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Automatically transcribed by Speechnotes on: 17/4/2024, 03.36.12
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Accepting or rejecting something is the most basic form of human communication. Part of our Primitive
Survival Instinct. When we want something and receive a negative response, we can feel sad and frustrated
because it is logical. No one likes to hear the word no. Therefore, we know that we can frustrate others by
rejecting their requests. We often feel uncomfortable saying no to others, because we know how bad it feels to
experience this rejection ourselves. But with fear of saying no. Not only do we severely limit the way we
communicate about what we really want or expect. But we can also end up doing things we don't want to do.
Which is against our will.

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Thus absorbing negative feelings such as one's own frustration. Even more so when we do things we don't want
to do, chances are. We're going to be rude. Or do it badly because we don't want to. And in the case of cases
like this, the effect of accepting what we do not want ends up being the opposite of what we think in the realm
of interpersonal communication in which each word has weight and resonance. The ability to say no. Without
the need for lengthy explanations is a subtle and powerful art.

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Although this is something very simple, there is also a complexity in this practice that goes beyond simple
rejection it is a path of self-discovery and affirmation in which saying no appears not as a barrier to rejection,
but as a pillar of autonomy and self-esteem in a world that often presses for conformity and where saying yes is
considered a currency of exchange for acceptance and reward choosing not to explain oneself when saying no. It
can look like an act of rebellion. But it actually means recognizing that your choices, limits, and decisions have
intrinsic value and don't require external validation. This type of behavior can be a manifesto of independence.
A declaration that an assessment of your intuition and feelings is enough. Saying no without explanation is
liberation from the shackles of guilt and obligations imposed on oneself.

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This means understanding that as human beings, we have the right to prioritize our needs, wants, and well-being
without having to bow to public opinion. By embracing this practice, we pave the way to a more honest and
transparent relationship, where communication is based on mutual respect and not on expectations of
concessions or justification. In this video we'll explore how saying no without explanation can change the way
you interact with the world. We will dismantle the myths that surround this approach. And it offers insight into
how you can incorporate it into your daily life.

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You strengthen your relationships and confirm your autonomy. This is a journey towards more authentic
communication, where the focus is on your actual voice, watch to the end to understand the moral of the story
and explain how you can learn to say no without explanation, and how this will never damage your relationships
with others you value. But instead, this technique can even strengthen and enhance these important relationships
for you. Focus your attention on the content. Please subscribe to this channel and click the like button. Let's go
in a world where honesty and assertiveness are often forgotten by excessive politeness. Learn to say no. Without
explanation is a liberating skill almost revolutionary. Imagine someone who is kind and always willing to help
live trapped by the fear of disappointing others. Believing that saying no is a sign of disrespect or selfishness,
but this exhausting reality they find themselves overburdened with handling tasks and assistance that exceed
their personal limits, like a ship being towed by unwanted currents.

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They feel swayed away from their own needs and wants. Co-workers, neighbors, and friends often make
requests that go unfulfilled. This person is stuck in a cycle of giving without receiving, trying to please everyone
but themselves. In search of guidance they seek help from a wise old man in their ward sitting with them sharing
difficulties. They asked how they could refuse requests without feeling bound to justify themselves and how to
set boundaries without appearing rude. The wise man with a calm gaze explains that saying no without
explanation is an act of self-esteem.
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This is not a rejection but an affirmation of your priorities. You don't need a myriad of reasons to protect your
time and energy. Practice phrases like no thanks or I can't commit to it. Be clear, direct, but always friendly.
This person learned that saying no is like drawing clear boundaries on a map defining their autonomous region.
They began to practice. To the neighbors they said. I can't keep your dog this weekend and to a friend they said,
I can't lend you money at the moment. At first they are afraid of a reaction, but with their surprise they find new
respect from others. Some even admire his honesty like a gardener learning to prune excessive plants. They find
value from taking care of their own gardens. This new path is not without its challenges.

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There are times when guilt and fear come whispering about old beliefs, but every non-said reinforces those
beliefs. They realize that this is not selfishness, but a necessary balance. By prioritizing yourself. They don't
value others. They value themselves, saying no without explanation is a melody of their freedom to reflect, they
learn that by protecting their time and energy, they not only maintain their sanity, but also open up space for
healthier relationships and activities that actually bring happiness. And in this moment of moment, people see
their true value. This short story is a reminder that sometimes the most powerful words we can say are not
simple but firm.

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Although this content is focused on the power of the word, it is not very important to have a good sense in how
to use this power. Therefore, I will expand this subject a little further so that you have more tools in your
personal development arsenal and can make decisions in your life that will appeal to the good and the people
around you. Navigating the complexity of human interaction involves a constant balance Between saying yes
and no, these seemingly simple 2 words carry significant weight in our lives, affecting our relationships, careers,
and personal well-being. Identifying when to say yes and when to say no is an important skill that helps us live
more authentically and fully. I will give you some examples of how you can make this decision in your daily
life.

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Saying, yes is appropriate when it aligns with your values and goals if an opportunity or demand aligns with
fundamental values. You know helping you progress toward your goals says it can be a strong choice. For
example, if you value continuous learning, accepting challenging projects at work can be a yes. That promotes
your personal and professional growth. The benefit of a healthy relationship is saying yes to spending quality
time with friends or family. Or to support someone in times of adversity can strengthen your interpersonal
bonds.

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It reflects empathy and connection an important ingredient for meaningful relationships being mindful of
oneself and happiness is if a request or opportunity brings happiness, relaxation or well-being says it can be a
form of self-care. It can be as simple as accepting an invitation to walk outside or participate in an activity you
love. On the other hand, saying is not important when it threatens your well-being or integrity. If the request or
situation threatens your mental, physical health or ethical integrity. Saying not only is it appropriate but also
necessary. For example, refusing to participate in activities that go against your moral principles or that demand
more than you can handle is not what protects your core. Result in an unbalanced relationship if you attend to
the needs of others frequently. While your own needs are being ignored, it's time to reconsider and maybe say
no. It's about setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.

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Evoke a sense of dissatisfaction or fatigue if you realize that saying yes to certain requests or situations causes
feelings of dissatisfaction or fatigue. That's a clear sign that the moment requires no. By refusing you prioritize
your energy and emotional resources. Thus, to navigate Between yes and no consider the following strategies.
Personal reflection: Take a moment to reflect on how you feel about the request or opportunity. If it brings up
negative feelings or anxiety, it may be a sign to say no. Evaluate priorities: Analyze whether the request aligns
with your current priorities?

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If it doesn't contribute to what's important to you right now, it's unlikely to be the most appropriate response.
Listen to intuition. Often our intuition gives clear clues if something doesn't feel right, it may not be. Consider
the long-term impact. Think about the consequences of saying yes or no. If the long-term impact says yes
positively and aligns with your goals, it may be the right choice if not reconsider. Ultimately, the ability to say
yes and no effectively is an important aspect of self-knowledge and assertiveness. By making a conscious choice
about when to accept or reject. We not only manage our time and resources, but also shape the direction of our
lives. It's a delicate balance, but with practice and introspection we can learn to make choices that truly reflect
who we are and what we value.

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