Besides love, what one trait have you noticed in couples that have maintained a

successful relationship for many years?:

they have a sense of each other an inate sense if you will of what the other
one needs at a particular time.it's an inner knowing about exactly what the other
person needs to help them and the ability to communicate that to them. it could be
a hug,to talk things through, to be left alone, or just a smile.

--Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could
share with you.:

my interest in nature and all things that encompass it, from the largest to the
smallest.i've always had an interest in all things natural and like to read about,
research,and experience them.
--Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could
share with you.:

First, I will be interested in my partner's activities, then I enjoy dancing,

swimming & photography but I'm not a pro in any of these :-). I love traveling and
visiting new places.

--Looking back at your life, describe one particular event that you wish you
had handled differently.

My first relationship I ever entered into was a very abusive relationship in

which I did not stand-up for what I believed in and I compromised myself to the
point of not knowing who I was. But in saying that, through that journey of healing
it has made me the person that I am today.. My philosophy in life is that I give it
my all, remain true to my principles, try my hardest, love and forgive
unconditionally. And if it ends...I have no regrets because I have given it my best
effort.
--What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come
true?:

A long, healthy retirement with enough money to do a little traveling, enjoy

grandchildren, and volunteer in the community. I'd love to take classes in a bunch
of different topics from financial to forensics. And, find time to sing in the
Church choir, hopefully, before I retire!

--They say life is about simple pleasures, what is your simplest pleasure, and
how does it make you feel?:

Anything from reading to the arts, to sports can be a simple pleasure. A

'simple pleasure' for me equates to anything that allows you let go of everything
but what you're doing and enjoy something so simply that you can regain a little
piece of tranquility in the sea that is life.

--What are you looking for in a relationship partner?:

I don't need a caretaker or someone to provide material goods - I'm willing to

work for that myself. You can still need another person though because they can
fulfill the need for a confidante, unconditional love and cheering section during
life's ups and downs.

--Tell me about your closest friend. How long have you known him/her; and what
do you like best about him/her?

I don't have alot of friends around except those i work with....I will say my
closest friend will be myself or maybe my future hasband, cos I doont trust
friends....so please be careful about friends.I have

--Does life look good to you right now? Describe your current emotional health.

Beside my partner, i'm having a good living with my son and am very much happy
about that.. I'm physically fit.. Don't have any kinda disease or something.. All
that am looking for now is to meet that special someone and i think this is a good
way to start..

--Looking back on your life, of what are you most proud?

Life is made up of ups and downs.. In life, We all experience both good times
and bad times.. I wouldn't be anywhere to answer this if you ask me some years
ago.. But am very proud that, upon all that i went through in my life, I still see
my self a very strong woman.....Cos I see my self to be a happy woman now

--What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come
true?:

The one dream I look forward to is to be financially debt free, to be doing the
kind of work that makes me genuinely happy, and most of all to see my child grown
and living independently and in love and happy.Also, to live a long healthy happy
life with a loving man..... I think that is more than one dream

--How would you spend a romantic evening with someone you have been dating for
more than one year?:

I would probably fix a dinner with her at home,... or go out to dinner, or a

play or musical,or some event... and then come back home and kick back and watch a
movie, or listen to some soft music and kiss and snuggle.

--What are you looking for in a relationship partner?:

I am looking for someone who is first and foremost, honest, smart, spiritual,
good with her money, sensual, romantic, funny and humorous, thoughtful, genuine,
hopefully no addictions, respectful and hopefully a handy woman around the house...
these are a few descriptions that come to mind..

-- How important is it to you that your partner fulfill traditional gender

roles? Would you like a woman who will cook, shop and keep house? Would you like a
man who maintains the cars, manages the finances, and is handy around the house?

I would love to meet someone who can cook, shop and keep house.. I deon't
expect her to do that alone.. I like to help her in whatever she takes care of.. My
partner should should be able to fufill traditional gender roses..

--Describe your spirituality...

I'm a christian and i have a strong beleive in God.. I attend church almost
every Week just so i can build my trust in christ..

--When do you feel most afraid?

Only when my son is not at home with me at night.. Am concern about him very
much..

--Hi Michael! Please tell me about your children. What ages and how many? Do
they live near you?

Well i have one son and he is Danny.. He is only 10 yrs old and he lives with
me.. He has been the only one beside me since his mother left (Divorced).. I've
been doing my best for him and as you can think of, it's hard being a single
father.. He has been the source of my happiness.. He needs that mother love but am
not seeking for a replacement mother for him..

--Did you notice that I am taller than you? Is that an issue for you?

Yeah i know you are taller than i am.. But do you think thats really
important.. I have no problem with heights.. I beleive it's whats in the heart that
counts.. I'm still interested in getting to know you Denise..

--Describe your parents' relationship with each other.

My parents were happily married and they loved each other.. I lost my father
some years back and thats how they got separated..

--What have you learned from past relationships?

