5 Habits that Instantly RAISE YOUR VIBE (You Will Feel Amazing)

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjRBcW_un6k

Transcript

this stat always blows me away guess how much of your life is Habitual meaning it's just on autopilot
is it ten percent twenty percent thirty percent conservatively 40 of everything you do on a day-to-day
is just autopilot it is Habitual you're not even thinking about it so when we talk about changing your
life the best place to go is not your thoughts is not your beliefs is not your stories is not getting you
really motivated it's simple daily habits those are what will impact that 40 that is massive for you and
so in this video you and I are going to explore five high Vibe habits that I think if you do one or two of
these will put you in a good vibe my friend one other note is these are more deep Frameworks so
this video might be more abstract and deeper but I know you're gonna gain one or two of these that
if done will change you permanently before we just dive into the habit let's first Define what it means
to be in a high Vibe State pretty important to which I will reference this very official Pinterest photo it
looks something like this where you got low Vibes on the bottom and high Vibes on top I've showed
you this in other videos and I erased the drawing and was too lazy admittedly to draw it up again so if
you and I rank order all the emotions you could feel on a given day you'd probably have emotions
that are lower shame guilt fear anger and then some neutral ones courage willingness neutrality
before getting to the top ones which are Peace Love energy expression Enlightenment put another
way think of vibrations like a speed of a car if you're vibrating really slow it's low output it's low
speed it's low gear it's low energy as you start to move up you accelerate and you start to move
faster with that fast speed you have more energy in your life with more energy you can do more you
can attract more you can be more you can feel more you can be more in the present moment and if
you do that consistently your life is going to be better habits number one let's set this habit up a little
bit together so one of my favorite studies split participants in three groups they have had the first
group come in and do a one finger workout where they just lifted their finger for five times a week
for an hour and they measured it before and after group number two was the control so they didn't
do anything they literally did not lift a finger and group number three just visualized that finger lifting
up and down now at the end of the study what do you think happened group one their finger
strength grew 30 percent a substantial increase group number two zero percent change nothing
happened because they didn't lift a finger now where this gets interesting the group that just
visualized their finger going up and down got a 22 increase in their finger strength mind you they
didn't physically lift their finger they just imagined it they visualized it so this brings us to a point that
your brain doesn't know the difference between something you vividly imagine and actually
experience in your reality so this habit is visualization most people operate in a box that they put
themselves in as being realistic what's realistic for me what's plausible for me and they never allow
themselves the opportunity to think outside that container but when you realize that your brain
doesn't know the difference between something you imagine and actually experience you can start
visualizing different versions of you further ahead crushing it you can start visualizing your dream life
so this first habit every day visualize the 2.0 version of you now there are so many ways you can do
this you can create a vision board and Beyond just like the secret where it's like some cork board and
you're cutting out magazine clippings that's not what I'm saying there's a cool way you can make a
vision board we have videos on this channel something that feels modern up-to-date natural and
that you want to look at another way is you can write out your dream perfect day this is a journal

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exercise you can do where you literally just make a schedule okay so like what time are you getting
up what time are you going to bed what are you doing every single hour of that day like who is that
2.0 you what kind of results do you have where do you live what kind of house are you in what car
are you driving all the easy material things and then down to like the feelings you feel in my
metamorphic program we spend the first two weeks designing this 2.0 version of you Reinventing
yourself reimagining what's possible Breaking Free of this container that you're told to be stuck in
and so your whole life is conformed to it and what we find is that when people start tuning
themselves to this 2.0 version of them every single day the results that people get are just amazing
so habit number one find a way every day that you can visualize this dream version of you high Vibe
habit number two when you think about your mood what do you want more of chances are it's
peace presence feeling authentic not feeling so in your head and insecure and if you think of what
you want less of that would contribute to you living High Vibe living your best life it'd probably be like
less fear less anxiety less being in my head what are they thinking of me there's some good research
out there on mindfulness and meditation that it gives you just that that in as little as eight weeks
meditating for 12 minutes a day the parts of your brain associated with empathy compassion love
increase in activity and the parts of your brain like your amygdala that's fight or flight it's your
sympathetic nervous system being turned on it's that anxiety it's that Jitters of what will go wrong
start to decrease in as little as 12 minutes a day you get more of the best things in life compassion
empathy love presence and you get less of the ick what we're trying to get out of oh and meditation
is completely free and it's something you can do pretty much anywhere I started picking up a
meditation practice again and one of the things I did oh gosh it's been 557 days or something like
that I quit drinking what was so fascinating is the more I research neuroscience and biology drinking
numbs that prefrontal cortex and if you know anything about your brain and your prefrontal cortex
I'm not a neuroscientist I don't claim to be but when you research it it's involved in future casting
when you are anxious it's because you're visualizing things going wrong and so if you're prone to
anxiety or you're prone to overthinking like myself you notice that you self-medicate through
drinking to calm down to slow down so it's good that I gave up drinking one of the best things I've
done but what I was left with were these racing thoughts about the future was social anxiety that I
had never really been aware of my whole 20s and so what I did is I picked up meditation and what I
found is that it gave me a lot of the same benefits that drinking did except it was a positive instead of
a depressant so practically how do you start meditating if you know you're new to it or you're getting
back into it like I was first is what I do when I sit down is I do immediately two rounds of breath work
whether you want to do Wim Hof we have breath work videos on this channel that is so sort of an
activity you can do to just keep that overactive mind and check gives it something to do and then
what you do is just observe your thoughts you don't try to change them you don't judge them you
don't wrestle with them and say that's a bad thought I'm a bad person no no no and you don't let
yourself get up for 10 15 minutes after that watch how much more presents you have in your day to
day high Vibe habit number three developing a consistent journaling practice in this book the artist's
Way by Julia Cameron she talks about an exercise called morning Pages the exercise is simple every
morning you fill up one sheet of paper with a stream of Consciousness writing and in dumping out
everything that's in your head your internal chatter like meditation it clears you out an analogy to use
is if you had a big jar of mud tons of dirt in there it's like the dirtiest jar you can get and you shake it
up well it's gonna look black brown but if you just let it sits all the sediment is going to float to the
bottom and on top you're going to have pure water you're the same way that when you have all your
thoughts just racing over and over sometimes you just need to let them chill out a bit and all the
sediment is going to float down and what you're left with is the pure you if there's one habit I could
recommend for you it would be journaling I have been keeping a journal now for over 10 years and
we've developed our own method here on the channel I'm not saying it's the best one in the world

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that's not what I'm saying just what has worked for me it's where you take a journal and you divide it
up into six sections and each one of those serves a purpose you have a front and back cover where
you write out that 2.0 vision of yourself the back cover has more of like your goals that you want to
achieve journaling is sort of the active form of meditation where meditation can be a bit passive like
you're just allowing it so if you find meditation really hard I have found journaling to be a great
substitute or an addition if you're already doing meditation consistently and you may might be
thinking well what do I write in my journal you can Google journaling prompts and it is amazing how
one or two of those can spark you on a self-discovery journey High Vibe habits number four this next
habit is more of an exercise mindset than like necessarily a technique that you're going to do every
day and that is developing self-awareness I want to set this up a bit so Martin P Seligman is one of
the founders in positive psychology he's a therapist who said hey we've gotten really good at taking
people who are like depressed who are low Vibe and getting them back up to Baseline but where we
might be missing The Mark with psychology is taking people who are like are at a level zero one two
and getting them to a 10 11 12 as high as we can go so not just talking about the problems but giving
Solutions and so that's what he studied how do we make people as high Vibe as possible how do we
make people as happy as possible and so he looked at people who were happy who were on a day-
to-day Vibe and higher you know what he found all these people had in common they knew their
strengths and they used them often that if you want to have a life where you feel truly alive and high
Vibe you have to know your strengths and use them often and the beauty is everybody's strengths
are different so I have found that to a know your strengths whether that's in a Myers-Briggs
personality type whether that's authentichappiness.com where he has a signature strength test
that's free and B figuring out how you can use them massively beneficial for example my strengths
when I took that test is creativity love of learning curiosity wisdom hope humor and playfulness and I
noticed that the times where I feel low Vibe are when I'm not using those strengths when I'm just
doing admin and when I'm doing my taxes there's not a lot of humor and playfulness in that is there
so I found a good accountant on the flip side when I'm creating YouTube videos and I get to learn and
I get to talk about I ideas that have a lot of wisdom behind them and I get to crack a few bad jokes in
here and have a playful energy with it I feel alive I feel on fire I can't wait to do it which is why you've
been doing it now hard for five years and since we started over 10 years but guess what your
strengths might not be the same as mine so filming a YouTube video might be terrible advice for you
even going deeper than knowing your strengths figuring out what's true for you and this is a good
daily journaling habit or weekly journaling habit ask yourself what does happiness mean to you
what's your philosophy on it what does courage mean to you what does a good life mean to you
what does marriage mean to you like take any big concept it is amazing how so many people if you
ask them they've never thought about it people will say I don't feel like I know myself or I can't find
my passion or I don't know what makes me happy and it's because they literally haven't even sat
with that question and asked you have so many answers within you and this is the advice I tell my
metamorphic clients is a look sometimes you need to stop looking for the answers and you need to
start listening to them every single one of you is the leader of your life and there's questions that no
one can answer for you and that's about building values in character in your own belief system and I
think that when you have that internal Constitution and that self-awareness and you know your
strengths and you're using them often you're not only going to have more confidence but you're
going to be in a higher Vibe too high Vibe habit number five this last one is on Energy Management
it's a saying as old as time that you are what you eat there's a reason a lot of the gurus the spiritual
ones preach diet in their spiritual teachings they're vegetarian or they're vegan which how do you
know if someone's vegan they'll tell you you are with Chewie we all know that I didn't have the worst
diet in the world but I knew it could be better and so what I've been doing the last 60 days has been
a series of 30-day tests treat yourself like a human guinea pig put things through your own

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experience your own tests not only have I had a lot of fun with this 30-day test frame but I've started
to see a big difference in my energy and my presence in My Vibe couple examples cut out sugar
completely for the last 20 something days I didn't say I'm never gonna eat sugar again I said I'm just
gonna do a 30 day test and see how that goes I feel dialed I feel fantastic I also cut out diet soda
artificial sweeteners I cut it out and noticed a big difference my thoughts are clearer I'm more
grounded so my point is start doing some 30-day tests on yourself don't just say well diet soda is
okay because I saw this guy on Tick Tock doing meta-analysis reviews and he says aspartame actually
doesn't cause cancer cut it out and see if you feel better again going back to your own experience
trumping what other people says so my advice to you would be to write down two or three things
that you could remove that would make you feel more energetic and if you feel called try and cut it
out for 30 days like reduce the commitment from I'm never going to eat sugar again to for 30 days
I'm gonna experiment with no processed sugar for 30 days I'm going to experiment with going to the
gym five times a week for 30 days I'm gonna cut out alcohol just see how you feel at the end because
if there's one thing I've learned with self-improvement sometimes it's not about what we're doing
it's unfortunately I know I know it's about what we're not doing it's about what we're eliminating
hope that you dig the video and I hope that one or two of these habits you'll take you'll run with and
you'll try you might just find that it raises your Vibe so we've been talking about raising your Vibe and
I want to link up here another video on this topic that's equally as important it's on Shadow work this
will help you raise your Vibe massively I'll see you in that video stop settling start living see ya

7 Small Habits That Will Change Your Life Forever

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qtnWSePfpVM

Intro

changing your life doesn't have to be massive axe I took that magic pill and my life changed forever I
quit my job I uprooted I moved cities and I've never looked back what I have found it's about the
small ones that if you do long enough consistently over a long enough period of time Stack Up and
your life looks totally different because of them so I thought in this video I'd give you seven of those
small little micro habits that I've done that I saw a big change with I'm hoping that you test run one
two of these try these out for yourself and that they might just change yours as well all right let's go
habits number

Small Habit 1

one this habit is so simple I reference it in every video but it has made a massive impact how many
times have you had an email hit your inbox or a text message hit your phone and you open it you
think about your response and then you say uh let me respond later in the back of your mind
throughout the day you're still thinking about it sort of like if you go check your inbox again you see it
and you think about it and you're like dude I didn't respond to that should I respond I'll just do it later
we do that with a lot of things not just emails or text messages the bill that you were supposed to
pay the dishes that now pile up and is a way bigger task and how you handle it at once those little
things Stack Up and though they don't seem like a lot you're thinking about them not just one time

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but three four five sometimes all week if you don't do it what's the solution to all that and how do
you get your mental Ram back so it's not eating up the head space in your day-to-day I call this one
touching that as soon as you know you have to do something you get that email in your inbox
respond to it right then when you open instead of saving it and doing it later when you don't
procrastinate on something and you just do it instantly you start reinforcing the idea that you're an
action taker you're not a procrastinator that that's just a story that you told yourself that you can
actually take care of things you are on top of it you're crushing it that's how you build your
confidence and that's how you build your productivity remember if something takes less than 2
minutes to do do it now

Small Habit 2

small habit number two so there's two major ways with habits you can benefit the first is like this
video adding things in but the second is removing bad habits that shouldn't be there there's no
judgment here we all got them whether it's too much screen time whether it's an addiction smoking
drinking adult websites and this is more of a challenge pick one bad habits that you know isn't
serving you at the highest level and make it your mission to try and quit it this year cuz just like
habits can lift you up I find that bad habits or addictions can really suuck you down into some of the
lowest levels it's not always that the Habit itself is necessarily bad and super toxic for you but it's the
secondary effect of how it makes you view yourself most smokers know they shouldn't be smoking or
it's not good for their health they're like yeah 20 times a day 30 times a day I'm literally doing
something I know I shouldn't be doing and I feel guilty about it like that's the real Toxic effect of a lot
of bad habits is not necessarily the outcome of it but it's how you view yourself at the end of it but
this point is what is the secret habits that you feel like you're hiding that's keeping you in shame or
guilt and how can you break it can you get resources can you get some extra help can you talk to
someone about it can you just like double triple down on the willpower and really take it seriously if
that works for you can you get in a group if it's an addiction can you get in a program can you just go
all in Breaking that habit and watch the confidence come back into your life remember we're picking
one we're not going after like 20 at a time just that one habit that if wasn't there you'd feel more free
lightness playful habits

Small Habit 3

number three this next habit is something that if you've never done before man I think you're going
to get a lot of benefits from you ever heard of vision boards now this is typically where you choose 5
to 10 images or phrases or things and you put them on a physical board some people say well vision
boards don't work yeah because they're probably never looking at you got to put this somewhere
where you can see it every single day multiple times a day but what I've also found is how funny it is
people who say like oh images or just photos it's not going to do anything well they don't understand
how advertising works on your subconscious you know how many ads you're seeing a day 10 of
thousands you know how susceptible most people are to advertising myself included I'll be watching
an NFL Sunday and Jersey Mike has ads on and then you know 1 p.m. comes around and I'm like you
know what babe Jersey mics kind of sounds give me a number six Mike's way so if you're letting
other people advertise to you why don't you advertise to yourself of what you want why don't you
stop being programmed by other people and you program yourself with what you want and the
dream character you want to be where do you do this you create a vision board I call this a Manifesto
in metamorphic we do not just one vision board we do like two or three and we do this whole
character creation and we go super in-depth in that process it's like the secret sauce so how do you
make a vision board well step one you choose 5 to 10 images of what you want your life to look like
everything went perfect for the next year to where would you live who would you hang with how

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would you look what would you have you put it somewhere where you see it multiple times a day
just like subliminal advertising shows you I think it's the rule of seven in advertising seven exposures
before someone buys the product so you need to put this somewhere where you're going to see it
hundreds if not thousands of times I put this in the back of my journal because I use it so much I just
flip there and I see it by the simple Act of looking at your goals and what you want every single day I
think your life's going to look different you're going to Prime yourself towards it if you want to learn
more about our whole process with creating a character and really designing the manifesto not just a
vision board but like super in-depth towards everything you want and how you can make that
happen I'll link down below metamorphic our coaching program you can speak to one of our coaches
for free see if it's a good fit I'll also link down our guide to creating a vision board if it's your first time
small

Small Habit 4

habit number four I call this selective ignorance anything you can do to preserve your most precious
resource Source your mental bandwidth your focus specifically talking here about current events the
news politics anything that has a negative charge around it I don't think you're a worse person if you
don't have an opinion on every single current event going on in the world right now in fact I don't
think you're supposed to that takes so much time so much energy to be informed about every little
thing most people are just addicted to the news fear has a very intoxicating energy behind it I know
that from my marketing background that if you put a headline that says negativity gets more clicks
than positivity benefits and if you listen to tons in tons of news or politics you get conditioned in the
state of learned helplessness where nothing you do matters and the whole world's declining and it
was better 10 years ago are you going to be able to create art from that place are you going to be
able to create a life that you want from that place are you going to be able to be in a good state for
those around you in that place no cuz you think it's all going to hell in a hand basket so why bother I
was reading in a book uh coddling of the American mind and they ask people hey are you in more
danger today than you were last year what do you think people said people said 27 of the 30 years
on average oh things are more dangerous now than they were last year things are worse now than
they were last year it's all like kind of declining but what's crazy is things are objectively safer and
better today than ever before you have the least amount of people living in poverty more people die
from being obese than they do from being Mal nourished when you practice selective ignorance I
think you're going to find that even after a week two weeks a month of abstaining from all new
sources all politics all current events anything that's negative just test it and see if your Vibe is better
see if the conversations you have are more positive see if you don't have that like outrage button get
triggered in you see if you feel more present more grounded more inspired to think about you and
what you want to create and what you want to contribute that has been extremely useful for me and
if you hate it you can always go back habit number

Small Habit 5

five bit of a story to kick this one off I moved four years ago from my hometown Seattle to where I
am now in Arizona and the major difference I was blown away by the water here even if you filter it it
still has a funky taste you can't get it all out because it's so hard driving by one day and we see this
water store we go in there and they sell these 5 gallon car booys you put it under their faucet you fill
it up and then you take it home but now you have this 5 gallons every time you want water you have
to go and you know pour it in it's this big clunky process not to mention you have to Lug these four
five gallon jugs it's 115° outside in the summer in July you got to Lug them up to your second story
apartment you're already breaking a sweat you're frustrated and it's 8:00 a.m. so one day I was just
looking at this whole process and I asked myself a question how can I throw money at this and solve

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this problem I literally wentonline and did what I should have done from day one but just had no clue
CL it existed until I asked that question I looked at water delivery services and I found one for 80
bucks a month they do all the handling they come to your house they put the water there and you
never have to think about it again is it more expensive yes does it save you all the frustration your
time your energy your mental bandwidth absolutely I would pay double triple just to save that so this
habit this is kind of weird how can you pay to solve your problem how can you pay money to free up
your time what can you throw money at to make your life easier I'm not talking about hiring a private
driver or putting a private Chef on salary just be willing to ask yourself the question what can I throw
a little bit of money at to free up my time meal delivery services laundry there's even sites like task
rabbit that can put together Ikea furniture or anything you don't want to do most people view their
life through one currency money but there's also two more time and energy and so if you're only
optimizing your life to save money to have money chances are you're probably sacrificing your
energy and your time which is why you want money in the first place to spend your time doing what
you love and to have the energy to enjoy it how can you throw money at your problems and make
them easier habit number six

