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 The Silent Struggles of
Boys: Unheard, Unseen,
and Underrated
When we talk about struggles, society -"like a girl." This conditioning doesn’t
often focuses on the hardships faced by just affect his childhood—it follows him
women, children, and marginalized into adulthood, making emotional
communities. While these discussions expression feel like a crime.
are crucial, there’s one group whose
struggles often go unnoticed—boys. The Burden of Expectations
From childhood to adulthood, boys
silently endure emotional, societal, and Boys are expected to succeed, provide,
mental pressures, yet their pain is rarely and protect. Society measures their
acknowledged. Society has placed an worth based on their achievements,
invisible mask on them, forcing them to financial stability, and ability to be
appear strong, unaffected, and "manly." While success is a universal
emotionally distant. But behind that goal, the burden on boys is different.
mask, there are countless untold They are raised with the belief that their
struggles that deserve attention. identity is tied to their ability to provide.
If a man loses his job, struggles
The Pressure to Be 'Strong' from an Early financially, or fails to meet expectations,
Age he isn’t just disappointed—he feels like a
failure as a person.
From the moment a boy is born, he is fed This unrealistic expectation leads to
a set of rules—rules that define his extreme stress, anxiety, and even
existence. “Boys don’t cry,” “Be tough,” depression. Yet, society doesn’t allow
“Man up,” “Emotions are for the weak.” men to admit they are struggling. They
These phrases may seem harmless, but are told to "deal with it" and "figure it
they shape a boy’s understanding of the out," often without any emotional or
world. He learns that expressing sadness psychological support.
or fear is a sign of weakness, and instead
of confronting emotions, he suppresses Mental Health: The Unspoken Crisis
them.
Men are significantly less likely to seek
Imagine a young boy who falls and gets help for mental health issues. According
hurt. A girl in the same situation would to studies, men are more prone to
be comforted, hugged, and told it’s okay depression and suicide, yet they hesitate
to cry. But a boy? He would be told to to reach out for therapy or counseling.
wipe his tears and stop acting Why? Because society has conditioned-
- them to believe that seeking help - women do, but they face discrimination
makes them weak. of a different kind—the expectation to
always be in control, to never show
If a man openly admits he is struggling, weakness, and to suppress their true
he risks being seen as "less of a man." selves.
This stigma has created a silent crisis
where countless men battle anxiety, Men are expected to endure physical
depression, and emotional trauma alone. labor, put their lives at risk in dangerous
Many turn to unhealthy coping jobs, and prioritize duty over personal
mechanisms like alcohol, aggression, or happiness. They are also less likely to
complete emotional withdrawal. The receive emotional support, and their
result? A generation of men who are struggles are often dismissed with
suffering in silence, unable to voice their statements like, "You're a man, deal with
pain. it." This form of neglect is just as harmful
as any other discrimination.
Relationship Struggles: The Fear of
Vulnerability The Silent Sacrifices Men Make

Boys are rarely taught how to A father working overtime to provide for
communicate their emotions, which his family. A husband putting his dreams
often leads to struggles in relationships. on hold so his wife and kids can have a
Many men want to express their feelings better future. A brother standing up for
but don’t know how. Society hasn’t his sister in a society that treats her
equipped them with the tools to navigate unfairly. These sacrifices go unnoticed,
emotional conversations, leading to unappreciated, and often
misunderstandings, frustration, and unacknowledged.
heartbreak. Men rarely get appreciation for their
struggles because their role in society is
Many women complain that men are taken for granted. They are expected to
emotionally unavailable, but they don’t do everything without expecting
realize that most men were never given gratitude in return. This emotional
the space to express themselves. The neglect builds up over time, leading to
lack of emotional education results in resentment, frustration, and even mental
broken relationships, loneliness, and exhaustion.
even self-doubt.
Breaking the Silence: How Boys Can Seek
The Misconception of ‘Privilege’ Support

Many people argue that men have So, how do we change this narrative? The
privilege, and in some aspects, they do. first step is acknowledging that boys
But privilege doesn’t mean the absence have struggles too, and they deserve to
of struggle. Yes, men may not face be heard. Here are some ways boys and
gender discrimination in the same way- men can start breaking the cycle:
Talk About Feelings – It’s not weak to Conclusion: It’s Time to Listen
express emotions. Whether it’s a close
friend, a family member, or a therapist, Boys have been struggling in silence for
talking about feelings can help release far too long. It’s time for society to
emotional stress. acknowledge their pain, validate their
emotions, and create an environment
Challenge Societal Norms – Boys should where they feel safe to express
reject outdated beliefs that tell them themselves. Strength isn’t about hiding
they must always be tough. Vulnerability emotions—it’s about having the courage
is not weakness; it’s strength. to confront them.

Seek Professional Help – Therapy is not If we want a world where men are
just for women. Men need therapy just as mentally, emotionally, and physically
much, if not more. There is no shame in healthy, we need to start by listening. We
seeking professional guidance. need to teach boys that it’s okay to be
vulnerable, to struggle, and to ask for
Build Emotional Intelligence – Learning help. Only then can we create a society
how to navigate emotions will help in where men don’t just survive—but truly
personal relationships, career, and live.
overall happiness.
Let’s break the silence, one conversation
Support Other Men – Men should uplift at a time.
and support each other instead of
competing or tearing each other down.
Brotherhood and community are
essential for emotional well-being.
 The Pressure of Being
'Strong' All the Time: The
Unseen Burden on Boys
From the moment a boy is born, he is boys are taught to suppress their
given an invisible armor—one that feelings. This early conditioning creates a
society expects him to wear for life. “Be cycle where boys learn to hide their
strong.” “Don’t cry.” “Man up.” These emotions instead of processing them.
words follow boys like shadows, shaping
their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Over time, they stop crying. They stop
But what does this so-called "strength" expressing pain. And eventually, they
really mean? And why is it forced upon stop feeling safe enough to share their
them so early? struggles with anyone.

The truth is, society has created an The Dangerous Idea of ‘Manliness’
unrealistic expectation: that men must
always be strong, unemotional, and Society has painted a picture of the
tough. But this expectation comes at a “ideal man”—strong, fearless,
price—a price that many men pay in independent, and emotionally
silence. controlled. Any sign of sensitivity is
labeled as weak. If a man expresses
Where It All Begins: Childhood sadness, he’s told he’s “acting like a girl.”
Conditioning If he talks about his struggles, he’s
dismissed with, “Toughen up.”
A little boy falls while playing. His knee is
bleeding, and he wants to cry. But This toxic definition of manliness forces
instead of comfort, he hears: “Ladke rote boys to:
nahi.” Suppress their emotions – They feel
sadness, fear, and anxiety, but they
Another boy feels scared of the dark, but don’t express it.
his father tells him, “You’re a man, act Avoid seeking help – Whether it’s
like one.” emotional or mental support, men
hesitate to reach out.
As boys grow up, they are repeatedly Pretend to be okay – Even when
told that expressing emotions— they’re struggling, they put on a
especially sadness, fear, or vulnerability brave face.
—is a sign of weakness. While girls are But suppressing emotions doesn’t make
allowed to cry and seek comfort- problems disappear. It only makes them
worse.
The Mental and Emotional Toll How This Affects Relationships
Constantly being told to be "strong" Men who are taught to suppress their
creates deep emotional wounds. When emotions struggle in relationships—
men are not allowed to express pain, whether it’s with family, friends, or
they bottle it up inside. Over time, this romantic partners. Since they’ve never
leads to: been encouraged to express their
feelings, they:
Mental health issues – Depression,
anxiety, and emotional exhaustion Find it hard to communicate their
become common. emotions.
Loneliness – Since they are not Struggle to open up about their
encouraged to share their struggles, problems.
they feel isolated. Fear being judged if they show
Unhealthy coping mechanisms – vulnerability.
Many turn to alcohol, aggression, or
complete emotional shutdown. Many women complain that men are
Suicide risk – Statistics show that “emotionally unavailable,” but what they
men are far more likely to die by don’t realize is that most men were never
suicide than women because they given the space to express emotions.
often suffer in silence. Society conditioned them to believe that
emotional expression is not "for men."
Yet, despite these serious consequences,
society still expects men to "be strong" Breaking the Cycle: What Needs to
and never show weakness. Change?

