Thself1 Notes
Thself1 Notes
LESSON 1: PHILOSOPHY
PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY
➢ A personal philosophy can help you align your mental processes with your values,
objectives, and overarching life vision.
➢ It’s the first step to being your highest self and living in accordance with your truth.
➢ It affects everything you do and say, including the words you use, your actions, and what
you buy and don’t buy at the store.
➢ People have different methods of conceptualizing philosophies.
SOCRATES
● “Know Thyself”
➢ The examining life is considered as not worth living, humans must try to seek
their purpose and value.
➢ Definition of the self: the self is an immortal soul which exists over time.
➢ The self is also the source of all knowledge. Individual experience is important
when you want to know yourself. Hence to truly know about something you must
understand its essence.
➢ View of reality: reality is dualistic
1. PHYSICAL REALM
➢ It is constantly changing, transient and imperfect. (ex.the physical
body)
2. IDEAL REALM
➢ It is considered as unchanging, eternal and immortal (ex. the soul
true goodness and beauty).
PLATO
● “The three parts self: genuine happiness can be achieved when REASON is in control of
SPIRIT and APPETTIES”
➢ The Three part self:
1. REASON
➢ It enables the individual to think deeply, make choices and
achieve true understanding.
2. PHYSICAL APPETITE
➢ This refers to basic biological needs such as thirst, hunger and
sexual desire.
3. SPIRIT OR PASSION
➢ This refers to basic emotions like love, anger, aggressiveness and
empathy.
ST. AGUSTIN
● “The self is an immortal soul which exists over time”
➢ Relationship of body and the soul.
➔ He considers the body as a slave to the soul.
➔ Then he alter his view that “the soul makes war with the body”
➔ He changed it again into “the body as the spouse of the soul” with both
attached to one another by a natural appetite.
➔ He finally concluded that “the body is united with the soul so that man
maybe entire and complete”.
DESCARTES
● “I think therefore i am”
➢ To arrive at knowledge, human must use their thinking abilities( investigate,
analyze, experiment and develop well-reasoned conclusions).
➢ Relationship of body and the soul.
➔ Definition of the self: the self is a thinking thing, distinct from the body.
➔ dualistic view of the self.
➔ The thinking self( or soul):The physical body is a material, mortal, non-
thinking entity governed by the physical laws of nature.
● RATIONALIST VIEW
➢ Reasoning ability provides the origin of knowledge.
● RATIONALISM
➢ the view that reason is the primary source of all knowledge
and that only our reasoning abilities can enable us to
understand Sense experience and reach accurate
conclusions.
JOHN LOCKE
● “Personal identity is made possible by self-consciousness”
➢ Knowledge and reason
➔ Knowledge is based on the careful observation of sense experience/ or
more of experiences.
➔ Reason is a vital element in making meaning out of the sense experience
of a person.
● EMPIRICISM
➢ The view that sense experience is the primary source of all
knowledge and that only a careful attention to sense
experience can enable us to understand the world and
achieve accurate conclusions.
● EMPIRICIST VIEW
➢ All knowledge originates in our direct SENSE
EXPERIENCE.
HUME
● “There is no self!”
➢ there is no self, only a bundle of constantly changing perceptions passing through
the theater of our minds.
1. IMPRESSIONS
➢ The basic sensation of our experience, the elementalData of our
minds: pain, pleasure, heat, cold, happiness, grief, fear etc. these
impressions are “lively” and “vivid”.
2. IDEAS
➢ Ideas include thoughts and images that are built up from our
primary impressions through a variety of relationships.
KANT
● “We construct the self”
➢ The self is a unifying subject, an organizing consciousness that makes
understandable experience possible.
➔ The main activity sorts, organizes, relates and synthesizes the raw data.
➔ it is yourself that is actively organizing all your sensations and thoughts
into a picture that makes sense to you.
➔ your world according to your terms! ergo, we construct the self!.
FREUD
● “The self is multi-layered”
➢ The three layers of Self:
1. ID
➢ It is motivated entirely by the PLEASURE PRINCIPLE.
➢ it has no sense of logic, time, or self-preservation.
➢ Its only resource is to form wish-fulfilling mental images of
desired objects.
2. EGO
➢ It begins to develop out of the ID at about 6 to 8 months.
➢ it operates in accordance with the logical and self-preservative
secondary process.
