Woman's Secret - Winning the man's

your dreams
INTRODUCTION
First of all, welcome!

By starting to read this work, you are taking the first step to have control over everything that relates to it.
to your love life. This, by itself, is already a great achievement, considering that the first step is, many
sometimes, the hardest.

If you are tired of always facing the same problems when it comes to a relationship for two,
you have just found the solution to your difficulties in this book. It is filled with secrets and
tips for you to win over the man of your life once and for all, make him fall in love with you and
keep it always faithful.

If before, being in a relationship was something exhausting and painful, with the information obtained in this book
you will see that you are a fundamental element for the well-being of two. Your attitude towards situations
confronted is the more than direct responsible for the happiness or unhappiness experienced in your relationship.

We, women, often complain when we are facing problems in our love life.
We are always tired of being alone, of being discarded and betrayed. We complain about men.
who do not want a serious commitment. We are dying of envy of younger, more attractive women.
beautiful. And a multitude of other things. Our attitude towards difficulties in this field is always
very negative. This often aggravates a situation that is already not very pleasant.

So, what you will see in this book is a succession of information about behavior, attitude, and a
an infinity of advice and tips to make you an irresistible woman to any man. When
by finishing reading this book, you will be able to make men want you, love you, and stay.
thirsty for desire for you!

The book is divided into 5 chapters. The first part will discuss a little about us, women, our qualities,
our aspirations, our self-esteem, our strengths, relationships, among other things. The second
the part of the book will take care exclusively of men and how their minds work. The third part of this
the work will talk about the game of seduction, flirting, and techniques to appear irresistible. The fourth part, perhaps the
more interesting for some people, it will describe the secrets of the art of loving, addressing kissing, sex,
erogenous zones, sexual positions, pleasure, among other things. The fifth and final part of this book
complete will bring a kind of manual for you to catch and keep your 'charming prince' forever.

As you could see, there are many topics on the most varied themes. This is a complete work that
it aims to help women, like you and me, to be happier and to get the best out of
any relationship and, consequently, of life.

Don't waste your time waiting for a divine light to come down from the sky and give you the necessary inspiration.
to improve your relationship. Take your relationship to greater heights, discover secrets
What you need to know about men, experience the romance and the life together that you have always dreamed of.
Fight for your relationship with the right weapons. Read, learn, and apply the techniques and tips contained in this.
work, and observe the results. You have nothing to lose.

You are ready to have more love, passion, and fun in your life. Communication is the key to everything.
Take the reins of your life right now and start deciding how your future will be - negative and
melancholic or vibrant and full of life?

You deserve to be loved, to feel strong in your relationship, and to enjoy your happiness. I am
offering you the tools you need to finally achieve what you've always wanted: a love
with complicity, romance, and a lasting relationship with a man who makes her feel loved and

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beloved. Do you find this too much? I prefer to think not. This work is filled with simple information.
about what is necessary for you to have the relationship of your dreams. It is an easy-to-understand book.
it is pleasant to read.

This is a very useful book that will bring love and passion to your relationship, it will correct the mistakes that
you unknowingly commit, it will make you enhance the best in your man and
will make you feel stronger, more confident, and powerful to deal with any matter that concerns
a relationship for two.

You will really like how this book will make you feel.

Ready to get started? Then, begin the reading that will change, for the better, you, your partner and your
relationship.

Understanding the woman and the man

THE WOMAN

1 - Opening comment
2 - The expectations
3 - The experience
Understanding generates harmony
5 - Make a dream a reality
You have the power to chart the course of your relationship
7 - The 'charm of the woman'
Women are experts in relationships
9 - The competition between men and women
10 - Women's self-confidence
11 - How to make a good first impression

THE MAN

12 - Initial Ramblings
13 - Men need to be understood and accepted for who they are
14 - Men feel hurt when we try to change them
You are the only source of intimacy they have.
16 - We must have a complete understanding of what men are like.
17 - How do most men demonstrate intimacy?
18 - You are the channel for him to express love
19 - When people love each other, their hearts and souls intertwine.
20 - Why is monogamy so difficult for men?
21 - Don't get used to it, try to keep the flame of passion alive
A couple can decide how to make their sex life more interesting.
23 - A man needs to feel successful
24 - Women do not realize how easy it is to emasculate their men
25 - If you are not happy, he feels like a failure
26 - A woman's rejection is the worst of all rejections
27 - Resentment destroys love and desire
28 - They lose when they make a commitment
29 - Men need concise communication.
30 - Conversation is the feminine way of connecting with others

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 The Woman

1. Opening comment
Currently, we women are a being that is rediscovering itself. After decades of repression and
Deprivations, today women are conquering their space in society more and more thanks to their abilities,
dedication and intelligence.

As could not be otherwise, in addition to professional and social achievements, women are demanding
more of themselves and their companions in the personal field. This requirement and the desire for a
complete relationships are causing them to rethink their concepts and request changes. These
changes may not happen on the part of the partners, or they may feel dissatisfied with
the change in behavior, which will lead to a conflict. Conflict is good on one hand, it makes us reevaluate the
what is wrong and what is right in our life as a couple or in our life as a single woman.

Many times we give up trying to fight for something better because we are afraid of losing the little we have.
This is called insecurity. And this insecurity and this kind of passive and fearful behavior can
to deprive you of living an intense experience or a complete and harmonious relationship.
Believe in yourself and in your ability to drive your life. We, women, achieved the right to vote, the
opportunity to extend our studies, open up space in the job market, and countless others
achievements, it is not fair that now, at the height of the celebration, we deprive ourselves of being completely happy.

Do you believe in romantic love? Do you want it to be an integral and indispensable part of your life?
Relationship? Are you ready to admit that you want that dream love, complete with a prince.
Excited? Don’t worry if your answer was “yes” to all the above questions. Most of the
women also desire this.

Some people say that fairy tales created dreams. I tend to believe that fairy tales
fairy tales were written because dreams were a natural consequence of the deepest desires of
woman to be adored and cherished; to be protected and cared for; to be imagined as the most beautiful in the eyes of
a man who does everything, even facing dragons, for his love. But at some point, the
the daily routine or the superficiality of flirting filled the void and we almost forgot about the dream...
Almost! We ended up conforming. We conformed because of comfort, because of the occasion, because of
it could be worse. Throughout this work you will no longer conform, because you will see your
a relationship or your object of desire changes right before your eyes, your greatest efforts, and it will
to discover that your fantasies are starting to become reality.

2. The Expectations
One thing is certain, expectations only lead to disappointment. The expectations that many women
the burdens they carry to the altar are very high. Many men cannot meet these.
expectations – most of the time, for very little. But the secrets revealed in these pages can
make any man become your 'charming prince'. He will become more attentive, more romantic,
but more loving and everything you have always wanted to have.

A man usually doesn't pay much attention to his relationship. For him, the relationship
It works or it doesn't. A woman is most often more tuned in to the subtle nuances that give her the
what she aspires to within a relationship. As you read this book, you will discover to
few a new way of interacting with your husband or boyfriend. Upon noticing your change, he will
change too. As you read and discover the secrets of this book, you will see how
simple is to completely transform your relationship. For years, women's lives have been made easier
for workshops on self-knowledge and for the publication of books like this one. And it was in workshops like this
that I could know the anguish and disappointment that surrounded relationships. I could see the
destruction that divorce and the loss of a dream can cause. I saw many women cry and I was a
friend shadow for several of them.

I was only able to fully understand what was happening because I grew up with the same dreams. I had a

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good marriage for many years, but there was no passion or romance. Countless times I cried in bed
until sleeping, quiet on my side of the bed. He was a good man, but I missed a lot of things.
As the years went by, we discovered that we had become different people who wanted
different things for your lives. So, after a year of many conversations, we decided to part ways.

Today, both of us are happy and we are still great friends. After the divorce, I discovered what it's like to be
with a romantic, passionate man who makes me feel beautiful and feminine; a generous man who...
love, who wants to take care of me and make me happy, respecting my strength and my independence. And I
I will never accept anything less than this. This set of things is what fulfills the deepest desires.
deep within my heart. That's what makes me feel like a more complete and fulfilled woman.

Happiness is the only thing we can give without possessing.

3. The Experience
People ask me how I discovered these secrets about men. It's very simple, I made them
men the main point of my study. I have a good intuition and have developed a kind of instinct in
reason for the numerous workshops over the years. I also have a certain ease in
understand people in a general way, and this helped me a lot when I needed to delve into the
study of men.

Throughout this work, I make some generalizations about men and, at times, even about the
women. Of course, there will be exceptions to these generalizations that I make. After all, all of us
we have our individualities, which make us unique. However, men have almost agreed that
completely with the statements contained in this book and still thank me for making this of
female knowledge. Believe it or not, all the men I spoke to agreed with the
comment made by a translator. "There is nothing that comes close to the feeling of loving and being loved by a
woman. My wife makes everything else worthwhile.

Another thing that facilitated my study was the information obtained about other cultures. It is possible
learn a lot about men by studying older cultures. Because of my training in
psychology, when I analyze why we do the things we do, I do it from a perspective
greater. I make use of logic and intuition together with what I have learned about psychology, cultures, biology,
evolution and anthropology. Can my conclusions be wrong? Of course. Are they useful? With
certainly! If you believe, just as I do, that love and trust grow from a greater understanding,
then you will agree that every little piece of wisdom adds intimacy to your relationship and
in your ability to create an eternal love. The tips and information found in this book will open up both
your eyes that you will think were blind all this time.

Understanding creates harmony

You will enjoy a huge advantage once you can look beneath the outer shell of your
companion - the one who has all the answers, who is not emotional and who does not understand why you want
romance. This book not only gives you a few reasons why at certain moments it has this
frustrating type of behavior, it also points out why you both are so different. Once
you understand what he does and learn to react to a variety of automatic responses - such as
the need to be successful, to solve problems and the ease with which he is stimulated - you
will be better equipped to get what you want from him and your relationship.

The culture - the one transmitted from generation to generation - is so strong in determining our behavior.
as for physical evolution; in many cases, it is even stronger. Personal pride, integrity,
competition and, of course, the all-powerful 'society' can work wonders to keep us in line.
Culture is strong, but it can be overridden when you know what to do.

Nowadays, for the good of many of us, survival is not our primary concern. The quality
of life is what we care about. For this reason, we want more from our experiences and our
relationships with other people. And this work will give you more of what you need, because the
the abyss that exists between man and woman can be crossed through the knowledge acquired along
of life, or, more succinctly, over the course of a book.

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 Words of inspiration
Here is a brief selection of thoughts for you to reflect on.

In the smallest cabin there is plenty of space for a pair of happy lovers.
Schiller
There is nothing more excellent, nor more beautiful, than a husband and wife governing the house in perfect harmony.
agreement of intentions; the friends exult with pleasure, and, more than anything, the satisfaction that they feel is indescribable.
couples feel!
Homer
A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short.
André Maurois
Shakespeare already said: 'Beware of jealousy; it is a green-eyed monster that mocks the flesh with which
He feeds on it. In other words: the jealous person poisons their own feast, eating it afterwards.
Joseph Murphy
Let your body understand itself with another body. Because bodies understand each other, but souls do not.
Quintana "Nothing great exists without passion."
Hegel
In a man's life, love is a separate thing; in a woman's, it is the whole life.
Lord Byron
In vain we will seek happiness from afar if we do not cultivate it within ourselves.
Rousseau
True marriage is one that sprouts from the discovery of identification with the other, and physical union is
only the sacrament by which this is confirmed. The thing does not happen in the opposite sense, of physical interest
"that later becomes spiritualized. It starts with the spiritual impact of love..."
Joseph Campbell

There is no slope, no matter how steep, that two people together cannot climb.
Ibsen
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if any
a reaction occurs, both undergo a transformation.
Carl Gustav Jung
It is the surrender to the relationship that produces the magical phenomenon, and it is the magical capacity that leads us to be
small gods.
Luis Pellegrini
A good marriage is an eternal engagement.
Theodor Körner
The agitation of modern life has given way to the immediacy of love; those who only think about living for today...
forget to build a true relationship, capable of lasting over the years.
Regina M. Azevedo
Only a sensitive soul can perceive another.
Eastern philosophy

Make a dream a reality

A woman who attended one of my meetings once said: 'I would love to have a fairy godmother.
"that would wave your magic wand and make my life perfect." You have probably already thought about something
similar, and what I have to say about it is "magic can happen." However, it is up to you to create it.

For many years, we women have wished for our relationship or our love affair with the
men were different, but we never knew exactly what to do. As you may already know, to desire
just is not enough. After reading this book you will finally know what to do. Your relationship will come to life
and it will always be shining with the love you felt for each other when you met.

The secret to change is to do something different. With this work, you will have the opportunity in your hands to
completely transform your relationship. You will be your own fairy godmother and make the wishes come true
your dreams girl. If you want to be completely happy and for your relationship to be more loving,
romantic and fuller of passion, you will find in this book everything you need.

Moment of inspiration
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This has already been said by someone much wiser than I. But it doesn't hurt to repeat:

There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.

Hope stops being happiness when impatience accompanies it.
Jacques Rousseau
Happiness is a good that multiplies when shared.
Marxwell Maltz
Happiness does not depend on what we lack, but on the good use we make of what we have.
Thomas Hardy
Happiness is not a reward, it is a consequence.
Robert Green Ingersoll
Fidelity is a virtue that ennobles servitude itself.
Barbosa Lima Sobrinho
Pure and complete unhappiness is as impossible as pure and complete joy.
Leo Tolstoy
The best way to be happy is to contribute to the happiness of others.
Confucius
The goal of existence is to find happiness, which means to find interest.
Alexandre Sutherland Neill
The concern with gain and loss gives us feelings of happiness and sadness. We should transcend.
the concepts of good and bad, gain and loss. Being happy is acting according to the circumstances, whatever they may be.
forem.
Tsai Chih Chung
We learned that it is possible to be happy simply for the fact that we are living.
Wilheim Schürmann
I believe that God placed us in this life to be happy.
Baden Powell
You are precarious and fast, happiness. You take a long time to come, and when you do, you do not linger. It was you who taught to
men who had time, and, to measure you, hours were invented.
Cecília Meireles
Happiness is the certainty that our life is not being spent uselessly.
Érico Veríssimo
Happiness is good health and a bad memory.
Ingrid Bergman
It is not strength, but the constancy of good feelings that leads men to happiness.
Friedrich Nietzsche
No one has guaranteed happiness. Life simply gives each person time and space. It depends on
you fill them with joy.
S. Brown
Our brain is the best toy ever created: it holds all the secrets, including that of
happiness.
Charles Chaplin
Where are you, happiness?... In everything that, finished, makes me say: 'It was good, but so good that I didn't even feel the
time to pass.
Alfredo Bosi
To be happy to a certain extent, we must have suffered to the same extent.
Edgar Allan Poe
When joy presents itself, we must open all the doors to it, for it is never inconvenient.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Almost always, greater or lesser happiness depends on the degree of the decision to be happy.
Abraham Lincoln
"Those who are happy make others happy."
Anne Frank
We are much more unhappy in unhappiness than happy in happiness.
Armand Salacrou

Three elements are capable of making a person happy: God, a friend, and a book.
Lacordaire
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Sexuality is a component of good health, inspires creativity, and is part of the soul's journey.
Isabel Allende

You have the power to chart the course of your relationship

Women are truly powerful beings. We give birth to our children; we fill our home with life,
comfort and beauty; we are capable of doing anything if we really dedicate ourselves; we do the
men give up having sex with many beautiful women to marry us, and all they
they want us to be their women in exchange and to love them for who they are.

In general, it is the women who push for marriage. But, ironically, it is the men
that are happier and healthier when they marry. There is something wrong here. I believe that women are less
secure in marriage because, more often than not, it is they who depend on men financially.
If they work and have children, they become exhausted. Women have huge expectations regarding
to marriage and, almost always, both marriage and husbands do not correspond to these
expectations.

The key to controlling the relationship lies in the 'charm of the woman'. This includes a strong awareness of
power, without which the woman does not know how to get what she wants from the man she loves. Ironically, the
most men say they take great pleasure in making their partners happy. This gives them a
satisfaction of a job well done and a duty fulfilled. These same men say that they cannot stand
a woman who complains, devalues, and manipulates. This type of behavior – caused by insecurity and
insensitivity - disappears as the woman develops self-love. Truly women
Beautiful women love themselves and are comfortable with who they are.

Of course we like fairy tales, but the mistake they make is that we are taught from a young age
that we are not complete without a man by our side. Men need women
for love, intimacy, and because they have a biological need to procreate, provide, and protect. However, being
In a relationship, you do not distinguish the identity of the man as happens with women.
a woman who doesn’t get married "stays an aunt." Obviously, this has changed, but the stigma still exists. There is no
equivalent for men. This is because men generally are the ones who choose; women who are not.
chosen ones may feel inadequate and less attractive, which often leads to rebellion and
resentment. Through this resentment, women come to say that they do not need a man.
But your indignation shows the opposite. In fact, the same thing can happen to women who are
chosen, because they often settle for less than they thought they deserved.

Once a doctor told me that he wished it were different, but that he couldn't lie and say that it wasn't.
felt attracted by a woman's physical appearance and that this was not important in the choice. He, thus
like most men, feels this way. This is already intrinsic to them and they should not be blamed for
That. It makes sense if we think about those prehistoric men who were attracted (and could be
quickly stimulated) by the female physical appearance and with that had a greater possibility of making
sex. Thus, more women became pregnant, more children were born, and more of their descendants survived.
to carry on those genes of 'quick start.' Those are the men with whom we interact today.

Women complain a lot and say that men should be less superficial and look beyond the
physical appearance. Well, men, being the sexual beings they are, rarely are interested in anything more
if there is no sexual attraction.

A woman, somewhat agitated and overweight, once complained in a meeting: 'Why do men
"Don't they see beyond physical appearance?" When I heard a woman who is not satisfied with her own body.
(she made that clear) making a complaint like that, I asked: "How do you expect a man to look
besides your physical appearance, if you yourself are not satisfied with your body?

"The charm of a woman" is being satisfied with yourself, feeling good inside and out, this includes your
appearance. It is to take care of yourself and your appearance because you like yourself and it brings you pleasure. The
vanity is an excessive concern with one's appearance. A lack of confidence fuels vanity. The
men say, almost in chorus, that a happy and confident woman is much more attractive than a
beautiful woman, yet insecure.

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7. The 'charm of a woman'
What women lack is the awareness of personal power that comes from the 'charm of a woman'. The 'charm
"of the woman" is not just about being feminine. It is necessary to have an understanding of this. It is about creating harmony.
between being a woman and loving that. For example, a businesswoman can compete with men and
trying to be like them – something impossible, just like a lion and a monkey are animals, but that doesn't make
give the same thing - or she can be entirely a woman, confident in her abilities and her
knowledge, interacting with other people as a woman, and not something close to a man.
This woman is respected by her colleagues, both men and women, and is neither underestimated nor offended by.
them. She dresses like a woman, not like a man; however, by respecting and understanding men, she
She is careful not to choose provocative clothing. Men often claim that they cannot
working with a woman who dresses sexy and not thinking about sex. The care in dressing is
a matter of composure, taste, style, and self-respect, mixed with a desire to stand out
your beauty.

Some of the icons of the 'charm of women' of modern times are Sophia Loren, Luiza Brunet, Katherine
Hepburn, Xuxa, Princesa Diana, Marília Gabriela, Jaqueline Kennedy, Marta Suplicy, Grace Kelly, Fátima
Bernardes. Women who embody the 'charm of a woman' obviously feel comfortable with themselves.
the same; they enjoy their individuality, like men, their sexuality flows effortlessly,
they do everything with confidence and grace, men and women respect them and their beauty radiates from within. It is
true, these women are beautiful. But they are not beautiful because they are fashion queens, but because they
They know who they are and they like themselves.

The 'charm of a woman' is joy, fulfillment, and love that arises from within us. The moment has come for you ...
start to recognize your feminine power - a power that comes from loving being a woman. Only after
recognizing this power you will be able to make your dreams come true, because you will believe in yourself and
will do this with creativity, sensuality, love, and happiness in the heart.

With the 'charm of a woman':

You don't need a man to feel complete, but you are happy to admit if you want one.
You feel strong for being a woman and do not use that as an excuse.
You feel comfortable with yourself and like what you are.
You like to express the uniqueness of your appearance and do not need to follow trends.
You want to learn, grow, and improve as a human being.
You express yourself with intelligent confidence.
You know who you are and are proud of it.
You like your body and your appearance, and you take care of your health.
You take responsibility for your life and do not blame others for what happens to it.
You are happy on the inside and don’t need other people to feel that way.
You like people and people like you.
You like men authentically and truly appreciate them.

Women are specialists in relationships

Women have grown to become protectors and guardians of relationships. Obviously, the
prehistoric women who did better at taking care of children did their part and succeeded
that more children would survive those times and carry forward more of those protective genes. The
women who formed strong bonds among the tribe members were usually protected if their
companions would die for some reason. Women in ancient times had to attract and keep a
man to hunt for her and her children. Today, by chance, survival is no longer our primary
concern. We can give ourselves the right to want greater personal and emotional satisfaction.

The problem is that we expect too much from men. The modern era has shown a new type of interaction.
social and served to prove to us that we are really different from men. A woman today does not have
that constant female company. Now she schedules quick lunch meetings and goes back home or
for work, still waiting for more time to talk, for an interaction and someone with whom
to talk. At work she needs to focus on what is being done and has rare moments in which she
Can chat. And who is waiting for her at home? A husband or a boyfriend. But he is not there much.
interested in talking and her disappointment with him grows, and he doesn't realize why. She complains, he

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defending this generates resentment and love ends up dying.

A man and a woman living alone in a house is a new concept. It is impossible for one person
being able to meet all the needs of the other alone, then it is no surprise that
people settle for less than they expected or divorce in a painful way.

Men look at women as if they are the experts in relationships. To support

In a relationship, loving and protecting are things that women do naturally – it is something instinctive.
relationships are not a center of interest for men as they are for women. Men
they unconsciously assume that once the work of winning a woman is done, it will be up to her
taking care of the relationship. So, a problem always arises when the woman creates
expectation that the man will participate in caring for the relationship. They generally do not think
they don't even know what to do. They trust that the woman knows what needs to be done and, in a way
instinctively, they follow your indications. They even try, but surely this is not innate to them.

If a woman tries to make her partner engage in the relationship by complaining,

manipulating, bothering, and making him feel bad and wrong, he will distance himself. If a woman is in charge
with the "charm of the woman", taking pleasure in it, enjoying the masculine qualities of the man she loves and
communicate your needs in a loving way, the only thing that could happen is he becoming
more attentive, affectionate, helpful, loving, and romantic. It's simple: men are attracted to
women who are beautiful in appearance and in attitude, and who like them as men. And it's worth it
It is important to emphasize that when a man feels attracted to a woman, he wants to make her happy.

A man wants to be with a woman who makes him feel like a man.

9. The competition between men and women

The feminist movement taught women that they had to compete with men and be more
similar to them if they wanted to create equality. But men and women will never be equal.
because they are very different. The attempt to create equality has only caused conflict. Women
they can conquer their space just by being the best they can be. They actually lose power
when they try to be more 'men'.

Of course, there are injustices that are committed. Women sometimes earn less than the.
men doing the same jobs. It seems that the corporate world has a "glass ceiling."
Many powerful men do not want to let women into the 'inner circle'. Knowing what you already
knows so far about men, it is hard to blame them for that. A quite negative point that emerged after the
the feminist movement was a great animosity between men and women. An animosity that continues
growing over the years.

So, since the feminist movement seems – in many issues – opposed to some ideas
presented in this book, you might find that you are going against some popular beliefs by accepting what
It is written here. For many reasons, love and romance are outdated ideas these days, scorned.
by many women. But do you remember the popularity of the movie Pretty Woman? When Edward
offered Vivian a life of luxury with an apartment in New York and all the money she wanted,
her answer was "no". When he asked her what she wanted then, she responded what many
women are ashamed to say, 'I want a fairy tale.' It's okay to want a fairy tale.
fairies, and this book may give you the chance to have at least a piece of it.

So, ideally, if you can organize a support group of five or more women to
we will meet once a week, you will notice the 'charm of a woman' growing rapidly, thus
like your power with men. You can call each other for advice, for support and to overcome
barriers that interfere with the development of your self-love, your confidence, and your well-being. To be
being part of such a group will help you develop your perception of beauty and learn to trust in
your intuition. Often, we can see in other people what we do not see in ourselves.

No one has ever won the battle of the sexes: there is too much fraternization between the enemies.
Epigraph of the book The Revenge of Eva by Henry Kissinger

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10. Women's self-confidence
How many times have you come across those beautiful women that make you envious accompanied by that
"Wonderful Greek god" and thought: "What do they have that I don't have?"; or "How do they manage to be
"like this?" And those women who seem to have nothing to offer and do not follow beauty standards.
traditional but always accompanied by a handsome, kind, attentive, and sexy man.

Well, you may not believe it, but I assure you that the first attitude of these women is not
related to beauty, but rather to self-confidence. And the only thing you can do to reach that level
The task is to read, understand, and start putting into practice the six pieces of advice that I will give next. If you
Do this, and I guarantee that your self-confidence and your attitude towards life will start to change.
Advice:
a.You have to start seeing yourself in a new way, only then will men begin to look.
for you in a different way.
First, you need to surrender to your favorite sexual and spicy fantasies. Imagine that
someone is watching you; a strong man is spying on you. Imagine that man
wonderful from your dreams making wild love with you, imagine him having sex with you
Really, feel his hands roaming over your body, hear him whisper in your ear. Imagine
that he thinks you are the sexiest woman in the world.

After feeling all of this, leave the house and go for a walk outside. You can't imagine the incredible
response you will get from the men you encounter. And this response is caused by the
your mischievous thoughts, because you believed in your dreams for just a brief
moment. Now, can you imagine what would happen if you really started to
feel wonderfully sexy?
b.To be a sexy woman you need to feel that way. Therefore, think and act like this.
sexy way and you will be sexy.
You are exactly what you think you are. Even if you are not beautiful and slender, following the
rigid current standards, you need to evoke your image of a sexy woman. You need to send
burning vibrations and make sure he sees you as his particular sensual goddess. To
feeling the sensual spirit, you will naturally do and say tempting and delicious things. Your
the touch will be electric, your gaze will be inviting and will certainly raise the body's temperature. Additionally
for that, you need to remember that good sex does not start in your body or in your vagina; good
sex starts in your head. You have to start loving your body for what it is and for how it
makes you feel, instead of being embarrassed about your imperfections.
c. When you are with him, focus completely on him.
Try to focus your attention only on him. Forget about everything that bothered you during the day. Do not
don’t waste time and energy worrying about clothes that don't fit or if you said the wrong thing
right at the right moment, or if you crossed your legs at the exact time. Focus only on him, think about
masculine chest that he has, in his delicious little butt and in his divine penis. Try to make it
he feels as if there is no one else in the world who is as important to you as
he is. You must show him that there is no other lover as powerful in the world as he is, and that
he is the only one who excites and satisfies you in every way possible. From the moment you
start to focus on him, you will automatically do very provocative things with him,
things that will happen naturally as a result of your activated sexual awareness. You will
you will be doing several exciting things simply because you feel like it, because you will be
tuned in to your desire for mutual satisfaction. You will feel all possible pleasures only
for knowing what he is feeling with everything you are doing to him.

Pay attention to his reactions so that you can continue to do what you know he
likes. All men have points that excite them more, and your job is to find out where they are. You
you have to discover your partner's preferences, then the worst that will happen is him
beg for more. And the more you give, the more you receive.

Stay aware of the places and the ways he touches you, so that later you can do the
the same thing with him, then you will see a look of surprise in his eyes. If he kisses behind
his ear, do the same with him. This way, without realizing it, he will be telling you what he
really likes and excites him, just for doing these things with you. So use what
he/she will give it to you for your benefit.

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 d.Your personal image should radiate confidence and sexual strength.
Everything starts within your mind. Generally, what is most attractive in a person is their
self-confidence. Even if a woman is extremely exuberant, she will not be attractive to
a man if she feels afraid to talk to him; or if she can't look him in the eyes;
or if she feels too embarrassed because of her body. These attitudes send vibrations
negative for men, signaling that this type of woman should be avoided.

On the other hand, if a self-confident woman appears, she will always be sending vibes.
positive to anyone who is able to capture them. Men will be hypnotized by their appeal
magnetic. But it's always good to remember that it is really very difficult for a man to overcome fear.
of a woman, then even a self-confident woman must be careful with her fears and
vibrations. Always remember that self-confidence is erotic.
e. Always pay attention to your body language.
It is scientifically proven that your body speaks. Every movement conveys a message; like
we sit down, move our arms, cross our legs, etc. Therefore, get to know your body better
will make your wishes better understood. Below you will see some tips
that will ensure a positive approach. And if you are worried about seeming
Be artificial in your actions, do not worry! Through these tips, you will feel more confident.

Cross your legs to show the side of your thigh.

If you notice that there is another woman interested in the same man, do not hesitate and fight for him.
You have to win this man!
3 - Keep your lips moist by passing your tongue over them.
4 - When flirting, play with your hair, make it move.
5 - Look at him and then quickly look at something else, lowering your head.
6 - Unbutton the top button of your blouse and look at him with a sexy look.
7 - Always walk in a sensual manner. Strut!
f.Being a goddess of sex and acting like one is a divine gift.
Think that being a sex goddess is the most important thing for you right now. Know that
No other woman knows how to express her desires and show passion like you.

Your sexuality is unique because you are 'unique'. It is the force of life, a radiant and creative energy.
You need to know that this power and this energy that transforms and changes everything is yours! When you
you are able to see this gift of sexuality in yourself, everything becomes more exciting and radiant. You will
acquire a luminous and tempting spark that will last as long as you want. This way,
you will be able to enjoy your lover's sexuality and make them feel unique. After all,
accounts, how can a man resist a wonderful and sexy woman who makes him feel like
if he were the only man on the face of the earth? With you he will be at his best, feeling
a 'god of sex'!
I guarantee that if you follow this advice, it will be impossible for you not to have a sensational sex life!
But you need to always keep in mind that self-confidence and good sex are in your head.

11. How to make a good first impression

Many times, we women do not make a good first impression due to insecurity, shyness, because
we are not in a familiar environment or because we don't really know how to do this. But a question
It must be done: do you want to make a good first impression? If the answer to this question is positive,
we can start working on this right now.

Anyone is capable of leaving a first impression behind. Whether it is big or small depends on
depends on how you want it to be. Of course, if you want it to last, you need to be
Ready to take more risks. The question is, then, what kind of impression do you want to leave?

You can be sure that people will remember for a long time if you are rude and unpleasant.
at a party and made a scene. But if you prefer that people remember you 'fondly', then
You need to start thinking about the image you want the people around you to have of you.

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The best impression you can make is knowing who you are, to create and invent the best of you.
if it is possible to imagine, and then do your best to achieve it. This has to do with stopping and listening to that voice
that comes from within. This voice can be very soft and almost imperceptible at first, so you need to listen
Handle it with care, as if it were a child speaking, until over time it becomes stronger.

When you 'locate that voice', you will then be able to amplify it. You will do this by listening to what it has to say.
speak without rushing. By doing this, you will give her the confidence she needs to win.
strength. When she acquires the necessary strength you will notice that the voice is 'you'! This will show that you
she will be more confident and willing to grow.
Rash
This new confidence shows a security to take risks, to speak what you think, to stand out,
to run the risk of seeming foolish believing it can be funny, to be able to help the
people seeing the bright side of life.

Alright, so you want to make a striking impression? This can be done, but the question is that
What 'values' are you showing when you leave this impression? Is it the value of seeing the good side of life? Of
to place things from another perspective? Or is it the value of fighting injustices despite the 'mentality'
limited" of your club, or group of friends, or church, or family, etc. Or perhaps it is the value of "expressing the
herself and her love for life and for people.
Stand out - self-acceptance is the key to that
Perhaps you choose to express these values despite some risks – seeming crazy, insane, boring,
happy or annoying. The point is that, although people may mock you for behaving
unlike the 'group', the truth is that at least some of them will secretly admire you. They
they can be satisfied that you are saying what you think, because they are very weak or afraid of
act differently from the 'group' and 'be seen' agreeing with you!

However, when you take that risk, you can be sure that you will leave a lasting impression.
As time goes by, you will prove that you were right. People will come closer to you.
Then they will say: 'I am so glad you spoke what you were thinking; I myself didn't know how...'
Only with the exit of the group or the evolution of the dynamics itself will they come closer and listen.
sincerely what you have to say.

However, it will be more common for you to be admired and loved for "speaking your mind." When you take a
In this position, you find yourself promoted to leadership and responsibility roles. The more you
practice, but you will stand out. And with practice, you will be able to increasingly win over the group
instead of pushing him away from you.

Still on this subject, it is important that you, when praising a value, do not exclude people - they are the
values that you are questioning, not the people. Aim to make them think, and not to make with
that they feel guilty or bad. Allowing people to grow around you, you will begin to
estimate them and they will certainly be grateful for the 'space' and the 'opportunity' you gave them.
Invest in yourself
Back to that question: what impression do you want to leave? If you want your idea to be a
contribution to society instead of an imposition, so it is worth being aware of
contributions that others have made. Books, plays, knowledge, culture... all of this contains the ideas of others.
people – all of this is part of an ongoing conversation. To be part of at least a small piece
from this conversation it is necessary that you become aware of some important and current ideas from the world of
today - after all, why waste time reinventing something that someone has already thought of?

It's worth much more to listen to the conversation, let the ideas settle in your mind, and then see what your opinion is.
response. This will make you have your own 'perspective' based on your own thinking and the
your experience. Furthermore, if you pay attention to the conversation of our culture, you will have something to say
that is destined to leave a lasting and valuable impression, because you are a unique and special person
that is on this planet for a reason.
Smile
Even when you are happy, you sometimes forget to show it. So, when you are not feeling...
Feeling happy, smiling can help you release all that chemistry your body needs to create the
sense of well-being. In addition, a smile creates an image in the minds of others and makes them feel
We will also feel happy. A smile generates another smile! So make good use of yours.

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Make people laugh
A smile can also make people laugh. Especially a funny smile or a grimace. You
You might be risking looking like an idiot, but try making a funny face – you'll see how that
It changes people's mood. Do this at a party! People may not say it, but they love a permission.
to do this. Try it and, before you know it, everyone will be doing the same. Be the person in
the lives of others that give permission for fun, smiles, laughter, etc. All you need to do is
be brave enough to take risks. People will love you for it!
Show that you care
See at all times an opportunity. An opportunity for what? Well, to discover your value.
for each person in each situation. A certain moment can be an opportunity to show to the
other people you care about - offer a shoulder massage at the end of the day, or make a tea, or
listen to your problems, or cross the street to help someone who has fallen, etc.

This kind of thing makes life wonderful because it creates a purpose for every moment, but you never
you know what comes next. However, you know that you will find, create, discover your worth and care
with him because he will always be right in front of you. You are living the life you chose, where you
can and should be part and present.
Force people to think
When you live the life you chose and value every moment, you make people think: "Here is
a person who is always happy with where they are, what they are doing, and where they are going. They are not
lamenting the moment, she is loving it! How does she do that? How can I do that? It’s better I
pay more attention to her!

You know you made a good impression when people are thinking of you this way. And
you know they are thinking of you this way when they come up to you and say: 'Hello, you
Looks so happy! How do you do that?” You can then say: “I am aware of my worth;
I discovered what I am worth in the lives of each of the important people to me. I discover this value.
looking for him. So, I am always inspired to act, to create my value, because I am always
looking for him and hoping to find him.
Believe in yourself
If you decide to believe in yourself, you can afford to take some risks and look silly to
create a lasting good impression. You can move forward knowing that when things go wrong,
you can count on yourself to overcome obstacles. When you believe in yourself,
you try until you succeed.

People can sense when you believe in yourself. They know when you've made a decision and
You respond positively to the risks you took. If your decision was made only in part, the
the answer you will get from her will also be incomplete. Remember that the world is a mirror of
decisions you make about yourself and about life.
Courage
One of the key points to making things happen is to be courageous. Courage is another way of
be confident. A simple way to be confident is to act with courage. Dress yourself in courage and see the
obstacles opening a path and disintegrating right in front of you.

When you act this way, you also speak this way. People respond to this because it is
easier to hear, it is clearer and you are offering guidance to the people who are
satisfied to follow. Courage makes everything much easier.

If you bravely step into some "trap", then work courageously to ensure that the initial "trap"
do not materialize and become something productive. You can learn things along the way that only
they will assist you; and this learning will help you solidify your courage over time.

Things you can do to lighten the atmosphere and attract the

attention for good humor

• Make funny faces.

• Make a big cake and take it with you on your first day of work.
• Propose to someone.

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 • I arrived at work still with shampoo in my hair.
• Speak aloud all the time.
• Smile.
• Lend your car to a friend who is in need.
• Tell funny jokes.
• Wear the coat inside out.
• Spend the first 10 minutes of a party talking incomprehensibly and acting out.
seriously all the time.
• Always associate with a cheerful melody! This improves the mood of others, as well as your own, and makes
the most pleasant tasks.
• Have a picnic for friends and put chocolate in all the sandwiches.
• Use colorful clothes when dressing (hat, tie, t-shirt, shoes, etc).
• Arrived late.
This week try at least 3 of the suggestions presented above. Start thinking about the impression that
you want to impress people and if you want it to last.

Have fun!

The Man

12. Initial musings

The more you learn about men and the power you have over them, the easier it will be for you.
to get whatever you want from them, including monogamy. First, you need to understand what
to be a man and start seeing them as real people.

