The Approach Formula

How to Approach & Attract Women Without Anxiety or Rejection

By: Mark Sing

Seeing a cute girl you want to talk to and not knowing what to
say SUCKS.

Your mind goes blank … you think of why NOT to approach her …
then she walks out of your life forever.

Another opportunity wasted!

But what if there was a way to actually approach and attract that
girl?

What if you could use these strategies every time? With any girl?

That would be a complete game-changer for your dating life,

wouldn’t you agree?

In this cheatsheet I’m going to give you ways to get out there
RIGHT NOW and start talking to cute girls without rejection.
Step 1: Warm Up
Like anything else, warming up is essential to success. Here are 5
ways to get yourself into what I call ​“The Social Flow.”

● Start your day by talking to everyone — including men, old

ladies, homeless people, whoever.

● Be social wherever you go. Talk to the lady at the grocery

store ... compliment some guy on his watch ... tell a kid he’s
got a cool bike.

● Call a friend on the phone, or a girl who’s already attracted

to you.

● Listen to music to get yourself fired up. Or listen to my

Spartan Motivation Visualization​ to get you so pumped you’ll
want to bench press a house.

● Be aware that most people are very friendly when you’re

friendly to them.

● Have the mentality of “Strangers are friends I haven’t met

yet.”

Step 2: Open & Eject

Opening and ejecting is the single best way to get your “social
chops” up while avoiding rejection.
I cannot remember a time I’ve been “rejected” with one of these
“open and eject” strategies.

The concept here is to approach a girl ... ask her a question ...
say thank you ... then walk away.

The whole thing should take about 5 seconds.

And it will train your subconscious mind that approaching women

isn’t something to be afraid of.

In fact, most girls are cool when you’re cool to them first.

And you’ll probably get into long conversations without even

trying to.

10 Things You Can Say to Open

and Eject
Indirect openers

● “What time is it?”

● “Do you know where XYZ place is?”

● “What kind of drink is that?”

● “Hey I noticed you have olive oil in your cart. I’ve been
looking everywhere for olive oil, where did you get that?”
 ● “Hey I noticed you have XYZ (Starbucks drink for example),
where’s the Starbucks at?”

● “Hey, real quick... I’m shopping for my sister’s birthday right

now and I noticed your cool looking boots. Where did you
get those?”

● “Hey, could I get your opinion on something? My friend

Jessica was supposed to come out with us tonight but her
boyfriend made her stay home. The thing is, he’s out tonight
with his friends. That’s pretty messed up, huh?”

Direct Openers

● “Hey, what’s up? I saw you standing over here and I wanted
to come meet you. I’m Mark, what’s your name?”

● “Hey, I just had to let you know that I think you’re really
cute. And I’d be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I
didn’t come talk to you. I’m Mark, what’s your name?”

● “Hi, I’m actually pretty nervous right now, but I thought you
were really cute and I had to come meet you. I’m Mark.”

● “Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I think your outfit
tonight is sooooo cute. Keep up the good work. High five!”

● “Hey, who are you?” (best used when you can tell she’s
already attracted to you).

What to say when ejecting:

“Cool, thanks. Have a good day.”

Step 3: What to Talk About to Get

Her Attracted:

Stacking

Once you’ve done enough open & ejects and you’re ready to up
the ante, you can do what I call “stacking.”

Stacking is putting another conversational “block” on top of what

you already said.

This is usually another question.

Or, it can be a funny statement.

For example:

Question 1: ​“Hey, where did you get that olive oil?”

She answers.

Question 2: ​“So what do you think of the new layout they’ve done
to this supermarket? I can’t find anything and now I know what
it’s going to be like when I get dementia.”

OR

Question 1:​ “Hey, that’s a cool looking drink. What is that?”

She answers.

Question 2: ​“Did you get it from that bartender right there? Last
week I grabbed a lemon from the lemon bucket and she slapped
my hand like a school teacher.”

Building:

Part of being a good conversationalist is the ability to talk about

things off the top of your head.

When she says something random — like ice skating for example
— can you just talk about ice skating in a fun and interesting
way?

For example, ​“Yeah, every time I watch ice skating it makes me

soooo stressed. I’m just sitting there worrying about the skater
the whole time, hoping they don’t fall.”

A good exercise is to pick random objects and try to talk about

them in an interesting way.

For example, as I’m sitting here writing this, there’s a Buddha

statue sitting on the desk next to me.

So I’d challenge myself to talk about Buddha/Buddhism in an

interesting way.