➢ The ego is motivated by the REALITY PRINCIPLE.
➢ The ego is the locus of all emotions, including anxiety and tries to
keep the ID under control by using various defense mechanism
( repression, denial, rationalization, displacement etc.)
3. SUPEREGO
➢ It begins to developOut of the ego at about age 3 to 5 years.
➢ It is partly conscious and unconscious.
➢ it includes standards or right and wrong.
➢ The superego results from parental standards.
➢ it operates under the MORALITY PRINCIPLE.
RYLE
● “The self is the way people behave”
➢ Concrete evidence of how the mind works and functions.
➢ The self is defined in terms of what is presented to the world.
➢ what the mind wills,It is the body that executes it.
➢ The self is better understood as a pattern of behavior, the Tendency for a person
to behave in a certain way.
CHURCHLAND
● “ the self is the brain”
➢ Mental states will be superseded by the brain states.
➢ The physical states ( health of our bodies, the food we ingest, the experiences we
endure)Have an impact on our mental and emotional functioning.
➢ the emotional and mental states likewise impact on our physical conditions (ex.
stress, depression, psychosomatic disorder)
➢ To understand the nature of the mind, we have to fully understand the nature of
the brain.
MERLUAU-PONTY
● “The self is embodied subjectivity”
➢ “I live in my body”
➔ Everything that we are aware of is contained within our own
consciousness.
➔ consciousness is a dynamic form responsible for actively structuring our
conscious ideas and physical behavior.
➔ For him, perception was the source of knowledge and has to be studied
before the conventional sciences.
LESSON 2: SOCIOLOGY
SOCIOLOGY
➢ Is the study of form norms, beliefs and values exist within person to a degree where these
become natural and normal, thus, developing the person's identity (Elweell,2003).
➢ Is the study of social life, social change, and the social Causes and consequences Of
human behavior.
MODERNIZATION
➢ Has significantly changed society and this has affected how individual builds and
develops his/ her “identity”.
➢ Has improved people's living conditions; a person in the modern society is free to choose
where to live, what to do, and who to be with.
➢ The self is dislocated and deracinated from its traditional attachment to the community.
❖ DELOCALIZATION
➢ The self is released from time honored traditions and communal
attachments and faces infinite possibilities (i.e. free to seek its own
identity).
SOCIAL NETWORK
➢ Refers to the ties or connection that link you to your social group.
➢ Example: the connection you have with your family is your blood relation, the connection
you have with your barkada is your friendship.
LESSON 3:ANTHROPOLOGY
ANTHROPOLOGY
➢ Anthropology is the systematic study of humanity, with the goal of understanding our
evolutionary origins, are distinctiveness as a species, and the great diversity in our form
of social existence across the world and through time.
➢ The focus of anthropology is on understanding both our shared humanity and diversity
and engage with diverse ways of being in the world.
ELEMENTS OF CULTURE
1. SYMBOLS
➢ Every culture is filled with symbols or things that stand for something else and
that often evolved various reactions nonverbal communication (Guesstures and
movements), while other symbols are in fact material objects.
2. LANGUAGE
➢ The most important set of symbols is language. It is crucial to communication and
thus to any society's culture.
3. NORM
➢ Cultures differ widely in their norms or standards and expectations for behaving.
A. FORMAL NORMS
➢ Also called mores(MOOR-ayz) and laws refers to the standards of
behavior considered the most important in any society.
B. INFORMAL NORMS
➢ also called folkways and customs, refer to standards of behavior
that are considered less important but still influence how we
behave.
4. RITUALS
➢ different cultures also have different rituals, or established procedures and
ceremonies . often mark transitions in the life course. as such rituals both reflect
and transmit a culture's norms and other elements from one generation to the next.
5. VALUES
➢ Values are another important element of culture and involve judgment of what is
good or bad and desirable or undesirable. A culture’s values shape its norms.
6. ARTIFACTS
➢ The last element of culture is the artifacts or material objects that constitute a
society's material culture.
PSYCHOLOGICAL PERSPECTIVE
1. Cognitive Theory
2. Harter’s self Development Concept
3. Me-self, I-self
4. Personality Development and the Self concept
5. The Ego State
PSYCHOLOGY
➢ Is the scientific study of how people behave, think and feel.
➢ Some of the focus of psychology are how the brain works, how the memory is organized
how people interact with groups and how children learn about the world.
