Family Counseling SWP2 Project
Family Counseling SWP2 Project
Submitted by:
Jayson Tibayan
Analiza Navarro
Merlinda Banagua
Adrienne Clara Bueta
I. Introduction
II. Jayson Tibayan Counselling Session
III. Analiza Navarro Counselling Session
IV. Merlinda Banagua Counselling Session
V. Adrienne Clara Bueta Counselling Session
VI. Appendices
I. Introduction
As part of our curriculum, the course social work counseling gives an insight into core
counseling, concepts, techniques and approaches, and opportunities for us to understand the complex role
client diversity plays in the social work profession.
The course focused on counselor’s work that provides understanding into how personal and
professional ethics play a major role in the dynamics between social workers as counselor and client, and
the challenges of various abnormal behaviors and mental disorders a social worker counselor must face in
helping people to live their own life rather than be lived by it.
This self-paced course incorporates a vast variety of areas that apply to many different
environments and circumstances. We learned that the basic counseling skills are to create a positive
relationship between clients, to help and guide them with these skills that can provide the clients to make
positive changes in their lives.
As a 3rd year student of Bachelor of Science in Social Work, complying and applying what have
we learned from our great and one-of-a-kind Professor Alicia Molina, a Registered Social Worker, an
excellent counselor, an honorable person, and a woman that has lots of knowledge and expertise shared to
us. We will try our best to make this final project successful not just for ourselves but for the individuals
and their families, which is part of this paper.
II. Jayson Tibayan Counselling Session
FAMILY COUNSELLING
I. Individual Description
Pascasio's family is in a state of crisis due to the pandemic. The father is the sole provider, has no
regular income, unable to work due to lockdown in the community. This situation brought some
of the family challenges like – feeling bored, helpless, depressed, feeling scared and sad.
Goal: Help the family process the issues brought by the pandemic.
To be aware on the
affect of pandemic
and how to avoid
the virus on their
daily lives
Objective: The student will understand the situation of the client with disability during Covid 19
Pandemic
Jayson Tibayan
Annaliza Navarro
Merlinda Banagua
Desyree Pascacio
Rodel Pascacio
MC Randel Pascacio
Client: Opo
Client: Opo
Client: Opo
Client: Opo
The SOLER method is extremely beneficial when dealing with clients because it teaches us how to
conduct counseling in the proper manner, including the proper position, eye contact, and how to show
interest in the client's issue. I observed their enthusiasm in responding to all of the questions we pose to
the client. additionally, we also use other techniques and skills for effective counseling like active
After counseling, I realized that it's extremely difficult for people with disabilities to overcome the effect
of Covid-19 Pandemic; I felt the way the client described the difficulties they faced during the lockdown;
while those of us who are not disabled have difficulty dealing with the effects of the covid-19, it's even
more difficult for them to deal because of disabilities during the covid-19 pandemic due to the laws that
we must follow, they experienced discrimination. We found out that the effect of covid-19 to their lives is
very challenging because their mental health, daily living, education and income is all affected.
As a student, we recommend that Desyree and her family be eligible for financial aid from a variety of
agencies, most notably the National Government. Additionally, we recommend that this family receive
psychosocial support for mental health issues caused by the Covid-19 pandemic, as well as a stable source
livelihoods.
FAMILY COUNSELING
Individual Description
Name: Zairine San Juan
Age: 25
Date of Birth: June 26, 1996
Place of Birth: Malaban, Binan Laguna
Civil Status: Single
Educational Attainment: Elementary Graduate
Occupation: Housewife
Religion: Roman Catholic
Address: Brgy. Soro-Soro, Binan City Laguna
Family Profile
Family Background
Client, Zairine , 25 years old, single, a housewife living with her partner, Oliver, 30 years old, a
construction worker, earning 400 pesos per day. Due to their union, they are blessed with one child. The
client has 3 children with her former partner under her custody. They have no house of their own and live
with their partner’s mother. The group belongs to the primary sector.