Small Habit 6

how many times has it happened where you said yes to something later on you know you should
have said no to has that ever happened to you like you're on your way driving to something you
committed to and you're like why did I say yes I don't want to do it well I did that too I used to say yes
to pretty much everything out of the fear of not disappointing people I would say yes to going on like
lots of podcasts that I didn't really want to or have the time to go on one year I was feeling extra
drained and I was doing a like New Year's reflection and so I picked up my journal I wrote in the back
of it everything that I did that year everything that I had said yes to every commitment then I looked
at what actually moved the needle in my business what I felt energized by what I just was excited
about almost every time it was filming content it was working with the coaching clients it was
improving the coaching program so it hit me right there that the things I thought I was supposed to
do to be quote unquote successful or to network or to insert the blank for you weren't the things
that were actually moving the needle and getting me further ahead in my career and just making me
feel good recharged they actually made me feel drained be okay saying no to things in fact I want you
to try this out make a no list literally things I have said no to and every time you say no to someone
or something make a note in the back of your journal or your phone or wherever you keep this log
there's two benefits to this the first is you can look back at the end of the year and be like holy cow
look at all the energy I saved or I'm so glad I didn't do this or if you're like you know what I really
regret saying no to that chances are you can always call them up and do that thing the second
benefit is I found that people respect you a lot more when you say no if the rules were reversed and
you asked someone to hang out and they really didn't want to hang out with you you'd probably be
like well dude don't worry about it I only want to hang out if you do nobody wants to hang out with
someone who doesn't want to be there so then when you actually do say yes you develop a sort of
reputation for only saying yes to things you really want to do that's way more fun to hang around it's
either a hell yes or it's a no now that might be a little Advanced depending on if you're using that in
business cuz I think it's good to say yes to tons of opportunities at the start or your personal life I
think it's good to say yes sometimes and push through things you don't want to do but if you feel like
every single week every single month your whole life is just filled with things that you don't want to
do that don't energize you I think it's time for you to start experimenting with a no list habit number
seven there

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Small Habit 7

was a story I read about someone who had a dream he would go in every single day for 35 years he
worked this 9 to-5 job that he was not a fan of because his dream was stockpiling enough cash so he
could go out and sail around the world so the day comes where he retires he gets his sailboat except
there was one problem after 2 weeks of being out sailing he realized he gets seasick and he hates the
whole experience now I don't know if that story is true but I think it illustrates an interesting thought
had he tested his theory that I want to sail around the world earlier on in life he probably could have
checked it off and not had this like fantasy that he had to save to the end maybe he could rent a boat
and realize I don't like sailing maybe there's something else out there or maybe I should switch jobs
and do something I like instead of sucking it up for one day later down the road the interesting lesson
out of that is called two we tests Tim Ferris was famous for this in his book the ferar work week
where he called it mini retirements that you give yourself a retirement of like a week two weeks 3
weeks and do the thing that you've always been putting off for the one day how can you bring that
closer and just test it out I have found a lot of benefit in committing to things viewing it as a two-e
test instead of a this is a line in the sand and I'm never going back All or Nothing approach so pick a
hobby whether it's intermittent fasting try it out for 2 weeks don't say I'm never going back you want
to reduce your screen time or you feel hooked on Instagram or a certain app try uninstalling it just
for 2 weeks you want to be healthier maybe bike to work for 2 weeks see if you like that better than
driving and you can always go back if you don't like it but you're just going to try something out for 2
weeks see how you feel reading is a great habit you can incorporate and if you're looking to improve
your life here are five self-improvement books that actually worked check it out if you're feeling it
you want to keep the party going and I'll see you there thanks so much for watching stop settling
start living see you

12 Minutes will FOREVER Change HOW YOU THINK

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGJzhu4Yjzc

Transcript

what to think is the default but how to think is what's going to get you ahead and in this video we're
talking about how billionaires think about things and I know that sounds intimidating you might even
be thinking well Clark I'm not even trying to be a billionaire is this even relevant I promise you once I
learned this it simplified all the noise out there all the chaos and I was able to really just chill out and
get more done and get further ahead the best place to start is just explaining this start right here and
then we'll get into the main concept I'll share a few stories before we apply it to your life okay so this
is like how most people think it's a web of chaos the average person in the US is exposed to over
4,000 to 10,000 ads per day every single one of those messages clutters up the noise of what you
should do you're watching this channel so I know you're into self-improvement how confusing is it
you might be left thinking do I need like 50 habits to really change my life feel better it's all over if I
don't do this guy's 2hour morning routine the average person also spends 7 to 9 hours on their
phone every single day the younger you are the more time you spend and it's nothing but other

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people's thoughts and opinions and they're telling you what to think so what's the solution when you
exit the web of noise you get to hear this is what we're talking about and this is what billionaires use
to change their life to make billions of dollars to change the world it's called called first principles
thinking so instead of going to your web of noise and okay this person said this this person said that
those things conflict and then you just get lost and Scattered you pass it through a filter of first
principles so the best example of this is Elon Musk now Elon Musk had a goal he wanted to go to
Mars but he looked at the cost of rockets it was millions and millions of dollar it was super expensive
so he's like okay that's what I want the goal to go to Mars literally the biggest goal anyone can set
right but Rockets are really expensive instead of asking himself the question how can I make rockets
cheaper he asked himself the deeper question what are Rockets made out of what's the cost of those
materials on their own his people did the math you know what it was it came out to 2% of what they
were charging for a rocket and that's how he founded SpaceX that's why he built his own he's
building his own Rockets that's why he's transforming that whole industry because it was too
expensive that was the problem he didn't go to the web a noise and say how can I Network and
partner with a company that builds Rock no he's like screw it we're going to build our own SpaceX
company and build the rockets at 2% of the cost see most people reason from analogy this is
compared to what what is this like um a perfect example from your life is you ever met someone and
they reminded you of a friend and so even though you know they weren't your friend or someone
you knew in the past it like triggered that part of you and you treated them as if they were that
person because you're like this person looks like this so therefore they must be this or Worse
someone's like dude you remind me just like my friend and they show you a photo they're like you
look just like him you look at the photo and he's missing three teeth super unfl flattery and like has a
mullet business in front party in the back we've all done this someone reminds you of another
person and the problem is we start treating them like that person or a situation reminds you of a
situation you had in the past you start handling this situation like you did in the past this is reasoning
from analogy where we see things as we are not for what they are and you want to go even deeper
on this in relationships how many fights are just projections of past fights you had with other people
something triggers you and now you're not even fighting with that person you're like fighting with
your mom or you're fighting with your ex or you're fighting with the shadow part of you that you see
in that person and don't like anytime you Reason by this is compared to this you're entering the web
of noise and you're pulling from your past experiences and the only thing you're going to create out
of that in the future is future experiences that remind you of your past your whole life becomes
reasoning by analogy well I am this way because in my past I made this decision another Elon mus
story he famously started Tesla and the main problem was that why no one had built an electric car
isn't that we didn't know how it was that the charging stations weren't widely available so he's like
okay no one has a successful electric car company put my tin foil hat on because they magically
disappear right the founders of those companies Elon Musk was like no it's cuz the charging is hard
to do and so what he did is he open sourced all the technology from Tesla saying hey let's make
electric cars widely available all over the world let's build charging stations and now you see them
you know I go to my local Sprouts here and they closed the parking lot for 2 months because they
were installing electric car stations uh the shopping malls they have an electric charge car station
there that's the first principle is not can we build an electric car it was can we make the charging
more accessible to more people let me give you another example cuz I'm sounding like a musk
Fanboy Richard Branson billionaire investor you know started Virgin Airlines Virgin Atlantic uh virgin
magazine Virgin Records very prolific billionaire and entrepreneur he has a funny story about starting
Virgin Airlines he was stranded on an island and they had closed all flights or his flight got cancelled
he didn't like that he's like I got places to be I'm running all these companies this is unacceptable so
he went up to the desk and he's like hey how much to get a private jet how much to Charter One and

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they're like oh it's uh let's just say 100 grand he takes out a piece of paper and he writes Virgin
Airlines ticket starting at $11,000 he starts walking around the airport everyone else's flights are
canceled it's like a th000 bucks who wants to go and he filled his first plane and that's how he
chartered it and out of that Virgin Airlines was born his web of noise was all flights are cancelled
we're stuck here I'm going to you know and just spiral out of control no he's like the first principle is
how do I get a plane how much does it cost can I sell that and fill that he continued to use first
principles throughout his career he's an entrepreneur but also an investor and if you look at most
investors what is the first principle it's not making money it's not losing money yes you take risks but
you have to hedge for your downsides because if you lose 50% of 100K you're down to 50% you're
down to 50K you need to make a 100% gain to cover that downside so back to our Virgin Airline story
he was expanding the company and wanted to do it full-time so he went to and negotiated a deal
that said hey I want to buy all these planes from you I just don't want to pay if they don't work out so
he somehow was able to negotiate that after a whole year if he didn't uh if he wasn't successful he
could return the planes at cost and break even so his first principle was minimizing downside not
losing money and that's how he built his airline company one of the most competitive businesses to
be in my whole point in showing you this is not to replicate billionaires and what they did but it's to
inspire you that sometimes we just over complicate things and I want you to be asking okay if I'm
getting sucked into the overthinking in the web of noise what's the First Fundamental principle I
need to not reason from analogy down I need to build up from the ground floor up on let me give
you an example from my life speak to a lot of people who are like Clark I want to start a YouTube
channel I'm like great you go for it it's awesome and then they're like well I would but thumbnails are
confusing what's the best strategy what's the best gear what's the best audio how do I edit how do I
hire an editor well what topics do I talk about what's my Niche and they just enter the web of chaos
the first principle is creating content that's it like sharing a message out there no matter what it is
and so throughout my career my first principle has always been posting videos not getting sucked
into the web of noise not worrying about perfection not worrying about if this has already been said
or I said something similar in the past no like putting out content and even deeper than this we can
take the content of a video and break it down and say is there a script okay how do I look on camera
like that makes it all about us so my fundamental first principle is is this useful to someone else is this
useful to one person is the vibe there am I having fun with it is it valuable info of what I'm sharing
that can help people so now it no longer makes it the Clark show but the first principle is filming the
video and even beneath that is adding value to people's lives and even beneath that is my favorite
YouTube Tip don't be boring that's it don't be boring have some energy Crank It Up I did a video on a
chart like this that got it was our highest grossing video got like 200,000 views in a couple a week or
two and it was literally me and a whiteboard and three energy drinks like having a heart attack
halfway through like okay all right we're good we're good don't be boring add value and before that
make the damn video so is this making sense now let's apply this I want to give you two questions
here so the obvious application of all this is for any business owner out there like what's your first
principle of what you're doing but I want to apply this to more of a self-improvement angle cuz that's
what a majority of you you know maybe you aren't in a business space and that's totally fine my
purpose is to learn how to spell purpose what is your purpose this is why it's so important to have
goals because it gives you the first principle of what you're working towards and you can keep going
back on that so if your purpose this year is to get the most energy than you've ever had in your life
well then every day your first principle if you get lost in the web is to go back to what you want which
is weight loss which is Health which is hormone optimization now don't click off here because this is
the most important part of this video you're like okay great purpose and why great next dig deep
here I want you to go to a coffee shop and really dig down to why you want what you want um good
question if you're like well how do I find that if no one knew and I couldn't get credit for what I was

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about to do would I still do it so if literally no one knew you would become a millionaire or you would
find the cure for cancer or you would whatever your purpose is and you couldn't get credit for it
would you still be pursuing that that is a gut punch in the stomach like it is amazing how many goals
we're going after that aren't even ours we're like okay that's my first principle but it's to prove
something to my dad who didn't believe in me or it's to prove an ex wrong or it's to get Instagram
followers because I'm lacking validation for myself and if I can get the validation from strangers
maybe that'll prove to myself that I am worthy you see where I'm going with this so like I'm not
concerned about what your parents want what Society tells you to have what uh social media is
telling you I'm more concerned about what do you actually want what's a hell yes for you if I couldn't
get credit and no one knew I achieved it would I still go after blank once the answer is yes
congratulations you have found what you need to find your first principles on and now everything in
your life keeps going back to this what's the one thing I need to do to achieve that purpose hope this
was helpful hope it helps in some way give it a like And subscribe if you're not I'll see you in the next
one stop settling start living see you

30 lessons I know at 33 but WISH I knew at 20 (LIFE-CHANGING)

Clark Kegley

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Intro

at the time of recording I'm 33 years old and if I could go back and give my 20-year-old self some
advice here's what I'd say credit to Dan go for creating this trend I'll link his video down

Don’t kill the cringe, kill the part that cringes

below number one don't kill the part of you that's cringe kill the part that cringes those who never
experience anything cringe are trapped by their own judgmental inner critic and I promise you
they're never going to create anything that you aspire to be easier on yourself embrace the cringe
don't take it too seriously and life will be more fun for you number two if you're

If you're thinking too much you're not acting enough

thinking too much you're not acting enough it's so tempting to think oh if I can prepare a little more
do a little more research then I can avoid failure or looking dumb or get the outcome exactly how I
want it but it's the thinking that's causing problems you overthink what you should say and you come
across as awkward you overthink what you should write and it doesn't sound like you you overthink
what you should do with your life and you remain stuck other people pass you by moreover you can
never overthink your way out of action-based problems try something anything to get you unstuck
that is the only way you can

Get really good at something

escape overthinking number three get good really good at something I got obsessed with drums got
good ended up touring the world with a band I got obsessed with content creation got good ended
up making it my full-time job got obsessed with sports betting still bad and wondering why my 11 leg

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parlays don't hit but hey there's no losers in sports betting only quitters when you get good at
something you're learning the metales of how to learn coding design art sales content Fitness pick
something and have fun learning how to

Stop waiting for life to get easier

learn number four stop waiting for life to get easier every stage of your life has its own set of
problems teenagers College adulthood retirement the trick your mind will play on you is that I just
got to get through this stage the next one will be better or Problem free but I guarantee you want to
be at this stage you're in right now at some point point in your past life doesn't actually get easier
you get better with more experience number five you will regret

You will regret inaction more than failure

in action more than failure for every one person who regrets a failed business there's a thousand
that regret not even trying for every one person embarrassed for asking someone out there's 10,000
kicking themselves for not shooting their shot the only way your life can drastically change is
embracing rejection as part of success and at the end of your life you're not going to regret what you
did you're going to reget what you didn't do number six the

What really makes us happy

most important thing in life for happiness is well the biggest study spanned over 80 years and
tracked over 700 people asking them one question what truly makes us happy you know what they
found it wasn't Fame wealth hotness time and time again the quality of your relationships and it's
not like having hundreds of them it's having a few very close people to you you go through life with
so prioritize people and not things to be truly happy number seven people

People aren't against you, they're for themselves

aren't against you they're just for themselves did they not text us back because they hate us or they
just have their own things going on in life we will never know for sure but the point is not wasting
your energy coming up with reasons why people did things the quicker you stop taking things
personally the faster and more energy you'll have for you number eight burnout

Burnout isn’t about doing too much

isn't about doing too much it's about doing too little of what actually matters if we never do what we
love who wouldn't be burnt out so maybe you're not exhausted from being too busy maybe you're
exhausted from not doing what fuels you number nine you teach people

You teach people how to treat you

how to treat you it can feel uncomfortable to advocate for yourself and setting boundaries can feel
awkward at first or intense but you get what you tolerate whether that's at work not advocating for
yourself in relationships letting people walk all over you or friends and letting them flake this also
works in the affirmative praising the qualities you want want to see growing people so be sure you're
rewarding the right behaviors from others number 10

Keep a journal

keep a journal I've worked with therapists I've worked with coaches I've done programs but honestly
the best self-growth came from sitting down with my journal I think there's something so cool in a
digital age having an analog system where you can see your handwriting it's unplugged you can take

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it everywhere with you and you can look back on it in 10 or 20 years imagine that if you need a
starting place I'll link down below R 11 questions to change your life this is a free gift and it's 11
questions that will Kickstart your growth number 11 focus on big wins

Focus on big wins around money

around money in your 20s earning more money is way easier than saving money so can you
negotiate your salary every 6 months earning a couple extra grand every time you do it can you get a
side hustle and make two 300 bucks extra a week if you're stuck in a job that pays minimum wage
can you go learn a trade and in a couple years be making six figures and cutting out $5 Lotte will help
but not spending an extra 10 or 20 grand on a new car when a used one will do just fine will help
even more the point is give your energy to the big things with money and the small things will start
to take care of themselves

Put a 10% tax on yourself

number 12 starting today put a 10% tax on yourself by the time I was 25 I had worked over 20 jobs
and you know how much money I had saved up zero in fact I was negative net worth I was in debt
and that's when I had a hard reality check why did work to begin with it was to get ahead but I wasn't
and looking back I definitely could have lived on 90% and saved the other 10 look into compounding
look into investing and the benefits you have of Being Young no matter how much or how little
money you make put away 10% view it as a tax on yourself that way you're always building and
getting

Be mindful with alcohol

ahead number 13 be incredibly mindful with alcohol now I'm not saying you shouldn't drink I did in
my 20s and made some memories I'll never forget and a lot I can't remember but partying has an
expiration date and those who stay at the party too long get left behind in life so going sober for me
was the best decision I could have ever made you'll grow in ways you don't expect you're going to
make real friends not just drinking buddies and you'll build a life you actually love not one you need
to escape from it's okay to go to the party just know when it's time to leave number 14 accept that
healthy looks like boring

Healthy looks boring

long-term healthy relationships can seem boring compared to the exciting short-term fling that's
toxic long-term healthy diets that are good for you can seem boring compared to the latest Trend
where you lose a bunch of weight and gain it back that looks exciting and the routine you need to
save your first 100 Grand looks really boring compared to the latest double your money overnight
scheme that's bad the point is there's excitement and Buzz you will hear in extremes but most of the
time your results are ins sustainable ability so except that healthy looks like boring but that's totally
okay number 15 Life's

Invest in your sleep

too short for Sleep invest in blackout curtains wear an eye mask wear a tracking device so you get
data on your sleep since taking my sleep seriously the last 5 years I've never averaged below an 80
sleep score gamify the process of sleep make it fun and watch your energy go through the roof
number 16 you'll never be good enough for the

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You'll never be good enough for the wrong person

wrong person relate relationships aren't 50/50 they're 100 100 if someone doesn't see your worth
stop trying to convince

You don't need energy to workout, you get energy by working out

them number 17 you don't need energy to work out you get energy by working out your body is
designed to move so even something as simple as a 30-minute walk or standing for a few hours a day
can drastically boost your energy levels the key is finding exercise for you that doesn't feel like work
and you have resistance towards so join a Rec sport go to the gym try a class and find the kind of
movements that you have zero resistance to doing number 18 you are

You are the main character of your movie

the main character of your movie so document it I don't mean for social media I mean for yourself
behind the scenes document more take more photos that you want record your thoughts in your
journal every birthday get in a habit of sitting down with a camera and for 20 minutes just processing
through your life 20 years from now looking back

The best relationship advice no one ever told you

on that you're going to be so glad you did number 19 this is the best relationship ship advice I ever
got in my 20s was this stop looking for the right person and start trying to become the right person
tens attract tens like attracts like if you want to attract someone on a higher level you need to raise
yourself up to a higher level as well when you stop looking and searching and you worry about
becoming you find that that person magically comes into your life number 20 get a dog this is is the
sign you've been waiting for dogs

