Core Erotic Blueprint Evaluation

Core Erotic Blueprint Evaluation

By JAIYA

When we discuss someone’s blueprint or wiring, we are referring to the part of the body’s
physiology or neurology that determines or controls something. Likewise, a person’s
Core Erotic Blueprint (CEB) refers to the fundamental way that one is erotically wired
and reveals the best paths for their sexual arousal. This wiring is like a blueprint that can
provide a person detailed information as to what types of sexual responses they may
have, what needs they have, and what types of strengths and weaknesses they may
have, as it relates to their sexuality.

A Core Erotic Blueprint is created from a combination of both our genetic make-up and
how we were brought up. For example, people who were not provided with lots od touch
and sensation while growing up may live in the shadow of a particular wiring and tend to
have a hard time feeling what is happening in their bodies. Conversely, those who were
provided with lots of touch and sensation while growing up are more likely to more deeply
connected to their bodies and thus would be more conditioned towards the positive
expression of the Sensual type CEB.

Fortunately, while we all have a core blueprint, due to neuroplasticity we are each able
to create new wiring, thus expanding our expression of our own sexuality and opening
the doors to what will bring us, and our partners, pleasure!
The CEB Evaluation allows a couple to look at their individual wiring, as well as their
partner’s, and discover how they may work together to create enhanced sexual
compatibility.

The following questions are provided in order for you to determinate what your Core
Erotic Blueprint may be. If you have a lover, have them answer this as well so that you
may compare notes.
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1. During foreplay, I prefer:

a. Emotional connection and the anticipation of what is about to happen.
b. A hot bath, massage and slow kissing.
c. Psychological power plays, restraint, and dark fantasy.
d. Who needs foreplay?
e. All of above equally.

2. I’m most turned on when:

a. My partner’s arousal increases. The more aroused they get the stronger
my arousal.
b. I can get out of my head and relax more deeply into my body.
c. I am doing or fantasizing about something considered taboo.
d. My partner is naked and ready.
e. All of the above turn me on equally.

3. I have sex in order to:

a. Experience something transcendent and connect emotionally.
b. Feel pleasure and connect more deeply to my body or my lover’s body.
c. Overcome shame, let go responsibility, or play.
d. Have a release and feel more relaxed.
e. All of the above are equally reasons why I have sex.

4. During MOST erotic encounters, I would consider myself:

a. Extra Sensory.
b. Romantic.
c. Out of the Box.
d. Mostly Visual.
e. I am equally all of the above.

5. My favorite type of music to make love to:

a. Sacred, new age, chant, or classical.
b. Has to be the right song… something soft and sensual.
c. Something grindy, edgy or dark and moody.
d. Doesn’t matter.
e. All of the above are equally good.
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6. Read the following scenarios and choose the one that is MOST arousing to
you.
a. I can feel the energetic connection between my partner and I. I know from
the eye contact that they are right there with me. I feel electricity between
us as our bodies get closer and closer together. When touch comes, it
feels as though a jolt goes through me. I close my eyes and sense my
sexual energy expanding out as if I were making love to the divine.
b. A soft fur mitt runs over my skin. I delight in the sensation and a soft moan
escapes my lips. Massage oil is applied to my skin and I am being
deliciously and sensually stroked, fingertips grazing over my genitals,
teasing for a moment, and moving on. I writhe as my whole body awakens
to the erotic.
c. “Don’t move”, my lover commands. He/She holds my wrists to the bed an
I feel their power. A hand goes around my neck as another goes to my
nether regions. “I’m exploring my property”, my lover exclaims. I know I
will be taken tonight and the play send thrills through my whole body.
d. No foreplay needed. My partner is naked and ready for penetration. The
sex is intense as we thrust passionately together. The orgasm is even
more intense and highly pleasurable. We lay together panting and
satisfied.
e. All are equally arousing.