Why Are Boys Expected to Be It’s time to redefine what it means to be

Emotionless? a man. True strength is not about
suppressing emotions but about having
The expectation for men to be tough and the courage to express them. Here’s how
emotionless comes from centuries of we can change things:
traditional beliefs. Historically, men were
hunters, warriors, and protectors—roles 1. Teach Boys That It’s Okay to Feel
that required physical and emotional Boys need to learn from a young age that
strength. But times have changed, and so crying, expressing sadness, and talking
should our understanding of masculinity. about emotions is natural. Parents and
teachers must encourage emotional
In today’s world, men don’t need to hunt expression instead of suppressing it.
for food or fight in wars to prove their
worth. Strength is no longer about 2. Normalize Seeking Help
physical power—it’s about emotional Going to therapy or asking for help
resilience, kindness, and self-awareness. should not be seen as a sign of weakness.
Yet, the old mindset remains, forcing Men should be encouraged to seek
men to hide their true feelings. mental and emotional support without -
-fear of judgment. Over All: Strength in Vulnerability

3. Create Safe Spaces for Men to Open For too long, boys have been forced to
Up carry the weight of unrealistic
Men need spaces where they can share expectations. They have been taught to
their struggles without being ridiculed. suppress, endure, and suffer in silence.
Whether it’s among friends, family, or But real strength doesn’t come from
support groups, they should have the hiding emotions—it comes from
freedom to express themselves. embracing them.

4. Change the Definition of Strength It’s time to tell boys that they don’t
Strength is not about hiding pain—it’s always have to be "strong." It’s okay to
about facing it. Society needs to cry. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to ask for
understand that emotional intelligence, help. Because being human is not about
vulnerability, and self-awareness are being tough all the time—it’s about being
strengths, not weaknesses. real.

5. Support Each Other If we truly want to create a better world

Men should support other men in for boys and men, we must stop forcing
expressing emotions. Instead of mocking them into an unbreakable mold. We must
or belittling someone who opens up, allow them to feel, express, and heal.
they should offer understanding and Because in the end, the strongest thing a
encouragement. man can do is be honest about what he
feels inside.
 Men and Mental
Health: Breaking the
Stigma
Mental health is one of the most Fear of Judgment – Many men worry
important aspects of a person’s well- that opening up about their struggles
being, yet it remains one of the most will make them appear weak or
ignored and misunderstood topics— unmanly.
especially when it comes to men. Society Lack of Safe Spaces – In many
has conditioned men to believe that cultures, men don’t have a support
showing vulnerability is a sign of system where they can talk openly
weakness. As a result, many suffer in about their problems.
silence, too afraid or ashamed to seek Social Expectations – Men are often
help. expected to be providers and
protectors, which makes them feel
But why is this the case? Why are men like they can’t afford to show
less likely to talk about their mental weakness.
health? And most importantly, how can
we change this? The result? Many men struggle with
mental health issues alone, leading to
Why Men Struggle to Talk About Mental severe consequences.
Health
The Reality of Men's Mental Health
From a young age, boys are taught to be
"tough" and "emotionally strong." While The statistics on men's mental health are
girls are encouraged to express their alarming:
feelings, boys are told to suppress them.
Statements like "Boys don’t cry," "Man Men are less likely to be diagnosed
up," or "Stop acting weak" create an with depression and anxiety, but this
environment where emotions are seen as doesn’t mean they don’t suffer from
a flaw rather than a natural human it. They are just less likely to seek
experience. help.
Suicide rates among men are
This conditioning leads to several significantly higher than among
problems: women. Studies show that men are
nearly four times more likely to die
Emotional Suppression – Instead of by suicide.
expressing sadness, anxiety, or Many men turn to unhealthy coping
stress, men bottle up their emotions. mechanisms like alcohol, drug abuse,
-or aggression instead of talking about when they are struggling deeply.
their struggles.
Changing the Narrative: How We Can
Despite these harsh realities, mental Support Men’s Mental Health
health in men is still not discussed
enough. Breaking the stigma around men’s
mental health requires a collective
Why Seeking Help Feels Like a Challenge effort. Here’s how we can make a change:
for Men
1. Redefine Masculinity
There are several barriers that prevent Being strong doesn’t mean suppressing
men from seeking mental health support: emotions. True strength is having the
courage to acknowledge feelings, ask for
1. The Fear of Being Labeled Weak help, and take care of one’s mental
Society has created a false image that health. We need to teach boys from a
"real men" are always in control, young age that expressing emotions is
emotionally stable, and unaffected by not a weakness.
pain. Admitting to mental health
struggles feels like an attack on 2. Encourage Open Conversations
masculinity. Men need safe spaces where they can
talk about their struggles without fear of
2. Lack of Awareness judgment. Whether it’s with friends,
Many men don’t even realize they are family, or support groups, having honest
dealing with mental health issues. conversations about mental health can
Instead of recognizing symptoms of make a huge difference.
depression or anxiety, they may see
them as just "having a bad day" or "being 3. Normalize Therapy
stressed out." Seeking professional help should be seen
as normal, just like visiting a doctor for a
3. Social Isolation physical illness. Therapy is not just for
Men often don’t have emotional support people in crisis—it’s a tool for growth,
systems like women do. While women healing, and self-awareness.
freely talk to their friends about their
problems, men rarely have such open 4. Educate Men on Mental Health
conversations. Many men don’t recognize the signs of
mental health struggles. Spreading
4. The Stigma Around Therapy awareness about depression, anxiety,
Therapy is often seen as something "only stress, and other issues can help men
weak people need." Many men believe understand when they need support.
they should be able to "fix" their
problems on their own. 5. Be There for Each Other
Men should support other men. If you
These barriers make it incredibly difficult see a friend struggling, encourage him to
for men to seek the help they need, even talk about it. Sometimes, just knowing-
-that someone is there to listen can be Seeking help, talking about emotions,
life-changing. and prioritizing mental well-being are not
signs of weakness—they are signs of
Final Thought: It’s Time to Break the strength. The more we normalize these
Stigma conversations, the closer we get to a
world where men feel safe, understood,
Mental health is just as important as and supported.
physical health, and no one should have
to suffer in silence—especially not men. If you’re a man struggling with your
The outdated belief that "men should mental health, remember this: You don’t
always be strong" has done enough have to face it alone. You are not weak
damage. It’s time to change the for seeking help. You deserve support,
narrative. just like anyone else.
 Success and the
Hidden Roadblocks for
Boys
Success is something everyone aspires Fear of failure – Boys often feel they
to achieve, but the journey is not the have no choice but to succeed. The
same for everyone. Boys are often idea of failure is terrifying because it
expected to become successful, can lead to feelings of worthlessness.
independent, and strong providers, but Rush to earn money – Many boys
very few people talk about the struggles start feeling pressure to make money
and hidden challenges they face along early in life, sometimes at the cost of
the way. their dreams.
Lack of career exploration – Instead
From childhood to adulthood, boys of choosing what they love, many
encounter numerous obstacles—some boys end up in careers they don’t
imposed by society, some created by enjoy just because they seem
personal insecurities, and some that financially stable.
come with the pressure of expectations.
2. The Burden of Family Expectations
In this article, we will explore the unique
roadblocks that boys face on their path For many boys, success isn’t just about
to success and how they can overcome personal ambition—it’s about meeting
them. family expectations. Parents often have
specific dreams for their sons, expecting
1. The Pressure to Be Financially them to choose traditional career paths
Independent like engineering, medicine, or business.

