What makes you ‘you’?

PERSONALITY
&
SELF
Bibhas Sen
LEARNING OBJECTIVES
• Concept of Personality

• Personality types

• Identify your and other’s personality types

• Who am I?

• Self-development
WHAT IS PERSONALITY?
Latin term Persona means “Mask”,

1.
Personality is a unique combination of
characteristics or qualities that form an
individual's distinctive character and which you
build over time.
Natural and Adopted styles
• Partly by our genes

• Rest: We are mostly the sum of our experiences.

o0-5/7 yrs (Imprint Period)

o 7-21 yrs
Imprinting the Values and Beliefs
‘Plug and Play’ dolls in the Imprint Period
• Why?
You ask a lot of questions, but you DON’T Question the Answers

Who moulded you?

1. Parent:
- How did they learn the skills of parenting?
- The mistakes committed for the first child are never
repeated.
Imprinting the Values and Beliefs
Who moulded you?

2. Teachers
-What is their attention ratio?
- It’s their job!

3. Media
- The Baby seater
- Who runs media?
- GIGO
Imprinting the Values and Beliefs
Who moulded you?

4. Your buddies

- Blind leading the Blind

We all learned through experiences and are

influenced by environmental circumstances.
What is your Market Value?

Personality determines how

the market perceives a
person and is different from
a person’s true identity.
Can we know our
Personality Types?
Marston’s DISC-Analysis D I S C
◦Marston´s DiSC method to
measure four basic aspects of
behaviour that are important for
our survival.

William Moulton Marston

(1893-1947)
◦Illuminates natural behaviour
and adapted behaviour.
The Colour Language Dominance – Red

◦As early as the Influence – Yellow

1920s, Marston
coded four basic
aspects of Stability – Green
behaviour.

Compliance – Blue
Let’s get our Personality Type…
Now, transfer your answers over to the Scoring
Sheet. Total up each column.

1 3 2 0
INTERPRETING
VARIOUS

2.
PERSONALITY
TRAITS
DiSC model Unfriendly environment:
sees challenges, obstacles
and potential pitfalls.
•Individual’s
perception: Weaker: Stronger:
can achieve can
one’s goals achieve
1. Environment: friendly or by following one’s goals
unfriendly. set rules or through
through willpower or
cooperating friendly
2. Individual: stronger or with others. persuasion.
weaker than the
environment. Friendly environment:
sees the fun, warm
relationships and
opportunities to succeed.
D The Red behaviour

Dominance

Daring, decisive, direct,

and driven.
A red person often asks
“When?”

Most important: Results!

i The Yellow behaviour

Influence
Imaginative, influential,
intuitive and inspirational.
A yellow person often
asks “Who?”

Most important:
Communication!
S The Green behaviour

Stability

Sincere, steadfast,
sympathetic and satisfied.
A green person often asks
“WHY”?

Most important:
RELATIONSHIPS!
C THE BLUE behaviour

Compliance
Cautious, critical, concise,
and consistent.
A blue person often
asks “HOW”?

Most important:
STRUCTURE!
Let’s summarize
our Personality
Types…
How these types act! Thinking/logic
Correctional

Quality checking Decisive

Gather information Transact
Organise Give feedback

Proactive
Reactive
Coordinate Encourage
Evaluate Communicate
Create harmony Express feelings

Co-operate

Feeling/intuition
How do YOU perceive YOURSELF?
• Looks for facts • Powerful
• Knowledgeable • Energetic
• Systematic • Creative
• Diplomatic • Goal oriented
• Reflective • Strong-willed

• Encouraging • Full of vitality

• Co-operative • Confident
• Good listener • Generous
• Composed • Inspiring
• Loyal • Open
Typical expressions

Do the right
thing!
Let´s do things right! Do it now!

If it´s worth Let’s do

doing, let´s something
do it right! new!

Everybody has to take part! Let’s have fun!

