‘True Talk: Those who eat up their tomorrow today will Live in their yesterday when we gettodaysto come, God's Word: “ The riches rade over the poor and the borrowers servant to the leader (Prov. 22:7) ‘Most singles dream of making their wed- dings big. They loak forward up spending Inundreds of naira to make their wedding day memorable, Some go into borrowing to achieve this goal while it takes ther several jonths oreven yearsLo pay up their debl. fn some ceses, the debt burden end up breaking supposedly good marriage. Never borrow or bay anything on ezedit he- cause of wedding, Never allow wedding bills to destroy wedding bell. It is not how elab- orate a wedding is that inakes a marriage a success, It isnot the number of people in the bridal train that determines a joyful home but the bridal training, Cut your eleth according to your materials ‘You don't need all the wines in this world. ‘You need not import your wedding gown 1 min left in chapter samand ring, You need not feed the people that are nct hungry. If itis glamour of a wedding that determines the success of a marriage, the marriage of Prince Charles and Lady ‘Diana should be the beet, But it was not. Even if you have millions of naira in your account, itis wise to invest it than spending it on frivolous things. If you slaughter hun- dred cows for your wedding, people will eat them, Even if it is ordinary fish you offer they will still eat and go totheir houses. Bekind to yourself, Spend little for wedding, ‘Keep the rest for your marriage. Be wise. Be moderate. Don’ t be wasteful, Avoid spend- ing unnecessary money, just to make your ‘wedding 2 memorable one, Some singles refuse to get in their late thirties because they have not been able (o save million of naira needed for their dream weddings. That istotally wrong, NEVER ALLOW WEDIDNG BILL TOI DESTROY YOUR WEDIDNG BELL 2 mine left in chapter 579%21°T THING NEVER DRESS LIKE AN HARLOT ‘True Talk: The way you dress determines those that will addracs you. If you dress like an harlot, play boys will seelc your hands in marriage God's Word: Whoever Loves wisdom makes his father rejoice, but a companion of harlots ‘wastes his wealth. (Prov29:3) Clothes are made primazily to cover naked- nese, only mad peeple welk nakedly, Nowadays, you see young ladies going crazy on the street, walking almost naked. Some expose 80 percent of thei breasts, 85 per- cent of their buttocks and 90 percents of their thighs. The more we closer to rapture, the more the force of gravity worlks on skirt; pulling it up to mini area and micro, It is Lolal madness lo pul on 2 skirt and blouse that do not cover your sensitive parts. ‘Whenever you want to* dress to kill’, know that you are being influenced by demonic powers, not Gods spirit, Stop being a dis- grace to womanheod, Dress like a lady. Stop dressing like an harlot. All those spaghetti, mini or micro skirts, Off-shoulder dresses, show-me-your-back-clotis, string blouses (No bra allowed), body hugs: ser- through, ccezy jeans, summer styles, etc are not godly. ‘They are from the pit of hell for demon-pos- sessed people. Children of God dress to glo- rily God and (o edify people, IC you dress loexpose your nakedness, you are crazy and sick. NEVER DRESS LIKE AN HARLOT 22" THING NEVER ENGAGE IN ROOM SERVICE ‘True Talk: Your secret sin is not unseen be- fore God. Though closed toman, itis open to Cod before you do it, God's Word: “ He who covers his sins will not Brosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes ‘them wilt have mercy " . (Proverbs 28:13) Masturbation is what is now popularly knowns room service. It is the act of using ‘oncs hands or an instrument specially made for that purpose (masturbation} orany other object to stimulate ones organ for sexual en- joyment It involves sexual fantasy and self-stimula- ‘tion of sexual organs, motivated by sex films pornography materials or setting of one’s mind on past, sinful sexual relationship. Itis sexraalimmorolity and dehumanizing. It destroys ones prayer life and separates one from God and ministering angels. It is a sin just as fornication and adultery, It is called Room Service’ because if often takes place in the coom, bathroom or toilet. People who indulge in i are under demenic oppression and satanic bondage. If youare a victim of masturbation, you must be readyto get your deliverance today. Know that it is sinful and dangerous to your well-being, Confide in @ mature Christian or write me immediately. Pray seriously against it Run away from ‘blue films’, pornographic mate rials, ungodly, magazines, books ete. go for deliverance and move closer to your Bible. Room service is a death sentence. Please avoid it Kindly get my book, SINGLES, SEX AND PU- RITY, for acomprehensive teaching on mas- turbation and other sexual sins and how to be delivered from them, NEVER ENGAGE IN ROOM SERVICE 23" THING ‘NEVER INVOLVE IN PRE-MARITAL SEX ‘True Talk: Sin is a pleasurable journcy in to the land of disgrace, When you are tempted Lo sin think of hell God's Word: “Whoever commits fornteation (adultery) with a woman laces understand- ing. He who does so destroys his own sou. Wound and obstruction will he get and his reproach will not be wiped away”. (Proverbs 6:32) Avoid pre-marital sex like a plague. Youhave nothing to gain from it, it will only destroy yor joy, martiage, testimonies, future and you might contact sexually