In our society, it is socially acceptable for a woman to 'feel'. We can cry, we can spill.
in tears, pouting, feeling hurt, being afraid of insects, thunderstorms, and dark places, not knowing
changing a tire, etc. And the more examples like this we gather, the more "feminine" we seem. As for the
men... poor men, they do not have society's permission to be emotional or sensitive, or to have
fear, or being unable to do things. If a man entered a club, he would run to his circle.
of friends and started to cry, most people would think that there is something very wrong with this
man. This happens because men are not allowed to cry, be afraid, or even 'feel'.

What else does society not allow men to do? To be unsuccessful. For example, if the
Paula was unemployed and almost out of money, we wouldn't judge her harshly if she got married and
let your husband support you. But what about an unemployed man who marries for security? He does not
would enjoy a lot of respect in our society, since we believe that men must work hard,
to produce, to prove and to be extremely successful. In fact, we have made the image of this man so strong
that many of them today feel very uncomfortable with the fact that a woman is more successful
you earn more than they do. According to society, and even according to your primal instincts,
he is the one who should be the provider. I bet you've heard at some point the phrase 'my woman doesn't
"works outside" or "I feel guilty for her earning more than I do."

Let's take Paula again. Paula can make use of her female wiles to catch the man who
He is interested. She can sway her waist a little and blink her eyes, and that's it! A man appears.
instantly to take care of her. But what can a man do to win a woman over? He
Can you do the same thing she does? Of course not! He has to prove that he has some value and that he is a
"real" man. He must be successful, strong, and able to make a woman happy. You
Can you imagine how this man might be feeling alone? They were taught to be strong and
brave ones, not to cry, to be responsible and to protect, not to complain, to die for the country, to support the
family, not feeling, not needing anyone, not asking for help, etc - not taking into account
that they still need to deal with us.

Despite all this, when do we give them permission to be real? They should feel
extremely isolated! Imagine the pain, the loneliness, and the insecurity you would feel if you were challenged to
to be a man suddenly. Men have been suppressed by their instincts and by society. They do not

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They feel comfortable with the need to love and be loved. Not only do they not feel comfortable
in expressing their love, sometimes they themselves do not recognize love. They
hide your heart, or they will deny it, hidden beneath a false appearance of indifference.

Now comes the "woman": "Why don't you change?"; "Why do you act like this?"; "Why don't you
faz isso?”; “Por que você não é assim?”; “Por que você sempre faz isso?”; “Por que você penteia o cabelo
assim?”; “Você não está usando isso, está?”; “Por que você nunca faz isso?”; “Eu queria que você fosse
but like this!"; "If you don't do this for me, you are selfish!"; "A real man doesn't do this that
you did."; "You are no longer the man I married." Ironically, we tried to change them, then
We claim that they have 'changed' and are no longer the men we married!

Deep down, our intention is the best possible. After all, it is part of our 'female instinct.'
improve and create. We take care of children from a young age and protect them and transform them.
in fully grown adults. We take a raw meat and prepare a feast. We enter into a structure
simple and we turn it into a sweet home. The problem is that well-intentioned women do not know the
moment to stop! We grew up trying to improve everything and everyone around us – we tried
transforming simple people into perfect works of art. No one escapes our obsession for
improve and create - neither our sisters, our best friends, our colleagues at work, nor our grown children,
employees, the neighbors, the boss and the husband. We do not want to cause any harm, but WE DO INDEED CAUSE IT!

A man likes things to stay the way they are. He gets married hoping that things don't
They change. He feels more loved when he is accepted and valued for what he is – the way he is!
So, your main goal is to make your wife happy. At that moment, the woman comes complaining, bothering,
depreciating and he thinks she is not happy. Her unhappiness makes him feel like a failure as a man!
After all, he believes that it is a man's duty to make a woman happy, and if she is complaining it is because he
he failed in his role.

What do women really want with these complaints? Why do we do this? Well, as I
as I explained earlier, a man thinks his role in the relationship is to be the hunter. He initiates the
hunt, begins the chase and ends with the prey. After he got his prey, he
It's over. He believes that his work is finished. Now it's the woman's job to clean, prepare, and serve the meal.
a release for him. At this moment he stops having an active role in the relationship and relaxes, instinctively
waiting for her to do all the work. Why? Because he simply doesn't know what to do after the
the hunt is over! It's not out of spite. He just does what seems natural to him – letting the woman take.
counts for the domestic side of the relationship. His part was the courtship – when she relaxed and let him do it
all the work. Now the roles have reversed... But she doesn't like that! She still wants him to still
have an active role in the relationship. While he is settling in and getting comfortable,
she is slowly boiling.

At this point is where women really mess everything up! We try to make the man take responsibility.
a more active role in the relationship, but we do it the wrong way. We complain,
we depreciate, we inconvenience, we manipulate, we make them feel bad, wrong, and we impose on them
a huge load of guilt. We don't think he is good enough for who he is, so we try to change him.
the only way we know. So what happens? He gets defensive and slowly builds
a wall around you. The more he closes himself off, the more abusive we become. 'You are not a man'
really!” or “You are a failure!” - she quickly replaces the femininity she had with the voice of
a witch and the delicacy of an ogre. His heart becomes even more insensitive and the love he a
he felt disappeared along with the beautiful and feminine woman he thought he had married.
When this happens, the wife is asking herself: 'Wait a minute, what happened to
that charming man I married?” She starts to feel less loved and, ironically, she
or blame for this. She complicates the problem further by accusing him of not paying attention to her, of being
emotionally distant, of being selfish and not being a 'real man' – she can
to the point of accusing him of having a mistress. The man who had once been open and vulnerable to her,
now becomes apathetic and impassive. The more this happens, the greater the possibility of a part, or
both seeking comfort in other arms. He seeking love and acceptance; she in search of the man
wonderful that had a day, but destroyed unknowingly.

The more she complains, the more he feels demoralized. This is the stage where the woman strips this being.
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measure according to the success he has in his career and the happiness of his wife. If he cannot succeed
to achieve any of these main goals, he begins to suffer in silence, sometimes apathetic,
others drinking or seeking a 'new lover' that will make him feel successful again.
When he reaches this point, his wife - the same one who caused this collapse without realizing it - will continue
doing the same things, thinking that it will change him and make him be again the man she had a
So she tries to do it in the only way she knows.

In the box below you will be able to see the wrong ways through which we, women, try to change our
companions. Something done in the wrong way, which instead of bringing us closer, drives us even further away from
wonderful man that we once had.

Some wrong ways a woman tries to modify her

man

• She depreciates and constrains him with some frequency. She aims her criticisms at what she knows to be the
his vulnerable point – his insecurities – and the bombardment begins.
• She rejects sex, making him feel unattractive and rejected, thinking that he is a
terrible lover. Or she may simply refuse sex as a form of punishment.
• She tries to show him, or prove to him, that she was forced to take on the role of the 'man' of
couple.
• She accuses him of having a lover, or complains that he is tired of sex. From time to time she may
depreciate his sexual performance or mock the shape or size of his penis.
• She complains about men in general in front of him, always generalizing 'all men are this.'
or that.
• She deliberately makes him feel like a failure as a man, provider, worker, father,
lover, etc.
• She openly compares him to another man - the other man is always better. "The husband of
Paula makes more money than you, and he is just a mechanic..." "Roberto really knows if
dressing, you could get some tips from him..."; "I have a friend at work who would never let
his body will become like yours, and he is five years older than you...
• She talks to him as if he were an incompetent helpless child or a mentally disabled adult.

A man wants a woman who makes him feel like a man. The type of woman described in the picture.
above made him feel like a failure in every aspect in which he needed to feel like a man
truth. She devalues your success; your sexual experience, your masculinity; your body; your intelligence;
your ability to be the 'man' of the couple; your capacity to make her happy; your competence to
satisfy her; among other things - therefore, she completely 'castrated' him.

Despite all of this, not all women have this intensity (or should we say need for control)
and insecurity), but many of us have attitudes like that. Especially those who are more insecure and need to
a lot of attention from the opposite sex to feel good about themselves. I, personally, feel compassion.
poor man who feels compelled to submit to this constant massacre because of his
"moral obligations" in relation to her or her family.

What can women do to end this conflict? Well, first of all, we need to
understand that our men often feel isolated and alone. They do not know how to be
something other than a 'man'. And being a man means that they have no other source but us
women, for intimate contact. In other words, "we" are the only place they feel
comfortable to go and satisfy their needs for comfort, love, and intimacy. It is very difficult for the man
be intimate and kind when he has problems with us.

So what can we do?

• Understand and accept him as he is
• Recognizing our instinctive need to create and improve, and policing ourselves not to do so.
with them before we cause irreparable harm.
• To get what you want, just respect his right not to do things your way.
way. To make a man more of a man, try to be 'more of a woman'! Be charming,

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 feminine and grateful for what he does. You can more easily get a man's help with the
female sweetness than with the strength of a witch.
• Understand that while you feel comfortable doing several things at once, he does not.
A man needs to focus on one thing at a time, giving it all his attention.
• Lead him with love and acceptance and he will follow you wherever you go.
• Make him feel important in your eyes. Many men have affairs because they feel the
need to feel important and successful for a woman, and their women of
some way failed to meet their need.
• Never make him feel sexually rejected. Enthusiasm for sex and with him is the key.
• Value him as a man.
• Believe in him.
• Don't complain.
• Don't try to change him! How would you feel if he tried to change you? Unacceptable? Wrong? A
Failure as a woman? Think about it - don't try to change it.
• Take care of yourself, don't relax. Stay active and interesting – and happily married!
These are simple things that will make your man always faithful and always in love with you.
"you". But you can also attack in another way. Be your husband's "lover"! The list below
bring things that lovers pray we never find out.
• Give many passionate kisses to your man (I'm not talking about 'pecks') and whisper things
pleasant to his ear.
• Truly listen to what he has to say - and let him speak without interruption, advice, or comment.
The only comments you should make are those that show you are understanding the
que ele quer dizer: “Sei”, “Não brinca”, “Entendo”, “Que pena”, “Meu Deus”, etc.
• Offer him yourself and your body more often than you offer your talents.
domestic or unsolicited advice.
• Don't expect that just because he is a man, it makes him responsible for everything that is dirty or wrong.
difficult to do at home. Don't think he should earn more than you; nor that he should
making money is the end of the story. Don't think it's his duty to come home after a day of
hard work and instantly entertain you. Don't make him feel castrated by leaving aside the
your charm and your feminine way.
• Look at him as if he were the most wonderful man in the world – after all, that's what he is.
What you want, isn't it?
• Do not look for flaws to point out, seek to value your qualities:
o the wonderful kiss;
o how he makes her feel protected;
o how he works hard for you;
o how amazing he is in bed;
o how muscular his body is;
o your physical strength;
o his love for the family;
o your intelligence;
o the concern he has for you;
o how his body moves;
o how he makes you feel more like a woman;
o how attentive he is with the children;
o how much he gets excited with you;
o the way he helps her solve problems;
o the way he loves you.
• Do not complain, praise him.
• Get ready for him - prepare yourself as you did for the first date with him.
• Love him the way he is because this is the only way he knows how to be. Accept him for what he is, and
he will love her forever.
• Upon waking up, make love to him, hug him and kiss him – don’t say good morning to him by saying that he has
to mow the lawn or to bathe the dog.
• Don't make excuses not to have sex, but rather to have it. He needs to know that you love him and
or desires.

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 • Try to talk more about things that interest him and excite him, and a little less about the children.
the car, the bills, your idiot coworker, etc.
• Call him by name – he has one, do you remember? Don't you love the sound of his name?
So, he also likes his name.
• Plan romantic outings that involve just the two of you.
• Stop arguing – the discussion only serves to try to prove who is right and who is wrong.
And we all know that we think we are right! Men hate to argue. Did you know?
who can win any discussion simply by agreeing with him and acknowledging that he was
Sure? Try it, you will be surprised.
• Don't be a completely open book. An air of mystery makes him feel more masculine because
this makes you a more seductive female.
• Be a mother close to your children and a woman close to him.
• Do not make sex a weapon for punishment. Keep everyday problems away from the bed.
• Do not take on typical female roles (and do not say that you have never seen yourself in those roles!): the 'queen'
dramática”, a “vítima”, a “criança indefesa”, a “carente”, a “pessimista”, a “cética”, a “dominadora”,
among others.
• Don't lose that seductive 'eye contact'. Lock eyes with him once in a while and let yourself be carried away.
• Don't think that he owes you anything, or that you deserve something.
• Do not compare him to another man, especially if it is to denigrate him – boast about the qualities
that your man has.
• Make sure to frequently tell him things that make him feel good about himself.
"A man is faithful to a woman because of the way she makes him feel about himself. This
"A man cheats on his wife for the same reason!"

Men need to be understood and accepted for who they are

In my research and in interviews I did, I asked men what it's like when a woman makes them feel
they will feel understood and accepted for who they are. One of the interviewees laughed and said: "I believe that
It must be very good, but I have never had that pleasure.” When I asked how they would react to a
woman who made them feel like this, several men answered without hesitation: "I would marry her."
In some way, they didn't seem to be joking.

Don't women realize how painful it is when they try to change us and disapprove?
constantly the way we are?
queries.

Men know that women complain about them and say it is a horrible feeling. What causes it?
In them, a lot of confusion and frustration is that most of the complaints are related to the fact that they are
men. A man I interviewed even opened up to me: "I only know how to be a man. I try to do
what she wants, but it's never enough, it's never right! Men love to solve problems, but
it seems that they can't handle it. Men only know how to be men.

When I ask men what they don't like about women, most of them say that it is the
complaints, the criticisms, and the way women try to change them. Married men told me
who do not love their women as much when they are 'in trouble' all the time - especially if they
they were simply being 'men'. A group of single men agreed when one of them said:
I almost gave up inviting women out. They always seem to be angry with men. What
Did I do it for them to hate me?
bad things that other men have done to them. Men can be very cruel, but I do not deserve it.
"this". The main point of that discussion was that women with anger completely drive men away,
it doesn't matter how attractive they are. Men joked that it was much easier to find a friend to
dinner.
Men feel hurt when we try to change them
Men do not try to change women as much as they do with them. A man who decides to
to marry a woman is to be in love with who she is at that moment. He doesn't want anything about her to change.
But he knows that usually something changes, which explains some caution when taking on a commitment.

Women would hate it if they found out that a man wanted to change or 'improve' them. Still
thus, almost all of them try to do this with them. Getting involved with a man because he has 'potential'
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it is unfair and disrespectful. And we know, deep down, that men do not change. So, we enter into
a relationship or marriage disappointing us. It is not surprising that the divorce rates are so
highs.

If you want men to respond to your advances in a nurturing and loving way, you must
first start to see them in a different way. It is true that men are responsible for
most sexual crimes, violence, and wars, however, most of them are decent and do not deserve to be
treated as if they had some terrible disease. They need to be seen as individuals, which will make you
treat them differently. As you see the hearts of men and understand them in a way
deeper, you start to accept it and value its masculine qualities. When this happens, you
will automatically stop blaming them for being themselves. Without guilt, the barriers fall.

Understand and accept – it's that simple. A man will do anything to make you happy because you will be,
possibly, the first woman to treat him this way. We, armed with the "charm of a woman", are the
key to this type of change, which is what we have always wanted.

Suggestions for a change in your attitude and the reduction of friction between
you all

• List 5 masculine qualities of his that you adore. When opportunities arise, value them.
these qualities, praise him. For example, if you like his appearance, let him know about it; if
Do you like any specific part of his body? Comment; if you like it in a certain way.
specific about how he makes love to you, tell how he makes you feel.
• Let him know when you are proud of him. That way, you will make him feel good.
because he will know that he is making you happy.
• Faça uma lista de 3 coisas que você gostaria que seu marido ou namorado fizesse mais – como ele
treat you, how he talks to you, the help he gives with household things, etc. Let him know clearly
How you get happy when he does these things, this way he will do them more frequently.
But you need to be quite specific for this to have the desired effect - men do not deal
very well with subjectivity.

You are the only source of intimacy they have.

Women have mothers, sisters, friends, and even some male friends to turn to when they need to share.
his emotions. No one blames or judges them. Men, on the other hand, have no one. You are the only person with
who can share his true 'self'. This is an honorable position that should be valued and cultivated.
Think about it. What a wonderful gift you can give to the man you love!

A group of men in one of my workshops shared what had happened to them on occasions when
they allowed themselves to be emotional. They said they felt that 'they were not really being heard',
"felt misunderstood" and often heard that "they were not doing the right thing." Mario,
a professor said: 'My girlfriend asked me to share my feelings with her, but when
I did this and cried, she was startled and said she didn't know how to react. After a while, she ended it.
with me. I will never open up like that again.

Women – and most men – have a very limited view of how men should be
to behave.

Deep in the feminine consciousness lies an ancient belief that men are their protectors,
strong ones, those who must take care of them – and not be supported by them when they feel weak. The
women want to be able to count on men: it's a natural part of our makeup. If they see the
men lose emotional control, how will they continue to respect them? How will they be able to
see them as stronger? Women say they want men to be more emotional, that
I agree, but only to a certain extent. The real problem is that women have too limited a perspective.
on how men should behave.

In society, even today, boys are taught to be men. A teacher shared a

story for me once: “When I was a boy, I was playing and missed an incredible goal - as a result, my

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time lost the game. When I got home, I started crying and my father said: 'Stop crying now. Stop
be a child. Be a man.' Want to know more? After that day I didn't cry for more than twenty years, nor
even when he died.

"Be a man" means that you shouldn't express your emotions, you have to be strong, bear the
responsibilities, etc. Studies show that when they are still babies, boys spend less time being held.
they are less secure and take longer to be attended to when they start to cry.

In the book called The Myth of the Male Power, Warren Farrell explains how the
Pressures to 'be a man,' which begin early on, can affect men. Up until the age of nine,
age, the suicide rate among boys and girls is identical. From ages 10 to 14, the rate of
the boys' rate is double that of the girls. Among those aged 15 to 19, the suicide rate among boys is three times that of
verified among the girls. Surprisingly, this rate is four times higher among men aged 20 to 24
years than women of the same age. This is a frightening statistic.

So, the problem that occurs is the following: women want a man who makes them feel more
feminine - he must be strong, protective, and willing to take care of her; it's just that men also
they want this, but need a safe environment where they can express their feelings. In the world
in which we live today, we – the romantic partners – are the "only" outlet for this
expression of feelings.

16. We must have a complete view of what men are like.

To create a safe enough environment for your partner to express their emotions freely, a
A woman can do many things to keep the relationship strong and vibrant. Don't try to do therapy.
seriously. This must happen without external help. Simply allow him to share his feelings with
you without fear of being judged and this having negative consequences. And don't try to be his mother, saying the
what he should do and how he should do it. Neither of those things is healthy for the relationship.
Continue being the woman he loves, the one who helps him deal with his feelings. Have a broader perspective.
bigger than he is as a man. The fact that he has emotions should make him more charming as
a person and no less attractive as a man. Focus on the masculine qualities you admire, the
what makes you feel more feminine. Is it his physical strength; his intelligence; the way he faces the
adversities; your qualities as a lover; or the way he makes you feel more like a woman.

Notice that you are the woman he loves and trusts. As you fall in love with yourself and
enjoy the pleasure of being a woman, he will become more tender and, hopefully, feel secure
enough to start to 'feel'. Encouraging him to express everything he is gives him the rare opportunity to
to be more human. This is something to be celebrated.
Phrases that reveal the man

A good happy man is a common good.

G. Chapman
"Man is the only animal that blushes, or rather, has reason to blush."
Mark Twain
Each man is a variety of his species.
Francisco de Quevedo
I do not complain about not being known by men; I complain about not knowing them.
Confucius
Although man is weak, joy makes him strong.
Mary Sullivan
The greater the man, the easier it is to appease his anger.
Ovid
He who does not know how to be happy for himself cannot do anything for the happiness of others.
André Gide
Man is the only guilty party of his own downfall.
Muhammad
Bringing men closer is not the safest way to unite them.
Louis Bonald
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Everyone sees what you appear to be; few see what you are.
Machiavelli
What truly flatters any man is to see himself worthy of being flattered.
George B. Shaw
At the exact minute a man convinces himself that he is interesting, he ceases to be so.
Stephen Leacock
Every man has secrets that he himself is unaware of.
William Maugham
Man ruins things more with words than with silence.
Gandhi

17. How do most men show intimacy?

Often, when we think of people being emotional, images of people come to mind.
crying or getting nervous. However, one of the most powerful emotions that can be expressed is the
love.

When a man expresses his love, his heart is exposed.

Men generally do not feel comfortable expressing their emotions through words and, to
for many of them, 'love' is one of the hardest words to say - along with 'marriage' and
"commitment". When a man acknowledges his love, he places himself in a position of vulnerability.
because your heart is exposed. And men know that women tend to assume that marriage
is emerging on the horizon as soon as they hear these words. Then, they end up getting intimidated and do not
they express their love - which does not mean they do not feel it deeply.

Most of the men I surveyed said they preferred sex with love - including the young single ones.
twenty-something years -; which does not mean that they refuse other opportunities. Men generally
they prefer love, but without all those ties. Once men use sex to express
intimacy, it makes sense that they prefer sex to be as complete an experience as possible.

On the other hand, the fact that women carry so many expectations regarding sex causes...
men often avoid getting emotionally close, just to avoid complicating things too much
things. Sometimes men just want sex, without personal involvement. This is already rarer for
women, that's why they don't understand how a man can have sex and not feel that it means anything.
something.

18. You are the channel for him to express love

When a woman understands that sex is how most men express their love and intimacy, she
will become more 'sexual' if she wants to receive her love. When she does this, she becomes the channel for
he/she expresses his/her emotional side more fully.

Unfortunately, women do not have the same permission to be 'sexualized' as men.

Consequently, many women are sexually limited. Even when a woman wants to be
but more open and expressive, it becomes difficult to reverse those negative lessons from childhood. Most women were
taught to be 'good' – that is, not to have sexual relationships before marriage – and then had to
become a sex goddess... Only in the bedroom. Obviously, many women did not adhere to this
practice, but cultural expectations are a strong part of our mentality. Often, sex is
a "special" thing kept in a little box, stored on the highest shelf of the cabinet and only is
withdrawal later, on special occasions.

Women have many body issues, something that prevents them from being as free and carefree.
possible in relation to sex. Men go crazy over a woman who is comfortable with her body. And -
pay a lot of attention to this - they don't expect her to have a perfect body. They are very
less worried, and generally don't even notice, with all those little imperfections that
They will be terrified of you. They will already be grateful just for seeing you naked.

Another important factor is that many men do not know how to make love to a woman. Women are

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complicated and extremely particular when it comes to something she likes, wants, and needs. The men
they enjoy the challenge of discovering the small differences of each woman, even though they often get quite confused
trying to guess the right combination. Often, even after years of marriage, women do not
they feel comfortable telling their partners what they like, and then blame them because
They were not able to unravel their mysteries. Most men love to satisfy a woman.
sexually – it is the greatest achievement for men – and at least once in every workshop I’ve done, a
a man stands up and says: "We want to make women happy, but they have to tell us how." If the
women realize how much men want to know what their partners like - so that they
they can satisfy them and be great lovers (therefore, wonderful men) – women would become more
willing to let their partners know what they like.

When two people love each other, their hearts and souls intertwine.
It doesn't matter how this is discussed in religious or philosophical circles – we are all sexual beings.
We are here to procreate, which requires us to have sex. But we are also here to learn to
me. When people make love – notice the expression: 'they make' love –, the hearts and souls
they can intertwine and merge into a unique moment that can last minutes and even hours. When
A woman can free herself from her inhibitions and let herself be carried away by her sexual energy, a magic.
it happens.

Anyone who believes that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach
failed in geography.
Robert Byrne

I have already asked many men what made the best sexual experience they had wonderful.
One of the men present summarized for the others: 'Sex is good for me when it is obvious that
My wife is having pleasure. But the best is when I feel her love for me.
anything else shows the strength of an emotional bond for men. "She liked it" - one of the
the boys put this simply.

As you cultivate the "woman's charm", you will like your body more, feel more
comfortable to express yourself and relax. As you do this, your ability to enjoy the
sex will expand and you will be a better and more enthusiastic partner. The more you do this,
more love and intimacy you will have with your partner. From then on, the romance will flow, because it will not be
able to get you out of my head.

Add a little spice to your relationship.

Remember that sex for him is the most comfortable channel for intimacy. The greater your appeal
the more sexual, the greater your intimacy will be. Give your best by doing what you know your partner
like it. Some men are more conservative than others, so you will have to determine what will be the
the most efficient way to achieve renewed passion and intimacy.

- Think sexy. Choose at least one moment during the day to feel sexy. This can
It may seem strange to you, but it works, even if you have to pretend. Pretend enough to look like...
real. Stay focused and it will start to happen naturally.

Buy a sexy lingerie this week - even if it's just one. Forget comfort and buy something.
very sexy. Buy at least one pair of thong and try to wear it. You will find out that they are
comfortable, in addition to being sexy.

Flirt and play with your husband at least three times this week. Let him know that you are with him.
"horniness". It is at this moment that he will show more interest, especially if you have been rejecting him for
some time. As your sex life gains momentum again, he will be thinking more about
you.

- Keep focusing on his masculine qualities. Show admiration and compliment him twice.
this week.

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You may encounter some resistance when doing all these things. You may be providing refuge to
some resentments. But remember, someone needs to take the first step – and it won't be him who will do it
That's it! Once the process is started, he will begin to notice you more, think more about you, appreciate and
Praise him more and his love will grow. Take more pleasure in being more of a woman and enjoy the man who...
is transforming into a prince, right before your eyes.

20. Why is monogamy so difficult for men?

Most men admit that they like marriage, children, having a family, a home, and security.
emotional aspect that accompanies these elements. Furthermore, he has an expectation of a
regular and constant supply of sex. That is why so many men choose marriage. The
women hold the key to all of this. Men do not want to put their marriages at risk, but they
they end up doing this because their 'need' for sex, intimacy, and sometimes, variety is very
large.

Men feel important, special, and masculine with the women they are having their
cases. Their wives know them deeply and often make a point of letting them know that
they are not special at all, quite the opposite, sometimes they even say that they are a
disappointment as men and as husbands.

The most common reason for men breaking their promise of monogamy is 'my wife lost the'
interest in sex" or "my wife doesn't do certain things for me, so I have to look elsewhere
place." I usually ask when the interest in sex went away and often they report that
It happened when the children arrived. This is sad since children are an important reason.
for the stability, happiness, and love of marriage.

Several men admit that they have affairs simply because they like to vary, even with things.
being normal at home. What they do not admit - in part because they are unaware - is that they have the
the need to feel important in the eyes of a woman.

Many young people get used to having a variety of partners because women end up being
available. For many, it is not the commitment that matters, but rather the diversity of partners with whom they
it can be. It becomes a difficult decision for men to enter into a serious relationship and
to commit to just one woman... for the rest of your life – a daunting idea for many
men. Fortunately, as they age, the desire for sex decreases and they begin to value the
quality, which includes love and a deeper connection with your partners.
21. Don't get used to it, always try to keep the flame of passion alive
Men and women tend to settle down with what they have, based on the assumption that passion and romance
they will probably end – because that is what happens with most relationships of others
people. If they knew how to keep the flame of love alive, there would undoubtedly be fewer betrayals and
divorces, and they would not want to risk losing something so precious.

It is even interesting that women today are having more cases than they did in the past. There are
several possible reasons for this, such as the fact that they gained their independence; the possibility of
they have more partners throughout life and like to vary, the great expectation of being satisfied
sexually; the passion has exceeded their marriages; the attitude of struggle and conquest of the 90s; and the
emotional turbulence caused by the stress of having to work outside while taking care of a family. But this is not
It's the question; the fact is that it's necessary to create a dynamic relationship.

Many men say they cheat because their wives have lost interest in sex. This
It's concerning. But there are several things you can do to ensure that your partner doesn't leave.
line. Enthusiasm is a strong and quite important word in the issue we are addressing. When a
A man decides to get married; he expects his wife to fulfill all his sexual needs, thus
as well as provide him with a home, emotional security, and intimacy.

But what does enthusiasm mean? It means being open, willing, and eager to be spontaneous and try things.
new. A man, saddened by his divorce, explained: 'My wife had sex with me out of obligation. It was'
horrible. I pretended to have an orgasm so that she would relax. It was terrible.” If a woman is rigid about
what is acceptable is simply to ensure sex, your husband will eventually lose interest. It is very

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for his ego to bear. Some women know what it is to have a husband who has lost interest in them and,
therefore, they know how humiliating this can be.

Men almost always have a wider range of possibilities than women for what is acceptable.
In addition to more curiosity. They have fantasies that they would like their wives to have, or they assume that
the wives do not have, nor are they willing to try or participate. If a woman can leave these
put things aside and enjoy sex with detachment, the act itself can be much more spontaneous,
interesting and vibrant. The variety is completely available.

A couple can decide how to make their sex life more interesting.
A couple should determine together what is comfortable for both, both physically and emotionally.
It is important to have a discussion about why one does not feel comfortable, so that the other can be more
comprehensive and the boundaries can be gently and lovingly stretched. If one or the other feels
Feeling pressured to do something that one considers in bad taste or painful can lead to resentment and hurt.
But if both are flexible enough - at least to consider exploring a new territory
they may discover something wonderful.

The "enthusiasm" we talked about can also mean taking sex outside the bedroom. Flirt with your
husband, tease with sexual innuendos, touch him in a sexy way, encourage him to do the same and say
spicy things in his ear. This lets him know that you understand him and are communicating in a
language that he understands. You may like receiving cards with poems, but remember, sex is the
his preferred vehicle for intimacy and companionship. Give him cards and notes that show him that
you "wish" it. This will be much more meaningful than something more poetic. In this way, then, you can
show how he can communicate his love for you.

The more physical, exciting, and interesting your relationship is, the more he will think about you.

Make him imagine what surprises you will be plotting. Try wearing different clothes, maybe one
fantasy. Almost all men love sexy lingerie and garter belts. Save the high heels for the bedroom and,
If he prefers, don't remove it. A wig that makes her look different can help you feel like a woman.
different and do things that you normally wouldn't do. You can also feed fantasies of being
with someone you don't know. No matter how silly that may seem, it works with the great majority of
men.

Men have needs for certain sexual practices that they think you won't do, so they
They look for another person to do these things. Sometimes a man assumes that his wife
he won't do these things because he never asked her, and sometimes she made that clear herself. They
are often censored by their desires - which devalues them, one of the worst things that a
a woman can do to a man, especially when it comes to his sexuality. This will not change him,
but it may make him keep his wishes to himself. Is that what you want?

If you do not feel comfortable with any aspect of sex, you should clearly honor and respect
these limits. But if you start to understand how insignificant a man's needs are and
remember that you are creating more intimacy with him, you can slowly expand your attitudes, be
more flexible and more open to the possibilities of the expansion of love and passion. The stronger this is,
the greater will be the assurance of a long and successful relationship.

If you gently stretch your limits, you will create the passion and excitement that will bring new life to
your relationship.

I believe that women enjoy sex as much, or even more, than men do. But society does not.
has given women permission to express themselves sexually. When they break free
of old thoughts and ideas and embrace the sexual being they have within themselves, they
they can surrender to the ecstasy that arises when two people fully enjoy each other
detachment.

A woman who learns to love herself and her body and embraces her sexuality is expressing

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your "woman's charm" and your powers as a woman. This type of woman enjoys sex and the union between her and
the partner. A confident woman who loves sex is the most powerful aphrodisiac a man can have.
to experience. If you are the open, available, enthusiastic, and adventurous lover he has always dreamed of, it is
It's very unlikely that he wants to be with anyone other than you.

Men convince themselves that a special woman will be able to meet all their expectations.
erotic, to have an eternal sexual desire and to satisfy them always. Yes, it is asking for a lot; and no, it is not 'fair' to the
women. Of course, it's illusory... but that's how it works. And no matter how much this disappointment is shown,
mainly in the media, it persists strong as ever. Why? Because of the miraculous and inexplicable
magic of love. The maxim that says 'love is blind' is the simplest and most obvious proof of this.

When we love, we transform; we see the person we love with different eyes, we "do not see" the ...
imperfections and we find the person different from all others. That's why you don't need to
to worry about becoming like one of those magazine models. The attitude, the enthusiasm, the
self-confidence, openness to sex, total surrender and true passion of a woman will make her, to
his eyes, more than 'enough'. And even more desired than one of those magazine cover models.

It doesn't take much, actually, but it is very important to ignore. This can be done if you really...
I really wanted.

Exercises for you to expand your 'sexual limits'

Write in a notebook 4 things you like and 4 things you don't like about sex. Think about how you can
transform those you "don't like" into something you "like." Then, write something you would like to be.
feel comfortable doing. Try to understand why you don't feel comfortable. Ask yourself
if you can give yourself permission to try to do this. Finally, write down what you refuse
completely to do. Determine the reason.

Now, if you feel comfortable enough, talk to your partner about what you discovered about yourself.
same. Explain to him what you want to give new life to your physical relationship.
Doubt will support you in your attempt.

Discuss how your attitudes and behavior are affecting his desire for you, and yours for him.
This can be a delicate conversation, so make good use of your 'woman's charm' and remember that the
the reason for the conversation is the expansion of passion and love between you and him. Another option is to use a therapist or
Couples counseling to have this conversation.

If you are single, do the exercise; then talk to a trusted friend about what you
you will discover. The more you understand yourself, the more freedom you will have. The more freedom you have, the more
Happy and beautiful you will be. The happier and more beautiful you are, the more attractive and desirable you will seem to others.
men to meet. If you want a man to appear in your life, you will definitely increase
your chances when you know what it is to feel self-love and the "charm of a woman".
A note for single women: it is important to preserve yourself sexually. When you have sex with a
a very fast man, two things can happen. First, you run the risk of becoming emotionally
connected to him, before knowing if he is the right man for you. Which is a big mistake. The second thing is
Yes, men do lose respect for you if they go to bed with you too quickly. They admit it.
that almost always will say 'yes' to sex, but often feel disappointed with the woman if they are
interested in her. Yes, there are two weights and two measures, but this will be good for you in the long run. Wait
until you both feel connected enough to start something more serious on a more stable basis
solid.

23. A man needs to feel successful

Men have specific areas in their lives where they can shine. Career is usually the source.
primary reward, the way to feel successful. A secondary area is athletics. Many
men never leave behind their days of glory. On several occasions, just to test, I
I deliberately asked some men about their sports achievements. They change. They stay.
animated, ignited, come to life... then, as they finish the conversation, they become nostalgic.

There is no greater loneliness than failure. Failure is a stranger in its own home.

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 Eric Hoffer

You may be married to a man who still has his medals, his trophies – you may even have already
asked him why he still keeps those things - and his scars, and talks about his achievements
sports as if they had happened yesterday.

A third area, where you can actually have a greater effect, is how he feels about his
masculinity. Its power here is unparalleled. It wants to impress you in every possible way and
imaginable. He wants to be a great lover; he wants to protect her; take care of you; and make her happy. Because of
All of this, women often see men as egocentric maniacs who walk around.
made peacocks. Part of this is actually true, but they should not be punished for it. What happens
it is simply a primary reaction when they encounter a woman they find attractive and, most importantly
important, they become interested. So, instead of receiving a negative response, women should
feel flattered – unless, of course, the man is being rude and unpleasant. Only then is it
just place it in its rightful place. Even so, determine your response through the lenses of the 'charm of
"woman". How do you want to feel when you leave a date? Beautiful or horrible?

But you have the power to make your man feel successful. For that, you need to understand
that the media creates incredibly high standards of success by focusing on the small percentage of
men who are company leaders, professional athletes, or stars of cinema or music. The
advertisements bombard men and their families with all those images of expensive products that
people begin to judge necessary for a comfortable and happy life. Consequently, many
men do not judge themselves successful by today's distorted standards. Women can fight
much of this pressure making your teammates feel successful at home.

But what if he is not doing a good job at home? What if he never helps you? What if he ignores the
children? And what if he ignores you? If you still care and want to renew your love, you – and only
you - can improve your relationship. As you develop a greater understanding of
himself and act more often according to the 'woman's charm', you will be able to change your
relationship of water to wine. Give him time and it will make him more attentive to you.
As for household help, appreciate anything he does. If you are someone who constantly complains,
stop it now! Obviously this hasn't helped, besides being a terrible kind of behavior. If he
I brought an empty glass to the kitchen and washed it, appreciate it. If you prefer, give it a little kiss, maybe just a bit.
longer than he is expecting. This may sound like a kind of manipulation, but remember
that you are trying to behave according to the 'woman's charm', and that you both will be more
happy if you can make him your prince.

If he ignores the children, have them sit down and explain everything he does, how hard he works and
nobody thanks him. Explain the power of being recognized and valued. They will then begin to
appreciate everything he does. Teach them how to show respect for him and let him know that they love him and
They are happy because he is their father. Show them how to ask him for help, talk to him, and even play with him.
Only the most insensitive man in the world will not be moved. Respect, esteem, affection, and love can
soften the hardest of hearts.

As John Gray emphasizes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, men need time.
for the transition from work to the tranquility of home. If the family gives love and doesn’t ask for anything in return
he eventually relaxes, and he will be open to participating in anything. But remember, men do not
they concentrate well on more than one thing at the same time. It's a simple matter of understanding. A
A very happy man in his marriage once told me: "The love I receive from my family sustains me. The
life is this.

24. Women do not realize how easy it is to emasculate their men.

Women have the power to drain men. Sometimes they do this intentionally,
more often they do this unknowingly. If you are still reading this book, it is correct to say that
you like men and are responding positively to what has been conveyed so far. If
this is the case, you will be surprised to know how easy it is to emasculate a man, and certainly you will not
wanting to limit him more in the future.