From an early age, boys are told that But what if a boy wants to become a
they must "earn well" and "become musician, artist, or writer?
successful" to be respected in society.
Unlike girls, who often receive Many young men sacrifice their real
encouragement for their personal passions because they fear
growth and aspirations, boys are disappointing their families. Instead of
primarily judged by their ability to choosing careers that align with their
provide. interests, they follow the "safe" path and
later struggle with dissatisfaction and
This expectation creates several burnout.
problems:
3. Emotional Neglect and Lack of 5. The Struggle with Self-Worth
Support
Many boys tie their self-worth to
While girls are encouraged to talk about external factors like money, career
their struggles, boys are often left to achievements, or social status. If they
deal with problems alone. Society aren’t earning well or achieving "big
teaches them to be "strong" and not things," they start doubting their value.
express their emotions, which leads to:
This issue becomes worse when society
Bottled-up frustration – Instead of only respects men who have achieved
seeking help, boys suppress their something financially or professionally.
problems, leading to mental and Boys who struggle to find success early
emotional exhaustion. on are often overlooked or seen as
Fear of asking for help – Many boys "failures."
feel that asking for help is a sign of
weakness, even when they need 6. Stereotypes and Gender Bias
guidance.
Loneliness in struggles – Unlike girls, People often assume that men have it
who often receive emotional support easier when it comes to career growth.
from friends and family, boys rarely However, many industries have biases
get the same level of understanding. against men in certain fields. For
example:
4. The Competitive Pressure
Men in creative fields – Boys who
Society expects men to be dominant, want to pursue careers in dance,
successful, and always ahead in life. As a fashion, or teaching are often judged
result, many boys feel they are in a or discouraged.
constant race. Whether it’s academics, Emotional intelligence is ignored –
sports, or career growth, they feel the While women are praised for their
need to prove themselves. soft skills, men are often expected to
be aggressive leaders, even when
This competition leads to: they have a more sensitive leadership
style.
Fear of falling behind – If a boy isn’t
achieving things at the same speed as 7. Fear of Taking Risks
others, he starts feeling like a failure.
Comparisons with others – Social Success often requires taking risks, but
media and societal expectations boys are taught from a young age that
make boys compare their lives with failure is unacceptable. This makes many
successful individuals, creating self- men afraid to step out of their comfort
doubt. zones. They hesitate to:
Burnout at a young age – The desire
to succeed quickly often results in Start a business
extreme stress and exhaustion.
 Try a different career path -force you into a career you don’t love. If
Pursue a passion project you’re passionate about something,
pursue it with confidence.
This fear keeps them stuck in mediocre
jobs or situations that don’t make them 3. Learn to Express Emotions
happy. Talking about your struggles doesn’t
make you weak. Find a friend, mentor, or
8. Lack of Work-Life Balance therapist who can help you navigate
challenges.
As boys grow into men, their entire focus
shifts toward career success. Many men 4. Take Calculated Risks
become so obsessed with their work that Don’t let fear hold you back. If you have
they forget to take care of their personal a dream, take the necessary steps to
lives. achieve it. Failure is just a lesson, not an
end.
Common issues include:
5. Maintain a Work-Life Balance
Ignoring health and well-being Success should never come at the cost
Not spending enough time with of your health or relationships. Make
family and loved ones time for family, hobbies, and self-care.
Feeling isolated despite professional 6. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
success Your journey is unique. Don’t compare
your progress with someone else’s.
A successful life should be balanced, but Focus on your own growth.
many men don’t realize this until it’s too
late. 7. Seek Support
You don’t have to do everything alone.
How Can Boys Overcome These Reach out to mentors, support groups,
Roadblocks? and friends who understand your
struggles.
Success is not just about financial
achievements—it’s about overall Final Thought: Success is a Journey, Not
happiness and growth. Here’s how boys a Race
can overcome these challenges:
Boys face many hidden challenges on
1. Define Your Own Success the road to success—family
Success isn’t just about money or status. expectations, emotional suppression,
Define what truly matters to you— financial pressure, and societal
whether it’s a fulfilling career, creative stereotypes. However, success is not just
expression, or a happy family life. about career achievements or financial
wealth.
2. Choose Passion Over Pressure
Don’t let societal or family pressure- True success comes from living a life-
-that makes you happy, following your So, to all the boys out there struggling to
passion, and maintaining emotional and "make it"—your worth is not just in your
mental well-being. Every boy should success. You are valuable, no matter
know that he has the right to define his where you are in your journey. Keep
own path, take risks, and ask for support pushing forward, but don’t forget to
when needed. enjoy the process.
 The Real Definition
of Masculinity
What does it truly mean to be a man? Dominance and power – Men are
For centuries, society has defined expected to be the ones in charge,
masculinity based on strength, leading in relationships, workplaces,
dominance, and toughness. and society.
Financial success – A man’s worth is
Men have been expected to be fearless often judged by how much money he
providers, protectors, and leaders who makes or how successful he is in his
never show weakness. Any deviation career.
from this image is often met with
criticism or ridicule. This definition of masculinity has created
unrealistic expectations for boys and
But is this definition of masculinity men, forcing them into roles that might
accurate? Or is it time we redefine what not align with their true personalities or
it really means to be a man? desires.

In this article, we will break down the But is masculinity really about these
traditional concept of masculinity, things?
expose the toxic expectations placed on
men, and create a new, healthier 2. The Problems with Toxic Masculinity
definition—one that allows men to be
their true selves. Toxic masculinity refers to the harmful
expectations placed on men that limit
1. The Traditional Definition of their emotional, mental, and personal
Masculinity growth. Some of the biggest issues
include:
For generations, masculinity has been
associated with: a) Suppression of Emotions

Physical strength – A "real man" is From childhood, boys are told:

supposed to be tough, muscular, and
able to handle any physical "Don’t cry like a girl."
challenge. "Be a man and deal with it."
Emotional control – Men are told not "Stop being so sensitive."
to cry or show emotions because it is
considered a sign of weakness. As a result, many men bottle up their-
emotions instead of expressing them. -financial success, they are sometimes
This leads to: made to feel worthless. This leads to:

