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 Pre-Nut Clarity
The Mindset Shift That Makes Relapse Impossible
and Builds a Life Free of Porn, masturbation
and every other addiction
Emmanuel KVS
CHAPTER ONE.............................................................................................................................8
FORERUNNER TO “NO MORE RELAPSE”................................................................................8
CHAPTER TWO.......................................................................................................................... 12
PRE-NUT CLARITY.................................................................................................................... 12
CHAPTER THREE...................................................................................................................... 15
PORNOGRAPHY IS THE KING OF THE INTERNET................................................................ 15
CHAPTER FOUR........................................................................................................................ 21
MASTURBATION(FAP).............................................................................................................. 21
CHAPTER FIVE.......................................................................................................................... 26
WHY THE MAINSTREAM BLOGS & WEBSITES TELL YOU MASTURBATION IS HEALTHY
AND NORMAL............................................................................................................................ 26
CHAPTER SIX.............................................................................................................................30
WHY YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO QUIT PORN AND MASTURBATION................................. 30
CHAPTER SEVEN...................................................................................................................... 35
WHY SELF-DISCIPLINE OR WILLPOWER CAN'T HELP YOU QUIT PORN &
MASTURBATION........................................................................................................................35
CHAPTER EIGHT....................................................................................................................... 39
NO-CHOICE SYSTEM................................................................................................................ 39
CHAPTER NINE..........................................................................................................................43
PRIORITY ACTION SYSTEM..................................................................................................... 43
ARE YOU READY FOR "NO MORE RELAPSE"?.................................................................... 46
 CHAPTER ONE

FORERUNNER TO “NO MORE RELAPSE”

There’s no greater source of genuine happiness, confidence, and

empowerment for a man than knowing he has finally broken free from porn
and masturbation. The sense of liberation and self-mastery that comes
from overcoming these habits is unmatched.

That feeling of true power is incomparable. It’s the kind of inner strength
that transforms every aspect of life, bringing a deep sense of fulfillment and
self-assurance. Nothing can quite replicate the confidence that comes with
knowing you’ve conquered this challenge for good.
Quitting porn and masturbation for good transformed me into a completely
new person. It had a profound impact on every area of my life. My social
interactions became more fulfilling, my romantic relationships flourished,
and even my financial situation improved. Overall, I became more
confident, happier, and better equipped to handle challenges.

This is the kind of transformation I want for you. My goal is to help you
experience the same positive changes, freeing you from habits that hold
you back and unlocking your potential for a more fulfilling life.

This short book, PRE-NUT CLARITY serves as a forerunner to the main

work, "No More Relapse." It's designed to pave the way for a deeper
understanding of addiction, particularly to porn and masturbation. If you find
the insights here valuable, I encourage you to dive into "No More
Relapse," where I went into more details and provide comprehensive
strategies to transform an empty, disappointing life into one that is fulfilling
and rewarding where you no longer need to watch porn or masturbate
anymore.

To truly appreciate the wisdom contained within these few pages, you must
approach them with an open mind. This requires a willingness to let go of
everything you think you know about quitting porn and masturbation
addiction.

Consider this: to taste my cup of water, you must first empty your own.
Abandon what you think you know and prepare to absorb new perspectives
of quitting porn and masturbation(fap).

What you are about to read is grounded in raw personal experience, not
abstract research or theoretical concepts. This is crucial because the reality
of porn and masturbation addiction is far more complex than many realize,
even professionals trained in the field. My aim is to bring these complexities
to light and guide you toward effective solutions.
Porn addiction is sneaky. No one starts anything with the intention of
becoming addicted to it. Many view porn and masturbation addiction as
mere habits.

Mahatma Gandhi once said, "An ounce of practice is worth more than tons
of preaching.”

And Paul Coelho also said, "The world is changed by your example not
your opinion."

I try my best to live by example; meaning, before I give advice, I first make
sure I have "live" that advice.

I quit porn and masturbation six years ago... This September 2024(the time
I'm currently writing this book) makes it 7 years... and I never looked
back…This success fuels my desire to help others achieve the same
freedom.

Despite the urge and temptation in the whole world around me both online
and offline, still it has become totally impossible for me to relapse.
How come I'm so successful at turning my life around and quitting porn and
masturbation permanently while others keep relapsing?

What's my secret?

Well, continue reading to find out.

 CHAPTER TWO

PRE-NUT CLARITY

I personally define Pre-nut clarity as a fascinating state of mind that

captures the mental clarity and heightened sense of self-awareness
typically experienced after a relapse, but before one even engages in
masturbation or watching porn. It’s a unique state of mind where you
haven't physically relapsed, yet you already possess the realizations that
often come afterward.

This form of clarity naturally serves as a powerful deterrent, making it

nearly impossible to give in to urges. The mental shift is so POWERFUL
that it allows individuals to overcome temptation without relying on sheer
willpower or self-discipline.

When you're in a state of pre-nut clarity, relapse becomes totally difficult.