I have learned that everything that I have been through in the past has made me
who i am today. Good communication is very healthy. And more communication. Good
things come in time! Always love with your entire heart!!! it might hurt but it's
the only way to love...
To not look at the exterior, to look at the heart and soul, to get out when you
see the writing on the wall, that you can't change a person, love alone does not
make a relationship work, sex is not love. That a relationship MUST have god at the
head. I like the quote, LOVE is a CROSS; to give that mate your life is ultimatley
to let go of self and believe that all things are possible for those who believe IN
HIM.

--If you had three wishes, what would that be ?

Good housekeeping. It explained how to keep a relationship going

Reading Spend time with my son Sleeping
Finding practical solutions to complicated situations...

--How important is it to you that your partner fulfill traditional gender

roles? Would you like a woman who will cook, shop and keep house? Would you like a
man who maintains the cars, manages the finances, and is handy around the house?

Combination of above! Don't mind cleaning and shopping! Would love help
cooking. Would love to have someone to "deal with car issues", handy around the
house, etc. Depending on the relationship, might enjoy someone else managing
finances!

--What is one thing you could start doing today that would most improve the
quality of your life?:

I would have to say it would be to slow my daily pace. Have a tendency to stay
busy and have been a "workaholic" in past. As a hair stylish there is always
"someone" needing you.

--When do you feel most afraid?:

I havent felt afraid for a long time but when I was in my first relationship, I
had a hard time staying at a job, so I could begin to read the signs as to when he
would quit and that made me so afraid because then I was the bread winner. Did that
make any sense?

--Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the
cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?:

I would love to go out with my son and dog, maybe supper, or a concert or even
having supper at one of our houses. I wouldnt want to worry about time just having
a nice relaxing time. I think I would like to try a different kind of food.

--Describe your spirituality.:

This is the easy one. I love Jesus so much.. I am a born again Christian and
know that I was a sinner and needed Him to take away my sin. I know that I am going
to spend eternity with Him. I would like to be more involved in my church.. When
people need someone to pray for them I am so willing to help in that seemingly
small way.

--How important is it to you that your partner fulfill traditional gender

roles? Would you like a woman who will cook, shop and keep house? Would you like a
man who maintains the cars, manages the finances, and is handy around the house?

It is important to me that a couple works as a team which plays on each others

strengths and supports each others weaknesses. If you have a strenght in something
I don't, we can learn from each other, vise a versa or the person with the strenght
can complete that task. I am not into gender roles. My father and mother both
equally taught me how to take care of things when I was younger. An expert at cars
I am not, lol but I can take care of the basics.

--What do you most like to do on a day off?:

Depends on the type of week I have had :) I actually like to do many things. If
it has been a busy week I might spend time having a more reflective, low key
weekend. I like to participate in my spiritual events, read, watch T.V.. (limited),
movies, go out to dinner, head into nature, and spend time with the family/friends.
I also spend some time on weekends completing projects; planting, maintaining the
house, etc. I like to head out to festivals, travel (local and internationally).

--What is the best thing an ex could say about you?:

I think he might say that the interests I have in life, I live and experience
deeply. My family and friends are very important to me as well as my beliefs.

--Describe some personal habits that are important to you.:

I've always been a polite person and very respectful. I like going to church
and practice what I learn. I feel proud that I take good care of my grandmum

--In general, how many nights a week do you go out for entertainment? What
sorts of things do you like to do when you go out on the town?:

The committments that I have right now cannot let me go out lot, but when I
happen to I enjoy watching movies and dining out.

--How big is your extended family? What are the holidays like for you and your
family?:
 My family is just my son and I. We spend big holidays with friends or just
enjoy the time on our own.

-- Are you doing what you love? If not, what would you rather be doing?:

It intriques me that you ask this question. Yes, in many ways I am doing what I
love to do. I am
mission driven and I can't go to work, just to work. I go to work as an act of
love to God and to
others. Yet, there is one thing that I would love to being doing, that I'm not
able to do---is to
be the Mom, to care for a husband, children, and home. I simply don't have the
ability to do that
on the level I desire because I am a single parent and I must work. I desire to
grow
professionally and to achieve more, but someday, I would like to be home more.

--How do you act when you're angry?:

This question is really an interesting one. Hopefully, you mean now, at this
season of my life.
In the past, I have been very out of control with anger. I was fathered by
rage. However, my
Heavenly Father promises that He can reproduce within me, who He is. I'm
counting on that. I am
working hard to gain self control and use conflict management and
negotiation... A favorite book is
called the PeaceMaker. In my heart, that is what I desire to be...with Christ,
all things are
possible.

--What is the best thing an ex could say about you?:

I did the best I could to be loving and to do what was right. I have made peace
with ex#1. We
have table fellowship with our children. I hope to have peace with ex#2. It may
not occur in this
life and I have to accept it. How about you?

--Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could
share with you.:

There are alot of things to choose from, but most important to me is I want to
be able to attend church on Sunday morning with my partner.