Family Problem
The client and her partner frequently argue inside their house and witness it by the children. Her partner
often scolded her children which caused her to notice the unequal treatment in the children. According to
her, she felt that her partner didn’t love and accept her children from her former partner. She also said that
her live-in partner didn’t want to work or have a stable job because her partner is dependent on his mother
Family Assessment
This is a case of a 25-year-old who sought assistance at a Barangay VAWC officer due to
emotional and physical abuse from her live-in partner. The client and her partner frequently argue
inside their house and witness it by the children. Her partner often scolded her children that cause
her to notice the unequal treatment of the children, according to her, she felt that her partner didn’t
love and accept her children from her former partner. Her partner is not working too hard since
they live with her partner's mother and depend on her partner's mother for their everyday needs.
She felt so ashamed of her partner's mother because she that her three children weren’t legitimate
grandchild to lean on her partner's mother for their daily needs.
The client is willing to do anything for her children. Despite the abuse, she experienced she still
fights not just for herself but for her children. The client is optimistic despite what happened to
her, and the client’s source of strength is her children. The client has talent in selling food and has
dreams to have her own store, to have additional income to support her family. She also dreams to
have a house of their own. The client needs assistance and guidance so that she can be empowered
and develop more her self-confidence to elevate her present situation.
Family Plans/Goals/Intervention
Goals: The client and her family will understand the impact and influences of family violence.
SESSION 1
Introduction / Let everybody
welcoming
share about
Rapport building
themselves and established
Objective. Paper/ ball pen 30 minutes-1 trusting working
hours relationship
Heart to heart talk
Building
trusting and
working
relationship Client and her
partner
Session 2
Client Deeper
To gather understanding on
information Orientation on Reading 30 mins the effect of
about the domestic violence materials/ small violence to the
abuse talk VAWC officer
client and the
children
Session 3
Objective:
Client and her
partner
Home Awareness on the
Visitation Distibution of law of 9262.
flyers Flyers on RA9262 30 mins to 1 Prevent physical
hour VAWC officer abuse
To know the
present Refer the client to
situation of the CSWDO for Referral letter
family about financial assistance
violence. To
Discuss the
Law of 9262
Additional
knowledge like
training to
Client TESDA
Barangay vehicle
To acquire
1 hour VAWC officer
livelihood
assistance TESDA training Social worker Improve her
from the knowledge in
government in selling skills and
putting her Trainor processed food
own business making.
Additional capital
on her processed
food business
Referral letter
To strengthen Restore their
her Refer the client
and her family for relationship
relationship Depending to Client and her
with her live - counseling Barangay vehicle
Social worker family
in partner on how many
session VAWC officer
Social worker
The client and her family will understand the impact and influences of family violence.
Analiza Navarro
Jayson Tibayan
Merlinda Banagua
Zairene
Oliver
Process (verbatim documentation) Concept, Techniques, Theories applied, used in
the process of counseling
Client 2: Ok po
sagutin.
professor.
Client: ahhmm
- Open-ended questions are questions that require
a participant to answer in their own words. They
Student: Maari na po ba tayong magsimula? can provide researchers with more information
than a simple yes or no answer.
Client 1: sige po, kayo po ang bahala
kumilos.
MO”.
Counseling is a talking therapy in which the client and the counselor have an interactive interaction.
Counseling provides individuals with the opportunity to talk to a counselor about their problems and
feelings in a private setting. In general, a counselor assists clients in seeing things from a different
viewpoint and developing their answers based on their views. The major goal is to help clients gain a
better awareness of themselves and be able to make changes in their lives by making their own decisions
and acting on them to live a more fulfilling life.
I applied the Principle of Acceptance, there are times in our lives when we do and have things are
happening to us that we do not understand or reconcile with our way of life (or our moral standards). We
may become confused or disoriented as a result of these encounters, unsure if the path we were on was
the right one or if changing directions will make the path ahead of any clearer. The client experience
forced her to this situation, a decision where she did not know which way she was heading or where even
she was coming from; It also introduced her to the notion underlying the phrase "unconditional positive
regard," a concept derived from Carl Rogers' person-centered counseling. It's essentially a reference to the
principle of accepting a client's way of life, or, as some therapists describe it, a "positive affirmation."