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The Houaiss Dictionary of the Portuguese Language defines emasculate as: to castrate; to lose virility; to lose
strength, vigor; to become weak. Is that what you want to do with the man you love? Of course not.
There is no 'woman's charm' in this. But below you will find described some things that can
doing this to him, even if you are doing it unconsciously.
1. You are insensitive when you say that you don't want to have sex.
2.You use sex as a form of control.
3.You treat him like an incompetent child.
4. You depreciate, ridicule, and embarrass him, especially in front of children, family, the
friends or colleagues.
5.You let him know that you don't need him.
6.You blame him for wanting too much sex.
7.You lower him sexually by degrading and mocking his sexual and romantic abilities.
8.You make him feel like a failure, especially when you unfavorably compare him to others.
men.
9.You mock his body, his appearance, his clothes, his age, his intelligence, and, particularly,
about the size of his penis.
10.You try to be a better man than he is.
Every time you do any of these things, you undermine his masculinity. And each one
At times like these, he closes himself off even more. Originally, when he felt attracted to you for the first time.
you made him feel virile and manly like Superman. That's why he went after you. And you
I found it wonderful. But when you started to get to know him better, the illusion of perfection began to
to lose - and this inevitably happens - a little of its brilliance and you started to see its imperfections.
When this happened, you probably started to say or do one or more of those things.
contained in the listing above. With each insult, a man withdraws more and strengthens his wall of
protection. If you make this a habit, it will either retaliate to the insult or shut down completely.
Often, the man who is sexually interested in you has been emasculated and castrated, or
for you or for society.

Men generally respond to attempts at emasculation with a false indifference; they tend to
avoiding a visible reaction because if they value it, others may think it is true. But for
Inside, they are a little hurt, injured, and upset.

There is no equivalent to emasculation for women, so the man verbally abuses or

physically, in some cases it does both things. But ATTENTION!!! I'm not saying that the abuse
The physical or verbal assault of any woman is her own fault. If a man does this, it is because the possibility...
He was already doing this and he is the only one responsible and guilty for any abuse against a woman. What
What I mean is that emasculating a man can further aggravate a situation that is already volatile.
Most men are aware of their potential for anger and have a healthy respect for it. If the
emasculation done by women annoys them enough, most will withdraw from the situation. The question is
the following, this is the worst thing a woman can do to a man, besides being the quickest way
to deteriorate, and even destroy, his love. It's the antithesis of everything you are learning to do in this book.

25. If you are not happy, he feels like a failure

"We want to make them happy. Just tell us how!" Men say this all the time in consultations.
and in interviews that I conduct, women do not realize that men are being sincere when
they say this and how this is something important to them.

There is nothing more attractive than a happy woman. I can't help myself. I am drawn to her.
made a magnet." Ricardo, a property manager, echoes what the men say to me in
every country. Men want the women they are involved with to be happy. But when
they start to complain and always want more, the man becomes frustrated and exhausted because of the burden that it is
try to make her happy.

Yes, men want you to be happy. But happiness comes from within. If you want your

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relationship - and, in reality, your whole life - improve, becoming a reference of happiness is one of
best things you can do. If you are generally happy:
• You are less likely to get annoyed with the challenges of everyday life;
• You become a more pleasant company;
• You make others feel better because happiness is contagious
When you are happy, it is due to a choice made by you, and not a reaction to something external. You
it can be graceful and tough, or graceful and gentle – depending on the situation.

It is important for women to know that they can learn to be happy. "Wanting" to be happy and "knowing"
being happy are two different things. There are several things you can do to improve your level of
happiness, but for now, here are some tricks you can use when you feel like you're not being
feeling happy.

First, develop an 'internal' smile. Close your eyes, allow a gentle smile to take over.
from your face, then start looking inside yourself. Notice the calm you are feeling.
Now let your face gently wrinkle. Can you notice the difference? Make this a project and
carry an inner smile all the time. With practice, you make the inner smile a habit.

Second, put a smile on your face. Show your teeth, sit up straight. Then, frown the
face and let your shoulders drop. Can you notice the contrast in how you feel? Everywhere
Whatever you are, smile. Smile a little, then look in the mirror. Do you seem to be smiling? If the answer is
no, give a big, open smile that really shows you are happy. Just be careful not to
extrapolate and people will start to think you are crazy. The smile changes your appearance and your
way of seeing the world. If you don't believe me, try.

Finally, try this: start laughing; laugh out loud; do this until you find yourself ridiculous enough and start laughing.
Really. Now pay attention to how you feel. This is a true magic potion.

Whenever you want, you can change your mood with a big smile or a huge laugh.
Try to find the humor in every situation. A lot of things can become funny with the
time, so why not see the grace now? The problems will seem different if you are feeling
well. You can deal with them with a more balanced mind, with more grace. You will be happier and will
feeling better about yourself. Not just you, but everyone around you as well.

Act as if you were, and you will be

William James

26. A woman's rejection is the worst of all rejections

The author Warren Farrell claims that there are more than a hundred opportunities for rejection from the first visual contact.
even sex. Maybe that's why men try to get to sex so quickly; to eliminate the
possibilities of rejection. Perhaps that's why men make women objects. It is
it's less painful to be rejected by an object than by a woman of flesh and blood for whom he may feel
interested.

I have already stopped approaching several women because I was very scared and nervous. It's funny how
a tiny woman can scare a grown man. - confessed Alexandre, owner of a store.
computers.

Many men confirm that they miss out on several opportunities to meet interesting women.
because the fear of rejection is huge. This is a shame considering the high number of women who
they complain because men do not take the initiative.

Married men discuss sexual rejection by their wives in solemn tones. They
They say this hurts every time and they take it personally, yes! A husband, married for 30 years.
Years, he expressed his sadness in a consultation. "I feel like a debauched villain when I want to do
sex with my wife. I think she should feel flattered. It hurts every time she says 'no'.

What kind of wife, if she stopped to think, would want her husband to become emotionally isolated and

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take a defensive stance? If you have ever been sexually rejected, you know how much that can be
humiliating.

The rejection of the world will always exist. But you can provide security to it by not rejecting it at home. You
you can encourage your partner to feel renewed, strong, and powerful, and to feel capable of facing
the daily rejections outside the relationship. There is no doubt that you have faced rejection in the place of
work, but that does not shake who you are as a woman, unlike the outcome of this for a
man. As has been discussed previously, he "is" his work.

If he wants to touch her in a caring way and with a sexual connotation, why not be open to the advance?
Are you flattered by him being attracted to you? If he wants to make love with you, and you don't, know that
this is a delicate issue no matter what you say. Be careful with his ego and feelings
when you don't feel like it.

Imagine how men would feel in situations like those described below.

a.“Not today dear, I’m super tired.” After receiving a little kiss on the cheek, João turns-
turn to the other side to hide the humiliation of rejection.
b."Daniel, guess what. I got promoted! Isn't that fantastic?" Daniel smiles and congratulates him with a pat.
on the back of his coworker, who hides his disappointment. Daniel thought that "he" is who
would receive the promotion.
c. "Do you want to dance?" Jaime gathers courage and invites a woman to dance. In 3 seconds, her "no,"
"thank you" discourages him to the point of giving up on attending places for singles.
d.With tears in her eyes, Carla rushes past her father. "Mom, I fell. Give me a kiss for
"really?" Her father understands, but feels hurt because she doesn't seek him out anymore.
e."The custody is with Marta Silveira. Rogério Silveira will have the right to biweekly visits." A few weeks more
In the evening, the judge's words still echo. Missing the daily contact with his daughter, Rogério
faces another night alone in your apartment.
Men say that rejection – especially from a woman – is the worst thing they have to deal with.
confront. But because society imposes that the initiative for an approach needs to come from them, they will
face the fear of rejection if they are interested enough.

27. Resentment destroys love and desire

Resentment is one of the greatest killers of sexual desire. It grows over time and often
goes unnoticed because it is suppressed. Maybe he has gotten out of shape, or is no longer as kind
with you; but if you really care and want to enhance the love you have for him, this book will help you.

If you make your partner feel good at home, they will be better able to cope with rejection with the
which he faces every day. You will be an important part of his well-being, which in return will
make him want to be kind and helpful to you. It may seem like a little thing, but it can be a
a big difference for him.

But what if he's not interested in you and discards you? The same applies to him. If he has
resentments and hurts, he will need time. Are you negative, complain a lot and are never happy? If the
the answer is yes, you are not attractive in anyone's eyes, especially his.

Are you feeling more beautiful than ever? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you at the weight you want?
Want? Do you give yourself to him completely in bed? If these things are happening, he will not.
to resist. Love makes him endure a lot. However, do not let your guard down. If you relax with yourself
he will eventually lose interest - just as you will too if he becomes careless. You
Did you buy any new lingerie in the last few weeks? Making love is a two-way street, and you can
traverse both paths to make love grow. Often, all that is lacking is a better
communication, more sensitivity and respect.

In summary, rejection is one of the most delicate issues for a man and anything you do
to alleviate your fears and discomfort is a kind and thoughtful gesture. Do everything using the 'charm of
"woman" and everything will work out.

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They lose when they make a commitment
The most basic fantasy of most men is to have sex with many beautiful women, while that of the
women are to marry and have children.

Moreover, men are hesitant about marriage because, despite truly loving the woman,
they know that:
• devotion, intimacy, and sex diminish;
• women, just like men, gain weight after marriage;
• their income drops after marriage because they often have to leave their job or
work part-time when the children arrive;
• they lose the respect they had for them before marriage. And respect is something fundamental in
maintenance of love.
However, no matter how unrealistic it may seem, it is in human nature to hope that the woman
stay, in some way, attractive to him. And when a woman forgets this and neglects herself
Well, you have the perfect circumstance for a man to seek sex outside of marriage. It happens all the time.
hour. "Maybe it's just an excuse, but when my wife gained weight after our second
Son, she was no longer attractive. I love her, but I need to be with someone who excites me.
José, an accountant, confessed.

A man is always aware of his partner's appearance in the eyes of others. He wants to be
feeling proud of his partner and, if that is not the case, he secretly feels embarrassed, or even
humiliated.

There is a process that I call "compensation"; a man loves a woman for a vast range of
reasons, and he often concludes that his wife may not be as attractive as he expected, but
he has other virtues that compensate for this specific deficiency – that is, she may not be glamorous,
but she has a lovely pair of legs, or wonderful breasts, or silky hair, or a great sense of
humor.

If a woman (and this applies to both sexes, of course) neglects herself in some way, then
this "balance" of compensation is disturbed... and the man begins to feel not only "betrayed", but
also cornered. Add to that the children and the expenses and you have the beginning of a decline.

The nightmare of future grooms is that they will find themselves bound to a wife who has abandoned her femininity.
and its glamour, with children who demand time, energy, and expenses. Then it turns into nothing more
nothing less than a slave responsible for supporting everyone. 'I know she gets quite busy with
the house and the children, but I would definitely like her more if she made an effort to look beautiful for me
"mim" - Daniel made this comment over the phone in an interview. Most men are aware.
enough to endure all this and they cannot/will not abandon their wives and children because (1)
they love them and they have a sense of justice and responsibility.

For all these reasons, it's incredible that men and women still get married, and what's worse, some
they still work.

Success - definitely a relative term - in marriage is something very important, even more than
longevity. If a woman changes in a way that she becomes less attractive - she neglects herself, complains, never
she is neither satisfied nor happy or is no longer interested in sex – he most of the time leaves her. No
necessarily asking for a divorce, but emotionally closing off, burying oneself in work and,
sometimes, looking for other sexual partners to fulfill their need for intimacy,
understanding and acceptance.

Some men avoid marriage at all costs: some because they married too young and had
painful divorces; others because they are narcissists incapable of caring about another person beyond
themselves; others because they do not need to give up what they want to achieve what they desire from
women - companionship, sex, intimacy; others still because they do not want to lose their freedom; and others
many who are afraid to open their hearts enough to let another person get close.

Despite everything that has been said, most men like being married. They get married every day and,

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Because of this, they live longer and healthier lives than their single friends. Marriage is beneficial.
to men. Overall, men earn more than they lose, and if the marriage is good, then everything becomes
better. A woman's love is something important to men; so important that it makes the risk and the
sustainable responsibilities.

A woman takes 20 years to make her son a man, and another woman takes 20 minutes to
make a fool of him.
Helen Rowland

29. Men need concise communication.

Most of the problems in our world are caused by poor communication. The only way to
Getting to know someone and understanding that person is through communication - whether verbal, visual, or written.
We cannot read each other's minds, however, it is not uncommon for us to feel
we get upset, misunderstand the actions or words of someone, just because
we hoped they would 'guess' what we are feeling.

It is impressive the frequency since I started working with women for their improvement
relationships, with which I hear them say 'If he loved me, he would know,' or 'If he loved me, I wouldn't
would need to ask." Men "are not" fortune tellers. To them, women are a complete mystery and they
they often complain about it. As a ski instructor once told me: 'My girlfriend gets offended if
I don't do things a certain way. But I can't guess most things.
what she wants. I'm always having to choose and hope that I haven't chosen wrong. It's a lot of pressure.
Can you see how unfair this is? Give him clear and specific instructions about what you want. They want
to succeed. Remember, they need to be successful.

30. Conversation is the feminine way to connect with other people

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, the author gifts us by pointing out how women
they enjoy talking just for the sake of talking. It is an activity as much as it is a form
of communication. And by explaining to us how men need to 'go to their caves', he gave them more
permission to be themselves.

In ancient times, women who lived in community spent most of their time with others.
women. To pass the time, they talked about the most varied things that permeated their
lives: other people, house care, small products that beautified and brought pleasure and the
men and the children of their lives.

Men were more focused on hunting and solving problems such as finding water, protecting the
woman and the children, to ensure shelter, to make weapons and tools, etc. They needed to be distinct and
concise because everyone's life depended on it.

If you go slower, plan better, use more precise language and keep a sense of humor,
men will understand her better. This will cause less frustration and misunderstanding, and the result will be
more harmonious. You will receive more than you want, and he will too.

A part of good communication is being able to read the fine print. Because they are more efficient than the
men in this role, it is up to them to ensure this issue in the relationship. Communication combined with
The "charm of a woman" will generate the love that you and your partner have always dreamed of. What a powerful gift.
you have in your hands, and what an exciting road you have ahead.

Four steps to improve communication

1 -Discuss:
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 a.How does it feel when you are heard?

b.How does it feel when the other person is listening partially?

c. How to raise topics that may cause discontent without causing a fight? (Do not
Forget about the "woman's charm."

d.What would be an agreed signal to end a discussion before it gets out of control?

2 - Have a conversation to discover your individual communication styles. Find out:

a.What does each of you need from the other to feel heard?

b. Do they both have enough time to talk to each other? If not, what can be done to
resolve this?

c. How to improve your verbal interaction so that both of you feel more complete and close.
as a couple?

As you get to know your communication styles better, commit to improving them.
way of communicating with each other so that both have their needs met. They assume a
commitment to strive beyond the so-called 'comfort zone' so that you can talk more
calmly about topics they avoided in the past. Perhaps you may not have been able to ask for the
What do you want? Maybe he wasn't able to say no to you. Maybe you need to make him know.
What is hurting you? Maybe the sexual side of the relationship could improve with communication.
better. Make this a project that you both can work on. There is no doubt that this will bring you closer.
you and make you become more open with each other. This can be quite pleasant.

4 - Continue learning more about how to improve communication. Read books, watch consultations, do
therapy. Anything you do to enhance your ability to communicate well with your partner will
enhance your relationship.

Improve your communication skills, develop ways to be better understood and

Using language to value and bring pleasure to the other will be the most important thing you will do together.
This can make the difference between divorce and eternal love.

THE GAME OF SEDUCTION

1- First steps
Now that you have seen a little more about women, men, and what keeps them interested,
we will enter a more dynamic part of this book. From now on, you will work on your side
"sedutora", "provocante" e "irresistível".
In this part of the book, I will detail several ways you can use daily to
provoke your husband, boyfriend, or lover. They are simple instructions and touches regarding you, to the
environment and the climate that surrounds you both. Some of them can even be used together to
cause a greater effect.
But remember that each human being is unique and has their own particularities. So, make sure
the suggestions you will use to make it droopy are appropriate for both you
how much for him! And good luck!

Basic seduction test

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Before diving deeper into the tips contained in this book, see how you measure up in this.
simple test. Write down your answers on a piece of paper and then check the result.
1- After a fun program, a romantic atmosphere arises with a friend. You
still?
a) It depends.
b) Yes.
c) No way.
2- How would you react if when you were about to pay something at the bank you noticed that the cashier
Is he/she looking at you with bad intentions?
I would imply a meeting for later.
b) I would let him take some initiative.
c) Neither of the two previous alternatives would cross your mind.
3- When a man invites you out and suggests that you choose the plan. You
Say what you prefer easily?
Always.
Sometimes.
c) Never.
4- There comes a chance for you to hook up. You...
a) Prefers that he takes the initiative.
Take the first step.
Sometimes she takes the lead, other times she lets him do it.
Do you talk a lot on the first time you go out with someone interesting?
a) Never.
b) It depends.
c) Yes.
6- After a fight, you let your partner come back - even if the hurt still lingers.
inconvenient?
a) Yes.
b) Sometimes.
c) Never.
You know a man who is your type, but you don't know when you'll be able to meet him.
again. What is happening?
a) Let it go. If nothing happened that day, nothing will happen anymore.
b) He keeps dreaming about the day he will come looking for her.
c) Think of setting something up to see him again.
At a party, a man is looking at you intently, but he doesn't approach you. Would you go?
even without talking to him?
a) Yes. What can we do, right?
b) No. I would try to start a conversation.
c) I would expect something to happen, even if it was the last to leave the party.
9- How do you feel near Valentine's Day?
Eager to buy that gift he's dreaming of.
b) Ito imagine what I could buy.
I choose the gift at the last minute.
You are interested in the new coworker. At lunchtime, he turns to you.
You ask if they know a nice place to eat. How do you behave?
a) Indicate the best places you know nearby.
b) Offers to go with him to his favorite restaurant.
c) Say where you usually go, hoping that he will ask to go with you.

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Some of your points:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
A 2 3 3 1 1 1 3 1 1 1
B 3 2 2 3 2 2 1 3 2 2
C 1 1 1 2 3 3 2 2 3 3
Result
Up to 15 points: You use softness to get closer. Romantic, you prefer to wait.
that the man conquers her, keeping in his world of dreams the expectation of the end
happy. With this strategy, it attracts partners who prefer to be in command. Mysterious, it makes
a game of seduction in which it does not reveal its desires; the problem is that not always
man guesses what you want and this hurts her. Don't worry about pleasing
Always express your desires from time to time - this will do you good.
From 16 to 24 points: You attract by showing interest, but you don't act directly.
Let him take on the role of the conqueror. When a man takes the initiative, you become
desired feeling and surrenders to the relationship with an open heart. In your game of seduction,
there is a type of collaboration in which both are active, each in their own way. Knowing
What you want is the key to your success.
From 25 to 30 points: Your seduction game is quite straightforward. You are objective, you go for the conquest and
don't even think about taking a step back; defeat, definitely, is not part of your
Plans. Tends to attract more sensitive and somewhat insecure men - the more decisive ones.
they do not accept female initiative very well. To spice things up a bit more, perhaps
It would be worth it for you to allow him the opportunity to get closer and show himself.

2- Sweet home
First of all, the basics: your home needs to be a sanctuary! A shelter from the cold and cruel world (and
he can really be that). Create an atmosphere. Light some scented candles. Put a
romantic music to play.
Prepare a drink, a juice, a coffee, or anything he likes for when he arrives. Serve it.
a little for you too and relax with him. Ask how his day was and just listen. Don't him
Forget about problems, bills, or any other bad things at this time. Leave that for another moment.
moment. Give him the chance to forget work and the stress of everyday life and just have a
a pleasant moment of tranquility by your side.
The tension kills the passion!

3- Ask for help when getting undressed

The following suggestion may seem somewhat simple and basic, but for some reason it is powerful and
will drive you crazy... and you'll probably go crazy too!
Stop in front of the mirror. Hold your hair with both hands and ask him to undress you. If he
start to hurry, just say: "Slowly, very slowly."

4- Dress up for the man of your dreams

It won't hurt to make him a little insecure. Do you remember what it was like when you were
Single? Always dressing for the unknown. Do you still dress like that?
If your answer to the question above was "no", go directly to your drawer. Take
any and all panties and bras that are unstiched, torn or damaged in any way and
throw everything away. Buy new, very sexy underwear and dress as if you always were
find the man of your dreams!

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Remember: if you want to drive him crazy, it's better if you yourself become a little wilder!
Even if you can't buy the clothes you want right now. Start acquiring them piece by piece, before
you will realize your wardrobe will be a true 'arsenal'.
In the morning, don't get dressed in the bathroom. Do it in front of him... slowly. Make it a ritual.
Look at yourself in the mirror and act as if you are alone and putting on a show for yourself. Be casual.
Don't look at him or give the impression that the performance is for him. After that, move on to yours.
makeup and put on your jewels.
If he makes any comments about your new underwear, just say: "Oh, I was tired."
of those rags.
At this moment you know you have his attention. He may be wondering what you are for.
producing so much all of a sudden. It wouldn't be for him... would it? Nothing like a little jealousy
to awaken that old flame!
But keep one thing in mind: I am not suggesting that you play with the
his feelings; not even if you make him jealous by flirting with other men; and much less
that you imply there is someone else. This is dangerous and the shot could backfire.
Mutual trust is the cement for the solidity of the foundation upon which we build love.
solid.

A long bath is good for you

Take a foam bath for both of you. Wash his feet, scrub the rest of the body.
take care of everything and wash his head too, without hurry. Always in a gentle, loving way and
a little mischievous. When he's done, ask him to do the same to you - he
will love.
When they finish bathing, dry each other.

6- The lingerie
Men love women in lingerie! Nudity is something fantastic for them, but the
the mystery and eroticism of a woman in lingerie has a much greater impact. Furthermore,
The part of nudity will not take long to happen!
Even when you're not really in the mood, some of these games are cool.
Always show him your new bra or your new panties - especially if you
was dressed in the pieces.
Say something like: "Darling, what do you think?" - before you finish getting dressed or...

7- A different night
Find someone to look after the kids and take them to a suite in a hotel with
hot tub. Order candles, music, and room service. Forget the clothes.
taking a bath at home.
Make this a surprise, don't let him know until you get there. The biggest of
men, deep down, is still a child - despite never admitting it.
Children love surprises!

8- The massage
As I said before, "tension kills passion"! The following technique is one of
the most powerful ways to make your man relax and get him 'in the mood'. The same
it's worth for you.

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Give each other massages (not on the same night). Start with him. Our body
absorbs tensions that we are not even aware of. We may be carrying years
of stress without even knowing it.
Get a good book about massages (preferably a sensual book) and learn together.
with him the techniques. When you massage him you will be impressed with the reactions of the
his body as you release years of tension. It may shake, tremble, and moan.
If you are doing it right, he will be moaning sooner than expected! A good
a massage with soft music and candlelight drives any man crazy
matter of minutes.
Until you find the right book or therapy, here are some tips: ask him to lie down.
face down. Start with his feet, massage each toe individually and move up.
slowly over his body. But do not touch the intimate parts! Give more attention
for the upper part of the back, the shoulders, and the neck.
Give the same attention to each of his fingers. Two great points to be
pressing is on the soft part between the thumbs and the index fingers. The palm of the hand is
another good point to massage. As you learn more about the body of
Your partner, you will naturally discover other good points to apply.
pressure (just as he will also learn yours).
Use the palm of your hand, fingers, and thumbs. Alternate a gentle massage with
pressure on certain points. Ask him to say if you are hurting.
to reinforce, it is good to apply real pressure. By getting to know his body better, you will
to perceive some "knots" of tension. Don't forget the head and the scalp.
Then start going down again. Now it's time to play a little.
with him. Gently stroke the inner thigh from bottom to top, in the direction of the
genitalia, until I can feel her warmth... but don't touch yet!
So, give his little bottom a kiss and turn him to face you. Repeat the process, but
This time you can already imagine how it ends. Before starting at the front part
from his body, you can try to combine this technique with any other that comes more.
ahead.
Use your imagination!

9- The masseuse
A variation of the technique described earlier: schedule an hour for him with a
masseuse (a woman, obviously). When you go to pick him up, he will be ready to
anything!
Pay attention: I didn't tell you to take him to a 'massage parlor'. If you do that, it's
likely nothing will be left for you!

Camping can be a good idea

Go camping and show him the animal that exists in you. Step away from the reality of the day-to-
It is an important way to bring you both closer. Take your cell phone if you have one.
left the children with someone. But remember to let them know to only call if it's an emergency.
emergency.
Bring wood for the campfire and something comfortable for you to sleep on.
Nature awakens something in people. The fact of being far from civilization awakens something.
primitive in all of us. It makes us more aware of what is real and helps us,
unconsciously, to remove the useless layers with which we surround ourselves over time
life. We remove these layers as if we were peeling an onion.

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Being away from home and routine also means setting aside the little things that
Awaken "negative emotions" - the bills, the dirty dishes, the children fighting, etc. So
Take advantage of this time when the world 'stopped' for you and have fun!

Does your relationship have an end date?

Check if your relationship has a future or not.

1- Normally, how does he treat you?

a) Very well, he is quite attentive and helpful.
b) In his way (and you love his way).
c) Normal, but sometimes he explodes and ends up being rude.
2- When it comes to "making out", you...
She surrenders without fear of being happy.
b) Shares all the cool moments.
c) Enjoys the move, but doesn't feel very comfortable.
3- You...
They admire, respect, and also inspire each other.
They accept it, get a little stressed, but in the end, they understand each other.
c) They cannot reach any conclusion.
4- When you are in public, you and he...
They only care about you two.
They prefer to avoid scandals.
They stay alert to see if others are watching.
5- How do you deal with the differences that become more evident over time?
time?
a) Without traumas, since no one is like anyone else.
b) With indecision.
c) Discussing and sometimes even arguing.
6. Be honest, can you imagine yourself with him a year from now?
a) Yes, it is quite possible.
It could be, but do you think it doesn't depend just on you.
c) Difficult, because you argue a lot and hardly understand each other.
7. Be even more sincere, what do you think of his family?
a) Legal: they never interfered with your bid.
b) Legal, but do you think they could interfere less in the relationship.
c) To tell the truth, you don't really enjoy meeting his family.
8. For you, the relationship with him is...
One of the coolest things in your life.
Fun and makes you enjoy life more.
c) An exercise in patience.
Some of your points.
For each A answer you had, add 1 point; for each B add 2; and for each C
some 3 points.
Now check the result.
0 to 8 points - All the time in the world
You are going through a great phase for a relationship. And he should be doing well too.
excited about you, and this promises to last a long time. It's that you are in tune
and, even in moments when some friction arises, they know how to communicate. For you, it matters

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a lot of mutual trust, and they are willing to continue the relationship without disrespecting each other
to each other. This way, they avoid fights and enjoy much more the good things that happen
no romance. Moreover, affection and attraction are not lacking between you, are they?
9 to 16 points - ... and time passes
Is it really going to work out? How many times have you asked this question about your
relationship? Indeed, do you feel that your differences with him could be signs of
that the romance will sway and then ends up feeling insecure if it's really worth being in it.
committed. Sometimes, you might even think that you are with him just to avoid being alone. You know
What is missing? Just stop for a little while and know what you really want. If you are
happy and feels that he is enjoying too, you don't need to feel insecure: relax and enjoy
This is the relationship! It can still bring some really cool moments!
17 to 24 points - Time to wake up!
Appearances do not always deceive, my friend. Your relationship seems to be suffering from
a serious problem: your disinterest. It could be that the romance has faded a bit.
a little in the routine or even that, now that they know each other a little more, are realizing
that can't feel so at ease together. It's time to take stock of your history
with him. If she comes to the conclusion that she only gets irritated around him and that they can't be together.
together in a good way, it's really better to move on.

Body painting and temporary tattoos

Buy body paint and paint each other. Body painting is a way of
art that is becoming popular in Europe. Some body paintings are incredibly
elaborate. Many artists are creating various illusions with their techniques.
You can find several examples of body painting on the internet.
Make sure you are using the right material for this. Otherwise, you
it could be harmful to your health - besides, you don't want to arrive at work in
Monday with a paint that you couldn't wash off.
Remember to take some photos for that album that you don't show to anyone.
Temporary tattoos are another way to change your look. You can do it yourself.
design your henna tattoo - remember that this takes a bit of work
remove.

12- The sexual slave

The following technique should only be used if the confidence is absolute. It is also something that
both parties are comfortable and in agreement. This will only be mentioned here
because it is something that people really fascinate over, and many say it is the most
the most powerful erotic technique of all.
Ask him to tie you up and do whatever he wants.
When he starts to get ready, say:
But there is a condition.
- Which one? - he will ask.
Only if I can do the same thing tomorrow night.
Note if he will arrive early the next day and be anxious. I bet he will.
When it is his turn, make sure to kiss and touch all parts of his body first.
to go 'to the finally'. This will be the greatest imaginable torture for him! Tease him a lot,
smell it, kiss it, and touch it.
If you have a sale, it can work in your favor. It will help you focus.
but in its other senses.
The pleasure you will have will be proportional to what you give to it.
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The act consists of giving your partner the gift of being able to relax and just
enjoying the experience without doing anything... nor being able to do anything.
One tip: this technique works very well after the previously mentioned massage.

The Fantasy
A variation of the technique presented earlier: when he is completely
bound and completely at your mercy, say that you will only free him if he reveals his
most secret fantasy - the one he never revealed to anyone!
Say that if he does that, you will try to do everything to achieve it and that, next time
Next, you will do the same for him.
Revealing the fantasies will drive you both crazy!

The exhibitionist
On a cold night, ask him to take you to the mall to buy something. Put a
very long coat. Try to be alone with him in the elevator. When you succeed, throw the
coat on the floor and show him that you are completely naked underneath it
coat.
If he shows that there is a camera in the elevator, just say: 'I know!'
If this doesn't drive you crazy (and you don't go crazy either), nothing else will do it.
Be careful! Don't try to do anything in the mall elevator, you could get arrested.
for offense to modesty!

15- The belly dance

Learn belly dance. Take a friend with you. Have fun! Belly dance is
a fantastic exercise, connects you with your body and besides having the power to
bewitching men for thousands of years.
Find a gym or a private instructor. Don't let him know. At the moment.
Sure, give a private presentation and leave him speechless.

16- Switch roles

Pretend that you are the man in the couple and she is the woman you are making love to.
Translate with 'your wife' using everything you know about yourself and your body
it's everything you would like a man to do with you.
You will not only drive him crazy, but you will also be teaching him to be better
lover without having to say a single word (that is, without hurting male pride).

The tie
Buy a tie for him. When you are talking to him throughout the day, mention it.
that you have a little gift for him at home. When he arrives, show him the gift.
Be wearing the tie - only the tie!

18- Take him to buy lingerie

Log into a lingerie website with him by your side. Talk to him about the different
models, ask which models he likes, say which ones you prefer, what he
I think it would look good on you, etc. This will make both of you excited.
Then give him a mission, to buy lingerie for you.
You can also go out to buy those things and take him with you. This is a
a program that he will definitely be interested in doing.
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Doing anything together is wonderful! Companionship is another ingredient.
important in any relationship!

19- Visit a sex shop

Now that you have taken him to buy lingerie, take him to a sex shop. There, let the
let your fantasies be awakened. Surrender to your desires.
If you feel embarrassed and awkward, great! You will be showing him
that you are a passionate woman and want to share that with him. That, in itself, is already a
big gift.
Fear and embarrassment destroy passion if they are not overcome.

20- A different bath

Drive to a lake or a more deserted beach and invite him for a nude bath under the moonlight.
Small adventures like this can reignite some of the fire of passion that has been lost.
over time.
Remember to bring a blanket or a thick quilt for you to keep warm later.
something to snack on and, of course, a good wine!

21- The breakfast

Make a delicious breakfast and bring it to him in bed. Don't make this a routine. This
it's just something special to put a smile on his face. After he starts to
eat, take off the robe or whatever you are wearing and say: 'Save some space'
for dessert.
Anticipating a feeling of sexual excitement will leave you even more aroused.

Super Love Test

Take the test and see how your love is doing! Write down your answers on a piece of paper.
paper and check the result at the end of the board.
You head to your boyfriend's house and have two paths to choose from:
a) A shortcut is short and quick, yet simple and boring.
The outro is wide and has an amazing look.
Which one would you choose?
On the way, you stop at a flower shop and find yellow and red roses.
Decide to take 20 of them. So you took:
a) How many yellows?
b) How many red ones?
(You can choose all of a single color.)
Finally, you have arrived at your destination, and a family member of your
boyfriend opens the door. You wait:
a) Let someone call him.
Go after him yourself.
4- You go up to your boyfriend's room and he is not there. Where do you leave the
flowers
on top of the bed.
b) At a table by the window.
5- Logo it's time to sleep. You and your boyfriend sleep in separate rooms. In the
the next morning, you go to his room and wait for him to:

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a) Be sleeping.
b) Be awake.
6- It’s time to go home. To return to your house, you take the path:
Short.
b) Long
Check your answers against the ones described below.
The path represents your attitude of falling in love.
If you take the shortcut, you fall in love easily and quickly.
b) If you follow the long path, you are hard to hold onto in a relationship.
2- The number of roses and the color represent:
how much you give yourself to this relationship.
b) the yellows how much you expect to gain in return.
3- This question reflects your attitude in dealing with your problems in relationships:
a) If you answered that you prefer to wait for them to call you, then you like to avoid the
problems and hope that they will resolve themselves.
b) If you answered that you will go after him, it’s because you are a more direct person and you like
resolve problems quickly.
The place where you put the flowers means how much you like to see your boyfriend.
a) If you put him in bed, you are always willing to see him.
If you put it on the table, it's because you don't like that person as much as you like yourself.
same.
5- It is expected that...
a) If you are dreaming, it's because you like him for who he really is.
b) Be aware, it is because you expect him to change for you.
6- The path was chosen for the return...
Short is because you are truly in love and want the relationship to last.
a long time.
b) Longo is because she is already tired of relationships and needs to stay in the moment
alone.

The trick of the fitting room

Take him shopping. Make him bored and insist that he stays outside.
in the dressing room to say whether you like or not what you are wearing.
Start with a dress, then wear something lighter. You will delight in the expression.
the look on his face when you leave the dressing room wearing only sexy lingerie.

23 - Learn tantric yoga

Study tantric yoga with him. Yoga means discipline in Sanskrit. Tantric yoga is
thousands of years of learning techniques to extend your orgasms for long
periods and to awaken your deepest erotic emotions. It's amazing!

24- Practice martial arts

Take a martial arts course with him. Practice together. The rest will come naturally.
But make sure that what you are going to learn requires a long physical contact - that is
very important. If there is no physical contact, give up - physical contact is essential
for your spicy aspirations.

25 - Dance classes
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Take him to take dance classes with you. This is one of the great activities.
importance for couples. The type of interaction caused by an activity like this can
generate important elements for a relationship - the complicity, the solidarity, the
companionship, patience, joy, and a multitude of other things that you will only
knowing if to dance with him.
Dance is quite the "foreplay"! In addition to the magic of music.

26- At the restaurant

Invite him to dinner in a place with large tablecloths.
During dinner, take off your shoe and start rubbing your foot on his legs and then the
Support between his legs. Gently slide your foot over his private parts. If he
start looking around, don't worry, keep going - it now belongs to you
totally!
If you really feel 'naughty', discreetly take off your panties, and pass them.
put it under the table and ask: "Do you like the perfume?"

27- Play with your food

When you have those special dinners for him, discover the erotic potential of
every piece of food you put in your mouth. Put on a show for it - do "oral sex"
with your food. Maintain eye contact at all times. This will make him extremely excited.
(don't worry, you'll also be there).

28- A fatal combination

On those special nights when you feel inspired, make it a habit to wear a garter belt.
the high heels at home. This will surely excite him.
Be careful. High heels can ruin your feet and ankles. Use them only in
special occasions - like those when you want to drive your man crazy with desire
for you.

A good relationship keeps the flame of passion alive

Eventually make his favorite food or dessert. This is something simple, but it's this
type of thing that shows your love and affection for him. A good relationship, for
if only, it's already the first step for you to make him fall for you the moment you
wanted.

Discover what your Prince Charming is like

Answer this test to find out what your Prince is like. Write down the answers on a piece of
paper and check at the end of the board how it will materialize.
1- Super interested in each other. So, how would the first kiss happen?
a) He approaches and starts a conversation as if he doesn't want anything, but he can't hold back. In 5 minutes he's already
saying how much you caught his attention and trying to give him a kiss.
b) Don't care about the other people who are close to you, get closer quickly.
steal a kiss.
c) It arrives gently, converses, tries to find out what you like and stays by your side for a long time, until
to roll a kiss.