The thought of watching porn or engaging in addictive behaviors feels
exhausting and undesirable. This mental space encourages you to avoid
the act by all possible means, simply because your mind is already
processing the consequences and emotional toll. In essence, pre-nut clarity
acts as a built-in defense mechanism that kicks in before any harmful
behaviors take place, allowing you to steer clear of destructive habits
without internal conflict.

In this short book, I introduce two powerful concepts that will help you
achieve pre-nut clarity as a permanent state of mind. These concepts are
designed to empower you, eliminating the need for willpower-driven
methods that often fail in moments of weakness. By embracing these
mental shifts, you’ll find that relapse becomes not just unlikely, but
impossible. You’ll no longer have to fight urges; instead, you’ll transcend
them before they even fully take hold.
Rather than cycling through relapse and recovery, you enter a new phase
where relapse isn’t even an option. This approach focuses on rewiring your
mindset, so that the very idea of giving in to an urge feels alien and
unnecessary.

Ultimately, this state of mind is about empowerment. It allows you to live

without the constant fear of falling back into old habits, offering a lasting
sense of freedom. The journey to pre-nut clarity is a journey to a more
conscious, deliberate, and fulfilling life.

The good news is that quitting porn doesn’t require superhuman discipline.
Many people make the mistake of thinking they simply need more
self-control. They tell themselves they’ll try harder next time, only to be
disappointed when they relapse again. The cycle of guilt, inadequacy and
shame continues, reinforcing the very behavior they want to escape from.
When it comes to quitting masturbation, you know exactly what to do
because the knowledge on what to do is scattered everywhere on the
internet. The internet offers endless solutions. A quick search yields a flood
of advice on how to break free from the habit. The problem is no longer
about finding the right information; it's about understanding why so many
people still struggle to quit. Despite the abundance of knowledge, the battle
continues, leaving people wondering if quitting is even possible.

In fact, the issue has evolved. Before the age of information, people had to
work hard to find solutions to life's challenges. The scarcity of resources
meant that “how” to change was the focus. Today, with a world full of readily
accessible information, the "how" is no longer the problem. We know what
to do, but still can’t seem to escape the grip of pornography.

For most, quitting porn isn’t about a lack of resources. With thousands of
search results, articles, and YouTube videos offering strategies, tips, and
advice, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of available
information. If knowledge alone could solve the problem, more people
would be able to quit successfully.

But the truth is, the problem is not about the “how.” The real issue is rooted
in something deeper. The question isn’t, “How do I quit porn?” but “Why
can’t I quit porn?”

It’s this shift in thinking that opens the door to meaningful change. Many
people, despite knowing the “how to quit”, find themselves trapped in an
endless cycle of relapses.

Renowned coach Bill Walsh once said, “If your why is strong enough, you
will figure out how.” This quote highlights the importance of understanding
your motivation. It’s not enough to know the steps; you need a compelling
reason to change. Without that deep, personal "why," no amount of external
knowledge can truly help you break free.
Have you ever wondered why, despite all your efforts to stop watching
porn, you continue to relapse? Many people experience the same
frustration. They might go days or weeks without engaging in the habit, only
to fall back into the same patterns. The reason is not because of a lack of
willpower or discipline. What’s really needed is a shift in mindset. You must
go beyond surface-level “how” and dig deeper into the core beliefs and
habits that keep you trapped. Often, these are unconscious patterns that
you’re not even aware of. But once you bring them to light, you can begin
to dismantle them and create new, healthier habits.

I'll show you the only two ways to quit porn and masturbation permanently
that have worked for every person I've coached. But before that let’s cover
a few things…

CHAPTER THREE

PORNOGRAPHY IS THE KING OF THE INTERNET

Has it ever occurred to you why porn has become so goddamn free and
accessible?

Have you wondered why countries hardly ever block porn sites?

Even in the most religious Arab countries, porn is free to access.

Do you know the major target?

Well… It’s MEN.

Men are now at their weakest. The elite are ensuring men are weak
sexually and mentally, two things that structurally define a man.

The power to which we men don't fully understand, is being corrupted for
the sole reason of making men weak.

The internet is a double-edged sword.

On one hand, it has revolutionized our world, allowing man to

communicate, gain knowledge, save time, and entertain himself in ways
our grandparents could only imagine in their wildest fantasies.
On the other hand, the internet has made porn easily accessible which has
led many-especially the millennial generation to become absolutely
dependent on it to fulfill these emotions.

Any sexual desire that a man can have, the porn industry can and will
fulfill.

One of the most unfortunate byproducts of internet pornography is its

debilitating effects on men.

The internet, designed to be a platform of open information and

communication, has also become a marketplace for desires that many
might prefer to keep private.

Despite cultural and religious stances against explicit material, many

nations have turned a blind eye to the rampant availability of pornography
online.

Even in the most religious Arab countries, porn is free to access. The
contradiction highlights a deeper societal issue: the struggle between
modernity and tradition.

While the digital world expands, so too does the tension between
maintaining cultural values and succumbing to the allure of pornography.

The explicit content is designed to capture the male gaze, exploiting

vulnerabilities and desires that have been ingrained over centuries. Men,
often conditioned to seek validation through sexual conquest, find
themselves ensnared in a cycle of porn consumption that serves only to
reinforce their weaknesses rather than empower them.

