Personal Development
Personal Development
Human Development re- examine his identity and try to find out
changes that occur from time to time, may it be exactly who he or she is.
psychological, spiritual, and emotional Stage 6: Intimacy vs Isolation (19 – 40 Years)
process of growth and change that takes place between Forming intimate, loving relationships with
birth and maturity other people.
Growth Development Avoiding can lead to isolation, loneliness,
- improvement - change and sometimes depression
Stage 7: Generativity vs Stagnation (40 – 65 Years)
- external/physical - internal/mental &
We give back to society through raising our children,
emotional
being productive at work, and becoming involved in
- development of a - gradual change in community activities and organizations.
person in age, skills, behavior,
By failing to find a way to contribute, we become
height, weight, etc. habits, etc.
stagnant and feel unproductive. Success in this stage
- focuses on one - focuses on various will lead to the virtue of care.
aspect aspects Stage 8: Integrity vs Despair (65 Years – Up)
- quantitative - qualitative It is during this time that we contemplate our
improvement improvement accomplishments.
Feelings of bitterness and despair.
Critical Thinking
Critical thinking comes from the word kritikos (meaning, You must be able to control your impulses and emotions, and
discerning judgment) and criterion (meaning, standards). show maturity in your behavior.
Hence, critical thinking implies the discerning judgment based
on standards. It requires ability to reason out (logical thinking), Task 11. You must establish career or vocational goals.
infer, analyze, interpret, and explain. You will need to assess your skills, get into the right
educational program, and persevere in achieving your goals.
C. Socio-Emotional Development An important step is to study well.
Motus anima is said to be the Latin description for
emotions. Indeed, emotions, or feelings as a common INDEPENDENCE AND RESPONSIBILITY AS A MAJOR
word used for it, are kinds of force from within that affect GOAL
us. A. Self-adjustment and Development of Skills
Physiological Component Adjusting to a Maturing Body
Emotions involve bodily arousal. Something goes on in the One important thing to do is to see your physical self with
brain, in the autonomic nervous system, as well as in the acceptance and give it nurturance. A well-cared for body
endocrine system. helps ensure achievement of optimum health and good
performance in your tasks.
Cognitive Component
This refers to the subjective conscious experience of the Developing Cognitive Skills
person. How you interpret a situation affects your emotions. Cognition is a very important process in learning. Your
ability to learn or acquire knowledge depends on your
Behavioral Component cognitive skills.
This is the outward expression of emotions as seen in your Be inquisitive.
facial expressions, body language, and manner of speaking. - Adapt an attitude of wanting to learn more, especially
related to your interests or the work you would like to do in
D. Spiritual Development the future.
The spiritual dimension is an integral part of our self. The
guidance that comes from a spiritual direction takes a Brainstorm.
special role in life establishes independence. Along with - Come up with a lot of ideas. Think of many ways to look at
that, it is also the time when an individual begins to ask certain things.
about God and the meaning of life (Muus, 1996).
Imagine and explore.
- As you entertain various ideas, you allow yourself to
Chapter 4: Independence and Responsibility visualize and explore different ways of thinking.
Developmental Tasks
Robert J. Havighurst (1900-1991), a distinguished Create or innovate.
educator, proposed that there are specific things to do that - Use your thoughts in creating some things. Turn your
come with each stage of development. ideas into useful projects or find ways of doing things.
They are called developmental tasks that need to be
accomplished to enable you to perform other tasks in life. Engage in problem-solving.
Developmental tasks are what you need to do in each - Keep your mind at work and further develop its capacity by
developmental stage that will help you adjust to the challenging it.
changes and demands of life.
Read.
Task 1. You must adjust with the physical changes that - Reading enriches your knowledge.
marked your growth.
Protect your body from physical harm and any form of abuse, Developing Communication Skills
like using alcohol or drugs. Your communication skills will be valuable for your
independence. It will help you become more effective in
Task 2. You must adjust with your growing intellectual dealing with people. What is communication? From the
abilities and develop critical thinking skills. Latin word "communicare," which means to share,
You do not simply accept explanations. You can analyze and communi- cation is an act of sharing thoughts or
test hypotheses to see if they are true. information. Throop and Castellucci (2011) identified the
elements and patterns of communication.