7. When I fantasize I:
a. Have thoughts of something bigger than myself, experiencing myself far
outside of my physical body, making love to the divine. I see vivid colors
as I focus on emotional connection.
b. Imagine romantic scenarios where I am able to luxuriate in sensual play
such as slow dancing, eating an amazing meal, being deeply in love,
having hot baths or long erotic massages before sinking into highly
pleasurable lovemaking.
c. Think about overpowering someone or being overpowered by someone,
fantasize about “out of the box” sexual practices such as impact play
(spanking, slapping, paddling, etc.), restraint (handcuffs, ropes, spreader
bars, etc.) or other kinky activities.
d. Use all of the above.
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8. During sex, I find myself thinking most about:

a. I sense more than I think. I sense emotions my partner may be feeling or
things that are hard to explain.
b. My mind thinks about all kinds of things – what I didn’t finish at work, how
my body looks, something distracting in the room, etc., etc.
c. A specific fantasy. Maybe it’s being so irresistible my lover must take me,
maybe it’s about being spanked, or maybe it’s about being tied up!
d. If I’m thinking, it’s usually about my orgasm or my genitals or the hotness
of my lover.
e. I think of all of this in equal amounts.

9. What turns you off the most?

a. Direct genital touch given too soon or lack of a sense connection.
b. Being stuck in my head, tension or distraction.
c. Lack of something naughty or overwhelming shame/guilt.
d. Too much complication.
e. All of these turn me off equally.

10. What do you dislike most about sex?

a. It’s too physical and base.
b. Sexual fluids/the mess.
c. Feeling guilty or weird during or afterwards.
d. When there isn’t an orgasm or the orgasm is too quick.
e. None of these. I like everything about sex.

11. What best describes you when things go wrong?

a. I easily get over sensitive and/or feel misunderstood by my partner.
b. I tend to feel worried, tense and distracted.
c. I feel shame about my desires and shut down my pleasure.
d. I get focused on my performance and having or not having an orgasm.
e. None of the above describes me.

12. What BEST describes orgasms you would like to have?

a. Bigger than myself, kryatic, transcendent, mind-altering, spiritual.
b. Full-body, extended, slow, deep, connected, simultaneous.
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c. Powerful, taken or controlled by another, owned, out of control.

d. Just as long as I have one any orgasm is great.
e. All of the above are equally pleasing.

13. When it comes to touch, I prefer:

a. Hovering over my skin.
b. Long slow sensual strokes.
c. Nibbles, scratches, and love taps.
d. Direct genital touch.
e. All of the above are equal.

14. During sex I MOST enjoy:

a. Feeling a sense of oneness and connection to something greater than
myself.
b. Igniting all of my senses into whole body orgasmic bliss.
c. Surrendering (being ravished) or taking control (power).
d. Penetrating or being penetrated.
e. All of the above are equally enjoyable.

15. Which sex to do you MOST prefer?

a. Visualizations and breath.
b. Fur, feather or massager.
c. Restraints and impact toys (hands, paddles, crops, etc.).
d. Vibrator, dildo, or genitals are good enough.
e. All of these are equally pleasurable.

16. Which sex technique do you think you would like to do the MOST?
a. Hand/Heart Eye Gaze: sitting across from one another, hands on our
hearts, breathing and gazing into each other’s eyes, feeling our
connection and oneness. As we breath we pulse our pelvic floor muscles
to build more erotic energy and intensity between us. We use our intention
to send lust/love to each other and orgasmic pleasure moves up our
spines. The anticipation builds as we envision the transcendent
lovemaking that is about to come…
b. Witnessing the Sensory: After a delicious warm bath together where we
took turns bathing each other with great smelling soaps, one of us is
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blindfolded and naked on the bed. The room is warm and the glow of
candles flickers in the clean space. Hands slowly and luxuriously run over
skin, then feathers, the fur… the tastes begin with delicious chocolates
and succulent fruits. Kisses spread from chests to nether regions and
moans escape lips…
c. Playful Restraint: We look into each other’s eyes as the restraints are
placed on wrists. They are tightly pulled, feeling safe and secure. Ropes
expertly bind the restraints to our bedposts. Now the ankles, legs spread,
secured and helpless. Now this restrained body is ready to played with,
spread eagle, exposed, and waiting to be taken…
d. Sex positions: I know the position that brings me the most pleasure and
that gets me to orgasm. Sometimes it is good to mix it up, so a pillow is
placed under the pelvis. We focus on genital-to-genital contact,
penetration never felt so good…
e. All are equally enticing.