JEAN PIAGET
➢ He pioneered the “theory of cognitive development”.
➢ COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT
➔ Is a progressive reorganization and mental processes resulting from biological
maturation and environmental experience.
➢ 3 basic components of Piaget’s cognitive theory.
● SCHEMA
➢ The building blocks of knowledge.
➢ schemas are mental organizations that individuals use to understand their
environment and designate action.
➢ For example a child may have a scheme about a type of animal such as a dog if
the children soul experience has been with small dogs a child might believe that
all dogs are small airway and have four legs suppose then that the child
encounters an enormous dog the child will take in this new information modifying
the previously existing schema to include these new observations.
● ADAPTATION
A. ASSIMILATION
➢ The process of taking in new information into our already existing
schemas is known as assimilation.
➢ The process is somewhat subjective because we tend to modify
experiences and information slightly to fit in with our pre-existing beliefs.
B. ACCOMMODATION
➢ Another part of adaptation is the ability to change existing schemas in
light of new information; this process is also known as accommodation.
➢ new schemas may also be developed during this process.
● STAGES OF COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT
➢ They reflect the increasing sophistication of the child's thought process.
1. SENSORIMOTOR (0-2 YRS OLD)
➢ The child learns by doing: looking, sucking , touching. object
performance emerges.
➢ In Piaget's theory, the sensorimotor stage occurs first, and is
defined as the period when infants ”think” by means of their senses
and motor actions.
➢ As every new parent will at test infants continually manipulate,
look, listen to and even bright and chew objects.
➢ According to Piaget, this Action allows children to learn about the
world and are crucial to their early cognitive development.
2. PREOPERATIONAL (2-7 YRS OLD)
➢ The child uses language and symbols.
➢ In the preoperational stage, children use their new ability to
represent objects in a wide variety of activities, but they do not yet
do it in ways that are organized or fully logical.
➢ One of the most obvious examples of this kind of cognitive is
dramatic play or the improvised make-believe of preschool
children.
➢ if you have ever had responsibility for children of this age you
have likely weakness such play.
3. CONCRETE OPERATIONS(7-11 YRS OLD)
➢ The child demonstrates conservation, reversibility, serial Ordering,
understanding of cause and effect.
➢ As children continue into elementary school they become able to
represent ideas and events more flexibly and logically.
➢ The rules of thinking still seem very basic by adult standards and
usually operate unconsciously but they allow children to solve
problems more systematically than before and therefore to be
successful with many academic tasks.
➢ In the concrete operational stage for example a child me and
consciously follow the rule “if nothing is added or taken away then
the amount of something stays the same”.
4. FORMAL OPERATIONS (12+)
➢ The individual demonstrates abstract thinking (ex.ability to
understand hypothetical situations).
➢ In the last stage, the child becomes able to reason not only about
tangible objects and events, but also about hypothetical or abstract
ones. Hence, it has the name formal operational stage-The period
when the individual can “operate” on “forms” or representations.
➢ Which students at this level the teacher can post hypothetical
problems: “what if the world had never discovered oil?: or “what if
the sea wasn't blue?” to answer such questions student must use
hypothetical reasoning meaning that they must manipulated ideas
that vary in several ways at once and do so entirely in their minds.
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MIDTERM
WESTERN CULTURE
➔ People in the west are more open minded than those in the east.
➔ The westerns are more open and forthright.
➔ For example, topics such as the birth of a child and sex are still taboo in some eastern
countries.
➔ People in the west are also more open about their feelings.
➔ if they are angry they might express themselves but people in the east might cover it for
the sake of diplomacy and politeness.
➔ westerners may also display their feelings and emotions in public.
➔ Moreover, the individual is given preference over family, so a person has more freedom
and power to take decisions on his own, unlike those in the east.
➔ therefore, Concepts like arranged marriage are not common in the west; they marry for
love.
● CONFUCIANISM
➔ The quest for the self in terms of the substance of spirit, of body, or exist ( the
qualities that form a person's character are not something that exist inherently, it
is something that is formed through upbringing and the environment).
➔ Personality ( in the confucian perception) is an achieved date of moral excellence
rather than a given human condition.
➔ the confucian concept embedded within the family and society, and it is only in
the context that the self comes to be what it is.
