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A társas kapcsolatokról angolul

1.Szerepek a családban
Is the mother’s place in the home?
No, I don’t think so. If woman were involved (lefoglalja vmi) only in domestic affairs
(házi teendők), it would mean their leading separate lives from their husbands. But
when they too have a job, they have more to share (megoszt) with their husbands in
other ways and can expect (elvár) help from them in the home and with the children.
You can’t deprive (megfoszt) a woman of her right to earn her own living, find
pleasure in her work and keep in touch (kapcsolatot tart) with real life.
Should housewives be paid in the same way as other people are?
There is no way (nincs rá mód) you could pay a housewife now. She is doing about 10
jobs. Families should have a woman (bejárónője van) in for some hours every day to
do the housework.
How many jobs are women responsible for?
If a woman goes out to work (eljár dolgozni), she is responsible for at least three jobs.
Some women hold high positions (magas beosztása van) and are good mothers and
housewives at the same time.
Can a woman fulfil (teljesít) the duty (kötelesség) of a wife, a mother and a career woman?
It all depends on the husband’s attitude (viselkedés). If he shares the responsibility of
bringing up a child and caring for (törődik vele) the family with his wife, which should
ideally happen in every family, women will be less exhausted and more efficient both
at work and at home.
Who wears the trousers in your family?
My mother does as my parents are divorced so decisions are always made by her.
What jobs are typically the husband’s responsibility?
Men are usually good at decorating the flat and repairing household devices (háztartási
eszközök). A handyman (ezermester) can fix a dripping (csöpögő) tap, replace a burnt-
out light bulb, stick on wallpaper, repair a leaking waterpipe (folyó vízvezeték).
Who can stay at home on child care leave?
According to an act passed some years ago, it is either the mother or the father who
can stay at home with the new-born baby. In practise, however, it is still the mother
who goes on maternity leave (születési szabadság) for one, two or sometimes three
years.
Is it worth staying at home until the child is three years old?
Yes. Definitely. The first few years of a ch ild’s life are crucially (létfontosságúan)
important. This is the time creating contact between parent and child. There can’t be
anything more important for a mother than attending to (gondoz) a child during the
first few years of its life.

2.Férfi-nő kapcsolat
Do you think a prenuptial agreement should be signed between a man and woman?
In my opinion, a prenuptial agreement ruins (lerombol) the romance of a marriage. It
shows that the groom and the bride don’t trust each other and think about what if
something goes wrong. I think marriage is sacred (szent). It’s when two people agree to
live together in good and bad no matter what will happen.
What is your opinion about pre-arranged marriages?
Pre-arranged marriages are very popular in some other cultures, for example in India.
It’s when the parents of the couple agree on the marriage of their children. I don’t
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think that I would be able to live with someone who is not chosen by me. I believe it’s
very important to get to know and cohabit (együtt él) with the person you want to
establish a family with. The period of courtship (udvarlás) before one gets married is
vital (alapvető). That is the time when you get familiar with your girl or boyfriend.
You have time to decide whether she/he is the person you can imagine your whole life
with. In a pre-arranged marriage, you have no chance to decide about it and it can also
happen that a very young girl is given to an elderly man, which would probably not
happen under normal circumstances.
Is cohabiting before marriage important?
I firmly believe that people should not get married without living together for at least a
year. This is the only way you can get familiar with your spouse’s habits, let them be
good or bad. It can be quite shocking to realise after the honeymoon that your husband
snores and his feet smell, or your wife cannot even prepare the most basic dish for
you. I think that cohabitation reduces the risks of a bad marriage and this way the
number of divorces will also decrease.
What can be the pros and cons of getting married at an early age?
I believe that getting married early is not very fashionable nowadays. Young people
want to go on t o higher education instead of starting a family. They think that they
should enjoy life until they can and it is enough to find a future husband or wife at the
age of 30.
The advantage of an early marriage is that the generation gap between the parents and
the children would be not so large.
However, most early marriages ends in divorce. In most cases, these people are not
mature enough to bring up children and to provide them with the necessary financial
background. It is very difficult to make ends meet (kijön a fizetéséből) without the
support of the whole family.
What do you know of polygamy and polyandry?
In order to make judgements (ítélet) about polygamy (többnejűség) and polyandry
(többférjűség), we have to have a clear picture about what the two words derive from
(ered). Polygamy is a form of marriage in which a man has more than one wife at the
same time. It has been widely practised at various times in many societies throughout
the world, and it is still common (gyakori) in Muslim countries and in some parts of
Africa where it is legal under Islamic law. In the United States it is also common in
some Mormon communities in Utah. Although laws prohibit (megtilt) polygamy,
thousands of people practise it. It can have several advantages and disadvantages. As
far as the husband is concerned (érdekelt), polygamy is an attractive form of marriage
for several reasons: it means greate economic contributions (hozzájárulás) from the
wives to the household income; it provides increased sexual availability and
companionship; and it attracts greater social status and prestige to be able to afford to
look after more than one wife. Polygamy may also prove (bizonyul) attractive to
women because it provides a role for women in societies in which there is no accepted
social role ascribed (tulajdonít) to unmarried women; and it means shared child-
rearing (gyereknevelés) and domestic labour (házimunka).
Can you imagine having more spouses?
I don’t think I could live with more than one spouse at the same time. However, a lot
of people have partners or mistresses (szerető) who they cheat on their spouse with.
Unfortunately, adultery (házasságtörés) is a very common issue in our world. People
might think that it is normal as they see it o n television all the time. Being faithful
does not mean too much for young people. All they want is sexual satisfaction and not
a normal relationship.
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What is the ideal age to start a family?

I don’t think that there is an i deal age to start a family. It depends on the person,
his/her maturity and way of thinking. Nowadays, as more and more people go to
university, an ideal period can be after graduating from higher education. There are,
however, plenty of issues to consider (fontolóra vesz) when founding a family: Are
you ready for a serious relationship or do you want to enjoy life a little more? Most
people would say that enjoying life a bit is a good choice. They believe that having a
child is a burden (teher) on them. Also, whether you are ready to support a family or
not is the most important question to answer. If you don’t have a good, well-paid job,
it is almost impossible for one person to earn the money for the whole family. Another
issue is the age difference between the husband and the wife. Today it is a trend
among young women to choose a m an who has already achieved something in life.
They need someone they can rely on, s omeone who would be faithful and a caring
husband.
What was the situation a hundred years ago?
Even in the middle of the twentieth century, most people got married right after high
school. Young couples struggled (igyekezett) together to make end meet and to bring
up their children. It was considered abnormal if a girl who was over 20 was still single.
Women wanted to avoid remaining spinsters (hajadon) and they thought it was a
shame if no one choose them. Another important factor was the social status of the
young. It was obvious (nyilvánvaló) that two people from different levels of society do
not match each other. It was quite rare for people with different backgrounds to get
married. If it happened, there were usually family feuds (családi viszály), young men
were sometimes disinherited (kitagadták) by their fathers if they dared (merészelt) to
marry someone inferior (alsóbbrendű) to their ranks (rang).

3.Munkahelyi kapcsolatrendszerek
I can’t speak about this topic because I have never worked yet. In every workplace there are a
boss and the subaltern who have to obey the boss and comply with the dateline.