Everybody
has to be in
agreement!
PUZZLE
How to know the
personality type of
your colleague or
your boss?
Look for…
Look for…
Look for…
Look for…
Personality vs. True Self

If my personality is the ‘FACE

VALUE’ of me,
then,
What is my ‘TRUE IDENTITY’?
Who the Hell Are You Then?
Your Authentic Self
is a capsule of
memories, values,
emotions, feelings,
thoughts,
creativity,
philosophies, and
dreams.
Sense of BEING:

Your Sense of SELF:

(1) how you are physically in the world (Body),

(2) how you think within the world (Mind), and
(3) how you feel in response to the world and your
presence within it (Soul/Heart).

-Ramsay (2021)
Sense of Self

Your internal sense of ‘who you are’ —physically,

emotionally, socially, spiritually, and in terms of
any other aspects that make up who you are.
-Neill (2005)
 Importance of Self-clarity and Self-
awareness in WORK PLACE

◦ Understanding yourself make you more

efficient in your work

◦ Enhances our understanding of how & why you

adapt in your work role-in which situations, and
with whom.
YOU only know who YOU are!

• NOBODY should tell you who you are!

• And, it’s dangerous for you to develop your

self-concept of other people’s perceptions of
you.
Which self of yours is battling today?

The 3 facets of SELF that we battle with

everyday:

1.Self-esteem (आत्म-सम्मान)
2.Self-worth (आत्म-मल्
ू य)
3.Self-concept (स्व-अवधारणा)
How Your ‘Self’ Is Getting in Your Way?
1. Self-esteem: Impression you think you make!

• Crucial for living an emotionally stable,

mature life.

• Dependent upon the quality of things

you produce: physique, talents, career,
children

• And, Comparison with others.

Know Your Value without comparing
2. Self-worth: Who you fundamentally are, rather
than what you do in life.

• Understanding your true, authentic

identity can only be built on the facts of
who you are…It’s a life-long journey of
exploration…

Only you can force yourself to feel the way you

do.
Developing a Self-concept
3. Self-conception: an idealized
vision of what you wish that you
could become.

• If you don’t have a self-conception

to work towards, you end up not
trying anything in life!

Many people have lofty self-concepts of their

future selves, yet very few commit to becoming
that person.
The Gaping GAP

Who You Want to Be

Who You Are

People often fall into the cycle of chasing their idealized

selves rather than working on the issues they’re
struggling with.
How Reduce the GAP?

The processes involve:

• Evaluations of ourselves
• Comparisons with our ideal selves
• Actions to move closer to our ideal selves

- (Munoz, 2012)
Evaluate Your Values and Beliefs
Values and Beliefs are imprinted on YOU as a child!

Check on these:
• Money
• Family
• Honesty
• Hard work
• Trust
Evaluate Your Values and Beliefs

• Politics
• Religion

• Nature of Man?

Much of what We believe is actually Delusion

Evaluate Your Values and Beliefs

The ‘Table’ Problem

Mental Programming
Values and Beliefs influence 95% in all OUR
actions.

“ Born to succeed and programmed to fail”, when you are

not steering your life

It is learned and so, can

be ‘RE-LEARNED’.
 Our Evaluations of Ourselves
DEPROGRAMMING begins with SELF-EXPLORATION

The issues to sort out:

• How do I know my PERSPECTIVE is accurate?

• Based on what TRUTH or PRINCIPLES, I

structure my thinking?
Best Step for a Life Worth Living

An individual’s self-concept is the core of

his/her personality. …... A strong, positive
self-image is the best possible preparation
for success in life.

- Joyce Brothers
Self-grooming:
: Presenting a better version of yourself

◦ Explore yourself

◦ Find the Values in yourself

◦ Learn to Monitor your own ‘self’

Self-grooming:
: Presenting a better version of yourself

◦ Express who you are!

◦ Be Original: Your story is unique.
◦ Be composed, and have patience in trying
times!
◦ “Let it be… This shall too pass”
Good Luck!