➔ Confucianism is a philosophy and belief system from ancient China, which laid
the foundation for much of Chinese culture. Confucius was a philosopher and
teacher who lived from 551 to 479 B.C.E. His thoughts on ethics, good behavior,
and moral character were written down by his disciples in several books.
➔ Confucianism believes in ancestor worship and human-centered virtues for living
a peaceful life. The golden rule of Confucianism is "Do not do unto others what
you would not want others to do unto you."
● TAOISM
➔ rejects a hierarchical view of the self, society or cosmos.
➔ Unlike Confucianism, Taosim does not regard the 'self' as an extension of social
relationship.
➔ Rather, the 'self' is but one of the countless manifestation of the Tao.
➔ It is an extension of the cosmos (or the universe seen as a well- ordered whole).
➔ According to Chuang-tzu, "The perfect man has no self; the spiritual man has no
achievement; the true sage has no name." The ideal is SELFLESSNESS.
➔ Meaning of Yin Yang Symbol
❖ YANG
➢ male energy active
➢ Light
➢ Dominating
➢ Strong
➢ Movement
➢ Hot
➢ expanding
❖ YIN
➢ female energy
➢ Passive
➢ intuitive
➢ Creative
➢ dark
➢ stillness
➢ Cold
➢ contracting
➔ Taoism (also spelled Daoism) is a religion and a philosophy from ancient China
that has influenced folk and national belief.
➔ Taoism has been connected to the philosopher Lao Tzu, who around 500 B.C.E.
wrote the main book of Taoism, the Tao Te Ching.
➔ Taoism holds that humans and animals should live in balance with the Tao, or the
universe.
➔ Taoists believe in spiritual immortality, where the spirit of the body joins the
universe after death.
● ISLAM
➔ The Arabic word for the word 'self' is Nafs written in the Holy Qu'ran.
➔ It pertains to the psyche (the totality of the conscious and unconscious human
mind) or the soul.
➔ The Qu'ran does not ascribe any property of goodness or evil to the 'nafs/self'.
➔ Instead, the 'nafs' is something that has to be nurtured and self-regulated so that it
can progress into becoming "good" through its thoughts and actions.
➔ Islam, major world religion promulgated by the Prophet Muhammad in Arabia in
the 7th century CE.
➔ The Arabic term islām, literally"surrender," illuminates the fundamental religious
idea of Islam-that the believer (called a Muslim, from the active particle of islām)
accepts surrender to the will of Allah (in Arabic, Allah: God).
➔ Allah is viewed as the sole God-creator, sustainer, and restorer of the world. The
will of Allah, to which human beings must submit, is made known through the
sacred scriptures, the Qur'an (often spelled Koran in English), which Allah
revealed to his messenger, Muhammad.
A. COLLECTIVISM
➔ Collectivism refers to the extent that we value our duty to groups to which we
belong, and to group harmony.
➔ Highly collectivist people define themselves by their group membership and value
harmonious relationships within those groups.
B. INDIVIDUALISM
➔ Individualism refers to the extent that you value independence and personal
uniqueness.
➔ Highly individualist people value personal freedom, self-sufficiency, control over
their lives, and appreciation of the unique qualities that distinguish them from
others.
PRENATAL STAGES
● Stages:
1.
➔ begins when the ovum is penetrated by a sperm in the fallopian tube and
begins its journey, as a zygote (the single-celled organism formed from the
union of the egg and sperm).
➔ zygote travels down to the uterus where it gets implanted, happens during
the 1st two weeks together with the formation of the placenta (the sac
which envelopes the developing baby allows nutrients, oxygen, and waste
materials to pass from the mother to baby via the umbilical cord).
2. Embryonic
➔ occurs during the 2nd-8th week of pregnancy and the developing cell is
now called an embryo.
➔ major organs and body systems begin to develop: respiratory, digestive,
and nervous system.
➔ This is a critical stage in prenatal development because teratogens can
harm the developing embryo.
➔ teratogens are external agents such as radiation and drugs which can harm
the embryo.
3. Fetal
➔ covers the 9th week to the 38th week of pregnancy.
➔ End of 12th week all are already formed and in proportion to the fetus,
though some organ systems are still not fully functional.
➔ 12th week: increased activity in the womb such as a slight kicking and
fluttering of the infant known as quickening.
➔ vision is the last to develop during this stage. On average, babies acquire
full sense of sight around six months after birth.