transmitted dis- case, including HIV/AIDS. Pre-marital sex will separate you from God His love, mercy, grace and prolection.Soxual enjoyment lasts less than 10 seconds ‘but the consequences are eternal, Be wise. Avoid pre-marital sex. Tbisa sin against God, your body and your future partner. It endan- {gers your life ard future, You have a lot to benefit from waiting till your wedding night for sex. They are: God's blessing, respect, avoidance of Gods judg- ment, Trust from your partner, absence of guilt, freedom and lack of regret. It keeps you from unwanted pregnancy, hurried marriage and abortion. It enhances your in. tegrity and aids genuine relationship, lead. ing toa good marriage ‘There is no justifiable reason for pre-marital sex, Do not set your life on fore. Flee from it, NEVER INVOLVE IN PRE-MARITAL SEX 2471 THING NEVER STOP THE BREATHING HEART ‘True Talk: You were created to he a mother; never become a murderer. You were mede to be a father; never pluck the feether of a liv- ing bird, God's Word: Tox shule nor muider (Exodus 2032 A fertilized foetus ie not just blood; iti ving, ral child. may ho the nose prosident, gevarron, pastor, author, #7, $0, do nat stop the bresthing hoert, Nevercoramit abortion. Taoushell not kill, Everybody deserves a birthday. Do not deny that baby the right to live give that life its ‘own expression, Let him enjoy its purposefor living. Let it enjoy God. Do not kill that baby. If you listen well, you would hear the baby shouting, “Mother, donot murder me”, Abor- ton is ungodly. it kills generations and de stroys nations. Do not join the company of Cain. Do not kill that Abel God can never be happy seeing you destroy the work of His hands. Please do not kill that baby. NEVER STOP THE BREATHING HEART 257" THING ‘NEVER FORSAKE QUITE TIME ‘True Talk: If you are quiet enough to listen to God, your voice will be loud enough for people to hear and obey. God's Word: “Rise before the dawning of the day and ery for help. Hope in your word, my eyes awake throug the night watches that 1 may meditate on your word?” (Ps. 19:148) ‘Most people step out in the morning with- out seeking the face of God. They jump out of bed into the road without consulting the king of the roads. This is dangerous and signifies unseriousness with ones Christian life.Before you leave the house everyday; pray to God. Thank Him for waking you upto see the new day. Thank Him for your breath, health and wealth, Thank Him for whatHicis going to do for you that day, Commit the day into His hands. Tell Him to go before you and level your mountain. Exalt your valley and make your crooked way straight. Study your Bible before you go out. Get to hear the voice of God from it. Meditate on the word of God before you go out to face the world, NEVER FORSAKE QUIET TIME 26" THING NEVER FAIL TO LABOUR WITH YOUR HANDS ‘True Talk: Those that refuse to labour dis- qualify themselves from favous, remove fla- vor from their lives and disengage them: selves from honour, for every saviour is 2 worker, God's Word: se who tills his lands will have plenty of bread, but he who foliows frivolity ‘will have poverty enough * (Prov. 28:19} Ne that desires favour should be ready to labour, for labour brings glamour and at- tracts favour.Never fail to labour with your hends. De not rely on anybody for sustenance, You can never be independent if you are dependent on somebody's else. Hard work anewers to hard life, Work hard 50 as not to live hard. Success is a game of the best actors, not the best theorist. It is for goal-getters, not for goal-cheevers. You amount to nothing until you do something, Action is said to speak louder than inten- tion. So if you venture to do nothing, youcan never have s successful venture. People that cause rain to fall will regain as kings, not those that wish there was a shower. Un- less you have something tosell, you cannot excel. Do something. Stop crying, stop worrying. Stop blaming the national’s eeanamy. Stop blaming the nation’s economy. Stop blaming your location, Make the best of your present position, Better your lat and be a blessing to people around you. Your worth is your work. ‘Your sweat is your “ sweet", Your labour is your favour and honout. ‘NEVER FAIL TO LABOUR ‘WITH YOUR HANDS 277 THING ‘NEVER PITCH YOUR TENT AGAINST GOD ‘True Talk: If you recognize God, anybody that antagonizes you is digging his grave. But when you war against Ged, yeu walk into trouble.God's Word: “ The righteous of the blameless will direct his way aright, but the wicked will fall by his own wickedness * (Prov.11:3) Never make the mistake of Achan made. ‘Never fall into the errors of Korah, Dethan and Abiram. Do not join the company of Pharaoh, Goliath, Senmacherib, Herod and others. Never pitch your tent against God. pitching your tent against God result from many ways: 1. Failure to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal savior Failure to live a holy life Failure toavoid sin Failure to pay your tithe and offering Fighting anointed men of God Abortion/murder Premarital sex/Prostitution Examination malpractices 9. Prayerlessness/Disobedient toGod 10, Disebedientto parent LL. Lyinghinfaithfainess 12. Cultism, drug abuse, ete. @nousen NEVER PITCH YOUR TENT AGAINST.GOD 28"* THING NEVER FAIL TO READ BOOKS ‘True Talk: It takes an egg to make omelets. It takes a readerto makesa good reader. God's Word: “Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may he wise in your tat- ter days“ (Prov.9:20)People who fail to read are not better than those who cannot read Greatness is hidden on the pages of books. Never fail to read at Icast a book per week. Learn from the mistalees of some people. Avoid the pitfall of the people of the pest by reading their books Combine the knowledge of seven geniuses by studying their works. People that read lead, because a leader is 2 reeder. Tor God's sake, develop your brain, let it sweat and improve itself What you know is ‘what will make you known. Pay any price to get a book. If you read books, very soon peo- ple will book you for honor. You will soon become the mentor of your mates and the lender of your equal. Please read! NEVER FAIL TO READ BOOKS 29°" THING ‘NEVER FAIL TO PUT YOURSELF IN “GEAR FORCE” ‘True Talk: You can do it, yes you can. You can't do it, Yes you can't, it is a matter of choice. Godl’s Word: And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heavensuffered violence, and the violent take it ty Sorce, Matt. 11:12 Tmay look difficult, it may seem tedious but the truth is you can do it. You can make it happen. Never fail to put yourself in gear force. Dont lie down there like a deflated balloon. Give your life a new hope, new faith and new vision and new enthusiasm. Bounce back like a bellat its best, do not burst like balloon. ‘Take your vietory by force. Never negotiate your victory through fear. Add discipline to determination and spice up dedication with desperation. Then you are due for distine- ton. “Take your victory by force, win the battle by choice. Do not cast down your head; lift up your head and win your wars, NEVER FAIL TO PUT YOURSELF INGEAR FORCE 307! THING NEVER FAIL. TO HAVE A FOCUS ‘True Talk: If you have no focus, you have a full course to fail. God's Word: "The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is single,your whole body will be full of light”. (Matt.6:22). “Like a bird that wanders from its nest; is @ man who wanders from his place". (Prov. 27:8) No matter how far 2 joumey is, if you know where you are going and keep pressing on, you will surely get there. It takes a little change of focus for the eyeto seethe nose. If you know your purpose in life, tum it to vision. Then press on. Keep on doing it. If the results donot come;resclve to do it again and again, You ean re draw your plan but do not withdraw it. Never get busy here and there. It is dangerous, Confront all obstacles headway. They are not getting better but you growing bigger. Let your eyes be single, Look straight, Move forward. Go forward, Look upward. People that quit are the people that fail. Don't be come ajack of alltrades and master of none. Be an expert in one thing. Know that thing through and through. Do it in the best way. Let people Know you for the thing. 3 will rather remain smalliin one thing than be big and in nothing. NEVER FAIL TO HAVE A FOCUS 31°T THING NEVER FALL TO UPDATE YOURSELF True Talk: When you are not moving for.ward, you are not static but moving back- ‘ward, You cannct be cotrect if you are not current. God's Word: “Be diligent to know the state of your flocks and attend to your herds” Proverbs 27:23 ‘Yesterday news is past, nobody rush to get it again, But twenty four hours ago, it was an thot cake. Now it is only news when itisnew. ‘You cannot move forward if you are facing back. ‘You must not fil to update yourself because if you are not up to-date, you will be out dated. If you are not correct you are not cur- rent. To you scill transact your business cn“s- nail mail” in these cays of e-mails? are you compuler literate? If you are nel you are truly an illiterate. Are you still using the typewriter invented in the days of Methuse Tah when everybody is on cernputer? Do you study marketing but cannot drive? You are reelly ready for ajob. Lady, can you handle a as cooker? Or all you know is your kerosene stove and firewood? UPDATE YOURSELF ‘When last have you read a book? Have you reed any of today's paper? Do you listen to news? Do you write your CV like those seek- ing jobs from colonial masters in the 30s? Ts your dressing up to date with this your red cap, green blouse, blue skirt, yellow bag and white shoe? Why the colour riot? Get hooked to the current knowledge. Use new ideas, Read books and newspaper. Develop yourself, Be curreat. Read my books, 22 PILLARS OF SUCCESS, for more information. NEVER FAIL TO UPDATE YOURSELFFINAL WORD You have just had an encounter with truth that will transform your life, That is just the first step to an enviable future. ‘The second indispensable step is for you to place value on your life by leaving a right- eoumess life. God has not created you to experience failure in marriage, relationship, academics, careers or anywhere. You have to make up your mind to avoid all the 31 DEADLY THINGS discussed in this bock. Having done all, you will be surprised at the vate Gede promises will come to fulfillment in your life. For comment, counsel or distributorship, ‘write or visit our office at:AUTHOR'S CONTACT -08051512823, 08056357013 Twitter@bisiadewale E.mail-familybooster@gmailcom Blog: www bisindewale.com Forum: www.lamilypartigmenticom Website: www familvboaster com LnbeeTn: tsi Adewale Instagram: SISIADEWALE. Googles: bist adewale Facebook: wwrstaceboos.comnPastorBis.Ndewale YouTube: bllns:! fiw veulubecom/bisiadousie