The power to which we men don't fully understand, is being corrupted for
the sole reason of making men weak.
The availability of pornography is not merely about pleasure but about
control—controlling narratives, desires, and ultimately, the men who
consume this content. The message is clear: when men are distracted and
weakened, they are less likely to challenge the status quo or assert their
own power.

Make no assumptions — A lot of men are addicted to porn. This is not a

small subsection of men. There are literally millions of men who struggle
with quitting porn once it takes over their lives. While they are from different
generations, all of them agree on one thing: a habit of consuming
pornography online, once developed, it is almost impossible to quit.

It’s no surprise that many men are suffering from porn-induced erectile
dysfunction.

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is a sexual dysfunction in which a man

suffers from erectile issues caused by watching (and masturbating to) too
much pornography.

The rise in porn-induced erectile dysfunction is something to be alarmed

about.

Think back to the first time you watched porn. The mere image of a
beautiful naked (or even half naked) woman was probably enough for you
to get excited and begin stroking. But sadly, for many of us, over the years
we devolve into darker and more fetish porn habits.
When you first watch porn of any form — the brain doesn’t understand
what’s going on — but realizes that there’s a dopamine hit. It just feels
good — albeit temporarily, but there’s something sinister that's happening
in your brain — it’s learning, adapting and forming a new habit.

The brain becomes desensitized and develops a need for even more novel
stimuli in order to reach the same level of arousal and excitement. Thus
begins the spiral into more hardcore porn and higher quantities of it.

Porn rewires your brain. It makes real-life sex with a real woman seem dull
by comparison.

For guys in particular, these ponorgraphy images and videos literally soil
their brains, corrupt their thought life and pervert their perception of women,
dating and love.

Guys who use porn extensively may never experience the true beauty of a
real girl or the joy of a real romance. They simply settle for porn. The more
one uses porn the greater the chance that they will never find true intimacy
or real love.
As a man, your porn addiction is the very thing hindering you from getting a
girlfriend or wife. That is because once you quit porn and masturbation,
you'll be naturally forced to go out and connect with real women.

When you watch porn, you naturally tend to masturbate. Masturbation

results in the release of excessive dopamine in the brain. Hence, it results
in memory loss. Masturbation also results in hair loss in men. Do you
masturbate a lot? Well, now you’ve finally got the reason for your hair fall.

Speaking of masturbation….
 CHAPTER FOUR

MASTURBATION(FAP)

Porn and masturbation are interlinked. Many people try to separate

masturbation from pornography, but in reality, the two are closely
intertwined. This connection complicates the landscape for those looking to
break free from dependency.

Masturbating leads to porn consumption, and watching porn can tempt you
to masturbate. The relationship is cyclical and self-reinforcing, creating an
unbreakable bond that many struggle to overcome. Recognizing this link is
the first step toward reclaiming autonomy and breaking free from the chains
of addiction.

The importance of acknowledging this connection cannot be overstated.

Understanding how deeply intertwined these behaviors are helps to
illuminate the path toward healing. It encourages individuals to confront the
reality of their habits and seek alternatives that promote genuine
connection and fulfillment.

There are two categories of masturbators:

Category 1. Those who masturbate and are willing to quit, but they find it
difficult or almost impossible. These people are looking for help on how to
totally quit.

Category 2. Those who masturbate, but claim masturbation is normal and

healthy, and criticize anyone who speaks against masturbation.
If you are reading this book right now, then I want to assume you are in
Category 1. Great! You are a smart person, and I can confidently assure
you, your freedom from masturbation is here.

But I have met quite a number of people who are in category 2. These are
the people that often debate with me, saying there’s nothing wrong with
masturbation. They say masturbation is healthy and normal.

I’ve heard all sorts of defenses from these people trying to justify their
masturbation habits. The excuses vary, but they all stem from a sense of
internal weakness. Deep down, they feel powerless and incapable of
quitting, so they come up with reasons to justify their behavior and ease
their guilt. It’s an attempt to protect themselves from facing uncomfortable
truths.

Here are a few common excuses I’ve heard:

● “Masturbation is normal and healthy.”

● “I’m not addicted because I don’t do it that much.”

● “I only masturbate at certain times, not regularly.”

 ● “Porn is the problem, not masturbation.”

These are all forms of self-delusion. It’s amazing how the mind can create
stories to help us avoid facing harsh realities. It’s easier to believe these
lies than to confront the fact that you’re struggling with something that will
negatively impact your life in the long run.

The typical guy in category 2 doesn't realize he has a masturbation

addiction. He thought other guys are the ones who have addictions to
masturbation, but not him because masturbation is just an occasional part
of his life – not an addiction. To him, masturbation is just a way to pass
time, so he figured it was harmless.

To him, watching porn was not a big deal and any suggestion that it was a
problem was met with an eye roll and dismissed.
It’s just a thing all guys like and watch on occasion.

Many guys don’t even realize that porn and masturbation has become a
regular part of their routine. In fact, when asked, most guys would tell you
they don’t watch porn or masturbate that often – just occasionally if the
opportunity presents itself.

The fundamental difference between people who masturbate and those

who don’t is quite simple.

