PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT HANDOUTS
PERSONAL
-BELONGING OR RELATING TO A PARTICULAR PERSON.
DEVELOPMENT
-THE PROCESS OF DEVELOPING OR BEING DEVELOPED.
The Self, in contemporary literature and even common sense, is commonly defined by the following
characteristics: “separate, self-contained, independent, consistent, unitary, and private” (Stevens, 1996). When
we talk about the self, being “separate,” it means it is distinct, different, and unique from others. It has its own
uniqueness that defines him/her from others. It has an identity of its own, even twins, may it be fraternal, is very
much distinct from the other.
ACTUAL SELF
• It is your present self that you see on the daily basis.
• It is the self that is constantly keeping in touch in your everyday experiences.
• It has the potential to improve or develop as deemed by every individual.
• This may also pertain to the gifts that you possess that is innate in you when you were born.
IDEAL SELF
• It pertains to the image or aspirations of what you want to become.
• This may be similar in hoping characteristics that you do not possess as of the moment but may one day
be part of who you are.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
-means making use of all the personal resources – talents, skills, energy and time, to enable you to achieve
lifegoals.
KNOWLEDGE
-required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and risk assessment
There are several factors that shape self-concept. Among them are your own observations,
feedback from others and cultural values.
1. Your Own Observations
In the process of self-introspection, that may help you reevaluate your motivations and, in real-time,
observing what you do at this moment is one of the significant information about your interest or dislike.
2. Feedback from Others
Positive and negative criticisms also create an impact on self-concept. People talk about us or how they
discriminate us give an important aspect in shaping the self-concept. The amount of criticism, feedback we
sometimes freely give, helps shape the current self-concept of what we choose to be or not. As we grow old, the
number of significant and non-significant people in our lives also grows. Everyone contributes in reshaping the
self-concept.
3. Cultural Values/ Cultural Guidelines
Self-concept is also indirectly influenced by cultural values. In the study of Cultural Psychology, in this age
of technology and social media, we accept our differences, especially on how we accept the culture and beliefs
of others.
SKILLS THAT WILL GREATLY INCREASE THE EFFECIENCY OF ANY PERSON:
1. DETERMINATION
-it allow you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less important things or
spontaneous desire.
-it may be developed with the help of self-discipline
2.SELF CONFIDENCE
-it appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions and
their consequences
- Is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition.
3. PERSISTENCE
- it makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles.
4. MANAGING STRESS
-it helps combat stress that arises in daily life from environment and other people
5. PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS
-it increase the efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.
-it help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience
6. CREATIVITY
-it allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out specific action that no one has tried to used.
It can lead to a decreased or an increase of cost, but usually the speed of action is greatly increased when using
creative tools.
7. GENERATING IDEAS
- it helps you to achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.
3 KINDS OF PEOPLE
1. MOVIEGOER
This person watches the movie of their lives, admires some parts and criticizes other. Aside from that,
they do nothing else. All she says the whole day is, “I like this thing and but I don’t like this thing”. She has no
control of their lives – except to comment it.
Moviegoer are the most pathetic miserable people in the world.
2. ACTOR
This person does not watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes she is the Actor – and can control
the big part of her life. Actors are happy bunch, realizing they’re the start of the show and enjoy some level of
control. But many times, the movie would end in another way – but realize that they have no say in such thing.
3.SCRIPTWRITER
This person does not only watches and she doesn’t only act, but she actually creates the entire movie
from her mind. She determines what she will say, what she will do, and how the movie will end.
She realizes she has enormous control over her life. And sees to it that the movie of her life will turn out
beautiful.
HOLISCTIC DEVELOPMENT
-refers to human development that is meant to involve all the parts of a person.
- is designed to accommodate physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual development.
Five Areas of Personal Development
Area Development
Physiological development Refers to physical changes in the body
as well as the senses and changes in
skills related to movement.
Emotional development It has something to do with the feelings
that you experience.
Social development It is about our innate capacity to relate
with others, to connect, and to feel the
sense of belongingness
Cognitive development Refers to a person’s intellectual abilities
as shown in his/her thoughts,
attitudes, beliefs and values.
Spiritual development It is discovering oneself beyond the ego
known as the soul, spirit, or the “inner
essence” that is often disregarded or
taken for granted. It is experiencing a
glimpse of the “inner guide” of one’s
beliefs and values in discovering the
meaning of life.
Stages of Psychosexual Development
