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Dedication
This book is dedicated to couples who are patiently
waiting for the fruits of the womb. May Allāh grant their
requests.
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Table of contents
Dedication........................................................................................................ iii
Table of Contents.......................................................................................... iv
Symbols Directory........................................................................................ vii
Acknowledgement....................................................................................... ix
Foreword by Abdullahi Ibrahim Teslim.............................................. xiii
Reviewer’s Note............................................................................................. xv
Foreword by Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips.................................... xix
Preface...................................................……………………………………………….. xxv
Marriage in Islām.......................................................................................... 1
Early Marriage................................................................................................ 6
Sexual Hygiene............................................................................................. 10
Sex and Communication........................................................................... 14
Seduction......................................................................................................... 18
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Dressing Sexy................................................................................................. 26
Stripteasing..................................................................................................... 30
Erotic Talk......................................................................................................... 36
Sexting............................................................................................................... 40
Massage............................................................................................................. 46
Erogenous Spots........................................................................................... 49
G-Spot................................................................................................................ 51
Kissing................................................................................................................ 53
Oral Sex.............................................................................................................. 57
Fingering........................................................................................................... 62
Handjob............................................................................................................. 66
Masters and Johnson on Sex.................................................................. 69
Sex Styles and Positions........................................................................... 74
Sex Timing........................................................................................................ 85
Sex and Nights of Ramadan.................................................................... 87
Quickie............................................................................................................... 94
Sex and Fertility............................................................................................. 98
Sex and Pregnancy....................................................................................... 109
Sexual Performance.................................................................................... 115
Masturbation ................................................................................................. 120
Pornography ................................................................................................... 128
Sexual Dysfunction .................................................................................... 139
FGM and Women ......................................................................................... 145
Frigidity.............................................................................................................. 148
Boosting Libido.............................................................................................. 150
Show Killers..................................................................................................... 156
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Sex and Stress................................................................................................ 167
Sex and Polygyny.......................................................................................... 172
“There is Love in Sharing”........................................................................ 175
Size Issue.......................................................................................................... 178
Sex Starvation................................................................................................ 186
Orgasm............................................................................................................... 190
Cuddling............................................................................................................ 195
Holding or Reciting the Qur’ān
in a State of Junub (Sexual Impurity)................................................. 198
When Janābah Becomes Obligatory................................................... 202
How to Perform Janābah........................................................................... 205
Water for Ghusl (Purification)................................................................. 208
Purifying with Tayammum....................................................................... 212
Bibliography.................................................................................................... 214
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c Subhānahu wa ta’āla The Exalted
g SālaLlāhu ‘Alayhi wassalam Peace and Blessings be upon him
n ‘Alayhi ssalām Peace be upon him
h RadiyaLlāhu ‘anhu May Allāh be pleased with him
j RadiyaLlāhu ‘anhum May Allāh be pleased with them
i RadiyaLlāhu ‘anhaa May Allāh be pleased with her
r RahimahuLlāhu May Allāh have mercy on him
s RahimahumuLlāhu May Allāh have mercy on them
حفظه هللاHafidhāhuLlāhu May Allāh keep him safe
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Acknowledgement
I thank Allāh Who has made this work possible. May His
Peace and Blessings be upon His Messenger (g). I thank
my parents (Alhaji Ibrahim Abdullahi and Alhaja Haleemat
Abdullahi) for training me and spending tirelessly on my
education. I thank my wife (Hajia Zainab Mustapha) and
my children for their support and understanding. My wife
has been very supportive. If not for her patience and under-
standing, I might find it difficult to achieve this feat. In the
course of this work, I sometimes leave home very early and
get home very late at the night; her trust and encouragement
were motivating factors for me. I thank my Parents-in-law
(Alhaji Abdullahi Funsho Mustapha and Alhaja Rahmat
Olojoku) for their support and encouragement.
My special appreciation goes to Prof. Gafar Abiodun
Akanbi Jimoh, a Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist
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from the University of Ilorin Teaching Hospital (UITH),
for accepting to go through this book and write a medical
review on it. My appreciation also goes to Dr. Bilal Philips
(Abu Ameenah) for reviewing this book from the shari’ah
perspective. Despite his busy schedule, he took his time to
review the book in conjunction with one of his trustworthy
students at the Online Islamic University (IOU), Rahla
Khan. In the course of the review, I worked very closely
with Rahla to ensure that this work conforms to sharī’ah
standards. I benefitted immensely from her expertise. May
Allāh reward her abundantly.
