PERDEV ATTRACTION AND ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP – understanding the dynamics of Romantic Relationship – occur after you have experienced
attraction, love and commitment, as well as learn their expressions. emotional closeness with members of the opposite sex.

Teenage Relationship – what you had feel when you were still a Attraction – may initially describe a feeling of attraction or
child. something that draws them to become closer to another person.

Intimate or close Relationship – self-disclosure and capacity to trust - You like or are fond of someone because of characteristics
others. that you really admire.
- You call the object of this attraction as your “crush”.
FRIENDSHIP
Crush – having a crush is like having an inspiration.
- Relationship between two or more people.
- More mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing. - But it can become a distraction.
- Spend more time with your peers.
- Emotional Investment is also great at this stage. Positive Expressions – smiling by your self when you see your
- Look at your friends as confidants (or people whom you can crush, become more encourage to do well in class, or talk to a
share your thoughts and feelings). friend and share your feelings.

3 TYPES OF FRIENDSDHIP DURING ADOLESCENCE Not Normal Expressions – can no longer sleep and concentrate
on your tasks because you tend to think to much.
1. Acquaintances – you join only in a while or occasionally.
2. Companions – where you share same interests through Romantic Relationship – commonly observed among
regular interactions. adolescents.
3. Intimates or Best friends – you give and receive opinions - Love, emotional involvement, and intimacy are more
and support. transparent among girls because of their early sexual
2 types of Peer Groups development.

1. Cliques – composed of smaller members (4-6 members). THREE (3) PHASES OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
2. Crowds – larger peer group (10-20 members). 1. Discovery of interest – through socialization with potential
romantic partner.
2. Dating – way of getting to know each other. SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP IN MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE
3. Commitment – adolescents think about survival and growth
in their relationship with others. The Role of Different Individuals in Society

Love – loving another person begins with liking or being Community leaders – they organize activities for the welfare of
attracted. the youth, parents, senior citizens, and other members of the
community.
- Experience special type of feeling when they are engaged in
romantic relationship. Leadership – relationship among leaders and followers.

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE AND COMMITMENT 3 LEADERSHIP STYLES

Love is a Choice – You express your love for another person not 1. Autocratic Leadership – centralizes in authority. Derives
because you are forced to do so, but because you have decided power from the position, controls rewards and uses
to share yourself with other person. coercion to make his or her group members follow.
- Make all the decisions themselves.
Love involves trust and commitment – should have confidence 2. Democratic Leadership – delegates authority to others, asks
such that even if you do not see each other, your partner for suggestions, and discusses plans with members.
remains faithful to you. - Take an active role in the decision-making process but they
involve others.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE IN A RELATIONSHIP 3. Laissez-faire Leadership – leave the group to its own
1. Clarify your boundaries – setting clear limits is essential in capacity to finish its tasks.
personal relationships. - Have an attitude of trust and reliance on their employees.
2. Learn to communicate – ability to express your thoughts - Have very little involvement in decision-making, mostly
and feelings. leaving everything up to their team.
3. Invest in an “emotional bank account” – amount of trust Personality traits – important indicators of their effectiveness.
that we invest in our relationship.
4. Learn to forgive others – means starting all over again and STUDY OF THE BIG FIVE PERSONALITY DIMENSIONS
not dwelling on past negative experiences.
5. Consult professionals – do not hesitate to talk to a teacher, 1. Extraversion/Surgency – if you’re an outgoing, talkative and
your adviser, or your guidance counselor. sociable person, your extraversion may be high.
 2. Agreeableness – your liability. Your capability to get along Blended Families or Stepfamilies – a couple living with at least
with the people around you. on child from his/her previous relationship.
3. Conscientiousness – being responsible, dependable, and
goal-oriented. Adoptive Family – couple who wants to take good care of a
4. Emotional stability – predictor of effective leadership child born to others commits legally to raise and provide for a
because it is the ability to stay calm and deal with his or her child.
emotions during stressful and difficult times. Single-parent Family – either the father or mother takes good
5. Intellect/Openness to experience – have to be creative and care of one more children, which may have resulted from the
willing to learn new ideas. death of the partner, separation, or lack of marriage.

PARENTING STYLES
FAMILY STRUCTURE AND LEGACIES Authoritative Child-rearing Technique
Family – source of love and strength. - Use of positive reinforcement and seldom use punishment.
- Asocial institution that has certain important roles for the - Parents guide their children through tapping their feelings
society. and capabilities.
- Allow the child to be independent but within reasonable
Family is a group of people who are related by marriage, blood, limits.
or adoption, live together and share in the finances of its
members. – Thomas, 2010 PERMISSIVE OR INDULGENT CHILD-REARING TEACHNIQUE

FAMILY STRUCTURES - Parents give their children what they like.

- SPOILED
Nuclear or Traditional Family – unit comprising two or more
persons related by birth, marriage, adoption, or choice bound UNINVOLVED CHILD-REARING TECHNIQUE
by socio-emotional ties. - Parents do not respond to their children’s needs
Extended Family – includes your grandparents, aunt, uncle, or HANDLING FAMILY STRESSORS AND MAINTAINING HEALTHY
cousins. FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
 1. Addition of a family member – involves changes in the
family boundaries to make a room to the new family
members.
2. Loss of a family members – attachment to the dead
member constitutes the impact of the said stressor.
3. Sudden and Unexpected Changes in the family – make you
feel uneasy, worried, and at times, frightened.
4. Ongoing conflict in the family – having quarrels with your
siblings can be emotionally draining.
5. Taking good care of a sick family member – takes up your
family energies, money, and time. It means lesser time to
study and fewer chances to hang out with your friends.
6. Family experiences demoralizing events – includes job loss,
poverty, scandal, family violence, mental illness, alcoholism,
drug abuse or suicide.
7. Daily family hassles – one significant stressor for parents is
balancing their work with the demands of their important
roles in the family.

Genogram – representation of your family tree that makes use of

graphs and symbols.