Healing Your Inner Child Wounds
1. One of the most important steps for healing your inner child
is acknowledging the pain, the wound, what happened, and
how it's affecting you.
I can't stress enough how crucial this step is. Since many of us
have to learn as children to distance ourselves from our
emotions, it is critical to acknowledge how we feel.
This is usually the hardest step, especially for determined
women. I hear this a lot from people: "I don't have time to talk
about the past. I don't have time to think about who hurt me,
and I don't want to write this stuff down."
Those feelings are normal, but you have to start by giving
yourself permission to go through this process and stop running
from what broke you in the first place.
2. Next, you have to start listening to your inner child. And
usually, our inner child will talk in its own code or language,
such as the emotions or bodily sensations we feel when
triggered. Thus, you should pay attention to your body and your
feelings.
A few things to consider are: Do you ever feel uneasy in your
gut during certain occasions or circumstances?
Or does your heart begin to race and you start to sweat?
Do you find yourself feeling depressed or furious out of the
blue?
These are frequently indications that your inner child is
attempting to express its needs or feelings. At first, all you
need to do is observe and pay attention. This is the phase of
listening.
3. The third thing is you also want to start a dialogue with your
inner child. Keep a journal as an excellent tool for this. I tell
everyone to take themselves back to that six-year-old child who
felt unheard and unseen.
This kind of inner child dialogue is about allowing yourself to
write freely. Being genuine and letting the words flow is the
goal.
4. You also want to develop a practice that will keep you
focused in the present. And this is where meditation and
mindfulness are useful. You are less likely to feel overwhelmed
while you analyze some of the things you encountered in the
past since these activities help you stay rooted in the here and
now.
Finding your joyous inner child is something you can do as you
begin to practice being more present. This part of us is happy
and still experiences the childlike wonder and excitement we
often lose touch with as we age. Everybody has a vibrant inner
child that they long to express once more.
5 . Finally, you must reach a point where you learn to care for,
nourish, and re-parent yourself. Whatever or whoever let you
down when you were a child won't come to your aid as an
adult. You must be accountable for your own healing as an
adult, even while it is regrettable that you were harmed or did
not receive everything you deserved and desired as a child.
We have to acknowledge that we can't continue to use the past
as a justification for not taking care of ourselves in the here and
now.
Reparenting and caring for yourself can start with scheduling
time to do small things that are relaxing and bring you joy.
Who among us doesn't have childhood coloring memories? I
adore coloring books for adults and other entertaining books
that are unrelated to business.
Taking a bubble bath and having fun playing in the bubbles
Putting on some fun pajamas and eating ice cream in bed
Walking in the rain
Anything else enjoyable and low-maintenance
This practice can need a lot of emotional energy, so it's critical
to be very intentional throughout. Thus, you must deliberately
consider:
Increasing your self-care
Getting enough rest
Eating well
Moving your body
Practicing breathing exercises