Increased stress and anxiety Workaholism and burnout

Difficulty in forming deep Fear of taking career risks or pursuing
relationships passion projects
Mental health struggles like Emotional detachment from family
depression due to work pressure

b) Fear of Seeking Help 3. Redefining Masculinity: What It Really

Means to Be a Man
Men are often made to feel that asking
for help is a sign of weakness. This Masculinity should not be about toxic
applies to both emotional and practical expectations—it should be about self-
problems. Whether it’s struggling with acceptance, confidence, and emotional
mental health, financial issues, or career well-being. Here’s what real masculinity
setbacks, many men refuse to seek help looks like:
because they fear being judged.
a) Strength Beyond Muscles
c) The Pressure to Be 'Alpha'
Being strong doesn’t just mean having
Society often glorifies the "alpha male"— physical power. Real strength is:
a man who is dominant, aggressive, and
always in control. This mindset creates The ability to handle emotions in a
pressure to: healthy way
The courage to face challenges
Be the most successful and without suppressing feelings
competitive The resilience to get back up after
Always appear confident, even when failure
struggling
Avoid showing vulnerability A strong man is one who is not afraid to
be vulnerable and honest about his
This false idea of "alpha masculinity" struggles.
forces men to constantly prove
themselves, leading to exhaustion and b) Emotional Intelligence
insecurity.
Real masculinity includes:
d) The Expectation to Be Financial
Providers The ability to express emotions
without shame
Men are often told that their primary Being empathetic and understanding
role is to earn money and provide for towards others
their families. If they fail to achieve- Developing meaningful relationships
based on communication and trust
A man who knows how to handle 4. How Can Boys and Men Break Free
emotions—both his own and others’—is from Toxic Masculinity?
truly strong.
If we want to create a healthier version
c) Respect for Others, Not Dominance of masculinity, we need to:

Masculinity is not about controlling 1. Challenge Old Beliefs

others or being the loudest person in the
room. Instead, it is about: Stop using phrases like "man up" or
"boys don’t cry."
Leading with kindness and integrity Encourage emotional expression in
Treating women as equals, not as boys from a young age.
inferiors Support men who choose
Supporting other men instead of unconventional careers or lifestyles.
competing with them
2. Talk About Mental Health
A real man doesn’t need to dominate—he
earns respect by being genuine and Normalize therapy and emotional
respectful. support for men.
Teach boys that seeking help is not a
d) Confidence in Individuality weakness.
Encourage open conversations about
Every man is different. Some are stress, anxiety, and emotions.
ambitious go-getters, while others are
calm and creative. Some men love 3. Promote Healthy Relationships
sports, while others enjoy music or
fashion. Teach boys that respect and kindness
matter more than dominance.
True masculinity is about embracing who Encourage friendships based on
you are instead of trying to fit into support, not just competition.
society’s expectations. A real man: Show that masculinity includes love,
care, and emotional depth.
Doesn’t let others define his worth
Follows his passions, even if they go 4. Redefine Success
against traditional gender norms
Stands by his values and beliefs Success is not just about money—it’s
without fear about happiness and fulfillment.
Men should feel free to pursue
e) The Ability to Ask for Help careers and passions without
judgment.
A real man knows when to seek support. Work-life balance should be
Whether it’s talking to a friend, seeking prioritized, not just financial gain.
therapy, or admitting mistakes, asking for
help is not a weakness—it is a strength.
5. Conclusion: Masculinity is About Is kind and emotionally aware
Freedom, Not Restriction Respects others and supports them
Has the courage to express his true
For too long, masculinity has been self
defined by rigid stereotypes—strength,
dominance, financial power, and Masculinity should not be a cage that
emotional suppression. But real limits men—it should be a freedom that
masculinity is about being true to allows them to be who they truly are.
yourself, embracing your emotions, and So, to every boy and man reading this:
living with confidence.
You don’t have to fit into anyone else’s
A real man is not someone who never definition of masculinity. You define
cries or always wins. A real man is what it means to be a man.
someone who:
 Why Boys Are
Taught to Hide Their
Tears
"Ladke rote nahi." Crying is a sign of weakness.
"Be a man." Real men do not show emotions.
"Crying is for girls." Being sensitive makes you less
"manly."
From the time they are little, boys hear
these words over and over again. Every This belief is reinforced in movies,
time a boy cries, he is quickly told to sports, and even by parents and
stop, toughen up, and act like a "man." teachers who unknowingly pass down
But why is crying seen as a weakness in the same message.
boys? Why is it that when a girl cries, she
is comforted, but when a boy cries, he is But does crying really make a man weak?
shamed? Or does suppressing emotions create
even bigger problems?
In this article, we will explore the deep-
rooted reasons why boys are taught to 2. The Emotional Damage of Suppressing
suppress their tears, the emotional Tears
damage this causes, and why it’s time to
change this mindset. When boys are taught not to cry, they
don’t just stop crying—they stop
1. The Origins of "Boys Don't Cry" expressing all emotions. Over time, this
leads to:
The idea that boys should not cry has
been passed down through generations. a) Bottled-Up Emotions
Historically, men were seen as warriors,
hunters, and protectors. In battle, Emotions are like water in a dam. If you
showing emotions could be seen as a keep blocking them, the pressure keeps
sign of weakness, so men were expected building. Eventually, it becomes too
to remain strong and stoic. Over time, much, and the dam either cracks or
this belief became part of everyday life, bursts. The same thing happens to men
not just in war but in families, schools, who suppress their emotions—they
and workplaces. either suffer in silence or explode in
anger.
From childhood, boys are conditioned to
believe that: b) Increased Stress and Anxiety
Crying is the body’s natural way of So, if crying is a natural emotional
releasing stress. When you hold back release, why do we shame boys for it?
tears, you also hold in stress, frustration,
and pain. This can lead to: 3. The Science Behind Crying: Why It’s
Actually Healthy
Anxiety and overthinking
Increased anger and frustration Many people think that crying makes a
A constant feeling of emotional person weak, but science proves
exhaustion otherwise. Crying has real benefits, such
as:
c) Difficulty in Relationships
a) Reducing Stress
Men who are taught not to cry often
struggle with emotional expression in Tears contain stress hormones. When
relationships. They find it hard to: you cry, your body literally releases
stress, making you feel lighter and
Communicate their feelings with calmer afterward.
partners or friends
Offer emotional support to loved b) Improving Mood
ones
Handle conflicts in a healthy way Crying triggers the release of endorphins
—the body's natural "feel-good"
Many relationships suffer because men chemicals. This is why you often feel
have been conditioned to believe that better after a good cry.
expressing emotions is "unmanly."
c) Strengthening Emotional Bonds
d) Mental Health Issues When someone sees you cry, they are
more likely to offer comfort and support.
Suppressing emotions does not make This creates deeper emotional
them go away. It only buries them deep connections in relationships.
inside, where they continue to cause
harm. Studies show that men who avoid Crying is not a sign of weakness—it’s a
emotional expression are at a higher risk sign that you are human.
of:
4. Why Society Needs to Change Its
Depression Attitude
Anxiety disorders
Suicide If we want to raise emotionally healthy
boys and men, we need to stop shaming
In fact, suicide rates among men are them for crying. Here’s how we can do
significantly higher than among women, that:
partly because men are less likely to seek
help or express their struggles. a) Stop Using "Be a Man" as an Insult
When we tell boys to "be a man" by Men should feel safe talking about their
hiding their emotions, we are not making struggles, whether it’s with friends,
them stronger—we are making them family, or a therapist. The more we
emotionally distant. True strength comes normalize emotional expression, the
from facing emotions, not hiding them. healthier men will be—both mentally and
physically.
b) Teach Boys That Emotions Are Normal
5. Conclusion: Real Men Cry
Parents and teachers should encourage
boys to talk about their feelings instead It’s time to destroy the myth that "boys
of shutting them down. When a boy cries, don’t cry." Real men do cry—because
he should be comforted, not shamed. real men are human.