Task 3. You must adjust to the academic demands in Elements:
school. sender, receiver ,message
Patterns:
Task 4. You must develop your language skills. a. one-way communication (the sender gives the
message, the receiver gets it, and the process is
Task 5. You must establish your personal identity. complete)
b. two-way communication (the sender gives the
Task 6. You must learn to be independent. message, the receiver gets it and responds with
another message)
Task 7. You must establish healthy peer relationships. The means of exchanging messages may be verbal or
Make friends with people who will be good influences to you nonverbal. Verbal communication uses spoken words.
and will inspire you to do your best. Nonverbal communication uses written words, symbols,
gestures, or body language.
Task 8. You must manage your sexuality. Language is a crucial skill that you need to develop at this time
You must engage in responsible sexual behaviors that to be an effective communicator.
incorporate good values and gracious manners. Responsiveness shows your openness in dealing with others.
Assertiveness means "behavior ranging from asking
Task 9. You must adopt good moral standards, personal questions (low assertiveness) to telling others what's expected
values, and beliefs. (high assertiveness)"
Your behaviors then were influenced by the consequences that
parents or authorities have set. Developing Self-control
Task 10. You must learn to control your impulse and Part of seeking independence is being responsible with
exhibit behavioral maturity. your actions. Responsibility is one of the trademarks of
maturity that manifest in your behavior. One way of
showing it is by exercising self-control in managing your
behaviors and emotions. You need this skill as you stride Throop and Castellucci (2011) suggested some ways to
to do things independently. resolve conflicts;
Learn your own signs and triggers. Make a commitment to resolve the problem.
Take a different or positive perspective. Be clear with your intention of resolving the conflict.
Stick with the facts
Deal with your anger and control it.
B. Establishing Positive and Healthy Relationships
Interaction with others is a significant experience that
contributes to the development of an individual Chapter 6: Powers of the Mind
Constructive relationships are the ones you should a. The Hindbrain
strive to have and keep. This part of the brain is responsible for our instinctive,
Destructive relationships are characterized by selfish autonomic behavior and serves survival functions.
motives and disregard for the welfare of the partner. These The medulla controls vital functions like respiration, blood
relationships are to be avoided. circulation, digestion, and heart rate.
The cerebellum regulates posture, balance, and muscular
Throop and Castellucci (2011) coordination.
Trust has something to do with reliability. It means you can The pons acts as bridge between the medulla and other
count on each other. parts of the brain; regulates movement, sleep, and
Respect has something to do with valuing. You take someone arousal.
important, and the other holds you important. The reticular activating system regulates attention,
Empathy has something to do with deep understanding of movement, sleep, waking, and reflexes.
experience.
b. Mid-brain
Abraham Maslow (1908-1970), recognized that personal This part is the conduction and switching center of the brain
growth is a basic human desire, proposed a model of hierarchy that enables responses, like muscle movements to happen,
of human needs. and for auditory and visual system processing to transpire.
Physiological Needs Problems with auditory or visual processing may result in
The physiological needs include those that are vital certain learning disabilities like dyslexia and central auditory
to survival. (nutirition, air, shelter, clothing) processing disorder.
Security and Safety Needs
The needs for security and safety become primary. c. Forebrain
Social Needs This is in charge of our intellectual activity and consciousness.
Love, acceptance, and belonging. Personal The cerebrum acts as "executive center" of the brain
relationships with friends, family, and lovers play an responsible for remembering, learning, and thinking, as
important role. (religious groups, clubs, etc.) well as taking charge of language and emotion.
Esteem Needs The thalamus relays sensory information.
People who are able to satisfy esteem needs by achieving The hypothalamus secretes hormones and controls
good self-esteem and the recognition of others tend to feel physiological functions like temperature, hunger, and
confident in their abilities, those who lack self-esteem can thirst.
develop feelings of inferiority. The corpus callosum connects the two hemispheres.