Non-masturbators don’t have the desire to do it. It’s not something that
holds their interest. They are just not interested in masturbating regardless
of how they feel at that moment.

If you’re someone who masturbates, whether it’s every day, once a week,
or only during times of stress or arousal, the reality is that you’re a
masturbator. It’s time to own up to it and stop making excuses.
Self-deception will only hold you back from the life you want.

Many people try to separate masturbation from pornography, but in reality,

the two are closely intertwined. Just like Pavlov’s dog salivated when it
heard the bell, you may find that engaging in one of these behaviors
triggers the other. Masturbating can lead to porn consumption, and
watching porn can tempt you to masturbate. The connection is strong, and
it’s important to recognize this if you want to break free.

Most men I’ve coached admit that they primarily masturbate to

pornography. For many, their masturbation habits intensified once they
were introduced to porn. Others started out masturbating and later
discovered porn, which only fueled their addiction. Whichever path you
took, the two habits are often inseparable. That’s why focusing on quitting
one without addressing the other won’t lead to lasting change. You need to
quit both.
But that reminds me…

Have you ever wondered why so many health websites and blogs say that
masturbation is healthy and harmless?
 CHAPTER FIVE

WHY THE MAINSTREAM BLOGS & WEBSITES

TELL YOU MASTURBATION IS HEALTHY AND
NORMAL

The mainstream blogs and websites fool lots of people into assuming
there’s nothing wrong with masturbation. These platforms have a singular
goal in mind: to keep the audience engaged, regardless of the
consequences. For them, it’s all about business. They craft content that
resonates with people's desires and beliefs to maximize clicks and shares.
Their objective isn’t to reveal the bitter truth about masturbation, but to tap
into what will generate the most likes, shares, and engagement. The more
traffic these sites get, the more money they make from advertisers, making
it a highly profitable cycle.
One of the most common claims you’ll find on these websites is that
masturbation is harmless, even beneficial. They say it's a way to relieve
stress, an outlet for pent-up emotions. But that’s another lie designed to
keep you coming back. If masturbation truly cured stress, you wouldn’t feel
the need to keep doing it repeatedly. The relief masturbation offers is
fleeting, a momentary distraction, not a real solution.

What happens when the stress comes back? You seek the same escape
again, thinking it will provide the same relief. This creates a cycle of
dependency, where instead of addressing the root causes of your stress,
you turn to a temporary fix that leaves you feeling worse in the long run.

The mainstream narrative doesn’t tell you this because their goal is to
keep you hooked, not to help you break free. They profit off your clicks,
even if that means keeping you trapped in a harmful habit.

There’s a lot more at stake than just stress relief. The psychological and
emotional consequences of masturbation are rarely discussed in these
blogs. They prefer to paint a picture of harmless indulgence, but they don’t
mention how it can erode your self-esteem, contribute to feelings of shame,
and keep you stuck in a cycle of regret. These are real consequences that
countless people face, but the mainstream voices downplay or outright
ignore them. After all, they can't sell ads by making people feel bad.

The focus on stress relief also ignores the deeper issues. Masturbation
doesn’t address the underlying problems causing your stress or anxiety. It
merely masks them, temporarily numbing the pain. But when that
temporary relief fades, you’re left feeling worse because the root issue
hasn’t been resolved.

Another trick these websites play is framing masturbation as a form of

self-care. They make it sound like masturbation is something everyone
should do, that it’s normal and even empowering. But what they don’t tell
you is that when masturbation becomes a habit, it starts to interfere with
your ability to connect with others, form meaningful relationships, and
manage your emotions in a healthy way. They make it seem like a
harmless pastime, but for many, it becomes a crutch that prevents personal
growth.

The articles you read might even go as far as to suggest that masturbation
can improve your mental health, framing it as a way to relax and unwind.
This narrative is convenient because it aligns with what people want to
believe: that they can indulge in a habit without any negative
consequences. But the truth is, indulging in masturbation rarely leads to
long-term well-being. Masturbation as a quick fix may offer momentary
relief, but it doesn’t equip you to handle life’s challenges in a meaningful
way.

What’s more troubling is that many of these blogs position themselves as

authorities on health and wellness. They present their information as if it's
backed by science, citing studies that supposedly prove their claims. But a
closer look at these studies often reveals selective reporting, where only
the favorable aspects are highlighted. The goal isn’t to present a balanced
view; it’s to reinforce the narrative that will keep readers clicking and
sharing. It’s manipulative, and it keeps people from seeking real help.

The obsession with views and clicks means that these websites prioritize
popularity over accuracy. Many people want to hear that masturbation is
healthy and normal, so the mainstream website crafts articles that appeal
to the masses, not because it’s what people need to hear, but because it’s
what people want to hear.

And what people want to hear is often the path of least resistance—the
idea that they don’t have to change, that their masturbation habits are
perfectly fine. But this messaging keeps people stuck, convincing them that
they don’t need to address their deeper struggles.