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2- What would be his perfect love declaration?
a bouquet of roses delivered to your workplace, in front of everyone. To top it off, a kiss
breathtaking at the exit.
"I love you" said out of nowhere, at the moment you least expected it, accompanied by the phrase:
I never managed to say this to anyone.
c) When you are alone, he hugs you tightly and says that you are the woman of his dreams.
3- What gift would your Prince Charming give you?
a) It would be something made by him: an album with photos of you, a love letter, or a poem.
b) Something fashionable: a leather jacket or a pair of very expensive sunglasses.
a candlelight dinner.
4- Imagine him coming to meet you. He...
a) He is wearing jeans and has a somewhat 'relaxed' look. From kilometers away, you can already start to
walking with arms outstretched to embrace her.
b) He will pick her up at home by motorcycle, all dressed in black, stunningly handsome!
It's all scented, nicely arranged, and smiling at you.
What type of movie would you choose to watch with him?
a comedy.
b) An adventure movie.
a novel.
6- He finds out that another man is hitting on you. What would his reaction be?
a) Kiss her in front of the other guy.
b) Keep dying of hate and say that the other will deal with him.
c) Be discreet and just ask you to distance yourself from the guy.
7- If you had to compare him to an animal, which one would it be?
a hummingbird.
a leopard.
a cat.
8- Do you expect him to...
a) Never stop showing how much you love yourself.
b) Never lose your charm of a suitor.
c) Always be romantic.
Check the result:
Majority A
Crazy for you
The man she dreams of is not the traditional type, all proper. He is creative, loves
surprise her and does not think twice when it comes to showing the love he feels.
That's why he is capable of the greatest craziness, and for him, what really matters is that the relationship
never fall into routine. So, always make sure it looks like you just finished
to know and never tire of saying how special you are, beautiful, and how happy it is to have you
side. He is a charming prince who loves an adventure and is up for anything at
side of the woman who loves!
Majority B
Bad Boy in love
He is a modern-day charming prince. He has the conquistador and bad boy type.
that goes around causing trouble; the fame is just because he likes adventure and his appearance
he is far from being the perfect man. Despite being successful with women, he does not
there is a lot of talent when it comes to expressing feelings. That's why it is surprising to realize that
is in love and his declarations of love end up coming out spontaneously. But

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even with all the difficulty, he has no fear of declaring himself in love and of
treat her like a princess.
Majority C
Good boy
Your Prince Charming is old-fashioned: romantic, sensitive, and always concerned about
to please the girl of his dreams. He is not the impulsive type, who just comes and goes.
declaring and trying to be with you. Wait, probe the ground and only then proceed to the conquest
after getting to know her well and being sure that things will turn out the way he expects.
He is even a little shy and the love declarations only happen when they are alone.
compensation, in these moments, opens the heart and does not turn down those hugs well
tight, worthy of a queen!

A little movie always hits the spot.

Cuddle together on the sofa, under a blanket, and watch a good movie. Something with
a good story or a good message. A good love story can awaken
the noblest love that had been forgotten because of routine.
Love Beyond Life and The Bridges of Madison are two good movies that come to my mind.
now. "Sweetwater" movies are also worth it, as long as the story is
nice. Wouldn't it be good if he fell asleep before the movie ends.
There are other films that are a bit more erotic and serve the same purpose.
Action movies are also valid, even if they were not made to excite or
to awaken sexual desire.
But remember: being together doesn't mean having sex! Enjoy the moment in the best way.
possible way.

31- A card to create anticipation

Make a card for him. Write about the best moment you have ever had together and
Say that you want to repeat this. Put the card in the folder or in the pocket of the blazer.
Another suggestion is for you to write about something you want to do together with him - a
trip, a walk or anything else. The planning and the expectations generated by
Something like that is always very good for.

32- Atop model

One night, when he is relaxed and feeling good, tell him that you want to do
a private parade.
So, place it prepared in the room and start the show. But at the moment when you
when he enters he will realize that the parade is lingerie!
Drive him crazy with your new outfits, put on some music and take the runway.
You can probably imagine the outcome of this...

33- Know yourself

Nothing excites a man more than a passionate woman. Learn about yourself and your
body. Discover a way to free your mind. Read, research, and study. If you
if you want to know more about passion and desire, look for an interesting book that deals with the subject
Read it. If possible, together with him. This way, you both will be discovering things.
new - you will be learning more about yourself and he will be getting to know new ones
ways to give you even more pleasure.

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34- Say "no" to stagnation
Get out of the routine! Understand 'routine' as a sequence of events and occurrences.
diaries where neither you nor he shows affection and love for each other.
For this, try to do small surprises once in a while, seek new things.
for you two to enjoy, invent new positions in bed or do activities
different and pleasant.
Be creative!

35-Strip poker
If you still don't know how to play poker, learn.
When you two are alone at home, doing nothing, take a deck of cards and
invite him to play. Suggest poker. Just let him know that you will play in a certain way.
different, you will not use chips or money. The game will run as follows: the
with each defeat, the person who lost must take off a piece of clothing! And if, by chance, you already
if you are completely naked and lose the match, offer to pay for another's defeat
way... if you understand me.

36- Call at the end of the workday

When it is close to the time he gets off work and you are already home, call for.
tell him that you are dying of longing and desire, and that you are waiting for him in
completely bare house! Say that you are on fire and need someone to
turn it off with the utmost urgency!
I guarantee it will be the day he comes back from work earlier.

A little souvenir
Subtly place one of your panties (preferably a
well dug). Do it in such a way that he only realizes when he has already arrived at the
work.
It is certain that he will spend the rest of the day thinking about you, eager to come back to you.
house.

Chocolate cake
Make a really tasty chocolate cake when he is home. Remember to make it.
sufficient coverage for the cake and for you.
Appear in the room naked, all covered in chocolate and ask him to help you to ...
clean. But with one condition - it has to be with the tongue!
Be more careful not to spread chocolate on the sofa, carpet, etc. Go to bed, the table.
from the kitchen or any other place that is easier to clean when the playtime is done
finished.

39 - Do some physical exercise

Get stronger. Join the gym or do any other exercise to strengthen yourself.
your muscles. With more energy you will feel better, look better and
to have a longer and healthier life. Not to mention that you will have more strength to 'fight' with
he's on the bed!

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A half-hour walk every day is something simple that exercises your heart and
your lungs. But it doesn't have to be just walking, you can do water aerobics.
or even swimming - a very complete sport.

40- The reward

Buy him something he likes - a hat, a new tool, etc. Say: "this was "
for last night.
When he starts to feel like the best man in the world, he will realize that the only
the one responsible for this is you.

41- Fantasies
Fantasy is a powerful tool capable of bringing excitement even after years.
of companionship.
Be mysterious, be different, pretend to be a university student, or a prostitute, or both.
things.
Meet with him in a public place. Dress like a woman who doesn't want to go to
unaccompanied house!
Tell him to pretend he doesn't know her. Instruct him to sit away from you and watch.
What happens for some time. Feel free to flirt with other men,
but do not exceed the limits. Know how to distinguish what is provocation and what can offend the
your companion.
When he sees that you are being harassed too much, he will come to meet you. Flirt with
he, talk as if you didn't know each other, go home (or to a motel) with him and
seduce him in the best way you can.
Tonight the place where you go will catch fire!

Know what is the element of the man that attracts you the most

Water, Earth, Fire or Air? Find out which zodiac element belongs to the man who wakes up your
wishes and check out the tips to win him over!
Do you like men who dress...
a) With style, they attract attention and are always in fashion.
b) In a more formal manner - shirt, trousers, and shoes are ideal.
c) With a modern touch - they need to know how to combine clothes and accessories.
In a simple way, but with a personal touch.
What do you value most in a man?
the beauty.
b) The behavior.
c) Intelligence.
d) The sensitivity.
His main qualities are...
Beauty, independence, and determination.
b) Security, discretion, and sincerity.
c) Intelligence, good humor, and willingness.
d) Romanticism, fidelity, and dedication.
4) What kind of pick-up line would you like to receive from him?
How have I managed to stay this long without kissing you?
Can we go out, go to a bar and chat?

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I'm eager to read the book of your life.
Shall we leave this place and take a walk on the beach?
What is the soundtrack of your meeting with him?
Your signs confuse me from head to toe, but inside I devour you...
Djavan
b) "I know that you know almost without wanting to, that I want the same as you..." ("Almost without wanting")
Renato Russo
c) "Let me tell you that I love you, let me like you..." ("Love I love you", Marisa Monte)
I know that I will love you, for all my life I will love you...
Jobim
6) What is the environment you imagine when you see yourself with him?
You at a party, getting the crowd excited.
b) You in a restaurant, having dinner by candlelight.
c) You on a trip, getting to know new places and having fun.
You on a walk, hand in hand, watching the sunset.
What flower would he be?
a large and beautiful sunflower, standing out among the other flowers.
a) A carnation - beautiful, discreet and looks good anywhere.
A tulip, in a colorful vase, to boost your mood.
a rose, exhaling a delicious perfume through the air.
8) At a party, who is the first man that catches your interest?
a) The one who is in a circle of friends, talking and laughing.
b) The one who is leaning against, just observing the movement of the place.
c) What doesn't stop dancing.
d) The thoughtful one, who seems to have their head in the clouds.
I would like him to have a good time...
a) Taking care of my appearance, to look beautiful for myself.
b) Making plans for our future.
c) Making small talk with me.
d) Doing everything to please me.
Did you write down the answers? Now, check the result.
If you answered:
Majority A
This man is FIRE!!!
Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius
Beauty may not be everything, but for you it is essential. You feel attracted to men who take care of
visual, but even valuing the physical aspect, you also look for guys with personality
strong. Dreams of loving someone who protects her and adds a touch of mischief to the romance. And this is them
fire men know how to do very well. Tip to win him over: use your charm to catch him and
show your qualities!
Majority B
A man from EARTH!!!
Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn
He doesn't usually attract attention in places and likes to think a lot before taking action.
conclusions. For this reason, it is also not advisable to relate to just anyone. This type
of man stirs your desires. What awakens your admiration for him is the
the way he faces life - he doesn't beat around the bush and fights to get what he wants. Tip
to win him over: don't push things for you to be together. Let things
happen naturally!

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Majority C
The man is in the AIR!!!
Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
Happy, friendly, communicative... A man like that drives you crazy. His target lives
doing several things at the same time. He may even seem unstable for changing
humor, but knows how to attract everyone's attention. Another detail that makes it more
charming - is intelligent and curious, but does not spend days at home studying. Tip
to win him over: talk to him and be prepared to talk about everything a little bit.
Majority D
Man in the WATER!!!
Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces
Don't you resist a sensitive man? Then, your heart beats stronger for men.
of water - one of its most striking characteristics is sensitivity. They know
how to touch a woman for not hiding her feelings. On the other hand,
They need someone to 'hold them by the feet', because they live dreaming while awake. Tip
to win him over: notes, love letters... do something that demonstrates your
feelings.

42- Strengthen your intimate muscles

Learn to strengthen the muscles of your vagina with Kegel exercises. You can even
think about buying a book on the subject to make your learning easier. Be
with the book or just with the reliable information you found on the internet, practice
what you learn and expect the results. The benefit will not only be for him, but for you
pleasure during sex will also increase considerably.

43- Snack panties

Make him wear one of her edible panties and eat it. If it excites him, put on a
and make him eat it.
Attention: this is not advisable for people with diabetes. Edible panties have
high amount of sugar.

Game day
When he comes home from work, have the house ready and the kids with their grandmother or with
Babysitter. Tell him to take a shower because you have a surprise.
When he comes out of the shower, be wearing his favorite team's shirt and tickets.
for the game that night.
You can do this together with another couple of friends if you want.

Make his afternoon more lively

Go have lunch with him one day during the week. During lunch, tell him everything you
What do you intend to do when he gets home? Be specific in the details and do not hold back.
words.
It is very likely that he will spend the whole afternoon thinking and trying to anticipate mentally.
what awaits him. His imagination will be running wild and he will come home crazy with desire!
Be ready.

46- Coverage is never too much

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Buy chocolate sauce with whipped cream, be very, very creative. There's no way you won't.
they will like.

47 - Erotic photographs
Make an erotic book for him. There are photographers who specialize in this. Prepare it.
a surprise for him.
When gifting it to him, let him look at the photos, one by one, and see his reaction. His
poses will probably excite him. And to make him stay for good
crazy, give as a gift a small photo of your sexiest pose that fits inside the
his wallet. Remember to spray your perfume on it before handing it to him.

48- Sports knowledge

Learn what you can about his favorite sport and his favorite team. That would be good.
do this project together with a friend of yours. Learn the rules and the
strategies. Get to know the players (you and your friends may have another way of
classify the 'quality' of the players.
Surprise him with your knowledge. He will know that you did this for him. This too.
will help her to enjoy and make much more of this type of event.

49- Massage for sleeping

When you feel that his day at work was very busy and that he is dead tired.
tiredness, apply a massage on his back until he falls asleep.
A relaxing massage is always a good choice after a tiring day. Use a
body cream or some oil for massage. Encourage him to do the same on you
some other day. And remember: the massage doesn't always have to be followed by sex.

50- Masquerade Ball

Take him to a masquerade ball or a costume party. It's amazing how inhibitions...
they disappear when you are anonymous. Be a 'naughty girl', but remember to set limits
rules before you leave home.
Be sensitive to recognize your partner's needs and insecurities.
Remember: the idea is to get excited "for each other".

51- Duet
Go to a bar that has karaoke and do a duet next to him (you can do that)
at a party that also has a karaoke). The experience of singing for an audience is
exciting. It's very good to be able to face fears and insecurities. And it's even better
to be able to share this with the person you love.

Truth or Consequence
Play 'truth or dare' with him (for those who don't know, it's that game)
in which a person asks and the other, if they cannot or do not want to respond, has to do
something that the person who asked sends.
Ask provocative and revealing questions. Limit the number of answers for you not to.
they will only stay in conversation and let the situation and the created atmosphere take care of
forward the rest of the night.

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53- A joint program
This technique is for you who have self-control and are secure in your relationship. You
You can do this even together with other friends and their partners.
Let's go out together but don't tell them where you are going. Imagine the surprise at the
their faces when you stop in front of a strip club.
Take a table for yourself and your friends a little further back, relax and watch.
Ask him to choose one of the women and pay her to do the belly dance for.
She. Her friends must accompany her in the decisions.
After some fun, each one should take their companion and take them home.
or to the nearest motel and see the result.
Attention: do not worry about him getting excited by another woman. Take
make use of the situation and remember that it was something created by you. Make it clear that it was
a gift and not an incentive for him to visit this kind of place without you.

Do you know how to win over someone at a party?

Check if you are ready for the night's events. Grab a pencil and some paper and
write down your answers. Then check the result at the end of the board.

1- When you arrive at a party, what do you do first?

Take a look around to see if you find any romantic interest.
Look around the environment to see if you can find your friends.
c) Take a look around the environment to see if you can find a place to sit.

2- You meet your friends and everyone starts to chat in a circle. What do you do?
a) He doesn't concentrate much on the conversation and keeps looking around; the most interesting cat
The party can pass by your side at any moment!
b) Have a good chat with friends, but don't forget to flirt, of course!
c) Has so much fun with them that he even forgets that the cat from work is at the party.
also.

3- You see a crush, you...

a) Find a way to dance next to him and don't stop looking at him for a second.
b) Make a charm and look every now and then, but without giving too much away.
c) She becomes stuck and wonders when he will pay attention to you.

4- If he is also on the dance floor, what is his dancing style like?

a) You face him the whole time and, while dancing, you stare at the boy.
b) You enjoy all the songs and don’t stop dancing for even a second, but, whenever
there's a chance, take a look at him.
c) You try to be discreet so as not to draw too much attention and not to embarrass yourself in front of
delete.

And if, at the party, you saw your crush with another woman?
I would be super sad, but I would start looking for another cat very quickly.
b) I would be super sad, but I would try not to ruin the party because of it.
c) I would be super sad and, for you, the night would definitely be over.

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6- Imagine the scene: suddenly, you meet a handsome man, whom you have never seen before.
life, but it seems to be super interesting. What do you do?
a) Try to attract his attention and show that you are interested.
b) Tries to get a little closer, but is hesitant since you don't know
absolutely nothing about him.
c) Even if interested, you think it's better to stay out of it to avoid problems later.

7- Keep imagining: this mysterious cat, stunningly beautiful, starts chatting with
you. So...
You get really happy and start dancing with him.
You become super happy and try to find out if the cat is really worth it.
c) You get super happy and talk to him until you know a little more about his life.

8- Talking to him, you start to think...

a) How long will it take him to kiss you.
b) On how to create a really cool atmosphere between you.
c) If you don’t regret it later if you give him a chance.

Check the result

For each A answer you gave, add 1 point; for each B, add 2; and for each C
Now see if you are ready or not for the night.

0 to 8 points - Swing
You love to enjoy a party and do everything to attract his attention. Shyness at the time.
Winning over? No way! You know how to deal with cats and get close, no problem.
She usually doesn't stay alone at parties, but when it happens, she thinks the party becomes
not funny and cannot have fun properly. But don't overdo it! Sometimes, it's good too.
enjoying the night with friends or just meeting different people, without anything happening.

9 to 16 points - Hot ballad

You really love to have fun! Whether it's at a bar, a party, or a little gathering.
of friends, it doesn't matter; you are one of those who are up for anything. Your way
Being extroverted naturally attracts men's attention, without needing to.
push the limits. Their motto is to go out and enjoy, even if the cat of their dreams doesn't go to
same place as you. That's right, you have a light way of being and know how to enjoy life!

17 to 24 points - Party???
You don't mind so much if you spend Saturday night at home watching TV or in a
super party with friends. For you, it doesn't matter. You even prefer more calm activities.
at that strong party. As for the men, do you usually flirt with people you already know
And when she meets a new cat, she prefers to chat a lot before letting things flow.
anything. So, in the midst of the party's excitement, you end up feeling insecure. It's okay,
That's just the way you are, however, just be careful not to seem annoying when the
men come to flirt with you.

The slave of drink

Buy a bottle of the wine or liquor that he likes the most (beer doesn't count). Do it.
kneel and lick the drink from your body. Put a little bit in different
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parts of your naked body. Say that if any drop falls to the ground he will be punished
severely.
If he's really fast, push the bar a bit and make some drops fall.
on the floor for you to be able to punish him. The punishment is up to you.

55- The gift must have meaning

When you want to give him a little gift, don't buy a tie, a pair of socks.
or underwear. Think of something like a linen shirt, a jacket or something of the sort, but
don't show up with things "that he was needing".
Buy something fun or related to your hobbies or interests. You
you can even buy accessories to spice up your nights a little more
love. Give him a "little toy" that he can use to give you pleasure.

56- Natural products

If you or he is feeling less passion today than you did some time ago
Go back, look in some store for products that can increase your libido.
You can achieve this through herbs or aphrodisiac products. Studies have already proven it.
that many of these products have the ability to awaken desire and improve the
sexual performance. In summary: they work!
Like any natural product, the results will appear as you go.
using it. After about six weeks you will already be able to notice a huge
difference regarding your sexual desire and performance.

A different weekend
Explore the surroundings. Don't wait for vacation to take a 'big trip'. The
Weekend getaways can have the same flavor, in addition to breaking the routine.
Plan a small weekend adventure, rent a cabin to enjoy the atmosphere.
but colder, or find a comfortable room in an inn near the beach if you are
heat. The important thing is for you to go out together and enjoy the weekend away from the
day-to-day complications. If possible, do something you've never done together.
By taking these escapes, you will be impressed by the small and interesting things.
adventures that will arise so close to home. Enjoy and start the week rejuvenated.

The first night

Tell him you want to play a game. It consists of the following: you and he are
On the first date and you are a virgin; it is his responsibility to plan the whole night.
Get ready (dress innocently but provocatively), go out for a drink or
for dinner and let him try to seduce her. See what he is capable of to charm her and lead her
the bed frame.
Remember: it is he who has to work, no matter how difficult.

59 - Movies prohibited for minors

Make your own porn videos. Ask him to film you and your body from the
the way he sees her. Remind him not to forget the 'closes'! Then put the camera there
on a tripod and forget it.
Still on the same day or on another one, grab the tape and watch it together. Your excitement
it will be folded!

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Beware: if you have children at home, remember not to leave these tapes of
nonsense - children seem to have a knack for finding things they shouldn't.
found.

60 - How to Become Irresistibly Attractive

From now on, you will see some tips to become an extremely successful woman.
attractive. Pay close attention and you will see the results soon.
You know that type of person that we say has a 'magnetism', an 'something
special" or a "star"? Well, you can become such a person, just
learn to develop your own 'magnetism'.
So you must be thinking: 'But what is this magnetism?'
Well, the chances are that it's not just one thing that makes a person attractive. The
sense of humor can be one, but there are many other qualities that can be
responsible for this - such as calm, lively, warm, or good at conversation.
And there are also those characteristics that we would never imagine would make someone
attractive. For example, those people who are more reserved, or who do not seem
being available, or who seem very busy can also seem very
attractive: because they are harder to conquer. That's why they may make use of
this is like magnetism.

61- Who do you wish to attract?

There are different ways to be attractive. You first need to think about how you
you want to be attractive and also to whom you want to attract. You want to attract people who you
make you happy and help you grow, people who inspire and support you?
When you reach a conclusion about this, remember the following: people
different can be attracted to each other (opposites attract), but you will have a lot
more chances if your behavior and attitude are similar to those of the type of
person you want to attract.

Surround yourself with positive people

Maybe now is the time for you to learn how to be incredibly irresistible, at least
for those who will elevate their life. In the same way, it would be interesting
develop a skill to repel that type of person who doesn't take you anywhere
some - or at least learn to keep a safe distance.

63- Increase others' awareness through example

Spend most of your time with those who will lift your spirits and inspire you to
follow your dreams!
Even if you want to attract other people who will see you as a mentor, it may be
but more important for you to try to attract an inspiring mentor. Absorb,
learn and pass it on. Be an example through your actions and your
behavior.

For self-confidence

Do the following exercise:

Find an object - the doorknob, the computer mouse, or anything else you can.
press on your hand. After choosing the object, write down the time of day and the date of that on a piece of paper
moment, and repeat the following phrase:

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In this moment I made an important decision, I will accept myself with all my
imperfections and I will love who I am, no matter what happens to me". (Now I tighten the object that is in the
your hand, close your eyes and imagine you in the future looking back and remembering this moment; how it
It was decisive in your life and notice how it helped you become a better and more confident person.

64- Don't see problems in being alone

The positive side of self-acceptance is that you discover you can be alone for a
a longer period without any kind of problem. When you are your own best friend, you
you don't want to avoid your own company. This makes you not feel
need to leave desperately in search of any company.
This ends up being good because the likelihood of you getting involved with negative people
it will be much smaller, just like the chances of you doing something that goes against your
interests. It is always very good to reinforce that self-love with reserved moments.
only for you. When you forget the world around you and reaffirm the decision to
be who you are. This will free you and your mind.
This self-confidence will not only make you extremely sexy, it will also make you
attract the good things in the world to your life, because you will be prepared to wait and
choose the best. At that moment, you will have found a place where you will be loved and
respected always, no matter what happens. There is only one place like this, and it is inside
of yourself. Discover it!

65- Emit hot vibrations

Keep the image of self-love in your mind, it is this that will give you strength to
to cross life's storms with a beautiful smile on your face. It's as if you
you carry a secret, even when to others it seems that everything is going well
wrong for you.
But the secret of this 'smile' is not just that it releases endorphins in your body and injects
a lot of energy, the real secret is that he contagious others, transmits
, then he must know what he's doing.
because things are not that bad after all.

Invent your life

This process is also known as 'self-fulfilling prophecy'. It is up to you.
plan the prophecy, create a picture in your mind of the life you want. Why not
create a positive one then! A positive image; a positive life!
Being 'irresistibly attractive' is not just about becoming appealing as a person, but creating
a life that is attractive as well. Something that other people want to
to participate, something that fills their lives with meaning, purpose, and joyful moments
and affection.

TV series exercise

Perhaps it is worth distancing myself from you for a few moments and imagining that it would be possible to see your life.
on TV. What do you see in your life when you do that? What do you perceive in the decisions you have?
taken regarding your life?
Does this program you are watching hold your attention? When you watch it for the first time, it makes you
want to be a part of it? Do you feel attracted to the program? Do you feel the need to contribute to
any way?
Looking at the main character of this TV show (that is, yourself), what values does this
What does a person demonstrate in the way they live? How do they treat the other people around them? What is the

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What type of work does she do? What is her relationship with money? What does she think about the future and the
present? What goal is she trying to achieve in life?
When looking at the other characters in the show, what do you observe in them? How do they feel?
relationship to the main character's decisions? How are they affected by her decisions? Do they help or
not the character? Do they support her? Do they need support? The main character fulfills her
responsibilities towards them?
Did you have any thoughts, did you notice anything new about yourself when you asked those questions? What were they?
were?
Would you like to make any adjustments to this program? If you were the writer of the program, what would you
Would you write for the next episodes?
Do you have any suggestions or advice for the main character? What would she respond regarding that?
What did you say?
What would you like to happen in the next episode of this character's life? What would you like?
What she said, did, or thought?
Finally, where are you now? Stop, think, and adjust!

67- Decide to accept yourself and love other people

The moment you accept yourself, you will be free to accept other people.
how they are. There will be no need to try to change them. Upon reaching this stage
in your life - where you decided to accept others instead of rejecting them, you chose to love them
instead of hating them, worked on your own perception of things - you will then be free
to interpret from another aspect your anger, hostility, and lack of courtesy towards others
people.
You can't know what goes on in people's heads. You never know the
truth about the past that a person carries. Someone who is nervous or hostile, perhaps
he never had someone close who told him he was loved. He may have even heard,
but has never been able to believe. Despite appearances, this person must be feeling
lonely and desolate inside. Perhaps the only way she knows to feel
it's better to point out other people's mistakes.
When you meet someone, you have the opportunity to love them. Doing
this way you will be giving them a chance to behave better. This person can
learn to treat yourself and the people around you better.
And the best part is that she will learn from you and will do the same with others.
people, turning this positive attitude into a kind of 'chain of good'. If the
people to become aware and change their attitude at home, at work, and with others
friends will only have to gain.
This type of attitude towards life is something that stands out and makes you
to stand out in the midst of a reality that is still not our dream. Not to mention that
this will attract people with attitudes and posture similar to yours. Something that will give you
opportunity to get to know better the men who share the same life philosophy
what you.

68- Do not feel the need to be loved

When you love yourself, it makes you capable of loving other people. When you are
Being kind to others doesn't require worrying about whether they will like you or not. This
it happens because you are too busy being kind - in this way, the word "like"
becomes irrelevant and weak.
This type of behavior is stimulating because it eliminates the possibility that there is.
of someone coming to not like you. What happens instead is an internal trust
that the "liking" will eventually come - at the moment he realizes that you accept him
how he is and that you have a lot to offer.

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From the moment you no longer feel the need to be 'dear', you are free.
to act in whatever way you see fit, according to what you consider important and
valuable. You no longer need to "please" others; this way you feel less controlled
is manipulated because he has no power over you.
On the contrary, he will want to receive more of the love you have to give and will end up
being at your mercy. But be careful! Do not misuse this. If you use this accordingly
with his own interests, sooner or later, he will feel used and deceived. So act
always with a pure heart. Love will find a way out of any problem.

69- Learn to dress for every occasion

Now, depending on your personality and values, you can value your
exterior. There is nothing wrong with that. Taking care of appearance will not replace or overshadow the
what you are on the inside. But if you care to clean the glass a little, that
you can help people see how beautiful you are on the inside.
The key to what we will call "external grace", the ability to attract others, is
knowledge.
Here are the key points:
• People are different from one another. The measurements of each person are important, but one
something that people generally do not care about is the difference between people when
is compared to the proportion between the torso and the legs. While some have a long torso
Some have short legs, others have a short torso and long legs. This affects the 'proportionality.'
from a person: add to that the clothing and you have her overall 'shape'. For this shape
To be satisfactory, she needs to always keep in mind the balance between the trunk and the legs. It's difficult.
verify this within herself. Looking in the mirror will only give a 'one-dimensional' view, so it's worth the
worth consulting another person - preferably someone with artistic or visual sensitivity. It is
It is important to be sure, for example, that the coat has the right length in relation to the pants.

• Choose fabrics that make you feel comfortable. There is nothing worse than wearing a fabric that feels good
in you, but that itches, scratches, irritates your skin or doesn't let it breathe. You need fabrics that
let you feel good in both the cold and the heat. The temperature of your body affects your good mood and
the vibrations that you pass on to others. It becomes difficult to seem attractive when you are almost
drowning in sweat or your neck keeps itching.

• Be careful with the colors. There is a system in which you combine the fabric color tones with the color.
of your skin. Go to a specialized store or learn through magazines or books on the subject.
In this way, you will be able to coordinate the colors of your wardrobe and minimize the risk of wearing something
that does not match.

• Try to visualize a general image of yourself: this means you should imagine yourself in a
photography, a painting, or a music where chords and harmony are created in the way that
colors are mixed and overlapping. Include your hair in that too - it's important that you
find a hair that matches the cut of your clothes. If you don't trust your
judgment, seek help from a friend or a professional. But the best thing to do is to conduct a study
about the subject, since it is you who needs to apply the information daily when getting dressed
in the morning.

70- You need to know, understand, and take advantage of your body.
The man finds it very stimulating to see how much he excites her, knowing that something he does
For you in bed, it drives her crazy. But for him to really make you 'rise up the steps.'
"walls" he needs to know which points of his body are more sensitive. So start to
discover these points right now, if possible along with him.

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Start the discovery in front of the mirror. Take off all your clothes, look at yourself carefully.
Observe your body. Look at your breasts, the shape, the color, the size. Look at your waist,
your hip. Look at your vagina. Start touching yourself and notice the reactions. Spend
gently your hands over her body. Discover what kind of touch excites her the most; the
best sensations; what makes you relax.
The female genitalia is composed of eight areas: the pubic region, the outer lips, the
clitoris, the urethra, the inner lips, the vagina, the perineum, and the anus.
The pubic area is covered with hair and when it is gently touched, it causes a sensation.
Good. There is a sexual energy that circulates in this region, however, it is often
forgotten during sexual intercourse or masturbation. Touch, feel the area, make movements
circular motions with your fingers and nails. You will start to feel a sensation of warmth.
crescendo inside you - it's your sexual energy running through your body.
The clitoris is a part of the body full of nerve endings. It extends
internally along the outer and inner lips, and the part that is visible is only
a small piece of it. The clitoris has the same nerve endings as the penis and,
just like him, it is very sensitive to touch. When touched, it stiffens and increases in
size. Try to touch it gently with the tips of your fingers, slowly, increasing
slowly the speed of movements. Feel what gives you the most pleasure, a
a lighter touch or a stronger one. Discover what pleases her the most so that you can
teach your partner the exact movement. After all, your sex life can only
improve as you get to know what excites her.
The vagina increases in size when you are aroused. The inner and outer lips
in order to receive the penis. It is very simple to stimulate the vagina; simply through the
By touch or kiss, she will become lubricated for penetration.
The anus is also a very sensitive area of the body. It is supplied with nerve endings.
nerves that are in contact with other parts of the female genitalia. For some
for women, vaginal stimulation is more pleasurable than clitoral stimulation. However,
we must remember that women are different and not all of them think the same way
pleasurable stimulus. So, if you do not feel comfortable with any type of stimulus,
Avoid them and tell your partner that they do not pleasure you.
Now that you know a little more about your 'golden zones', it's time to
discover the physical reactions of these points.
Take a long relaxing bath. Then, don't put on any clothes, lie down on the bed and
start touching yourself gently. Start from the bottom up, touch your feet, your legs,
your genitals and your stomach. Go up and touch your breasts and your nipples. Touch
all parts of your body and discover what you like. Put your fingers in your mouth,
lick them, suck them. Use your mouth and notice the importance of the different types of touches.
Hold your breasts and massage your nipples. See what happens when you touch.
in them, and imagine what can happen when your man sees this kind of reaction.
Open your outer lips with your fingers; observe the color and texture. Gently,
insert your finger in the vagina and make circular movements, so that you can touch the
most of its surface. Press your finger with the muscles of the vagina and imagine-
having the same sensation when a penis is in place of your finger.
Remove your finger and rub it on another external part of the vaginal area. Rub your
clitoris, use more than one finger. Apply a little more pressure; try alternating pressure.
and delicacy and see what pleases her the most.
The more you learn about your desires, the more you will be able to teach your partner.
and, consequently, the more pleasure it will provide you. The more you feel
the more satisfied, the sexier you will feel.

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You have to remember that to be a goddess of sex in any sexual relationship,
you need to act as if you know exactly what you're doing. But, certainly,
Sometimes you will need to do some things that will not satisfy you.
completely to satisfy and surprise your partner. At times
You yourself will be surprised by some new pleasures that you will discover.
Providing pleasure to your partner is one of the most rewarding things you
you can do it, for him and for you.

71- The power of the eyes

One way to become irresistible to your partner is to become active in the relationship.
sexual, but allowing him to believe he is in control. This technique has a double
positive effect: both will be satisfied with their arousal and sexual performance.
Men can be easily aroused through visual stimulation. They react to
a more intense and faster way than the woman. That is why the magazines
masculine venues filled with naked women are extremely popular, while the
female magazines with naked men are not very successful.
Men can be erotically stimulated just by seeing the butt, the breasts or
a woman's vagina. Women should pay more attention to this to take off
advantage when they want to 'play' with a man. The provocation can be made
through a beautiful neckline, a shorter skirt, a tighter blouse, tighter pants
just a, a sexier bikini... One of the most famous examples of this technique is the attitude of
Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct, where she (in a short dress and no underwear) crosses the
legs in front of several police officers.
This is just one of the strategies you can use, but only in certain situations.
because I don't think you'll find a good man just by being single
panties and showing your vagina around. But you can very well use this and other things.
visual strategies to maintain your partner's sexual interest.
In fact, you don't necessarily need to show your partner that you are
without panties. All you need to do is whisper in his ear: "I forgot to put on the
panties tonight"; or "I was very hot and had to take off my panties.
Try doing this in the middle of a party, event, or dinner. After you say
just watch him go crazy. Believe me, he won’t leave your side for a second.
second, and will still be counting the minutes to leave and attack you.
One thing you need to know is that this strategy depends only on you. Only
you are capable of doing something like this and surprising him. Don't let your body or your
insecurities prevent you from doing anything; after all, you are not participating in
a beauty contest. So think about how sexy you will be!
The man you are with loves you for everything that you are and everything that you represent.
If you dress in a sexier way, act like that and make the most out of it.
situations, there is no excuse! He will be so surprised and impressed that he won't even
to realize if you need to lose a few pounds or if your hips are too big.
But there is one more way to surprise your man: the 'fascination for
hair removal". Removing hair from your vagina should not be considered a perversion. The stimulus
The visual of a shaved vagina creates an impressive effect in the eyes and body of a man.
Hair removal in your intimate areas will make your man look at you differently.
But, of all these strategies, the one that has the best result is the one that in most of the
sometimes you do it alone: masturbation.
Try to imagine how it would be for a man to watch his wife completely vulnerable.
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a man than to see his wife enjoying pleasure right in front of him.

72- Your body in his

There are several ways to maintain contact between his body and yours. But there are two ways
what will drive your man crazy, and they must be done before penetration - case
otherwise you will no longer be able to hold it.
1.Your nipples must be stiff - if they are not, touch them until they harden. Do a
walk over his body with your nipples, stop and make circular movements in the most
sensitive. If necessary, use a lubricant. Slide down your back, from top to bottom.
Press your nipples in all his holes, your ears, your navel, and of course, your mouth.
However, when you reach the mouth, don't forget to go slower so that he can suck.
slow down a bit. Finish the ride with circular movements over his penis. Just this vision
will make him excited. Enjoy!
2.To stimulate his wild instinct, if you haven't shaved yet, one tip I can give you is
The dare is as follows: rub your pubic hair all over his body. He needs to be lying down so that
you can do this kindly. You will be so excited that you will be wet from the moment
what to start. Go and come back as if you were rubbing against a giant penis. Go through the
knees, by the feet - let him insert one of his fingers into your vagina if he feels like it. Do not hesitate and
go up to the face, the forehead, the nose, and obviously, the mouth. Remember to take a good pause on that
area!! Don't forget that you are in charge, and no one else. So, enjoy it a lot.
Save the best for last: rub it on his penis and make it all wet. After that, do the
whatever you feel like doing!
73- Final technique
Talk to your friends. Discuss the topics with them and see if new ideas arise.
your heads. Or, at the very least, improve the techniques described here. But remember: the
the most powerful technique of all is the following - be fire and not ice!

The Secrets of the Art of Loving

To close with a flourish

Are you ready?
3- A matter of technique
4- The six fundamental qualities of an extraordinary kiss
The lipstick
6- Learn to kiss
7- How to kiss your partner
8- Oral sex
9- Male masturbation
10- Discover his erogenous zones
11- The G spot
12- The technique of pompoarismo - a tantric miracle
13 Positions that will drive you crazy!
14 - 10 questions every woman wants to ask

To close with a golden key

At this point, you must be feeling like a woman graduated in 'men', with
master's degree in 'relationship for two' and ready to start a doctorate in 'happiness'.

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Well, the time has come. This last book aims to be relaxing and extremely
instructional. After having assimilated so much information, learned about so many subjects and
known a multitude of male behavior patterns, you must be
exhausted. And to lift your spirits, this last book reveals some "little secrets" about the
the art of loving.

From kissing to sexual positions that enhance your pleasure, including masturbation,
G-spot and several other spicy topics filled with information that have, as their only
Objective, to provide you with more pleasure.

So get ready, because the theme of the last book of this fantastic manual for women
It's on fire. Let's talk about... SEX!

Are you ready?

Soon, you have done everything you had to do: decided to accept yourself and others.
people; set goals to be achieved; started exercising and taking better care of their
appearance; renewed the wardrobe; and, most importantly, managed to free the person
wonderful that lived inside you.

But what makes her different or more attractive than this amazing new image of hers? The
people can look at your photo, but they cannot hear you, smell your scent, touch it
and, most importantly, feel your taste. It can even be fun to look at a photograph of you,
but it won't be exciting at all to kiss this photograph!

Even in day-to-day life, most people will see you, perhaps greet you with a
a touch or a caress when crossing paths with you on the fax way or any other situation;
but that vital sense, the most important of the 5 - the one reserved for a
special moment?

Although you have succeeded in your attempt to improve your image, what you
think about what to do when all of this pays off and you have the man of your dreams
right there in front of you?

After all, there's nothing more frustrating than biting into a big apple, well
red and that makes your mouth water just by looking at it and eventually discovering that it is
dry and tasting like cardboard! Or you can imagine the opposite - a delicious apple and
succulent that does not have a good texture or a good color. In both cases the
a person looking for a delicious apple ends up harmed.

