Joanna Mariz C.

Cimanes

ND 1Y1 – 1

REFLECTION PAPER IN PURPOSEFUL COMMUNICATION

As of the 21stcentury, since advanced technology has already been introduced to us, by simply
fathoming and scrutinizing it, we were able to comply with it. But, due to too much exposure on
technology, we often disregard significant matters in our lives. We tend to disregard other people
feelings. Some people may not notice it but technology has already conquered our lives in terms of
communication. To prove this, let me discuss it furthermore.

As what Miss Sherry Turkle said in the video 'Our little devices in our pockets are so
psychologically powerful that they don’t just change what we do but also change who we are.
The sentence slowly pierced into my heart because it is factual. Due to the advanced
technology, this gave tremendous opportunities for some people to make variegated gadgets. Those
inventions became a medium for us to communicate to other people from around the world, but as
we're engaging more on communicating through social media, we tend to forget socializing to our
loved ones, friends and other people. We’re just like what Miss Turkle said, “Being together while
not being together”. We were so attached to our mobile phones just like having a pet dog that if it
we became melancholic and distant. Since technology is accessible, we became dependent on
it and consequently, it already possesses our mind, and affects our perspectives in life.

Technology changed the way we communicate with each other, and it seems that most of the
people are so attached to it that they prefer communicating by texting over talking. The reason was
in that way, we’ll still be able to correct our messages, able to delete what we’ve just texted. It’s
difficult to detach ourselves from technology because we are already used to it. It is something that
we can’t easily undo; making ourselves exposed to social media platforms like Facebook,
messenger, twitter, instagram and email. For instance, my mother would just prefer messaging us
on messenger or text message just to tell us that we have to go to sleep, eat and others. She does
that more often since it’s accessible and fast.
 Honestly, we expect a lot from technology that we often use it to relieve stress. We used our
gadgets to practically every day, forming an illusion of companionship with the demands of
friendship. By playing online games, watching videos, and listening to music are some of the
reasons why we use it every now and then. We are all tempted to use technology that offers
companionship. We are making it our 'virtual friend' that we wanted to have because the real
people lack compassion and respect. Instead of supporting each other, some people tend to
discriminate other people.

Having solitude is also essential, it is where you can find yourself so that you can reach out
to people to form attachments. This is essential especially when you are hurt from a break up; you
You can travel alone to find peace of mind again and fix your broken heart. After that, when you’re
already fine, you can go back to where you left off and have a connection with people again and form
attachments to people. Why do we need to have peace of mind or go away when we are hurt?
Human emotions are powerful enough that they can serve as a barrier to communication. We tend to turn
to people in order to feel less anxious in order to be alive when this scenario happens, we’re not able
to appreciate who they are. It isn't so bad to be alone because it will make us appreciate ourselves.
and our loved ones more because if we don’t have the capacity for solitude we would end up
forming fake attachments to people just like using spare parts and we don’t want that.

After watching the video, I have realized that we have to change the way we communicate.
to each other, instead of just using mobile phones every now and then, let’s try to talk with our
families, friends and others personally with eye contact and attentively listening to them. Develop
intimate relationship with them and connect. By doing so, it will result in a much more successful
conversation or communication rather with both parties. In addition, we cannot reverse our time, it
continuously runs, so cherish the time with our loved ones. Let’s appreciate their presence and
value the time with them by simply, well connecting with them.
Ashley N. Delos Santos

ND 1Y1 - 1

REFLECTION PAPER IN PURPOSEFUL COMMUNICATION

In this present day, letters and telegrams are rarely used to communicate with someone. As
time passed by, people, with assistance of their brilliant minds, concocted a noteworthy plan to
make individuals' communication easier. Technology, it is the manner in which we apply intelligent
data for useful purposes. It fuses machines like computers yet additionally systems and
strategies. One of its uses is to communicate. In spite of the fact that there's already an early
Human technology once upon a time, it was enhanced after some time.

Utilizing technology in communication has transformed into a need, it's by and by part of
everyone's life. People communicate through emails, faxes, cell phones, and online social channels. Over
the long haul, all the more rising advances will change the manner in which we communicate. In
In any case, is it extremely accommodating to us?

Associated, yet alone outlines the drawback of technology with respect to communication.
Over usage of it may have negative effect on the social, mental, physical and psychological wellbeing.
of a person. Sherryl Turkle shares her opinions about it and I agree with her to some extent.
Technology perhaps is a major hello for communication since it makes the messages to be conveyed
simpler and quicker. However, it gradually separates us from this present reality.

It is somewhat pitiful and baffling that individuals refer to being active online instead of to
be dynamic in reality. The greater parts of the general population we see today are continually
looking down at their smartphones or facing their computers and laptops, not paying attention to
their surroundings. It is heartbreaking that people disregard the person next to them just to have a
conversation with a virtual companion. The issues we have can be shared with our family and
friends but we choose to share it to the public, thinking that we have their sympathy, yet we don't.
 I, myself, experienced this kind of feeling, being ignored by my friend, just to be updated by
other people's lives. Every time we're together, she is just looking down on her phone, browsing
what happened to someone's life. We can't deny the fact that we do this sometimes but did you
already asked the person beside you how his day was? Did it occur to you that maybe he was just
waiting for you to notice and have a conversation with him? I bet it didn't cross your mind
because you're too engrossed living in your virtual extravagant life.