c) Show Positive Male Role Models Who Crying is not a sign of weakness, but a
Express Emotions sign of strength. It means a person is
brave enough to acknowledge their
Movies, books, and social media need to emotions instead of hiding them.
portray men who cry, seek help, and
express emotions without being mocked. So to every boy reading this: It’s okay to
The more boys see this, the more they cry. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to express
will understand that emotions are a yourself.
natural part of life.
And to society: Stop teaching boys to
d) Encourage Open Conversations About suppress their emotions. Let them be
Mental Health human.
 Fatherhood: A Role
That Deserves More
Recognition
When we talk about parenting, the focus This traditional view has created an
is often on mothers. While mothers imbalance in parenting, where the role of
undeniably play a vital role in raising a father is limited to financial support
children, fathers are just as important. rather than emotional and physical
Yet, society tends to undervalue their caregiving. But times have changed, and
contributions. Fathers are often seen as so should our perception of fatherhood.
providers rather than caregivers, and
their emotional impact on a child’s life is 2. The True Impact of a Father in a Child’s
frequently overlooked. Life

But the truth is, fatherhood is more than Research shows that fathers have a
just earning money for the family—it is profound impact on their children—
about love, guidance, support, and emotionally, mentally, and even
emotional strength. In this article, we will physically. Here’s how:
explore why fathers deserve more
recognition, the challenges they face, a) Emotional Strength and Stability
and how we can change the way society
views their role. Children with active fathers tend to be
more emotionally stable. A father’s
1. The Traditional View of Fatherhood presence in a child’s life:

For centuries, fathers have been seen Boosts self-confidence.

primarily as breadwinners—the ones who Reduces anxiety and stress.
go out to work while mothers take care of Helps children develop a sense of
the home and children. This idea has security and belonging.
been deeply ingrained in many cultures.
Even today, many people believe: When fathers are emotionally available,
children feel safe and valued.
A father’s primary duty is to provide
financially. b) Role Model for Boys and Girls
Raising children is mainly the
mother’s responsibility. For boys, a father sets an example of
Fathers are less emotionally involved how to be a responsible man. He
than mothers. teaches values like respect,
discipline, and kindness.
 For girls, a father’s love and respect Society still believes that mothers are
shape how they view men in their the primary caregivers. This mindset
lives. A caring father helps his makes it harder for fathers to be taken
daughter build self-esteem and seriously in parenting roles. For example:
understand what a healthy
relationship looks like. Schools and doctors often address
parenting concerns only to mothers.
c) Better Academic and Career Success Workplaces rarely offer paternity
leave or flexible hours for fathers.
Studies have shown that children with Fathers who choose to be stay-at-
involved fathers: home parents face social judgment.

Perform better in school. This lack of recognition discourages

Have higher self-discipline and focus. many fathers from taking a more active
Are more likely to succeed in their role in parenting.
careers.
b) The Pressure to Be "Tough"
This proves that a father’s involvement
goes beyond financial support—it helps Just like boys are taught to hide their
shape a child’s future. emotions, fathers are also expected to
be strong and unemotional. Many men
d) Teaching Life Skills feel that showing affection or discussing
feelings might make them seem weak.
Fathers play a major role in teaching
essential life skills such as: As a result, some fathers struggle to
openly express love and emotions, even
Problem-solving and decision- though they deeply care for their
making. children.
Handling failures and setbacks.
Managing responsibilities and c) Work-Life Balance Struggles
independence.
Many fathers want to spend more time
These skills prepare children for real-life with their children, but demanding work
challenges and help them become well- schedules make it difficult. Society
rounded individuals. expects men to prioritize work over
family, which:
3. The Challenges Fathers Face
Creates distance between fathers
Despite their importance, fathers often and their children.
face difficulties that go unnoticed. Leads to guilt and emotional stress.
Makes fathers feel disconnected
a) Being Overlooked as Caregivers from their kids.
Workplaces need to recognize that When fathers are given the freedom to
fatherhood is just as important as career participate in childcare, families become
growth. healthier and happier.

4. How Society Can Give Fathers the d) Changing Media Representation

Recognition They Deserve
TV shows, movies, and advertisements
It’s time to break outdated stereotypes often show fathers as clueless or absent
and give fathers the respect and support parents. We need more positive
they need. Here’s how we can do that: representations of fathers—men who are
a) Acknowledging Fathers as Equal actively involved, loving, and supportive.
Parents
Seeing such role models will inspire more
Fathers are not just helpers in parenting; men to embrace fatherhood with
they are equal partners. Society needs to confidence.
recognize their role in raising children
and appreciate their emotional Final Thought: Celebrating Fatherhood
contributions, not just their financial
ones. Fatherhood is one of the most important
roles in a child’s life. Yet, fathers are
b) Encouraging Emotional Expression often undervalued, their efforts
Fathers should feel free to: overlooked, and their struggles ignored.
It’s time to change this.
Show affection to their children
without judgment. A father is not just someone who earns
Express emotions and discuss money for the family—he is a mentor, a
feelings. protector, a guide, and a source of love.
Build deep, meaningful connections
with their kids. So, let’s start appreciating fathers for
everything they do. Let’s encourage
Children need love, guidance, and them to express emotions, be involved in
emotional security from both parents, parenting, and find the balance between
not just their mothers. work and family.

c) Better Work Policies for Fathers Because fatherhood is not just a

Governments and companies should: responsibility—it’s a privilege that
deserves recognition.
Offer paid paternity leave so fathers
can spend time with newborns.
Support flexible work schedules to
allow fathers to balance work and
family.
Promote father-friendly policies that
encourage active parenting.
 Male Survivors of
Abuse: The Untold
Stories
When we talk about abuse, the first Abuse against men can take many forms,
image that comes to mind is often that of including:
a woman suffering at the hands of a man.
Society has conditioned us to believe Physical abuse – Being hit, slapped,
that men are always the perpetrators punched, kicked, or attacked with
and women the victims. But the harsh objects.
truth is that men, too, are victims of Emotional abuse – Constant
abuse—physical, emotional, sexual, and humiliation, gaslighting,
psychological. manipulation, or controlling
behavior.
The problem? No one talks about it. Sexual abuse – Forced sexual activity,
coercion, or non-consensual acts.
Men who experience abuse are often met Psychological abuse – Threats,
with disbelief, shame, or ridicule when intimidation, isolation, or financial
they try to speak up. Their pain is control.
dismissed with statements like:
Men can experience abuse from
“A man can’t be abused.” partners, family members, friends,
“You’re a guy, just fight back.” coworkers, or even strangers. Yet, their
“How can a woman hurt a man?” suffering is often ignored or minimized.
“You should feel lucky that a woman
touched you.” One major reason for this is gender
stereotypes. Society expects men to be
This culture of silence and stigma forces “strong” and “dominant,” making it
many male survivors to suffer alone. In difficult for people to believe that a man
this article, we will shed light on the can be controlled, manipulated, or
untold stories of male abuse survivors, physically overpowered by someone else
the barriers they face, and why it’s —especially a woman.
crucial for society to listen,
acknowledge, and support them. 2. The Silent Suffering of Male Victims

1. Abuse Against Men: A Reality We a) Fear of Being Mocked or Not Believed

Ignore
When men try to report abuse, they are However, because society tells men to
often met with disbelief or even “be strong” and “man up,” they suppress
laughter. Society has conditioned people their emotions and suffer in silence.
to think that only women can be victims,
so when a man speaks up, the response 3. The Dark Truth About Sexual Abuse
is often: Against Men