Self-Actualization Needs The pituitary gland is the master gland that secretes
Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with hormones and controls the endocrine system.
personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others,
and interested in fulfilling their potential. LATERALIZATION OF THE BRAIN
The Two Hemispheres of the Brain
In general, the left hemisphere controls the right side
of the body. It is responsible for the logical, intellectual
functions necessary for understanding, writing, and
C. Career Planning speaking. The right hemisphere controls the left side
Identifying Skills and Interests of the body. It takes care of the creative, intuitive, and
Developing Life Goals emotional aspects.
Chapter 5: Awareness of Different Life Demands Left Brain Functions Right Brain Functions
POSITIVE APPROACHES IN DEALING WITH LIFE
DEMANDS Analytic Thought Art Awareness
Logic Creativity
Challenges in the Family Language Imagination
Quest for independence Reasoning Intuition
High expectations Science & Math Insight
Making career choices Writing Holistic Thought
Number Skills Music Awareness
Relationship issues
Right Hand Control 3-D Forms
Left Hand Control
Dealing with Family Expectations
Communicate openly
Understand your parents
Be responsible Left Hemisphere Right Hemisphere
Eating Problems
Chapter 7: Being Well If it reaches a point of extreme obsession to lose weight,
Carol D. Ryff (1989) considers well-being as multidimensional then it may result in some psychological disorders.
that covers different aspects. It is not only about having Anorexia nervosa keeps his/her weight as low as
positive emotions like feeling good or happy. It also refers to a possible because of faulty thinking that he/she is fat and
number of positive psychological function ing. They are as would want to be thin as possible. The person cuts down
follows: food intake, vomit food out or exercise excessively.
Bulimia overeating then purging what has been eaten by
vomiting to avoid gaining weight.
a. Self-acceptance Eating Disorders – This is serious problem in eating a
You accept yourself and have a positive attitude with who you problem. Becoming overly conscious about behavior
are. brought about by excessive concern over weight and
unhealthy eating practices.
that may have positive or negative effects on the
Substance Abuse adjustment of an individual.
The use of drugs and alcohol is a serious issue and "the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to
concern most especially for teenagers like you. monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to
discriminate among them and use this information to guide
one's thinking and actions"
Chapter 8: Stress Busting in Middle and Late Adolescence
UNDERSTANDING STRESS Goleman's Theory
Stress and Your Body Daniel Goleman (1995) in his book, Emotional Intelligence
The word 'stress' refers to pressure, tension, he included the role of social skills in the process of
hardship, emphasis, or importance. establishing meaningful relationships and recognized
It was Dr. Hans Selye (1907-1982), an meaningful relationships as having a good effect on an
endocrinologist, who made the first scientific study on individual's growth.
"stress" to refer to the body's reaction to perceived 5 domains of emotional intelligence:
threats or tension that affects our body's balance 1. Self-awareness. This is awareness of your emotions:
(homeostasis) knowing what you feel and why you are feeling it.
2. Self-management. This is handling emotions effectively.
Selye's General Adaptation Syndrome 3. Motivation. This is making use of your emotions to
1. The Alarm Phase continue what you are doing to achieve your goals, even in
- You recognize the stressor. It could be a problem, a the face of difficulties.
difficulty, or threat stirring reactions in your body. 4. Empathy. It means understanding and mirroring what
2. The Resistance Phase others are feeling.
- Being able to handle stress or adapt to the situation, you 5. Social skills. Goleman points out that every emotion has
are able to restore a sense of balance once again. Your a function. Generally, emotions help you make
body is still in a state of arousal to resist any effects of connections and establish relationships.
stress in you. 6.
EFFECTIVE WAYS OF MANAGING EMOTIONS
3. The Exhaustion Phase a. Keep your emotions in check.
- If the stressful situation persists and you are no longer b. Take a moment to consider your feelings, especially
able to neither adjust nor hold up, exhaustion sets in that distressing ones.
can seriously affect your body. Burnout, fatigue, c. Handle your anger well.
dysfunction, or health problems can occur. d. Keep positive attitude.
2. Secondary Appraisal
- This involves how you cope with the stressful situation.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Emotional Quotient
is awareness of one's emotions and ability to understand
the emotions of others. It involves managing emotions and
applying them to enhance good thinking processes like
reasoning, solving problems, and even handling stress.