The fundamental question is this: Will you be able to meet the expectations?
when the time comes? Are you ready to take on your charming prince without
disappoint him?

This is what you will analyze throughout this last book.

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3- A matter of technique

The word may even sound a bit tedious, but as we discussed

previously, the technique is what makes the vital difference. To be very good at something
In life, it is necessary to know the craft, to have practical experience of the function. However, when
Contrary to popular opinion, acquiring this does not have to be necessarily boring. If
if you have the right recipe, this learning can become a very exciting adventure!

4- The six fundamental qualities

of the extraordinary kiss Regarding the kiss, there are several techniques that can be
learned; however, despite any new skill, if you understand the basics and
also the key principles needed, so in addition, there is a process of
continuous refinement of your own individual learning.

Experimentation
This continuous refinement process requires you to develop what I will call
"experimentation". This means that you should not keep using the same approach.
It is important to explore new types of approaches and to force yourself to try things out.
different way.

What I mean to say is that it is necessary to take risks and that not every approach will be.
exciting, especially while you are learning. If something new that you
try to make it work, great! You will then only need to focus on improving this
approach.

The experimentation of trying new things is also important to sustain the passion in
relationship. Adding new things to the routine is the secret to relationships
durable.

Imagination
Of course, experimentation requires a skill to do something new, something that you
still hasn't tried to do.

It is at this point that 'imagination' becomes vital.

In a way, it is the ability someone has to ask themselves: 'What if...'. What if I
would you do this differently, or with more enthusiasm, or perhaps with more care? Your
Concern is not with what is, or what was, it is what could be. The purpose
from inspiration is to transform something that already exists into something much better.

Think, let your mind work, and if some good ideas arise, see what they are.
viable to be put into practice. For example, the more conventional approach of
a kiss is a face coming close to another. But what if you try to stand on your head
just to diversify? This can be done when, for example, he is on the couch or
in the chair and you arrive unexpectedly from behind.

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Letting your imagination flow is good for you and for your partner because it creates a
a kind of 'permission for spontaneity' - something important between two people that
they want to relate in a lasting way.

Want a tip? Develop a type of closeness and kiss that is unique to just the two of you.
two do it. Use this as your trademark.

Kindness
The third fundamental quality of the extraordinary kiss is 'kindness.' The kiss is a sign
of deep intimacy between two people. For a kiss to happen, it is necessary that the
two people allow this intimacy to occur. The question is: based on what
When a person makes this decision, what information do they have to move forward?

After all, when you are with another person it is not the same as being with one
book. With the book, you can go back and reread the sentence, or even the entire paragraph if
want. But with the other person, you always have to be making decisions right there.
at the moment they are presented.

When the interaction or form of communication becomes a kiss, then that goes a
a little beyond words. You need to have intuition and quick reasoning if you want
transform your intention into a kiss. This becomes even more complicated if you need
interpret the intentions of the other person!

Romantic communication puts you 'in the spotlight', so it is important to develop

some qualities that help you during critical situations and serve to relax you
and the person who is with you. It is in that moment that kindness arises. Just think about being
kind in the intentions you have with the other person. This way, kindness will
to show through in your movements, in the way you touch it, or in the way you talk to
it. This will help you relax and respond to your actions in the same tone.

Respect
There isn't much to say here, but it's always important to remember. Just like kindness, the
Respect is fundamental in any relationship between two people. Nothing
Durable relationships can be established without respect from both parties; when this does not happen.
one of the parties is always harmed.

At some moments, people temporarily forget that they need to respect the
the individuality of the 'other'. If you feel that this 'boundary' is being invaded, it is
It's important that you let your partner know about this immediately. After all,
he may not realize and will be extremely embarrassed to find out only much later
after you didn't like one of your experiences.

Communication
Communication is vital in a relationship. When it doesn't happen, the relationship starts to be
a pierced boat, doomed to sink.

It is through communication that you and your partner adjust, learn from what a
and others like it and avoid any misunderstanding. Not enough to rely only on
intuition and technique - especially if you are 'experimenting'.

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It is important to remember that a kiss is, in itself, an act of communication. A kiss fills
a moment and replaces a speech with something that is beyond words. It is in this moment
that you must be the mistress of your intentions. Because it is through her that you show
how you feel about the other person. And it is through the sensations you created
for the other who realizes his intentions and discovers his feelings regarding
you.

Trust
There is a very useful thought to keep in mind: "Confidence is my state
natural; I just need to demonstrate it.

When it comes to kissing, another thought is also good to keep in mind: 'The
a kiss is a natural way in which I express my feelings." It is clear that it is
I need a context for this where there is an ideal environment, respect, and communication.
When you keep this in mind - that is, the idea that kissing is natural within the
appropriate contexts - it becomes easier to release your natural state of confidence because your
the body will feel safe and relaxed.

Of course, there is no better way to have confidence than to have some knowledge.
When you know what you are doing, everything flows better, because the chances are that you
feeling ashamed or feeling stupid is minimized. It is at this time that it is good to have tips
about how to develop your own 'individual technique'.

Preparation
This is another fundamental point. Especially on first dates. Not that the kiss
it might happen on the first date, maybe you just want to get to know the
another person before letting things progress a little further.

There is, however, a simple way to avoid any feelings of nervousness with
in relation to the kiss. The easiest way to do this is to develop some routine habits.
When you do this, you remain open to the possibility of romance without needing to mess it up.
In that moment thinking, 'Damn, I don’t think I’m ready yet.'

Therefore, visualize some situations in which you might find yourself involved and think about
solutions for their unfolding. So, when the time comes and this situation really
when it happens, you will know what to do.

5- The lipstick

The secret to using lipstick is to make sure it has been applied correctly and that
that there is no excess. Always have on hand a paper or a tissue to remove the excess
of the lipstick on your lips and consult your friends to make sure it hasn’t smudged and that it doesn't have
a little bit of lipstick on your nose or on your teeth.

Another important thing is to ask your partner if they enjoy kissing you.
when you are wearing lipstick - some may like the look, but not the taste! Others
they may prefer to remove their lipstick with a long and passionate kiss. It doesn't cost anything.
ask.
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6- Learn how to kiss

Well, the time has come for some crucial details about the kiss. Here are some tips.
to help you further enhance the romance you already have. They may seem
subtlety, but they are extremely valid if you want to add an extra dimension to your
kiss.

The lips
Keep your lips relaxed. The desire and concern to please a partner can
cause tension in the lips and ruin the kiss. Make lip to lip contact with the
be still relaxed and shape their tension and intensity according to the moment.

It is very important, also, to control the saliva in your mouth. You don't want to drown him.
logo in your first kiss!

The language
Using it implies that you and he are really taking each other seriously. The language
demonstrates a bit more intimacy.

There is no single technique for using the tongue. The strength and movement can be
compared to those you make to lick something sweet off your fingers - dulce de leche for
example. But you have a multitude of variations for its use and even little games to
what to do when you are kissing.

Use your creativity

Halitosis
It goes without saying that bad breath is not something favorable for kissing. However,
Besides keeping your breath fresh, you can enhance the feeling of a kiss if you suck.
a candy with a different flavor, a mint, a chocolate, or anything else that
leave a pleasant taste in your mouth.

Eyes open or closed

It depends on the experience you want to have. If you like your partner's lips
or look at him while kissing, then open your eyes during the kiss. For people, the
Visual is an important part of stimulating the brain.

But if you prefer to keep your eyes closed and enjoy that wonderful feeling
valuing the other senses, great! The important thing is that you and he feel good and
have this fantastic intimate experience.

The hands
A simple hug is still the best way to keep your hands busy. Besides serving as
support, shows respect - and this is very important if the relationship is still
Starting. As time goes by, you and he will know what the other likes and where.
putting the hands will no longer be a problem.

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The time
If you are just starting out in the relationship, don't overdo it with the kiss. Besides
if you started the kiss, finish it. If your partner finishes, that doesn't
necessarily demonstrates some type of rejection. It may be just because he was
out of breath or wanted to change positions.

Conclusion
You now have all the tips. Use them along with your intuition and sensitivity.
It doesn't matter how well you kiss today; remember that what matters is that you only have
to improve.

Practice the art of kissing, I assure you that you have only to gain!

7- How to kiss your partner

After you have already discovered your body, it remains to explore what to do with it. You
you can practice the kiss - which is the essence of romance and the thread of passion. The
A kiss is the beginning of the exchanges that start before sex. Therefore, the better the
kisses, the following exchanges will be better.

There are some parts of his body where he will certainly love to be kissed, but on the
most of the time you are the one who needs to find them on your own. Not everyone is
men who make our lives easier by guiding us through the areas in which they feel
more excited. They also do not like to share all their secrets at once
But I assure you that you won't regret licking or kissing some of them.
of these areas:

• the earlobes;

• the nipples;

• the navel;

• the fingers of the hands and feet;

• the folds of the arms;

• the lower back;

• behind the knees;

• the nape;

• the shoulders;

• the inner part of the thighs;

• the back of the thighs.

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Focus on the feeling of your lips against his, your tongue against his, and
you will be surprised to notice his instant excitement. Tease, use your lips, your
tongue and its teeth. Suck, lick, and bite. Squeeze it passionately and respond
on his lips, moving with delicacy.

Follow the instructions below and I guarantee that the warm kisses will lead to much more...

a. Say how much you like to kiss and he will understand the message.

b.Kiss him the way you like to be kissed, so he will know how to respond to your action.

c. If he kisses you with so much intensity, the way you always dreamed, don't hesitate to
show him how much you liked that and how much that kiss made you excited. Remember
that men never forget the good results of their efforts.

d. Move your tongue very slowly, explore every inch of his body as if you were
discovering something new. Kiss and nibble. Men love that! If he tries to speed things up,
don't let it. Drive him crazy.

e.Caress his face, neck, and nape, and hold him with both hands when you are kissing.
crazy way of his mouth.

f.Run your tongue along his gums, around his tongue, over his lips, and finish.
biting the lower lip.

g. Follow these tips from the Kama Sutra: cover his eyes with your hands and place your tongue inside the
his mouth, enter and exit - this way you will be indicating new forms of pleasure that are yet to come.
man.

h.Try to eat an ice cream cone in front of your beloved. But pretend not to be paying attention.
pay attention to his reactions. Run your tongue along the cone and place it inside your mouth. Do it
smooth movements but do not let him notice that you are provoking him.

Test your Sexual Intimacy Quotient

The following test was developed by a center for sexuality studies. Through it,
you will be able to measure the level of intimacy between you and your partner. It is worth remembering that the
intimacy is one of the factors that weighs the most on the quality of romantic life.

1- At the end of the day, when you meet your partner, you generally...
Say hi.
He/She embraces him quickly.
Give a kiss.
Embrace him and kiss him passionately

2- Who takes the initiative when it comes to sex?

Rarely me.
b) Sometimes me, sometimes my partner.
Always me.
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What is more important: your satisfaction or that of your partner?
Mine.
b) Ours.
c) To my partner.

4- In general, how do you feel about talking about sex with him?
Very uncomfortable.
b) Uncomfortable.
c) Not very comfortable.
Comfortable.
e) Very comfortable.

5- Which of these strategies would you use to show your partner what you desire in the
bed?
a) I would take off the clothes suggestively.
I would guide my partner's caresses.
c) I would watch erotic videos, flip through porn magazines, or browse sex websites.
d) I would wear accessories.
None of them.

Do you usually fake or have you ever faked an orgasm?

a) Never.
b) Not currently, but it has happened several times.
c) A lot happened last year.
It happened last month.

Have you ever felt pressured to have sex when you didn't want to?
a) Never.
Yes, but it has been a long time.
Yes, a few years ago.
d) Yes, last year.
Yes, last month.

8- Are you willing to try new positions?

No way.
b) I do not rule out the possibility.
c) Yes.

9- Are you willing to use accessories such as toys, videos, and cosmetics?
No way.
I do not rule out the possibility.
c) Yes.

10- Do you consider yourself satisfied with the frequency of your sexual relations? (If in this
At the moment you do not have a partner, consider the most recent one.
a) No.
A little.
c) Yes.
Extremely satisfied.

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11- Do you consider yourself satisfied with the quality of your sex life? (If at this moment
if you do not have a sexual partner, consider the most recent one.
a) No.
A little.
c) Yes.
Extremely satisfied.

Some of your points in the table below:

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11
A 1 1 3 1 3 8 5 1 1 1 1
B 3 5 7 2 3 4 3 3 3 3 3
C 5 1 3 3 3 2 2 5 5 4 4
D 7 4 3 1 1 5 5
E 5 0 0

From 11 to 36 points:

Your level of intimacy is very low. One of the keys to a healthy sex life.
Being happy is having the freedom to talk to your partner about your feelings in bed.

From 37 to 47 points:

You are among the women who show intimacy and complicity with their partners.
Maintaining frequent and pleasurable sexual relations is important to reinforce the affinity of
couple.

More than 48 points:

Your sex life is extremely satisfying. Couples who are not embarrassed to watch...
erotic videos together and experimenting with new things in the love game enjoy the best
of sex.

See what your sexual IQ is and compare it to the averages of the other women listed below.

Average points:

18 to 20 years: 47 points
21 to 29 years old: 45 points
- 30 to 39 years: 43 points
- 40 to 49 years: 44 points
50 to 59 years: 43 points
60 to 69 years: 41 points
Over 70 years: 43 points

8- Oral sex

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For the vast majority of men, there is no greater pleasure than having a woman sucking.
you licking your penis. For him, and probably for you, this is the gesture of greatest
intimacy and passion behind closed doors. It makes him feel powerful, manly, and everything.
But we know who is really in control. After all, it's the
Whose mouth is in command?

The line of reasoning is extremely exciting and, feeling his excitement, her mouth and
your language will meet expectations. Surely you will have passionate sex and
incredible. It is worth noting that good oral sex will only produce good results for
you all.

However, we all know that not all women enjoy giving oral sex.
No partner. Some because they don't find it clean, or they don't find it normal, or they find it difficult;
others are just afraid because they don't know what it is or how to do it. These when
they break the barrier, they acquire a taste for "playing". Oral sex is one of the great
intimacies that a couple can share.

It goes without saying that if you want to become an irresistible goddess of oral sex for the
your partner, you need to practice this with your partner. There are four things about
what you must not forget when practicing oral sex: desire, concentration, movements
continuous and control.

a.Desire - You know that attitude is everything. Your desire must be real and you need to
to know that you are capable of giving and receiving intense pleasure. You need to show that
adore what you are doing, showing him that his penis, at that moment, is
everything for you. Put it in your mouth with desire, passion, and taste.

b.Concentration - You need to focus on your task. Don't let anything...

let no one interfere with your concentration. This way, the intensity of your
movements and their performance will be high from start to finish.

c. Continuous movements - All movements should be intense, yet gentle.

The penis is a very sensitive organ and should be treated as such. So, do not do
sudden movements and no abrupt stops.

d. Control - You always need to be in control of the situation, and that is the secret.
of success. If you control the rhythm and position of the penis in your mouth, the chance
the chances of you choking or suffocating will be much lower. It is you who decides how much the
the penis will enter your mouth, and if it doesn't feel good you just remove it.
As time goes by, your mouth will become more familiar with the penis and
your ability to receive him will be greater.

Now, read the tips below and improve your performance in oral sex. If you follow
I assure you that your satisfaction and pleasure will be wonderful.
Read and practice!

1. Imagine that your mouth is a big vagina - a very creative and agile one. Open the
mouth, cover your teeth with your lips and gently introduce the penis into your mouth.
Rest it on the tongue. Start a continuous movement (back and forth or to

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 up and down, depending on the position you are in) with your head.
Remember to always keep your teeth covered by your lips and to
slowly increase the speed as time goes by. Put
one hand at the base of the penis and start the same movement you are
doing it with the mouth. Don't stop and start over all the time, don't change the pressure of the hand
and do not change the rhythm suddenly. Walk the tongue over the glans - he will go to
madness!

Focus your attention on the glans, because that is where most of the
nerve endings. Suck, lick, circle with the tongue. Rub the penis on your
mouth, cheek, and gums.

3. Try moving your tongue in circles around the penis, going back and forth.
at the same time. Don't forget that one of your hands is still free to
touch other parts of his body, such as the pelvis, the testicles, the perineum, and the anus.
Many men have spasms when receiving oral sex and being touched on the anus.
at the same time. You need to find out soon what kind of man he is, he can
to be one of those lucky ones.

4. Lick and gently suck his testicles, taking one testicle at a time.
in the mouth (if possible, place both). Move it around a lot with your tongue.

5. Your teeth should be covered by your lips most of the time, to

protect his penis and testicles. But at times, his teeth
they can be an important sexual instrument. Hold his penis inside yours
mouth, closer to the cheek, and pass your teeth and lips over the entire length
Some bites are welcome, as long as they are soft and gentle.

6.Another stimulus for these moments, when you are exhausted from having sex.
oral, it's licking his butt area (that's right, his little butt) while
touch the penis. But be careful because some men are ticklish in that area.

One of the most sensitive areas of the male genitalia is the perineum - it is something like
the male G spot is located between the testicles and the anus. So, it is
it is advisable that you spend some time in this area; licking, sucking,
for as long as you want or as long as he can take it! It will be better if he is
lying down and you have his legs over your shoulders.

8.Still in the perineum, while you are sucking his penis, keep touching the
perineum gently. But be careful! If you press a little harder, it
you may enjoy it sooner than expected. So, learn the best way to speed it up or
to make him go slower.

Fill your mouth with ice before putting his penis inside it and just watch.
his facial expression!

10. Take his penis and put a little chocolate, honey, or something else that you
like it and start licking it. Try doing this with ice cream. The result will be
easily noticeable.

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 Some men love when oral sex is interspersed with some penetration.
But don't grant all his wishes immediately, let him suffer a little.
Let him penetrate you once or twice only and then return to the
oral sex. Do this repeatedly. Learn that this suffering means
excitement. Make him suffer!

Usually oral sex happens when both of you are already in bed. But some
Variations can be interesting. Make him stand up and kneel in front of him.
Drive him crazy, suck him in a way that nobody has ever been able to. Go down.
for his legs and suck his testicles. Try circular movements with the
tongue in the anus - he will go crazy!

13. Make some surprises. Wait until he has to make that important call,
when he starts to talk, unzip his pants, hold his penis and start to suck it
the

The same can be done when he is bored, watching TV. Approach him.
discreetly and open his zipper. Don't take off your clothes or his, just
take his penis out and start the fun!

15. Deep throat - This is the technique that made actress Linda Lovelace famous.
It's not difficult, but it requires practice. The secret to this wild technique is to align
your mouth and your throat - you can lie on your back and let your
head hanging on the side of the bed. This way he can penetrate your mouth of the
the same way he penetrates your vagina. The tip is to breathe before he penetrates
his mouth, because his penis will block the air passage through your mouth. If you feel
what will choke, swallow and the sensation will pass. Practice this with a vibrator
before trying with your partner. If it doesn't work the first time you try
with your partner, keep practicing and do not lose interest. But remember to
that not all women can do this, so think that you
will stop being a sex goddess just because of that.

Ready. Now with these tips you are ready to enhance your practice even more.
about oral sex. I guarantee that if you put into practice what you learned here, you two will
to experience an indescribable pleasure.

9- Male masturbation

The secret to good sex is foreplay. And, just like women, men...
loves to be touched - especially in her intimate parts.

The most sensitive part of the penis is the glans and the area around it. Now that you already know
So use your hands and fingers properly and hold it firmly but gently.

One thing you need to know when dealing with the most precious part of
anatomy of your partner. There is no other part of their body that defines their
masculinity as much as your penis. Therefore, any physical or emotional attention to this
area will always be welcome.
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One of the advantages of masturbation is that it can be done anywhere, even
even with people nearby. The place where you do this is one of the most important ingredients.
exciting of this practice; the risk of you being caught doing something you shouldn't is
really a little extra seasoning.

Masturbation relies entirely on your hands. Therefore, if they are not

presentable, your skin is dry or your nails poorly trimmed, your plans
can be ruined. This is because you may cause discomfort to your partner.
you will certainly have heard most of the techniques that I will present here; but how much
but the more you know, the better you will do. All techniques require at least the use of
one of your hands and you will need to be sitting or kneeling between his legs (this
will allow you greater mobility to make movements). Don't forget to
ask if he wants to watch, because most men love it.

Before I start giving tips, you need to learn how to hold a penis.
There are several ways to do this depending on your partner's position.

1- Place the thumb at the bottom of the base, wrap the penis with the other fingers and
press your little finger against the pelvis.
Make a circle with your thumb and index finger, and move your hand up and down.
no penis.

Now that you know where to hold, it's time for action. But first, remember
there are three important things to make the perfect touch:

a- Touch it gently;
b- Touch it gently;
c- Tap it at a steady rhythm.

Soon, you already have the necessary information. The time has come for tips on how to do with
that things run in the most perfect way possible and he feels like the only man in
world that has this type of pleasure.

1. Take the penis as if it were dough and squeeze it.

Gently touch the underside of the penis with the palm of your hand while it
presses against his body.

3. Rub his penis in your hands, as if it were hot.

4. Lubricate the penis with an oil or lotion, and do the same to your
body - stomach, thighs and face. You can also lightly hit with the penis
in these areas where you applied the oil. Don't worry, it won't hurt. But get ready-
is to deal with the consequences of your act.

5. Make two rings with your thumb and index finger of both hands. Position them
a gentle way in the middle of his penis and start a movement up and down
at the same time.

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6. Place the same rings at the base of the penis. Move up with one hand to the glans.
and sometimes, keeping one of the rings at the base.

7. Whenever you can, apply some pressure to the perineum (the area between the testicles and
the anus) while moving the penis. Maintain the pressure rhythm in the movements
what you're doing on the penis.

8. You can also manipulate the perineal area with one hand while
play with the testicles. Do this when you feel he is ready to ejaculate -
he will not believe the feeling.

There are men who enjoy having their testicles touched and rubbed after
orgasm. This gives them a feeling of relaxation after ejaculation. But
ask him first or test, because some men become very sensitive in these situations
areas after orgasm. Obviously, if done with care and softness, it does not
will be able to refuse.

10. Press your breasts against each other and lubricate them. Do it to rub the penis between
them. Pass his penis over your hardened nipples. Or play with
his nipples while he rubs his penis against your breasts. Men go to
madness when they see a woman touching her own body.

11. A variation of the above tip is to spread oil on your buttocks and let it
play with your hard penis on you. Lie face down on the pillows but
don't let him penetrate you. Make him suffer a little!!

12. You can also lie on a few more pillows and open up a bit.
the legs. Let him play with his penis on your outer lips, on your
vagina and in your clitoris. And again, don't let him penetrate you. Enjoy the
just kidding!

13. In the middle of the night, put your hand under the sheets and start to manipulate his penis.
He will be sleeping at the beginning and won't notice - he will probably think that he is
dreaming. Make his dream come true and start to masturbate him until the penis
be ready for penetration. But first check and see if your vagina is
moist enough to receive you.

14.Masturbate him until his penis is very hard. Then tie him to the bed and
start touching your own body in front of him. Touch your nipples, your breasts and
masturbate. Show him that you know exactly what turns you on. Let him
watch you go crazy, scream and moan while he is still tied to
bed. He will go crazy! When you are ready to come, let it go and leave
let him penetrate you intensely. The feeling will be wonderful!

15.Wait for him to return from work and greet him at the door. Tell him to look inside the
your eyes, and meanwhile slide your hands into his pants.
Masturbate him until he is ready to orgasm. When you feel that, put
his penis inside your mouth or your vagina - wherever you prefer. Ask for

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 he should penetrate right there, no going to another part of the house. Do it standing up.
lie down on the ground. Try it!

16.Lubricate your hands and hold his penis by the base. Here you will need
work your wrist a little. Make the movement up and down that you
you already know, but this time slowly rise in a spiral to the glans and descend from the
the same way (as if you were closing and opening the lid of something that
make a screw). Repeat the movement as many times as you can. If by chance
if you get tired, switch hands. But be prepared, because after a series
with the whim of this movement he will be ready to enjoy. Good luck!

Of course there are several ways to masturbate your partner, but they will end up
being variations of the same theme. So, always keep in mind that the glans is the area
more sensitive, some pressure on the hands is essential and, most importantly, communicate
Ask him if it’s okay, if it’s better to press a little more in that area, etc.
Talk to him, see if it’s good, what can be improved and enjoy! Use the tips and
the techniques presented and create other variations. Use your creativity and the pleasure will be
guaranteed!

10- Discover his erogenous zones

Like you, he also has erogenous zones throughout his body. If you explore
carefully, you will certainly find them and take advantage of them. Try to stroll through
these areas for example:

a.Hair - The right way to pull his hair can be erotic. So, hold
grab the hair at the back of his head and pull gently, biting the neck
give at the same time.

b.Ears - In many men, there is a connection between the ears and the penis. Try
suck, lick or gently blow on the outside or inside of the ears
do it in a continuous manner.

c.Neck - Nibble on his neck just below the chin, where the skin is softer.
sensitive. Go down to the shoulders and pay attention to his excitement.

d.Nipples - Just like women's, men's nipples are also

very sensitive. Do with his nipples what you like him to do with yours.
yours. But don't stay too long in this area. Return to it when you are already.
making love. Bite, suck and lick. Make circular movements with your tongue,
open and at the same time feel his penis harden with desire.

e.Belly button - This is also an area sensitive to touch. Run your tongue around it.
to the navel before putting it on him. You can also spread something like honey or
some liquid that you like and suck.

f. Inner thighs - You should first caress this area. Begin

licking the back of his knee and going up, without touching his penis for
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 while. Lick the entire area and give a sample of the lick on the testicles - he
it will be crazy! The groin is also a good area to be explored.

g.Costas - Have you noticed how much he writhes when you run your hands over him
what does it cost him? Have you ever imagined what he will feel if you lick or kiss instead of
just running your hands? Try some light bites!

h.Buttocks - Start with an innocent massage. Then scratch and pinch the
his little butt with your nails. Bite, squeeze! Remember to do this
mainly when he is on top of you, it doesn't matter what you both
they are doing. Another way to drive him crazy is to massage the penis while
open his butt.

Anus - You can lightly massage his anus with one of your fingers.
Bring your mouth close to his testicles and run your tongue over his anus.
desire. If he is relaxed, gently introduce your tongue into his anus.
repetitive movements. Another thing that will drive him crazy: masturbate him and
simultaneously pass the tongue over his anus. Remember that this does not have
nothing to do with masculinity, only with pleasure.

Testicles - They are extremely sensitive to touch. Many men enjoy

feel your testicles inside a woman's mouth. Suck on it with pleasure and see the
the expression on his face. Another tip: while playing with your mouth through the testicles
go ahead, try to masturbate him at the same time. He will go crazy. Also, try to pull
the skin of his testicles when he is ready to ejaculate. This will delay for
some moments his ejaculation will give him a more prolonged sensation
orgasm

k.Perineum - This is a very small area, as I mentioned before. It is

located between the anus and the testicles. The perineum is one of the most stimulating areas
of the man's body - it's like their G spot. A simple touch with the
a finger will cause an incredible sensation on it. When handling this area, do not
forget to play with his penis or anus.

Feet - First, make sure they are clean. Here you should use
your nails and your tongue. Pass your tongue between his fingers, massage,
suck, long. Remember that for the Chinese this is an area full of
connection points with other parts of the body.

Hands - Use your nails and make circular movements on his hands. Repeat the
same movements with the tongue. Suck his fingers as if they were yours
penis. Do this while looking into his eyes and feel the pleasure reflected in his eyes.

These were just a few points. You can explore your partner and discover others.
areas where he is more sensitive. So now that you have the map, go to
treasure hunt!

11- The G spot

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The controversial, and often unknown, G-spot is responsible for orgasm.
feminine during vaginal penetration without clitoral stimulation. The G-spot is an area
wrinkled the size of a bean located inside the vagina about 4 cm
enters through the front wall.

For some women, continuous stimulation of the G-spot can lead them to orgasms.
powerful. For others, this same stimulation can be uncomfortable and painful.
To know which category you fall into, you need to find out in practice. So the
What are you waiting for?

The best positions to stimulate the G-spot are those in which the woman is.
from above; or when penetrated from behind in the 'doggy style' position; or lying on the back
with the legs around the partner's shoulders while he, on his knees, penetrates her; or
him sitting and you sitting on his lap.

But before trying to find the G-spot with your partner, I suggest you do this.
alone to avoid greater issues. For that, here are some tips for you
get there.

When you are excited and wet, squat down and insert your finger into the vagina.
in the direction of your navel. Look for a wrinkled area like the sky of your
mouth. Move your finger in your vagina in a clockwise and counterclockwise direction. Feel what
points that excite them the most.

Lying down, spread your legs wide. Again, when you are aroused, insert
insert your finger into the vagina and make the same movements described above. Use some oil.
lubricant if you prefer.

On your stomach, place a pillow under your navel and raise your butt. Use a
vibrator for self-penetration and move the hips in a clockwise and counter-clockwise direction,
trying to find the area that best responds to the vibration. When you find it
I am sure that you will know what I am talking about, because you will not stop.
to touch oneself.

Do these experiences and discover your G-spot for yourself. Then call your
partner to look for you. Besides being stimulating and informative, the game is synonymous with
pleasure for sure!

Orgasm is like a bus: if we miss one, take a break and another will come soon.

Márcia Zennega

Are you crazy about sex?

Is sex everything to you? After answering the questions of this test, you will discover if the moments
intimacy is dispensable, important, or essential for your relationship.

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1- If it were possible, with whom would you spend an unforgettable night of much love and
sex.
a) With the father of my children (or the most likely candidate).
b) With any buff man I bumped into.
c) I never stopped to think about that.

2- What would happen to your relationship if your partner became

unable to have sex for a few months?
It would cause a shake-up, but since you love him, that wouldn't be a reason to end it.
romance.
b) It will end soon, because in my opinion sex is not everything, at least 90% in one.
relationship.
c) Nothing: you would give the greatest support and still have more time to relax and chat with
she.

Your partner is a bit wobbly, but the sex remains wonderful and full of passion.
However, you...
a) Proposes an open and honest conversation to clarify things.
b) Keep enjoying sex, because you think that over time everything will go back to how it was.
before.
c) Asks for some time to think about whether it is worth continuing a relationship like this with him.

What is your most intimate sexual fantasy?

a) Making love in the sea or in a garden under a starry sky.
b) To have sex with him and another man, having the most delicious orgies all night long.
c) Anything with him, as long as both agree on the fantasy.

5- In your opinion, what are the words that best match sex?
Love and affection.
b) Arousal and orgies.
c) Family and complicity.

6- You and your partner haven't had sex for two weeks or more and you start to
to think...
He must surely be stressed or short on time.
I will create an atmosphere for us to have an unforgettable night.
If he doesn't want me, I'll go after someone who does.

Do you worry about how long you go without having sex?

a) I don't care about the weather.
b) One month.
c) One week or less.

You were going out with your friends when a handsome and charming man invites you to
a more intimate program. What do you do?
a) He says he already has an appointment and tries to reschedule this delicious meeting for another time.
day.
b) Ask him to wait for you to go out with your friends and have a lot of fun, then
you will be free for him.

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c) Accepts immediately and thinks that another man like this one will not fall from the sky so easily.
I give in. Besides, you can go out with your friends any other day.

9- Would you hook up with a friend of yours?

a) Never. Because in my opinion, friendship and sex should not mix.
Yes. But only if he were handsome, charming, and showed interest in me.
Of course. I can already imagine him as a wonderful lover.

10- What kind of movie do you usually watch with him?

Comedy and adventure.
b) Drama and suspense.
c) Romance and eroticism with a lot of mischief.

11- Your partner invites you to a 'super night'. What is the first thing that comes to your mind?
head?
a) A drink at the bar with friends.
a delicious dinner accompanied by lots of affection and white wine.
Hours and hours of hot and fiery sex in a motel.

12- What color of underwear do you prefer your partner to wear at the moment 'H'?
Any one, as long as it is silk.
Red, black, or white.
c) To be honest, I never stopped to think about it.

A very charming friend of yours invites both of you for a weekend with him.
and the girlfriend at their country house. You agree if...
a) Your partner agrees.
b) Agrees and starts thinking about a couple swap.
c) It will only be accepted if your work is up to date.

Check the result

One point for each answer "A" you had; 2 for each "B"; and 3 for each "C".

0 to 13 points - Fuel to the fire!

Of course you like sex. But you are a woman who does not consider this the part
the main thing in a relationship. Enjoys moments together and views sex as
an extension of love. That's why you would never share your intimacy with
a man that you didn't really like.

14 to 26 points - Fiery iron!

For you, sex is more important than love. In your mind, the two things can
walking together, however, a good hook-up does not depend on you really being involved in
a relationship with a man; and this hookup can happen anywhere, it's just
partner agree. Remember that love can last forever but sex does not,
think carefully before hurting someone.

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 27 to 39 - Straw fire!

Friendship, respect, and affection are really important to you. Sex? Yes, that too.
you are also important, but you can calmly live without. But stay
Be careful, as not all men like a woman like that. Think a little more.
about the subject and try to fill your relationship with more passion and fantasies, you will see
how contagious it is.

12- The technique of pompoarism - a tantric miracle

More than 1500 years ago, Thai women developed the technique of
pompoarism, whose main objective was to strengthen the vaginal muscles. The technique
involves a series of exercises that work the three vaginal muscle rings: the one of
vaginal opening, the medium and the one next to the uterus.

If the exercises are done regularly, they will allow you to control and develop.
your vaginal muscles in a short period of time. This will help you to give and feel
more pleasure. The exercises are easy and can be done at any time of the day, in
anywhere. You can do the exercise, even during sexual intercourse.

Breathing is one of the secrets for exercising correctly. You should

always inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth before making any effort. Do not breathe
bottom, this can cause dizziness. Breathe normally.

Do not do these exercises if you have any gynecological issues and avoid doing them if
the flow of menstruation is very high. If, when doing the exercises, you feel any
if you feel pain or discomfort, consult your doctor.

Let's remember once again: the vagina is a muscle and should be exercised. The result
The practice will appear in a few weeks. So, be patient and, above all, be.
persevering.

Below you will find some exercises for you to get started with this technique.

EXERCISE 1 - Breathe normally

In this exercise, the hip muscles will be worked. This exercise should be done
in 5 repetitions.

1- Stand with your feet parallel, arms at your sides, and inhale deeply.
hips back. Then exhale by bending your knees and moving your hips forward.
2- Stand with your feet parallel and your legs slightly bent. Inhale.
move the pelvis back and exhale while moving it forward.

EXERCISE 2 - Strengthen the muscles of your genitals

Here you will be strengthening the muscles that are also responsible for control of the
urine release.

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The exercise consists of two parts: when urinating or during the day. This exercise should be
done, at least, in three sets of 15 repetitions.

1-When urinating
Hold the pee for 15 seconds and release, then stop (always with intervals of 15)
seconds). Release again and then stop. Do this until you finish. Try to do it.
at least 15 contractions every time you go to the bathroom.
During the day
At any time, contract the muscles of your vagina as if you were holding on.
your pee. Do this for 15 seconds and relax. Wait for 15 seconds and repeat it.
contraction. Do this exercise at least three times a day, each time for at least
15 contractions.

EXERCISE 3 - Work the pelvic muscle

In this exercise, the muscle of your pelvis will be worked. The exercise should be done from
following way:

First week
A series of 10 repetitions twice a day.

Second week
Two sets of 10 repetitions three times a day.

Third week
Three sets of 15 repetitions three times a day.

From the fourth week onwards

Four sets of 20 repetitions at least three times a day.

Lie on the floor or on your bed with your arms relaxed at your sides. Raise the
squat while contracting the muscles of the buttocks, abdomen, and vagina. Stay in this position.
Position yourself and count to 10. Then return to the starting position and relax. Do the repetitions.
as described above.

EXERCISE 4 - Further exercise the muscles of your vagina

This exercise has two levels of difficulty: basic and advanced. It must be done by
less in three sets of 10 repetitions.
1-Basic
Every day, during bath time, insert your middle finger inside your vagina and contract the
vaginal muscles. Feel the pressure of the vaginal ring muscles contracting. After
feel the contraction with your finger, relax, breathe and repeat the procedure. It is important that
you feel the pressure, otherwise the exercise is not being done correctly.

Depending on the length of your vaginal canal, you may or may not feel the contraction.
of your last ring. If you can't feel the last ring, your finger may be
replaced by a switched-off vibrator without batteries.

2-Advanced
This is for women who are at a more advanced level. The finger and the vibrator can

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be replaced by Ben-Wa balls (some Thai balls that can be
purchased at any sex shop). The Ben-Wa balls should be inserted as follows
way: first you insert the first little ball, then by contracting the muscles you go
inserting the other little balls. When the little balls are inside you, the process is
inverse and you start to have to pull the little balls out of you.

EXERCISE 5 - Develop the vaginal muscles during sex

Here we will work on the pelvic muscles again. This exercise should be done
only when you and your partner are in the mood. Believe me, he will always be.
disposition.

You need to be on top of your partner. After penetration, in the same position, contract.
the muscles performing a sucking motion on his penis and massaging it
at the same time. After that, contract the muscles of your vagina with all your strength and
clamp his penis so that he cannot move it. Repeat this five times and
then relax.

After that, try to expel his penis through the contractions of your muscles.
vagina (doing the reverse suction movement, go from the last ring to the first one).
When his penis is outside your vagina, contract the entrance muscles and make it more difficult.
his penetration. Do this twice, relax and allow him to penetrate you. Repeat this
twice, then relax and enjoy.

13 Positions That Will Drive You Crazy!

Good sex is an art - it requires practice, imagination, desire, and passion. It is necessary to have,
also, concentration, control, skill and intuition.