Get a dog

force you to live in the moment get outside meet people and pick up dogs at 6:00 a.m. I got mine at
28 and honestly I wish I hadn't waited so long the reward outweighs the work tenfold taking care of
something and putting the focus off of you is great for your mental health number 21 if you're going
to

If you're going to compare, you need the full context

compare you need the full context social media has made it literally impossible for you not to
compare yourself to others and if you're not careful everyone's hot everyone successful everyone
has tons of money doesn't work and can travel all the time but when we compare we're never
getting the full story I've seen so much behind the scenes like the couple who everyone admires that
can't stop fighting when the cameras are off or the fitness influencer who's all natural but you know
taking a little Special Sauce behind the scenes the entrepreneur who works all the time kids barely
even know it you use success as inspiration but not as ammunition to feel bad about yourself
number 22 start making weekly

Start making weekly to-do lists

to-do lists if you have five things you need to get done that week and they're the only five things on a
list it's very hard to procrastinate when I switch to weekly to-do list and only put on there what I
needed to get done for the week my productivity skyrocketed number 23

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Practice zero-based thinking

practice zerob based thinking ever stick with something cuz you put so much time into it already
anytime you feel yourself feeling stuck stop and ask yourself this question knowing what I know now
if I could start over today would I still blank would I still be in that same relationship would I still
choose the same career path would I still live in the same city if the answer is no it's time to switch
things up don't ever let momentum carry you away in a Direction you don't want to go

Find a way to travel

number 24 find a way to travel in my 20s I backpacked solo through 12 different countries had the
adventures of a lifetime met incredible people and experienced firsthand how traveling changes your
world view yes I had to work jobs and save up money and yes it probably set me back in my career a
bit but looking back I wouldn't trade that for anything and you can travel at any time in your life but
later down the road when you have a mortgage you got kids you got a wife or a husband you got an
adult career the excuse is not to get more legitimate so scratch the itch now while you're free and
you don't regret

It’s okay if you don’t know what you're doing with your life

it later number 25 it's totally okay if you don't know what you're doing with your life I think you
should throw out the idea of seeking a purpose not only is it vague but it creates so much pressure
where you'll cut yourself off from otherwise good opportunities that could lead you to something
purposeful just pursue curiosity what are you excited about let's do that and what you find is that
your purpose will find you number 26 your biggest problems in life

Your biggest problems can’t be solved, only outgrown

cannot be solved they can only be outgrown 27 don't believe everything you

Don't believe everything you think

think because you have negative thoughts does not mean you're a negative person because you got
rejected does not mean you're a reject and because you failed does not make you a failure so don't
believe everything you think most of the time it's not even true number 28 credit

Credit cards are more than IOUs

cards are more than just I where's all the money that's as good as money sir those are IUS I firsthand
know the weight of financial stress that credit can put on you and I've seen people close to me in
their 30s still affected by the decisions on credit they made in their 20s the best financial advice for
credit is never carry a balance and always pay off your cards 275 t might want to hang on to that one
number 29

Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life

hard choices easy life easy choices hard life things that are good for you in the long term often feel
hard in the short term take exercising the days you don't want to do it or you're too tired yet you
never regret the days where you push through and do it things that are bad for you in the long term
feel kind of cool in the short term like binge eating procrastinating putting off responsibilities but
building a life you love longterm takes discipline and discipline is sacrificing what you want now for
what you want most number 30 how

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How you make money is more important than how much money you make

you make your money is more important than how much money you make you can have the highest
paying job in the world but if you lose your soul or your family in the process it's not worth it is it
money is important but it's only one currency there's psychological Freedom time Freedom
emotional freedom and when you factor in all of those instead of just one and base your decision
holistically you'll realize that how you make your money is a hell of a lot more important than how
much money you make number 31 anxiety is living in the

Anxiety is living in the future, depression is living in the past

future depression is living in the past the only place you'll find relief is when you bring yourself back
to this present moment number 32 holding on to

Resentment is like drinking poison

resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die yeah it'd be great if we got
closure and they'd apologize but understand that you don't have to have an apology for you to let go
of things I wish I would have forgave quicker and let go sooner there's such a lightness when you
don't carry around things from your past number 33 advice is just opinions yes

Advice is just opinions

even this video I have seen people waste years of their life following advice they got online that
probably wasn't the best Hill to die on and base their big life decisions on so next time you hear
something being discussed on a podcast with great audio and convincing opinions know that it's just
that opinions and not always factual the best skill you can learn in your 20s is the ability to think for
yourself I'll link down below our 11 questions to change your life and I'll link up here a perfect video
for you to watch next thank you so much for being here I'll see you in the next one stop settling start
living see you

being productive is easy, actually

easy, actually

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Transcript

So if you don't know this already, in South Korea, there are thousands of teenagers who wake up
every day and spend more hours doing schoolwork than you spend being awake. Literally. And many
people look at these students and think, But, in reality, most of them just wanna get out of school
and join an esports team, a good portion of them don’t even shower at all, and the most popular
productivity hack, is to drink an entire Iced Americano in between each subject. So how do they do
it? What's their hidden secret to being so productive all the time? It’s actually very easy. And I was
about to spend weeks reading these productivity books to find the answer, but luckily, thanks to
Shortform, I was able to read all of them in just a few hours. That’s because Shortform gives you full
guides, to pretty much any book you could ever want, including the most popular books in genres

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like Money and Finance, Productivity, and Business. For example, I read the guide to Ali
Abdaal’s Feel-Good Productivity, and Shortform even gave me exercises to actually apply the
information at the end. And here’s 3 things I learned and that’s why I only upload once a month. But
unlike me, Shortform drops new book guides and articles every single week, and subscribers get to
vote on what books are covered. So if you wanna get a 5-day free trial, join Shortform through my
Special link, shortform.com/easyactually, or click the link in the description. Sooo in the end what i
found, is that productivity is basically just a cycle. And this is what it looks like. First, let’s say you get
motivated. Motivation makes you wanna do work. Finishing some work, makes you feel good, and
that gives you motivation, to then finish more work. Around and around it goes. The more
motivated you are, the more work you do. And the more work you do, the more motivation you get.

So, every time you think of productivity, just think of this cycle. Because even though it simplifies a
lot of stuff, it’s easy to remember just this image whenever you wake up and don’t feel like doing
anything. And it explains pretty much everything. For example, how can you spend 3 weeks not
writing an essay, but somehow, 30 minutes before it’s due, you turn into prime Shakespeare? It’s
because when the due date is in 30 minutes, your motivation goes sky high, and therefore, the cycle
goes much faster, and no amount of distractions, sleepiness, or boredom, will be enough to stop
you. The cycle also explains why you can get so much more work done when you have a to-do list.
Because each time you cross something off the list, you’re very obviously telling your brain, I
finished something. I did a task. And that makes you feel good. And now that you feel motivated,
guess what? Here’s another task that’s gonna give you an even better feeling once you cross it off.
And this is why the most productive people almost always have a detailed to-do list. Cause if you
split up a big task like “homework” into each individual subject, and even better, you split it into
each individual task, then not only is there less confusion about what you have to do, but you get to
have that boost of motivation after crossing off every little task. So if you wanna make the cycle
as smooth and efficient as possible, make a to-do list, and make it detailed. More detailed. More!
Ok that’s good. And it’s important to know that if you don’t have a lot of motivation, you can still
start up the cycle and get it running, by using some self-motivation tricks. And here's a few:

- First, remind yourself what drives you. why you’re doing this, and what the end goal is.

- Next, remind yourself what you enjoy about your work.

- Third, challenge yourself to see how much work you can do in the next hour, and race against the
clock, as if you have an essay that’s due in one hour and you haven’t started. Because you know
what they say, procrastination is the best motivation, so why not just give yourself your own time
limit?

- And finally, make work into a habit by doing it every day around the same time, and by making it
part of a bigger routine. For example, a lot of people have a morning routine of wake up, shower,
breakfast, gym. Or they have an evening routine of come home, change clothes, eat food. And if you
just stick a work session into these built-in routines, then eventually it’ll feel weird, not to do
work. And what better motivator is there, than not wanting to feel weird?

But having said all this, you also don’t have to start with motivation, to get the cycle going. If you
wanna turn the cycle on, you can just start here. With work. For example, if you wake up one day
and you feel really unmotivated, like you don't want to do anything, just start working anyway. It
can even be just one minute of work. Literally one minute. Whatever it is, once you finish that bit of
work, you’re done, and you can go back to lying down in bed and doing nothing. But chances are,
you probably won’t want to go back to doing nothing. Because finishing that one task will almost

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always give you enough motivation to do the next task, and that motivates you more, and before
you know it, the cycle is running at full speed. And this is the secret. Don't wait for motivation. Start
working now, and get motivated as you work. It’s said that students at Oxford University in England
spend at least 40 hours a week studying. Which means that even on those days with no
motivation, they still have to wake up and go study for 6-8 hours. And they’re not sitting in bed
telling themselves, Cause that’s a huge task that they don’t have the motivation for. Instead, what
they actually do, is wake up and think, And 12 hours later someow, they’ve finished 2
textbooks, written 4 essays, and colonized 78 countries, Cause getting stuff done, is what motivates
you, when nothing else will. Of course, the cycle can’t go on forever. Things like tiredness, confusion,
boredom, anxiety, and distractions are all things that make this cycle less and less efficient. But the
good news is that you can deal with all of these. And one way to tackle them all at the same time, is
to just take a break and go for a walk. Especially if you go outside, a walk will give you some extra
energy,. A walk helps you collect your thoughts and plan out your next move. It gives you something
to do that’s not work. It calms you down when you’re anxious. And during a walk, you can take in all
your surroundings, and allow your mind to wander now, so that you don’t need distractions later. But
besides walking, here’s how you can deal with each problem. ...one thing that works way too well
and pretty much never fails is switching up the location you work from, even just facing a different
direction. You can honestly work from even the most nonsensical of locations, but be warned that
people might look at you weird. Doesn’t matter though cause it’s fun. Anxiety: The best you can do is
ask yourself some questions: For example, if you have a biology test coming up you might feel too
anxious to study. Why? Because you’re worried you might fail anyway. Is this reasonable? No, cause
studying always helps. Will this matter in the long run? No, because the two hours you spend
studying now is not that much time in the long run. And what can you control? Obviously, you can
study. And even if you do fail, you can always just draw over your grade and change it to an A. And
lastly, distractions. according to many books, distractions are the enemy to deep, productive, work,
and they also stop you from reaching a state of flow. And the best way to stop this, is to simply take
your phone, put it on silent, and put in another room, or just hide it somewhere. This is way better
than just turning off your notifications, and I personally I don’t even miss anything cause no one
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becoming smart is easy, actually

easy, actually

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Transcript

so you want to become smart in most of the world you're told that it takes 12 years of school plus 4
years of college plus 6 years of graduate school to become smart but what you actually become is
homeless that's not even a joke but on the bright side when you make a Reddit post about how you
can't get a job you can do it in perfect English if you haven't guessed by the title becoming smart is
actually very easy even if you think your genetics make you dumb if you compare yourself to every
other animal you're actually pretty over powered when people like you and me say we want to get

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smarter it means a bunch of things we want to learn useful skills ideally skills that make money we
want to be good at solving problems hopefully for money we want to get better geds and learn
difficult subjects to make more money and also to flex on people and lastly we want to sound smart
in conversation just enough so people respect you but not too much to the point where people think
you're a nerd the problem is most advice on the Internet is so vague and philosophical that even if it
works the only people who could actually follow it are Oprah and Socrates and if you instead look for
specific advice that you can actually try right now this is what you get eat blueberries cuz they brain
food drink black coffee exercise sleep more take IQ tests listen to classical music these things sound
good but at some point you have to you know actually learn stuff besides even in the past there have
been some Geniuses who have spent the whole day sitting at a desk desk getting 2 to 4 hours of
sleep a day so what can you actually do to get smarter that's not just the same six brain hacks from a
Facebook post copied and pasted from a Wiki how article inspired by a quote spray painted on a New
York Subway wall the main thing you need to do is read what kind of reading it depends fiction is
good for learning to read faster and it gives you a better vocabulary also if you read a lot of dialogue
it makes you feel like you have friends but most people go straight for non-fiction which indeed is the
key to being able to casually drop interesting knowledge in conversations for example just by reading
this book you can come off to anyone in conversation as someone who knows history the key is to
not be obnoxious about it crazy how we evolved from chimpanzees right well actually evolution is
nonlinear and several human like species inhabited Earth simultaneously none of which could even
be remotely considered as chimpanzees while this is considered polite by the standards of a YouTube
comment section in real life saying well actually before proving someone wrong will make you
instantly unlikable change the well to an easy and now we're talking let's redo that conversation
crazy how we evolved from chimpanzees right it is crazy right you know I was reading the other day
and apparently humans and chimpanzees I always thought we evolved from them but I guess we just
evolved side by side you can be smart while also being humble and also sounding like you touch
grass the key is to teach people what you know without making them sound dumb this way people
will actually learn from you which will make them see you as smart and respectable now how do you
find these books it's actually really easy you don't have to read the same five books everyone tells
you to read just think of a topic you want to learn about like cleaning now Google books about
cleaning here's one that looks good usually these books cost money but if your finger slips you might
accidentally end up on this website and you might accidentally search for the title of the book and by
chance click on the first link and oh no accidentally downloaded a file and opened it with the
appropriate ebook viewer well now that you have the book you'll also find that not only can you pick
out interesting tidbits to use in conversations but you can also learn many useful skills there are 10
things you should know before you learn a skill one unless you practice the skill your brain will think
it's useless and forget it two you only have have to know 20% of the knowledge to master 80% of the
skill so I guess we could just move on this is called the learning curve it's a graph of how good you get
at a skill over time as you can see just by practicing a little bit you can make a lot of progress in the
beginning but you have to practice no one ever learned how to tie a tie by watching how to tie a tie
you only learn how to tie a tie by watching how to tie a tie while tying a tie the same applies to
reading books only make you smarter if you give your brain a reason to remember the stuff in the
book so once you read the chapter on cleaning a bedroom go ahead and clean a bedroom doesn't
even have to be your bedroom just clean one and now you'll never forget it but let's just imagine
that's something that you can't practice right now like imagine you're reading a book about cars and
then you see this diagram of how to jump start a dead car with a good car ideally you'll read about it
and then go practice it but not everyone has two cars lying around to practice on but you can still
practice it by just imagining imagine the moment where you'll need to know how to jump start a car
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from start to finish you just convinced your brain that you used all that information and now you'll
remember it meanwhile the person who just looked at the diagram and tried to memorize it still
won't know what to do if they ever had to jump start a car this is how you get smart use everything
you learn and if you can imagine yourself in the moment where it'll be useful this is basically how the
entire school system works you learn a piece of information and because it'll be like 15 years before
you actually use it your teacher creates an imaginary situation where that information is useful that
is a test an exam that has questions on that exact piece of information and if you get it wrong you fail
or in South Korea you get prison time just kidding that's only if you cheat this is usually in enough to
make your brain at least attempt to remember the information the only problem is once the test is
over your brain says it's not useful anymore and you forget it some people think repetition or space
repetition or studying in intervals or mind mapping will help them get better grades and learn faster
but in reality doing practice questions will give you the most results because they simulate the actual
situation in which you'll need to use what you learned if you don't have any practice questions make
your own and convince yourself that the stakes are high like pretend that you're hanging off a cliff by
one arm and someone's there to pull you up but only if you can name all the parts of a human cell
learning information and making it seem useful to your brain is all you need to get smart and this is
why textbooks are the S tier format for becoming smart as fast as possible there's no fluff no
handholding no distractions just pure information and a bunch of practice questions and if you can't
solve them you have to flip all the way to page XXX VV I II in the appendix to get help textbooks
aren't for the Casual learner because it's not as fun as watching a YouTube video on the topic and
forgetting it all an hour later but if you're ever up to the challenge there is a website you might
accidentally end up on where you could accidentally download free textbooks on any subject you
want but before you do that I'm collecting donations in the form of subscribes to fund the next video
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Core Stories: The Most Underrated Way to Change Your Life (Identity Shifting)
Clark Kegley

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Intro Summary

there's a saying it's not the thing it's the thing behind the thing you ever noticed that in your life it's
not that you procrastinate it's the fear of it going wrong causing you to put things off it's not that
you're scared of relationships it's that you're scared to get your heart freaking ripped out from you
put in a doggy bag while it's still beating like that scene in Dumb and dummer an alltime American
classic we call that movie a film it's not the thing it's the thing behind the thing and in this video
we're talking talking about the stories you tell I can't tell you how important this subject is for you
and once you see how it's affecting you I'll talk about a film strip of your life we're also going to talk
about core stories and where they come from most people are running on three four and that's it
that's literally the thing behind the thing controlling your whole life and of course I'll give you a
question or two of how you can fix it

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Core Stories

we're just going to get straight to It smash the like button subscribe if you're not already here the
term Li liting beliefs a lot got to fix your limiting beliefs you know it's all a mindset game man it's all
what's going on up here I know you've heard that haven't you here's why that's wrong you work in
three layers your thoughts are on the outside this is what we'll call beliefs if I can just believe in
myself enough you know I'll take the actions to build my business or if I can just have better thoughts
then I'll feel successful or content with where I am but it's not the thing it's the thing behind the
thing what's behind thoughts I'll tell you emo emotions not to be confused with how I dressed in
middle school or the music selection that's still on my Spotify to this day I haven't grown out of you
know this to be true take driving you ever gotten in your car when you're in a bad emotional state
your thoughts are really different why is that guy going so slow he's he's so dangerous why is that
person driving past me like a maniac they're so reckless your emotional state of being stressed
causes your thoughts and your actions to change see your thoughts are like files on a computer and
your emotions are the folders that they are stored in so if you change your emotion what you notice
is that your thinking changes as well it's not the thing it's the thing behind the thing now there's one
extra layer and this is the whole video we're talking about here just take a guess what is this first
layer what is it what do you think this is your core story also could be called your identity your self-
image your self viw the most important thing why does rewiring limiting beliefs not feel effective why
does positive thinking feel so hard when we're in such a low Vibe it's because most people they go
from layers 3 to 1 they think if I can just change my thoughts then my emotions will change my story
will change and maybe sometimes that's true but the fastest way you can change your entire identity
in your life is to go from the inside out go from level one to three when you change your story your
emotions change and your thoughts change as well before I get to these charts why don't we briefly
just touch on what I mean by stories this is how since the dawn of humanity information has has
been passed down it's literally how our brains evolve to store informations not with just like ones
and zeros like a computer not with just linear thinking okay that's absolute fact and logic those are all
tools we kind of developed how we developed is through passing down stories orally before written
language it was passed down around a campfire big son come make warm movies tell me the last
movie you watched tell me like the factual things that happen happen probably can't but if I ask you
to just summarize the plot the story of it what genuinely happened genu generally happens you can
probably do it think of the Lion King think of the Matrix think of Lord of the Rings think of Harry
Potter the reason those sell billions and billions of copies views and tickets is not because of the
factual little scenes it's because of the overarching story and so in your life have you ever questioned
the story you're telling yourself about you let's keep going on how your brain works cuz this is very
important are you getting this I hope this is making sense you're essentially right here okay now
when you come out of the womb you're a blank slate I know there's parenting and kind of your
environment but for the sake of this video You're a blank slate something happens related to money
and you notice that like okay money then another things happens about money and you link that to
the previous thing and then the next thing all in this chain till you get to your beliefs about money
now in this moment same thing in relationships something happens in middle school or childhood
and you store that information you get into your next relationship you start linking that information
to that person is is what we call a projection you're projecting your past experience onto that person
even though they're totally different then you have a third thing maybe you got your heartbroken
and now you have relationships that are either positive or you're just in fear of recrea creting what
has happened to you in the past the chain of events same thing with fear same thing happens how
you view your life what is happened in your life that went wrong you link that back to core stories
and lastly your self-image about you there's a Jesuit saying give me a boy till the age of seven and I'll