Compounding this issue is the fact that these websites rarely offer
alternatives. Instead of encouraging healthier ways to cope with
stress—like exercise, meditation, or connecting with loved ones—they
focus on promoting masturbation as the go-to solution. This narrow focus
keeps readers trapped in a loop of temporary fixes. It’s easy to see why:
healthy coping mechanisms don’t generate nearly as much engagement or
controversy, which are the lifeblood of these platforms.

It’s important to remember that these websites have a vested interest in

keeping you engaged. Their success depends on creating content that
resonates with the broadest audience, even if it means promoting ideas
that aren’t entirely accurate. When they tell you that masturbation is
harmless, or that it’s a great way to relieve stress, they’re not thinking about
your well-being. They’re thinking about how to keep you coming back, how
to get more ad revenue from your attention.

In the end, you have to ask yourself: who benefits from this narrative? It
certainly isn’t the people who get trapped in a cycle of compulsive
masturbation, believing that it’s a harmless habit when, in fact, it’s keeping
them from addressing their deeper issues. The real winners are the
websites and videos that profit off your clicks, while you’re left dealing with
the long-term consequences of masturbation that does nothing to truly
improve your life.

Anyways….

With that being said, let's talk about why you keep relapsing despite all your
efforts.
 CHAPTER SIX

WHY YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO QUIT PORN

AND MASTURBATION

You need to understand how your mind works to fully grasp why quitting
porn and masturbation can feel so difficult. It's a complex interaction
between two parts of your mind.

We have two minds: The subconscious mind and the conscious mind.

When it comes to your porn and masturbation addiction, this habit resides
mostly in your subconscious mind.

Most guys started watching porn and masturbating in their early teenage
years. Over time, their subconscious mind became familiar with these
behaviors. This is why quitting feels so difficult. The habit is deeply rooted
in your subconscious, and years of repetition have made it second nature.

This is why, even when you consciously know that watching porn and
masturbating is harmful to you, you still feel an overwhelming urge to
engage in it. Your subconscious mind has been conditioned to seek it out
because it craves that sense of pleasure.

They each have different functions, and in the case of addiction, they often
pull you in opposite directions.

There's an internal battle going on in your head between your two minds.

Conscious mind: "masturbation hinders you from developing intimate real

romantic relationships with real females."

Subconscious mind: "It's better to masturbate than waste time and money
trying to sex on all these STD infected females out there."

Conscious mind: "It sucks your energy and makes you feel weak, tired and
sluggish."

Subconscious mind: "It gives you great pleasure and it helps relax your
brain."

Conscious mind: "Please don't masturbate, it's shameful."

Subconscious mind: "Shameful as how? Just do it bro, you are gonna enjoy
the experience."

Basically, you are not struggling with masturbation. Masturbation is on its

own.

The struggle is between your conscious mind and subconscious mind.

This internal conflict also explains the tension you feel just before you
relapse into watching porn or masturbating. The conscious mind is logical
and long-term focused. It sees the bigger picture, knowing that porn and
masturbation will ultimately harm you. But the subconscious mind is
emotional and focused on immediate gratification. It seeks pleasure in the
moment, no matter the future cost.

The subconscious mind is the part of you that is more concerned with raw
desires, emotional impulses, and habits. It doesn't operate on logic or moral
judgment. Instead, it drives you toward immediate gratification. Think about
a time when someone made you so angry that you wanted to punch them
or curse them out. That's your subconscious mind reacting impulsively.
Similarly, when you see an attractive woman and feel the urge to look at
her body, that's the subconscious mind driven by raw desire.

Your subconscious mind is a master at identifying and responding to

pleasure and pain. It is constantly steering you away from what it perceives
as painful and toward what it perceives as pleasurable. So, if it links an
activity with pleasure, like watching porn or masturbating, it will push you to
keep doing it.
After you masturbate and spill your semen, you suddenly feel guilty, sad, or
ashamed.

Why does this happen?

It’s because you “come to your senses,” or more accurately, you come back
to your conscious mind. Just like Lil' Wayne once said, “It's like when I cum,
I come to my senses.”

Your conscious mind, which is more concerned with long-term

consequences, moral judgments, and ethics, kicks in after the act and
scolds you for relapsing..

Your conscious mind is responsible for your reasoning and logic. It

understands the difference between right and wrong, healthy and
unhealthy. It has the knowledge of ethical and unethical behavior, and it
knows that pornography and excessive masturbation are harmful in the
long run. The conscious mind tells you that these habits are bad for your
well-being, that they are shameful, and that they hurt your chances of
forming meaningful connections with others.
One of the most interesting things about our psychology is how paradoxical
it can be. The more you consciously try to resist an urge, the stronger it can
sometimes become. This happens because your subconscious mind is
highly powerful and emotional, like a child seeking instant gratification.
While your conscious mind knows that porn is harmful, your subconscious
mind doesn’t operate on logic or moral reasoning—it just wants the reward
of pleasure.

The subconscious mind is stronger than the conscious mind, especially

when it comes to habits and desires. This is why, when you feel the urge to
masturbate, it often feels impossible to resist. Your conscious mind may be
telling you, "This is bad for me; I should stop." But your subconscious mind,
driven by deeply ingrained habits, takes control. It doesn’t care about
long-term consequences; it just wants to feel good in the moment.

