Networking Messages That Actually Get Replies (No
Ghosting!)
You hit Connect... and crickets. Sound familiar? On LinkedIn, a generic "I’d like to add you to
my network" gets ignored 90% of the time.
Here’s how to craft messages that get responses, build relationships, and open doors – with 7
proven templates you can steal:
Why Most Networking Messages Fail
❌ The Ask-First Approach: "Can you help me find a job?" (Too soon!)
❌ The Resume Dump: "Here’s what I do – let me know if you have opportunities!"
❌ The Vague Flattery: "I admire your work!" (No hook = no reply.)
The Fix: Provide value first, personalize deeply, and make replying effortless.
7 High-Response Message Templates
1. The "Common Ground" Connection
(Works for alumni, shared groups, or mutual contacts)
"Hi [Name], I noticed we both [alma mater/worked at X/are part of Y group]. I’ve been
following your work on [specific topic] – especially your take on [detail]. Would love to connect
and learn more about your journey!"
Why it works: Shows you did your homework.
2. The "Value First" Outreach
(For industry peers or potential collaborators)
"Hi [Name], your recent post about [topic] resonated with me because [personal reason]. I’ve
been exploring [related idea] – would you be open to a quick chat? I’d love to share
[resource/insight] that might interest you too."
Why it works: You’re offering something, not just asking.
3. The "Curious Expert" Ask
(For reaching out to senior professionals)
*"Hi [Name], I’ve been researching [industry trend] and keep seeing your name pop up. Your
perspective on [specific point] was eye-opening. If you have 2 minutes, I’d love to ask: What’s
one underrated skill for succeeding in [field] today?"*
Why it works: Flatters their expertise while making it easy to reply.
4. The "Warm Introduction" Request
(When you share a mutual connection)
"Hi [Name], I noticed you know [Mutual Contact]! I recently worked with them on [project] and
they mentioned your work in [area]. I’d love to connect and hear your thoughts on [specific
question]."
Pro tip: Give your mutual contact a heads-up first.
5. The "Problem-Solver" DM
(For turning engagement into a conversation)
"Hi [Name], I just commented on your post about [topic] because [personal insight]. I’ve been
tackling [related challenge] – would you mind if I sent you one quick question via DM?"
Why it works: They’ve already engaged with you publicly.
6. The "Future-Proof" Follow-Up
(For reconnecting after radio silence)
"Hi [Name], I know you’re busy – just circling back on my last message in case it got buried! If
now isn’t a good time, no pressure. Alternatively, I’d be happy to share [resource] if that’s
helpful."
Key: Add an out ("no pressure") to reduce friction.
7. The "Closing the Loop" Thank You
(After someone helps you)
"Hi [Name], I just wanted to thank you for [specific advice/intro]. I put it into action by [result]
and wanted to share how it went! Let me know if there’s ever a way I can return the favor."
Why it works: People remember (and help again) those who show gratitude.
3 Rules for Message Success
1. Personalize or perish: Mention a post, career move, or shared interest.
2. Make it skimmable: Short paragraphs + clear ask.
3. End with a yes/no question: "Would you be open to...?" beats "Let me know your thoughts!"
What Not to Do
• Don’t pitch in the first message.
• Don’t use AI-generated blandness ("I hope this message finds you well").
• Don’t send long voice notes (they rarely get played).