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show you the man give me a boy till the age of seven and I'll show you the man why does therapy
Hound so hard on your childhood my child happened in the past why am I going back to it like why
why are people so obsessed with their childhood well it's because your childhood is this level one the
first things that happened to you the age of seven of how you developed your core stories here that
project outwards to your now stories this is powerful stuff speaking of

The Un untethered Soul

stories is it cool if I share with you uh maybe we'll have time for a couple one I got from Michael
Singer is one of my favorite books guys the untethered Soul um this I love this book inside and out
and it has a beautiful story about core stories of where a woman gets stabbed by a giant Thorn right
there it's a thorn in her arm every time she touches it there's pain there every time she goes to lay
down there's pain so what does she do well instead of taking the thorn out so she can go on with her
life she Associates so much pain to that thorn that that would just be excruciating to look at it and to
deal with it so she constructs her whole life around not touching this Thorn she gets a bed where she
can only lay on her right side because if she rolls on her left side o that's too painful she used to love
fashion and now she doesn't wear half the dresses that cover her arms all of them have to be
sleeveless so they don't touch her thorn she used to dance now she doesn't dance she avoids it
because she doesn't want to touch that thorn in her eyes she constructed this whole life out of safety
to avoid pain but has she really avoided pain or has she just made her life more painful because
everything she does has now become about this thorn in her side her life has started to suck the fun
out of it because she's so concerned about where this Thorn is and not touching it obviously that's a
story not fact but I think it really Rings true for us that these core experiences we have are the
Thorns that stay with us and instead of dealing with them removing them we just let them linger
there and we construct our whole life to avoid it you know I'll give you a personal story on this when
I was 8 years old I was in a math class in elementary school and everyone got called up to do
multiplication tables on this big chalkboard and it was okay you do the ones so 1 * 1 is 1 1 * 2 is 2 1
time Etc threes fours fives all the way up to 12 maybe you did this yourself now I got the 11s 11 * 3 is
33 11 * 6 is to 66 I didn't know that trick it was so hard in my mind I I was trying to add up like okay
11 + 11 that's the next one it took me so long and the teacher wasn't very supportive um and
everyone kind of started laughing cuz it took me like 5 minutes and everyone else was done for the
last couple minutes now as an adult now if that happened we just maybe we'd laugh it off and sit
down and it wouldn't stick with us but because I had no prior experience because I was eight years
old because I was so like new to everything in the world it stuck with me and for the longest time I
thought I was Dumb and I was not good at math that was the thorn the story I told myself I'm just
not good at math I'm not good with numbers now I carried that belief around and constructed my
whole life to avoid numbers and I got into college ended up failing some classes almost didn't
graduate because of that belief I'm not good with numbers then what happened I graduated and got
into the world of business and being you know an entrepreneur and having my own business and I
real realized that numbers are just data and I started looking at numbers and started getting so much
information from them ha if we cut this we save this and a penny saved as a penny earned where
else can I cut and I started just playing with numbers and I realized I loved numbers I realized that
story wasn't true I realized that I was actually good with numbers they made sense they're binary
they don't have any emotions they're just ones and zeros what's there to be afraid of so my story of
math trauma which is a real term a lot of people pick up was not true and by questioning is that
really true am I really bad at numbers or is that just a label I picked up in a story that projects out to
my now Story by questioning that one core story I was able to break through to the next level here's
another angle on this subject with your life it CU you might be like well cark I look back on my life
and that really did happen I really did get my heartbroken I really did fail at business and lose a ton of

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money I really did have something terrible happen in my life this isn't just a madeup Thorn it's a real
thorn that I

The Film Strip

have and I'm not here to tell you to Discount all the trauma or the pain that has happened in your life
and write it off and just think positive I don't think that's healthy I think that can actually suppress
and repress things down deeper we're not talking living Lulu land here okay this is where the film
strip comes in where here's you in the past and all these are like scenes in a movie that build and
build and build till you get to you in the current moments you now psychologist will say say there's
two primary types of stories you can tell yourself about your life the first is how most people view it
this is a contamination story where you know when I was 27 years old and that one screwed me over
and my life has never been the same thanks to that guy I had such a good thing and I lost it and I
messed it up and I threw it all away I made a bad decision in my teens and I'm now a bad person
forever and I have to live with that that is a contamination story okay and your life won't get any
better if you're telling how your life changed because of one event one scene in the movie and it
soured the whole thing up until now I can tell you what the next movie strip will look like and it's not
going to be very good but then there's a second type of story and this is a Redemption story some
people call this a commitment story something bad happens and you used it to grow and redeem
yourself and now you can build from that and totally redeem yourself isn't that the kind of story We
Love hearing we love seeing that we love seeing growth and people publicly change their opinions
and admit fault when they were wrong see a commitment story is when you change the meaning
that's the million-dollar question what does this mean there's no better story on this than one you're
probably familiar with but it's like an the most extreme example of this we can have is Victor frankl's
man search for meaning it was written by Victor Frankle who was a psychologist who was in uh ALS
schwitz you know one of the Holocaust camps talk about the worst thing that can happen to anyone
and he saw people who lost their meaning and they literally died inside and they lost their will to live
he was able to create so much meaning from negative events I'm going to make it through this
because I want to write a book and make sure it never happens to anyone ever again now I'm not
saying and you can do it too and that's easy to be fully honest I don't know how many of us could
find that level of meaning in such hell there's someone with literally hell on Earth finding such strong
meaning in the story he was going to tell in the vision of his future here that he didn't let it break him
talk about the epitome of meaning making willpower and grit talk about perspective you know the
way we use trauma today is like it was so traumatic like my Uber Eats order took an extra 20 minutes
and now I I like don't want to order Uber Eats anymore Victor Frankle taught it's not what happens to
you it's what you do with it that's what stoicism teach that's what Buddha teaches that's what all
core philosophies at their core teach is that you are always in control of not what happens to you but
your response to it you are 100% responsible responseable the ability to respond to whatever
happens and that 100% responsibility lies in the stories you tell yourself about where things went
wrong about what's going to come next you can react and live in a reactive state and that's the
easiest thing to do just reacting to things you know someone cuts you off in traffic what do you do
you flip them the bird you speed up you try and get even that's reacting the hardest thing to do is
respond someone cuts me off in traffic maybe they're in a rush my friend just had a kid and that was
the story okay they literally were like on the way to the hospital and he had to pull over cuz his wife
was in labor in the back seat he catches the baby in his hands and delivers their kids if you had seen
him going 90 M hour driving like a maniac you would be like what screw that person what is he doing
he's drunk and it's only 9:00 a.m. dude chill but if you respond you're able to change the meaning
and have a more charitable response to whatever is happening here's something that's very inspiring
I find a lot of uh inspiration from the concept of neuroplasticity with your mind so your neurons

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literally fire and wire together uh that's hebb's law neurons up fire together wire together and get
habituated just like you have habits in the morning you know you wake up and maybe you grab your
phone first thing that's a habit um or you go make coffee first thing in the morning that's a habit and
you know this people are obsessed with habit changing because it changes their life but at first
changing the Habit is really hard why is that hard it's because your neurons have literally linked faster
connections and they literally formed together this is actually an image right here of neurons
connecting so when when you're learning information about thing a and thing B and you make a
connection of how they're related your neurons are like little spider webs and your brain is the spider
weaving them together and they connect that is what learning is it's forming those connections and
sometimes learning is breaking those connections that aren't true so neuroplasticity you can form
these new connections by just going back and changing the meaning maybe my next growth isn't
learning something new it can be but often times it's unlearning things that aren't true true and
things that aren't true about myself or where things went wrong or the story I'm telling myself and
then you can rewire and create new stories and new identities that's how it happens there's also
where humility comes in this might be a weird turn in the video but I I want to throw this in here
because it's important some people's stories are inferiority oh I'm less than others or I'm too young
or I'm not as talented that's very common that's like low self-esteem some people's stories are of
superiority I'm better than them I'm chosen I'm special I'm above people or they look at what they
have and they use that as evidence of why they're better and those stories can hold you back as
much as the inferior inferiority stories let me tell you they can shut you off from otherwise good
relationships they can close you to experiences that you think are beneath you they can keep you in
this confirmation bias of why you're right and there's no growth and it makes you stagnant man
there's a ton of growth in humility and that is a lesson I've learned this year more than any other not
trying to be better than others you know not trying to pursue status at all costs understanding that
we all have the same worth as humans and that your money or your status doesn't Elevate you or
make you better than people it means you're further ahead in a game but it doesn't mean you as a
person are chosen I find this in the spiritual Community you know um it's not without flaws in the
self-improvement community it's not without flaws some people use inner work as a superiority Flex
well once you start doing the inner work that I've done you're just not as spiritually evolved as me
the irony in that is that

The Coffee Shop Exercise

is from a place of superiority and ego story of why I'm better than others cuz I'm chosen the universe
speaks through me and not other people now you're probably thinking well Clark give me the coffee
shop exercise like what do I need to take my journal to a coffee shop in journal on to really apply this
and here I'll give you I'll simplify the entire inner work in one question that you can ask I can't
because whatever it is I can't because if you want a juicy nugget to dive into and do some inner work
you ask yourself that question I can't make money because and you'll find the story level one I can't
find love or get in a relationship or trust people because and you'll find maybe three two maybe one
I can't get myself to stop procrastinating because often times a core story there is fear-based I need
to uphold an image I'm scared of rejection I don't want it to go wrong I don't want to admit that I'm
not as far ahead as I thought I was going to be I can't because if you got the coones to sit down and
ask that question I promise you your next level of growth is going to unlock and all of this is fear-
based and what you find about fear is that most of it is not true fear is just a negative visualization
that's it um it's just seeing what could happen and assuming that it's going to go wrong what's so
funny about fear is that nine out of 10 times maybe 99 times out of a 100 your fear doesn't come
true and you don't even remember the times where you were afraid of something and it didn't go
that way you don't like give yourself credit for that you just kind of ignore it and then you move on to

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the next fear and the next fear and the next fear I can't because blank realize that 99% of the time
those fears actually never happen and this takes a lot of self-awareness this takes a lot of guts to ask
cuz it's painful to realize dude I've been telling myself a contamination story for like a decade 5 years
oh man so let's recap what we learned I hope this was useful if it was useful let me know in the
comments and uh give me your biggest takeaway there's two types of story there's commitment and
contamination stories and most people are telling themselves the first your stories are at the core of
your emotions and your thoughts you need to go from levels 1 2 and three not 3 2 1 you don't
change your thoughts so you can have better emotions so you can tell yourself better stories it's
much more effective and efficient and all inner work gets to story changing so you feel different so
you think different remember that your thoughts are files and your emotions are like the folders
they're stored in so when you change the folder the files can change as well you can delete them and
then they're gone or you can create new ones and understand that you have core stories most
people are running on four main categories money love fear and their self image and if you want to
see where you are give me a boy till the age of seven and I'll show you the man as the saying goes It's
more effective to not just go after your now but to do inner work which is what this is called and
trace it back to where you picked up these sort are they really true fact check them just like I did with
my math story just like the woman did in Michael singer's book The untethered soul with the thorn
making sure your whole life isn't just a construction to avoid pain and that my friend is one of the
most important videos we can talk about hope this was useful let me know love you see you in the
next one stop settling start living see you hey guys oh big golfs huh all right well see you later

Do Shadow Work... It Will Change Your Life (Best Technique)

Clark Kegley

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Intro

we today my friend are talking about Shadow work no this is not witchcraft no you don't have to
make a crystal grid light incense and sage and chant Kumbaya this is going to be super valuable good
crash course for you welcome to Shadow work the Dark Side of self-improvements and how it can
change your life what is the shadow there was like 10 different ways I could describe this with you I'll
choose a couple to illustrate it so it really sinks in and you understand it there's a saying what resists
persists if I ask you what are you hiding from you might be like well I'm not hiding from anything
what about what you're embarrassed by wouldn't you like to know dude on YouTube addiction
smoking drinking too much maybe visiting an adult website and look this video is not to judge you
I'm not here to judge you but you have to understand is that eats up so much of your bandwidth
during the day whether it's conscious or not in fact a lot of it's taking up room in your subconscious
mind in the background like if you have 20 tabs open on your computer they're still using the ram
metaphorically speaking it's closing out your tabs so everything feels lighter and Freer you have more
energy you're more confident about yourself because when you're really killing it you got your diet
unlock you're on a good vibe you're in a good headspace isn't it so much easier to operate and go
through life

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Vibrations Chart

another way we can illustrate this you know anything about the vibrations chart we've talked about
something like this in previous videos where if you rank order every single emotion and kind of
calibrated them at a different energy level you would come up with something similar to this where
the bad ones that you're trying to get rid of Shame guilt apathy grief fear and anger you live your life
there ain't going too well is it but then there's some positive ones you want to feel peace Joy love
reason acceptance courage you're like yeah I want some of that I don't want some of that well notice
something shame guilt grief fear if you feel any of those emotions on a given day no matter how
much you try to fall into peace and love you can't actually hold two emotions at the same time like
an on off switch it's gonna really confuse you emotionally it's going to be exhausting because you're
always awesome in between I want to feel good but this is holding me back and see the problem
with a lot of habit change out there although great intentions I'm on board it's not getting after the
root cause you're just dealing with the Habit itself not the reason and the roots of why you're doing
it

My Personal Experience

let me give you a bit of a personal take on this I used to drink a ton and it wasn't until quitting I
started realizing and peeling back the layers of the root cause of why I was drinking I thought it was
just to have a good time everyone's doing it to relax look at the events that have alcohol where
people feel uncomfortable parties dates family gatherings whenever you're uncomfortable just drink
I realized I was covering up a lot of the uncomfortable emotions and I would use drinking to escape
them sort of an eject hatch anything gets uncomfortable or I'm uncomfortable at any time crack
open some uh some michelobes baby the hard stuff because it changes your state instantly and you
don't have to think about whatever stressing you out anymore things as simple as getting in a fight
with my girlfriend where I'm the and instead of apologizing or feeling in the wrong I would just start
drinking because you don't have to deal with it when I was in my 20s and super stressed about
money or the future I would just drink and oh yeah you know I'll save that for tomorrow don't have
to deal with it doesn't exist so that was something in my shadow that was an uncomfortable habit
that I had that I broke man that opened the floodgates to a lot of personal growth why do I feel in a
state of chronic stress where I drink and I can push through it and work even more why do I feel the
need to prove myself in conversations or interactions to like win people over and get the validation
or I'm not good enough as I am I need to somehow like impress everyone why do I feel that I can't
fully love and accept myself for me and my inner core not just my accomplishments and what I've
done these are questions I'm still working through and doing Shadow work on the exercises like the
one I'll give you have helped me immensely

Experiment

now if you want to experiment with an exercise I found this one to be very useful it's got five simple
steps anyone can do it all you need is a journal pen and some time I should note here that there's so
many types of Shadow work out there and they're all essentially paths to the same destination things
like therapy coaching journaling even psychedelics Retreats meditation these are all forms of Shadow
work whether they call it that or not they're leading you to the same outcome step number one

Think

think of what you want to work with I can't tell you what it is for you but think of anything that if
wasn't there you'd feel lighter and more free real good question to instantly find that answer what
am I avoiding what's uncomfortable that I'm avoiding and I'm pushing into the shadow one

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important note here sometimes when we're talking about trauma or repression or a shadow it can
conjure up images of like a refugee camp and you're like well I never experienced that trauma a
combat soldier with trauma dude I didn't do that that's not me don't compete in the trauma
Olympics this is really important like the worst thing that you have been through in your life is still
your worst thing so don't compare it to other people's worst thing and say well I don't got it that bad
so maybe this isn't such a big deal if you're still thinking about it dwelling on it it is a big deal it is
affecting you in some way for you your trauma might be just like an unsupportive parent as a kid and
that's still a form of your Shadow or trauma that's gonna affect you and mess you up maybe in
relationships so don't be like oh because I was never you know a war vet or have PTSD I don't have
trauma that's absolutely not true step

Study

number two before we go further on this I want to share one quick study on this just to back it up it
was done by Dr James pennebaker in the 80s he took 50 undergrad students and he put them in one
of two camps the first Camp was a control group he said hey here's a journal write about anything
you want doesn't matter the second group he instructed them to write about the most traumatic
event of their life pretty intense I know they did this for four consecutive days and when they looked
at the data from the two groups six weeks later what do you think happened control group nothing
they probably forgot about it the traumatic group that year had fewer visits to the Student Health
Center reported better moods and were overall in a higher Vibe now here's the thing I wanted to
share with you and what what this means for us when he analyzed the students that actually made
improvements it wasn't just the ones that let off some steam like okay I'm just gonna do this and
vent and got it off my chest the ones who got the most result from it were the ones who made sense
of what they went through there was a new level of like neural connections forming oh that's why
that's why why that happens they had an Insight or a breakthrough from it he said that people who
use the time to vent got little benefit but the ones who changed the meaning and the story behind
why something happened or how it happened were the ones who experienced breakthroughs also
interesting that people who had already made sense of that story and healed it they showed no
benefit re-exposing and writing about it again step number two you're going to think of that former
version of you doing that habits that thought that image get it in your head and you're going to invite
it in to have a conversation with you visualize two chairs you're sitting in one talking to this thing like
you're on 60 Minutes interviewing someone and that's the former version of you struggling with that
thing the goal here with this whole exercise is not just to put yourself through a thing of five steps
arbitrarily it's not just to waste your time it's not just to like do a self-reflection exercise it's to really
try and dive deep and ask why and find the meaning and change in some way the story that you're
going through step number three do you have what you want to work with you have the version of
you pulled up a chair metaphorically here you're gonna start a conversation with your former self
remember the goal here is not just events it's sense making I want you to use extreme curiosity start
talking to it here's an example let's just say you're someone who always feels a need to prove
themselves or you're after validation from others people women men doesn't matter and you never
feel worthy so you invite you recognize that you invite that part in to have a conversation you're
going to start asking where does this worthiness block come from well it came from a time in your
20s when you got rejected okay what does rejection mean well it means that you look stupid they
didn't want you okay is that true do people not want me here's gonna ask it questions opening up
this dialogue and try to see what the root of the meaning is there's a saying that if you want to get to
the root of anything just ask why three times why why why and you'll eventually get there another
awesome question here is if you're stuck ask what are you trying to teach me there was a client we
worked with in our metamorphic program and he came in when we were going through a similar