Aldous Huxley once wrote, “The harder we try with the conscious will to do
something, the less we shall succeed.” This quote speaks directly to the
struggle you're facing. The harder you try to consciously resist the urge to
watch porn or masturbate, the more your subconscious mind pushes back.
This is because the subconscious doesn't differentiate between a good
habit and a bad one—it’s designed to be efficient and seek pleasure
without judgment.

So is self-discipline or willpower the answer?

 CHAPTER SEVEN

WHY SELF-DISCIPLINE OR WILLPOWER CAN'T

HELP YOU QUIT PORN & MASTURBATION

Our dominant cultural narrative often tells us that quitting porn and
masturbation requires immense levels of self-discipline and willpower.
Many people believe that in order to succeed, you need to go into "monk
mode," applying relentless self-control to stop yourself from engaging in
these habits. But this isn’t the truth. In fact, the idea that self-discipline or
willpower alone can help you quit is a myth that often leads people to
frustration and failure.

The reality is that relying on self-discipline or willpower as the primary tool

to quit porn and masturbation is almost a guarantee that you will keep
relapsing. It might seem counterintuitive at first because self-discipline is
often praised as the solution to many of life’s challenges. But when it
comes to deeply ingrained habits like porn addiction, self-discipline alone
will fail you. Here's why:

Self-discipline operates like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it
becomes. But like any other muscle, it also fatigues when overused.
Imagine constantly applying willpower and self-discipline to resist the urges
to masturbate. At first, it might work, but eventually, your discipline will tire
out, leaving you vulnerable to relapsing. No one can sustain that level of
effort indefinitely, and the pressure will build until you give in.

You’re a human being with emotions, feelings, and mood swings. On some
days, you may feel more in control, but on others, stress, anxiety, or even
boredom can trigger you. In those moments, no matter how strong your
willpower is, it can fail you. This is why relying on self-discipline or
willpower alone to stay away from porn or masturbation isn't a reliable
method. When you hit a low emotional state or are triggered, the chances
of relapsing increase significantly.

If you’re truly serious about quitting porn and masturbation, then you need
to understand that self-discipline won’t be enough. In fact, the very act of
relying on self-discipline is what keeps you constantly relapsing. It creates
an internal struggle where you are constantly fighting against yourself,
using mental energy that could be directed more effectively elsewhere.

Why is self-discipline so ineffective?

Because, like we said earlier, your porn or masturbation habit is deeply

rooted in your subconscious mind. The subconscious is a powerful force
that controls much of your behavior on autopilot. Every time you watch porn
or masturbate, your subconscious strengthens the habit, making it more
automatic. This part of your mind isn't influenced by logic or reasoning. It’s
driven by emotion, impulse, and habit.

Using self-discipline to quit masturbation is like bringing a knife to a fight

involving bombs and missiles. You’re using a tool that isn't suited for the
task at hand. Your subconscious mind's drive toward pleasure is far more
powerful than any short-term application of willpower. This is why so many
people who try to quit porn with self-discipline may succeed for a few days
or even weeks, only to find themselves relapsing with even more intensity.

When people relapse after relying on self-discipline, they often fall back into
the habit more fiercely. This creates a cycle of shame and regret, which
further reinforces the addiction. The temporary freedom they experienced
turns into disappointment, and the cycle starts again.
Self-discipline is often for those who are still unsure about whether they
truly want to quit. It’s a temporary measure used by people who haven't
fully committed to the decision.

As Michael Jordan famously said, “Once I made a decision, I never thought

about it again.”

If you're still struggling with porn or masturbation, it's because you haven't
fully, wholeheartedly made the decision to quit. Once that decision is firm,
there’s no need to rely on self-discipline.

The truth is, if you need to constantly rely on self-discipline, it means you
haven’t truly decided to quit. Self-discipline is necessary only when you’re
fighting against something. But when you’ve made a firm decision, there’s
no internal battle. The choice has already been made, and you no longer
need to rely on willpower because your actions will naturally align with that
decision.

I believe that the real secret to ending any addiction isn’t about
superhuman levels of willpower or self-discipline. Instead, it’s about
leveraging a system that removes the need for self-discipline or willpower.
Systems are more reliable than willpower because they are designed to
function regardless of emotional states, fatigue, or mood swings.

There are two key systems I teach my clients that have helped them
permanently quit porn and masturbation. These systems don’t rely on
self-discipline, but instead create a structure where success becomes
automatic.

The first is the No-Choice System, and the second is the Priority Action
System.

These systems provide a framework that bypasses the need for constant
mental effort and makes quitting a natural part of your routine.

The No-Choice System removes the internal struggle by eliminating the

option to indulge in porn or masturbation. Instead of constantly battling the
temptation with self-discipline, you set up a system where the choice is
already made for you. This helps shift the focus from resisting urges to
simply following through with your new lifestyle.

The Priority Action System, on the other hand, focuses on creating healthy
habits and activities that naturally take precedence over porn and
masturbation. This system is about building a day-to-day lifestyle where the
need for porn no longer fits into your routine. By prioritizing actions that
align with your goals and values, you create a structure that promotes
success without relying on willpower.

