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GOAL SETTING
FOR STUDENTS
By
Coach
Dan Kuria

A SUCCESS TOO FOR THE CLASSROOM & LIFE

Yes! Count On Me
This is your life,
Your goals,
Your success.
Your are a winner!!
 MESSAGE TO STUDENTS
The main goals in creating Goal setting for They may be teaching you science , math’s
students is to help you be successful in or English , but they are also teaching you
whatever you do. Learning how to set and about life, responsibility , getting along
with others, how to handle stress and how
achieve goals will be an extremely
to believe in yourself. If you have more
important factors in your success. If you questions about either success or goals
ask several adults if they learned about setting, have the courage to ask your
goals setting or success in school they will teachers for additional help. You will find
probably tell you no often they will quickly teachers will be there for you. Show them
add- “ I wish I had “ we want to help you you are serious about your efforts to
learn about goals and show you how succeed.
important goals are to enriching your life .
Another goal is to include your parents/
In an information study, we found that caregivers in this learning g experience ,
large numbers of people know about goals we want your care givers to know you are
and think goals are important. However, learning about goals setting in school. The
we also found that only few people “home activity “sections in this workbook
actually know how to set and complete are designed to help you and your
caregivers discuss these important topics.
goals. This program formalize “the how
and what in it for me” aspects of goal
setting.
Your caregivers are a
valuable recourse for you.
This program will help you and
They can help you to fully
you teachers talk about two understand and use the GOAL
important subjects- goals SETTING FOR STUDENTSF
setting and success. You For STUDENTS principles in
teachers can be a significant your everyday life.
help – if you let them your
teachers really want you to
succeed.

DREAM +Action Steps + TARGET DATE= Goal

This is your life, your goals, and your

success.
You are a Winner
 PROGRAM GOALS
Teach students how to take ownership of their education
Help teachers reach their goals with their students
Include parents and other caregivers in this collaborative
educational experience

MESSAGE TO TEACHERS
The Goals setting for students program can be used to enhance and curriculum this is not
a standalone program that takes valuables time out of your teaching day. Rather it gives
your students the tools they need to understand how they play a significant role in their
education. This program will assist you in reaching your goals with your students.

Education is a collaborative efforts with you, the students and there parents /caregivers.
This workbook gives your students instructions on what goals are and why / they are
important. We bring message home by teaching the students how they can use these
technique in YOUR class

The chapters include: Defining success, principles of goals , samples and practice ,investing
in yourself , measuring your progress , meetings the challenges . How to get started and
summary. Each chapter is self contained. The workbook has been divided into several
sections within each chapter. This allows you to chose how to incorporate these important
message into your class activity .

The Goal setting for students will enhance your effort and help you achieve your goals for
students . This program teaches students how to take ownership of their education and their
future.

MESSAGE TO PARENTS and

other Caregivers

The Goal Setting for Students program is a powerful tool for your Childs future. The
teachers will be showing the students how to set goals and how to make goals setting habit
for life. This is joint effort with the students, the teachers and you to learn these valuable life
lesson . we need your help to reinforce the class room lessons.

We want the students to understand that they have some responsibility in their education.
after completing the program we want them to ask themselves on a regular basis: ’am I
putting forth my best effort in school “ this workbook in combination with the teachers and
your efforts will help your student to answer “yes” to that questions
 Table of CONTENT

1
What is Success?
Success means different
CHAPTER

things to different people

Success Takes Desire,
Planning and Action

2
Goal Setting
Four Strategic Questions

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Three Elements of Goal
AP
Settings
CH

3
Hands on Experience
The Importance of Stretch
goals
Sample goals for school ,
personal and sports/hobbies
How to develop a “Yes! Count
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on Me” Attitude.

4
Invest in Yourself
CHAPTER

The Importance of being

Positive
How to Improve Your Self
Image
“Bummer Words” that hold
you back
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5
Measuring Your Progress
Two essential questions to
ask each day
Taking Responsibility
Why Helping Others is
HA
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Important

6
Invest in Yourself

A PTER
The Value of Determination
Four potential road-block
to success CH
Eliminate Excuses

How to Get Started

7
Ten Points to Keep you
focused
R
TE

Where do you start?

AP

How to Manage Your Time

CH

Summary
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A PTER

CH
 1 CHAPTER
What is
SUCCESS
What to Expect
Learn that success means
different things to people
Success takes planning
Success takes time
Words to Remember
Accomplishment
Success
Desire
Commitment
Success takes action

Preview

THE word success means many things to You will learn how to set and achieve goals
because you have lived. This is success how to measure your progress toward
many people. For example, Hector may reaching them, how to invest in yourself and
think success is helping others by the importance of helping others You will
developing a new medicine to cure a learn about taking responsibility how to
disease. Laura might define success as overcome roadblocks to success Bummer
being an athlete. Kisha thinks getting good Word” that hold you back from reaching
grades in school is a measure of what your full potential. You will also learn how
success of success. To Roz being a teacher to incorporate in the classroom and in your
is how she will define success. Hector, everyday life.
Laura, Kisha and Roz are all correct.
Success is will learn how to set and achieve THE dictionary defines Success as
goals all of these things and more, “Accomplishment or completing a desire or
want” . It lies in your ability to want
RALPH WALDSO EMERSON Defined something bad enough (a goal) that you
Success as: “To laugh often and much; to are you are willing to put extra effort to
win the respect of intelligent people and reach it. Success is not walking through life
the affection of children; ... to appreciate hoping something good happens to you.
beauty, to find the best in others; to leave These decision become your goal. Once you
the world a little better; whether by a have set your mind on a goal, then write it
healthy child or a garden patch ... to know down, create an action plan and make it
even one life has breathed easier because happen. (This manual, and the decisions you
you have lived. This is success Contributing will have, will help you in this process)
to the happiness and success o
others is an important component of your THERE are goals that you set on a daily
own success. basis that might include making sure you
hand your homework on time and that you
IN this manual you will discuss what success take time to check to make sure it is
means to you and how goal setting car help correct.
you reach your full potential.
Goals maybe medium range in length. An in your life it can lead you to your success.
example this might be to bring your science Success takes Desire. Success takes Action
grade up one letter by the next report card Success takes time. Success takes
which is six weeks away. You will learn that commitment. Commitment is a promise you
goals may be large and take long to make to yourself to keep working to reach
complete. One example of a long-term your goal even if the going gets tough.
goal maybe going to college.
IN the next several sessions we will talk
GOALS may be big or small; they can be about what a goal is, how to set and
about school, home, personal, sport or many accomplish goals and how to check your
other things. All goals have two things in progress towards reaching your goal.
common- desire and action, First you have
to really, really want your goals to become THIS manual includes several sample goals
a reality and you have to take action for you to review, and a section on how to
towards reaching your goal. get started. You will discover that there can
be potential roadblocks to your success. We
YOU will find that being successful can will help you identify them and avoid them
become a habit, but it will take effort on because we want you to be successful. This
your part. This is the key point. -by learning manual is about you and FOR YOU.
and doing what is described in this manual, However you define success, this manual
you can develop a pattern or habit for will give you the tools to reach your goals.
success. When you make goal setting habit