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exercise here this relationship that he could never get over he was in his 40s maybe 50s early 50s and
it was still an X from high school that it was carrying around she was the one that got away we really
had something there and if you know anything about psychology a near Miss is what they call that
when you almost get something and it misses by a little bit those hang you up way more than just a
flat out like no it's over slot machines know this that's why they give you those little wins like you do
a 40 Cent BET and you win 20 back and it feels like you're winning even though you lost that's a near
miss it drives you crazy there's no closure there it might happen it might not and so as he was doing
this in her work he started to realize that holding on to that little fantasy he had about that X coming
back into his life for the one that got away or maybe it'll happen in 20 years was sabotaging all the
relationships he was in why do my relationships never work out he was able to trace it back to that
one core story pinpoint it and be like ah because there's a part of me that won't push the chips all in
on this woman because I'm hung up in some way on that woman even though it was decades ago
once he was able to make sense of that and let go of that story he was able to free himself up release
all that Shake It Off baggage and it freed him up to find loving relationships in the future step number
four is you're going

Acknowledge

to acknowledge it knowing that behind the negative actions or beliefs or stories is a positive intent
you're not arguing with it you're not saying you're wrong you're stupid you're not judging it at all
here don't judge yourself here you're just listening and acknowledging giving it the space giving it the
understanding that you maybe didn't get at the time when you were going through that event that
belief that habit also known as what is called an empathetic witness very important if you look at
kids if they get rejected or made fun of if someone's there to comfort them right after the thing
doesn't affect them as much but it's when no one's there to comfort them they're all alone
something traumatic happens and they don't have anyone to help them reframe it then they start to
internalize that and carry it around that's why sometimes Shadow work is called inner child healing
because if you never resolve it that that child eventually grows up to be you watching this video right
now and that event that you never resolved is still there and subconsciously you're carrying it around
with you in some way before I give you the next step I will say here that this process works really well
with another person because sometimes it's hard to solve problems with your same level of thinking
that created them or the thought Loops not impossible not for nothing again I've gotten immense
benefits from self-healing and journaling and questions just like this fantastic but it is nice to
supplement it with someone else there and so methods like therapy or coaching are really good and
in our metamorphic program in week three we actually have a really in-depth process where you get
paired up one-on-one with one of our practitioners who does inner Shadow shifting with you and
he's able to go into the core stories reframe them with you so they're not holding you back anymore
the results are freaking amazing I love it it's one of the coolest parts of the program and that's just
one little section so that's what we do in week three if you want any more info on that we're happy
to chat there's a link down below where you can apply to speak with one of our coaches for free the

Integration

last step here is to integrate it I want you to picture yourself going back to that former version of you
and giving it the resources it needed to not feel that way if you felt lost as a kid or discouraged or
rejected I want you to picture yourself going back in time and saying it's okay if you felt like someone
wasn't there for you I want you to picture yourself going back in time to that old version of yourself
and being there for you you're watching yourself having a bad day or a bad habit that you know you
shouldn't be doing I want the highest version of you your current self to go back there to that 1.0 you
and Pump It Up be your own hype person tell yourself some positive affirmations there the whole

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integration process is a ton of work and it's a process it's not just something you do once and you're
done forever but neither is bathing that's why you do it every single day but that's the crash course
on that exercise there's so many more great exercises in fact if you want five more questions that go
deeper on this you're liking the tone of this you want some more self-reflection what I'll do now is I'll
link up right here these are the five journaling questions that will change your life okay these are five
of my favorite questions to go deeper into some more self-reflection some more Shadow work really
knock yourself out I find that these five coaching questions are awesome click that video and I'll see
you there

Does Anyone Else Feel Like Self-Improvement is Going Too Far?

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRIWvNPbk_A

Why I Made This Video for You

this will be the most thigh I've ever shown online unless you find my off it was a desperate time guys
what's up guys I wanted to have more of a open conversation with you I think we've lost the plot a
bit with self-improvement when I'm saying self-improvement I'm also referencing spirituality in here
uh pop psychology productivity habits anything you would consume content on with the intention of
feeling different my intention is not to make this video for like an algorithm and get millions of views
uh my intention is that this really helps and has an impact on a few of you and can potentially save
you years of going down the wrong direction spiraling and maybe just changes your perspective on a
few things okay

Problem 1

self-improvement if you're not careful can make you self-absorbed I think it's a very fair critique at
the extreme of self-improvement your whole life becomes about you am I improving am I leveling up
am I maximizing my time am I going after my goals why do I feel this way about my thoughts and my
beliefs and my stories and you know what the fastest way to feel better is taking the focus off of you
giving like you ever volunteered or you ever hung out with a younger brother or a nephew or kids like
when you're not focused on yourself you forget about yourself and you're just so focused on like
having fun and serving that your problems they fade away at least for the moment moment even
take the common advice you are the average of the top five people you hang around most very
common advice but if you're obsessed with that advice it perverts relationships from a pure thing of I
like hanging around these people to now flipping it as networking opportunities to level up oh I can't
hang around these people because they're not leveling me up how do I hang out with people that
are higher status than me so I can level up myself that's a hollow way to view relationships because
it's going in with like what can I get this is why I

Story: Why I Quit Masterminds (It Could Happen to You)

stopped going to masterminds it just be came this giant for lack of better word pissing match where
you're separated literally by tables based on the amount of income you're making per month not
even kidding I saw people who took this advice of like your time is the most valuable asset again self-

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improvement advice right like calculate your hours hourly worth and don't do anything that's not
that I've seen people who you know others idolize and look up to uh value themselves and their time
so much that when they're having a conversation with someone as soon as they realize that person
can't do anything for them they literally walk away they're like or I've been on the other end of that
where people only want to be around you because you got over a million YouTube subscribers hey
you want to go to dinner maybe the point here is humility gets lost if we're so focused on becoming
our best self that we forget that we're just like everyone else at the core we all have the same worth
as humans you know because you make more money doesn't mean you're worth more as a person it
just means you're hourly rates higher what you get into to ideally become a better person you know
some people can take that and then it becomes evidence for why they're better than others that's
the self-absorption I'm talking about there and I guess maybe people don't get into this because they
trying to be the best versions of themselves you know some people get into it because they want to
make a lot of money or they want to look a certain way or they want to get laid or they want to get
ripped and we can't judge anyone's motivation in fact I've been in those camps at earlier stages of
my development but the purpose is to evolve Beyond it you can't live your life calculating every
single opportunity cost for your time some of the best things in life aren't worth your time but
they're fulfilling the

Problem 2

next critique how self-improvement gives you an artificial rule book for yourself and if you approach
your life this way it creates what's called conditional happiness if I do X I can feel Z so if I check all the
boxes from everything the self-improvement videos told me to do then I can feel productive
accomplished progressing happy fulfilled what's dangerous about that is now you have conditions to
feel certain ways what's even more dangerous are the days that you don't do it you now feel guilty
and what supposed to be positive self-improving improving yourself and feeling good about yourself
turns detrimental real quick and it's a 180 backspin to now you have all this ammunition and
evidence for what you're not doing some people's rulebook is I only deserve to enjoy life when I have
a million dollar other people it's I only deserve to feel lovable when I'm in a relationship but the
question is who's writing the rules is are they even your rules or are they someone else's who says
that you deserve to feel a certain way only if you do a 20 step morning routine and sit in an ice bath
for 8 minutes and do breath work and meditate all before 5:00 a.m. and by the time you're done
you're so depleted of willpower you're just like now I have to go do a full 9-hour shift and then I have
to build a business some asshol is telling me if I'm not a millionaire by 26 I failed it never ends like I'll
tell you a brief personal story if that's

Story: The Grinding Rockstar

cool I don't have many regrets but like one that I do have came from in my 20s my earliest dream
since I can remember was being a rock star like playing shows International shows soldout shows
being a drummer for a band I literally got that in my 20s and we were on this one tour in the UK with
had this sick double-decker tour bus playing big like O2 Arenas it was my childhood dream and I get
chills even thinking about it and I didn't enjoy it I was so hellbent on the next thing it took me out of
the moment because in between shows I was so stressed well how am I going to build my business
cuz you know I got to and so I would literally get up at like 3:00 a.m. time zones are all crazy and I'm
sitting in the double decker tour bus like shaking going down London Road trying to like optimize my
little clickfunnels and looking back on it I'm just like dude go have fun you're obsessed with making it
buddy you made it you literally got what you asked for and you're so hellbent on the next thing the
next Benchmark you're taking yourself out of the thing you said you would be so stoked on and I'm
so glad I like reflected on that early cuz there were tours where I wasn't focused on like the next

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thing the next Milestone checking boxes and I was able to enjoy it and have fun because I took away
all these rules of what I had to be doing if I can give you any advice it would be don't let self-
improvement give you a list of rules and conditional happiness you have to subscribe to otherwise
you don't deserve to feel a certain way throw that all out cuz that's how you miss out on life self-
improvement is not a flex off of who can have the most toys and if you're feeling that self-
improvement is sucking the fun from you we should really reassess the goal of why we're doing it in
the first place because the goal of life to just be this stoic robot who has no emotion and all obsessed
over status and significance and making money like I don't know man having a light-heartedness and
loosening up and chilling out I think is like so underrated and if you're so focused on optimizing your
time and being busy and being productive you're going to lose out on all the chill and all the fun that
life has you might have some moments like I did where you get exactly what you want you can't
enjoy it because you're so focused on the next thing and the next goal this one's big

Problem 3

all right this might be the biggest one on here is if you're not careful the culture of self-improvement
can quickly turn into self-isolation you hear things all the time like disappear and come back
unrecognizable monk mode only you and your goal focused cut the shut the world out like these are
all headlin Joe Reed and they sound really intense because they are that's the solution I just got to
shut the world out I got to cut everything out and just go all in it's the worst thing you can do for
your mental health self-isolation that's literally like solitary confinement that's cruel and unusual
punishment I'll be it better than being locked up with a bunch of criminals in a dark cell you're
putting yourself in solitary confinement which is not the goal of self-improvement and becoming
your best self it doesn't mean shutting out relationships it doesn't mean closing the book on fun you
can have what you're going to end up with one day is an isolated life because you got exactly what
you wanted you shut the world out

Story: Backpacking, Awful Teenage Jobs, and How to Have FUN

do you know what the number one thing that will improve you it's not a book it's not a YouTube
video it's a real world life experience experience is like the things and the lessons I drawn the most
came from jobs I worked you know as a teenager in in college where I was literally like Einstein Bagel
scrubbing like bacon grease off things or an RA or golf caddy being on tour and being around not the
average of the top five people you hang around cuz you know tour is very it can be blue collar you're
hauling gear in and out of venues with stale beer and pist everywhere and like it's not exactly White
Collar work the experiences you draw from from that are amazing same thing with backpacking you
know I went all around the world and traveled and like those are the core things that stick with you
maybe your next evolution is not shutting the world out isolating with drawing but maybe it's
opening yourself up and embracing it going after experiences instead of isolation like if you don't like
where you are right now you're going to have to do something different how can you go after
experiences like can you travel this year can you make an effort to hang out with friends once a week
and develop a Social Circle and invest in it cuz that's what it takes it takes investing in relationships to
have them and that leads me to the most important one on

Problem 4

this list the question that no one asks in self-improvement that starts the whole thing why do I feel
like I'm not enough why do you feel like you're not enough you as you are right now existing in this
world why do you feel not enough because self-improvement can treat you like a project that needs
fixing and the problem is that even if you get the fame the status the money the relationship

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whatever you think will complete you you're still going to have that fundamental fear of not being
enough there if you never question it and get to the root of it except now it's just going to be worse
because like if you have money and that doesn't make you happy you're going to be like oh my god
well now nothing will make me happy and if you have love but you feel lonely in the relationship
because you don't love yourself you're going to be like no I'm really screwed they say they love me
why don't I feel it or if you get millions of followers but you feel like you still have to prove something
and you still need validation because you can't validate yourself you're really screwed money doesn't
change you it makes you more of what you are in the same way I find that love doesn't complete you
it just is a mirror and reveals what's there all along if you're bad person with money you'll be a worse
person if you love yourself when you get in a relationship your love will be magnified cuz you have
someone to share it with so I think that fundamental question why do I feel like I'm not enough is
very valuable and there's something I've been researching a lot of uh recently through therapy
coaching and you know just experimenting with different angles

Confront Your Toxic Shame: The Next Step in Your Shadow Work

there's a concept called toxic shame toxic shame is where you think you are fundamentally flawed
that you are somehow unlovable unworthy undeserving of success or abundance or Love And So It
causes you to look at yourself and say well here's a hole I have if I can just fix that then I deserve
money love significance and to feel good and so it puts you on this rabbit hole and likely why you are
drawn to self-improvement is no one really gets into this because everything's going well at least I
didn't I I don't know about you we get into it for the opposite reason is that things aren't going well
and we feel like low Vibe or bad or something's wrong and so we we go on the internet and there's
tons of great resources and we start consuming messages that seem to have the answers to our
questions and our problems what's wrong with me why do I feel like I'm not enough and if you're not
careful what you consume can be a proxy and cover up what you really need which is more not self-
improvement but more self-acceptance toxic shame is there when you are willing to root for a future
you but you don't like the current you you feel like that version doesn't deserve anything and then
when you think about the past you sometimes you can't even think about it cuz it's just too cringe
you like have shame around it or guilt or uh any of those emotions there the extreme end of self-
improvement can keep you in that toxic shame of where you're only good once you achieve X results
you're not good enough as you are now and definitely not in the past and the

Are You Acting 24/7? Uncovering Your Persona

shadow side of this is that it can cause you to take on a Persona a false self that you create and you
project out on social media or in friend circles or uh in my case creating content in videos where I
want to appear a certain way and I want to force things so you know I'll over prepare and over script
and like try and craft jokes and I don't know man like the videos I feel most proud of didn't have a a
Persona they were like this video I did where it was seven books in seven days and I was more
vlogging it and just in the moment sharing what I thought about the book and I'm so proud of that
piece of content I'm like that's Clark right there he showed up for it and then there's some videos
where it feels like with this job you know you just have to crank out and force for like algorithms I'd
like to say I'm above that but dude you've been doing I've been doing this for 13 years now it gets
really stressful at times because you know you have so many people watching there's pressure there
and at the same time now there's this new pressure of like you got to be super authentic you can't
put on the Persona dude so this is an area that I am currently doing a lot of inner work on is like how
to show up who is the real version of you who is that authentic Clark on camera creating content
challenging your opinions and assumptions and not just like reciting the bits goal setting okay got it
let me go into presenter mode and teacher mode and educator mode and you get reinforced for it

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too because sometimes when you play an algorithm game it does very very well you get millions of
views you get tons of what you think are fans or status or significance from it that's why content
creators go crazy after like

Story: Why Content Creators Go Crazy

a couple years of being like mainstream you know I was talking to a friend who's in this space very
well known and he's like dude sometimes at the gym people come up to me and you know it'll catch
me off guard and then I feel like I'm letting them down if I'm not like like snapping into like content
creator mode I don't always have that there's obviously times some days are better than others but I
feel like I'm constantly letting people down I'm like damn I feel that dude if there was a tier I'd be at a
b c list I'm like z-list baby right here but whatever fraction I of impact I've had on people you know
we'll get recognized my girlfriend and I the airport or in the gym or sometimes at restaurants you
know the server's like dude sick videos I'm not going to lie there's a part of me that's like feels really
good babe you see that he likes my videos how cool is that and then there's a part of me that's
scared okay I hope he leaves now because the longer we talk the more he's going to expect in this
video we're talking about three things that'll make I don't know if we need to say that but YouTubers
we don't always talk in that douchy energy all day long well babe you know there's really three things
you can approach this work situation with now

The Guru & Influencer Trap

I'm not saying don't have mentors I'm not saying don't learn from people I'm not saying that people
are not further ahead than you in some things but that doesn't mean they're absolved and
exonerated from challenges just because someone can articulate something in a very concise precise
manner doesn't always mean it's the best Hill to die on for how you should base your life decisions
just because some guy has made a ton of money doesn't mean he has the same values that you do
and that you should pursue that path as well I've always lived by the saying if you're going to
compare you need the full context people put out a very narrow sliver view of themselves online and
it's easy to take that sliver View and extrapolate it out to their whole life like whoa he has business
figured out that must mean he has relationships figured out and finances figured out and health
figured out having been in the space I know that is not the case you know there's people who will
preach marriage advice and then literally like a year later they're getting a divorce you know there's
people who some look up to for business advice but behind the scenes they're family is a wreck and
you got to ask yourself like are those my values like if I take his advice I'll get his result if I follow it
completely but are her values who's giving me the advice do those line up with what I authentically
want deep down inside and that's something you have to come up to and come to the conclusion on
yourself you can't Outsource your values to other people you can't Outsource your opinions and
insights to others as well just as

Breaking Self-Improvement from Business Advice

an side I think it's funny how self-improvement has gotten so tied to business and marketing there
needs to be a separation between the two cuz not everyone who's into self-improvement needs to
be like guilted into you know you're a loser if you have a 9-to-5 job to be totally honest some days I
wish I had a 9 to5 job grass is greener looks sweet you don't have all this press like you get a
weekend you can leave work at work you're not thinking about it on vacation you get 2 weeks of
vacation and you've seen a lot of YouTube creators quit because I think think it gets to the heart of
what we're talking about here this image that you have to uphold it's so easy from afar to idolize
people and put them on pedal stools but everybody is a flawed human at the core and we all have

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our own Journeys and our own battles we are fighting so don't idolize anyone they have their own
struggles and challenges and just because you have a big audience doesn't mean you always have it
all figured out yeah I'll leave it there here's another

Problem 5

thing to chew on with self-improvement you got to ask yourself is it making me feel any different am
I finding out more of who I am or am I just losing myself in the process I was listening to an interview
uh with Kat Von D you know the tattoo artist and Theo Von of all people love that guy he's hilarious
they were talking about Kat Von D's evolution of exiting spirituality and like witchcraft in the occult
and I guess now she's like super hardcore Christian you know gave away all her witchcraft books
doesn't practice it she blacked out her tattoo and what she said was really interesting and it parallels
a lot of what I've noticed in different subgroups of self-improvement she said you know I'd hang
around all these people who said they were so spiritual and they were so evolved but their lives were
a mess and they didn't seem happy at all and then I'd hang around people who had like more
Traditional Values who had great families and they seemed like they had a strong Community you
look at how their life panned out and you ask yourself the simple question to do I want the end
product of everything they have you know I've seen people who are so into deep deep deep
subgroups of spirituality and their whole life is it and they like lose themselves in these Concepts
they do not seem fulfilled and happy and grounded like there's no roots anywhere dude I just got
back from my 10th iasa Retreat I feel like a different person do you cuz you seem way different first

Finding God

time I've ever talking about it I'm not sure if I'll put this in here but this year I've just felt more called
back to God and religion might be a weird turn in this video but I I've felt it's like on my heart
developing a more holistic view of what self-improvement is and making it something bigger than
yourself like becoming a better person not just because of you but for your wife or for your family or
for your community or to have an impact that pushes people to become a better version of
themselves for people around them I want to end this with what AM a fan of with