Whatever language we use as therapists, it's more than just a therapist developing a liking to something,
or a part of you, their client. It's embracing the numerous details that make you who you are: your
inherent uniqueness and originality. For both the client and counselor, a good therapeutic relationship is
one in which the counselor is genuinely accepting of all of the feelings, emotions, and life stories that go
into making you, the individual, who you are. It's warts and all – every complex element (perceived as
pros or disadvantages) that makeup you as a whole person, in a not-so-nice way of presenting it. The
counselor's perception of you can assist you in your acceptance of yourself by honestly enjoying and
appreciating you and your uniqueness. Rogers thought that accepting oneself allows one to respect others
and confirm their place in life with unconditional positive regard.
The main element of communication skills is listening technique because it is an active activity in which
a conscious decision is made to listen to and grasp the client messages. Listeners should refrain from
interrupting with questions or comments while engaged in active listening. Giving the other person time
to explore their thoughts and feelings is part of active listening, and they should be allowed enough time
to do so. As I present myself to the client as listener, she feels more inclined to communicate with me. I
give her the freedom to express her feelings or emotions. Using rapport-building approaches can aid in
the development of trust and the creation of a welcoming workplace. It's critical to use as many
approaches as possible to build a strong foundation for positive relations. Establishing a relationship
requires first asking for the client's name and then utilizing that name. People feel cherished and
humanized when they hear their names. Using this strategy, you can begin to create trust with your client.
Empathy is the ability to understand or feel what our client is going through from their point of view, or
to put oneself in their shoes. Empathy is a broad term that refers to a variety of different emotional states.
Attending, reflecting, paraphrasing, and silence are just a few of the counseling skills that can help you
exhibit empathy. Utang na Loob and Pakikisama are the Filipino values that verbalized by the client.
Being a student in social work who conducts counseling needs to know all the techniques, approaches,
methods, as well as ethics so that I will be aware of whether the client will open and accept the service or
assistance. The first encounter sets the tone for the rest of the worker-client relationship, which may
improve by developing rapport and showing that we are concerned about their clients' problems. Active
listening, rapport building, issue resolution, and communication are social work abilities that I need to
learn for me to successfully help the client. One of the most fundamental techniques of social work is
active listening, which is used to show genuine interest in the client’s thoughts and feelings. No other
technique will prove effective without taking time to build trust and rapport.
IV. Merlinda Banagua Counselling Session
Family Counseling
Individual Description
Occupation: Housewife
Family Profile
Family Background
The Client is 74 years old and born on September 18, 1947, in San Juan Batangas, currently
living here in Binan Laguna, married to Rogelio for 43 years, they met at Luneta Park in Manila
by accident, became close friends and they started to love each other. They were blessed with
two children, the eldest son is Alvin 40 years old, single, and have orthopedic disabilities, Alvin
hasn't finished his studies in college and has no work, for now, Aireen her youngest daughter is
39 years old, married to bernard but separated with her husband and hasn’t finished her studies in
college. The Client has 2 granddaughters and two grandsons namely Aries, Aldrin, Ara Joy, and
Rhealyn.
Family Problem
Client Eduviges, 74 years old, a widow, has no shelter of her own. She is living in an apartment
with her daughter and her grandchild. The client's husband died on June 20, 2020, due to covid
19. She really can not imagine what had happened to her husband, whose stomach was in such
extreme pain that led him to the hospital. He was still alive when they arrived at the hospital, and
when he was discharged, he was burned to ashes and laid in the jar. The client complains of
hypertension and is on medication. She has rheumatism, which makes walking difficult for her.
Her children and grandchildren provide her with food and medicine.
Family assessment
Client Eduviges is 74 years old and is a senior citizen, a survivor of Covid 19 pandemic,
however her husband was infected by Covid 19 by the Covid according to the doctor. June 2020
admitted to Ospital ng Binan. Her husband died due to Covid 19 on the same date. The client did
not accept because she insisted that her husband send to the hospital due to severe stomach
ache. She always has pity on herself because she is alone and single. She always expresses
financial difficulty because she has some illness like rheumatism and hypertension. To sustain
the needs the client will be networking to other NGO’S to help her needs.