I thank Ustādh Abdullahi Ibrahim Teslim, the Founder
of the Muslim Married and Singles Platform (MMSP) and
Ustādh Sulymān Yūnus Olukodo for motivating me to write
on this topic despite its sensitive and delicate nature.
I thank my Qur’ān teachers; Sheikh AbdulGaniy
Ameenullahi Alagbede and Sheikh Sa’eed Ahmad Katibi. My
profound gratitude is due to all my primary and secondary
school teachers, my lecturers at the prestigious College of
Arabic and Islamic Legal Studies (CAILS), especially Barr.
Adam Toyin Jamiu. I appreciate all my lecturers at the
better-by-far University of Ilorin, and especially Prof. A. A.
Oba, Prof. A. A. Alaro and Prof. (Mrs.) Nimat AbdulRaheem.
I thank Hon. Justice Abdur-raheem Ahmad Sayi, Kādi,
Kwara State Sharī’ah Court of Appeal, Ilorin, Hon. Justice
Abdullateef Kamaldeen and Sheikh Suleiman Najmudeen
for their encouragement and support. I appreciate Dr.
Abdur-razāq Alege (FMC, Katsina); Dr. Bashir Lawal;
Pharm. Olatunji Ibrahim; Dr. AbdulMu’min Ya’qūb; Imām
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Oritola Kuddus (Dallas, USA); Malam Abdulkadir Hanafi;
Ustādh Najmudeen Lanre Assalato; Ustādh Sanusi Lafiagi;
Dr. AbdulHameed Badmas Yusuf; Malam Ibn Hamzah
Jamiu; Ustādh Abu Imrān Hāroun (Abuja); Imām Sanni
K. Yusuf; Abu Abdir-Rahman AbdulQadir Yinka Ambali
(and his wife Ummu Kifāyah Bukky Abdurraheem); Ummu
Sumayyah Mai (Maryland, USA); Ummu Islāmiyyah
Hamdalah Abdur-rahmān-Yusuf (UK), Ummu Ja’far
Rawsheedah Akorede (Kim), Dr. Khadijah F. Sanni (KT)
and Ummu Zubaydah Habeebah Alege for reading the
draft of this book, pointing out mistakes to be corrected
and injecting some beneficial ideas into it.
I also thank Dr. Fuad Olabisi Kekere-Ekun; Ustādh
Dhikrullāh Abu Sahl Al-Atharee; Ustādh Murtala
Wale Gbadamosi (Abu Sumayyah Al-Afrikee); Ustādh
Jamal Shehu; Ustādh Farouq Al-Egbāwi, Alhaji Taofik
Abdurrahman; Ustādh AbdulGaniy Agbarere; Dr. Yahya
AbdulBaqi; Ustādh Ibrahim Dasuki Yusuf; Malam Ismail
Eleburuike; Barr. Muhammad Abdullah Tosin; Barr.
AbdulHakeem Igho Ohwojeheri; Malam Eseoghene
Al-Faruq Ohwojeheri; Malam Sambo Dare Ibrahim; Alhaji
Yusuf Abdullahi; Ustādh Muhammad Saheed Toyin Alege;
Malam Ahmed Oniye; Malam Bisi Muhammad for their
valuable advice and support. I equally appreciate the efforts
of my editorial crew, starting from Al-Qasas Publications;
Malam Ibrahim Alabere and Malam Abubakar Sadiq
Bako. I thank Mr. Farid Ullah bin Ahmed Hussain for his
indelible contribution to the success of this project and I
thank Dakwah Corner Bookstore for the beautiful design
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of this book and world class-printing.
Lastly, I thank the Director-General of the Nigerian
Copyright Commission (NCC), Mr. John O. Asein and my
State Coordinator, Mrs. J. O. Akinwumi for encouraging
and motivating me to use my leisure for creative projects. I
also acknowledge the support of my colleagues in the office
towards the success of this project.
May Allāh reward them all abundantly.
Abdullateef Lanre Abdullahi
19th September, 2020
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