17. When I took this quiz, I:

a. Felt anticipation – What else is possible?
b. Thought hard about the answers – I want to answer these correctly.
c. Got excited about being freer – I’m not so weird.
d. Felt frustrated – Why does all this matter? Let’s just do it.
e. All of the above.
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What Is Your Blueprint?

Mostly A’s: You’re Energetically Wired

People with an Energetic core are highly sensitive. They live in the realm of
emotion. The more pleasure their partner feels, the more aroused they become.
Anticipation may often be more arousing than actual sexual touch.
Positive Aspects: Highly sensitive, turned-on by energy play, turned-on by their partner’s
pleasure, easily orgasmic through variety of routes.
Shadow Aspects: Short circuit with direct genital touch, effected easily by negative
emotions or thoughts, more interested in being out of their body, may judge sexuality as
not spiritual.
Fed By: Energy play, anticipation, partner’s arousal, transformational sex, meditation,
yoga, expanding outside of their body.

Mostly B’s: You are Sensually Wired

People with a Sensual core often complain that they have a hard time getting out of their
heads. They need to relax in order to have sex. They are highly sensual creatures
affected by smell, sight, sound, touch and taste. They tend to be interested in slowing
down and being romantic.
Positive Aspects: Highly sensual, could swim in sensation for hours, brings color to
sexual experiences, loves to give and receive sensual play.
Shadow Aspects: Stuck in their head, can’t get present, judge themselves harshly, body
image issues, tend to want perfection, hard to let go.
Fed By: Sensation play, toggle activities that help them relax (massage, bath, exercise,
cleaning), reminders of pleasure throughout their day.

Mostly C’s: You are Kinky Wired

Those who are Kinky wired are most turned on by “out-of-the-box” sexual encounters.
They may have had shame about their kinky desires and not allowed themselves to
indulge in sexual activities that seem weird or different than the norm.
Positive Aspects: Can be turned on by psychological play only, usually have a rich
fantasy life, they enjoy variety and creativity in sexual play, ultimately, they are about
experiencing sexual freedom and extraordinary sexual experiences.
Shadow Aspects: May have been shut down by shame or guilt that overrides their
desires, may confuse fantasy with what they really want to experience, and they usually
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judge themselves or have been judged by others. Kinky types may get stuck in a
particular fantasy that becomes their only route to orgasm.
Fed By: Any sexual play that is outside of their personal “norm” or that fits into their
specific fantasy.

Mostly D’s: You are Sexually Wired

The Sexually wired people are most accepted in our culture. Men, especially, are
expected to be Sexual. The Sexual types are easy to turn on and they are sexual
stereotype. The opposite of a Sensual type, Sexual types have sex in order to relax.
Positive Aspects: Easily turned on by visual or touch stimulus, can go from zero to
orgasm fairly quickly, techniques work well with them and they are very fun to play with
in bed.
Shadow Aspects: Can be focused on the end goal – orgasm, they are usually outcome-
driven and miss the journey to orgasm, are most likely to experience performance anxiety
and are sometimes oblivious and self-focused during sex.
Fed By: Visual Stimulation, adult films, sex techniques, genital focus, experiencing an
orgasm, sexual variety, nudity, erection or wetness.

Mostly E’s: You are a Shape-Shifter

Shape-Shifters can play in all the realms with ease and joy. Some Shape-Shifters are
naturally this way and others learn how to wire themselves to be able to play with anyone!
Note: You can also be a combination of two or more of these. For example, if you have
equal amounts of A and B, you are an Energetic/Sensual. Or equal B and C you are a
Sensual/Kinky. We usually have a primary and secondary core wiring.

Positive and Shadow

Each type also has a positive and a shadow. Make a note to see if you are living
more in the positive or in the shadow of each type.
Here’s a little guide:
Question #1: If you answered D, give yourself 1 point for Sexual shadow.
Question #7: If you answered B, give yourself 1 point for Sensual shadow.
Question #8-10: Give yourself 1 point for any letter A – D.
Question #16: If you answered D, give yourself 1 point for Sexual shadow

Now take a look at where you mostly answered in the shadow. While your Blueprint may
be for one type of wiring, you can at the same time be living in the shadow of another
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type. This is only if you answered differently for your shadow than you did for your core
wiring.