TERATOGEN
➔ is any agent that causes an abnormality following fetal exposure during
pregnancy.
➔ Common teratogens include some medications, recreational drugs,
tobacco products, chemicals, alcohol, certain infections, and in some
cases, uncontrolled health problems in the birthing parent. Alcohol is a
well-known teratogen that can cause harmful effects on the fetus after
exposure at any time during pregnancy.
PRENATAL DEVELOPMENT
● Stage 1: Zygote
➔ First 2 Weeks
➔ First week- 100 cells
➔ Specialization of cells begin
➔ Placenta begins to form
● Stage 2: Embryo
➔ 2-8 weeks
➔ Heart starts to beat
➔ Most vulnerable to teratogens
● Stage 3: Fetus
➔ 8-40 weeks
➔ Feet, hands have formed
➔ Facial features are forming
GENES
➔ The basic biochemical units of heredity. Genes are reproduced and
passed along from parents to their children.
CHROMOSOMES
➔ are threadlike structures found in every cell of your body, except in red
blood cells. All chromosomes contain strands of the molecule
deoxyribonucleic acid, or DNA.
Some findings:
● Body image dissatisfaction is correlated with eating disorders such Anorexia
(characterized by self-induced weight loss) and Bulimia (eating excessively and then
forcing oneself to vomit)
● Filipino youth have a healthy body image.
● Smell is an important part of the attraction to certain women.
PUBERTY
➔ During the childhood years, physical growth slowly progresses but by the time young
people reach the adolescence stage, rapid growth and development begin to take place.
➔ In adolescents, this happens during the onset of puberty - the physical process that
happens from 10 to 18 years old.
➔ Puberty is derived from the Latin word "pubescere" which means "to grow hairy."
➔ During adolescence, a rapid growth spurt happens: rapid increments in height, weight
gain and sexual maturity are observed.
➔ Thus, it is the endocrine system which figures prominently during adolescence stage.
➔ The endocrine system is responsible for hormone production in the body.
Puberty is marked by the activation of the hypothalamus-pituitary- gonadal system thus a
biological revolution is taking place:
● LEPTIN
➔ a hormone produced by fat cells in the body triggers the hypothalamus to produce
Gonadotrophin - a hormone responsible for pubertal changes.
● PITUITARY GLAND
➔ , also known as the master gland, is responsible for growth.
● Significantly, hormone levels begin to rise during adolescence
A. Females:
➔ Estrogens are especially important, for the maturation of the uterus,
ovaries, and fallopian tubes.
➔ Progesterone plays an important role in regulating menstruation and
preparing the uterus for a fertilized egg.
B. Males:
➔ Androgens, especially testosterone, are important in the maturation of the
penis and testes, and they enhance sexual feelings.
● Growth of testicles and scrotal sac ● Maturation of the uterus, ovaries and
Nocturnal emissions/spermarche fallopian tubes Onset of
menstruation/menarche
● Growth of testicles and scrotal sac ● Maturation of the uterus, ovaries and
Nocturnal emissions/spermarche fallopian tubes Onset of
menstruation/menarche
● Initial testicular growth (age 11.75) ● Initial breast development (age 11)
● Early growth of pubic hair (age 12) ● First wisps of pubic hair (age 11.25)
Development of penis begins (age 13) ● Growth spurt (age 12.25)
● Temporary breast development (age ● Breast growth midway (age 12.25)
13) Voice cracking begins (age 13) ● Breast growth mostly completed (age
● Growth spurt (age 13.5) 13)
● Hair in armpits (age 14) ● First menstruation (menarche) (age 13)
● Nocturnal emissions (age 14) ● Pubic hair adult distribution (age
● Adult voice attained (age 15) 14.25)
● Mustache begins to appear (age 15) ● Skeletal growth completed (age 14.25)
● Whiskers appear (age 16) ● Final breast development (age 15.25)
Gender role attitudes determine the distribution of males and females into social roles in
society, and consequently impact individuals' occupational choice, type of role as a worker,
spouse, or parent, and many other aspects in life; on the macro- level they affect work-family
relations and labor force patterns. Gender role ideology falls into three types: traditional,
transitional, and egalitarian. The first reflects the expected differences in roles for men and
women: men should be responsible for livelihood, therefore are more likely to be assigned work-
related roles; women should be responsible for the family, therefore are more likely to be
assigned domestic roles. Egalitarian perceptions hold that roles should not be segregated by
gender. Men and women might hold equal roles at work as well as at home. Transitional
perceptions lie midway between traditional role segregation and egalitarian attitudes.