Family Plans/Goals/Intervention
Goal: to help the client to overcome the grieving emotion due to the loss of her husband
SESSION 1 Rapport
Introduction / building and
welcoming established
Objective: trusting
student/ client working
Building working introduction
Paper/Ball 1 hour client/ student relationship
relationship
pen
Objective: To over
Merlinda Banagua
Annaliza Navarro
Jayson B. Tibayan
Eduviges
Aireen
Student:opo nay,
Client:mga 3 taon na po
The death of a loved one can either support or invalidate the comprehension of mortality or our
impression of death. Because of loss, mourning is an intimate personal process that evaluates
who we are and also what our personality is. Grieving is something we do in response to a death,
instead of something that occurs to us. Because of the loss, the emotional pain either validates or
replicates our world; The recovery process requires the expression and manifestation of
sentiments, as well as the attempts to find meaning or create sense. These sensations and
emotions serve a purpose during the mourning process, and the loss has a societal as a personal
Now, I truly understand and say that “the best counselors in the field aren’t necessarily those
who are most well known but rather those who are always reaching toward greatness, have lots
of patience and have a passion in working harder for the client/s. Being in this field and as a
social worker is not an easy task, you need to be dedicated to the profession. This work is really
for a brave heart. Becoming a social worker means that we know that what we do may never
amount to a high salary, or a vast privilege of power and prestige, but we work in the human
services industry because we have an ambition to help others who are at a disadvantage in life
chances and social mobility. Social work is different from other professions, because we focus
both on the person and their surroundings. We deal with our clients’ problems and situations. I
also learned that we create opportunities by assessment and intervention, to help clients and
communities cope effectively with their reality and change that reality when needed. We do help
clients deal not only with how they feel about a situation but also with what they can do about it.
Individual Description
Client’s Name : “Avegail”
Age : 40 years old
Gender : Female
Birthdate : Dec. 23, 1980
Birthplace : Binan Laguna
Religion : Roman Catholic
Educational Attainment : High School Graduate
Occupation : Sewer
Address : Yatco cmpd. Dela Paz Binan City, Laguna
The client’s name is “Avegail” and was born in Binan City Laguna. She is married to Arnel, 41
years old for 22 years. They have two (2) children. The client stated that the perpetrator started to abuse
her physically when she got birth to her first child. She insists that her partner questioned her if the child
is his. As the years go by, giving birth to her second child the perpetrator continues to abuse her. The
client still stayed for the love of her family because she doesn’t want a broken family for her children.
After several years of being physically abused, in the month of April this year, she then sought help for
her safety as well as her children. The client went to VAWC Desk Office to file a case for the perpetrator
to be jailed. This November, the perpetrator is now in jail. The client is so happy and said she has now
peace of mind and feels free. She also wants to focus on her children and think of other sources of income
especially, to use her skills and talents in sewing. Although she is happy that the perpetrator is now in jail,
she cannot stop thinking about her children. Hence, that they do understand why their father is in jail, the
client is still worried due to the impact of the incident on her children.
Family Profile
Client, Avegail, 40 years old, is a sewer in a small business of her common friend in Binan.
Client earning a low average wage as per piece-rate that is paid based on the number of units or pieces
they finish rather than the number of hours they labor. Arnel, 41 years old is the husband of the client. He
is an unemployed and elementary undergraduate that attained Grade 2. He has habitually beaten his wife
which results in serious physical abuse and that causes him to be in jail. Angelo, 19-year-old, the eldest
son, and has part-time work in a factory and also earns a low average wage and is not sufficient for his
educational expenses. Arvie, 17-year-old, the youngest son, a Grade 11 student in a public school in
Binan. Erlita, 69 years old, is the mother of the client, a housewife. Alfredo, 63 years old, is the father of
the client, a carpenter. The group belongs to the vulnerable sector that has insufficient income and is
below the poverty line to provide their family basic needs.
Family Problem
Due to the incident that resulted in the perpetrator’s being in prison. The client is worried about
her children. The client insists that her children will instill resentment in her because sometimes her
youngest son doesn’t want to talk to her and just spends time online gaming. She also said that she
doesn’t have enough time for her children due to work that’s why her youngest son is left alone inside the
house. The client’s parents are just next door, so they sometimes check on the situation of the child, but
the child is not happy because he felt unloved by her mother.