If it were me, I might tell the following quick story…

“That reminds me…

One time I was at a mall going up the escalator.

I was talking to my friend about Buddhism and enlightenment.

Then right when we got to the top of the escalator I said the word
“enlightenment” and there was a Buddhist monk standing right
there.

When he heard me say that word his face completely lit up —

almost like he took it as a sign or something.

He smiled at me, I smiled at him, and it was just one of those

cool moments you’ll never forget.

What are the chances there would be a Buddhist monk at THE

MALL!?!

That was a really cool experience.

I think I inadvertently really affected that guy.”

Some strategies to get better at talking about random things

include:

● Open a magazine and start talking about the first thing you
see.

● Look around the room you’re in right now and pick an object
to talk about.

● Try to find stories from your life about the random objects
you’ve challenged yourself to talk about.
 ● Practice asking questions about random things.

● Practice making observations about random things.

● Find what’s frustrating about them and turn that into a joke
(like my grocery store example above).

As you improve with opening & ejecting you’ll get into lots of
conversation you didn’t even try to get into.

Some girls will just keep talking.

And that will be your opportunity to practice your social chops.

Other girls will need to be pushed along a little bit.

And that’s where your preparation will come into play.

The 3 Step Ladder

Conversations need to built from the ground up.

And in my coaching I give a myriad of strategies to build

conversations that get MASSIVE ATTRACTION from women.

Take “The 3 Step Ladder” for example.

What’s the most common question people ask each other?

That’s right, it’s: “​What do you do?”

Since this is such a common question you’ll want to have an
awesome answer for it.

You’ll also want to prepare answers to the following common

questions:

● What do you do?

● Where are you from?
● How old are you?
● What do you do for fun?
● What’s your name?

It’s YOUR responsibility to make your answers interesting.

Because women are going to ask you boring questions.

And if your answers aren’t fun and exciting they are going to
BLAME YOU for boring them!

Here’s the 3 step process to answer these typical questions:

Step 1) Say you do something funny for a living:

● I’m a dolphin trafficker

● I’m a mayonnaise farmer
● I’m an ass model
● I’m an eyebrow model
● I’m a backflip expert
● I milk almonds at the almond farm
● I work at the freakshow, I’m the world’s tallest midget
● I work at the zoo and pick up the penguins that fall over
● I work at Hillshire Pharmaceuticals
Step 2) Tell her what you really do:

“No, real talk, I’m actually an NLP coach. Do you know what NLP
is?”

Step 3) Tell her a story about why you are what you are.

This is where the art of storytelling comes into play.

Storytelling is MASSIVELY IMPORTANT for building attraction.

If you can tell great stories you’re going to get some great sex.

Listen to my podcast episode about telling great stories​ for all my

secrets when it comes to storytelling for building attraction.

The key with stories is to include high value traits without coming
off like you’re bragging.

And if possible, you’ll want to show some vulnerability in your

stories as well.

For example:

“I’m actually an NLP Coach.

Do you know what NLP is?

She says no.

“Well NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

We all have programs — like computer programs — in our mind.

But a lot of those programs aren’t healthy.

And most of them were given to us by other people when we

were very young and defenseless.

Me for example, my mom has massive anxiety and she passed

that programming on to me.

When I was living in Japan I was trying to be a Japanese

translator.

Well one day I was on stage translating and the lady said a word
I didn’t know.

At that moment I had a huge panic attack.

I was pulled off the stage ... another translator came in to finish
the job ... and that led to a year long bout with anxiety …
agoraphobia … and panic attacks.

After searching everywhere for a cure, I finally hired an NLP

coach.

Long story short, he erased the anxiety programming from my

mind.

In literally 1 session he deleted that programming and now I can’t

feel the anxiety anymore.

100% true story.

It had such an impact on my life I decided to become an NLP
coach myself.

And my clients get to experience the same kinds of success.

Honestly it’s really rewarding to help people overcome those

things that cause them so much heartache and distress.”

When I tell that story to girls — which I’ve done thousands of

times — it builds HUGE attraction.

It shows a high value life … perseverance through adversity …

and the courage to be vulnerable.

So what’s your story???

What can you tell girls that will get those same kinds of
EMOTIONS out of them?

It’s worth your time to really think about this and come up with
your own 3 step answer to these typical questions.

When you do, your conversations with women will literally

improve by 10X.

To listen to my podcast episode that goes in-depth about this

all-important 3 step process, CLICK HERE.

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To your success,