WHAT IS LOVE?
Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory and The 7 Types of Love
➔ Love can be understood into three components that interact with each other:
A. Passion - refers to the drives that lead to romance, sexual consummation, strong
liking or desire.
B. Intimacy - refers to feelings of familiarity, "bondedness" or connectedness with
another.
C. Commitment - refers to the decision to love another to maintain that love;
connotes responsibility.
NON- LOVE
➔ The kind of relationship where the 3 components are absent.
LIKING
➔ This type of love is when the intimacy or liking component is present, but feelings of
passion or commitment in the romantic sense are missing.
➔ Friendship love can be the root of other forms of love.
INFATUATION
➔ is characterized by feelings of lust and physical passion without liking and commitment.
➔ There has not been enough time for a deeper sense of intimacy, romantic love, or
consummate love to develop.
➔ These may eventually arise after the infatuation phase.
EMPTY LOVE
➔ Empty love is characterized by commitment without passion or intimacy.
➔ At times, a strong love deteriorates into empty love.
➔ The reverse may occur as well.
➔ For instance, an arranged marriage may start out empty but flourish into another form of
love over time.
ROMANTIC LOVE
➔ This bonds people emotionally through intimacy and physical passion.
➔ Partners in this type of relationship have deep conversations that help them know
intimate details about each other.
➔ They enjoy sexual passion and affection.
➔ These couples may be at the point where long-term commitment or future plans are still
undecided.
FATUOUS LOVE
➔ In this type of love, commitment and passion are present while intimacy or liking is
absent.
➔ A whirlwind courtship and marriage that later faces compatibility problems because of
the existence of passion and commitment but without genuine intimacy.
COMPANIONATE LOVE
➔ Companionate love is an intimate, but non- passionate sort of love.
➔ It includes the intimacy or liking component and the commitment component of the
triangle.
➔ It is stronger than friendship, because there is a long-term commitment, but there is
minimal or no sexual desire.
➔ This type of love is often found in marriages where the passion has died, but the couple
continues to have deep affection or a strong bond.
➔ This may also be viewed as the love between very close friends and family members.
CONSUMMATE LOVE
➔ Consummate love is made up of all three components and is the total form of love.
➔ It represents an ideal and encompassing relationship.
➔ Couples who experience this kind of love have great sex several years into their
relationship.
➔ They cannot imagine themselves with anyone else.
They also cannot see themselves truly happy without their partners.
➔ They manage to overcome differences and face stressors together.
The LOVE LANGUAGES by Dr. Gray Chapman
➔ No matter your situation, the five love languages are a highly effective set of tools to
have in your relational toolkit.
➔ When we know what another person's love language is, we can choose the gestures that
will most resonate with our partner, friend, parent, or child.
➔ When we know which actions speak to us and make us feel loved, we can ask other
people for exactly what we need.
1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
➔ Those of us whose love language is words of affirmation prize verbal
connection.
➔ They want to hear you say precisely what you appreciate or admire about
them.
➔ For example: "I really loved it when you made dinner last night"; "Wow,
it was so nice of you to organize that neighborhood bonfire"; or just "I
love you."
❖ Try
● leaving encouraging notes
● creating a playlist of songs that remind you of them
● sharing sentiments for your partners successes and
struggles complimenting them
● words of appreciation
❖ Avoid:
● assuming that they know how loved they are
● assuming that they know you are proud of them
emotionally harsh words
● not recognizing or appreciating their efforts
2. QUALITY TIME
➔ Having another person's undivided, dedicated attention is precious
currency for the people whose love language is quality time.
➔ Make an intentional effort to have Zoom coffee dates or go on distanced
walks.
➔ Put a goo old fashioned phone call each week on the calendar or schedule
an in-house date night - no phones or "I'm just going to turn on the TV for
a second" distractions allowed.
➔ Nothing says "I love you" in quality time language better than them being
the only thing on your agenda.
❖ Try:
● being mentally present. when you are with them
● making plans to explore new places
● uninterrupted time (ex: putting away your phone)
● creating small moments to connect
● quality and deep conversation
❖ Avoid:
● being distracted when you are with them
● viewing your partner as needy
● complaining about time spent together
● preparing for other engagements when you're together
3. RECEIVING GIFTS
➔ Those of us whose love language is gifts aren't necessarily materialistic.