I am disappointed with humans. Yes, technology helps us but we need to limit ourselves.
from using it. Not to the point that we isolate ourselves and then create drama online saying no
one loves you in real life. Technology connects us to the people who are far away but it pulls us apart
with people we have with us. We need to appreciate each other’s presence more; in that case we
can truly understand one another.
Yuki Shinada

ND 1Y1 – 1

Reflection Paper: “Superficial Links That Makes Us Believe”

Generation nowadays can be described as enigmatic, profound, and at the same time, can be
somehow endearing. Taking a look back on a public speech seven years ago given by Sherry
Turkle entitled 'Connected, But Not Alone?' At first, I convinced myself that I am just about to write
something about it, then done. I guess I am wrong. Allow me to share the realization that caused me
on seeing the superficial links as a whole entity.

My family that lives in another country used to visit the Philippines during the summer seasons. I’m so looking

forward to have the intimate and cherish the moment whenever they come. But that’s not easy as it
seems. My sibling is always facing the screen of gadgets instead of bonding together. You can’t blame
me if I get annoyed by this. Okay, using phones or any other gadgets is not a crime, because this is a
necessity that can’t be erased in one’s routine that easily. But as a result, it forms a discord between
you and your loved ones. We’re being together while not being together. Contemplating on the
On the other side, my sibling might have been 'used to loneliness' and thinks that this visit is just a figment.
since they will leave eventually. Language barrier also serves as a hindrance between me and them
As I don’t speak their language fluently, it goes the same with them. An individual could feel
regret or the loss of understanding if the distance of relationship ceaselessly takes place that results
to quarrel. And no one wants that.

Hiding from one another. Simply put, you are using technology as an escape route away from
resolving an issue or problem. You don’t want to risk something or someone that is important to
You, like who would want that? Running away only makes problems much worse than you thought.
it could be. An individual develops a set of standards and boundaries that makes the ties not too
close nor not too far, just right. Sherry Turkle calls it the 'Goldilock’s effect.' Courteously, or be
Bold to say, we think first of the others before ourselves. Aren’t we all? If it means something.
precious, you are capable of hurting yourself rather than them getting hurt.

We are afraid to get judged by society; therefore, we don’t take the step. Judgment always.
happen and will always be there, like a perpetual nightmare. I hated humans as I hate myself.
Strange right? I refused any engagement in conversation back then to avoid getting criticized. Yes, it
was one of the crucial moments in my life, but I had my gadgets, as well as the books to accompany
me whenever I feel alone. I see these inanimate tools not as fulfillment of my satisfaction, but the
imitation of companionship without the demand of friendship. I had a couple of friends in the
games I’ve played, like a shadow who emits his connection with others, but only virtually. Not only
me, but we are all tempted by machines that offer companionship. We find these "kind of
friends in them that we wanted to have and that the real people lack, respect and maturity. Have
Have you ever wondered when people will stop labeling each other based on their race, culture, gender?
and beliefs?

Listen, it’s not wrong to reject people but it’s also not wrong to accept people even once. But no
Matter what it would be, it’s your choice. The fact that we’re lonely but terrified of intimacy. It’s
It's hard to build a connection with someone when you're not being your real self. Pretending? Don't.
even try to. You might be already hurting someone and you still don’t realize it. The communication
already fades before it even advances. Isolation only takes place when you don’t have enough
bravery to initiate solitude. For me, isolation is substantial. I happen to become more aware and
conscious about the 'expectation versus reality' matrix. You need to know who you really are
before succeeding in making conversations with others. Don’t think that you’re letting the
People know who you really are but have the mindset that you are letting yourself free.

Those who make the most of their lives have the spirit of self-reflection, which is not just notable.

phrase from Sherry Turkle but I really do believe it implies for all of us. We reflect based on what
we experience, whether it is good or bad. As my mom would always say, “Just ride the wave and
don’t resist where it will take you, keep moving.” I know right, it was nostalgic indeed. All of us have
these people or 'peeps', a term that millennials would use, to comfort and be there for us
whenever we feel drowned. People have their own variety of styles, hobbies, and passions. I chose
to be a nutritionist with a purpose to serve and build a genuine link within the youth, nothing
more, nothing less. What about you?

To be honest, I find that I express myself much more in a way that I wanted. Not only that, I want to
develop a connection within the readers to let them know what I really want to achieve. There are a
a lot of valuable and inspiring lessons from this public speech delivered by Sherry Turkle, on how
technology could phenomenally change our lives. Well, change is inevitable. And we must be
embracing the facts and false of our journey. There might be someone that is just around the
corner, waiting for you to let them in. In addition, time cannot be reversed, it eternally runs, so
Cherish the time with your loved ones. Lastly, connection with someone is not just talking to people.
with a variety of symphonies, but it is how you value the time with them.