Family Assessment
The client with her 2 sons needs assistance in the following:
Psychological assistance for the client and her (2) two sons for guidance, and to boost self-confidence.
Emotional assistance for the client due to abuse experienced and for the children, to show emotional
support for the family by offering genuine encouragement, reassurance, and compassion.
Social assistance for networking and connecting to any agency/s that can further help the client like
livelihood program for their finances for them to have an extra source of income.
Spiritual assistance/support to help them feel peace and comfort.
Educational assistance for the children so that they can continue their dreams and have extracurricular
activities.
Family Goal/Plans/Intervention
Session 1: Initial Self-introduction Quiet & Safe place 30mins Counselor Knowing one
Interview another
Discussion on
Objectives: expectation Rapport building
Building and established
trusting and One on one talk trusting working
working Open forum relationship
relationships
Come up with
norms and rules
during the
session
Setting
expectation
To give clients
the power to
cope with their
situation in a
healthy way and
to feel better
about themselves
and their life.
Session 3:
Discuss the law One on one Quiet & Safe place 30mins – Counselor, To have
about family talk/discussion 1hour Social knowledge about
violence and its Worker their rights and
implication to what laws can
the family protect them for
Discussion with the their safety
Objective: client and her family
For them to
know and
understand the
law and how it
can affect their
lives as a family.
Session 4:
Knowing client One on one Quiet & Safe place 30mins Social For the referral
and family skills talk/discussion Worker system, and
and talents assistance
To assess the
area of Discussion with the
improvement, client and her family
for the support
system of the
family
Session 5:
Counselling Session
Goal: To build rapport by gathering information with the client and her family.
Session 1: Intake Interview
explaining what
and how the
interview is and as
well as the
processes to be
taken.
I made sure that my
voice is in mild
tone with a positive
aura, so that my
client will feel the
Student: Magandang Gabi po. (nakangiting bumati, malumanay same. The used of
ang boses) S.O.L.E.R in
Client1: “Magandang Gabi rin naman po.” (napangiti at interviewing.
positive ang mukha) Being positive and
Nanay: “Magandang gabi din po.” relaxed when doing
Anak: “Magandang gabi din po.” the therapy can be
Student: Kamusta po kayo? contagious in our
Client1: “Mabuti po naman.” clients to
Nanay: “Mabuti po.” successfully start
Anak: “Ok lang po.” the session in a
Client: “Kayo po kumusta po kayo?” smooth sailing
Student: Mabuti rin naman po kami. Maraming salamat po. way. Listening is
Student: Ahhh, Ako nga po pala si Ate Clara, at sila po ang also a big part of
aking mga kasama, si kuya Jayson po, Si ate Nena at s Ate attending to our
Merlinda. Kami po ay 3rd-year BS Social Work students po sa clients. Listen not
Trimex Colleges po. Narito po kami kasama po ang VAWC only with your ears
Desk Officer ng inyong barangay upang kayo po ay aming but with your heart.
mainterview. Ito po ay ay bahagi ng aming final project
patungkol sa pamilya na mayroong hindi pagkakaunawaan. Self-Introduction
Maari po ba naming kayo mainterview?
Student: Mam nagtanong po kami sa inyong VAWC officer
kung may kaso po siya na na handle sa kanyang office tungkol Validating, Asking permission
sa Domestic Violence. Nabanggit po niya na Ikaw nga daw po
ngunit hihingi daw muna po siya ng permiso sa inyo?
Client: “Opo, nasabi nga po niya sa akin.”
Student: Pumapayag daw po kayo na mainterview, tama po ba? Clarifying & Validating
Client: “Opo, pumapayag po ako.”
Student: Maraming Salamat po mam. Bago po namin kayo
interviewhin, mayroon po kaming waiver na ididiscuss sa inyo Asking permission
at papipirmahan.
Client: “Cge po pipirmahan ko po.” Confidentiality
Student: Nabanggit po ng inyong VAWC officer, noong Nov.
16, 2021 na nagsadya daw po kayo sa kanyang tanggapan, tama
po ba? Closed-ended questioning
Client: “Opo, Tama po.”
Student: Maari po bang malaman ang dahilan?