Review
Let's review the important components of SUCCESS
1. Success means different things to different people.
2. Success is setting goals and accomplishing them. +
3. Success takes planning and a strong desire. { Paseo)
4. Success is taking action.
5. Success means reaching your goals even when the -
4 going gets tough.
 Key Vocabulary Words
Goals are Dreams with Deadlines
-Diana Scharf

Fill In the Blanks with one of the words listed below.

DESIRE ACCOMPLISHMENT
TIME SUCCESS
SUCCESSFUL COMMITMENT

ACROSS DOWN

1 All goals have two things in 2 ................................. is setting goals and

common................... and action accomplishing them

2 I want to be................................., and I 4 Success does not happen overnight, it

am willing to plan and put in the effort takes..............................
and time.

3 A promise is................................, to do
something for yourself or others.

5 When I have ....................................... my

goal, it means I have reached it.
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1 How would you define success in this class? Is it getting a certain grade,
handling in your homework on time, listening better in class or are there other
ways you would define success for this class? Explain.
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2 Re-Read the quote from Ralp Waldo Emerson in the “Preview” section of this
chapter. How is this definition of success different from the images you see in the
magazine or on TV? Explain.
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3 What does success mean to you?

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4 The Secret to success is to do the common thing uncommonly well -Anynimous

Do you agree with this quote? Why or Why not?
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Name three people you think are successful and why?

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1 What two thing did you learn about Success from this lesson?
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2 Ask your parents/caregiver to name three people they consider Success and why

NAME WHY

3 Below is a list of things you can do to become most successful in class. Choose two actions
that will accomplish in the next week to help you succeed in class.
Listen better in class
Learn how to take better classroom
Take part in the classroom discussions
Look over the chapter before it is discussed in class
Read the chapter and review my class notes be
Ask the teacher questions if I did not understand the
Make sure I write down the homework assignments correctly
Three days before a test, spend extra time studying.
The night before the test ask someone to help me study.
Do a project for extra credit.
Change my seating assignment in class.
Hand in my homework on time.
Take a few moments to check my homework sg/ore handing it
Ask a classmate for help.
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4 Find two pictures in a magazine of people you define as successful. One of the pictures
should be of a male and the other one of a female. On a separate sheet of paper write a
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paragraph for each picture about why you feel they are successful. (Note: In your
paragraph answer this question: Why do you think goals were important to the people in
your picture?)

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“Be honest and work hard to get what you want. Don’t take shortcuts; you are only cheating
yourself in the long run. Success is not measured by money or fame, but by how you fell
about your own goals and accomplishment and the timeand effort you put into them”-
Willie STARGELL

Discuss with your parents/caregiver what this quote means to you

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2CHAPTER

Challenge
Goal
SETTING
What to Expect

Stretch goald "I'll

make it Happen"
Words to Remember
Day Dreams
Goal Setting
Action Steps
Attitute Target Date

Preview
IN the next two chapters we will discuss THERE are also many daydreams or wishes
goal setting and how to use goals in your that you do have the power to control.
classroom and in your everyday life. This Yes, you do! You can do something to
chapter will give make those daydreams come true. That's
you the basics while the next chapter will the good news. However, you will have to
give you additional information and some do more than simply close your eyes and
sample goals and practice, hold breath until the dream comes true.

THERE are many things that young people GOAL Setting is the key to making your
and adults think about during their day dreams come true. Goal Setting is thinking
that they would like, These dreams, or about something that you write down on
wishes, can range from wanting a a paper, developing a plan to make it
hamburger after school, to wanting to go happen and setting a date to complete
on a summer vacation, or thinking about the goal. Goal Setting is like is like
what you want to be when you grow up. shooting an arrow toward a target. The
This wishful thinking is often referred to as difference between-a dream and a goal
daydreaming, Everyone has day-dream is action.
and spends part of their day daydreaming,
FOUR Key Goal Setting questions that will
MOST people have severat-daydreams keep you focused on What is important to
during the day. Some are just simply fun to your continued success. The BIG FOUR
think about but you don’t have any control are:
over them. You might daydream about
having your school’s basketball team win
their game on Wednesday
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Action Steps are like steps on a ladder
Challenge
and the top rung is your goal. As you
WHY DO I WANT IT? accomplish each of the Action Steps.
Define the desire or
challenge facing you IN Goal Setting you will want to set
Target. Dates for completion. A target

2
Goal date can be a day, or .a week, a month,
your next exam or the next soccer
WHAT DO I WANT practice, etc. It is important to create a
Write down the goal
you want to achieve reasonable time frame of when you will
complete your goal.

3
BE realistic with the goals that you
Action Steps establish. Set yourself up for success. If
HOW WILL IT GET IT you set a goal to be an NBA basketball
Your Specific action plan player and no one in your family is over
to reach your goal.
5'4", you may want to review your goal.

If everyone in the NBA is one to two feet

4
Target Dates taller than you, then your goal may not be
WHEN DO I WANT IT realistic. Your goals should broaden your
The completion date to capabilities and when achieved give you
reach your goal satisfaction and a sense of
accomplishment. Set realistic goals and
THE first two questions will give you grow.
information about the goal what it is and
why is it important to you. Your answers to
these question will help you define the
goal. Question #3 is about setting in
motion a plan — Action Steps to achieve
your goal. The last question gives you
a target date for completion.