There are many possible positions for sexual intercourse. However, despite all the photos
And illustrations that you and your partner may have seen, the truth is that there are only 6.
sexual positions. All remaining positions are just variations on the same.
theme.

During a common sexual act, a couple varies between two or three different positions. It is
of course some remain in the same position, while others are
truly acrobatic.

Now I will reveal the famous 6 positions, but always keep in mind that the best
The ingredient for sex is your imagination. Good luck!

Dad and mom

This is the most common and also the most comfortable position, especially during an act.
prolonged sexual. In it, you can kiss your partner, look at the expression on their face and
hug him tightly. Women particularly like this position because it allows a
greater physical contact and they consider it more romantic.

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There are some advantages to this position. The woman can caress the back, the
buttocks and your partner's testicles (or even inserting a finger in your anus),
exciting him even more.

Every time he enters you, move your hips towards his pelvis and follow his lead.
movements. This will be exciting for both of you.

Different angles allow for deeper or shallower penetration. Move it.

your hips in circular movements and you will feel an enormous pleasure!

To achieve a deeper penetration, open your legs as wide as you can.

get them and lift them up. The higher it is, the deeper he will be able to
to penetrate you. You can help him penetrate you strongly if you can put your
heel on his buttocks and pull him towards you. The greater the angle he
In relation to you, it will be easier for him to reach your G-spot with his penis.

There are some variations for this position. You can place your legs over the
his shoulders; positioning your knees on his chest, keeping one leg straight on the bed
and another folded against his chest, or do anything else that your imagination
suggest

2- Woman on top
This is the position that men love for a variety of reasons. You will be on top.
give during penetration, as if mounted.

Besides not needing to put in much effort, men really like this position.
because they have a beautiful view of their partner's body and can easily reach it
any part of her body - breasts, hips, hair, legs, and everything else. They are beings
visual, they love to observe, and this position allows them to watch everything.
movements of your body and expressions of your face.

Knowing how to ride on your partner is one of the great secrets of the art of making love. In this
in this position you can also achieve deep penetration and have control of the rhythm and the
movement - you are in control of the situation. However, you need to have a great
agility in the hips and good physical conditioning.

One of the advantages of foreplay with the woman on top is that the man can
appreciate your partner's body and become more excited each time. To drive him crazy, take your
penis and rub it against your wet vagina and your clitoris. Rub the glans on your
vagina, insert it gently and then remove it right away. Do this repeatedly and
enjoy the feeling.

You can also support your body on his arms and move your hips wildly,
After all, this is one of the great advantages of this position.

Sit with a straight back for deeper penetration. One of the things most
erotic experiences that exist for men is watching the woman above him touch her
breasts, writhing, moaning, playing with the nipples and masturbating while being penetrated
deeply for your penis.

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The most interesting variations of this position happen when you are squatting.
about him, moving up and down at a different rhythm. Another variation is
when you turn 180 degrees while on top of him. Stay facing his feet and move
your butt up and down. Let him watch this from the best seat!

3- The shell
In this position, the man should be lying down behind the woman with his legs.
intertwined. This position does not allow for deep penetration, but leaves your hands
books for him to do whatever he wants with them. It is a perfect position for single beds,
sofas and morning sex.

In this position, most men can stay without ejaculating for longer, and
some women find it more comfortable.

To make things a little spicier, you can make circular movements with
your hips and your butt towards his pelvis, placing your leg over his leg
delete and changing the angle of penetration.

There is also the scissors position. Put your leg over his leg and find out which one.
position gives you more pleasure. Or position your body at 90 degrees to his body, with your leg
about his shoulder. He can then penetrate you and hold your leg, while your
another leg rests on the bed. This position further opens your vagina and is
exciting for both of you.

4- Puppy
This is the spiciest and naughtiest position of all. The only problem with it is that when
your partner the penetrator he does not have a frontal view of your body. But let's talk about the
True, what are mirrors for?

But I can assure you that the advantages of this position are many. Your breasts will be
looser, more sensitive, and within your reach. It will be able to stimulate your clitoris, thus
like the area between your vagina and your anus. His testicles will be bumping against
you, and the angle of penetration is amazing and can be controlled by the tilt of your
butt - the higher, the greater the angle of penetration.

There are variations of this position for both of you. You can be supported with your hands.
and the knees, like a little puppy, just waiting for his penis to penetrate her; or he
you can be on your knees or even standing while you lie on the table or
on the bed; or you can be lying face down on the bed with some
pillows under the hip, to keep the pelvis in a higher position so that
that he may penetrate her from behind.

An interesting variation is when he sits in a chair or on the bed with the

feet on the ground and you sit on his lap, with your back to him. In this case, you will be responsible.
because of the movements, so you will need a place to support your arms and the weight of your
His hands will be free for him to do as he pleases.

Another variation I recommend only for couples who are fit. You lie down
lying face down on the bed with his legs dangling off the side. He will penetrate her.

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behind and will hold your legs and pull them to execute the movements. It is a position
really acrobatic, he can lift his legs to the height of his hips or shoulders.
But one more thing needs to be said, this position allows for the most penetrating type of penetration.
as deep as possible. The pleasure is intense!

5- Standing
To maintain her balance, it is better for the woman to lean her back against the wall. If
She is strong enough to hold it without needing to lean against the wall, great.

The position is generally used when sexual intercourse cannot take too long. You
You don't need to take off all your clothes, just lift the skirt and lower the zipper. It's great.
position for workplaces, elevators, stairs, restrooms, and any other place
that you can think.

Most men simply love this position, first because it reminds them of the
the possibility of him being caught in the act, doing something forbidden, and secondly because it needs to be
made quickly.

6- Sitting
Many couples enjoy this variation. You sit on his lap, facing him, and the
wraps with your legs. Here the movements are limited, however the contact of
the body is great.

It's a great position for the bathtub, kitchen, or places outside the room. It allows a
total contact of bodies, as well as kisses and hugs.

You can also sit on something that is at the same level as his penis, or a
a little lower. This way, he will penetrate her more easily.

This is also a recommended position for quick acts - in the kitchen, in the bathroom of
airplane, on the office desk... Just use your imagination!

Now that you have seen the basic positions, work on creating variations of them.
positions. Use your creativity and imagination. In this game, everything is allowed.

14 - 10 questions that every woman wants to ask

To finish, I will gift you a compilation of 10 questions that everyone

a woman has already had the desire to do it. Have fun!

How to give good oral sex?

It is important that you show willingness, but in a natural way. Trick to
beginners: hold the penis by the base to assist in the movements and prevent you from
suck it; then start sucking it by making different movements; try licking it
at some points and see where he responds best, then keep the caresses in that
point for some time; concentrate your efforts on the glans, it is the most sensitive part;
don't just use your mouth and tongue, work with your hands too. Touch with your hand
through his butt and stroke his testicles. Let nature take care of the rest.
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 Can I reach orgasm just by having my breasts caressed?
This is possible. Your orgasm is just the result of increasing excitement.
However, the ideal is that the caresses are combined and not isolated.

I have already imagined myself with another woman in bed. Do I have a tendency to be lesbian?
No. It is perfectly normal for us to create images of things we consider taboo.
Take advantage of this and use this fantasy to get excited.

Can a man fake an orgasm?

Yes. He can simulate the climax and relax. If he's wearing a condom, it's easier, it is.
just take it out and that's it.

What is the secret of good men in bed during penetration?

They know the woman's body and know that only one area of two
centimeters at the entrance of a woman's vagina are sensitive to touch. They also
We know that the back part of the vagina is more sensitive to touch. With these
information can drive any woman crazy.

Does the size of the penis matter?

No. Most of the nerve endings are located around or near the clitoris.
at the entrance of the vagina. However, visually, I would say that a larger penis is more
exciting.

Should I swallow the semen or not?

There is no rule for this. Do what you think is best or what you feel most.
comfortable.

How long can an orgasm last? The average is 15 seconds. But this can
it extends for a few minutes. What becomes unimportant if we take into account
consideration that we women can have multiple orgasms.

Sometimes I don't orgasm. Could I be becoming frigid?

No. Your sexual appetite is influenced by various factors and not everything is always.
conspires in favor of orgasm. The fact that it does not appear does not mean that sex does not
it has been worth it.

What is the age for me to become sexually powerful?

Scientific research shows that women's sexual peak comes after the age of 30.
years. This happens because a woman becomes more mature and knows what she wants in between
four walls.

HOW TO WIN OVER YOUR 'CHARMING PRINCE'

1- Basic principle
2- Be yourself
3- Be independent
4- Self-confidence is important
Smile
7- Become an island
8- Pay attention to your posture
9- Elogy

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10- Always be clean and presentable
11- Estimate and value it
12- Don't be a gossip
13- Don't "need" a man
14- Acknowledge his help
15- Don't whine, complain, or keep lamenting
16- Discover your 'anchor'
17- Get rid of unwanted hair
18- Appear accessible
19 - Make eye contact
20- Dance
21- Treat him with respect
22- Instantly discover what he is looking for in a woman
23- No one likes to be interrupted
24 - Pay close attention to his eyes
25- Don't be fake
26- Ask him questions
27- Subtly imitate his movements.
28- Want to drive a man crazy to win him over?
29- Don't talk about unpleasant subjects
30 - Pass the first date test - don't have sex
31- Be his friend
Look at his face
33- Female seduction
34- Flirt
35- Develop your charisma and charm him
36- Be his, but don't let him be sure of it.
37- Don't try to change him, nor improve him
38- Know when to keep your mouth shut
39- Put a smile on his lips
40- Do not make demands or ultimatums
41- Stay close to the mainland
42- Don't tell a man what he can and cannot do.
43 - Update yourself
Ambition and energy are attractive
45- Contest his opinions
46- Be a kind woman with a heart of gold
47- Restrain yourself
Try to get along with his friends
Take good care of his family
Speak well of him
51- Love us
52- Do not make marriage your ultimate goal
Chatting is an art that you need to learn.
Have strong convictions and a passion for something
55- Be stable and financially responsible
56- Be spontaneous
57 - Get rid of the 'crickets' with your body
58 - Don't give up on yourself
Stop complaining
60- Do not underestimate a man's emotional capabilities
61- Do not insult or reprimand him in public
62- Don't play jealousy to get attention
63- Oil it for what it is
Know your goals and be honest with your intentions
65. Do not underestimate your man
Believe in him
67. Close the ratchet
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Lower your standards
70. Set limits
71. Do not limit the number of men you are getting to know.
72. Don't be an open book
73. Don't relax with your appearance
74. Be comfortable with the opposite sex
76. Don't measure your companion
77. Lose the doll image
78. Be independent
79. Love spacious men
80. Don't be a volcano
Perhaps your tongue
82. Be his partner
Be surprising in bed
84. Do not settle
85. Honesty and frankness
86. Show some class
87. Don't give up on everything
Create a magical energy
Spend more time with him
90. The first impression is of utmost importance
Touch it
92. At certain moments, distance yourself from your friends.
93. Radiate sexuality
94. Generosity makes you more attractive
95. Be patient
Be polite and courteous to everyone you meet.
97. The subtle trust
98. Don't try to be smarter than him
Understanding is important
Avoid the 13 worst mistakes you might make

Basic principle
A man falls in love with a woman because of how she makes him feel about himself.
If she makes him feel good about himself, he will want to be close to her - if she makes him feel bad, he will
wanting to distance oneself. It is logical and simple, yet many women (and men) remain blind to this.
basic equation of love. This is the reason behind so many betrayals. When someone does not feel good
(I really can) around you, that person will go to another place - a place where they will feel good with themselves
Unfortunately, many of us women treat our partners in an incomplete way,
then we complain that they 'changed' and we end up having cases - simply because we don't
we feel very close to him. But we don't realize that it might be our fault that we no longer feel it.
their love.
Another thing, while you're looking for a man to have as a lover – a man that you
it hasn't ruined it yet, like it did with the one you are cheating on – the poor guy you are cheating on
you are looking for a woman who will love and accept you unconditionally (something you have not achieved).
It is a situation where no one wins and almost always ends with the end of the relationship.
All of this could have been avoided if the woman had known the simple tricks to catch the man of her dreams.
her dreams, to keep him and make him willing to do everything she desires!
Do you remember the basic principle mentioned above? A man falls in love with a woman.
because of how she makes him feel about himself. So, ladies, forget the self-help books.
rules, the sex manuals, the games, the silicone implants, and everything else and read these tips to
to finally conquer your 'charming prince'.
Starting from the next item, you will find dozens of tips to attract and keep the man of your dreams.
your dreams and make him fall in love with you. The following tips were related to
random way: some are for dating, others for a serious relationship, etc. And these

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do tips work? - you ask me. Yes, they work, but if you do not have an understanding
the sharpest of men and the general concept behind these tips, then they are indeed useless. If you
use these tips to make 'little games', they will also be useless. To really make the most of them you
one must have an understanding – and a true love – for men. Below are the tips
they begin to be listed. Do yourself a favor and read them carefully.

2. Be yourself
Men love a woman who is at peace with herself, who doesn't make herself important, who is
honest and sincere and is not fake. They can almost recognize a fake woman.
instantaneously. Again, I insist, 'be yourself'. Act naturally and be yourself.
this doesn't take any work and you will still be sure that he will be with you because he likes
who you are, and not someone you created.

3. Be independent
Self-sufficient women are attractive. Needy and clingy women are scary. Never say that
you cannot be self-sufficient, because you can. When you say 'I cannot' it's like if
you were saying 'I don’t want to be now, I can’t risk failing.' Stop being so harsh.
I can do it myself. Make peace with who you are and change your "I can't" to "I can and I will".
to achieve!
When you become self-sufficient, opportunities will come to you and your ability will leave.
you are stunned. Postponement is the way a scared person has to avoid taking the risk of
fail. But it is only in "not trying" that we truly fail. The women who wait
passively being rescued by a man end up trapped in a fairy tale. They need
understand that only they can change the course of their lives. They need to understand the fact that
They are waiting for someone to rescue them because they are afraid of being independent. They do not have the
self-confidence to take a risk of failure. Women like this suffer from a mentality of
"slave-woman" in relation to man. She still hopes that – no matter how successful
She is – somewhere there is a prince who will come to rescue her.
When a woman logically tries to make a plan to meet a man, she thinks that
is exercising a type of manipulation. She needs to stop thinking that if she is not with a
she does not exist. When you learn to be self-sufficient and to depend on yourself,
You don't need to be afraid of being abandoned, rejected, or ignored! Why? Because you can't
abandon, reject, and not ignore oneself.
Embrace the fact that you are single and take control of your life and your destiny. You are your own
God. Focus on your goals. By manifesting your dreams, you release a new confidence.
that gives you even greater power. Organize your life before finding a man. Trust in
Ma'am, the most attractive woman in the world is the one who knows who she is and is happy with it. Be proud.
of your life and then be wise and selective about who you will share this with. In this way
you take control of your own destiny instead of waiting passively for someone to do it
That's it. Result: you will attract a stable and mature man who will love and respect you for who you are.
who you are. And you will place this person in your life, and not give the reins of your life to them.
Women have achieved many victories in the last hundred years. Today's women are
astronauts, scientists, national leaders, entrepreneurs, doctors, lawyers, and economists. In
Indeed, the only thing that seems to be lacking in today's woman is a sense of strength and self-worth intact.
Most of us still believe that only a partner can provide us with these qualities,
when, in fact, we are the ones capable of reaching a place where who we are is good
enough! Stop believing in fairy tales where a 'charming prince' magically appears and
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4. Self-confidence is important
A self-confident woman exudes sex appeal. Adopt an attitude that demonstrates 'if you like it'
my appearance, great; if you don't like it, so what?” The fundamental point is the following: the appearance of
a woman is less important than how she deals with that appearance. A self-confident woman and
secure is someone calm, relaxed and pleasant to be around.

Tip: don't be overly self-confident to avoid seeming stuck-up or reserved!

Sometimes a little unexpected nervousness on your part (like playing with the straw or the
napkin) makes your meeting more relaxed. This unconsciously gives him the opportunity to
relax near you for the simple fact of not feeling intimidated by you.
Attention: self-confidence can be easily destroyed if we constantly judge and compare.
the people around us in search of their flaws. Their goal is to take the qualities that you see in
yourself and exercise them to the fullest. This will help you gain self-confidence. With self-confidence
you do not fear the risks and the fears associated with failure and rejection, because you have the
confidence that they did their best 'even when they failed'. However, this self-confidence also
allows you to take certain risks and often overcome them.
Unlike many popular theories, men like it when a woman approaches them.
It happens so rarely that it is extremely flattering for the man. It also mitigates his
fear of "rejection." So be self-confident enough to take the first step. But do not be
too fast. You want to show interest, not desperation! Also, remember: men
they really enjoy hunting. Their job is to take the first step, show interest and then let go.
that "he" hunts to satisfy his "instincts".

Hot or cold?

Use this test to find out if you are more for dating or for friendship. Write down your answers and check them.
the result at the end of the frame.

At a party, he notices her presence. His first action is...

Find a way to stay by your side.
b) Stay in his lane and then get closer.
c) Enjoy friends first.

2- When you are close, he...

Look into their eyes, touch their arm, and gesture a lot.
b) He is considerate, but does not show anything particularly special in the conversation.
c) Shortens the conversation because there is always a more important commitment ahead.

3- When he goes on vacation, he always...

He/She sends a postcard to you.
b) Looks for you when returning to tell about the trip.
c) Some from the map - doesn't even warn where it will be.

4- If you happen to meet on a Friday, he...

a) She arrives giving a little kiss and asks what you are going to do on the weekend.
b) Ask what you are going to do on the weekend, but without kisses or hints.
c) Greet, make small talk, and don't mention the weekend.

5- If you wrote something romantic for him, how do you think he would react?
It would be quick to respond in the same tone to gain your admiration.
b) I would respond, but you can't even imagine what I would write.
c) She has no idea, but knows that this may not have any effect.

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6- When he sees her across the street, his reaction is...
a) Change sidewalks just to say hello.
Shout a "hi" and move on.
c) Just wave quickly.

When you find your friends, he...

a) A question from you right away, if you are going out, etc.
b) Have a normal chat and in the middle of the conversation, ask about yourself.
c) Ask about everything except yourself.
Check the result:

Majority A: It's Hot!

By the looks of it, he is more than ready to get closer. This is revealed by his actions when he is near.
from you. But it's not enough for him to just send signals of love in your direction. It is also up to you to take the
initiative. How? By making my interest clear. Remember: another golden opportunity like this
It may take a while to appear. So, open your heart and move forward – without fear or shyness.

Majority B: It’s lukewarm!

He likes you, there is no doubt. The crux of the matter is to find out if he just likes you or feels something more.
Of course it won't become an overt flirtation, but this relationship can certainly evolve into
the sentimental field. Since you are not going to wait for it to fall from the sky, why not be more direct and let
Sure, what do you feel? One thing I can guarantee: you only have to gain!

Majority C: It's cold!

Either way, one of two things: either his heart already belongs to someone, or he hasn't yet realized what a wonderful woman you are.
But not everything is lost. After all, you have all the time in the world to make him notice your
presence. Furthermore, there are many free men out there. Are some of them not sending signals?
of love towards you without you even realizing it?

5. Smile
Men prefer a big smile to big breasts any day of the week! A person
Happy is someone we always want to have around. So smile! A woman who rarely smiles and is
rarely pleasant will drive away any man. A genuine smile is seductive and makes anyone
melt heart.
Stop worrying about beauty, studies have shown that people tend to seek
those that have approximately the same attractions as themselves. This phenomenon is called
the 'combination hypothesis'. A woman who is at peace with herself and conveys happiness seems
more attractive to someone of the opposite sex than another woman who, despite being beautiful, seems
reserved and inaccessible. Keep in mind that you only have one chance to make a good first impression
impression. So put on your face a contagious, kind and irresistible smile.
Don't close off your face. You never know when someone is falling in love with your smile.

Laugh a lot
Laugh a lot. Men love women who have a sense of humor. Have you noticed that those
women who are alone and complaining because they can't find a man are always
depressed? They keep their heads down, shoulders hunched, and waiting for a man to make them
Happy. So they end up not getting that man and become more bitter, wondering why.
they are always left aside; or worse, why don't they call back after the first date!
Want to know why? It's because these women are unpleasant company – and who wants to be around that?
of someone like that? People like to have happy people around! People who make them smile and give
a lot of laughter.

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Unfortunately, depression is a vicious circle. If you are depressed, no one will want to stay.
close to you – something that will make you even more depressed. The best thing to do is to understand the
cause of your depression. It can be clinical, chemical, or a multitude of other things - including the
inability to recognize your own depression because you simply don't know how to act differently
way.
Be an upbeat person and others will want to be around you. Because you strive to
seek their sympathy and admiration instead of pity and compassion. Never confuse compassion and
Love with pain. It is human nature to help those in need.

Ria, and the world will laugh with you. Cry, and you will cry alone.

Stop being the queen of drama, thirsty for attention, a victim. These tactics work to attract
attention - negative attention. Instead, find humor in the simple things of everyday life and laugh.
Acquire the ability to challenge and be happy just for a change. Laugh out loud (even if it's at yourself) and
You will gain attention – positive attention. Which of the two do you prefer to have?

7. Become an island
Create your own identity. Be unique and different. Be original. Some people have
strong personalities. They have their own charisma and style! For example: Madonna, Romário, Cher,
Lula, among others. To be an island you need to develop your unique personality, your aura,
your character. Create your own style: your fashion, your shine, enhance your features, your sense of
humor or the way you see things. Transform into a fantastic work of art and become a
woman different from all the others! If you find it hard to do, think of a woman who
you admire a lot and whom you would like to resemble. Compete with her. Ask yourself
"What do I admire about her?"; "Why would I like to be like her?"; "What could I do"
to make me look more like her?
By developing your own style you will be saying: 'I like what I am,' and that is very sexy.
Choose clothes that reflect your personality.

However, keep in mind that a woman in light clothing is more sensual. When a man sees
a woman in light clothing, that instantly catches his attention. It is also known that
men tend to get closer and feel more attracted to a woman who is
using pink or peach. Try it, it doesn't cost anything!

Considering all of this, let him know that you are different from the rest. Emphasize your originality.
through your appearance, your personality, and your behavior. In other words, have
courage to be different!
Each one of us has a special shine, like a star. We have a magnificence and a beauty.
that are unique. No one can have your identity, your signature, your fingerprint and the
perfection of being yourself. It takes courage to embrace your identity and disconnect from
crowd. But the reward for this is incredible - we have gained our own identity.

8. Pay attention to your posture

A good posture is a great aspect for women who wish to be attractive. Never stay
sloppy, makes you look weak, insecure, needy – and depressed. Many men call this
of lack of self-esteem. The way you move or walk should reflect confidence and the
graciousness of a princess. A good posture can attract some good looks. When you walk

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it's not love, remember that.
Someone can help her, but you are the one who needs to change your attitude. You need to value yourself more.
to walk with grace, to have confidence in the fact that you are wonderful and therefore deserve respect
And love. When you love yourself, others will love you too. The way you take care of
it enhances even more the environment you create around yourself.
Good self-esteem shows how a person takes care of themselves and makes them sexy and attractive. But not
we all have this. At some point in our journey we may lose our self-esteem.
How?
• Through past failures. The more failures we have, the lower our self-esteem.
• Through wicked acts. Hurting others can leave us with low self-esteem. How can we
Can we feel good if we cause harm to another person?
• Through the invalidation of someone whose opinion we respect. It could be that of a father, a mother, a brother,
a friend, an ex-boyfriend, or anyone else that we respect. When someone we respect
if you do not agree with us, or depreciate us, it changes the way we see ourselves. That is why
men and women massacred in abusive relationships come out of them almost without any self-esteem. It is
this way the person who is abusing continues their massacre, destroying the self-esteem of the
outro.
The list above shows just a few ways we can lose our self-esteem.
Remember, you were not born with a bad opinion of yourself. It's time to reclaim the opinion that
you had yourself and change the way you see yourself once and for all! So stay
feet, straighten the column, lift those shoulders and raise your head.

9. Praise
Men love to hear compliments, just like women do. They like to hear that they are handsome.
hot, etc. From time to time they even enjoy being chased and receiving indiscreet glances. They
they want you to love them.
Tell him what a great lover he is, how handsome he is, how good he smells, how he is
talented, how amazing he is at fixing almost everything, how you trust him, etc. Be specific, don't
just say that he is 'sexy'. Instead, say that he has wonderful legs, that he has hands
masculine, that his gaze is penetrating, that his butt is firm, and other things. Compare him to
other men, but in a favorable way. Say how he is better than the others.
Make your compliments unique. "No one makes me feel as good as you do"; "No one
I've never felt such desire before; I've never seen such a sexy gaze in my entire life. Think with me, if
if you make him feel wonderful, he will feel attracted to you, right? Imagine the opposite,
Wouldn't you feel more attracted to a man who thinks you're 'wonderful'? I would!

Remember: a man falls in love with a woman because of how she makes him feel about himself.

10. Always be clean and presentable

It doesn't matter if you're the sexiest and most beautiful woman on the planet if you don't have hygiene. So
Brush your teeth and floss, wear clean clothes and tidy your hair. Also, smell nice.
this way you will attract men close to you. Men, in particular, love the smell of
a woman's hair. So put a little perfume on it before drying it.
Men also go crazy for a spicier scent or the smell of cinnamon. It is a
It's a shame that perfumes don't essentially come with those aphrodisiac scents.
Here’s a tip, no matter how good the fragrance is, don't overdo it. Wearing too much perfume, or
mixing it with another scent can ruin his night and, consequently, yours.
And one tip I always give regarding what to wear is the following: dress your personality. This
will give you a unique individuality.

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 Value and appreciate him
Men like to be esteemed more than anything else. A man who does not feel
Esteemed by the woman who lives by your side, he will seek this esteem and attention elsewhere.
I can guarantee that! Say 'thank you' every time he does something for you. If he takes you to dinner,
Say how delicious your dish was. If he opens the car door for you, thank him and unlock it.
the door next to him. If he takes out the trash, thank him – even if that is one of the duties
delete.
Don't just tell him that you care for him for the little things he does, say that you are too.
grateful for the great things. Say that you are lucky to have him by your side; that you love the way
how he loves her; that he values the hard work that she does; that he loves the devotion that she has for
family; who values you as a man! If you do not have a great gratitude for the man who
if you have him as a companion, it's better to send him away now – because eventually he
will end up doing this.

2. Don't be a gossip
Gossip is the way insecure women found to eliminate verbally the
competition. A confident woman is not in a competition. Gossip is a bucket of cold water
for most men. Men like women who are confident and have virtues, and
Gossipy women seem to lack these qualities.

External beauty attracts a man's eyes, but internal beauty attracts his heart.

13. Don't "need" a man

Waiting for a man is understandable, but needing one is something desperate to do. And
desperate is the last thing you want to appear when meeting someone. Get rid of the 'I need to'
let things happen naturally and you will see that anxiety and despair were just
blocking everything.

14. Acknowledge his help

Men often do not verbally say 'I love you' as much as they demonstrate it with
actions. If he fixes your hair dryer, checks the oil in your car, takes the clothes out of the washing machine
while washing, carries the groceries - in any gesture of this kind he is saying 'I love you'. Pay attention
attention, recognize the declarations of love and value them! Do not act as if he were just
doing his duty.

15. Do not whine, complain, or moan.

This is so ugly and so annoying! Do you want to be ugly in his eyes? Develop a joy for life. What?
the reason to want to be extremely unhappy? Grumpy and complaining women never get anywhere
well - in nothing!

16. Discover your 'anchor'

An 'anchor' is something specific and cute that only you do. An anchor is something you do.
with a certain frequency and has become part of your qualities. It's almost like a signature.
yourself – a cute or sexy thing that only you do. Below you see some examples of
anchors.
• Humming a specific song while doing some household chores;
• Tilt your head to the side when you smile at him;

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• Stick out your tongue lightly when you can't get what you want;
• Playing with the hair in a seductive way;
• Lightly bite his lip after the kiss;
• Caressing his wrist or hand during the kiss;
• Playing with your shoe on the tips of your toes in a tempting way;
• Kiss him behind the ear when he leaves for work;
• Sigh his name and kiss him on the forehead right after the orgasm;
• The way your lips curve when you smile;
• Wrinkle the nose;
• Pulling the earlobe;
• Turn the ring on your finger – or on his;
• Pouting when you want to persuade him to do something;
• Playing with the back of his hair while you watch TV.
I have a friend who kisses everyone she likes (man or woman) on the arm, whenever
greet you. I think we can call this an 'anchor'. It stays in our minds, believe me.
Even a trace of a different or unusual personality, such as a fear of butterflies, can be
an 'anchor'. Sometimes we fall in love with the eccentricities of an individual. That little thing of yours
particular will create ubiquitous obsidian - "Wherever I go, I will be thinking about
you.

Get rid of unwanted hair

Does your armpit look like something from the '60s? It's getting hard to distinguish your leg from your
Dog? You now have more hair on your mustache than a Mexican movie actor? According to
recent research shows that men like women to have only hair and hair on the
eyebrows and eyelashes. This includes the pubic area. Most men prefer a region
shaven pubis.

18. Seem accessible

Nothing drives a man away more than a woman who seems unattainable. So smile, cast your eyes
through the crowd with a friendly demeanor. Don't lift your nose and just keep talking with
your friends.
Ask yourself a question: 'Do I look like someone others would feel like
"comfortable to start a conversation?" If the answer is "no", you are lacking in that aspect.
Attractive. You can become more attractive just by seeming friendly, inviting, and approachable.
Don't cross your arms, nor hide behind your hair. Lift your head, put a smile on your face.
lips, take the hair off your face and look around. Look welcoming and happy! With that you will become
more attractive and your chances of being approached by the right man will increase.

19. Make eye contact

A lot of eye contact is the best thing to do when you want something to arise. Eye contact
It should be discreet, don't stand still staring at him – that way you'll look like a
crazy!
Men find women's eyes an extremely sexy part of their body. The same goes for
with the women. If you don't believe it, do the following: find a photo of someone that you
consider it sexy (preferably a photo of him nude) and cover the eyes in the photo. It loses a lot, doesn't it?!

20. Dance
Don't refuse to dance with anyone. First of all, imagine the poor soul who had to arrange
courage to invite her to dance. Can you imagine the effort he had just to be rejected?

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 So dance with whoever asks you to dance, after all, it's just a dance and not a
commitment for a lifetime.
The more you are on the dance floor in front of everyone, smiling, the greater the
chances of you being seen by 'that' person you want to notice you. However, pay close attention
Attention: be careful not to overdo it. Don't try to be the center of attention! This can be threatening.
for many men.

Treat him with respect

Give him the respect that a man needs and deserves. A man's life is often hard and the
women need to show much more respect for the roles they have to fulfill. Women
they need to recognize men more for what is expected of them in life, and care less about
where do they think a man can take them.
Men were not made to work for you; to support you; to take care of you; to
to feed you; to make you happy; and to protect you from the world. You need to become a woman who
collaborate more and don't act so much like a defenseless child. You need to want the company more
take it rather than wanting him to be "your savior". If you feel you need to be "saved" or "rescued",
schedule an appointment with a professional therapist.

22. Instantly discover what he is looking for in a woman

It's very easy to do this without him noticing. How? It's all very simple. You can almost say
that instantly and accurately what a man looks for in a woman (even if he
don't know) and what characteristics do not please him, simply asking him what characteristics
of his mother he admires and which he hates.
This is the simplest, fastest, and most accurate way to discover what attracts and what repels a man with
who you are. I did this with my husband and I was relieved when I found out that the qualities that
he admired in his mother are the same that I possess. This made things easier for me - I
I could be myself!

The 5 preferred qualities of men

Be it due to insecurity or simply out of fear of losing romance, men do not want their
women experiment with another. The fact that they do not give up fidelity in order to fully engage.
And soul in a relationship. Therefore, be faithful and demand the same behavior from him.
• Be sensual. Don't worry, being sensual doesn't mean you will need to go five days a week to the.
Academia. The vast majority of them share the same opinion: a woman is sensual when she feels it.
truth in this way. There is no single standard of sensuality or beauty, a woman needs to
only find yours. In their view, women just need to accept themselves, find their style and
value this. There is no man who can resist the charm of a self-assured woman who knows what
As they say in the book, 'Without desire, there is no solution.' There is no relationship without something that stirs the libido.
the sensuality is a very important item that a woman can use to always maintain the
interest of your partner.
• Being good in bed. Every man wants a woman who is really good in bed, and not just someone who says so.
this to the four winds. It is essential that in order to be considered as such, a woman needs to be active and
participative in moments of intimacy. The man loves to feel like the best man in the world in bed; the
a woman who makes him feel this way will have him forever in her hands. Even more if she discovers what he
it enhances and inflates during sexual intercourse. Research, understand his taste, show yours and remember
that, behind closed doors, everything is allowed! Save the little princess for bedtime; at the time of sex he wants
a "Woman".
• Be smart. Surprisingly, men are changing. According to the research, nearly 70%
they consider this the most important quality in a woman. So, forget the 'dumb blonde' profile and
try to show what you have best, intellectually speaking. Have opinions on various subjects,
Knowing how to express oneself and having good conversation are just a few examples that demonstrate what they are interested in.

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 In their opinion, superficiality is definitely not in fashion. The vast majority believe that having
Someone with whom you can exchange and learn is essential for a relationship to work.
I couldn't help but mention the last placed in the survey so that you take care.
Clingy, insecure, and jealous women are the ones who have no chance with today's men.
Therefore, if you fit one of these profiles, make sure to review your concepts so you can fight on.
the right weapons. Good luck!

23. No one likes to be interrupted

It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, no one likes to be interrupted. Let him speak without
to be interrupted, without you offering your opinion and without you giving advice that was not
requested (something that we women love to do).
For this, education and common sense are necessary. Education, so as not to interrupt him when he is
speaking; and common sense, to understand that in order not to be interrupted it is necessary that we do not
let's interrupt.

24. Pay close attention to his eyes

Salespeople have been using this technique for years! Ask him a question and see which direction they go.
his eyes as he thinks about your question.
The 'visual' man will look up or up and then to the side. If he is 'visual', you
you can win him over using the 'visual' language. For example, if you want to convince him to a
romantic getaway, you should describe the appearance of the sunset, or the colors of the ocean, or even
even how your tanned body looks beautiful when you are in a bikini.
The 'auditory' man will look to the side (towards his ear). In this case, you have to
describe the sound of the waves crashing on the sand, the sigh of the wind as it passes through your hair.
The 'sensitive' man will look down. Describe how the situation will make him feel. Relaxed,
sensual, relaxed and excited.
Armed with this knowledge, you will know how to interact with it on a level at which it feels more
Satisfied. That, of course, will make you more attractive to him.

25. Don't be fake

Do not try to be someone you are not. If you do, you will have to maintain the character forever.
This would be too laborious! If you followed the previous tip, you could use this to improve the
herself.
For example, if he says that what he admires most about his mother is her strength, you can show him
your strong side. If he says he admires her compassion, show yours. If he says he doesn't like
Given how fast she drives, drive a little slower. Did you understand the reasoning?

26. Ask him questions

Men love to talk about themselves. However, if you let him talk too much about himself,
he will come out of the conversation in love with himself and not with you.
Ask questions he can ask back to you when he finishes answering. Questions
como: “Qual é o seu filme favorito?”; “Qual é a banda que você mais gosta?”; ou uma outra do
gender. Remember to ask questions that have a positive theme or evoke memories
Hello. Here are some examples that you can use:
• "What is your favorite childhood memory?"
• What is your favorite dessert?
• In which city in the world would you like to live?
• If you could choose one thing to do in the world and knew you wouldn't fail, what would you
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• What was the best thing that ever happened to you?
• "What were your best vacations?"
• What is the most relaxing sound in the world for you?
When a person feels attracted to another, it may have nothing to do with who the other person is.
It may have to do with the experiences, sensations, and positive situations associated with that person. So,
ask questions that evoke positive feelings, and take you to places that bring memories
positive (a walk on the beach, a special restaurant, etc).
Remember, also, that by asking questions with 'positive feelings', you will be helping him to
associate these feelings with you.

Important: Men like to think a little before answering a question. Be

Be patient and allow him to focus on his question and his answer before you start speaking.

27. Subtly imitate his movements

Act as if you were a mirror of him. Pay close attention to him, try to catch the movements and the
his actions and try to imitate him as best as possible - without being too obvious or disrespectful!
Subtlety is the key word. We have all heard about the effectiveness of the mirroring technique. And it is
Truth. Mirroring someone is the best way to subconsciously flatter! If you mirror the
his movements, he will feel more comfortable and calm around you, simply because everything
the world feels more comfortable around people similar to themselves.
I discovered, through my husband, that we do this subconsciously. I believe that this way of
mirroring happens naturally in a close relationship because couples are 'tuned in'.
each other. If you go to a nightclub or a restaurant and pay attention to other people,
you will see that many couples unconsciously mirror each other. They tend to stay
similarities, having the same actions, dressing in a similar way, and having the same posture. This
naturally occurs between couples who have strong communication and a comfortable connection with
your partners. Ah, how beautiful love is!

28. Want to drive a man crazy to win him over?

It's all very simple. Just tell him that you "are not dating" and that you are a "happy single."
I accidentally discovered this some time ago. I was going through a period in my life
in which I didn't want to date or get involved with any man. I wanted to take some time.
alone, without being in a relationship. So I made a pact with myself, I would not...
involve with no man for a year. To do this, I limited myself to one or two
weeks of casual involvement and then I would send the guy to 'hang out' (obviously I didn't use this)
term) before I started to get more seriously involved. I was honest with them from the
first date. I wasn't playing 'games'! I was simply saying: 'I don't date.'
Wow!! That drove them crazy!
If you tell a man that you don't even go on 'dates' - let alone date - and that you like
being single and not having a man in your life drives them crazy to convince you of that
opposite. It is similar to the situation of the guy who is gay and women try to get with him.
any way to try to "recover" him, so to speak.
Men love challenges, and challenging women is the best one for them. And what sounds more
It's challenging for a woman to say right away that she doesn't want a man in her life right now. This
It must be the reason why the rule of 'playing hard to get' works. Men love a challenge.
They need to work to earn your love. But pay attention, if the challenge becomes too
It can be difficult for him to give up. It's good, from time to time, to let him achieve something so that he doesn't...
I am tired of the fight.