What Self-Improvement Gets Right – And How You Use It

self-improvement like what does it do really well and what should it be used for I think the positive
of self-improvement is a trail head for your own Evolution really asking yourself how am I going to
use this how am I going to implement this what am I consuming for am I consuming to just be a
philosopher a psychologist maybe for some but for a lot of us we're just consuming to level ourselves
up and evolve and the evolution comes from upgrading your value vales of what's important to you I
think self-improvement is very good for challenging those and can be self-improvement can also be
very useful if you don't have a lot of good Role Models there's room for it to be a hobby for you like
maybe you're just super curious and you like learning about yourself and ideas and psychology and
behaviorism and philosophy and that's just like someone who studies history they're super into really
Niche history that has you know it's not going to change and they just love it then great that's what it
is but knowing that intention of what you're using it for is so important because now you don't have
to have this checklist of where everything you're not doing causes you to feel that toxic shame of
where you're not enough and you're undeserving of love understanding that real self-improvement
leads to self-acceptance to where you get to a point and you say I am enough I may not be where I
want to be or the vision I have for what I'm capable of but I still deserve love in this moment I still
deserve to feel good I deserve to feel worthy like I have I'm worthy of taking up space in
conversations I don't have to put on this role and this Persona and try so hard to to be this created

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attractive character that everyone else has told me to be and also equally as important discarding
what is not true discarding what might be not where you are on the evolution of your journey you
know cuz some of the advice is talking to people who are 18 20 years old that's not always the best
advice to consume when you're 32 42 and above so if you see that realize that that's who it's for and
don't use it as what you're not doing or more things you need to do to feel better likewise you might
not align with someone's values and once you identify what their values are like huh this person's
exclusively about making money I'm not exclusively about making money maybe this isn't the best
person's values to follow that feels good um I have no clue

Closing Thoughts -- Your Next Move

if I'm going to post this or not but uh in the rare chance I do let me know if this was useful let me
know if you want more longer discussions like this just kind of brain dumping yeah that felt good
thank you for listening love you and stoked to be on this journey with you and leveling up let's go

How I BEAT Procrastination in 10 min: 2 Solutions (LIFE-CHANGING)

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ffv2SKxaCTs

Procrastination: Not What You Think

all right guys we need to have a serious conversation about procrastination cuz it is not what you
think thank you for all your comments on the videos but one of the top ones I got where is it just so
popular there's so many I can't find it oh yeah right here most of you watching including me know
exactly what to do but we're just too lazy to do it I used to think that too I used to think
procrastination is a discipline issue procrastination is a time management issue but none of those are
true and in this video I want to give you two of the biggest myths around procrastination that you
buy into to that's actually causing your procrastination to be worse and then we're also not going to
leave you hanging I want to give you the two best Solutions without these I wouldn't have the
business I wouldn't have a 1.8 million subscribers I know the pain of how much it sucks to
procrastinate it's like there's two possibilities right two paths you could go down doing it which
would take let's just say an hour and then resisting it putting it off and it takes you maybe after 10
hours you finally do it but those 10 hours you're not living your life you're not in a good State you it's
in the back of your head in your subconscious eating away your energy I should do that thing I got to
do that thing so even when you're avoiding it you know zoning out you're not enjoying the zone out
because you know you still have to do this thing right and in that way procrastination is a much
bigger issue than we often realize cuz it causes us to miss out on life not to be extra but that's
literally what it is you're sucking your life away when you're procrastinating so if you want to live life
you want to get things done I mean this is the issue name a bigger one myth number one is that
procrastination is a time

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Myth I

management issue so now you pull up videos on time management and you'll hear things which I
know you have you got to use the Eisenhower Matrix time box and 15 minutes on 5 minute breaks
because your dopamine levels reset honestly ask yourself if that was the solution you wouldn't
procrastinate your biggest breakthrough comes when you realize procrastination is not a lack of time
management it's not a logical issue it's an emotional one procrastination is a protection mechanism
I'm not protecting I'm a tough guy I'm not protecting anything come and take it look we all do this no
matter how tough we are no matter how many tattoos we have and lifted trucks and white monsters
we all have the protection mechanisms that we use any time you sense danger your brain your
amydala is firing off this is a Reptilian Brain right it was the first part to evolve we've had it for as long
as we've been evolving as humans and it fires off whenever there's danger or perceived threat and
you're options are fight fight Freeze or flee now of course the paper you're procrastinating on isn't an
actual uh armed man with a gun who's like holding you at stake the danger or the threat is not to
your survival but it's to your self-image intuitively you know this is true because think about what
you procrastinate on it's applying to jobs it's going up and talking to someone that you find attractive
the big paper it's your goals pretty much anything you'd put on your list for New Year on your goals
list we procrastinate we put it off and that's why most people don't make progress and the next year
they're like didn't I put this down last New Year's all of these bring up the fear in your amydala firing
off bing bing bing risk to our image risk to our survival risk of rejection we get anxiety and we don't
do it other examples could be the musician who's good enough but avoids releasing songs like they
just don't produce much uh out into the public they like to keep everything to themselves and
they're producing in private because releasing a song is releasing it to public opinion that's what your
migdala goes off and fires and says if we release it maybe people won't like it maybe they'll compare
it to my last work and maybe it's not as good maybe this person will write a mean review if you're at
a higher level or maybe my fans will reject it and so these fears start stacking up and you notice you
release less and less and less or maybe not at

Solution I

all how do you fix this well here's a solution so you can think of things on an opposite scale I find this
really useful what's the opposite of hot it's cold what's the opposite of up it's down what's the
opposite of North it's South everything has this sort of dualistic binary Pole to it but it's on the same
Spectrum hot and cold are on the spectrum of temperature up and down are on the spectrum of
Direction north and south are on the spectrum of geography the opposite of fear in anxiety is
excitement that's what I believe it is because think about anxiety anxiety is projecting into the future
and seeing the situation going wrong isn't that what it is if I go up and talk to them uh tell me to f off
and reject me if I submit the paper it'll fail if I start the business eight out of 10 fail and I'm going to
be one of them that's what it is you're projecting out into the future of what will go wrong
excitement is projecting out into the future and seeing the possibilities for you that could go right
you can get anxious that you have to go to the gym and lose weight or you can get excited that you
can transform your body you can get anxious about the dates or you can get excited to connect with
someone for a couple hours and hey maybe in the process you meet the love of your life you can get
anxious over the work you're going to do or you can get excited to crush a project you know I heard a
quote recently there's no such thing as writer block there's only an author who expects his book not
to sell writer's block what is that it's projecting this sucks this is terrible I can't write maybe I'm not a
writer and you crumple it up and you throw it away what if you sat down and expected that this was
going to sell millions of copies and unlock my future I'm going to get fan mail like no other like a
serial killer in jail getting love letters my Netflix has been a little dark lately sorry my point is that

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when you're trapped in the web of this procrastination Flash Forward and see things going right as
hard as that is what's the one thing you can get excited from and if you can just generate a little sliver
of excitement around a future outcome that's positive and in your favor that is how that is half the
battle right there is reframing it in your [Music]

Myth II

mind let's talk about the other half I procrastinate because I lack discipline here's some tough love
you know what another word for procrastinator is perfectionist you know what another word for
perfectionist is a control freak that everything has to go our way and I think it's so funny like when
we say perfectionists and I've said this in the past so I'm not coming down on you but you know
when you hear people say I'm a perfectionist as if it's like oh that's a good thing to be it's essentially
saying like everything I do has to be perfect and you know it's not really up to my standards but if if
you want it you know you you go for it little low standard person I realize that being a perfectionist is
the laziest thing I could be if Perfection is your standard guess what it doesn't exist so now you don't
have to do anything you don't have to say anything you don't have to do you can just sit in your room
until you find perfection somewhere well you're not going to find it in a relationship you're not going
to find it in yourself you're not going to find it in your work the imperfection is what gives it a little
grit it gives it Soul it gives it character right I guarantee the teachers that you remember growing up
weren't perfect in fact it was their flaws and their quirks that really attracted you to them and they
were memorable same thing with movies everything's not perfect about it it's the rough edges that
give something to stick to one thing here I'll say is a lot of this is deeper in fears and if you like this
you find this useful I find that answering a few simple journaling questions around your fears and
kind of seeing the smoke in the mirror really dissolves it so I'll link down below our seven Shadow
work questions that will help you and change your life uh it's 100% free it's in the link below click it
and it'll get sent right to you where am I going with this procrastination is not about discipline okay
it's not about ice baths it's not about trt dudes on the internet with shaved heads yelling at you that
you're a little it's the opposite it's about releasing control from an outcome releasing control not
trying to gain more of it there's a famous study out of atomic habits that he references in there if
you've read it it's a great book it was on uh students at a university one group essentially were the
perfectionists let's call it and the other group were the ones who were just having fun it was a
photography class he says you perfectionist groups you're graded on one photo at the end of the
year so if it's a 10 out of 10 just like perfect quintessence of an image that I could put on the cover of
a magazine you get an A this group said hey you're graded on just how many photos you shoot you
shoot a 100 it's an a you shoot 80 it's a b and so forth which group do you think had a better grade at
the end of the class these guys the quantity not the quality group and their photos were actually
better because they had more practice and they gave up control and they did it the reason I'm telling
you that is is cuz yes you want you have high standards that's great but your quality is going to come
through your quantity and you're never going to get

Solution II

quality without doing it and this is very relevant if you're in a business if you're a content creator if
you're an artist uh whatever you have like you get better by doing not by learning not by sitting in a
room with four walls in your apartment and being like okay I got to figure it out and then the one
time I do it it will be perfect so where are we going with this all right what's the solution here you go
after quantity not quality and understand that through the quality the quantity will come you don't
actually raise your standards because if they're already this High you will get more benefit to actually
lowering them I said it that's the cardinal sin with self-help motivational videos you're not supposed
to say lower your standards yeah there's a time to raise them but there's also a time to lower them

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and I think a lot of what this self-improvement has done to people and why we're not happy is
because you have too much and it can work against you to where now your standard is perfection
your standard is to never fail your standard is to never get rejected or look stupid or have everybody
love me it's impossible so if you lower them you're actually going to experience more of life you want
to be an author you want to be a writer you're struggling you're procrastinating the right your quota
doesn't become post uh Banger articles that get seen by millions of people it becomes I'm going to
write two crappy Pages a day I got to meditate for an hour no your quota becomes to just sit down
and do 3 minutes of breath work and if you meditate after it's a bonus I got to go to the gym every
day no no lower the standard maybe it's just you go in you do a 15minute sauna or whatever you
have the least amount of resistance towards and everything else is a bonus what you find is that
when you get in the gym if that's your standard you're like I a get dressed up for nothing let's go to
the let's let's hit the floor let's hit the weights getting moving is the best anti-procrastination hack
you can have whatever it is that just lets you start will get you momentum it'll get you quantity and
your quality will come through that here's a bonus question you

Bonus Tips

can throw in how can I make this fun you know I experiment sometimes here with the a few jokes uh
do a little improv and you know sometimes the jokes are a little cringe but I do them for me not even
for an audience and if the audience laughs great but like I leave things in intentionally because it's
fun and if I to get in this mode which I've had many times in my career where okay you're on the
other side of the room and okay we're getting polished and you know I I'll wear a turtleneck and
infinite black and talk about scientific like this posturing right getting it right it just sucks the fun out
of it and I never want to film those videos I I I lay down after and I'm just like on my couch like
Zapped I recently went back and I'm like what don't I have resistance towards it's when I have a small
setup like this and you know it's a I can touch the camera I can move it around on a tripod here
nothing crazy nothing complex and that's this is the setup I got to a million Subs with the only
problem is the camera broke that's why I you know kept upgrading so this was the old one I used and
I loved it cuz it's just a little like you can hold it like this and it looks decent so I went on Amazon and I
ordered the same camera even though it's not as good it's not as perfect and it just all the resistance
goes away the point is what makes you most comfortable is what will be the most fun for you you're
getting in your own way so how can you make this easy how can you make this fun and how can you
just get moving what do you think of the vid you guys like it hopefully uh smash hopefully hopefully
that was useful guys smash a like button subscribe love you I'll see you in the next one peace

5 Mindsets that RADICALLY change YOUR life

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQN1qZ00r8s

negativity is everywhere isn't it you're not even a negative person but it's on the news it's current
events what's happening it's social media it's that one coworker who won't let up you know who I'm
talking about mindsets serve as a filter between you and what you're experiencing and over the
course of a year two five having the right mindsets can be the difference between where you are and

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where you want to be so here are five that I believe if you use them and test run them this week will
immediately change your

life all of us have this fantasy in our mind subconsciously often that if we can just do enough blank
we can avoid blank if I just improve enough then I never have to experience insecurity fear doubt
rejection if I can just make enough money I never have to experience Financial stress worrying about
money thinking about money has even baked into our conventional path that soy has us follow get
educated for 20 years work really hard for 40 and then the last 20 years everything's magical right
you're exonerated from having struggles or problems in life retirement sit on the beach order pina
coladas you know we are retired baby we can just golf all day long the harsh truth is there is a law of
entropy you ever heard this term this is that things will Decay into chaos and disorder unless effort is
put in to reverse it great example uh you drive down i5 and you look and you see a car that is rusting
into the ground that happens over the course of 50 years lack of Maintenance not touching the thing
the rust is returning it Back To Nature right overgrown houses same way but if you maintain the car
you keep it in a garage you put a little bit of effort into it it doesn't rust into the ground this is what
entropy is it's if you don't maintain something with efforts or attention it will Decay back into
nothingness relationships work this way don't they maybe you've been in one where at first you put
a lot of effort and a Time and Time into it and attention and it feels amazing it feels awesome but
then it kind of like degrades into what do you want off Uber Eats what do you want to watch on
Netflix we've already seen that oh there's nothing good on this TV and ditching the fantasy that
they're supposed to be easy or were supposed to like live life on easy mode for me has personally
been extremely liberal ating right cuz once you realize that oh things are always going to be kind of
hard in work and that's why they're useful now all the resistance kind of gets wiped out and the only
thing left to do is put your head down and

work mindset number two we trick ourselves into thinking that if we plan and research and prepare
more that our results will be better and that couldn't be further from the truth recently I signed up
for improv classes and man this has been a humbling experience in prepping vers doing because your
instinct is like okay when I get on stage I want to have prepared what I'm going to do but the problem
is that that makes you come across as C overcooked um stiff it's not as authentic and that when you
go on stage and you just trust whatever comes out is what's meant to come out often times it's
funnier more authentic and the vibe is better I think that's analogous to Like Us in life you know we
want to prepare everything okay what am I going to say um what will they think of me if I do this and
it makes us come across as very calculated and more practically it just like traps you in your head and
you're overthinking I guess the lesson here for you is for every 1 hour of implementation that will
beat 10 hours of preparing researching and planning how can you get more into action mode instead
of research in learning mode cuz you can't learn to surf from a textbook you can't learn how to make
YouTube videos from just watching videos you have to do it you can't learn how to talk to women
from just hearing about other people's experiences doing it you have to do it you can't learn uh you
can't get a great physique from learning and perfecting what to do in the gym you have to lift the
weights whenever you're stuck whenever you're confused whenever you're lost make it simple
action action

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action mindset number three all right we're going deep for this one this is on radical acceptance
accepting every part of you and everything that has happened to you and I guess the bigger lesson
here the kind of one line I would summarize this with is it's impossible to shame yourself into selflove
all right it is impossible for you to shame yourself into loving yourself everything exists on kind of this
binary pole of like opposites right so you have love and you have fear you have depression and you
have expression um simple terms you know you could have happy and you could have sad hot and
cold up and down I feel like shame and vulnerability are on that Spectrum they're opposites shame
isolates you right you feel separate than others you feel that if people really knew me or these bad
parts that I have in myself or this you know what I did then they would reject me I'm dirty I'm less
than it can create this like Dark Cloud that isolates and closes you off the problem is that perpetuates
a lot of Shame based behaviors look at addictions right if you have a vaping habit and you're so
scared that other people are going to judge you for it you'll probably Vape alone in your house you'll
not want to go out with friends because you can't Vape in front of them uh at work you know you
have to sneak out and maybe do it in your car maybe even drive around the block whatever
addiction you have isolates you and causes you to withdraw more and it gets worse and worse and
worse I don't know man like the the further you get into self-improvement the less you want to
follow big name perfect gurus on stages that just feels unattainable and unrelatable and it's not a
good thing to model after like when you're a beginner you see that and you're like oh wow I can fix
myself right cuz the guy's like I was fearful and I overcame it with 17 steps wow I can fix myself and I
feel shamed about my fear or my lack of confidence or my backstory and maybe I can just fix all that
and then boom I am confident it's reversed that the more you accept yourself and you realize there's
nothing to fix cuz you're not broken the more confidence comes through you because you radically
accept yourself and now you don't even need like 20 steps and 18 plans and whatever when you see
people who are radically themselves that gives us permission to do the same right cuz shame isolates
us and the more you look at Perfection the more shame we feel internally but when you see two
people you know and this is one of the reasons I think like comedy podcasts are so uh popular not
even because they're funny but because which they are often times but because they're just being
real unfiltered raw that is refreshing to so many people that's actually vulnerability that connects us
right the experience you feel after listening to a very vulnerable conversation is connected at peace
okay it helps you accept yourself more when you see people who have accepted themselves that is
what I'm talking about here the difference between shame verse acceptance shame vers
vulnerability and that it is impossible to shame yourself into self-love that that will only come from
radical acceptance and if you're interested in the self-acceptance work I'll link down below seven
questions seven Shadow work questions that helped me through the years 100% free bonus for
YouTube

Subs moving on to mindset number four this mindset is rest is not weakness so when I was coming
up with entrepreneurship the Inn was grind set that's what it was all about is how hard can you work
someone else is working while you're sleeping and if you're not 16 hours a day falling asleep with
your laptop you're blowing it dude alpha male memes on Instagram with like Wolf of Wall Street
backgrounds that was the state of Entrepreneurship was how bad do you want it and maybe this is
like an age thing right now that I'm in my 30s and not 20s I've realized the importance of deep rest
it'd be like if you had a battery on your phone or any device and you just drain the thing and then
you're complaining like why why won't this thing turn on nothing's broken with it it just needs to
charge I mean just take the word grind what is that it's like a salt shaker where you grind yourself

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down to the smallest piece that's what you're doing with yourself if you believe in the grind set and
work without rest yeah so I guess this point is that rest is as important as your output and I think that
when you prioritize rest your outputs will be better mindset number five I heard this

10 years ago that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond those who have the
mindset of where things are never their fault it's other people's problems they blame everything on
a government or a system or other people that is a victim mindset that I can't do anything about this
it's someone else's fault who to blank I was rereading this book the courage to be disliked and it has
an extreme approach of this it says that trauma doesn't exist and I know that one's a hard one to
hear I don't even know if I go that extreme but the perspective is based on adelan psychology who
was with Freud and Carl Yun uh kind of that that Trio back in the day Alfred Adler said that if
traumatic experiences did exist and it wasn't an interpretation of it everybody would have the same
uh experience afterwards so two people who experienced a traumatic event if it was objectively true
they would have the same trauma lingering after the fact every single story it's not Everything went
perfect it's they overcame struggles and challenges that's what every great sports movie is that's
what every great action movie is that's what every great life story is it's about overcoming the
adversity and to do that you can't stay in a victim Loop that keeps you stuck you have to take 100%
ownership whether you like it or not doesn't matter whether it's even true or not doesn't matter so
anyways I'm rambling we'll wrap this one up life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react
hey if you like this video can you give it a big thumbs up and I'll link up right here a perfect followup
for you next till next time stop settling start living peace

How Mastering Detachment will change YOUR life!