ACTION STEPS- help you to move toward

the goal. They help you to get started and
they move you closer to completing your
goal.
 Review
Let's review the three important components of goal setting:
1. Turn your dreams into goals by writing them on paper,
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2. Write down Action Steps you need to complete to reach your goal. Each Action
Steps you compete moves you closer to the top of the ladder or your goal.
3. Set a Target Dates for completion of your goal.
4. Four key Goals Setting questions you need to ask yourself are:
a) Why do I want it? c) How will I get it?
b) What do I want? d). When do I want it?

Key Vocabulary Words

1. Fill in the missing words in each sentence with the correct word below
Goals Successful Write
Action Steps Goal Setting Daydreams
Target Action

1. It is important to ...........................down your goals.

2. Successful people have....................
3. The difference between a dream and a goal is.................................
4. In goal setting it is important to have a ................................ for completion.
5. Everyone has...................................
6. .......................... are like steps on a ladder.
7. I want to be a ................................. person.
8. Learning about .......................... Is an important part of growing up.
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Real World Example

Tyronne was an average student who worked hard for his grades. He received his
report card and was disappointed that his science grade was not higher. Tyron knew
he wanted to get a higher grade, it was going to take extra effort on his part. He
knew it was his responsibility

At home he decided to turn his wish into a goal. First, he Wrote down on a piece of
paper the higher grade he wanted for the science course. Next he wrote down the
Action Steps, or ladder rungs, he needed to complete in order to reach his goal of
a higher grade in science.

The Action Steps Tyronne wrote included:

1. Talking to the teacher to find out what he could do for extra credit.
2. Study an extra 15 minutes each night on science.
3. Asking his parents to give him oral quizzes on what he learned from the
homework.
4. Study hard the night before a test, get a good night's rest and try not to worry
about the science test.

The last item Tyronne wrote on the paper was the date when he planned to com- "
plete the goal. Then, as a daily reminder, he put the paper with his goal and plan
on the desk where he did his homework. Each time he finished an Action Step, he
checked it off the paper. When the next reporting period ended Tyrone had
accomplished his goal of receiving a higher grade in science.

DREAM +Action Steps + TARGET DATE= Goal

The only person you are destined to

become is the person you decide to be
Ralph Emerson
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1. Below is a list of activities students do during the coure of a month. In the right hand
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column are the words Always, Sometimes, Not Very Often and Never. Indicate how
often you do these activities without being asked.

Not
Activity Always Sometimes Very Never
Often

Clean my room

Do my homework

Volunteer to help a neighbor

Wash the family car

Mow the lawn

Extra credit project at school

Go to the library to study

2. Goal Setting Example # 1:

Look at the list above again and circle the one area that you want to improve during the
next week. Let's see how you can change your desire to improve into a goal with Action on
Steps and a target get date. Pleas write goal (the item you circled) below.

My goal for the next week is:..........................................................................................

ACTION STEPS that | need to complete in order to reach my goal are:

1. ........................................................................................................
2. ........................................................................................................
3. ........................................................................................................
 3. Goal Setting Example #2
Think about this class. Let's see how you can bring your grade up on the next test. Below is
your goal, your Action Steps for completing.
The subject I want to Improve in is: ................................................................
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My grade on the last test was.........................................................................

My Goal is to bring my................................... grade up to a..........................
(Subject) (Grades)

Some examples of Action Steps needed to be completed in order to achieve the higher
grade may be: doing extra homework, spending 15 minutes a night studying that subject,
asking more questions in class, listening better, etc. Which ACTION STEPS will you take
to reach your goal?

The ACTION STEPS that I need to complete in order to reach my goal are:

1. .........................................................................................................................
2. .........................................................................................................................
3. .........................................................................................................................
4. .........................................................................................................................

My Target Date to complete my goal is ...............................................................

4. “set goals for yourself and work hard to achieve them. Some goals you will achieve and
others you won't, but at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing where you are.”
Beth Daniel.

Do you agree with this quote? Explain.

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1 Find a quote that inspires you to do your best. You may find it in a book, a magazine, or it
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may be a favorite saying your teacher has. Write it down in your notebook and highlight it
so you can see it everyday.

2 What are the three things you need to make a goal?

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2. .........................................................................................................................
3. .........................................................................................................................

3 Why is it important to write your goals down on paper?

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4 With your parents/guardian/teacher or study mate decide on a goal that you can
complete during the next week. Have them help you list the Action Steps and decide on a
completion date.

My GOAL for this week is;

ACTION STEPS that You and your parents/caregivers develop together

1. ........................................................................................................................
2. .........................................................................................................................
3. .........................................................................................................................

The TARGET DATE to complete my goal is:.............................................................

5 Discuss with your parents/caregiver what this quote means to.

“What is worth doing is worth doing well.”
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 3 H
CAPTER
Hands On
EXPERIENCE
What to Expect
Define the challenge correctly
Samples of goals for personal
sports/ hobbies, school
Words to Remember
Challenge
Stretch goald "I'll
make it Happen"
Attitute