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The secret strategies of men

Men use various tricks to get to know a woman better. Therefore, if you just met a
A seemingly interesting man, stay alert! He may conduct some tests to see if it's worth investing or not.
in something more serious.
Below you have 8 of these tests described and explained. Study them to be able to pass with a good grade.
maximum, should the test be applied to you.
The tug of war. If during or after dinner you feel cold, he will obviously take off the jacket or
the jacket and will place it over your shoulders. Do you think that's polite? It may be, but in
In reality, he is laying the groundwork. In these situations, this is a great excuse to hug you.
Furthermore, because of the kindness shown, you will obviously be 'liking him more'; this
not to mention the fact that you are already wearing one of his clothes – this could be the first
step for you to take yours.
The crossword. At some point, he will include in the conversation terms and words from the universe.
male. He will do this to test how familiar you are with this universe. If you do not
to know, not to find it funny or not knowing how to react, I am very sorry. The sense of humor is something
fundamental. Try to know at least enough not to look like a fool when he
Go out with a witty remark like: "Wow, this movie is slower than Fluminense's defense."
The lottery. As we know, "those who don’t take risks..." By the second or third meeting, he will test.
your tuning with erotic vibrations. As if he doesn't want anything, he may do something.
comment about the couple at the next table just to see your reaction. If you respond and do a
another comment in the same tone, he will know that you are interested in him. However, if you change from
subject or not mattering, you can be sure it was the last dinner you two had -
From then on, the most you will get from him is a dessert or a ride home.
The test of patience. In this case, there are two variations for the same test. In the first, he opens the
car door for you and waits for your attitude after getting in: sits like a princess or if
Do you unlock the door for him? If your answer was the first, that is a bad sign. He will
to interpret that you are selfish and, in a way, are concerned about your own well-being and not about others'
You two. The second test measures the car's radio. It will let you control it.
to analyze it: if you keep switching to find a song that pleases both, great; if you already do you
it forces you to listen to something that only you like, this may be demonstrating something that you might come to
to become in the future: the dominant one, the one who decides everything. And this is definitely something that he
does not want.
Hide and seek. This test consists of the following: he agrees to pick you up at home at 8.
at night. However, when it strikes 7:30, he rings the bell. Do you know why? He wants to see you.
clean slate, before producing. If you get lost, not knowing what to do, this can be a bad
signal. But if you relax and get into the game, he will like it. Offer him something to drink, put a
music and ask him to wait a little while that you will get ready for him. This last reaction
Show that you cope well with unexpected situations, something that counts in your favor.
The treasure hunter. It's very simple. He will show enormous and false interest in something that
clearly men are not interested. For instance, if he tells you he loved your earrings
and starting a conversation in that sense, he will be testing you. Do you know how? If you say that they are
of gold, made to order, and start talking about the others that you have, he will be able to start
thinking that you are getting into a mess. You will be giving all the signs that you are materialistic and
futile. Now if you come out with an answer like: 'Did you like it? I got lucky, I bought it on sale,'
and quickly change the subject. This will show him that you are a conscious person and that you have your feet on the ground.
floor.
The billiard table. The situation is as follows: you are in a restaurant and the bill arrives. The test consists of
leave the 'painful' on the table for a few minutes to see if you take any action. If
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 signal. However, if you show that you will take the bill, he will anticipate and offer to
pay her – making it very clear that he never thought of making her spend a dime. He will be
testing whether you see him only as a supplier or as a possible partner.
Oh bingo. This is the decisive test. He calls you and leaves a message in your voicemail: 'Hi, me
I had a lot of fun on our date. Call me. A kiss.” In this case, “less” is “more.” The less...
He seems interested in the message, but he wants to meet you again. This kind of
The message serves only to encourage you to be more engaging at the next meeting, since you
will be under the impression that he wasn't very impressed in the previous one. But don't worry, they
They only do this because they are afraid of being treated like little puppies when they show that they are already.
"of four" by us.

29. Don't talk about unpleasant subjects.

Don't start a conversation about that scoundrel ex-boyfriend of yours, or your malicious ex-husband, or your
dear 96-year-old aunt who sleeps on your sofa. You will have enough time later to introduce
to those less pleasant parts of your life.

Things that break the mood

Below you have four conversation starters in the opinion of some men. Sometimes we do or say something that can
cause an adverse reaction in our partner. Pay attention and see if you are perhaps not hindering the
performance of your partner without realizing it.
• You don't say what you want. Men are beings who often sin due to a lack of coordination in
more than one activity. Understand that when he is close to orgasm he will not be able to do many.
tasks at the same time. So don't expect him to guess what and how you want. Talk to him,
Serve as a coordinator and you will achieve exactly what you want and in the way you desire.
• Photos of the father or the mother. Try to put yourself in their shoes. The atmosphere is heating up, you two are naked,
getting ready for 'that' obscene position and, suddenly, he comes face to face with a photo of his father looking
for him on the nightstand. I don't need to say anything more, right? This is the real bucket of water
cold.
• A silence out of nowhere. Keep in mind that if you suddenly stop moaning, he
you may think that you are not pleasing, that you are not enjoying it, etc. He is overthinking at the moment 'H'
it's definitely something you don't want. So let him know that things are going well. If not
if they are, you can try, in a sly way, to give suggestions for the temperature to rise for
you too.
• A very loud noise. He requires a lot of concentration to have good sexual performance.
Just like a very loud noise, anything else that disturbs you during your intimacy.
two is not welcome

30. Pass the first date test – do not have sex

It's true that many men try to take you to bed on the first date because they are
trying to test her and see what kinds of concept, morals, and self-esteem you have. It's a test, just one
test. Do not fail!
Understand a simple rule: if a man tries to go to bed with you on the first date, 'he
doesn't like you”! He is just testing you (he thinks so, if you go to bed with him
On the first date, you obviously go to bed with anyone). If more women did
of sex something harder to achieve, then perhaps more men would stay around instead of
sneak out immediately after getting what they want.
If you refuse to have sex and he leaves you afterwards - believe it - he only wanted sex and
you spared yourself from emotional pain and a massacre to your ego. This type of man wants only
fun for one night - and that's what you'll be if you go to bed with him. Real men
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When a man is really interested in you, the last thing he will do is try to take you.
you to bed on the first date. He wants to respect you. He wants you as a future
companion for life. He wants to think that you would be a good mother for his children.
It's as simple as that... don't go to bed with just anyone who shows up! Respect your body - it is the
your sacred temple where only a noble man who respects and loves it should have access. To have sex
with him, just him, it is a true gift that you can give to your man, he will feel
special and will know how to value that. You share everything about yourself with everyone around you. You
import and love your family and your friends. You help those who need you. You
worries about others. However, giving his body entirely to him during sex is something that is
exclusively give it.
Be sexually responsible and never give yourself to just anyone. Most men classify
women into two types: those to be taken seriously; and those to have fun with
while one is not found to take seriously. Which of the two do you want to be?

31. Be his friend

Be his best friend! Be open, welcoming, and inviting. Always in an attractive way. For
To do this, it is necessary that you have a truly genuine interest in getting to know him – and not just
to have it as your property.
By demonstrating unconditional love and genuine interest in him – or in anyone else – you
it awakens a sense of security, as if it were a safe harbor. A safe harbor is a place
where you can be without feeling threatened by anything. If you represent this place, then the
others see her as someone trustworthy and attentive. So they will want to be her friends! Make the
next test: try to evoke (in anyone you meet) a feeling of love
unconditional and true interest going from you to them. It's very simple to do. Try it.
to evoke those feelings, it is necessary that you really feel them. You can simply
to transmit these feelings instantly to them in a non-verbal way just by feeling
this inside you. You are, in reality, accepting them for what they are and anticipating the
time to get to know them better. You immediately sought to be a true friend... even
with them still being strangers to you.
Many people have told me that they are envious of me because I have many friends.
the truth is that I offer them unconditional love (I accept who they are) and I am interested in
to truly know them. I listen to what they have to say, and I never betray their trust. A friend.
true is kind, understanding, attentive and does not judge. True friends offer
comfort and solace, and make us feel that we are never alone – no matter the size of
our mistake!
Offer your partner this same unconditional love and genuine interest. Be the best
his friend. Be that special person to whom he shares his deepest sorrows without fear of
that you tell this to someone. Be their safe harbor.

Look at his face

Don't just look into his eyes, but also at his jawline, his masculine brow, his
sensual mouth, your nose, your chin, etc. Don't do it too much and not in an obvious way. Be subtle.
Look at your jaw and then look back into your eyes. After a long eye contact, look at the
his mouth. Look very slowly, but don't just stand there staring like an idiot! A few
Sweet seconds are enough. They say you can tell when someone is falling in love.
for you the moment when the person starts to look not only into your eyes, but also at
other parts of your face, your hands, your fingers and other parts of your body.
Unconsciously, we feel this message of love and admiration when someone looks at us.
This way. It is hard not to feel attracted to someone who makes us feel attractive and
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 valued. When I was falling in love with my partner, I was always looking at the
his physical features. They were so rare! I still do the same thing, I love the shape of his face and the color
of skin he has. I love his mouth... and his eyebrows beg for kisses. This is love. Love-
or in whole, and also each part individually.

Female seduction
The first thing that men are attracted to is the femininity of the woman. Be at peace with
your condition as a woman and watch him excel to be your man. How are your mannerisms and
feminine adornments? Are you elegant? How's your 'woman's charm'? How is your voice?
Do you love being a woman? If you didn't answer 'of course' to this last one, then you need to work on it.
a little more of your qualities.
A masculine man is attracted to a feminine woman. The more feminine you are, the more you...
It will make you feel like a man. Understood? Your femininity always works in your favor.

Flirt
Nothing makes you feel more attractive than someone flirting with you. When flirting with a man
you will be instantly raising your self-esteem, and that will make him see you
someone he enjoys being around. He will want to be close to you because you make him
to feel attractive and desired – and that makes you feel good about yourself!
Essentially, you will be making him feel good when he is by your side. In the early stages
In love, we fall more for how the person makes us feel, only afterwards do we...
we fall in love with who they are.
It is important to repeat: Make someone feel good about themselves, make them feel attractive, desired and
He will have no other option but to fall in love with you. This is the secret.

35. Develop your charisma and enchant him

Men cannot resist the charm of a woman. By being courteous and delicate, truly
attentive and a good listener, you can easily charm others. Charm is simply the
the art of letting another person know that you feel good near them without expecting anything in return.
Here are some true ways to show charm:
• Always look into his eyes when you are talking;
• Praise him. Sincere compliments are charming – however, false compliments can be considered an action of
manipulation. Your charm will be powerful if you are sincere;
• Be pleasant. Charm should be done in a light and cordial manner;
• Be generous. Use your charm for the simple reason of making another person feel good.
Wrap him with your charm and, when you are apart, he will certainly think of you.
The way you look, the way you laugh, the way you feel, your scent – all of this will strengthen the
his connection with you.
We usually associate charm and charisma with great leaders. They are self-confident and secure.
They make people feel special just because they seem to listen and hear them.
needs. They are active and energetic, yet they give the impression of being understanding.
This is true charm and charisma.

The tricks of a true mistress

Learn one thing: in the right dose, jealousy, anxiety, and a little bit of wickedness help in the unfolding of your story.
Love. But don’t worry, the tips I will present later are within the rules of conquest.
Just like men, women also have the right to engage in games. Our games, at
meanwhile, they aim to keep the romance alive. Below you will find five suggestions for
games to engage his imagination.
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Do not always be available. Do not give up your things to satisfy schedules and the
his wishes. Show that it is not always him who makes the decisions. Try to find a balance and
know how to measure things. Show that he is not the center of the universe. The best thing you have to do is

each one continues with their own commitments and enjoys their individuality, so that in
The time you have together, really give yourselves to each other.
- Make him feel insecure. Make him jealous, but don't exaggerate – don't let him think that it was or is
being betrayed. This will awaken his competitiveness with other men and will make him not
Forget about yourself. This kind of behavior will reinforce in his mind that you are a rare gem and
she deserves to be treated as such. Not to mention that it is already in his nature to want to protect her and 'save her'
of other men.
Incite his imagination. Don't go telling him your whole life story on the first date.
you. This may scare you, and you may run the risk of having your charm broken because of the
loose tongue. Whenever you tell something, leave gaps to be filled in, this will make him curious. This
curiosity and this interest about you will make it so that, later on, when you reveal something personal
he feels worthy of your trust.
Do not show anxiety. No matter how strong your desire is to see him or hear the sound of his voice,
do not return his emails or calls on the same day. With that, this anxiety that you are feeling
feeling will be awakened in him. Besides showing that you have more to do than just stay
waiting for him. This type of attitude puts you in the position of 'hunter', and no longer 'prey'.
This also has the benefit of testing if he is really willing to have something more serious with.
you.
- Say no to sex. Resist the temptation. Give hints that you are interested so he doesn't think you aren't.
I felt attracted to him. This way you can win him over in other ways and, when the time comes,
soon, your intimacy will be greater - which will make sex much better. Not to mention that this
It will show him that you value yourself and won't go to bed with just anyone.

36. Be his, but do not let him be sure of that.

Men need to "work hard" to win their love. They need to feel the effort to
they can later appreciate the reward they obtained. Some romantic tensions keep the
a vibrant relationship. A display of jealousy or a little argument now and then doesn't make
bad in a relationship, quite the opposite, this kind of thing keeps us attentive in the
relationship. A little bit of uncertainty keeps men stimulated and interested.
Never think that your partner and your relationship are guaranteed, and do not let
that he thinks that about you.

37. Do not try to change it, nor improve it

Don't insist on the mistake that many women make, falling in love with his 'potential.' He is the
what is it. If he is not what you desire in a man, then let him go and move on – don't try
make him something he is not!
Women tend to fall in love with a man's "potential" and not see the man as he is.
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that they try to 'change them'. Although we know that it is in our nature to make things as
perfectly possible, the fact is that your man is not "perfect" – just like you are not either!
Accept him as he is and he will do everything for you; try to change him and you will be conveying the following
message - what you are is not acceptable.

Remember: "A man falls in love with a woman hoping she won't change; and a woman
fall in love with a man hoping that he will change.

38. Know when to keep your mouth shut

Men want a woman they can trust. Successful relationships are
based on trust, frankness, and honesty. Never tell anyone something that your partner
I have only confided in you. Men already have enough difficulty expressing their emotions,
feelings, fears, and worries. If you betray him, just once, it will be enough for him to never
but to open up with you.
Listen to him with compassion and complicity, but do not try to 'fix' or 'advise' in any way.
whatever the situation may be – unless he asks for your opinion. Keep this a confidential matter and
become the shoulder he needs to lean on. This way, you will allow him to see in
you someone he trusts, someone he feels safe to turn to when he needs. Men
they appreciate a woman who has the ability to listen and understand without offering a judgment or
an exit.
Naturally, men do not want to be with someone who brings them down, embarrasses them or
make fools of them - especially in front of other people. They are, admittedly, proud and
sensitive to criticism. Men today, just like those from all eras, face enormous pressures.
to be successful. They feel compelled to compete with any other man who is around
close. They must have more success; risk their lives in wars; know everything about mechanics,
plumbing and electrical systems. They also need to protect and support. They should not demonstrate
your emotions. Is this really a fair responsibility to give to one gender? Can you do it?
imagine how you would feel if you had to do all this to be a 'man'?
Next to his partner is the only place where he truly feels safe and seeks.
comfort. Therefore, be there whenever he needs it. Often, words are not even necessary,
just your presence will be enough for him to regain his strength.

39. Put a smile on his lips

Show up naked with an ice-cold beer! Just kidding. If you put a smile on your lips
Then, you will know that you have won his heart. Just like us, men work hard and
they face daily stress - they need, more than anything else, a woman who
put a smile on their faces when things are not going very well.
So, enhance your sense of humor and you will be making use of one of the most powerful arrows of
Cupid. If you can make your man happy, he won't be able to stay away from you - that
due to all the pleasant feelings and sensations he experiences while enjoying his
company.

Attitudes are contagious. Is it worth being close to you?

40. Do not make demands or ultimatums

You will probably get what you want if you don't make demands on him. Don't be selfish to the point
of not being able to see his side. Men already have to deal with daily pressures and don’t need that
You aggravate this by giving them ultimatums.

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If you think you have been in a relationship long enough and the time has passed in which this relationship
should have progressed, then an ultimatum is necessary - but only if you are willing to
sustain him! If you have been with someone for years and your biological clock is warning (something that the
men don't understand why they don't have it), so explain to him, in a calm manner, that you want
to know where the relationship is heading. Tell him that you want to get married and have
a family.
If, after this, he is still undecided about what to do, then make the decision for him – end the
relationship. After all, you are at an age where you can still have children and,
definitely, you will not get younger as time goes by.

Stay close to the mainland

If you followed one of the previous tips and became an island, make sure you are
next to the continent.
If you have unresolved issues within yourself, then resolve them before getting involved.
with anyone else. Never bring unresolved issues into a new relationship.
Don't put them in a bag and carry them everywhere you go. Don't use a huge bandage.
and do not judge every man you meet based on a bad experience you had with
your past.
Use common sense. Who wants to be with a woman who doesn't know how to look both ways?
Street before crossing; or do you blame men for everything that goes wrong in your life? Don't be fickle.
Moreover; reflect on your actions and know how to separate things well.

42. Do not tell a man what he can and cannot do

Men need your trust and have the need to be who they really are. If he
wanted to go out with some friends at night, accept the fact that you trust him (after all, if you don't)
trust, there is no reason to be with him) and that he needs to be in touch with his male friends.
Believe what I'm going to say: a understanding and confident woman waiting for her man at home
(or with your friends) will make this man leave his friends much sooner than he would.
if I were to find at home a woman with a rolling pin and her eyes full of anger.

A man only knows how to be a man.

43. Update yourself
I read on a website aimed at men (I believe it is the same page that
sells a manual on how to 'pick up' women using tricks and mistreatment that they prefer
“stupid women,” because an intelligent woman can become demanding and unstable.
Well, my personal opinion is that some "insecure" men may really prefer a woman.
less intelligent than they think I am 'beneath' them to boost their ego. I believe that this
the same type of man likes big cars to compensate for his insecurity.
However, I asked this question to men of all ages, from 15 to 50 years old, and they answered
consistently preferred intelligent women. So, women, unless you are
Dating an insecure idiot, you are not allowed to act dumb. So you can rest easy.
because we can reveal these brilliant minds of ours that have been oppressed for years!
But what if I’m not naturally intelligent?
Some people have difficulty absorbing or retaining information. Some of them even reach
to "freeze" when they need to learn something. Others feel comfortable being ignorant. Others
they still don't stay quiet enough to learn anything. Some stand out in
analytical complexity and commit terrible failures of common sense. Some people are clever for the
details, but ignore the situation as a whole. Others think that knowledge is hidden

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in books. Some people just have a natural gift of intelligence. Others just get to
conclusions when analyzing the world around them. A few have a constant thirst for knowledge.
It doesn't matter which category you fit into, it is possible to expand your knowledge and your
learning. A simple desire to learn more will put this into practice for you - not
it matters the learning capacity you think you have, or the quota of intelligence that you
think about it. Read newspapers, books, and magazines. However, don't stop reading fiction. I found that a large part
my valuable knowledge came to life through reading fiction. Reading fiction from everyone
the types can make you a wise sensible person from one hour to another.
Another important thing: we, women, possess a very valuable source of intelligence with the
which we were born with (besides our brain). Female intuition. We just know... everything.

Ambition and energy are attractive

When a man sees that you have ambition and energy, he knows that you are not one of those
women who are just waiting for someone to take care of them. What men fear the most when
enter into a relationship? Ending up with a woman who is desperate for attention and
care, as if it were a small child. That is why many men back away at the slightest sign.
of marriage.
Many men already have too many responsibilities and do not need, or want, to add one more.
And what if the marriage doesn't work out? In the case of a divorce, a needy and incompetent ex-wife.
can receive a lot of what they worked hard to earn. The family, the car, the savings and even the
children.
Men have a lot to lose with women who lack ambition and energy.

45. Contest his opinions

Just because he is leftist and supports agrarian reform, that doesn't mean you have to
suppress the fact that you have a right-wing political view and are radically against the reform
agrarian. Did you understand? Men have a hidden need to be "challenged" by the women who
searching.
Just remember, you may be labeled as stubborn and obstinate if you present yourself with one
very solid or determined opinion. Listen to all sides and viewpoints.

Be a kind woman with a heart of gold

Men feel more manly when they are surrounded by a feminine woman who conveys
cordiality and kindness. Men secretly love to be treated with the same compassion,
sincerity, cordiality, and affection that the first woman in his life (his mother) gave to him. In
Meanwhile, most normal men do not want to be treated like a child! Know how to differentiate the line.
tension between a feminine, polite, and caring woman, and a dominant mother figure,
controlling and suffocating.
Remember that men want and need love just as much as you do. It's hard for them
to demonstrate this because they feel a huge fear of failing and being rejected. Only a
a very courageous man opens his heart and risks the pain of exposing himself. Do not forget that the
men have real fears when it comes to relationships. They are afraid of not making you
happy not to be good enough for you, to make mistakes, not being able to support a family or that
you may end up rejecting it.

47. Restrain yourself

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Don't be emotionally volatile. Face the truth, men love women just like the...
women love men. If his eyes linger on the waitress for too long, don’t throw the plate.
Get on top of him and leave. After all, who will he leave with? With you.
Did you at no point look at a handsome man who was in the restaurant? I doubt it. And
when you took a look at this monument while passing by the restaurant, it made you feel
feel less attracted or less in love with your partner? Of course not! It was just a brief
appreciation of one sex by the other. Period. It had nothing to do with your love and your devotion to
your partner. And I am sure you weren't even comparing the two, am I right?
Still, if the man who is with us looks at another woman, we instantly get
we feel compared to her - we think we are not as beautiful, or that he will not feel more
attracted, will stop loving us, etc. Wow! We need to work more on our security!
I have been with men who were so insecure that I felt afraid to look around. I would enter
in restaurants with heads down, looking at the floor - afraid to look around and be
accused of being 'easy' or flirting with all the men in the place.
Let me tell you something, both men and women can't handle that kind of pressure.
a long time. I couldn't take it anymore.

Jealousy consumes a lot of our energy, trust does not.

Try to get along with his friends.

Trust me, if the 'colleagues' don't like you, chances are he will be influenced.
(subconsciously) by the opinion of his peers, no matter how he feels about you. If the
"colleagues" love you, he will love you too... however, if the colleagues think that you are not the
the right woman for him, they will do everything to convince him of that.

Take good care of his family

Treat his family the same way you treat yours, no matter how far you think it is.
they are from the 'continent'. Accept his family unconditionally and the chances are that he
will want to be with you forever. If you treat your family unfairly, speak ill of your sister.
or your brother or belittle other family members, you might as well start packing your bags because
It will just be a matter of time until he puts her in a taxi and sends her away.
When you mistreat a person who is loved by him, you force him to take sides. And your side
it ends up being that of the enemy.

Speak well of him

Give him a compliment in front of his family or friends when he is nearby and can hear it.
Nothing makes a man melt more than hearing his wife praise him to her friends and his.
family.
A tip: do this at a time when he is not around but you are sure that he
I can hear her.
Love us
Isn't it simple enough? Love men. I love, and you? They are great and if you didn't want to
If you had fallen into their graces, you wouldn't be reading this book!
All of us want to love and be loved, but for men, this is hard to admit. Some
men see love as a weakness. They are afraid of not appearing so 'masculine' or
"strong" if they surrender to love. But they admit this desire to love and be loved to only a few people.
beloved. However, they remain cold and indifferent on the outside. Don't be fooled by this exterior
inflexible. Men are nice and sexy (and they smell wonderful too). Ah, men! I
I love you, and you?

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Love your lovely man. Encourage him, comfort him, present challenges to him, make him express those
qualities he never thought he had. After all, being loved is not just about feeling good
with ourselves? To love is to belong to a place in this cold world. A place where we can
feel safe, adored, and special. A place where we can feel good about ourselves and
with our life. It is in that place that love is found.
Men really want women who make them feel adored and venerated. But they
they also want to know that their women can live without them. Men want a woman who
love them for who they are - that is love. They don't want a woman who can't live without them,
or that she needs them for what they give or have to offer her – that is need. Men
we know the difference between a sick need and a true love for someone. Believe in
Wow! He thinks that you consider him wonderful for what he is, a powerful part of the attraction that
he feels for you; he thinks that you consider him wonderful for what he can offer you
will result in a huge loss of interest.

52. Do not make marriage your ultimate goal

Why lose the fun of dating and exploring each other in every way? When you do
In the marriage, your main goal, you subconsciously appear needy and desperate.
Instead, enter each relationship believing that you are just having fun. This will make
so that he feels more comfortable around you, and of course, you will also feel that a lot
pressure was taken off you. In other words, if you act as if you are looking for a
Permanent relationship right off the bat, you might be scaring a potential partner.
Always date and go out with the boys giving the impression that you just want to have fun and enjoy.
pleasant moments - enjoy every moment. This will make him feel more relaxed and
be more receptive and open to yourself - and to loving yourself.

The six secrets of happy couples

Do you know a couple who seem to be made for each other? A couple that seems to live in
tuning in 24 hours a day. You know that relationship you envy - in a good way, of course! Well, in case you didn't know,
this is not a privilege of a few lucky ones. You too can live a relationship like this. All it takes is that
you know some secrets of these couples and start applying them.
The secrets are, in fact, nothing more than simple and everyday attitudes. See below the six
the most important secrets of this type of couple and start applying them in your own
relationship.
1- Cultivate your own rituals. It can be a movie with popcorn on Sunday night; a bath of
bathtub on the weekend; or even a hand-held walk on Sunday morning. These are just
some examples or ideas. The important thing is that this is something just for you.
2- Preserve your independence. Being glued to the person you love is very nice. The problem is
that sometimes, out of feeling this need, we deprive ourselves of some individual pleasures.
For example, you give up your singing class or he stops going to football just because you both think.
that cannot stay away from each other for too long. Know how to organize your time. In this way
you will satisfy yourself and him. Take some time for you to do the things you like and
let him do the same. I assure you that this way, when you are together, you will be
much more devoted to each other.
3- Don't think that everything is guaranteed. Don't fall into that trap. Thinking that everything is very well.
thank you is the first step for you to start neglecting the relationship. Always keep in mind the
the importance of everything you have built and remember that a relationship
durable is cultivated every day.
4- Discuss objectively. Fights are part of any relationship between two people,
be a father and mother, grandfather and son, or husband and wife. However, the discussion for the sake of discussion can be

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 So dance with whoever asks you to dance, after all, it's just a dance and not a
commitment for a lifetime.
The more you are on the dance floor in front of everyone, smiling, the greater the
chances of you being seen by 'that' person you want to notice you. However, pay close attention
Attention: be careful not to overdo it. Don't try to be the center of attention! This can be threatening.
for many men.

Treat him with respect

Give him the respect that a man needs and deserves. A man's life is often hard and the
women need to show much more respect for the roles they have to fulfill. Women
they need to recognize men more for what is expected of them in life, and care less about
where do they think a man can take them.
Men were not made to work for you; to support you; to take care of you; to
to feed you; to make you happy; and to protect you from the world. You need to become a woman who
collaborate more and don't act so much like a defenseless child. You need to want the company more
take it rather than wanting him to be "your savior". If you feel you need to be "saved" or "rescued",
schedule an appointment with a professional therapist.

22. Instantly discover what he is looking for in a woman

It's very easy to do this without him noticing. How? It's all very simple. You can almost say
that instantly and accurately what a man looks for in a woman (even if he
don't know) and what characteristics do not please him, simply asking him what characteristics
of his mother he admires and which he hates.
This is the simplest, fastest, and most accurate way to discover what attracts and what repels a man with
who you are. I did this with my husband and I was relieved when I found out that the qualities that
he admired in his mother are the same that I possess. This made things easier for me - I
I could be myself!

The 5 preferred qualities of men

• Be smart. Surprisingly, men are changing. According to the research, nearly 70%

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57. Get rid of the 'crickets' with your body
Be proud of your own body! Don't hide it when you are both alone. Let the
lights on, do a little strip tease while undressing. Get dressed in front of him in the morning. Listen to the
What do I say when you are the only naked woman in his bed, your body is the most beautiful and perfect of
everyone for him. Get rid of your 'crickets'. When you compare yourself to the women of
magazine posters of men, you will almost always lose in comparison. But if you look at your
really, look around you at real women – you'll see that it's not so bad
how much do you think.

Leave the 'crickets' aside! When you have a confident air, you become the most woman
attractive in the world. How do you expect a man to see your beauty if you yourself do not
Does it? Stop competing with magazine models and be the most beautiful woman you can be.

58. Do not give up on yourself

Develop the ability to feel comfortable with who you are. Have the courage to be yourself.
same – not a copy of Maria, Juliana, or Fernanda. Much less try to be someone
what he wants you to be. Do not behave as he wants you to behave. Do not give up on
your lifestyle and not your friends'. Find your own friends, not the 'friends
that he lets you leave." Don't give up on yourself. Think and verbalize your own opinions,
Wear the clothes you like and live your lifestyle. Don't neglect your life, your freedom.
your uniqueness, your friends, your dog, your work, and other things only because he asked.
If a man expects you to give up these things, he makes you feel embarrassed because
be it for you being independent, so be careful because this man can be a repressor and these
these are just the first signs of a hazy future within a relationship where you will be
suppressed. This man does not trust you. Period. And a man who does not trust you cannot
enjoy your trust.

Stop complaining
Secretly, women bother men to do things just because they want.
that they take control. They want men to act of their own accord and not because
they said
It's true, in the early stages of the relationship, the man – or the hunter, if you prefer – takes on the
relationship control. But once you have reached the stage of 'couple', the
a man stops hunting and begins to do fewer things, or practically nothing. He starts to leave the
woman does all the work. Let's admit it, most men lack the initiative to
direct a relationship. So, although we are not happy with our new role, we
we feel forced to take it on. And then what happens? We start doing something that everyone
we act and we say we are innocent - we complain. "Throw the trash away", "fix the sink of
"kitchen", "mow the lawn this weekend", etc.
They say we complain and we say they are lazy and selfish. But you can
control a man simply by massaging his ego and valuing what he does – it doesn't matter if what
he does very little. For example, instead of saying: “why do you never take out the trash without me
Do we really need to ask?"; say enthusiastically: "we really need to throw this trash away" (would help
a lot if you said that naked!). So, if he takes out the trash, thank him and show him how much
you are grateful with a nice kiss. Overnight you will have clean trash cans and the
cut grass in the blink of an eye! When men get tired of complaints they take their
horses for more colorful gardens - if you understand what I mean.

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60. Do not underestimate a man's emotional capabilities
Men are not as loquacious as women, but believe me, just like us they
they are also capable of feeling intense emotions. Deep down, every man has a 'woman'
fantasy, a seductive excitement that will take you to places you have never been. A woman fantasy
that will never betray or reject you, and with which your heart will feel safe.
You can be that woman if you give him the opportunity to be a sensitive and emotional person,
capable of intense needs and desires; do not abuse your emotions; do not play with your
feelings; or use your fears to have control over him. Allow him to feel safe when
to feel, or he will start to feel vulnerable, exposed, threatened and will eventually block
all your feelings about yourself. It may also happen that he buries so
deeply your feelings that only another woman will be able to help you bring them back.

61. Do not insult or reprimand him in public

Never! As women, we sometimes think that if we can't get a man to do the...
what we want through complaints, then we must reprimand him, devalue him, downgrade him or
embarrass him. Our subconscious intention is to destroy his ego in such a way that we have the
total control over him. And, unfortunately, many of us succeed – and then we accuse the poor guy of being
a "slacker" or no longer being "the man I fell in love with." Well, if we hadn't castrated him.
so, we might still have by our side the man we fell in love with.
On the other hand, if he resists our orders and does not yield, then we accuse him of being selfish. Ahh!! For
what do we do this to the best man in the world, the one we love so much? The man for
Why would we do anything? Because it is natural for us to do so.
We, adult women, are merely the end result of all those innocent girls we once were.
one day – girls who were disciplined for bad behavior through humiliation. When
We were taught from a young age that humiliation can be an effective method of control,
we learn to humiliate. And we do this by deprecating, belittling, emasculating or insulting the
the person we love the most. So ladies, keep that sharp tongue and start using kisses instead.
support, affection and gratitude. Try to tell him what a wonderful man he is and then sit down and
see how he will not disappoint you. However, if you keep saying how useless he is,
then he will start to 'feel' useless - at least around him.

62. Don't make jealousy to get attention

If you are feeling rejected or ignored, tell him phrases that start with 'I feel'.
exemplo: “eu sinto que você não se sente mais atraído por mim”; “eu sinto que não sou mais
important to you”; “I feel that our relationship is getting lost in the daily routine”; among
others. Sentences starting with 'I feel' will not make him feel defensive, making it easier to
you try to resolve any situation without them becoming destructive, offensive, or outrageous. The
What would you prefer to hear from your partner: 'I know you have been very busy'
lately, I just wanted to say that I miss you and feel rejected. I miss you very much; or
Are you selfish and only think about yourself?
Think carefully. How would you react to these two statements?
Or what if he, instead of telling you he feels rejected, started flirting in front of you
with a beautiful woman making you jealous to get your attention. This will make you want to spend
more time close to him? I don't think so!

Me, jealous?!

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Answer this questionnaire and see if you are or are not jealous. Write down the answers and then check the result at the end of the
frame.
Answer the following questions with 'yes' or 'no'.
If a woman flirts with your partner in a public place, do you get nervous and argue with them?
he?
Yes or No
2- You argue with your partner when they comment on the physical beauty of some artist or
famous woman?
Yes or No
3- Would you trust your partner if they told you they needed to be away for two weeks for work and
What can't take you?
Yes or No
In your opinion, is it impossible for a man and a woman to just be friends?
Yes or No
5- Do you think a man is incapable of resisting romantic or sexual temptations?
Yes or No
Do you think your partner would leave you if they had the opportunity to get involved with someone else?
more beautiful or more interesting than you?
Yes or No
7- Have you ever followed your partner or caught yourself listening to their phone conversations on the extension?
Yes or No
Do you get worried when your partner tells you that they went out or are going out with work friends?
Yes or No
Check the result.
10 points for each 'yes' answer you had.

0 to 30 points
A small dose of jealousy doesn't hurt anyone. We know that insecurity is one of the factors
that keeps the flame of passion alive. Well dosed, as in your case, jealousy constitutes a
an important ingredient in the relationship, as it shows the other that you care. Care
only with exaggerated reactions.

40 to 60 points
You are already on the verge of excessive jealousy. Your insecurity may be interfering in many ways.
judgments about the facts. Think twice before taking any action and try to distinguish the
what is true and what was created by your mind. Be careful not to make the relationship suffocating
for him!

70 to 80 points
Some jealousy is good, but let's not overdo it. Often, the overly jealous woman exaggerates so much.
in your actions that end up destroying the relationship, which wrongly confirms the fear of
rejection that tormented her so much. If her reactions are extremely aggressive, it would even be interesting to
even seek help. Don't let this insecurity ruin your relationship and condemn you to
loneliness.

Accept him for what he is.

This is the most sincere form of compliment and the key to successful relationships. The simple art
from 'acceptance'. You must accept him as he is. Without acceptance, your relationship is doomed.
to failure.
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 Acceptance does not mean that you have to put up with certain things from him that annoy you, especially because
we all do something that will eventually irritate someone else. Acceptance simply means
that you know his flaws and accept them. Full stop. So, don't place so much importance if he
Forget to take out the trash, after all, he is great with the kids and makes a lasagna.
Wonderful! Don't place so much value on the fact that he watches football every Sunday, after all, he worked hard.
all week and you are feeling great after a night of love.
When you do not accept a man for who he is, you are consciously or unconsciously
trying to change him. By doing this you are telling him that who he is is not good enough. In
the moment he starts to feel this way when he is close to you, he will seek another
place - a place where he feels more at ease, where he feels more accepted, a place where he
feel good enough. He will seek a place where he feels he can be himself. In other
words, there is a lucky woman out there who is eager to get close to your man
wonderful, because she can, and will, accept him and value him for who he is!
I love my partner. I wouldn't want to change him in any way. But if I didn't love him
For what he is, I would at least have the decency to let him find someone who loves him as he is.
He deserves it. Trying to make him something he is not would not be fair to him and even less so to me.