Client: “Opo, kasi po, palagi po akong sinasaktan ng aking
asawa.” Open-ended questioning
Student: Palagi po kayong sinasaktan ng inyong asawa, Tama po
ba?
Client: “Opo.” (nahihiyang tumingin)
Student: Maari mo po bang ikuwento? (malumanay na tinanong)
Client: “22 years na po kaming nagsasama bilang mag asawa,
noong una po masaya naman po kami at maayos ang aming
pagsasama. Siguro po nagsimula po ang kanyang paghihigpit
sa akin noong kami ay nagkaroon na ng panganay na anak. Active listening skill, attending
Hindi na po ana niya po ako pinapalabas ng aming behavior, reflecting of feelings &
bahay,pakiramdam ko po nakatungtong ako sa numero kasi po thoughts
palagi niy po akong dinidiktahan. Hindi po ako pwedeng umalis
ng bahay o kahit man lang magpunta sa bahay ng aking mga
magulang. Kapag lumalabas ako ng bahay, agad niya akong
sinusundan at para umuwi.”
Student: (nakikinig lamang habang tumatango)
Client: “Nang nagkaanak po ng pangalawa, dahil po sa umaasa
lamang kami sa tulong ng ng aming mga magulang,
nagdesisyon po ako na magtrabaho bilang isang sewer. Lagi po Active listening skill
kaming nag-aaway dahil wala na nga po siyang trabaho at
panay pa po ang kanyang pag-iinom.”
Student: Madalas po kayong nag aaway dahil sa kanyang pag-
iinom, Tama po ba?
Client: “Opo, Kapag po siya ay lasing sinasaktan na po niya
ako. Noong april 4,2021, po inereklamo ko na po siya sa Clarifying
barangay dahil po sa pananakit niya sa akin, nasundan po ng
April 8, 2021. Nagkaroon po kami ng kasunduan sa barangay
na hindi na niya uulitin ang pananakit.”
Nanay: “Madalas ko po silang naririnig na nag aaway dahil
magkalapit nga lang po ang aming bahay, bilang ina
nasasaktan po ako sa nangyayari sa aking anak, madalas ko
nga po na sinasabi na hiwalayan n niya dahil wala namng Active listening
hanapbuhay tapos nananakit pa. Kaya lang po lagi niyang
sinasabi na mahal niya ang kanyang asawa at baka daw
magbago pa.” (naiinis na nagkwekwento)
Student to Nanay: Madalas po ninyo silang naririnig na nag-
aaway at nasabi ninyo po na hiwalayan na niya ang kanyang
asawa, tama po ba?
Nanay: “Opo.” Closed-ended questioning
Student to Client 1: Ano po ang nangyari pagkatapos po
ninyong magkausap at magkaroon ng kasunduan sa barangay?
Client: “Madalas pa rin po siyang umiinon ng alak,hanggang
eto nga pong November 16, 2021, matindi po ang kanyang Open questioning
pananakit na ginawa niya sa akin.” (pinipigilang maiyak dahil
nakikita ng kanyang anak)
Student: Matindi po ang ginawa sa inyong pananakit??
Client: “Opo.”
Student to Anak: Toto, naririnig mo ba at nakikita na nag-aaway
ang iyong magulang? Closed-ended
Anak: “Opo!”
Student: Ano ang ginawa mo kapag nakikita mo silang nag Validating
aaway?
Anak: “Wala po, lumalabas po ako ng bahay at pumupunta kina
lola.” Leading question
Student to Anak: Pumupunta ka sa bahay ng iyong lola, tama po
ba?
Anak: (Tumango lang)
Student to Anak: Ano sinabi mo kay lola mo?
Nanay: “Ayun, sinasabi na na nag aaway na naman ang
kanyang nanay at tatay.” Attending behavior
Student: Ahhhh, ano po ang reaksyon ng inyong apo?
Nanay: “Parang natatakot, hindi siya mapakali, sabi niya
sinasaktan daw ng tatay niya ang kanyang nanay.” (malakas
ang boses habang sinasabi) Clarifying
Student to Client 1: Ano pong pananakit ang kanyang ginawa?