Preview
IN the previous chapter, we learned
Example 1# Your are not getting the
about goals and the importance of
Grades in English that you think you
setting target dates for completing
your goals. deserve. You define the challenges as
This session will give you some "handon" “The English teacher just doesn’t like me”
experience on how to set goals and so you don’t try hard in that class.
establish specific action steps. But first,
lets add a couple of more thoughts
about goals QUESTION:
1. Define the challenge What would you do differently if you
2. Stretch goals and why they are defined the challenge as “not enough
important effort on my part”?
3. The pwoer of "Yes! Count on Me"
attitude THAT is a different “TARGET.” If the
case, rather than not trying very hard,
Define the Challenge
you would have set a goal and a plan of
It is important to clearly define the
challenges you are trying to overcome. Lets action increase your effort in the English
says you are in an archery contest. The good class so you could get the higher grade.
new is you shot an arrow into the middle of
the bulls eye and you have received 10 points Example 2# You have a part-time job
a towards the archery championship. The after school, but you are not making as
bad news is you hit the wrong targe and you much money as you think you should.
wont receive the points. Goal setting is very You think the pay is not worth the effort
similar. You have to make sure you are so you decide to quit and spend more
setting your goals for the correct challenge time with your friends.
or target.
 QUESTION:
Will you talk to your boss before you quit? AN unrealistic goal, considering how messy
your room currently is, would be to have your
BY getting a better view of what the room sparkling clean before you go to
challenge might be, you have the potential school. Sparkling clean might include
of a much different outcome. In this case, vacuuming and dusting in addition to the
you have a meeting with your boss to talk above activities for the “stretch” goal. You
about a raise. In that ‘meeting you might ask may find this to be unrealistic at this time.
“How am I doing?” and how can I earn some
extra money?” After that conversation; you EACH of us need goals that stretch our abili-
might look at that part time job in a ties. Make sure that with some effort on your
completely different way: Also, you may have part - STRETCH - you can accomplish your
found a way to earn additional money goal. Set your goals for success! Then, build
on those successes!
MAKE certain that you clearly and correctly
define the challenge. “YES! COUNT ON ME” attitude: In the
sample goals in this chapter you will see that
STRETCH GOALS: Goal setting helps you all of the sentences are in a positive “YES!
accomplish more. if your goals are too easy Count On Me” format. Words like “I can”
then you may not reach your potential. Its is and “I will” should be in all your written goals
important to set goals that “STRETCH” and and action steps. By writing them this way,
extend your abilities. Make sure the goals your goals and Action Steps are expressed in
you set are achievable and that you have to an up-beat and positive way. Mary Kay Ash
give some extra effort to complete. who built an international cosmetics con
company said. “If you think you can- you
A cautionary note: there is a difference can.“ Reaching your goal will give you a
between a between a stretch goal and an “Yes, Count on Me“ attitude. Remember to
unrealistic goal. Lets explore Your room is write your goal. by doing this, you will be
messy so you set your goal to make your bed reminded on a daily basis what your goals
everyday. You know this is a pretty easy goal are and you can review how you are doing
to accomplish, and that it won't take much with your Action Steps.
effort on your part. “A stretch goal” might be
to have a fairly clean room before very hard,
you you go to school. This might include
making the bed, closing the closet door and
picking up the dirty clothes on the floor. This
may be a “stretch goal” for you, but is it
realistic?
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Real World Example

Below are several example for goals that you might have for school, personal and sports/
hobbies. You will notice that in each section we have a couple of fully completed goals.
And, we have a couple of goals that require you to finish the Action Steps and the Target
dates. In the last section- Now it’s your turn”- we ask you to define your challenge, write your
goals down and develop your own Action Steps and Target dates.

School

CHALLENGE I am capable of doing better in the SCIENCES

GOAL I will put more effort into each science lesson

ACTION STEPS 1. I will listen better and take more notes in class
2. I will ask the teacher of I can do something for extra credit
3. I will take 10 minutes the night before class to look over the
subject material
4. I will participate more in classroom discussions.

TARGET DATE Starting Today

School

CHALLENGE I get really nervous before a test.

GOAL I will stay calm before and during my tests.

ACTION STEPS 1. I will do my homework each night and check to make sure it is
correct
2. I will take a few minutes each night to review what we studied
during school that day
3. I will get good Night’s rest before a test

TARGET DATE Next 30 days

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1. In the next sample, complete the Action Steps and the Target Date to accomplish
the goal.
School

CHALLENGE I have not been handing my homework in “ On time”

I will hand all homework assignments in on time for the next two
GOAL
weeks
ACTION STEPS 1. I will make sure I get the assignments and that i understand
what is expected of me.
2. ...............................................................................................
3. ...............................................................................................
4. ...............................................................................................

TARGET DATE For the next week starting today

School

CHALLENGE I know its is important to participate in class, but I am afraid I’ll

makes mistakes

GOAL I will conquer my fear of making a mistake in class discussions.

ACTION STEPS 1. I will listen better in class

2. I will make sure I have done my homework on time
3. ...............................................................................................
4. ...............................................................................................

TARGET DATE
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Personal

CHALLENGE I need to improve my reading skills

I will read a book each month that is not required by my

GOAL
teachers
ACTION STEPS 1. I will go to the library each week
2. I will find magazines on subjects that interest me
3. I will find 30 minutes each day to read about a subject that
I want to learn more about
4. I will turn off the TV and not take phone calls from friend
from 7:00 and 8:30pm each night

TARGET DATE Now

Personal

CHALLENGE People always seem to be nagging me

I want to do things before I have to be told

GOAL

ACTION STEPS 1. I will write down the chores I am responsible for at home
and I will do them before being asked
2. I will do one additional chore not on my list because I want
to help someone else
3. I will volunteer to help a Neighbour for friend
4. I realized that it is my responsibility to do well in school and
I will continue to do well in my studies

TARGET DATE Immediately

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Personal

CHALLENGE I don’t seem to fit in at school

I want people to like me for who I am-not for people they want
GOAL me to be

ACTION STEPS 1. Each morning before school, I will say “I am a good person
and if a few kids at school don’t see that, then they aren’t
seeing what I have to offer-the real me”
2. I will ask for help from students, parents, counselors or
teachers
3. I will join one of the school clubs

TARGET DATE Start Today

2. In the next sample goal complete the Action Steps and the Target dates you think
are needed to accomplish the goal

Personal

CHALLENGE There is a lot of peer pressure from other kids to start smoking

I know smoking is not good for me and that it is expensive. I will

GOAL
not smoke.
ACTION STEPS 1. I will start to exercise more
2. I will leave when people try to get me to smoke
3. ..........................................................................................
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4. ..........................................................................................
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TARGET DATE
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SPORTS & HOBBIES

CHALLENGE I like soccer, but I’m not as good as some of my teammates

I will make a solid improvement in my soccer abilities this year.

GOAL

ACTION STEPS 1. I will spend at extra 15 minutes each day working on kicking
and passing drills-even on days when there is no practice
2. I will work on using both feet equally well for passing the
ball
3. I will read book about soccer and will watch soccer
matches on TV to learn from the very best.
4. After the season is over, I will continue to practice so that I
can improve for next year.