These two systems work because they address the root causes of
addiction by retraining your subconscious mind and creating a framework
for long-term success. Instead of fighting against yourself with
self-discipline, these systems allow you to flow toward success naturally.

Join me in the next chapter as I introduce you to the No-Choice System

 CHAPTER EIGHT

NO-CHOICE SYSTEM

In 1519, Hernán Cortés, a Spanish conquistador, embarked on a journey

that would go down in history. With a fleet of 11 ships and a modest crew of
600 men, he set sail to conquer the vast and mighty Aztec empire. The task
ahead was daunting, and his men were well aware of the challenges they
would face. The fear, doubt, and hesitation among his troops were
palpable, but Cortés had a plan.

When they arrived in Mexico, the reality of the looming battles became
evident. His troops were scared of the fight ahead. They knew the Aztecs
were powerful, and many soldiers likely thought about retreating. Sensing
this fear, Cortés made a bold and unexpected decision: he ordered the
burning of their ships. This radical act left his men with no means of retreat.
Their only option was to move forward, fight, and win, or die trying.

THEY WON!

The message was clear: there would be no going back. With their ships
burning behind them, Cortés and his men had no choice but to face the
challenge head-on. There was no escape, no retreat—only victory or death.
This psychological shift changed everything, and despite the overwhelming
odds, they triumphed. They won the battle, not just because of their skill,
but because they had no choice but to win.

This story has since become a powerful metaphor for commitment,

relentless dedication, and removing the option of retreat. “Burn the boats”
symbolizes the kind of unwavering commitment that leaves no room for
second-guessing or turning back. It’s about creating a situation where the
only way forward is through success.
When it comes to quitting porn and masturbation, the same principle
applies. If you constantly give yourself the choice between indulging in the
habit or resisting it, you are far more likely to give in. Human nature tends
to lean toward comfort and pleasure, and if the option to fap is still on the
table, the temptation will always be there.

The reason Cortés and his men succeeded was that they eliminated the
choice of retreat. They didn’t have the option of going back, and that left
them with only one path: victory. This same principle applies to quitting
habits like porn and masturbation.

The biggest obstacle to overcoming these habits is the presence of

choice.

As long as you allow yourself the option to indulge in masturbation, the

temptation will linger. This is where the No-Choice System comes in. By
eliminating the choice altogether, you remove the need for willpower or
self-discipline. If there is no choice, there is no relapse. This concept is
often overlooked by those trying to quit, and it’s why so many people fail to
break free from their habits.

The difficulty you face in quitting is not because you lack self-discipline or
willpower. It’s because you still have the choice to masturbate. The key
to overcoming this habit lies in creating a situation where you no longer
have that choice.

So, ask yourself: what situation can I put myself in that will naturally prevent
me from masturbating? What can I do to eliminate the choice altogether?
The goal is to remove the possibility of fapping from your life by designing
an environment and lifestyle that makes it impossible.

Here’s an extreme, example from my own life: when I was still living with
my cousin, I knew I needed to quit porn and masturbation to achieve my
long-term goals. I realized that my own willpower wasn’t enough, so I
decided to take drastic action. I handed my cousin a few thousand bucks
and told him, “If you ever catch me watching porn or masturbating, you get
to keep the money.”

The arrangement was simple: if I didn’t fap for a month, he would return the
money, but I’d give him a small tip. If I fap or watch porn, he kept the entire
money. My cousin was excited, not because he cared about me quitting
porn or masturbation, but because he wanted to keep the money. So, he
kept a close eye on me, hoping to catch me in the act.

In that situation I don't have the choice: I made sure I never masturbate or
view porn, or else I lose my money. Despite the urge and temptations
around me I could not fap because I DON'T HAVE THE CHOICE: I needed
my money back.

This might sound like an extreme example, but it demonstrates the power
of creating a no-choice scenario. By removing the option to masturbate, I
forced myself to stick to my goal, no matter the temptation.

While you may not have to go to such extremes, the principle remains the
same. The trick is to design a lifestyle where masturbation simply isn’t an
option. You need to create an environment and a routine that makes it
impossible to indulge in the habit.

The trick is to design a daily lifestyle that leaves you "no choice" but to
“adapt” into your new lifestyle where fapping is totally impossible.

We’ll go hard in to this in the book, “No More Relapse”

In the book, “No More Relapse,” I go into great details about how you
can implement the No-Choice System in your life. This system has
helped quite a number people quit porn and masturbation without
relying on willpower or self-discipline.

I want to introduce you to another powerful strategy: the Priority Action

System. While the No-Choice System eliminates the option of relapse, the
Priority Action System focuses on filling your life with actions and habits
that naturally take precedence over porn and masturbation.

Stay tuned as we explore this next step on your journey to permanent

freedom from addiction.
 CHAPTER NINE

PRIORITY ACTION SYSTEM

The No-Choice System is powerful in helping you quit porn and

masturbation, but once you’ve successfully removed those habits, you’ll be
left with a void that needs to be filled. This is where the Priority Action
System comes in. It’s not enough to just eliminate something negative from
your life—you have to replace it with something positive, something that
brings genuine fulfillment and excitement.