➔ Instead, their tanks are filled when someone presents them with a specific
thing, tangible or intangible, that helps them feel special. Yes, truly, it's
the thought that counts.
4. ACTS OF SERVICE
➔ People whose primary love language is Acts of Service feel your adoration
by the things you do.
➔ Actions that go above and beyond help them feel your love towards them.
➔ Anything that can make your partner feel appreciated or that can help
make their life easier.
➔ The most powerful acts are those that are done spontaneously or without
asking.
➔ Acts that supersede expectations.
❖ Try:
● showing, rather than telling
● following through with what you say you will do assisting
with stressful or time consuming tasks
● looking for small ways to help them (ex: cooking for them,
running a bath, paying for gas)
● being spontaneous (ex: surprising them at work with
flowers)
❖ Avoid:
● ignoring requests for help
● not following through
● being close-minded, like feeding into gender- based
stereotypes when it comes to tasks
5. PHYSICAL TOUCH
➔ The Physical Touch love language is more about intimacy.
➔ It could be holding hands, laying your head on your partner's shoulder, or
simply a hug.
➔ Just like someone might feel loved after reading a note from their partner,
another person may get that same feeling when their partner runs his or
her hand through their hair.
❖ Try:
● offering massages
● initiating intimacy
● making hugs a habit
● non-sexual touch that reminds them of your presence
● putting your arm around them or embracing them
❖ Avoid:
● long periods without intimacy
● coldly giving affection
● waiting for your partner to express their
● desire for physical affection
FINALS
DIGITAL SELF
➢ The self that is constructed online.
➢ The term online identity implies that there is a distinction between how people present
themselves online and how they do offline.
➢ Your online identity is not the same as your real-world identity because the
characteristics you represent online differ from the characteristics you represent in the
physical world.
SELF-PRESENTATION
➢ Self-presentation refers to how people attempt to present themselves to control or shape
how others view them.
➢ Impression management refers to the controlled presentation of information about all
sorts of things, including information about other people or events.
➢ It is the attempt to control or influence other people’s perceptions.
● There are two main motive for attempting to manage the impression of others:
A. INSTRUMENTAL
➢ This motive is to basically gain rewards and increase one’s self-esteem.
B. EXPRESSIVE
➢ This motivation is about attempting to be in control of one’s
personal behavior identity.
DIFFERENT APPROACHES
1. DIGITAL LIMITERS
➢ Minimize the use of the internet, inflexible
2. DIGITAL ENABLERS
➢ Allow youth to use as much internet/ technology use.
3. DIGITAL MENTORS
➢ Play an ACTIVE role in guiding the youth’s use of technology and
internet.
DEMOCRACY
1. Helps prevent cruel and vicious autocrats from ruling;
2. Fosters human development (i.e., health, education, personal income,
and any indicators) more fully than do other forms of government;
3. Helps protect fundamental individual human rights;
4. Provides the maximum opportunity to take moral responsibility for
choices and decisions;
5. Offers a relatively high chance of political equality.
MATERIALISM
➢ is when you put more importance to material possessions than
intangible values. Materialistic people are those who are obsessed with
having material possessions and this is considered as a psychological
disorder which is called as compulsive buying disorder or COD.
CONSUMERISM
➢ is the consumption of material goods and services in excess of one's
basic needs. It is closely tied to materialism. People thought that when
you buy something he or she will be happier. The negative thing about
consumerism is that it encourages people to buy things that they do not
really need.
COMPOSITION O0F MATERIAL SELF
➢ The material self is comprised of our body, clothes, immediate family,
and home.
● BODY
➢ The body is the innermost part of the material Self in each of us,
and certain parts of the body seem more intimately ours than the
rest.
● CLOTHES
➢ The clothes come next. The old saying is that the human person is
composed of three parts - soul, body, and clothes.
➢ Style is symbolic.
● FAMILY
➢ is a part of us. Our father and mother, loved ones, are bone of our
bone and flesh of our flesh. When they die, a part of our very selves
is gone. If they do anything wrong, it is our shame. If they are
insulted, our anger flashes forth as readily as if we stood in their
place.
