Personal Development

QUARTER 2: WEEK 1
UNDERSTANDING PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP

WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model,

personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by
emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are
strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy
and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social
support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the
Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage,
or adoption and who live together as one household." But many people have
family they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles
of family vary across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some
typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions,
shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of community.
Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its
definition has evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional
family structures and roles can provide as much comfort and support as
traditional forms.

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is
often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional
bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas
Christakis and James Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the book
Connected, find that the average person has about six close ties—though some
have more, and many have only one or none.
Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—research indicates
that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few closes, real-life
friends.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic
love. We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a
time.
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relationships/whatdo-we-mean-personal-relationships

WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT:

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and wellbeing. There

is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and
happy life. Conversely, the health risks from being alone or isolated in one's life
are comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood pressure,
and obesity.

Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:

• Live longer.
A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social relationships
are 50% less likely to die prematurely. Similarly, Dan Buettner’s Blue Zones
research calculates that committing to a life partner can add 3 years to life
expectancy (Researchers Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler have found that
men’s life expectancy benefits from marriage more than women’s do.)

• Deal with stress.

The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer against the
effects of stress. In a study of over 100 people, researchers found that people who
completed a stressful task experienced a faster recovery when they were
reminded of people with whom they had strong relationships. (Those who were
reminded of stressful relationships, on the other hand, experienced even more
stress and higher blood pressure.)

• Be healthier.
According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college students who
reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a common cold
when exposed to the virus. In addition, 2012 international Gallup poll found that
people who feel they have friends and family to count on are generally more
satisfied with their personal health than people who feel isolated. And hanging out
with healthy people increases your own likelihood of health—in their book
Connected, Christakis and Fowler show that non-obese people are more likely to
have non-obese friends because healthy habits spread through our social
networks.

• Feel richer.
 A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000 people
found that doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your wellbeing
as a 50% increase in income!

On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of

health consequences, such as:

• Depression.
Loneliness has long been commonly associated with depression, and now
research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast cancer patients
found that those with fewer satisfying social connections experienced higher
levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

• Decreased immune function.

The authors of the study also found a correlation between loneliness and
immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack of social connections can
increase your chances of becoming sick.

• Higher blood pressure.

University of Chicago researchers who studied a group of 229 adults over
five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood pressure even years
later, indicating that the effects of isolation have long-lasting consequences.
According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, social alienation
is an inevitable result of contemporary society's preoccupation with materialism
and frantic "busy-ness." Their decades of research support the idea that a lack of
relationships can cause multiple problems with physical, emotional, and spiritual
health. The research is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.

Source:http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-wellbeing/
relationships/whypersonal-relationships-are-important

25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Here is the list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered
by couples:
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night
stands, internet relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term
affairs and financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around
your gender, or your partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’
significantly for whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress,
long-term illness, mental health issues.
7. Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many more
8. Bored in or with Your Relationship
9. Dealing with a jealous partner
10.Having 'blended' family issues
11.Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE
most serious relationship problem.
12.Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
13.Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many
other issues
14.Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the
princess / knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
 15.Addictions - substance abuse
16.Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
17.Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter
to you
18.Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or
friends
19.Lack of communication about important matters
20.Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores
and tasks. It is not always women who complain about this relationship
problem!
21.Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness:
feeling the relationship is one-sided is a big one!
22.Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a
change in relationship dynamics 22. Long term depression or other mental
health issues suffered by one partner or both
23.Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the
children
24.Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it
cannot be changed
25.An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems
after the birth of your baby.

Source:http://www.professional-counselling.com/common-relationship-
problems.html

NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy
pace of life. But Blue Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living
people in the world all have something in common: they put their families first.
Family support can provide comfort, support, and even influence better health
outcomes while you are sick. Relationships and family author Mimi Doe
recommends connecting with family by letting little grievances go, spending time
together, and expressing love and compassion to one another. Of course, the
same practices apply to close friends as well. This is especially important if you
don’t have living family, or have experienced difficult circumstances, such as
abuse, that would make it difficult for you to connect with your relatives.

Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects
can strengthen friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that
expressing gratitude toward a partner can strengthen the relationship, and this
positive boost is felt by both parties—the one who expresses gratitude and the
one who receives it. Remembering to say “thank you” when a friend listens or
your spouse brings you a cup of coffee can set off an upward spiral of trust,
closeness, and affection.

Learn to forgive
It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your
choice about how to handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing
process. Choosing to forgive can bring about a variety of benefits, both physical
and emotional. Fred Luskin, head of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, says it’s
easier to let go of the anger or hurt feelings associated with a circumstance if you
remind yourself that much of your distress is really coming from the thoughts and
feelings you are having right now while remembering the event—not the event
itself. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other
party has listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.

Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in
painful times, with a gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel
compassionate toward another person—whether a romantic partner, friend,
relative, or colleague— you open the gates for better communication and a
stronger bond. This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing
their emotions. Rather, compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone
else is unhappy or whose needs aren’t being met and feeling motivated to help
them. We are an imitative species: when compassion is shown to us, we return it.

Accept others
It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship.
Obviously, this does not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where
you need foremost to protect yourself. But otherwise, try to understand where the
person is coming from rather than judge them. As you do for yourself, have a
realistic acceptance of the other's strengths and weaknesses and remember that
change occurs over time.

Create rituals together

With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the
façade of real contact, it’s very easy to drift from friends. In order to nurture the
closeness and support of friendships, you have to make an effort to connect.
Gallup researcher Tom Rath has found that people who deliberately make time for
gatherings or trips enjoy stronger relationships and more positive energy. An easy
way to do this is to create a standing ritual that you can share and that doesn’t
create more stress—talking on the telephone on Fridays, for example, or sharing a
walk during lunch breaks, are ways to keep in contact with the ones you care
about the most.

Spend the right amount of time together Gallup researchers Jim Harter and
Raksha Arora found that people who spend 6-7 hours per day socializing (which
could mean hanging out with friends, sharing meals with family, or even emailing
a colleague) tend to be the happiest. In contrast, those who have zero interactions
(or an exhausting overload of social time) feel more stressed. Knowing when to
give your time to others and when to take some time for yourself can be crucial in
maintaining balanced, healthy relationships as well as emotional well-being.

Source:http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-wellbeing/
relationships/nurtureyour-relationships

TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONGLASTING

AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS

1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all
others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful
and authentic union with another.

2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP

FOR IT TO THRIVE
The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to
attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
 3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and energy.
Being an authentic couple is an evolution.

4. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW

Your relationship will serve as an unofficial “life shop” in which you
will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path.

5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your
relationship.

6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED

There will be times when you and your partner must work through
impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to
create win-win outcomes.

7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE

Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists
and turns determines the success of your relationship.

8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE

Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.

9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY

Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh
and vital.

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
You know all these rules inherently. The challenge is to remember
them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.

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QUARTER 2: WEEK 1
UNDERSTANDING PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
OBJECTIVES: The students will be able to:

a. Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the

acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions - EsP-
PD11/12PR-lla-9.1;
b. Express one’s ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment
- EsP-PD11/12PR-lla-9.2; and
c. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship - EsP-
PD11/12PR-llb-9.3

REFLECTIVE QUESTION:
How does knowing more about attraction, love, and
commitment help you become more responsible in a
relationship?

ACTIVITY 1.1 MY STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS

State whether these statements are True or False.
1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in
relationships.
2. To love someone, we must love our self-first.
3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather
than judging them helps us build and maintain relationships.
4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us
having good health.
5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the
feeling behind our words, more likely than not, our relationship is
doing well.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a
loved one has hurt us.
7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships.
9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain
good relationships.
10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a
problem in relationships.
 11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay
connected by spending time with us and letting us know that they
love us.
12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in
relationships.
13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to
healthy relationships.
15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice, and social support.

ACTIVITY 1.2 MY RELATIONSHIP ITEM SET

1. What should you consider when making decisions around

sex and sexual limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above
2. What is the best style of communication to use when
making decisions about sexual limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive
3. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy
relationship?
a. Trust one another
b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
4. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a
relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation
skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication
e. None of the above
5. Which of the following are symptoms of an abusive
relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above
6. Name three important qualities of a healthy relationship.

7. Name a reason why you may not make healthy choices

when it comes to sex.
 8. Name three resources you can turn to if you are worried
about abuse in your relationship.

9. Name three characteristics of an unhealthy relationship.

10. Why would you

choose abstinence (pagpipigil/pag-iiwas)? Give 3 reasons.

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Health%20Promotion/Healthy%20Relationships%20Resource%20Kit%20-%20Western.pd

ACTIVITY1.3: I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY

RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a
healthy relationship; put an X on each statement that you think is
a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with
you.
6. You respect and encourage each other.
7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.
8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money
without
worrying about your partner’s reaction.
9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is
respected.
10.You feel isolated from friends and family.
11.Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out
with.
12.Your partner tries to control how you spend money.
13.Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.
14.You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re not comfortable
with.
15.Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.
16.Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.
17.Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.
18.Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting.
Source: http://washingteenhelp.org/your-relationships/your-love-life

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