TARGET DATE All season

SPORTS & HOBBIES

CHALLENGE I want to earn a black belt in Karate

I will practice and study to get my black belt.

GOAL

ACTION STEPS 1. I will get to class 15mins early

2. I will listen to the instructor and practice hard in class each
day
3. I will work out with students that the highest belts to learn
from them.
4. I will ask for help when I am unsure of a technique
5. At home I will practice 30mins/day on my forms, kicking,
punches and blocks

TARGET DATE Start Immediately

 3 In the two sample goals, complete the Action Steps and Target date you think are
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needed to accomplish the goal.

SPORTS & HOBBIES

CHALLENGE I like soccer, but I’m not as good as some of my teammates

I will make a solid improvement in my soccer abilities this year.

GOAL

ACTION STEPS 1. ................................................................................................

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2. ................................................................................................
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3. ................................................................................................
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4. ................................................................................................
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TARGET DATE

SPORTS & HOBBIES

CHALLENGE I want to learn how to draw

I will enter a drawing contest at the end of the semester

GOAL
1. ................................................................................................
ACTION STEPS
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2. ................................................................................................
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3. ................................................................................................
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4. ................................................................................................
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TARGET DATE
 Review
Let’s Review:
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1. Remember to Clearly define your challenge

2. USE “I can” and “I will” wording for your goal and Action Steps.
3. Read your goals everyday
4. Make them realistic but “Stretch” Your abilities
5. You are a winner

Now It’s Your Turn

Below are three blank sections to use for your goals. Challenge yourself with
a goal for School, Sport/Hobby and Personal

SCHOOL

CHALLENGE

GOAL
1. ................................................................................................
ACTION STEPS
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2. ................................................................................................
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3. ................................................................................................
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4. ................................................................................................
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TARGET DATE
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SPORTS & HOBBIES

CHALLENGE

GOAL

ACTION STEPS 1. ................................................................................................

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2. ................................................................................................
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3. ................................................................................................
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4. ................................................................................................
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TARGET DATE

PERSONAL

CHALLENGE

GOAL
1. ................................................................................................
ACTION STEPS
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2. ................................................................................................
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3. ................................................................................................
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4. ................................................................................................
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 4 CHAPTER
Invest in
YOURSELF
Words to Remember
I’ll make it Happen”
Words Bummer Words
Mentors
What to Expect
How to Improve Yourself Image
Words that hold you back from
reaching goals
The importance of being
Inner Voice positive

Preview

“Life is not about finding yourself. Is about

creating yourself”
George Bernard Shaw

AS a Young person growing up, you are INNER VOICE: What in the world is the inner
learning about yourself. Your are finding out voice, and how can you use it to your
what you like and what you don’t, what you advantage? Everybody talks to themselves.
are good at and what takes extra effort on Yes, everyone. Your inner voice speaks to you
your part. You are on a journey to learn several times during the day. Some will think
about yourself and your surrounding. that their parent’s way of talking to them
Importantly, you have an opportunity to “long distance.”
“Create Yourself“
others will think that a voice from within to
YOU “Create Yourself” by developing a YES, help them navigate through the day’s
Count on me” Attitude. This comes from your activities. A few might think the inner voice is
accomplishments for yourself and for others. coming from mean Aunt Martha who never
liked them.
This chapter is all about attitude. You play
an essential role in the development of a HOWEVER You think of an inner voice.
“Yes, Count On Me” attitude. Here are five everyone has one. It might remind you to do
major ways to invest in yourself and develop something or it might give you a great idea.
a “Yes, Count On Me” Your inner voice might tell you to watch out
for cars when crossing the street or it might
1. Use your inner voice to your advantage remind you to be careful when doing
2. Use the “Yes” Count on Me Words something new. There is one important thing
3. Minimize the “Bummer Words” to remember about your inner voice-you
4. Have a positive self image control the the on/off switch. Nobody else
5. Spend time with a mentor but you can control your inner voice.
Positive
Mindset
NOW, here is where it gets interesting. If you IF You are serious about goa settings and
are at the control of your inner voice, will you being successful, then you have to be
let in positive thoughts or negative thoughts? serious about minimizing the number of
Has you inner voice ever said to you: “I can’t word count the number of times in a day
do that,” These are all negative messages you use the BUMMER WORDS: No, Never,
your inner voice is giving you. Since you are Can’t Won’t If and Maybe. Now, replace
in control of your inner voice, why not create them with the positive “Yes, Count on me”
your advantage. words: Can, will and Yes. For examples, “I
will do that for you,” or “I can, get better
YES, COUNT ON ME Words: Use positive , grades,” or “Yes, I will do my homework”
YES, Count on Me, Words: YES, I WILL and I Basically its an invitation for you to be
CAN. Remember, everyone talks to
personal.
themselves. You are at the control of your
inner voice. You can let in either negative or
SELF IMAGE: This is how you see yourself.
positive messages. Choose positive upbeat
Your self image can be positive or
words for a more successful life. Those words
negative. Its your choice. Either we learn
will help you to develop a “YES, Count On
about the importance of having positive
Me” attitude. You are a winner! Tell yourself
inner voice messages.
that you are a winner everyday with “Yes, I
will and “Can” messages.
Your inner voice is a great contributor to
your self image. Having a positive self
BUMMER WORDS Is it equally important to
image (How you see yourself) and using
Minimize the “Bummer Words” These words
postive inner voice messages (what your
are the positive are the opposites of the
inner voice say to you) are excellent ways
“YES. Count on Me” words. Bummer words
hold you back from reaching your full to invest in yourself.

potential. They are negative and can often

stop you before you even get started: For DO You think you would have a positive

Example, “I”ll never get a good grade on self image if your inner voice messages
that test,” or “I’ll try it but I won’t be any included: “I’m doing well” or I’ helped that
good,” or “If only I was taller.” lady today, and that feels good; I’m a
good person” or “the Big exam is today,
THE Six BUMMER WORDS are: No, Never, I’ve studied hard, I’m ready and I am going
Can’t Won’t If and Maybe. Many people use to do well,” It is important for you to belive
these words as an excuss. One of yourcgoals in yourself and in your abilities. Your
should be to minimize the number of times in should greet each new day with a smile
a day that your used the BUMMER words. and a “Yes, Count On Me’ attitute.
 MENTOR A Mentor is another way to invest in yourself. You might think of a mentor as coach or
a personal advisor. It may be the easier to explain this concept by using an example as we are
familiar with. Often we look at a successful coach and see how that person has guided young
men or women to reach new heights. This is what a mentor can do for you.
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A Mentor doesn’t have to be a sports coach, but you want to find someone who can help you
get to new heights. A mentor is a person who can teach you from their experience. A Mentor
should be someone you trust. A Mentor can give you advice on ways to do things correctly and
things to look out for that may cause you problems. Importantly, the mentor can guide you on
making the right choices.