● HOME
➢ Its scenes are part of our life; its aspects awaken the tenderest
feelings of affection; and we do not easily forgive the stranger who,
in visiting it, finds fault with its arrangements or treats it with
contempt.
ATTACHMENT
➢ Material possession attachment is a multi-faceted property of the
relationship between an individual or group of individuals and a specific
material object that has been psychologically appropriated, de-
commodified, and singularized through person-object interaction.
SPIRITUAL SELF
SPIRITUAL VS RELIGIOUS
SPIRITUAL
➢ Relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material
or physical things.
➢ It leads individuals to a deeper connection with the Divine. It is a path of
direct and personal connection.
➢ A growing body of evidence indicating that spiritual practices are
associated with better health and well-being.
1. Meditation
➢ Mental exercise to reach a heightened level of spiritual awareness.
2. Prayer
➢ Spiritual communion with God (or an object of worship) as in
supplication, thanksgiving, adoration, or confession.
3. Yoga
➢ Hindu: Suppression of all mind and body activity.
➢ Western: System of physical postures, breathing techniques, and
sometimes meditation to promote physical and emotional well-
being
4. Journaling
➢ Contemplative practice that can help you become more aware of
your inner life and feel more connected to your experience
RELIGIOUS
➢ A religious person is someone who believes in a god or group of gods and
consciously adheres to the beliefs of his/her religion.
➢ It is people's way of connecting themselves to God as they search for the
meaning of life.
CATEGORIES
● GODS AND GODDESSES
➢ Great and remote beings who control the universe.
● RELIGIOUS SPECIALISTS
➢ Individuals who supplement the religious practices.
● ANCESTRAL SPIRITS
➢ Former human beings who have been freed from their bodies
because of death.
● SHAMANS
➢ Originally referred to as medical-religious specialists or spiritual
guides; they are also known as traditional healers.
FUNCTIONS OF RELIGION
1. It provides social cohesion to help maintain social solidarity through
shared rituals and beliefs
2. A means of social control to enforce religious-based morals and norms to
help maintain conformity and control in society
3. Offers meaning and purpose to answer any existential questions
ENNUI
➢ The dreadful feeling of bitter disillusionment from the loss of meaning of
their life.
SELF-EFFICACY
➢ Was developed by Albert Bandura
➢ To believe in one's capabilities to organize and execute the courses of
action required to manage prospective situations. More simply, self-
efficacy is what an individual believes he or she can accomplish using his
or her skills under certain circumstances.
MINDSET
1. Fixed mindset:
➢ people believe their qualities are fixed traits and therefore cannot
change. These people document their intelligence and talents
rather than working to develop and improve them. They also
believe that talent alone leads to success, and effort is not
required.
2. Growth mindset:
➢ see their qualities as things that can be developed through their
dedication and effort. They are brainy and talented, but that is just
the starting point. They understand that no one has ever
accomplished great things without years of passionate practice and
learning.
❖ Your fixed beliefs about you will hold you back from making positive
change. If you have a trait that you believe cannot be changed, such as
your intelligence, your weight, or your bad habits, you will avoid
situations that could possibly be uncomfortable or that you think that
are useless.
❖ Four (4) Simple Steps to Begin Changing Mindset:
1. Learn to hear your fixed mindset "voice."
2. Recognize that you have a choice.
3. Talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.
4. Take the growth mindset action.
❖ Angela Duckworth: Grit
➢ A Psychologist from the University of Pennsylvania and is the
world's leading expert on Grit; she devoted her research on the
qualities that lead to success.
➢ Grit is passion and sustained persistence applied toward long-
term achievement, with no particular concern for rewards or
recognition along the way. It combines resilience, ambition, and
self-control in the pursuit of goals.
MAIN PROPOSITION
● Showing up
● Efforts count twice
● Interest -Do something you enjoy.
● Practice - Improve your weakness.
● Purpose - Desire and aim to help others.
● Hope - Optimistic growth mindset.
STRESSORS
➢ Events or conditions that put a strain on the individual.
SOURCES OF COPING
● Optimism
● Personal Control
● Self-Esteem
● Social Support
TYPES OF COPING
● Task Oriented
➢ Consists of efforts aimed at solving the problem.
● Emotion Oriented
➢ Coping that involves emotional reactions.
● Avoidance Oriented
➢ Coping that involves activities and cognitions aimed at avoiding the
stressful situation and can be of a distraction or social diversion
nature.