--What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come
true?:

I recently quit a job of 7 years that I hated from day one but was made to go
to work everyday by my ex-husband. I choose to pursue a career in the direct sales
field. So my wish is that I can develop a successful team and be financially secure
through this leap of faith I have taken. It is also HIGHLY important to me that
whatever partner I choose support me emotionaly through the ups and downs of this
venture.

--In general, how many nights a week do you go out for entertainment? What
sorts of things do you like to do when you go out on the town?:
 I am not currently seeing anyone or really going out for entertainment. I would
like to go to movies and dinner, see a good somewhat clean speaking comic if that
is possible. I also would just to go for a ride and see the sights in different
towns etc. Really can be content at home if it is with the right person.

--What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?:

moved from NY to Wisconsin for my ex-wife.

--What is one thing you could start doing today that would most improve the
quality of your life?:

I don't really know how to answer this right at this moment. I think my life is
going pretty well now, I have my own place, and a job I enjoy which is paying
better than I've had in a long time. I have my son who is turning out to be good
kid with decent grades and haven't been in trouble. I guess the one thing I could
improve on would be to start exercising a little more. Since I started basically a
"desk" job again I've noticed I'm not in as good shape as I was previously. I'm not
quite sure where I'd find the time though. On the whole though, I'm fairly
satisfied with my life right now, except for having that special someone to share
it with.

--What do you find physically attractive? :

I'm not so concerned with what is on the outside, I am more concerned with how
people treat each other, and what is expected of each other. What makes me happy is
someone who is as interested in me and I am in her, who wants to know about my day,
and likes to cuddle on the couch, or who likes to go out and help in the yard or
whatever. I guess if I had to pick one physical attraction to really answer the
question, is that I"m attracted to strong arms.

--What are your political beliefs?:

I vote for the person, but primarily, infact most of the time,
democratic. I have moderate to liberal views on issues.

--Are you doing what you love? If not, what would you rather be doing?:

I love my job and my clients and I am completely satisfied doing this.

I am working on my PhD though and enjoy teaching, so I may blend my
work with teaching or end up teaching full-time.

--Describe your ideal man/woman.:

My ideal woman would be a loving, caring, empathetic person who can laugh and
relax with me as well as have great adventures together. They would be willing to
be involved in my son's life as I would be willing to be involved in their
children's lives if they have children. They need to be supportive in my endeavors
as I would be in theirs.

--If you could do something totally out of character and remain anonymous what
would you do?:
I would play in a rock and roll band, not heavy metal but maybe fleetwood mac
type or Collective soul. Be fun to play the drums and the electrical guitar. Go on
tour to a bunch of different countries

--If they were making a movie about your life, what would it be called and
which actor would play you?:

Hmmmm I always thought this would be a tough question to answer so I will give
it a try, let's see it would be comedy and it would be called "I'm not dead yet"
kind ofa monty python spoof title, but the movie would not be monty python type.
The actress to play me I would have loved Madeline Kahn, she is not alive, so next
choice would be either Ashley Judd or Michelle Pfieffer.

--Describe the worst date you've ever been on.:

well it has been a long time ago. It was a double date and my date had a little
too much to drink and well we were dancing and he decided that he was going to do
some cheerleading moves and did v jumps on the dance floor. It was rather
embarrasing and of course the alcohol behaviour was also a bit much.

--What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?:

Went to Toronto Canada for 6 weeks, accepted the job assignment without
hesitation.

--How important is it to you that your partner fulfill traditional gender

roles? Would you like a woman who will cook, shop and keep house? Would
you like a man who maintains the cars, manages the finances, and is
handy around the house?:

It is important to me and I do feel that it equally important to work

as with your partner to achieve a common goal. I feel that each should
fulfill their strenghts in the relationship.

--What do you most like to do on a day off?:

I normally stay around the house and clean spend as much free time with
my Daughter (quality time). I do spend a time with my partents
especially if they need my assistance. I am very traditional in the
part that family comes first. I also like trying to go new places if my
time off is extended.

--What is the most adventuresome thing you've done in the past year?:

Considering that I was born and raised in Germany and lived here my entire
life, this was an amazing experience for me. I would have loved to have shared the
experience with a partner.

--Describe your own personal style.:

I'm not sure what is meant by this, but I'll give it a shot. In working
with people, I am compassionate, gentle and fun loving. I can also be
direct when I need to understand something more or if I need someone's
assistance. I'm more on the quiet side, more introverted than
extroverted, but not necessarily shy. I'm very open-minded about things
that improve the quality of life for all.

--How would you spend a romantic evening with someone you have been
dating for more than one year?:

There are different ways that I would like to spend a romantic evening
with a serious partner.. I would love to help cook a meal together with
someone, read some romantic books/ passages; and let the evening
happen. This is a little hard to answer for a stranger. I would also
love to go for a walk , talk, and ... Or