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0bL4MN7mOM

Intro

one of the most confusing things you will come across in your development is the Paradox of
Detachment how are you supposed to care enough to where you're motivated to get out there and
become your best self achieve your goals but you can't care too much because then that's being over
attached and you actually push away the thing the person what you want so in this video I want to
have a conversation about that concept Detachment and how it can change your life let's look at it
from not just one area but three Detachment from yourself Detachment from the timelines of goals
you have and Detachment from your performance now if you're over attached in any one of these
three areas your results are going to be way worse not better and life is going to be literally 10 times
harder for you I promise as someone who's a chronic over attacher once I started loosening up life
got more fun you get your confidence back you get your energy back and things seem to take less

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What is Detachment

effort let's first Define what the heck we're talking about most people go wrong when they hear the
word Detachment we get it confused with numbing out can't pay the bills who cares I'm detached
wife left me I'm detached who cares don't get the concept of Detachment confused with feeling
apathetic and feeling nothing for anything Detachment is being selective of what you're choosing to
care about but in the same way too many calories get stored as fat excess energy stores in you
literally as fat excess importance or caring get stored in you as anxiety as nerves the reason we're
drained is because we're processing so much of like how does that sound how do they like me how
am I looking And that literally takes energy away from you your brain literally consumes 20% of your
calories that's what I've learned is when I'm caring way too much about things it blocks that Flow
State it blocks that true you from coming out I've used this analogy in the past but it really sets it up
you have a phone right now okay and if you just toss it up like if you're bored sitting there you can do
this all day long can't you you know you might even give it a little spin you might do it one handed
Etc that's your ability to toss your phone it's easy you don't think about it and you don't doubt
yourself can I toss this phone no you just do it but what if we make one simple change okay this is
the only change we're doing with you you go up to like the fifth Story in a mall and you hold your
phone over the ledge all the way down you can see and you just give it a little toss like that like Ju
Just a Little Bit same exact scenario as you were doing earlier where you got all fancy with the moves
but because the importance changed because you have so much attachment to not dropping your
phone it causes your body to respond completely differently and you get in your head and you might
actually mess it up you have to understand that life works the exact same way way is that we place
all this mental importance around goals or people or outcomes and it's the equivalent of us having
the potential to do something just like this this is the ease the effortlessness of life that you can
operate with and then we get in our head and we act as if we're living life metaphorically here over
that fifth story balcony and the secret is not numbing out the secret is having the appropriate
amounts of Detachment so I hope that's clear that's a little bit about Detachment what what it is and
what it's not but let's first look at where it messes you up in the common pitfalls of the first area if
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Detach from Self

today so the first area is detaching from your self image you're not wrong if you want people to view
you a certain way that is completely normal in human nature but here's how caring about your
image so much can mess you up if you're over attached to a date that causes you to perform worse
not better you go in in your head thinking you know this is my one thing I can't mess it up you hear
terms like they have to be the one I got a big date tonight those are all signs that were caring too
much about the thing in fact my girlfriend little embarrassing story but like I was going through this
weird influencer cringe phase I met her and I was trying to do this like performance and come off a
certain way and she tells me now like dude I almost didn't go on a second date with you why is he
posing like that why is he talking like that and it was only as soon as I relaxed and was able to like chill
down a bit you know we got the second third third fourth date Etc oh that's the real you I actually
like that person and so I tell that story because that's a very very true Point here when we're caring
about how we're coming across we're making the whole thing about us I remember once there was a

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member in our coaching program who was a new coach and he was talking about how he get so
nervous coaching others I don't like how I'm sing I don't like how I look you know I can talk about this
off camera but as soon as the camera's there like I freeze up totally get it I've had that many times in
my life I gave him some brutal advice I said who are you trying to serve is it you or is it other people
cuz what I just heard you're making the entire thing about you and if your goal is service or reaching
people or connecting is the thing actually about you no people are caring about like what's in it for
me so when you detach from how you're looking or sounding you're able to relax more and in that
relaxed state is the truer version of you which is very appeal healing and I'm willing to bet is more
likable than the mask the facade that we all put on and fall into isn't it this is very common to have a
ton of attachment to and it will mess you up I have to be a millionaire by 30 I have to get married by
age 35 with kids I have to be at X stage in my career by X age like we always associate goals with the
timeline and that's okay for some goals and that can be useful but where I it really messes us up is
when it has to be a certain way that also brings a lot of pressure now there's a common saying in
motivational spaces you know pressure creates diamonds it's a testosterone fueled rant and the
motivational speakers like screaming at you on a Tik Tok pressure creates diamonds if you're under
pressure that's good it's true pressure does create diamonds but it also collapses Bridges pressure
can also cause you to think shortterm instead of longterm and most of the goals you set are for the
longterm and not the short term so if you're finding yourself under a ton of pressure that's a good
indicator that you have a lot of attachment to your timelines of when things have to be how things
have to be and again you're not alone you're not crazy for this this is completely normal and human
in fact I struggled with this this was like my biggest one throughout my 20s I said I wanted to uh have
a business and you know be financially free by the time I was 30 but I also said I wanted to be a rock
star like growing up that was my one dream was to tour in a band play Warp Tour uh get to live in a
tour bus play international shows I would sit down at my drum kit and play for like you know 8 hours
a day thinking okay that's going to be my dream and the timeline I'd set for myself is in my 20s I'm
going to tour professionally I have to do it well I went to college and still wasn't in bands I was still
doing everything I can but you know bands can get flaky or dealing with a lot of people and guys and
timelines and everything like that so didn't have a band and and came out of college and I was like
you know what maybe this dream just didn't work out for me maybe I'm just going to be the 70 80-
year-old guy uh looking back regretting not being able to tour in a band and it really hurt but in that
time I started this business okay I started making some YouTube videos and I started uh getting this
thing off the ground now here's the freaky thing about timelines my timeline was I'm going to tour in
a band and then I'm going to have a business that's really successful but here's what happened after I
started building this business one of my old drum covers got seen by a band they called me up and
they're like dude are you in La fly down here we need a drummer I couldn't believe it and the rest is
history I got to go all around the world playing soldout shows and festivals and touring with one of
my favorite bands from childhood so I got to achieve the dream I wanted but the best part is that the
timeline was even better than I could have imagined because now I had the business that I could run
in the background while on tour so every failure of a goal you've had maybe that was a good thing
and I guarantee you you can look back on your life and say like dude I really wanted that outcome
and I was really attached to it but now I can see how not getting it was actually a benefit to me
because it allowed me to go after what I really wanted or you know not that person I was so
heartbroken over and I was super attached to that is the outcome it has to be that person or that
timeline now after splitting and you know 5 years REM moved I can look back and be thankful cuz I
found better relationships yes you have a timeline but I believe God the universe has a different
timeline for you and sometimes you not getting the thing is actually a good thing because it might be
on a better timeline than you could have even

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Detach from Performance

imagined here is the last area that we need to talk about this one's very important it might be the
most important one this area is detaching over over your performance there might be a part of you
when you hear the concept of detachments or not caring that sort of wants to resist and Fight It The
excuses we have I need to prepare I want things to go well I want to anticipate mistakes so I don't
make them understand that most of these are rationalizations and they don't actually make you
perform better most people just want confidence everyone says oh I just want to be confident and
then I can trust myself but you know what the root word of confidence is it means intense trust like
when you really trust yourself you're detached when you really trust your abilities you're not
overthinking when you really trust that life is going to work out for you that is when you can tap into
Detachment yeah you're going to be in a relationship and there's a very real possibility that if you put
yourself out there and you're completely vulnerable you can get your heartbroken that'll hurt way
more than if you're kind of guarded right but you have the intense trust in yourself that things will
work out and if it's not that person it's not meant to be you'll find one that is over attachment is a
control issue I know you want to control things cuz you think if I can control it it will be better
because I have the steering wheel I can control it I have my destiny in my own hands the moment
you try to control life in people you actually push it away and so much of your life is uncontrollable it
requires trust the best things in life require trust take a relationship do you want to be in a
relationship with someone who's controlling isn't that one of the biggest reasons people leave oh
smothering he was controlling every single thing I did and what do people say when they have a
controlling relationship I wish you trusted me more so if you want to start tapping into this detached
place of where you care but you don't care too much you need to start trusting yourself more so to
recap the key points here for you when you're over attached that gets you worse results not better
you end up placing too much importance on an outcome and just like excess energy is stored as fat
on you excess importance around caring too much is stored in your body as anxiety so the solution is
not to stop caring altogether it's to have the appropriate amount of Detachment which allows you to
tap into your true confidence and trust yourself you can detach from your image you can detach
from controlling outcomes and you can detach from timelines if you want a deep dive on like actually
how to do this I'll link down below our metamorphic program we spend all of week three going over
just this what do you do when you care too much like how do I reprogram my subconscious mind uh
towards what I want instead of just like baggage from my last 20 years that I'm carrying with me you
get to work one-on-one with a coach it's really cool shadow work and all that that's in the link below
again no pressure but if you're a fan of the channel and what we talk about here I know like this is
the next step for you speaking of next steps a lot of Detachment goes hand inand with letting go
letting go can be a how-to in itself so I'll link up right here a perfect follow-up video on letting go
thanks so much for being here see you in the next one stop settling start living start detaching see
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 How to Achieve More in 1 Month than Most People Do in 12 Months
Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJ_HacmHuzQ

What You'll Learn

so you all like that last video we did a couple months ago how to get more done in one week than
most people do in one year we're giving the people what they want we're doing how to get more
done in one month than most people do in one year I want to go over five reasons why productivity
advice is complete and utter BS and what you should do instead I do want to give credit before we
jump in a lot of these ideas come from the book The one thing one of my favorites you can read it in
like 2 hours doesn't take too much brain power which is probably why it's my favorite and it's got a
lot of pictures big idea number one this is the myth that you need to be

My Story

productive okay and I want to tell you a personal story I don't share much in videos I think I've shared
it maybe once or twice about how productivity almost ruined my life when I was coming of age in my
20s it was a very interesting time for social media content there weren't a lot of videos on balancing
your mental health recharging like good self-improvement advice it was grind set it was like
entrepreneur bro you know someone's working while you're sleeping if you don't want it as bad as
you want to breathe you're going to fail Gary ve is screaming at you you got to hustle for 16 hours a
day I didn't know any better and I thought that sounded legit and that's exactly what I did from age
20 to probably 27 I mean no exaggeration I was working 16 hours a day I would fall asleep with my
laptop looking at like a spreadsheet or metrics or analytics every single second of every day and
worse I had this guilt if I wasn't doing that then I I I can't be relaxing right now cuz that means I don't
want it I mean this is crazy I was at family vacations or Christmas and feeling guilty that I wasn't
working and on my grind I would drink all the time to like wind down then I would do a lot of caffeine
to led up it was a mess my health was terrible my sleep was terrible and one day it all came crashing
down I woke up business as usual okay 16-hour workday Starts Now opened my laptop and
immediately I feel beads of sweat coming down my face my face feels cold I feel numb my heart
rate's racing I'm hyperventilating that's a very scary feeling I immediately went to oh my God I'm
having a heart attack I'm only like 20 what is going on so I I call 911 and they come in the apartment
take my Vital Signs yeah everything looks fine look dude this is a panic attack and I'll be honest my
pride was like panic attack what are you talking about but when I was able to finally call myself down
looking back on it they were 100% right I had never experienced that in my life that was from being
overwhelmed overworked and overstressed and so I made the decision there that I got to get
healthy and part of getting healthy is fixing this mindset that you always have to be productive at
everything that that might be the thing that's holding me back I moved to Scott steel Arizona I said
I'm not leaving this place until I fix that lifestyle and until I actually find a sustainable authentic way
to grow my business and my career the crazy thing is that it worked I went from working probably
16-hour days down to a manageable 10 and I got way more done I went from feeling overwhelmed
and stressed all the time to having a couple projects that I felt really good about that were way more
successful than anything I'd ever done went from posting five videos a week down to one and it took
off see this is the very first thing I want to drill into your mind the

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I

myth is be productive at everything the solution is be focused on the right things what is the right
thing for you well I guarantee it's not 20 or 30 or 40 things it's one thing the biggest companies you
know do this and that's why they're billion dooll companies KFC they're one thing chicken apple their
one thing the i product iMac iPod I Suite Google they started out their one thing one website search
uh Intel their one thing microprocessors we could go down the list and every single company started
as one thing one Focus that they did very very very well what is the one thing that if you got done
this month could wipe out everything else like everything else didn't matter this one thing does one
week one day and keep asking yourself what is most important if you're like well I don't know what
my one thing is we'll come back to this with more tactics but I want to keep this moving and go to
number two so I

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want to talk about the myth of willpower where there's a will there's a way when you look at
research willpower isn't infinite it's finite it's a renewable resource that replenishes but you don't
have an unlimited amount of it and there's one study that I find so fascinating I wanted to share here
it looked at Israeli parole systems and their breaks so they studied over a thousand parole hearings
that determined if an inmate got off early for good behavior or if they had to you know complete
their full sentence you you know what they found was the biggest determining factor of if it was a
yes or a no it was lunchtime at the morning they had you know 60% chance and then it faded down
to next to zero until they had their am break then it went back up and it faded down to zero until
they had their PM break their afternoon and then by the end of the day it was Zero again imagine a
lack of a tuna sandwich being the reason you had to serve an extra 5 years I wanted to let you off but
you know I was really hungry man your brain is 1/50th of your body weight but it uses a fifth of your
total energy thinking makes you tired decisions make you tired what also depletes willpower having a
lot of fear H doing things you don't love that requires more energy so if you're going to a job every
day and then at the end you want to like build your side hustle or your passion or create art and
you're wondering man why don't I have the willpower it's because if you're doing something you
don't love for 8 hours you know by the end of it who doesn't want to just curl up and sit on their
couch it's going to take way more willpower from you practically you know this to be true like when
do most people cheat on their diet it's not first thing in the morning you know you you grab a ice
cream from the freezer it's at 11:00 p.m. at night right you can be good for like 23 and 1 half hours of
the day but it's that last 30 minutes when you're tired and your willpower is depleted like the judges
that it gets you and you cave so this is why productivity advice yeah it matters but time of day also
matters and there's a saying I love which is manage your energy not your time so the solution here
more practically finding your golden hours the times where you're best you have the most willpower
you're freshest for me personally this is first thing in the morning you know the first two hours of my
day I get in a flow State it's when I'm making this video I do the most important thing first thing in
the morning but for some you know I know some musicians and authors who make their best work
after 11: p.m that's their golden hour that's their best time of day it'll vary for you but then also what
I find is maybe more important finding your Siesta hours is what I call it you know where they have a
siesta midday break so the times a day where you're not your best you know that you're a little
sluggish or tired again this will be different for you for me personally it's normally after lunch so from
like 11:00 p.m. to 2: or 300 p.m. that's when I'm chilling or doing some more uh admin tasks or low
effort thing or maybe I'll take a break totally go on a walk watch a show totally recharge during that
time you want to talk productivity hacks I mean this has been one of the biggest ones for me the if
you do nothing else but this this week is audit yourself like when am I freshest when can I think the

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clearest talk the clearest when am I at my best and then what are the times of days where yeah I
need to chill out a bit more and this is how you manage your energy not your time and I guarantee
you if you prioritize like doing your one thing during the hours that you're freshest you'll get way
more done let's keep going with practical stuff uh the

III

next point do not click off thinking you've heard this before because this is super super important
and every single time I hang around millionaires or friends that have really successful businesses
they're obsessed with this one principle so it's not just like oh that's a beginner concept this is it right
here like in fact this might be the most important concept of the video there was an economist who
was in his garden one day Pro 1800s somewhere around there and he noticed a pattern that 20% of
his pods were yielding 80% of the p and what's fascinating is that other economists found that
principle in practically every area it was showing up 20% of the roads get 80% of the traffic 20% of
your clothes probably get 80% of the wear and my favorite 20% of the people drink 80% of the beer
which was definitely me before I went sober better known as the 8020 principle that 20% of your
input is giving you 80% of your output and this is the problem with productivity advice is it's treating
everything as equal and so what happens here you come up with a to-do list right have you ever
made one of these well you know that when you make a to-do list and you put everything you need
to get done on there what usually gets checked off first the easy things but man there's really two
things on there that are actually going to progress you towards your vision or your goal your big goal
and those are usually the ones we're avoiding that's what I realized when I audited my to-do list back
from in the day Your solution is not making a to-do list it's making a success list so right out
everything you need to do that's fine but then ask yourself what's this 20% of this and then cross out
everything that doesn't matter I did this um even one step further I don't make to-do lists for a day I
make them for a week and let me know if you want a video on this but this changed the game for me
that instead of daily to-do list where you write out everything you do weekly to-do list things feel
more manageable when you look at your whole week instead of just a dayto day to recap Point
number three 20% of your hours will give you 80% of the results write out everything you need to do
cross out anything that's not important in that 20% and if you want to go a step further experiment
with a weekly to-do list cuz then you'll only put on there what matters instead of the little things that
you get stuck in the check off game with moving on to point number

IV

four I'll try and get out of the way for this one this one is on multitasking and how it's one of the
biggest scams out there that even some companies are like we want you to be really good
multitasker can handle multiple projects at once you know that's a complete myth that when you're
doing two things at once your brain isn't doing two things it's not split it's bouncing back and forth
very very fast in fact there was some research that was interesting that said uh every 11 minutes in a
corporate workplace is how the average person how much the average person gets interrupted and
then an estimated onethird of the entire day is lost to these interruptions there was some more
research in a New York Times article driven to distractions that said 16% of all car fatalities were due
to distracted driving two things at once what's more interesting is that people who self are self-
proclaimed like good multitaskers they overestimate the amount of time things will take versus
people who are like yeah I can only do one thing at a time but why is is this is it simply the doing two
things at once it's something deeper it's a principle called task switching okay that when you are
doing one thing and then you go to the second thing your brain has to reset and get in the flow state
for that second thing you I know you've experienced this um you know if if someone if you're
working on a project and then you get interrupted and then you have to go to a meeting or you have