Review
Let’s Review the importance components of investing in yourself
1. You control the on/off switch for your inner voice.
2. Invest in yourself with the “Yes, Count On Me,” words: I can, I will and Yes.
3. Minimize the Bummer Words.
4. Find a Mentor to be a personal coach and advisor.
5. Greet each day with a smile and say, “I am a WINNER! I am successful.”

Key Vocabulary Words

Fill in the blanks with one of the words from the list

Invest Montor “Yes, Count On Me” words

Inner Voice Bummer Words

1. Everyday I will use the like yes, I can and I will.

2. I am in control of my
3. It’s important to in myself with a positive self-image
4. I will minimize the if, can’t, won’t, maybe, never and No.
5. A can be my personal advisor
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Real World Example

Pete loved to play on the school basketball team. Pete was not tall as some of the other
kids, but he really wanted to be a good player. He invested in himself by working extra hard
at practice. When he was shooting baskets his inner voice would give him positive messages
that he was a good player. On weekends, he was always playing pick up games with his
older brothers.

Sometime when Pete was could not find someone to play basketball with, he would shoot
baskets along for long periods. When he did this, Pete would pretend that he was playing
on a team for the state championships. He imagined he was the person the team relied for
the game winning shot with time running out.

On the last game of the season, Pete got to live his dream. There were 10 second on the
clock and Pete has the ball. The fans were on their feet yelling. He was about to take the
game winning shot.

Do you think he went to the bench and said, “Coach, I’m afraid?’ You should have someone
else take the shot.” Or, do you think he went over the PA System and said, “I have not been
working very hard at practice this week so don’t expect me to make this shot?”

He knew he was ready to take the last shot. He worked hard at practice, listened to his
coach and used positive messages to reassure himself that he was ready. Pete had earned
the right to take the game winning shot. Weather he makes the shot or not, he has already
won because he has invested in himself

You may not be the basketball player in this story , but you may have new situations
everyday talking tests, meeting new people, doing chores at home , helping a friend or
learning something new in class. are you ready? Have you invested in yourself.
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1. What three ways did Pete invest in himself in order to be prepared for game winning shot
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2. If Pete does not make the last minute shot how should he feel
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3. Whether it is practicing basketball, going to piano lessons or doing your homework to the best of
your ability, you will have to invest time and energy. This is time you may have used for the “hanging”
with your friends, listening to music, watching TV, or Playing video games. Why is it important to take
time to invest in yourself?
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4. Goals determine your thoughts. “Thoughts determine your life.”

Anonymous
What does the quote mean to you? Explain
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5. Some students wonder why they have to learn a particular subject. They say “I’ll never use this so
why learn it.” Each subject is import-whether it’s mathematics, science, art and craft, language,
history etc. If you look around you will see many ways the ‘I’ll never read” subject can be helpful to
you in everyday life. Write 5 examples of how you can use one of the subjects mentioned above in
your life.

Examples of how can be useful in my everyday life.

1. ........................................................................................................................................
2. .......................................................................................................................................
3. .......................................................................................................................................
4. .......................................................................................................................................
5. .......................................................................................................................................
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1. In this chapter, we discuss that a mentor is a person who can guide you as you grow and learn. A
mentor is someone you respect and trust and a person who will give you good advice. A mentor can
be a teacher, a parent, a relative, a neighbor or a coach. Ask your parent to name two people who
have been mentors or coaches for them. How have their mentors helped them?
1. .......................................................................................................................................
2. .......................................................................................................................................

2. Now it’s your turn. Name one person in your life who has been a mentor or a coach to you. How has
your mentor helped you?
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3. Positive Inner voice words include: Yes, I can and I will. Do you use these words often?
Yes............................................ No...................................

4. Today your inner voice may have spoken to you several times. It might have been in class, on the
schoolyard, on the bus or at home. Was you inner voice positive?

Yes............................................ No...................................
5. How often do you use the Bummer Words (Never, If, Maybe, No, Can’t, Won’t) during the day?

1-3 times per day? ...........................................

4-7 times per day? ..........................................
8+ times per day? ............................................

6. “Success comes in cans, not in can nots”

John Ralston

Discuss with your parents/caregivers what this quete means to you.

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7. Set a goal to use less Bummer Words during the day. below are examples of action steps, but this is
your goal so add your Action Steps and Your Target Date
 BUMMER WORD

I use the Bummer Words, Never, If, Maybe, No, Can’t Won’t -More
CHALLENGE than I want during the day.
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GOAL I will use fewer Bummer Words.

ACTION STEPS
1. Today I will count the number of times I say a Bummer word.
Tomorrow I will use one less Bummer Word.
2. I will not use Bummer Words in School
3. I will put a rubber band on my wrist and snap it each time I use a
Bummer Word
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________

TARGET DATE

8. Below is a list of ways you can invest in yourself. You will note that some of the items are directed
toward you and other are ways that you can help someone else. Circle one activity you will do in the
next week to invest in yourself.

Read a Book Help my brother/sister

Write in a daily journal Keep my room clean
Use “I will and I can words Read a Magazine
Study and Extra 15mins each day Help make dinner
Wash the Family Car Listern better in class
Write my goals down each day Learn from my mistakes
Do something for others Write a Letter to a relative
Eliminate “Can’t from my day Excercise
Try something that is different Hand My homework in on time
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H A PTE R
Measure Your
PROGRESS
Words to Remember

Reality Time
Responsibility
What to Expect
Two Important questions to ask
yourself everyday.
Why helping other everyday
How to measure your progress
toward reaching your goals.