Client: “Sinampal po ako,sinuntok at sinipa. Nagkaroon po ako
ng pasa sa aking katawan.”
Student: Ano pong ginawa ninyo? Open-ended question
Client: “Sumisigaw po ako para humingi ng tulong sa aking
magulang, hanggang sa lumabas po ako ng bahay at pumunta
sa bahay ng aking magulang.”
Student: Ano po ang naging reaksyon ng inyong magulang?
(dahan-dahan na itinanong)
Client: “Naawa po sila sa akin. Pinagalitan din po ako ng aking
ina. Sinabihan niya ako na pag isipan kong mabuti ang aking Active listening while reflecting
dapat gawin.Sinabihan niya rin po ako ng “TANGA” kasi
nagtitiis daw po akong makisaa sa aking asawa kahit ako ay
sinasaktan. Ako daw po ang naghahanapbuhay sa amin, Bakit
ayaw ko daw pong makipag hiwalay.”
Nanay: “Opo, sinasabihan ko talaga siya ng “TANGA” kasi
hindi siya nag iisip, hinahayaan niya ang kanyang asawa na
saktan siya.” (galit na nagsabi)
Client to Anak: Ikaw Toto anong masasabi sa nakita mo at sa Attending behavior
hitsura ng inyong ina?
Anak: “Naawa po ako sa nanay ko kasi po may sugat po siya at
pasa.” (nagsasalita ng mabilis at pasigaw)
Student to Client: May sugat at pasa si nanay, tama ba?
Anak: “Opo!” Attending behavior
Student: Ano pong reaksyon ninyo mam sa sinabi ng inyong
ina?
Client: “Siyempre po, nag isip po akong mabuti kung ano ang
aking dapat gawin. Naawa din po ako sa aking mga anak lalo
na kay bunso dahil madalas niya kaming nakikitang nag-aaway. Open-ended questioning
Kaya po nagdesisyon na ako!”
Student: Ano po ang inyong ginawa?
Client: “Nagsumbong na po ulit ako sa aming VAWC officer
upangbmatigil na po ang kanyang pananakit. nagdesisyon po
akong mag pa checkup upang makapagsampa na ng kaso. Agad
naman po siyang hinuli ng mga barangay tanod at dinala po sa
himpilan ng pulis.”
Student: Nagsampa na po kayo ng kaso, tama po ba?
Client: “Opo, dahil hindi ko na po matiis ang kanyang pang
pananakit,nagdesisyon na po akong sampahan ng kaso.”
Student to Nanay: Ano po ang inyong masasabi sa naging
aksyon ng inyong anak? Clarifying
Nanay: “Para po sa akin, tama po ang kanyang ginawa
dahilpaulit ulit lamang po ang ginagawang pananakit ng
kanyang asawa.Mabuti po at natauhan siya.”
Student to Nanay: Ano po ang pakiramdam ninyo ngayon?
Nanay: “Malungkot din naman ako sa nangyari sa aking
manugang dahil sinampahan nasiya ng kaso ng aking anak,pero
kasi sobra na ang ginagawa niya eh,Kawawa naman ang anak
ko kung wala siyang gagawing aksyon.”
Student: Ahhh, nalulungkot din po kayo sa sinapit ng inyong
manugang?
Nanay: “Opo, kasi po napamahal na din namn siya sa akin
e.Itunuring ko din siyang tunay kong anak, pero hindi tama ang
kanyang ginagawang pananakit.” Paraphrasing
Student to Anak: Ikaw toto, ano ang pakiramdam mo ngayon?
Anak: (tumungo) “Malungkot po, Naawa po ako kay tatay!”
Student to Anak, Nalulungkot ka po ba at naaawa sa iyong tatay,
Tama ba?
Anak: (tumango lamang) Validating
Student: Sa tingin po ba ninyo na tama lamang po na nakulong
ang inyong asawa,?
Client: “Sa tingin ko naman po kasi kailangan po niyang Attending behavior
madala baka po kasi may pag-asa pa siyang magbago.”
(nakangiti na medyo malungkot ang mata) Empathetic understanding,
Student: Kayo po Nanay, ano po sa tingin ninyo? Unconditional positive regard, and
Nanay: “Tama lamang sa kanya ang makulong.” Congruence
Student: Ikaw Toto?
