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“This world is all temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this life is a
righteous wife.” (Reported by Muslim, 1468).
“Let every one of you have a thankful heart, a remembering tongue [remembering
Allaah] and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter.”
(Reported by Ahmad, 5/282, and al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Maajah from Thawbaan.
Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5231).
All of the above must be achieved through asking the right questions, verifying
facts, gathering information and checking sources, so that the home will not be
corrupted or destroyed.
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The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The likeness of a
house in which Allaah is remembered and the house in which Allaah is not
remembered is that of the living and the dead, respectively.”
We must make our homes places where Allaah is remembered in all kinds of ways,
whether in our hearts, verbally, during prayer, by reading Qur’aan, by discussing
Islamic issues, or by reading different kinds of Islamic books.
Revive your homes with all kinds of dhikr
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‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to pray qiyaam at night, and when he
prayed witr he would say, ‘Get up and pray witr, O ‘Aa’ishah’” (Reported by Muslim,
Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 6/23).
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Another thing that will help in teaching your family and letting them develop a
understanding of their religion and help them adhere to its rules, is having one’s
own Islamic library at home. It does not have to be extensive; what matters is
choosing good books, putting them in a place where they are readily accessible, and
encouraging family members to read them.
You could put books in a clean and tidy corner of the living room, and in a suitable
place in a bedroom or guest room; this will make it easy for any member of the
family to read constantly.
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“… and who (conduct) their affairs by mutual consultation…” [Quran - al-Shoora

42:38 – interpretation of the meaning]. This is a time when the family members can
sit together in a suitable place to talk about issues within and without the family
that affect them. This is a sign of strong ties, interaction and cooperation within the
family.
….there is another important kind of family meeting, which is holding frank
discussions between parents and children. Some of the problems of adolescence
can only by solved by one-on-one conversations between parents and children,
where a father talks, calmly and quietly, with his son about matters that have to do
with the problems of youth and the Islamic rulings pertaining to adolescence, and a
mother talks to her daughter and tells her what she needs to know about Islamic
rulings and helps her to solve the problems that she may face at this age.
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It is rare for people to live together under one roof without any arguments, but
reconciliation is better and correcting oneself is a virtue. What shakes the unity of
the family and harms its infrastructure is when conflicts are brought out into the
open before the members of the family, who then split into two or more opposing
camps, not to mention the psychological harm that is done to children, especially
little ones. Think about a home where the father says to the child, “Do not speak to
your mother,” and the mother says to him, “Do not speak to your father.” The child
is confused and filled with turmoil, and the entire family lives in an atmosphere of
hostility. We should try to avoid conflict, but if it happens, we should try to hide it.
We ask Allaah to create love between our hearts.
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Who are your children’s friends?

Have you met them before?
What do your children bring home from outside?
Where does your daughter go, and with whom?

HOWEVER,
This supervision must be subtle.
There should be no terrorizing atmosphere
The child must not be made to feel that he or she is not trusted.
Advice and/or punishments must be measured against the ages of the children,
their levels of understanding and the extent of the wrongful behavior.
Beware of negative methods of checking on children and making them feel that
their every move is being watched.
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Some houses are like hotels where the people who live there hardly know one
another and hardly ever meet.
Some children eat whenever they want and sleep whenever they want, which leads
to them staying up late and wasting their time, or eating on a full stomach. This
chaos leads to a weakening of family ties and a waste of time and energy, and
exacerbates the lack of discipline among family members.
he head of the household has to be strict in setting a time for everyone to be back
home, and in insisting that everyone asks permission before going out, especially
those who are young, whether in terms of chronological age or mental age, as it
were, for whom one might have fears.
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Not disclosing intimate secrets

Not disclosing marital conflicts
Not disclosing any secrets the exposing of which could cause harm to the family or
to any of its members.
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According to a report: “When Allaah loves the people of a household, He introduces

kindness among them.” (Reported by Ibn Abi al-Dunya and others; Saheeh al-Jaami’,
no. 1704).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah loves
kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for
anything else.” (Reported by Muslim, Kitaab al-Birr wa’l-Sillah wa’l-Aadaab, no.
2592)
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Many men think that housework is beneath them, and some of them think that it
will undermine their status and position if they help their wives with this work.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), however,
used to “sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work
men do in their homes.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/121; Saheeh
al-Jaami’, 4927).
According to a report by Ayesha, she said: “He was like any other human being: he
would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself.” (Reported by Imaam
Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/256; al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 671).
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Every member of the household is bound to have some bad characteristics, such as
lying, backbiting, gossiping and so on. These bad characteristics have to be resisted
and opposed.
Some people think that corporal punishment is the only way to deal with such
things. The following hadeeth is very educational on this topic: from ‘Aa’ishah (may
Allaah be pleased with her) who said: “If the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to know that one of his household had told a
lie, he would try to ignore him until he repented.” (See al-Musnad by Imaam
Ahmad, 6/152. The text of the hadeeth is also in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 4675).
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