“You must have done something to One of the most overlooked and
deserve it.” stigmatized forms of abuse against men
“A woman can’t hurt a man unless he is sexual violence.
lets her.”
“You’re a guy—just walk away.” According to studies, 1 in 6 men
experience sexual abuse at some
This discourages male survivors from point in their lives.
seeking help. Many cases go unreported due to
shame, fear, and social stigma.
b) Legal Bias Against Men Male victims of rape or molestation
often struggle with severe trauma,
In many countries, laws and support self-blame, and identity crises.
systems focus primarily on female
victims. If a man files a complaint against One of the biggest myths is that men
his abuser, especially if she is a woman, always want sex, so they can’t be raped.
he may not be taken seriously. Some But this is completely false. Consent
men even fear that their abuser will turn matters, regardless of gender.
the tables and accuse them instead.
Who are the abusers?
False accusations of abuse or domestic
violence can destroy a man’s reputation, Partners (wives, girlfriends, or
career, and mental health. This fear boyfriends) who force or manipulate
stops many men from reporting their men into sexual acts.
abuse. Strangers or acquaintances who
exploit or assault men.
c) Emotional and Psychological Trauma Authority figures (teachers, bosses,
religious leaders) who take advantage
Just like women, men who experience of their position.
abuse suffer from:
Society’s unwillingness to acknowledge
Depression that men can be sexually abused leaves
Anxiety countless survivors feeling alone and
PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress unheard.
Disorder)
Self-doubt and low self-esteem 4. Real Stories of Male Survivors
Suicidal thoughts
Story 1: Abused in a Relationship We need to break the stereotype that
abuse only happens to women. Abuse is
"She would slap me whenever she was about power, not gender.
angry. She threw things at me, broke my
belongings, and insulted me in front of b) Encourage Men to Speak Up
friends. But when I tried to tell people,
they laughed and said, ‘You’re a man, just We must create a safe space where men
leave her.’ I felt trapped and helpless." feel comfortable sharing their
experiences without fear of judgment or
Story 2: A Victim of Sexual Assault shame.

"At a party, a female friend got me drunk c) Improve Legal and Support Systems
and forced herself on me. When I told my for Male Victims
friends, they said, ‘You’re lucky, man!
Stop complaining.’ But I didn’t feel lucky Stronger legal protection for men
—I felt violated. No one believed that a who report abuse.
man could be raped." Support groups and counseling
specifically for male survivors.
Story 3: Emotional Abuse from Family Helplines and safe shelters that also
cater to men.
"My mother controlled every aspect of
my life. She would insult me, make me d) Educate Society About Male Abuse
feel worthless, and guilt-trip me into Survivors
doing everything she wanted. Even as an
adult, I struggle with self-worth because Schools, workplaces, and communities
of her words." need to spread awareness about all
-------------------------------------------------- forms of abuse—not just the ones that
These are just a few examples of real, affect women.
heartbreaking experiences that male
survivors go through every day. 6. Conclusion: It’s Time to Listen

5. Why It’s Time to Break the Silence The suffering of male abuse survivors is
real, but their voices are drowned out by
We cannot continue to ignore the abuse societal expectations and stereotypes.
faced by men. Every survivor—regardless Men are told to be strong, to suppress
of gender—deserves to be heard, their pain, and to never ask for help. But
believed, and supported. silence only makes the suffering worse.

Here’s how we can bring change: It’s time to break the stigma.
It’s time to listen.
a) Acknowledge That Men Can Be Victims It’s time to support male survivors
Too with the same compassion and
seriousness as female survivors.
 Men and Fashion:
Why Shouldn’t Boys
Care About Style?
For generations, society has told boys to -personality, tastes, and identity. It
focus on practicality, strength, and reflects your unique vibe and shows that
independence while dismissing the you value how you present yourself to
importance of style and self-expression. the world.
When it comes to fashion, men are often
expected to take a backseat to women, A man’s choice of clothing can convey
with society perpetuating the idea that confidence, creativity, professionalism,
fashion is a “girly” thing. This narrow or relaxation, depending on the occasion
perception of masculinity has led many and style. For example, someone who
men to ignore their own sense of style or loves bold colors and patterns might be
avoid expressing themselves through a more outgoing person, while someone
clothing for fear of judgment. who opts for a minimalist style might
prefer simplicity and subtlety.
However, fashion is not about
conforming to gendered stereotypes; it's It’s important to realize that personal
about personal expression, confidence, style has no gender. Clothing doesn’t
and individuality. In this article, we will define your masculinity—it only
explore why men should care about represents your individual identity. Men
style, how embracing fashion can can be creative and adventurous in their
positively impact their lives, and why no fashion choices just as much as women.
one should feel restricted by outdated Fashion allows men to communicate and
notions of what it means to be a man. define their personalities, and it should
never be confined to rigid stereotypes.
1. Fashion is an Expression of
Individuality 2. Breaking Free from the 'Man Box'

One of the biggest misconceptions about The idea of the “man box” refers to the
men and fashion is that it’s shallow or societal pressures placed on men to
unnecessary. However, fashion is not conform to certain traditional ideals of
just about following trends or wearing masculinity. Boys are taught to be tough,
expensive clothes—it’s about expressing unemotional, and practical, and these
who you are. The clothes you wear can pressures extend into how they dress.
give others a glimpse into your - Men are often expected to wear basic-
- neutral-colored clothing—think jeans, t- -ore formal, the clothes you wear affect
shirts, and suits—without ever straying how you feel about yourself and how
too far from the “norm.” others perceive you. A man who takes
pride in his appearance is often
However, fashion is a tool to break free perceived as someone who is confident,
from these expectations. By embracing put-together, and self-assured.
different styles, men can show the world
that masculinity is not a fixed idea. Men 4. Fashion is for Everyone, Regardless of
can be strong, confident, and caring Body Type
while also appreciating the aesthetic
value of fashion. Another reason some men avoid fashion
is because they feel that they don’t fit
When men express themselves through the “ideal” body type seen in mainstream
fashion, they push back against the rigid fashion. The truth is, fashion isn’t only
boundaries of the “man box.” It’s an act for those who fit a particular mold—it’s
of rebellion that celebrates the freedom for everyone.
to be multifaceted. A man who embraces
style is not less masculine—he is simply a There are styles for every body type, and
person who values self-expression and confidence comes from wearing what
self-care. makes you feel good. A taller man might
love a long coat, while a shorter man
3. Confidence Through Style might prefer a more fitted, structured
jacket. Larger men can embrace layers
It’s no secret that when we feel good and colors that work best for their shape,
about ourselves, we walk a little taller. while leaner men can experiment with
Fashion and confidence go hand in hand. slim-fit clothing that enhances their
A well-fitted suit, a stylish pair of shoes, frame.
or even just a bold jacket can completely
change the way a person carries Fashion has the power to highlight a
themselves. For men, style can be a man’s best features while providing an
source of empowerment. opportunity for self-expression, no
matter what his body looks like. There is
When you dress in a way that aligns with no one-size-fits-all, and that’s what
your personality, you become more makes fashion so exciting and diverse.
comfortable in your own skin. You feel
good because you are no longer 5. The Impact of Fashion on Professional
conforming to someone else’s Success
expectations. Instead, you’re presenting
yourself in a way that reflects who you In many professional settings, the way
are. This newfound confidence can you present yourself is directly linked to
positively impact other areas of your life, how seriously you’re taken. A man who
from your career to relationships. dresses well is often viewed as more
competent, disciplined, and
Whether it’s a casual outfit or something- professional. While your skills and -
-abilities are the ultimate factors in -, and it’s okay to embrace what feels
career success, fashion plays a role in right for them. Fashion is about personal
making a positive first impression. choice—and no one should feel
pressured to follow restrictive norms.
For example, a man who wears a tailored The more men embrace fashion, the
suit to an interview shows that he cares more it will normalize in society. It will no
about the opportunity and is prepared. A longer be seen as a feminine or
neat, polished appearance can leave a superficial pursuit, but as an essential
lasting impression on potential part of self-expression for everyone.
employers or colleagues. Fashion can be
a tool for professional success, and men Conclusion: Fashion is for Every Man
who take the time to dress well often feel
more confident in their ability to excel in In today’s world, men have the freedom
their careers. to express themselves however they
choose, and fashion is an important part
6. Fashion as a Form of Self-Care of that. Style is not just for women, and
no man should feel restricted by
Taking care of your appearance is a form outdated norms that dictate what they
of self-care. When you put effort into should wear.
choosing clothes that reflect your
personality, you are showing respect for Embracing fashion is not about being
yourself and your well-being. Fashion vain or trying to impress others; it’s
isn’t just about impressing others; it’s about being confident in who you are
about making yourself feel good. and expressing your individuality. Men
deserve to care about their appearance
Dressing in a way that makes you feel and celebrate their style without fear of
confident and comfortable can have a judgment. Fashion, at its core, is a
positive impact on your mental and powerful tool for self-expression,
emotional health. Men, like everyone empowerment, and confidence.
else, deserve to enjoy the process of
pampering themselves through the So, the next time you consider what to
choices they make in clothing. wear, remember that style is for you—not
just for women, but for men, too.
7. Overcoming the Fear of Judgment Embrace it. Own it. And be
unapologetically yourself.
One of the biggest obstacles for men
when it comes to embracing fashion is
the fear of judgment. Society often views
men who are into fashion as “soft” or
“vain.” The idea that “real men” don’t
care about style needs to be dismantled.