Mainstream media often claims that porn and masturbation is a form of

self-medication, a temporary relief from stress, anxiety, or boredom. It’s
common to hear about guys turning to porn when they feel down, using it
as a way to cope with negative emotions. But what's surprising is that some
also turn to it when they’re happy, almost as if they’re rewarding
themselves for being in a good mood. This highlights how deeply ingrained
the habit can become, as porn becomes the default response to both
positive and negative emotions.

The truth is that people often turn to porn and masturbation as a way to
escape or cope with underlying emotional issues. It’s not just about sexual
pleasure—it’s about avoiding discomfort, fear, sadness, or even excitement
that feels too overwhelming to handle. Porn becomes an emotional crutch.

At the heart of addiction, I believe, is a kind of “loneliness”. Even if you’re

surrounded by friends or loved ones, you can still feel deeply lonely if
there’s a lack of meaningful connection—both with others and with yourself.
It’s not just about being physically alone; it’s about the relationship you
have with yourself. If that relationship is broken or lacking, you’ll seek out
distractions and coping mechanisms like porn to fill the void.
Many people who struggle with porn addiction lack a good relationship with
themselves. They might be missing a sense of love, acceptance, validation,
or self-worth. These are things they cannot give themselves, and it creates
a sort of black hole in their hearts—a void that they try to fill with external
pleasures like porn and masturbation.

Porn and masturbation provide a fleeting sense of pleasure, excitement,

and satisfaction, but it’s temporary. You’re not addicted to porn because it’s
so amazing. You’re addicted because you’re trying to escape from the
deeper pain of what’s missing in your life. And until you fill that hole, porn
will always seem like a tempting, quick fix. But as you’ve likely discovered,
it never truly fills that emptiness.

The key to overcoming this addiction is to recognize that porn is often a

stand-in for something missing in your life. Whether it’s a lack of meaningful
connection, love, acceptance, excitement, purpose, or self-worth, porn
becomes an easy escape from the discomfort of those deeper issues. It’s a
quick and easy distraction, but it doesn’t solve the root problem.

The Priority Action System shifts your focus away from simply trying to
avoid porn and masturbation. Instead, it encourages you to build genuine
excitement, fulfillment, and purpose into your daily life. This strategy is
about creating a life that’s so rich and satisfying that you no longer need to
escape into porn. When you have something truly meaningful to live for,
porn becomes unnecessary.

At its core, the Priority Action System is a long-term solution. It’s not just
about quitting a bad habit; it’s about transforming your entire life. When
your life is filled with exciting, fulfilling experiences, the need for unhealthy
coping mechanisms naturally fades away. The real power of this strategy
lies in its ability to change the conditions of your life in a way that makes
porn and masturbation irrelevant.
One common reason people turn to porn is because their lives have fallen
into routines that feel dull, unfulfilling, or monotonous. Porn offers a quick
escape from that boredom. The Priority Action Strategy addresses this by
helping you add excitement, satisfaction, and purpose to your daily life.

When your days are filled with things that truly bring you joy, the temptation
to escape through porn will diminish.

Priority action system also works because it tackles the emotional

regulation aspect of porn use. Many people use porn to manage difficult
emotions like stress, anxiety, or loneliness. But if your life is filled with
positive experiences and healthy outlets for your emotions, you won’t feel
the need to rely on porn to get through tough times.
 ARE YOU READY FOR "NO MORE RELAPSE"?

At the beginning of this journey, we introduced the concept of *Pre-nut

clarity*—that remarkable state of heightened mental clarity and
self-awareness that typically comes after a relapse, even before any
physical action like masturbation or watching porn takes place. It's a
powerful, unique state of mind when you haven't physically relapsed, yet
you’ve already gained the insights that usually follow it.

Now, imagine living in that state permanently, where relapse is not just
difficult—it’s impossible.

That’s what you’ll get in the main book, No More Relapse.

In No More Relapse, you are going to learn in details these two powerful
strategies:

- The *No-Choice Strategy* puts you in a (psychological) situation where

watching porn or masturbating is totally impossible. It makes it so
impossible to relapse by eliminating the option to masturbate or watch
porn. This is a game changer.

- The *Priority Action Strategy* helps you craft a daily life so fulfilling and
rewarding that porn and masturbation lose all relevance. It’s about building
a lifestyle where these bad habits no longer have a place.

Remember, the goal is not just to quit porn, but to create a kind of lifestyle
that makes you NO LONGER NEED to indulge in the bad habit. These two
powerful systems: No-Choice System and The Priority Action System will
help you accomplish that.
Congratulations! You are about to break the chains of pornography
and Masturbation. You are on your way to freedom. NO MORE
RELAPSE.

If you're truly ready to break free once and for all, and reconstruct your
brain and lifestyle, this is where you start:

**No More Relapse** uncovers the hidden mechanisms that fuel relapse,
no matter how hard you've tried before, and shows you how to make
relapse a thing of the past using the *No-Choice System* and *Priority
Action System*.

Thank you for diving into the concept of *Pre-Nut Clarity*—I hope it’s
inspired you. Until next time,

**Emmanuel KVS**
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