THE RADICAL FORGIVENESS WORKSHEET:

An Instrument for the TRUE Transformation of a Grievance

Date: Worksheet # Subject: (X) Whomever you are upset with:
[Fill in all blanks marked (X) with the name of the subject).
Tip: To fully anchor the transformation, speak everything written here, and what you write out loud.

The situation around which I have an upset is or was: (Tell the story totally from your victim standpoint only - i.e. old
1. TELLING THE STORY

paradigm. Use additional paper if necessary.)

2b) Because of what you did (are doing), I FEEL:

(Identify your real emotions.)

ACKNOWLEDGING MY OWN HUMANNESS

2. FEELING THE FEELINGS

3. I lovingly recognize and accept my feelings and judge them no more. I am entitled Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
to my feelings.

4. I own my feelings. No one can make me feel anything. My feelings are a reflection of Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
how I see the situation.

5. My discomfort was that I was withholding love from myself, and (X) __________________ by judging, holding
expectations, wanting (X) _____________________to change and seeing (X) as less than perfect.
(List the judgments, expectations and behaviors that indicate that you were wanting him/her/them to change.)

(Note: Look to see how many of these judgments and expectations you are making about yourself).

NOW COLLAPSING THE STORY

3. COLLAPSING THE STORY

6. I now realize that in order to feel the experience more deeply, my soul has encouraged me to create a BIGGER
story out of the event or situation than it actually seemed to warrant, considering just the facts. This purpose having
been served, I can now release the energy surrounding my story by separating the facts from the interpretations I
have made up about it. (List the main interpretations and circle the level of emotion and attachment you have around each interpretation NOW.)

INTERPRETATIONS I MADE UP ABOUT THE ABOVE EVENT LEVEL OF EMOTION NOW

________________________________________________________________________ High Medium Low Zero

________________________________________________________________________ High Medium Low Zero

________________________________________________________________________ High Medium Low Zero

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7. CORE-NEGATIVE BELIEFS I EITHER MADE UP FROM MY STORY OR WHICH DROVE THE STORY
3. COLLAPSING THE STORY

(Check those that apply.)

I will never be enough It is not safe to be me I am always last or left out People always abandon me

It is not safe to speak I should have been a No matter how hard I try, it’s Life’s not fair.
out. boy/girl. never enough.
No one is there for I am unworthy. I don’t deserve. I must obey or suffer.
me.
Others are more It is not good to be No one will love me. I am unlovable.
important than me. powerful/ successful/
rich/outgoing.
I am alone Other

NOW OPENING TO A REFRAME

8.I now realize that my soul encouraged me to form these beliefs in order to magnify my sense Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
of separation so I could feel it more deeply for my spiritual growth. As I now begin to remember
the truth of who I am, I give myself permission to let them go, and I now send love and gratitude
to myself and (X) ___________________ for creating this growth experience.

NOTICING A PATTERN AND SEEING THE PERFECTION IN IT

9. I recognize that my Spiritual Intelligence has created stories in the past that are similar in Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
circumstance and feelings to this one in order to magnify the emotional experience of
TOWARDS THE REFRAME

separation that my soul wanted. I see this as evidence that, even though I don’t know why
or how, my soul has created this particular situation, too, in order that I learn and grow.
(List similar stories and feeling experiences (as in 2b) and note the common elements in them.)

10. I now realize that I get upset only when someone resonates in me those parts of me, I Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
have disowned, denied, repressed and then projected onto them. I see now the truth in the
adage, “If You Spot It, You’ve Got It!” It’s me in the mirror!

11. . (X) is reflecting what I need to love and accept in myself. Thank you (X) Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
for this gift. I am now willing to take back the projection and own it as a
part of my shadow. I love and accept this part of me.

12. Even though I may not understand it all, I now realize that you and I have both been Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
receiving exactly what we each had subconsciously chosen and were doing a dance with
and for each other to bring us to a state of awakened consciousness.