Preview

SO far, we have learned that there are Its is a time during the each day when
many definitions for success. We have you take a couple of minutes for yourself
discussed how to set goals, what Actions a time to reflect on hoe your day is
Steps are and the importance of going. You can do this by finding a quite
investing in yourself with positive spot where you are alone- yes alone.
messages.
TAKE a minute to stop the day’s activities
AS You begin to use goal setting as a and answer two reality time.
valuable tool in your life, its important to
check your progress towards reaching QUESTION
your goals. there are five ways to
measure your progress:
1. Am I giving my best effort to today’s
activities
1. Reality time
2. Am I making the Progress towards
2. Checking your self Image
reaching your goal (s)?
3. Taking Responsibility
4. Competing you specific
IT is important to be honest. Sure, you
Action Steps
can make excuses or blame others for
5. Helping others
not reaching your goal. yes, you can be
REALITY TIME: dishonest about your effort. this is your
life, your goals and your success. take a
few moments each day to give a honest
Reality time is a time to “look at yourself
review of your efforts. Make it a habit to
in a Mirror.” Its is an opportunity for you
ask these questions about your efforts
to look at how you are doing on your
everyday. You will find they are important
goals.
to your success.
 CHECK YOUR SELF-IMAGE. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

In the last Chapter, we discussed the You can't measure your progress towards
importance of investing in yourself with a reaching your goal by taking more
positive message. To reach your goals, it responsibility. Do you ever get tired of
is very important to have a positive hearing, “do this” or “do that or don't do
mental attitude.
that?” It's maddening sometimes, isn't it?
But once you've ever stopped, but have
One good way to check your progress
toward reaching your goal is by having a you ever stopped to think about why your
positive mental attitude is very important parents, teachers or other others are
checking your attitude. Do you have a always after you? It is possible they are
positive attitude? Are you using more of trying to help you. How can that be?
the positive? “I'll make it happen” Words
or less of the Bummer words that can YOU will find that in reality, there are
hold you back? very few people who are looking for ways
to specifically “nag you”. More often,
Let’s say you set a goal to get a “B” on a
they are trying to teach you important
project. You are given two weeks to
lessons that will help you later in life.
complete the project, but now with three
days left, you have barely gotten started. How does taking the trash out, studying
Suddenly your goal turns into a for a test or doing homework help you
nightmare. Now you start using inner learn about life? It is called responsibility.
voice messages like “I'll never get this
down” or “if I only had enough time to TAKING responsibility is doing something
complete the assignment” or “maybe I without being asked because you know it
can start tomorrow.” As the pressure needs to get done. As you get older, you
increases together project completely, will be asked to take on more and more
you start using negative Bummer words
responsibility. And it is important to learn
as an excuse. And if you answer the two
how to do it. If you know you have to
key REALITY TIME QUESTIONS you would
have to say “no” that you had not given it take out the trash, practice your piano
your best effort. What do you do? lessons and do your homework. And you
don't, you are not taking responsibility.
CHANGE. Your inner voice message and Don't wait to be asked over and over
get busy. You can still reach your goal again. See what has to be done and you
but this measurement checks suggests can help someone else do it.
that you need to make some changes to
get there. Make a couple of minutes to ONE of the ways to tell you are growing
write down a plan for completing the
up is when you start to take responsibility
project on time and get it done directly.
for yourself without being asked Fifteen
Eliminate the Bummer words. Use the
positive. “YES, Count On Me.” Words, I'm Times. Want to stop, “people from
start working your plan. Yes, it will be a harassing you all the time?”, or hassling
little more difficult with only three days you, that's easy show them you are
left. But you can do it. Take a positive growing up by remembering to do
action to reach your goal. something without being asked for over
and over again.
COMPLETING Your Action Steps: the fourth way to measure the progress towards reaching
your goal is the action steps, remember that action steps are like the rounds over ladder
with the goal at the top. You develop a specific plan for reaching your goal by writing down
the goal, making a little specific action steps and setting a target date. Acting on your plan
will move you towards reaching your goal.

COMPLETING each of the action steps is an excellent way to measure your progress
towards reaching your goal. Let's say your goal is to earn $100 to buy a new bike. You may
decide that your action step will include finding three neighbor’s lawn to mow per week,
putting an ad in the paper for babysitting jobs and washing the car, family car each week.
You have set a target date to complete your goal to earn $100 by July. By the end of June, if
you have not put the ads on the paper and you are mowing only one neighbor's lawn, you
are going to have problems reaching your goal. As you complete your action steps, you will
be able to reach your progress towards reaching your goal.

HELPING OTHERS. How often are you helping others? In today's world, there are plenty of
people who belong to the, “it is all about me” club. Many people mistakenly believe “it’s me,
me,” me world and stay very focused on themselves. These people miss a really important
part of life helping others.

It is crucial for you to assist people. Successful people set goals and track their progress
towards achieving them. Successful individuals appreciate their success, have many friends,
and have a positive self-image; they understand the value of assisting others in order to live
a richer, more fulfilling life.

Review
Let’s Review the importance components to measuring Your Progress.

1. Make your reality time count. Be sincere about your efforts toward
reaching your goals
2. Each time you complete one of your action steps you are getting closer to
your goals
3. Always have a positive mental attitude
4. Take responsibility
5. Enjoy life to it’s fullest by helping others
 Key Vocabulary
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Fill in the missing words in each sentence with the correct word from the right hand column.

Responsibility Reality
Helping others Self-image
Positive

1. I Choose to have my........................................._....................................... be positive

2. It is my..............................................to make my self-image positive.
3. ..................................................time is a chance for me to "look in the mirror" and
measure how I am progressing toward my goal.
4. It is important for me to have a...........................................mental attitude
5. If you are...............................................you have less time to think only of yourself.

Real World Example

Anita was a good student and wanted to “fit in” with the other students at new school.
Unfortunately, she had a negative self-image. She thought the other kids would not like her
as much because she wasn’t “like they were.” Because she didn't feel good about herself,
she used a lot of “Bummer Words” in her inner voice
messages on the way to school.

Some of her negative inner voice messages included: “I won't be able to get them to like
me,” “I can’t,” “I'm afraid,” “I've never done that before” and “If only I could.” These negative
thoughts were holding “fitting in” at the new school. She was letting her fears stop her from
trying.