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to get on a zoom meeting well getting back to that project you know it's not just you snap back
instantly takes you 10 20 30 minutes sometimes you don't even get back in that flow State it's that
serious um now there are some times where this doesn't really matter as much with less cognitive
demand cognitively demanding tasks like if you're doing the dishes and then you go take out the
trash that's not going to be like oh it takes me 10 to 20 minutes it's the things where you're in a flow
state where you're really deep in your work where you're connecting the dots in other words it looks
sort of like this okay I have a wrong approach and a right approach I got this from the one thing
there's work then you switch you have to reorient yourself maybe there's a distraction then you
switch you have to reorient yourself back to the work this is how much time it takes that can be a
whole day where you have only two really good work blocks in it because of the distractions versus
when you block out time and you get in a flow State and you don't have distractions it looks more
like this and what you find is that in 2 to 4 hours you can get done what most people would get done
in 8 to 10 hours maybe not at all when everyone started working from home a funny thing happened
people were able to get done 8 hours of work in four and there were actually some people who took
two even three jobs with that extra time cuz they were more productive and they were making two
300 Grand on multiple salaries it's pretty funny they able to do that it's because when there were no
distractions in their home they were able to bang out their 8-hour day in sometimes 3 or 4 hours my
girlfriend uh knows this about me that the first couple hours of my day you know I have the door
shut I get up extremely early and to not interrupt me I know that sounds very intense and at the
beginning you know we even had a few fights on it because she's like why are you rude to me in the
morning I'm like I'm not trying to be rude I'm just really focused on this and then when I'm done with
this I'll give you you you know I'll be happier and I'll I'll give you a lot of time and now she totally
respects it but that was a boundary that I had to set living with someone is like dude if my do shut
first thing in the morning I'm like hunkered down at work another thing that really helped me you
might want to consider I theme my days throughout the week so I found instead of doing a little bit
each day uh for what I do with content creation coaching program design everything that needs to
get done I wear a lot of hats well if I do all my filming on Monday all my writing on Tuesday or
Thursday all my admin on Wednesday or meetings that works way better because your brain isn't
switching between those 15 different tasks so another question for you you really want to be
productive how can you batch your tasks into one two maybe three days a week and then you have
some creative days as well that's worked extremely well for me over the years all right one more
there's one

more important point and it's on habits a lot of people can beat themselves up because they can't
maintain them right you ever tried to do an exercise program and you fall off after a couple weeks or
you know you oscillate between extremes like I'm going to stop doing everything I know is bad for
me and start doing everything that's good for me but there's interesting research out on habit
change so over here we have discipline and effort that you're putting in the amount and down here
we have time so right here is where it doesn't take as much effort and discipline and it becomes
automatic for you uh you don't have all this effort learning how to tie your shoe when you go to tie it
because you've done it so many times it's automatic same thing with you driving like it remember
the first couple times you drove and you're like pitting out because you're using so much energy and
your mom's screaming at you and you're just like doing everything you can not to crash but now
people can drive to the gym and eat a Chipotle burrito right so this is what happens over time with
everything it gets easier this right here is the magical number how long does it take to develop a
habit you would say 21 days most people would that's the common literature University College of
London actually found when they studied people it took 66 days that's a big difference 21 days that's

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over three times that that it takes to really solidify a habit and the bigger the habits the longer it'll
probably take so why am I putting this in here because if you're trying to develop new habits like
getting up early or putting in work or focusing on your one thing it's so easy to beat ourselves up and
say well I couldn't do it for 21 days or even a week I quit so that's just not for me or it doesn't work
but be easy on yourself cuz you're not broken you're not a failure if it takes you longer in fact it will
probably take you 66 days because when you focus on

What You Learned

your one thing you're worried about being focused not productive you know your golden hours and
you prioritize those you have a success list a weekly one you also time block and you're not
distracted losing tons of time and you give it 66 days that's how you'll get more done in one month
than most people do in a distracted year if you want our free 11 questions to change your life I'll link
them down below for YouTube you subscribers you'll also be on our email list where I send out a
weekly email broadcast with uh good tips as well thanks so much for watching see you in the next
one stop settling start living see you

How to Achieve More in 1 Week than Most People Do in 12 months

Clark Kegley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-oXigF0frLE

Why this video's for you

is there anything better than that sound probably not good for you but I'm trying to get more done in
one week than most do in one year you have to watch this video at 75 speed cuz there just so much
coming at you at once why is it that despite having 24 hours in a day every single one of us on this
planet we're all equal in the amount of time we have we're definitely not equal in results why is it
that some people can get more done in a day than most people can do in an entire month and in this
video I want to teach you not how to get the most out

Is "productivity" harming you?

of your time cuz you can go to videos on productivity advice and okay organize your day in this like a
lot of productivity advice have you noticed this it just teaches you how to be busy like how to be a
better robot at executing these tasks do you ever zoom out and wonder am I focusing on the right
tasks cuz who cares if you're productive if you're productive on the wrong things busy verse true
productivity this is what we're talking about in this video and man if you just focus on what uh these
four questions I'll give you in this like higher level perspective I mean this is literally the difference
between you having 5 years of busy work versus 5 years of going towards your purpose so with that
let's get into it so we hit him with the chart

The 3 Stages of Your Life

let's hit him with the chart almost hit me with the chart we're using the Sharpie Magnum baby the
only time I've ever been able to use Magnums in my life here we have age 0 to 80 years old now if
you take your life and divide it up into three major stages you would have something like this phase

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one we could call Young 0 to 25 years old you're in college you're in school you're learning you're
soaking in information preparing to get into when you're in phase two could call this your adulthood
you know this is you in a career this is you working this is you grinding it out all while hoping for the
last days the last 20 years call this old season that's a better word for it you're you got experience this
is the narrative that people pass down to you through school they say oh you got to go to high school
you get out when you're 18 years old then if you go to college if you're smart right and you go to
college so you can get a job that you can work for 40 years with the hopes of retiring the last 20 years
of your life that is the standard narrative that's been passed down for probably the last hundred
years that everybody subconsciously believes that's life and without questioning it most just accept
that's how it is in other words most people are sleep

PART I

walking through life this is the point I want to get through your head that if you want to get more
done in one week than most people do in a whole year fact I would say an entire decade maybe even
a lifetime you just wake up Ben Franklin has one of the hardest hitting quotes he said that most
people people die at the age of 25 but we just bury them at age 75 oo I heard that when I was in my
20s and it hit me now here's what's crazy all right

The uncomfortable truth

let's add a few more points here the average life expectancy is right around here 77 years in the USA
when I looked it up before this video one other stat that just breaks my heart when surveyed up to
85% of American don't like their job they literally say they're dissatisfied like I wouldn't choose this
gig but you know I'm doing what I got to do now most people are retiring around the age of 65 life is
expensive inflation cost of living goes up so we have this fantasy in our head that okay you know
once I'm done working then I can start living like once I push through this career and my kids are out
of the house then I can finally start living for myself then I can finally follow my passion or then I can
travel the world or sit on the beach sipping pina coladas or whatever that like fantasy is in our head
but the sad reality is that if you don't love what's in here you're missing out on a majority of your life
your sleep walking through it most people are dying at the age of 25 and we don't bury him till the
age of 75 man is that the truth and so what

The light at the end of the tunnel

what is my point here like there's a light at the end of the tunnel it is not over for you in fact it's far
from over and in fact the sooner you saw this video and the sooner you're able to wake up to the
illusion of what people have planned for you and the life that others are like subconsciously
programming you to live the sooner you can actually start living and waking up sleepwalking through
life is the number one thing you have to avoid I'm not even showing you this like most people who
show you this are like and that's why you got to start a business if you're not Drop Shipping you're
wasting these years bit of a tangent but that can be a fantasy in itself for a lot of people most people
aren't cut out for that to be totally honest and that can cause them the Sleepwalk through life just
chasing this one day one day one day and it prevents them from actually living you don't have to
start a business to love your life getting rich isn't the only thing isn't the only way to feel like you're a
somebody in fact the feeling of you have to be a somebody that can be the very curse that's holding
you back to begin with that can be the thing that makes you fall asleep and sleep walks through life
saying oh yeah when I'm finally successful when I'm finally there when I'm there when I'm there I
don't know man not to go like too deep and

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Are you living... or preparing to live?

tangental here cuz I sometimes I wonder like how much of our improvements is us just preparing to
live versus actually living cuz those are two different things like you preparing and learning how to
live even watching these videos and reading these books this isn't actually living this is preparing you
to go out and live but if all you're doing is consuming information like this and consuming content
like just preparing okay that's how this person says to live the good life and this person at some point
you got to get out of the house you got to live live your life some point you got to realize what do I
actually want what everyone else says with the guy on YouTube who's jacked and has a nice car and a
business like is he happy I don't know we'll never know at a certain point you choose to wake up for
yourself and at the moment you wake up for yourself and choose which will give you four questions
here next that is the moment that you get more done than most people do in a year in a decade
because you're waking up you're not sleeping walking you're not waiting till you're 75 years old to
get buried and you died at 25 is this first part making sense is this first part giving you an exential
crisis no wrong

PART II

Mission so now I have a question for you who are the best people at helping you level up are they
the ones with the answers people telling you what to do I don't think so I think it's a very lazy childish
way like we go looking for the answers in school our parents is this okay the society accept me for
this like we want to be told what to do that's the reason you're stuck because you're looking to other
people to decide what should you do the best coaches don't have the answers they have the
questions and so in this remainder of this video I

How to use The 4 Questions

know you're thinking well how how do I actually apply this I want to give you four questions and I
don't want this to be another video that you you know forget about and say okay that's on my to-do
list for later I really want you to write down these four questions and promise me that tomorrow
morning you're going to go to a coffee shop you're going to order the biggest freaking coffee they got
you're going to sit down at the journal and you're going to answer these four questions you do that I
promise you this week you will get more done than most people do in an entire year because this is
how you wake up from the narrative that is subconsciously just pounded into you from society from
school from your parents we got a deal all right cool let's do it Magnum for the second time today
two times in one day never been able to do that these are ranked in order of importance where I
would spend and allocate a majority of your time by the way question number one what would I do

Question I

if I was fearless and could not fail what would you do if you were fearless and could not fail you have
to answer this question in that specific syntax fearless and could not fail there's only two motivators
for human beings pain and pleasure you're either working towards something you want or you're
running away trying to avoid something that happen to you or that's painful so what would you do if
you were fearless and could not fail often times we have these dreams and these seedlings that perk
up in your mind and watch how fast you shoot it down like hey that person's posting covers on
YouTube why don't you post something on there or like you're inspired by them why why don't you
do that and then you shoot it down with oh no you don't have the gear you don't have the skill you'll
get laughed at it'll fail it's a waste of time you're too busy it's too expensive it's too saturated Bo wow
that person just walks up to them and starts a conversation he's attracted he walks up and they're
talking what if I did that no you're going to get rejected everyone's going to watch you it's going to be

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embarrassing you're going to be humiliated Etc every time you have the solution come up there's
another part of you that's shooting it down out of fear and so when you remove move Fearless could
not fail and you remove the possibility of failure what do you want to do you might question yourself
and be like I would not be working the same job if you would be working that same job or in that
career congrats that's good data but if you're in the 85% I mentioned earlier who don't like their job
and what they're doing well then the reason they're staying stuck is out of comfort and it's risky and
the reason they view it as risky is because they don't answer this question of like let's just explore
what could happen if you were fearless and could not fail I want you tomorrow to list as many of
these options as possible if you want our help Reinventing yourself I'll link down below our
metamorphic coaching program where we help individuals like you go from watching all this
education that's really just entertainment into implementing it I've worked with over 900 people just
like you watching the YouTube videos being like how the heck do I use this is my life any different
different than it was last year completely wipe the Slate clean reinvent yourself and normally if
you're going through like a transitory time break up wanting to switch jobs uh getting out of college
like like those big moments we always say your breakdowns can be breakthroughs if you use them
it's the perfect time so if you're someone who's looking to ask the tough questions reinvent yourself
then I'll link down below we can talk to one of our coaches for free see if it's for you question
number two let's mix it up what will I

Question II

be most proud of one year from today what are you a year from today going to be most proud of I
think it's very important to use the word proud of I'm not talking about egoic Pride like look at me
I'm the man I'm feeling proud of your character that's very different my point what will you be most
proud of a year from now is it getting in the best shape of your life and not just talking about it and
saying it with empty words but like actually putting some focus and energy behind it is it committing
in your relationship getting married getting engaged maybe this is the year that happens finally
getting out of debt fixing the finances is it transitioning jobs and making a big leap that you've been
putting off whatever it is I'm just throwing out ideas here what are you going to be most proud of a
year from now man this could be its own video but um one of the things I've been processing and
playing with this year uh you know this is probably 15 years in the self-improvement space believe it
or not making videos for 12 is there's kind of two camps with self-improvement I've realized the first
Camp is like very heavy and it's almost approaching self-improvement of self-hate and it's really toxic
take your shirt off and say you're fat you're a loser in the mirror and that should motivate you like it's
motivating you out of fear this other Camp is motivating yourself out of excitement and what's best
for you and what you want to do this is like I'm afraid to get in trouble and it's very childish total
different energy here I remember running this business and I was operating out of this camp like
okay I'm going to force myself to do things when I don't feel like it I'm going to use discipline because
discipline is freedom all these things that sound good and Tik Tok and Instagram sound bites but um
if you use them and let them be your North Stars and guiding principles you're going to end up with a
life that you resist a lot of and I had to ask myself why am I forcing things do I my whole life to feel
like I'm forcing myself to do things because I don't feel like it why don't I feel like doing things and so
that's where this Camp comes and you know I pivoted my whole business a while ago Dude I feel like
every year I'm pivoting and Reinventing yourself and trying to find ways that are not lazy right where
you're avoiding efforts but feel more effortless because they're more in lined friction comes when
grooves are misaligned you got two gears grinding against each other that's a lot of friction and
eventually they're either going to grind themselves to where they fit and there's not a lot of friction
or they're going to stop the whole machine and it breaks that's kind of what happens when you grind
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to stop everything or you're going to find a way to make it work and make it more effortless I hope
that point makes sense so this question what will I be most proud of one year from today I think that
when you go after feeling excited feeling proud making things fun these are ways you can tap more
into this effortless self-improvement instead of this just like heaviness in this grinding and forcing
things you know but question

Question III

number three might be the most important one what are the three things I need to stop doing I want
you to identify three things that if you didn't do would help you get out of your own way and would
be better for you getting more done in one week than most do in an entire year by waking up
choosing what you want yes that comes from what you're doing but I found and haven't you noticed
this success is equal parts about what you're not doing in the same way we could use dieting as an
example you know I got a few extra lbs on me trying to get ready for Beach season here tracking
some calories I learned very quickly how easy it is to stop eating 1,000 calories versus how hard it is
to try and burn 1,000 calories you know you want to burn 1,000 calories go on a 2hour run and don't
stop that's literally the amount of effort it takes to burn th000 calories or we could just not Bing e at
night and we don't need the 2-hour run every single day Penny saved is a penny earned kind of thing
the point for you here what are the three things detracting from your happiness what are the three
things that are robbing you of your energy and man if you can just find what three things you need to
stop doing I think this year is going to unlock a lot of growth for you but perhaps my favorite question
that I want you to ask yourself tomorrow at that coffee shop my friend is question number four this
one is very

Question IV

near and dear to me it's something throughout my 20s that has saved me years just memorize this
question whenever you're stuck ask yourself this what do you ask you ask yourself question number
four what advice would I give someone else in my exact same situation you right now in your
situation if you ever feel stuck distance yourself from it take a step back pretend it's not you in this
situation it's your close friend or a family member what advice would you tell them ah dude I just
don't know what to do about this job like I don't like it I'm drained I don't like my boss I don't want to
be here in the next 5 years pretend that's not you what advice would you give that person I don't
know what to do about my relationship ship pretend it's not you what advice would you give to that
person now why do this why like create a buffer between you and your problems or your confusion
well the simple fact that you've realized I'm sure it's easier to give advice than take it I don't think
this is the hypocritical thing I don't think this is a malicious thing I think that we always know every
single detail and the same thinking that caused the problem we're trying to use to get out of the
problem so the way you do that and step out of the show pretend it's not your problem pretend it's
someone else's and you're way more objective that way instead of like your subjective experience I
feel like this is the right like feelings are important yes gut feelings and instincts for sure but logically
you know sometimes we're reading too much into things or we make things 10 times harder than
they need to be so what advice would you give someone else in your exact same situation to recap
what you

The BIG takeaway

learned we went over how to get more done this week than most people do in entire year how do
you do that you don't do that through some productivity hack or planning your day in certain
increments all that can help but if you never wake up to the sleepwalking nature of Life most people

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are going through and living in it doesn't matter it's straightening deck chairs on a Titanic the very
thing you need to do to get more done stop wasting your life is wake up make the choice how do you
do that

Action Step: Do this next

you ask yourself in my opinion in these four questions you're going to do that either today or
tomorrow make some time take an hour take two hours but please write these down and do these
and if you don't do these no self-improvement video is going to matter no book you read is going to
matter no life philosophy like these are the most important things you can ask yourself if you truly
want to get ahead this week and make it way more productive than most people spend an entire
year avoiding all right we do it was that useful let me know in the comments like this uh do you like
the vibe do you like the format love feedback here thanks so much for watching I'm Clark stop
settling start living see you in the next one peace

How to actually OUTWORK everyone (the easy way)

Simplifying Ideas

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3SNjPX615Y

it doesn't matter who or where you are in life you clicked on this video because you've been trying to
make things work but it just doesn't happen I've been there frustrated wondering why it seems so
easy for others if this is something you're going through right now I have some good news for you
the successful people you see they aren't that different from us you and I have the same potential to
match or even outdo them I know it may sound too good to be true how can outworking everyone
be easy it all comes down to the path you decide to take you want results in life and the world tells
you one thing you just need discipline I don't care how good you are and anything you don't have
discipline you ain't nobody right discipline is doing what you hate to do but do it like you love it you
don't have to feel good about it you just have to keep going the feeling will pass but you will remain
you are greater than your feelings but there is a problem with that our brains are wired to go for the
easiest options this comes from our ancestors who went for what gave them the biggest rewards
with the least effort to survive to be disciplined we must go against this programming fighting our
instincts and choosing the hard way but what if there were a way to get results with less effort there
is and it lines up with your natural inclinations each one of us has natural inclinations that shape how
we see and react to the world they are those things we do or think about naturally and constantly we
can simply call it Talent when we go with our talents we don't have to struggle it's just who we are I
once read a book that opened my mind to the different types of talents we can have if you're
instinctively curious that's a talent if you're competitive that's a talent if you're responsible that is a
talent now picture this what if you took something that comes naturally to you and used it in a
productive way that is the secret to outworking everyone even traits that are usually seen as
negatives can turn into talents when you use them the right way being stubborn can be a talent if
you find a job that requires persistence anxiety can be a talent if it helps you anticipate problems and
plan Solutions when you use use your talent you get better results with less effort then you start to
get compliments and it feels really nice which makes you want to repeat it something amazing

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happens when you repeat an action many times you become really good at it imagine a child with a
natural inclination for writing their first compliment comes from an essay they wrote they feel good
so they start writing more often eventually they don't know if they write better due to their natural
inclination or simply because they write more than others we often feel down and unmotivated
because we go after things that don't really fit us making us put in a ton of effort for average results
one time I came across a sales job that seemed perfect for me it fit all my boxes back then I could do
it in my free time since I worked 9 to 7: I had a chance to make more money and best of all I could
work from anywhere but I didn't think about one thing I never stopped to ask if this was the right
path for me the answer came quickly it wasn't just the thought of calling a stranger it was enough to
give me a slight teoc cardia deep down I thought if I just pushed through my feelings and did what
was necessary I could become good at it but the reality was that I felt even worse seeing that
something so simple for some was a huge step for me I noticed that a lot of the people who were
doing well were great at communicating and connecting with others some loved the competition I
didn't feel any of that I've always been more of an analytical type I actually enjoyed just hanging out
with my thoughts and I wanted to find a path where I could use that to my advantage the truth is
that discipline can take you far take Mugsy Bogues for example he was a basketball player known for
being one of the shortest guys in the NBA he exceeded expectations by standing out in the league
becoming a symbol of determination and overcoming obstacles however despite being a fast player
and a great defender his height meant he had to work harder than others to make up for it I'm not
saying discipline isn't important after all hard work and practice are key for getting great results what
I mean is that if you pick a path that matches your strengths discipline gets a lot easier in school
we're graded on every tests even if it's your weakest subject but in our lives we can choose which
tests to take the secret to overcoming everyone is to design your life so you are graded on your
strengths

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