13. I now realize that nothing you, (X) , have done is either right or wrong. I am able Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
now to release the need to blame you or anyone else. I release the need to be right about
this, and I am WILLING to see the perfection in the situation just the way it is.

14.I am willing to see that, for whatever reason, my mission or ‘soul contract’ included having
Willing Open Skeptical Unwilling
experiences like this and that you and I may have agreed to do this dance with and for each
other in this lifetime. If it is for the highest good for both of us, I now release you and myself
from that contract.
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15. I release from my consciousness all feelings of . . . (Refer back to what you put in Box # 2b and enter those words here with any other
feeling words that you would have listed in 2B having had them come to mind since, and then make a point of saying this statement out
loud for each of the words):

THE REFRAME STATEMENT

16. The story in Box #1 was your Victim Story, based in the old paradigm of reality (victim consciousness). Now attempt a different
perception of the same event (a reframe), from your new empowered position, based on the insights you have experienced as you
4. REFRAMING THE STORY

have proceeded through this worksheet. (It may simply be a general statement indicating that you just know everything is perfect, or a
statement that includes things specific to your situation if, that is, you can actually see what the perfection is. Often you cannot. Be careful
not to do a reframe that is based in ‘world of humanity’ terms. Note any positive shift in feeling tone.)

I now realize . . .

17. I completely forgive myself, and accept myself as a loving, generous and creative being. I release
5. INTEGRATING THE SHIFT

all need to hold onto emotions and ideas of lack and limitation connected to the past. I withdraw my energy from the past and
release all barriers against the love and abundance that I know I have at this moment. I create my life, and I am empowered to
be myself again, to unconditionally love and support myself, just the way I am, in all my power and magnificence.

18. I now SURRENDER to the Higher Power I think of as and trust in the knowledge that this situation will
continue to unfold perfectly and in accordance with Divine guidance and spiritual law. I acknowledge my Oneness and feel myself
totally reconnected with my Source. I am restored to my true nature, which is LOVE, and I now restore love to (X) .
I close my eyes in order to feel the LOVE that flows in my life and to feel the joy that comes when the love is felt and expressed.

A Note of Appreciation and Gratitude to You (X) . Having done this worksheet,
I..........

completely forgive you, (X) , for I now realize that you did nothing wrong, and everything is in Divine order. I
bless you for being willing to play a part in my awakening — thank you — and honor myself for being willing to play a part in your
awakening. I acknowledge and accept you just the way you are

20. A Note To Myself:

I recognize that I am a spiritual being having a spiritual experience in a human body, and I love and support myself in every aspect of
my humanness.

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Radical Acceptance
A Tipping Method Worksheet for Seeing the Divinity in Any Human Being

1. I recognize that I am finding it difficult to accept as he/she is. The

problem I have with him/her is:

2. The main feelings I am experiencing within myself right now as I bring to mind are:
(be totally honest and use feeling words.)

3. I honor my feelings and claim my right, as an awakened human being, to experience emotions and
to be responsive to them. I value them because they give me good feedback about how I am seeing
AGREE DISAGREE

4. Even though I am not aware of what it might be, I am open to the possibility that is in my
life for a reason and possibly is here to provide me a lesson or healing opportunity.
AGREE DISAGREE

5. I recognize that I may be using to not only create some fresh pain of separation within
myself, but also to leverage one or more similar instances of separation between myself and other
important people in my life. For example:

6. I am therefore recognizing in , from whom I have withheld love and have judged, a
soulmate on a mission to awaken me to the truth of who I truly am, who he/she is, and who those are
from whom I have withheld love previously. We are all part of the one Divine Essence.
AGREE DISAGREE

7. Even though I know there is no requirement that I like as a human being, nor approve
his/her behavior in human terms, I am now willing to see the light in him/her and to know that the
person’s soul is Love, pure and simple and he/she is, therefore, perfect in every way.
AGREE DISAGREE

8. I am feeling a sense of Oneness with now and feel gratitude for this person being in my life.

AGREE DISAGREE

Signed: Date:

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