Anita realized that she needed to take some responsibility for not fitting in. During her reality
time, she realized that she needed to make some changes. In those quite moments she had
to be honest with herself that she was not giving a 100% effort to meet new kids and that
she was spending too much time thinking nengatively.

She talked to the school counselor who told her that she was really neat person that the
other kid would like. the counselor reminded Anita that she was good at computers,
 a good student that she was probably one of the best girl’s soccer players in the school.
Anita realized that the counselor was right and that she had a lot going for herself. When
she thought about it, he realized that she was too focused on negative thoughts. Further,
she realised that she should have been thinking about it all the positive things she had going
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for her, like being good at computers and soccer.

Anita decided to take the responsibility to change her self image. She decided on several
Actions Steps. First, she decided to minimize the Bummer Words. Each day she kept account
of the negative words she used. Anita made a point to use at least one less “Bummer Word”
each day. Also, she replaced them beat “I'll make it happen” words yes, I will, and I can.

Her second Action Step was to meet at least one new person at school a day. Once she
started to meet more kids she found several students who shared her interest in computers.
She also learned that the kids liked her a lot more than she thought they did.

Third, Anita realized that one of the best ways to improve her self-image was helping others.
If she was helping others, Anita realized she would be too busy to worry about whether she
was fitting in. Anita's fourth Action Step was to join one of the school organizations. She
chose the drama club.

After a Couple of weeks Anita had met a lot of new. students” and was helping the Drama
Club build a new background for their school play. She was busy she forgot about trying to
fit in. Anita reached her goal of fitting in because she took the responsibility to set a goal
and develop a specific plan with Action Step. Before long Anita was accepted at school
and felt good about herself again.

Class Activity

1 What Action Steps did Anita create to reach her goal of “Fitting in?”

1. ..............................................................................................................
2. ..............................................................................................................
3. ..............................................................................................................
4. ...............................................................................................................
 2. This may shock you, but your teachers have good goals for what they want to
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teach you. these goals are called lessons plans. Teachers write lesson plans for
you a day, a week or a month. How do you think teachers can measure progress
towards reaching their goals for your class? (Hint. Test are one example)
1. ..............................................................................................................
2. ..............................................................................................................
3. ..............................................................................................................
4. ...............................................................................................................

3. As a class exercise, count the number of times in the week that the entire class
uses the words “Yes,” “I can,” and “I will”. On the blackboard write your class
goals for the week-how many times the entire class says “Yes,” “I can,” and “I
will”.

Each day track your class’ progress towards reaching the goal. On your target
Date, did you reach your goal? What lesson did you learn from this exercise?

1. ..............................................................................................................
2. ..............................................................................................................
3. ..............................................................................................................
4. ...............................................................................................................

4 Don’t be afraid to fail. Experience is just mistakes you won’t make again.- Joe
Garagiola.

What did Garagiola mean? Can you give an example to illustrate this ideas? What might
make someone afraid to fail. What Action Steps could a person take to overcome fear?
 Home Activity

1 Earlier we discused the importance of “reality time” and being sincere with
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yourself when answering two questions:

a) Am I giving my best effort to today’s activities?
b) Am I making progress towards reaching my goal (s)?

Considering your efforts in class today, how do you answer these questions?

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2. Do something for somebody everyday for which you do not get paid- Albert
Sweitzer

Think about the above quote. Do you agree with this Quote? Why do you think
this is a good idea? Explain

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3 With your parents/caregiver, develop a plan to help someone (or an

organization) for one week.

Name the person or organization you will help

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Your goal- what will you and your parents/caregivers do to help them?

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 Home Activity
What will your Action Steps be?
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Target date to complete...................................................................................

DREAM +Action Steps + TARGET DATE= Goal

This is your life, your goals, and your

success.
You are a Winner
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H A PTE R
Meeting The
CHALLENGE
Words to Remember
Fear of failure.
Peer pressure.
Determination.
What to Expect
Potential roadblocks to success.
Minimize excuses.
Changing roadblocks into minor
setbacks.

Preview

We have learned that goal setting is a For example, a student. Was asked to do
very important part of being successful a math problem on a blackboard. He was
And we know that most people want to be afraid he would. He wouldn't do it.
successful. So why aren't more people Correctly and that the other students
setting goals? might make fun of him so he did not try.
His fear of failure defeated him before he
Certainly, one of the reasons is that many even tried. Have you ever had a fear
people do not know how to set and
failure affect you? If you have had a case
achieve goals. This is why this handbook is
of fear failure, you are not alone. Almost
so valuable. Another lesson is that there
are roadblocks or challenges to success. everyone does sometimes in their life.
In this chapter, we will learn about
potential roadblocks and how to minimize There is a cure for fear of failure. Yes, you
or eliminate them. guessed it. GOAL SETTING. Certainly
there are risks in setting a goal. And it is
Four major challenges or potential true. You may not reach the goal, but if
roadblocks are: you let fear of failure setting, you won't
Fear of failure. even try. Set your goal. And if for some
Lack of determination.
reason you do not reach it, learn from the
Peer pressure.
experience. Don't let fear of failure stop
Excuses, Excuses.
you from trying new things. Meet the
The Fear of Failure is a strong negative challenge. Don't let fear failure conquer
influence. It means you fear that others you.
might think or say about you. In many
cases, this fear of failure roadblock can ANOTHER potential roadblock to your
stop a person from trying new things. They success is lack of determination.
become afraid to try, and sometimes they
might make a mistake.
Determination is having the guts not to
quit when the going gets tough. Many
people don't have it. They try something
once and again. They didn't. They do not.
They do it well. They won't try it again.
Then they make excuses. When you set a
goal and have the determination to
complete it. Setback becomes a problem
to overcome rather than a stopping point.

When you have determination, when you

are determined or strong minded about
reaching your goal, you will figure out
ways to overcome the challenges.
Remember, we talked earlier about the
importance of having someone whom you
trust and who will help you.

This person, my mentor, can be a valuable

reason for helping you overcome
challenges. Be determined not to quit
when you meet a challenge on your path
to success. Have the courage to ask for
help when you need it.
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