Anak: “hindi ko po alam e!” (malungkot na tilang paiyak na)
Student: Nasa saan na po si sir ngayon?
Client: “Nakakulong siya ngayon.” (mahina ang boses)
Student: Ahhh, ano po ang pakiramdam ninyo ngayong
nakakulong ang inyong asawa?
Client: “Malungkot ko dahil siyempre po mahal ko ang aking
asawa at mayroon po kaming dalawang anak,pero pakiramdam
ko po nabunutan po ako ng tinik. Pakiramdan ko para akong
isang ibon na nakawala sa hawla. Nawala po aking aking takot.
Pakiramdam ko nakahinga ako ng maluwag.”
Student: Ikaw po nanay,ano po ang inyong pakiramdam? Active listening, attending
Nanay: “Malungkot, pero para akong nabunutan ng tinik,kasi behavior, reflecting of feelings &
wala ng mananakit sa aking anak”. thoughts
Student: ano po ang sinabi sa inyo ng inyong anak tungkol sa
pagkakakulong ng kanilang ama? Open-ended questioning
Client: “Sabi po nila, sinusuportahan po nila ang aking
desisyon,bagamat naaawa sila sa kanilang ama,dapat daw po
na makulong siya dahil sobra na daw po ang ginagawa sa
akin?”
Student: Ahhh, wala po silang sama ng loob sa inyo?
Client: “hindi ko nga po alam, dahil simula ng nakulong ang Active listening
kanilang ama, hindi na po sila nag-usisa, at ang aking bunso po
ay nagpapaalam sa akin na kung pwede daw naming siyang
dalawin doon.”
Student: Nakadalaw na po ba kayo kay sir?
Client: “Hindi pa po kasi dalawamg araw pa lng po naman siya
nakakulong.”
Student: May plano po ba kayong dalawin si sir sa kulungan?
Client: “Opo,kasi po mahal ko naman po siya at hindi naman po Active listening, attending
nawala iyon. Pero kailangan ko po siyang bigyan ng leksyon behavior, reflecting of feelings &
upang maisip niya ang kanyang maling ginawa sa akin.” thoughts
Anak: “Opo dadalaw po ako kay tatay! (nakangiti).”
Student: Ahhh…may plano po ba kayong ilabas siya sa
kulungan?
Client: “Sa ngayon po ay hindi ko pa po alam ang aking
magiging aksyon,pero sinabihan ko din nman po ang aking
biyenan at mga hipag sa sitwasyon ng anak at kanilang kapatid.
Alam naman nila ang nagawa sa akin ng aking asawa. Ang
mahalaga ngayon ay hindi na ako nangangamba pa na
masasaktan ako muli at nakahinga na ako dahil naiiwas ko na
ang aking mga anak sa ganung sitwasyon. Ayoko matulad sila
sa akin.”
Student: Mam, naiintindihan ko po ang inyong nararamdaman
bagama’t kami po ay mga estudyante pa lamang ipinapaabot po
namin sa inyo ang amin pong pang-unawa at pagmamahal
bilang pagpapasalamat po sa pagbabahagi po ng inyong kwento
sa akin, at maging sa aking mga kagrupo. Nandito po si mam Showing empathy
Emy ang inyong VAWC officer upang tumugon sa inyong
usaping pang pamilya. Muli po nagpapasalamat po kami sa iyo
sa pabbibigay ng oras upang kayo ay mainterview. Makakaasa
po kayo na ang inyong ipinagtapat sa amin ay sa aming grupo
lamang po, wala pong makakaalam nito maliban po sa ming
propesor dahil po ito ay isusubmit namin sa kanya bilang aming
final project. Kami po ay humahanga sa inyong katatagan at Confidentiality
pagmamahal bilang isang ina sa inyong mga anak.
Maraming Salamat po at nawa po ay bigyan po kayo ng gabay
ng ating panginoon upang mapagtagumpay at mabigyan ng
tamang solusyon sa inyong problemang hinaharap ngayon. Praising
Maraming Salamat po…
Client: “Maraming Salamat din po sa inyo.” Ended interview with giving a
positive message.
VI. Appendices