It's important for men to realize that

they can’t control the opinions of others-
 Why Men's
Friendships Matter
More Than We Think
In a world where relationships and One of the primary reasons male
emotional well-being are often discussed friendships are so important is the
in terms of romantic partnerships or emotional support they provide. Unlike
family dynamics, male friendships tend romantic relationships, which are often
to take a backseat. Society has burdened with expectations of intimacy
historically portrayed men as and perfection, friendships between men
emotionally self-sufficient, requiring offer a space where emotions can be
little emotional connection outside of shared freely, without pressure. Whether
romantic relationships. As a result, many it’s a simple conversation over a cup of
men feel pressured to suppress their coffee or a late-night heart-to-heart,
emotions and avoid seeking support male friends act as a crucial support
from friends. This silence, however, often system during times of stress, failure, or
leads to unspoken struggles and personal challenges.
loneliness.
Studies have shown that emotional
In reality, male friendships are crucial for support from friends can significantly
mental health, emotional support, and reduce feelings of anxiety and
overall well-being. These friendships depression, which are often silently
provide an avenue for men to express carried by men. These friendships create
themselves in ways they may not feel a safe space where men can vent about
comfortable doing with others. They work stress, relationship issues, or
allow men to be vulnerable, share personal insecurities without fear of
personal experiences, and grow being judged or misunderstood. A good
emotionally without the fear of friend is someone who listens without
judgment. Yet, the importance of these trying to fix everything, someone who
relationships often goes unnoticed or validates feelings and offers
undervalued. In this article, we will encouragement. This emotional
explore the significance of male connection can be just as essential as
friendships, why they matter more than romantic relationships when it comes to
we think, and how they play a vital role in fostering emotional well-being.
fostering emotional resilience.
2. Challenging the ‘Tough Guy’
1. Male Friendships and Emotional Stereotype
Support
For years, society has reinforced the - struggling with their mental health due
stereotype that men must always be to societal expectations of
tough, stoic, and unaffected by independence and strength.
emotions. Phrases like "men don’t cry" or
"boys don’t show weakness" are Male friendships provide a buffer against
ingrained from childhood, pushing men mental health challenges by offering a
to bottle up their feelings. As a result, support system where men can share
many men feel a pressure to remain their problems, receive advice, and
emotionally distant, not just from the simply be heard. Having close friends
world but even from their closest who understand your struggles, whether
friends. personal or professional, can alleviate
feelings of loneliness and foster a sense
However, friendships between men can of belonging. This emotional connection
challenge these outdated stereotypes by is a key factor in improving resilience and
providing a platform where vulnerability coping mechanisms during difficult
is not only accepted but encouraged. It’s times.
in these friendships that men can talk
openly about their emotions, struggles, The act of spending quality time with
and fears. By being emotionally open friends—whether it’s playing sports,
with friends, men can dismantle the watching movies, or just chatting about
harmful notion that being emotionally life—helps to release stress and
honest is a sign of weakness. enhances overall happiness. These
shared experiences contribute to a sense
In these safe spaces, men are able to of well-being, reminding men that they
share their true selves, without fear of are not alone in their struggles.
appearing "less of a man" or "weak." This
not only helps in breaking down toxic 4. The Power of Brotherhood and Shared
masculinity but also contributes to Experiences
emotional healing and growth. True
strength lies in the ability to be Friendships between men are often
vulnerable and authentic with those you based on shared experiences, interests,
trust. and values. Whether it’s growing up in
the same neighborhood, playing the
3. A Pillar of Mental Health and Well- same sport, or pursuing similar career
Being goals, these commonalities provide a
foundation for strong and lasting bonds.
Friendship has a profound impact on Shared experiences help build a sense of
mental health, and this is especially true brotherhood, making it easier for men to
for men. Isolation and loneliness are relate to one another and provide
known risk factors for mental health mutual support.
issues, including anxiety, depression, and
even suicidal thoughts. Yet, men are less The camaraderie formed in male
likely to seek professional help when- friendships can be transformative.
Whether it’s reminiscing about old times
-, supporting each other through -connections. Instead, it’s about being
challenges, or celebrating milestones, emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and
these friendships are a source of joy, supportive of others.
comfort, and growth. They offer
opportunities to create memories that Healthy male friendships promote a
will last a lifetime, shaping the emotional positive form of masculinity, one that
landscape of a man’s life. encourages men to be emotionally
available, kind, and empathetic. By
5. Positive Role Models and Mentorship prioritizing these values, men contribute
to a broader shift toward a healthier,
Male friendships are also significant in more inclusive definition of what it
providing mentorship and guidance, means to be a man.
especially during key moments of a
man’s life, such as transitioning from 7. Overcoming Stigma and Seeking Help
adolescence to adulthood or navigating Together
career choices. A mentor or close friend
who has been through similar While society may still attach a stigma to
experiences can offer advice, guidance, seeking help for emotional struggles,
and perspective, helping men make male friendships can play a pivotal role
informed decisions and avoid common in changing this narrative.
mistakes.
Friends can encourage each other to
This mentorship often comes without seek professional help when needed,
judgment, making it a valuable tool for whether it’s for mental health,
personal growth. Older male friends or relationship issues, or personal growth.
peers can share insights that inspire
younger men to pursue their goals, Supporting each other in taking the first
develop their talents, and be better step towards therapy or counseling can
versions of themselves. Having someone break down the stigma and normalize the
to look up to—who provides constructive conversation around emotional well-
criticism as well as encouragement—can being.
enhance a man’s self-awareness and
success. When men have friends who are open to
discussing mental health, it becomes
6. Promoting Healthy Masculinity easier to acknowledge the importance of
By fostering open communication, seeking help.
support, and vulnerability, male
friendships have the power to reshape By breaking the silence, they collectively
the notion of masculinity. As men reduce the taboo around vulnerability
increasingly embrace emotional and promote better emotional health for
connection, they set an example for all men.
future generations, demonstrating that
being a “real man” is not about Conclusion: The Importance of Male
suppressing feelings or avoiding deep - Friendships
Male friendships matter more than we they are a lifeline for mental health and
often realize. These bonds provide emotional resilience. Men need friends
emotional support, foster personal they can trust, confide in, and grow with.
growth, and help men navigate life’s By nurturing these connections, we can
challenges. In a world that pressures help break down the walls of isolation
men to keep their emotions hidden, and silence, allowing men to thrive in a
these friendships offer a vital outlet for more emotionally healthy and
vulnerability, expression, and supportive environment.
connection.
The next time you meet up with your
As society continues to evolve, it is friends, remember that your bond is
crucial to recognize that men’s much more than just a good time—it’s a
friendships are not just recreational; cornerstone of your well-being.
Story The Silent Struggle of Arvind:

Time
Breaking Free from the Mask of
Strength

Arvind had always been the type of person people admired. A well-built,
confident young man with a successful career, he seemed to have it all figured
out. But beneath the surface of his perfectly curated image, something was amiss.
What most didn’t know was that Arvind had been carrying a burden for years, a
burden that he had learned to hide under a mask of strength.

From a young age, Arvind was taught that emotions were a weakness. “Boys don’t
cry,” his father would say, “Be a man, hold it together.” These words echoed in his
ears every time he felt overwhelmed or vulnerable. He was conditioned to believe
that showing any kind of emotional struggle was a sign of weakness, something
that was frowned upon by society. He watched his father, a stoic figure in his life,
hide his own emotions in the name of strength. Arvind grew up believing that if he
wanted to be a “man,” he had to follow the same path—emotional suppression,
silence in the face of pain, and a constant need to appear strong.

As Arvind entered adulthood, the weight of these expectations began to take a

toll. He worked tirelessly to build his career, always striving for success. People
around him saw his achievements and admired his ability to stay composed
under pressure. He never allowed anyone to see the cracks forming beneath the
surface. Whenever he felt anxious, sad, or stressed, he buried those emotions
deep inside, convinced that expressing them would make him appear weak or
inadequate.

At work, Arvind was known for his leadership and calm demeanor. His colleagues
often came to him for advice, and his bosses relied on him to handle tough
situations. But while he excelled professionally, the emotional strain of
maintaining his "strong" image began to take a toll on his mental health. He
became increasingly isolated, afraid to let anyone see the cracks in his armor. His
friends noticed that he had stopped reaching out, that he no longer made time to
connect or have fun. But Arvind told himself it was just part of growing up. “I have
too much to do,” he would say, brushing off any concern.

One day, a personal tragedy struck. His best friend, Rahul, whom he had known
since childhood, passed away suddenly in a car accident. Arvind was devastated.
Rahul had been more than just a friend—he had been his confidant, his partner in
crime, the one person who understood him without judgment.
The pain of losing him was unbearable, but Arvind still refused to allow himself to
grieve openly. He threw himself into his work, trying to ignore the ache in his
chest. He told himself that he had to be strong—for his family, for his colleagues,
and for Rahul’s memory. But the truth was, he wasn’t allowing himself to heal.
Instead, he was suffocating under the weight of his emotions.

For weeks, Arvind wore the mask of strength, going through the motions of daily
life while silently falling apart inside. He had become numb, disconnected from
his own feelings. He wasn’t eating properly, he wasn’t sleeping well, and his once-
thriving social life had come to a halt. He didn’t know how to express what he was
going through. Every time he tried, he felt like a failure. He felt like he was
betraying everything he had been taught about what it meant to be a man.

Then, one evening, while sitting alone in his apartment, Arvind received a call
from his old friend, Rohit. They hadn’t spoken in months, but Rohit had been one
of the few people who always tried to keep in touch. After the usual pleasantries,
Rohit asked, “Hey, how are you doing, really?” Arvind’s first instinct was to
respond with his usual “I’m fine,” but something inside him stopped him. For the
first time in a long time, he felt like he could actually open up.

He took a deep breath and said, “Rohit, I don’t know anymore. I’ve been holding
everything in for so long. I feel like I’m losing control. I miss Rahul, and I don’t
know how to deal with it. I’m trying to be strong, but I don’t know if I can
anymore.”

There was a long pause on the other end of the line. Rohit then replied, “Arvind,
I’m really glad you told me this. You know, it’s okay to not be okay. You don’t
always have to be the strong one. Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is
ask for help and let people in.”

Arvind was silent for a moment, taking in Rohit’s words. He had never allowed
himself to think that way. He had always been the one others turned to for
support, the one who always had it all together. But here, in this vulnerable
moment, Rohit was telling him that it was okay to not be the perfect, unbreakable
man that society expected him to be.

That conversation marked the beginning of a transformation for Arvind. He

realized that he didn’t have to carry the weight of the world on his shoulders
alone. For the first time, he gave himself permission to grieve, to feel, and to be
human. He reached out to his family and friends, sharing his pain with them. It
was difficult at first, but gradually, Arvind began to feel a sense of relief. He
started seeing a therapist to help him work through his emotions, and slowly, he
began to heal.
Over the next few months, Arvind learned a valuable lesson: being strong wasn’t
about hiding your emotions or pretending that everything was fine. True strength
came from acknowledging your vulnerabilities, expressing your feelings, and
seeking help when needed. It came from accepting that, as a human being, it was
okay to struggle, and that it didn’t make you any less of a man.

Arvind’s journey wasn’t easy, and there were days when he still struggled with old
habits and beliefs. But each day, he became a little more comfortable with the
idea that real strength wasn’t in suppressing pain, but in embracing it and working
through it with support and self-compassion. He began to speak openly about his
feelings, especially with other men, encouraging them to break free from the
societal pressures that taught them to bottle up their emotions.

Today, Arvind is a more complete person—stronger not in spite of his

vulnerability, but because of it. He continues to honor Rahul’s memory, but he
also honors himself by allowing himself to be human.

About The Story:

Arvind’s story is one that resonates with many men who feel the pressure to be
strong all the time. The truth is that strength doesn’t lie in hiding your emotions
or pretending that everything is okay when it’s not. Real strength comes from
being true to yourself, acknowledging your struggles, and reaching out for
support when you need it. Men are often taught to suppress their emotions, but
by breaking free from these outdated norms, they can find a deeper, more
authentic strength—one that allows them to live fully, without the burden of
silent struggles.

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When the world feels heavy, and the road is tough,
Remember, my friend, you are strong enough.
The battles you fight, the tears that you shed,
Are steps to a future where dreams are led.

Don’t hide your heart, let your feelings flow,

Through every storm, you’ll learn and grow.
Strength isn’t silence, nor hiding the pain,
It’s rising each time you break through the rain.

So keep moving forward, with hope in your eyes,

No matter the setback, just reach for the skies.
The power’s within you, it’s been there all along,
Rise above the struggle, and you’ll find where you belong.
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