64. Know your goals and be honest with your intentions

Sometimes we start relationships as if we were a perfect woman and end up
something completely different from this (very far from perfection). We ended up becoming something
different from the person he fell in love with. Many married men claim that their wives
they changed as soon as they got married. Do you remember when we discussed earlier that 'one
A man marries hoping that she won't change, and a woman marries hoping that he will.
You can avoid this confrontation if you know your goals, ambitions, and life desires – and if you stay on
look for them.
Do not enter into a relationship with the intention of changing things when the relationship is strong.
Be honest with your intentions and your ambitions for the future. You are looking for a
a man who takes care of you so you can spend the whole day in front of the TV and earn 15
kilos? You're pretending to like football and you plan never to go to a stadium again as soon as he
to start eating in your hand? You know exactly what you want regarding material goods, to
not settling for less and then blaming it for being a failure? For example, you are
prepared to be happy with what you both can achieve together, or you will be disappointed and
Will you blame when you see others with something you would like but cannot have? If you know your
goals from the beginning, you can avoid many painful separations, acts of infidelity, days
unhappy, sleepless nights or future single parents.
Many women have a fairy tale image of what a marriage is. They think 'to put
a ring on my finger," "buy a beautiful house," "have babies," "walk together at sunset" and
"to live happily ever after, safe, next to my protector." It seems like a joke, doesn't it? But
Unfortunately, many women still think this way. It would help a lot if more women had
a clearer picture of the results of some weddings. Below, you have listed three
hypothetical scenarios. Try to imagine them.
a.Many women become financially dependent on their husbands and end up losing their
independence and its self-respect. These women end up feeling weak, useless, and demoralized.
b.Many men are charming and passionate during the dating stage. They leave their women
in love with flowers, compliments, fine restaurants, etc. They treat them in the most delicate way possible,
they are your female goddesses. However, when they manage to 'hook' them, they stop
instantly to do this. These romantic Romeos take on all the responsibility of
relationship in her hands, so that she does all the work, and they turn into useless creatures and
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Many women find that a single income is not enough to support a family; to pay for the house; to pay
the car; pay for the insurance; pay for the placement of devices for Pedrinho; pay for the gym clothes of
Paulinha; putting food on the table; paying for cable TV and covering small daily expenses. The dreams
the idea of living happily ever after (playing house) turns into a tiring nightmare between two
jobs, in addition to taking care of the children, helping them with homework and bath time, preparing their
meals, taking them and picking them up from school, washing tons of clothes, cleaning the house, taking out the trash and much more
but. His expensive and chic robe now turns into a big and old t-shirt. Both the man and
the woman ends up exhausted. Those beautiful people who teased each other throughout the day
everything during the dating period, now they look at each other and grumble that the other can't maintain their weight. He
ends up feeling emasculated and she less feminine.
d.As dating comes to an end and the reality of family takes its role, both parties
they start looking outside the relationship for sources to feel feminine and masculine again.
Betrayals begin and resentment arises. One accuses the other of having been wrong.
This could be avoided if more women and men joined a unit with expectations.
real, a long-term plan and a common goal. Having someone by your side is great, but be
realistic. Marriage is not always a sea of joys. If you have a fairy tale image
Regarding marriage, you need to put your feet back to a real perspective so you don't get
to deceive and not to deceive the other.

Don't underestimate your man

A man wants you to be genuinely interested in what he does and in who he is. He wants
that you are worried, that you support and that you get involved. Let him know that he is funny,
brave, sexy, fantastic and has a lovely little butt. Acknowledge that he has tiring days and
play with it a little bit. Cover it with attention, but without going overboard. If you do that you can do
a new lover feeling suffocated and showing that you are desperate to please.
Respect him, pay attention, stay interested and he will return that to you with much love.

66. Believe in him

It is at this moment that men feel their love the most. Support him with faith and trust in his abilities.
When you believe in a man, he tells himself 'I know I can do it because she thinks
that I can. She has faith in me and I trust her opinions. I feel powerful and
wonderful!

67. Close the ratchet

Don't pretend that I'm not talking about you! Let him speak too, and learn from him.
beauty of silence. At times silence sounds like music. Save the gossip for when
go out with your friends.

How to make it open

At times do you find it difficult to make him talk about things that are not his team, the car, or work?
Do you feel difficulty in talking about something deeper and more intimate with him?
Don't worry. You will start to get what you want with one of the two tips below. Give it a try.
and see which one applies best to your man.
Use a strategy. Asking how he is feeling or if he is okay will, at most,
make you earn a 'Well'. If you really want to know what the problem is, the reason for the
his concern, try a different type of approach. Try to prompt the response right away
formulation of the question. For example, if your husband or boyfriend is an advertising professional and you know that
a certain campaign is keeping him awake at night, bring up the topic like this: 'So,
What will be the focus of the campaign for this new soda? Are you thinking of emphasizing the fact
Will it be different or will it value its similarities with the most well-known sodas?

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 Thus, instead of 'well', you will receive a complete report of the things he has in mind.
This, besides helping you get the crickets out of your head, will also do a lot of good for him.
Just stay quiet. Surprisingly, silence can be the best warning for him.
Therefore, avoid saying 'what was it?' Let him start talking and do not interrupt him with comments.
unnecessary. Allow him to vent first before later participating more actively
From the conversation. The silence makes his unconscious remember to speak.

68. Do not make a man your life

Don't make him your reason for living. Don't expect anything from him to be happy, to feel good about yourself.
same or to feel alive. It's a lot of pressure to put on someone. If you keep following him,
constantly interrupting him at work, calling him all day long and expecting him to bring you the sun.
In the morning, it's just a matter of time before he says 'goodbye' and you jump at his feet and beg.
for him not to leave because he is your life. Horrible!
Commit to yourself. Of all the people in your life, only you – only you –
it will never let you down. So start to get to know yourself better and make your own sun rise by
morning. Develop your individuality and become self-sufficient. Be an island! In short, do not
I became stupidly, or obsessively, attached to any man and don't expect that any
Man, define who you should be. Be the master of your life and your actions.

Lower your standards

Are you still waiting for that wonderful man and always end up being rejected? Maybe it's
It's time for you to forget that absurd idea of how your 'perfect man' should look.
If you ask men with a happy marriage if their wives resemble the image of
the 'perfect match' they had originally painted in their heads, you would be surprised by
what most would answer. 'No!'
Find the heart of a good man and only then will you see how beautiful he is. In fact, he
it's wonderfully beautiful and there are no comparisons. If you stop dreaming of your 'perfect man'
and starting to look for a man who completes or matches your personality, you will be
more likely to find eternal happiness. When two people share personalities
similar, they form deeper commitments and have fewer expectations regarding the
outro.

70. Set boundaries

Love is great, but abuse, excessive jealousy, and disrespect are not a form of love. No.
Do not let a man step on you, nor lack you the due respect. Never tolerate abuse. Do not
don't feel obligated or forced to do something that goes completely against your principles. Don't accept it.
infidelity in a relationship. Do not date a man who does not treat you with the respect that everyone deserves.
good people deserve.
You are great! Be someone who selects and chooses your company, and not someone who begs for it.
a.

71. Do not limit the number of men you are meeting

Unless you are in a more advanced stage of the relationship and have committed in some way.
get to know someone, don't limit yourself to dating just one man. When it is established that
you two are a couple, only then will you stop dating other people. But until that happens,
going out with more than one man allows you:
• less emotional involvement. A lower vulnerability makes it easier to think - and if
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• less emotional attachment. This will help you to be more relaxed.
• to be able to better cope with the pain of rejection, if there is any.
• to have a positive response that helps to raise your self-esteem and your view of yourself.
• to have a better ability to learn from your mistakes without feeling defeated. You start to have
less fear of going out with other people and gains confidence in herself.

72. Don't be an open book

Are your mystique and feminine secrets exquisite? An air of mystery hangs over you and the
do they always come back in the hope of learning more about their 'secrets'?
If you want to fully capture a man's attention, then keep your ears tuned in,
keep your mouth shut and release the minimum amount of information about yourself. An air of mystery can be
highly provocative and attractive to men.

73. Don't relax with your appearance

If you waxed your upper lip when you were trying to win him over, why stop doing that afterwards?
has she become the owner of your heart? After all, you don't want to continue being that beautiful woman
are you confident that you were 'before' having a man by your side?
So why stop being attractive to him now? Why try to look like a Mexican?
Big dude, can you be a beautiful little doll? This also applies to your eyebrows; no
It's neither attractive nor feminine to have two caterpillars on your forehead. Do you agree with me? And your diet and your
Weight? Don't you want to feel good? Not just to become more attractive to him, but also
because living with a fit body is better than living out of shape, relaxed and not very much
healthy. Poor health slowly kills your spirit. So why let your body
define?
Feeling good is your responsibility to yourself, not to your partner. However, the
the repercussion of this is that you will have a man who constantly feels physically attracted to
you, just like he was when you met – or even more.

74. Be comfortable with the opposite sex

Get rid of any "man envy" you have, otherwise you might be undermining the
relationship. Enjoy your condition as a woman, rejoice in your femininity.
I, for example, love being a woman! If you feel wonderful as a woman, it is very likely that
he falls completely in love with you in a very short time. Different studies show that
Femininity is the most attractive trait a woman can have. It surpasses beautiful breasts and silhouette.
stunning, beautiful butt, angelic face and wonderful legs. So relax girls, you don't
You need to be a magazine model to possess what a man finds most attractive in a woman.
woman. You already have that!
Don't forget to allow yourself to enjoy his masculinity too. Men are
Of course! There are many idiots in the world - but there are also women like that, aren't there?
Is it true? Don't blame him for something another man did to you. It's not fair for you to judge.
all men, based on something that some did wrong.

If you want him to be more of a man, try being more of a woman yourself.

75. Do not confuse sex with love

More news. We, women, still do this consistently. As women, we have the
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intimate.
That's why it's always good to wait a while before having sex with someone. If the
If the relationship is true, the sex will be too; but that doesn't necessarily mean that the
the fact that sex is true means that the relationship will also be. Be very careful when it comes to
interpret the two things.

Do not measure your companion

Do not measure a man's worth by the size of his wallet, nor the size of his achievements, and much less -
or especially - the size of his penis. Pay attention and value the size of his heart, the
man he is, if he is responsible, if he has principles, if he is fair. There are numerous qualities in the
people in general that, many times, our own superficiality prevents us from seeing. Use the
your sensitivity, the bigger the heart, the better your life will be alongside it.

77. Lose the doll image

Many of us still believe that beauty – beauty alone – is enough to attract a
man and keep him happy. Well, that kind of woman still has a lot to learn!
Men are no longer satisfied with something so superficial. And we must acknowledge that not all
that have a perfect little face right above a beautiful body! But let's be honest and admit
that when we meet someone we cannot know what type of personality they have – so
Initially, we are attracted by your appearance. This is our dilemma. In a world where men
they are - putting it clearly - visual creatures, how can a woman be a '4' or '5'?
compete with a '10'? Don't think for a second that this is impossible! I've seen it.
to happen in person several times.
For example, I have a friend named Daniela who is also a member of the club I attend.
Daniela is a beautiful woman. Other women envy her. And it is also true that the
men look at her a lot - at least the 5 seconds of appreciation. Daniela is a natural blonde and
she has the perfect combination, an angelic face and a perfect body. She stays in shape, takes care
of the hair and is always very well groomed. She is what many men would call a work of art.
art. And, as I said before, men really look at her for a few seconds, but soon
then they look away, take a glance around the rest of the environment and move closer to a
another friend of mine, Ana, and not Daniela. Ana is ten or fifteen kilograms heavier than the
Daniela doesn't wear makeup and her hair looks like it has constantly come out of a hurricane. So
Why do they approach Ana and not Daniela? Because Daniela seems unreachable and ostentatious.
a superiority air with which she ignores everyone around her – not to mention that she seems
someone whose 'maintenance' has a very high cost. All of this makes her not a very
nice and, consequently, not very attractive to the men who see her.
As for Ana, my God! She is an independent and successful woman, always with a smile.
beautiful on the face, talking to people and walking with grace and dignity with her body
overweight. In reality, she doesn't even realize that she is overweight! She dances, is happy and is
confident. She is at peace with who she is and satisfied with her life, which is why she attracts men as if
she could be a magnet. Ana shines as if she were a diamond or a star. She even has a phrase that says:
I have everything that is mine organized, I love my life and I love who I am. Believe me, this is not
lie. Every week I watch Daniela leave alone while Ana has the pleasure of having
some men drooling over her.
You can be just like Ana! If your appearance is not your strong point, what would make you...
a woman that men would look at twice?
• Pay attention to everyone in a group, make everyone feel comfortable, talk to people.
different ones using smooth and free movements – this conveys a confident energy.
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• Smile and seem approachable - seem to be an open person and a pleasant company.
• The cadence in your walk shows a sense of humor, a funny personality, and youthfulness.
• Good posture – it shows class and an independent, self-sufficient personality. And not someone
desperate and needy.
• A playful wink – shows a spontaneous personality (a very sexy quality).
• Head held high - demonstrates a high self-awareness and self-esteem.
• The way you shine – a positive and passionate attitude.
• The grace in your walk attests to your femininity.
• You don't have to be the center of attention - it shows virtue, class, and style. You know what it is and what it is not.
needs self-affirmation.
• The amazing way you behave – shows that you care about yourself and love yourself
(this is called self-respect).
• Your unique style and refined individualism set you apart from the rest.
Remember that a man is not as superficial as women's magazines and books make you think.
create. Give them more credit! He wants much more from a woman than someone who is expensive, whether
an idiot and have as your only talent tossing your hair from one side to the other. Show who you are by
inside, in the long run it is much more fabulous (and much more lasting too) than an appearance
perfect.
Remember the secret: 'The question is not so much you, but how you make him feel when you'
is close to you.” If you make him feel special, he will see you as a beautiful woman – trust in
mim!

78. Be independent
To attract a man, you need to live a balanced life, have your own interests and not
depend on him to have a reason to live. You need to have a sense of responsibility and
demonstrate the ability to deal with adversities. If you are not financially independent,
you will seem desperate to find a partner who "takes care of you." I assure you that this
Desperation to find a man and get married will drive most of them away in the blink of an eye.
Notice, I am not saying that you don't need a partner who loves you and with whom you
divide your life – after all, that's why you're reading this book! I am trying to show that
as long as you have joy in your independence and accept being single, men will feel it
despair in you when trying to establish some kind of relationship. And many men distance themselves because of
because of this. They have a keen alert to detect needy and desperate women. Don't let
that your anxiety harms you when it comes to finding the man of your life.

79. Love spacious men

Give your partner space and freedom to pursue their dreams, goals, interests and
hobbies. It may come as a surprise to some women, but men have interests that do not
be your women. Trust him and you will not be disappointed.
What we often do not realize is that men have a broader view of life.
they are life, career, sports, success, fishing, friends, newspapers, music, the universe,
the collections, how to do certain things, the challenges, the worries, and only then the woman!
However, for the woman, the most important thing is the man, the house, the children, the garden, etc. She is
much more centered on a core that is yours, and does not feel good when it does not share that along with
she.
Understand this about men so you won't feel insecure when you are not the number 1 item on
your list of priorities for the day. It is not neglect or a lack of love, it is simply their minds.
that works in a different way. This does not mean under any circumstances that they
love less.
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 80. Don't be a volcano
The two things that men complain about the most regarding women are "crying for no reason" and
Act with suspicion. Wake up! No one wants to be questioned and interrogated by the woman who says
love and trust him.
Control your emotions and your fears. Don’t act like a defenseless child, he is not your father.
A real man wants an adult lover, a friend, and an emotionally stable partner.
So, control yourself! Men are attracted to calm and centered women, not volcanoes.
that are about to explode. The man appreciates this quality in a woman because it is what keeps him
with your feet on the ground. He needs you, your femininity, and your intuition to feel supported and
sure. You are his safe haven, if you show instability he will not feel confident to do so
approximate.

Maybe you should bite your tongue

Constant discussions and friction are guaranteed ways to take your partner to places
but calmer. They hate to argue and anger drives most of them away.
If something is bothering you to the point that you feel the need to discuss or fight, calm down.
If you try to have a conversation. It will surely be the best option for both parties.
Avoid heated and resentful discussions. Try to solve problems as they arise.
appearing to prevent them from piling up and ending up turning into a discussion
inevitable.

82. Be his partner

Men really look for women who share similar interests with them. Gymnastics,
volleyball, swimming, cinema, music, antiques, art, books, etc. They are looking for someone to share with.
these interests.
Try to find out, ask, discover what common interests you have and enjoy them. When the
interests are different he will obviously seek out a friend to share this. But
there is no doubt that if you show a true interest he will not think twice and
He will make his partnership with you.

Be surprising in bed
Once the relationship is established and you reach a more intimate stage, maintain the
the fire of your man lit by you. And nothing keeps a man warmer than a woman
with a vast sexual skill and who is crazy about him. Here are some suggestions.
• Be receptive and open to trying new things.
• Be proud of your body, don't hide under the sheets and don't insist on turning off the light.
• Sleep naked.
• Flirt with him outside the room.
• Let's take a shower together.
• Be spontaneous. Nothing is more monotonous than having sex at a set date and time.
• Touch him. Men like to be touched just as much as we do.
• Leave him in doubt - make love gently and softly one night and adopt a different style the next.
wild. I assure you he will love not knowing what to expect from you.
• Make him feel like the most desired and loved man in the world by telling him that. After all, he
, right? Let him know he's hot! Tell him his nipples are hard as stone and that
you are all wet with desire for him. The man feels more excited when the woman says the
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to hear that the nature of man is to pursue the woman who we eventually think they don’t need
to feel sexually desired or pursued.
• Touch him with ulterior motives outside the room.
• Take the initiative too - no one likes to have to take the initiative all the time. If you
let him do it only, he will think that you do not want him.
• Never reject him. If you need to refuse to have sex, reaffirm that it is not his fault or yours.
sexual life together. Make sure everything is fine.
• Don't wait until he comes to bed for you to show that you want him.
• Whisper something spicy in his ear! The next time you find yourself dreaming about that
evening fantasy, tell him.
• And the best of them all: be passionate! Show a lot of passion when you are having sex.
with him!
Break the monotony

84. Don't settle

Know what you 'want' in a relationship and the qualities you 'want' in a man. Not
you settle for a man who is not what you want and who does not meet those requirements. If the
If you do, your relationship will be doomed from the start.
Many people write to me saying that their relationships never go anywhere or that they
are constantly discarded. Well, when you settle for someone who is not the 'right' one for
you (or vice versa), either enter a relationship in a needy or desperate way,
you end up getting comfortable and these relationships never work out. It's better to wait for a
It is better to wait two years to find the right person than to settle for the wrong one now. Know what you
I want a partner and a relationship.
Be careful also when discerning what is real from what is fantasy, or throw away your standards of
unreal perfection. Sometimes the "man of our dreams" really does not exist because we
we fantasized a man and a relationship that could not exist in the real world. In other
words, do not get used to it, but keep your expectations somewhere in the real world.
to find a perfect partner you need to let go of the past, seek your needs and
wishes; moreover, have the courage to set your expectations realistically.

The union may be in danger

These are just a few signs that your relationship may be off track. And if one of you is showing the
characteristics described in the situations below, so it's time for both of you to sit down and talk about the
relationship, because he is showing signs that he will not have a very long life.
• If he is no longer getting involved. When you are nervous or worried about something that
it happened, he just says something like: "Don't worry. You'll figure this out." This shows that he
is no longer making a point of sharing your afflictions or does not consider them important. Remember
that besides being a good lover, a real man also needs to be a good companion.
• If he no longer thinks about the future. When you offer to buy tickets for a play
what will happen in the following month, he doesn't care to choose the best day and doesn't confirm if
wants to go to the play. This behavior may simply indicate that he is not very interested in going to the
such a piece, but it can also indicate that he is not thinking of staying much longer with you
side. Stay alert.
• If he is negligent with your plans. The fact that he shows, more than once, that you
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 conquered, no longer needs enhanced attention. Show him exactly the opposite, that the
Attention, affection, and responsibility towards your partner are much greater in a serious relationship.
than at a moment of conquest.
• If he is not helpful. He is not willing to lose a day at the gym or football to do it.
something important for you or to help you solve a problem of yours, may indicate that he is more
worried about him more than about both of you. Make him understand that a relationship is built,
also, of exchange and donation.

85. Honesty and openness

Many women believe that men must know:
• that the gutter needs to be cleaned;
• that we hate when they touch us in a certain way or stop touching us in another;
• What is wrong with us when something bothers us;
• where is our clitoris located;
• where we like to be touched;
• that we think he is driving very fast;
• that the sink is leaking;
• that we will be late after work;
• how we like to be touched;
• how we are feeling;
• Why are we upset;
• and many other things.
Ahh!! If only women came with a manual! Come on, ladies, give your partners a break and
be honest and frank with them. Help him make her happy and he will also be happy. Don't keep doing
stupid little games and also don't do it like a yo-yo. Be truthful! A recent survey from a
A women's magazine showed that men prefer honest and straightforward women to women with breasts.
large, perfect bodies, soft skin and silky hair.
Despite the madness of the world we live in, honesty, sincerity, and other qualities of
Character is still very valuable in choosing a partner for life.

86. Demonstrate some class

Be comfortable with who you are and maximize what you have. This shows that you care and
can take care of herself, and she is also capable of making herself happy. Men tend to relax more
in the company of a woman who they think can take care of herself. It is about
the proper way demonstrates self-respect, and that is quite attractive to men. If saying that
demonstrate class.
But what do I mean by 'class'? This shows that you are a secure, balanced person and
worthy, who makes others feel comfortable in her presence, who has virtues and morals and who has
concern and a genuine interest in others. That is class! Class means that you do not
she is not only proud of what she is, but also accepts all other cultures and traditions. Marília
Gabriela and Fernanda Montenegro would be two good examples of classy women.

87. Don't give up on everything

Some women want to be in a relationship so much that they falsely believe they see the
qualities they want in a partner in any man they meet. What
What happens then? Desperate to please this other person, she begins to give up on herself and on
your life. This type of woman not only gets lost, but also ends up losing the person for
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Don't give up everything because of a man. If you usually go to the gym on Tuesdays, don't stop.
to go because he called her to have a beer. If he is allergic to cats, don't get rid of yours.
pet of so many years. If he lives far away, do not try to rent an apartment closer
of him. Did you understand the reasoning? The more you sacrifice and sacrifice your life for someone,
but you will seem desperate and less they will respect you. Translating: he will feel that you
he doesn't have a life of his own and he will not only feel suffocated, but he will also lose any
respect that I had for you.

88. Create a magical energy

It doesn't matter your appearance, if you are successful, if you have compassion, if you are intelligent or
marvelous – if you don’t have a spark of “energy” you are dead to others. You are
Do you remember my friend Ana? She has this magical energy.
If you feel negative inside, there is a good chance that you are not emitting that
magical energy. The energy is like a magical aura that surrounds our being. A man can feel
his energy just at the sight of you passing by. He is attracted by the vibrations, by the spark - he feels the
her energy excites him.
When you are really feeling good about yourself - when you feel happy with life,
with the world and with people in general - when you are connected to this energetic karma you
tends to emit this 'energy' in every movement you make. The energy is optimistic. It appears in
your walk, in your posture and in your laugh. You shine! You glow like only you can. This is
energy. A woman must have the confidence to be herself for herself and not to attract.
men. This is energy!

Spend more time with him

If you want to win someone's heart (someone who seems not to see you), then spend
more time with this person. I'm not talking about the number of meetups, but time in general.
Studies show that people can become highly attracted to someone they spend time with.
a long time together. This is called the 'mere exposure effect'. It is the tendency to like more
a person if exposed to it repeatedly.
I know what I'm talking about, in my life I have been attracted to coworkers with whom
I spent many hours of my day - men who, if I had only seen them once, wouldn't even
caught my attention. You have probably experienced this with someone – a person who doesn't you
caught your attention when you met her, but over time and constant companionship she began to
to awaken something in you.
Time often gives us the ability to appreciate a person's inner beauty, their
intelligence and its humor - attributes that are not easily visible in quick encounters. So, when
get close and try to get closer to someone (don't take this as stalking
(puppy), you might be planting some seeds for a future garden! A man passes by.
to look at a woman differently as he spends more time near her.
In the business world, good marketers know the path to success through skill.
to validate their business for customers. The way they do this is largely caused by
through repetitive exposure. The more you see something, the more you validate and legitimize it in your
mind.
Therefore, be your own advertising and value your qualities.

The first impression is of utmost importance.

If you haven't made a first impression, you won't be able to achieve great success with the
Second. What is the secret to a successful first impression? Enthusiasm!

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When you meet a man for the first time, act as if you are excited to
meet him. Give a friendly smile, greet him with your lovely voice, and behave as if he
if it were an old friend that you haven't seen in a long time.
Want more help? Of course you do. Puppies make a great first impression because they are
always very excited to see you. They love you right away, wag their tails, kiss
you and show that they are happy to see her and want to be her friends. That's okay, the example wasn't
one of the best - I don't want you to get close to someone wagging your tail and licking it
All right - but you got what I meant.
Thinking better, wagging the tail and licking it all over may be enough for many men!
(Just kidding!)

91. Touch it
This is a good way to test his attraction to you and make him feel comfortable. Remove a hair.
Imagining his shoulders, gently rest your hands on them while speaking or place it on his leg.
when they are sitting close to each other. Use common sense when doing this. It's very easy
invading another person's personal space without them wanting it - especially when they don't want it.
you know.
If he seems to not care about the touch, or if he touches you back, it shows that you
You achieve a subtle form of intimacy that makes you seem more attractive and cherished to him.
At the moment you meet him, the touch will be the thermometer of how the interaction is going; already in
a stable relationship, touch will be the thermometer of the flame of passion.

92. At certain moments, distance yourself from your friends.

Well, I don't mean to say 'stay away' literally, but most studies show that it is very
the greater the chance of a man approaching you if you are alone than if you are
at a table with friends. Why? Because a man does not feel as much 'fear of rejection' when
approaches a woman who is alone. He is more confident that nothing will be said or commented on.
when he leaves, in addition to feeling more comfortable with himself and with the situation.
Let's admit, it takes a lot of courage to approach you. While you were there
innocently chatting with his friends for half an hour, he was hiding in the corner trying
gather the courage to approach you. Most men know that it is much more likely
a woman rejecting a man when she is accompanied by her friends. Furthermore, he is not
only risking being rejected by you, but he is risking looking like a fool in
in front of a table full of beautiful women.
So, if you really want to get to know a man, set your friends aside once in a while and
go out alone (just never do this in a place that is not familiar to you - it can be dangerous).
Another tip: men are more likely to approach a woman who is in the corner of the bar.
and not in the middle or at a table - this gives the impression that you are accompanied or
waiting for someone.

93. Radiate sexuality

Feeling sexy is the best way to look sexy. A tight and short crop top is not sexy – it is
cheap, vulgar, insecure and desperate. It only shows that you have no confidence in who you are.
But feeling sexy, even in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, radiates sexuality.
How do you feel sexy? Being at peace with your sexuality, feeling like a woman and doing
things that women do - take long and sensual baths, wear garters and sexy lingerie, etc.
Knowing and feeling good about your sexuality is essential for you to radiate that.

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This is what makes a woman sexy. A sexy woman is not someone who just feels comfortable.
I can be myself, but someone who loves to be a woman!

Whispered provocations

94. Generosity makes you more attractive

Do it. Even for those who don't pay much attention to you. You will not only look good.
for him, but she will feel wonderful because of it.
Nothing makes us feel as good as when we see that we can be useful to someone – both by helping
and providing support, whether giving assistance, advice or any other type of help. The
Generosity is the way that God found to free us from ourselves and our problems.
and develop an awareness of the world around us. The way God makes us feel,
to value and know as people.

95. Be patient
Patience is a great virtue - especially in the game of seduction. Remember one thing: if
if he's not the right man don't be discouraged, that only means there's a man
better waiting for you in the future. You can't imagine how many frogs I had to kiss until
finding my man – but it was worth it!

Be polite and courteous to everyone you meet.

Treat them as you like to be treated. Be refined, have that magical and seductive touch. Do not
Lower yourself, not your standards, if you want to attract the 'right man' – and not just any man.
A man who is attracted to a rude, uncivilized, rough, and tasteless woman is not
the type of man with whom you should spend the rest of your life. Believe!

97. The subtle confidence

You would be surprised if you knew how much a subtle confidence can do for you. You do not
you don't need to brag to people about your achievements, you don't have to show them what you
You can do it. You just need to show up and move forward and do what you have to do.
Making sure that you always gave your best, regardless of whether you succeeded or
No. This is subtle confidence, a trait that can be quite attractive in a woman.

Don't try to be smarter than him.

This demeans a man and makes him feel smaller than he is. You want him to feel less.
man when he is with you? Of course not! What conscious man would want to be with
someone who tries to be better than him? Never say things like: 'I didn't say', 'You should know
"Why did you do something so stupid?"
Do not underestimate or belittle those you have chosen to be great, strong, and always by your side.
side.

Understanding is important
Put on the sandals of humility and see things from his perspective every once in a while. Don't do it.
too many questions and try to look at the practical side. Many times you will avoid a hassle of yours or
a misunderstanding between you two.
Understanding can also be a point in your favor, since we are human and therefore fallible.
of mistakes. Understanding is reciprocated in the same way, as are judgment and impatience.

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 100. Avoid the 13 worst mistakes you can make
1. The complaint. Complaining is a way that many women have to resolve a large part of the
things. The only problem with this technique is that what they end up achieving is getting rejected, and
quick.
2. Not being appreciative. Can you imagine everything a man goes through to be able to take you to
a date? First of all, he needs to muster the courage to ask you out; then he has
to plan and organize things for the meeting itself (choosing the restaurant, making the reservation, etc); it is
It is very likely that he will wash the car to make a good impression when he comes to pick you up at home;
so he will end up taking a long time getting ready – he will probably even buy clothes
new; many men bring flowers when they come to pick you up (I love this part, it makes me feel more
woman); and then they spend a lot of money on the whole program. Wow! Remember to thank for
such attention. Let him know that you had fun. Don't be rude, even if the date
it may not have been what you expected, but he at least tried to make it so.
3. The gossip. Gossip is how insecure women eliminate competition. A woman
Confident is not in a competition, so there is no need to worry about eliminating anyone.
4. The loose tongue. A superficial conversation is quite timely when there is an uncomfortable reduction
in the conversation and that unpleasant silence remains. However, starting to talk and not stopping is
irritating and can ruin your date. Discover something interesting for both of you to talk about,
save the small talk for when you're with your friends.
5. Explore. I don't think it needs explanation. You can become financially stable and secure.
by itself. Today there is no easy money, trust me. An adventurous woman is, for me,
comparable to a prostitute - only the prostitute at least has the decency to work to live.
Yes, you can fall in love with a rich man just as you can fall in love with a poor one.
but don’t look at their wallet before looking at your heart. But be careful: men become
they become uneasy when you ask them right away what they do for a living.
6. Competing with the 'exes'. Okay, someone did you wrong ten years ago. Guess what, men
they don't want to hear this story. Just like they don't want to know that your ex-boyfriend is great
your lover or your ex-fiancé is successful. It is extremely unpleasant for him to keep hearing
stories about the men you were involved with while trying to get to know you better. Put -
if you were in his place. If you inform the man about your past relationships and you do not
Will there be a future for anyone alongside him.
7. Being clingy. Some women cling to men like a drowning person clings.
a float. They depend on the man for everything, choosing the restaurant, managing the balance, and bringing the sun
for them every morning. This clinginess drives anyone crazy in a short amount of time.
Learn to solve your own problems and stop depending on others. Needy women and
Desperate ones are horrible. Get your life together before getting a man!
8. Games. A little mystery and false unavailability can stir up instincts.
hunter, but playing hard to get all the time will make him give up at some point. Most
men can identify when the difficult joke is not going to lead to anything. Throw it away the
rule book and get real. Just the fact that you are a woman and love this means that you have
feminine mystique enough to capture and keep the attention of any man.
9. Excessive jealousy. It's true, some jealousy – something moderate – can be quite flattering. I love it.
when my partner values who I am enough to fear that another man might me
to steal from him (not that there is any chance). But the excessive jealousy is hard to tolerate. When you ...
constantly accuses of betrayal or wanting to betray, rummages through his things and calls him all the time
Well, you are making a fuss. If you have a good reason to distrust him, then
end the relationship. But if you think you don't have a valid reason for your suspicion,
so go take care of yourself and your insecurities. Believe me, a real man is
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 Loved in the right way, feeling his woman's confidence, her acceptance, and the appreciation of what
he does, will not risk losing that trust - or losing his love and respect, just like the
from your family – because of 15 minutes of flirting with another woman.
10. The chat. You complain and grumble about everything, from the service at the restaurant to the smoke from the cigar.
table next door. Nothing ever went right in your life and every man you met was a loser.
Guess what, you will never be happy and he knows that. Why would he want to get involved? Besides him.
not being able to solve his problems, he is also not willing to do so.
11. Dishonesty. Don't lie to him. Don't talk about him behind his back. Don't flirt with other men -
especially with his friends.
12. Not being able to accept a compliment. This is related to your insecurity. When a man you
Praise, thank. It is simple and effective. Don't act as if it were a joke and he weren't.
speaking seriously.
13. Not having class. Respect yourself and your body enough to take care of yourself in a way
healthy and dress elegantly. I am not saying that you need to dress in a way
conservative and square! You can dress in a sexy flame - if that's what you desire. However
make sure you are not dressed in such a way that every man present
environment know exactly what they will find under the sheets. Yes, some men like to
women in scant clothing Here are the two reasons for that: a) if he hasn't been with you yet, he knows
that will be easy to take to bed; and b) if he has already been with you and is still going out with you, for
please know a very simple truth: 'you are to him what a pit bull is to a person'
insecure. Think about it.

How to get a new boyfriend now!

Just follow the steps described below and I guarantee that you will have not just one, but as many boyfriends as you want.
But remember: always be honest with yourself.
1. Look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself that you are sexy, special, and that any man should have you.
proud to have you as my girlfriend.
2. Write down on a piece of paper your biggest ambition (such as losing weight, changing hair color,
make money, travel, dine in an expensive restaurant, etc). Anything you think will make
you feel good today.
3. Whatever you wrote, you will need to do in the next 24 hours. You need to
to carry out, or at least to initiate for it to be carried out. But be honest, sitting and waiting for the
The phone ringing will not take you anywhere.
4. Be true to yourself and think about why you don't have a partner these days.
5. Describe the right man for you. Be honest and think about everything you like in a person.
What is his age?
sedentary life? Is he a businessman or a professional lover? How is the bank account?
Is he divorced or single? Does he have children? Is he intelligent, does he have an intellectual profile, or you
Don't you consider that very important?
If you already know a man you would like to be your sexual partner, go after him. Call,
schedule a meeting and tell him your expectations.
7. Ask yourself what your goal is: to find many partners and have many experiences.
quick, yet pleasurable and exciting sexual experiences; or do you want to find someone for a
long and stable relationship, but less exciting and pleasurable.
8. Reflect on whether you are ready to change your life completely to find a partner.
stable relationship. Would you move to another city? Would you change jobs? Would you handle the situation well if he
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9. Prepare a plan for yourself. Are you going to meet a man in the classifieds? Are you going to
Place an ad? Will you use a dating agency? Would you prefer to go to a singles bar?
Decide what you want to do and do it – but do it today!
10. Evaluate yourself. Are you happy with your hair, your body, and your nails? You have to like yourself.
Same above all, no matter what is happening. Otherwise, you will not convince.
no man likes you. Take the initiative. If you find something you don't like, change it!
Make an appointment at the hairdresser and change your hair. But don't worry about your weight, if that's something
that doesn't bother her. If you are a little overweight and like how you are, don't change.
Even if you are very thin and like your body that way, do not worry.
You just need to love and accept yourself as you are. Be honest and true.
Be yourself, don't try to be something you're not! If you make that mistake, you will be playing a role.
of an idiot and will be deceiving the person who is accompanying you.
11. Rethink your wardrobe. Make a list of everything you want and need to make your
interesting clothing. If you need to buy something, do it within the next 24 hours. If you don't have
money now, use the credit card or wait to receive your salary, but make it your deadline!
12. Do you know that sexy lingerie you always wanted to have? Go ahead and buy it now! Don't care.
with what other people might think; after all, you are the owner of your life and should not
nothing to anyone!
13. How long has it been since you treated yourself to a gift? Don't just stand there, go get the treatment of
The beauty you've always wanted. Stay beautiful and feel beautiful.
14. If you are feeling uncomfortable in chat rooms, change that right now! Start to
read newspapers and magazines, go to the cinema and theater, stimulate your intellect.
15. Learn more about sex. Read this guide and try to put into practice all the advice given to you.
16. Think about your favorite sexual fantasy. If you don't have one, it's time for you to think of one.
There is no reason to be ashamed of having a sexual fantasy; it is extremely healthy. What would be the
yours? Have sex with some movie star? Go to bed with two men at the same time? Think
that's right now!
17. Make a list of everything you have always wanted to try regarding sex (oral, anal, double)
penetration, masturbation, etc.
18. Make another list, now of the things you never wanted to try when it comes to sex. Think.
Imagine how you would respond to your partner if they asked you to do something that you don't...
you wanted.
19. Think about the sex toys you have wanted to use and don't waste time, buy them!
if you feel too embarrassed to buy them yourself, order them online. However,
Always keep in mind that it is your sexual life and the only opinion that matters about it is yours.
20. Learn everything about your body. Which areas are more sensitive? What excites you the most?
Hold your vagina open and look at yourself in the mirror. This is your body and you need to learn about it.
reactions and sensations. Masturbate in front of the mirror and see your reactions, the color of your vulva
changing and your clitoris. Learn what happens to your body when you are touched. Know that
touches that excite more, what is the best position, etc. This way you will be able to show your
partner the right path for your passion.
21. Believe that today is the day your life will change. Believe that you will find a boyfriend.
or a sexual partner. You are the owner of yourself, you control your life! Only you know what
It really gives you pleasure. There are several ways to meet the right person, but you need to
try, fight, it all depends on your desire and your will.
22. Do not be ashamed for not knowing much about sex, that is why I am giving you these tips.
It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to feel secure about some things; what matters is you.
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23. Become a goddess of sex and start with yourself. If you feel loved and sexy, I guarantee it.
that anyone will feel the same thing. Go for the fight!
24. Never forget a rather unpleasant detail: sex transmits diseases. Be careful.
always carry a condom with you, no one is immune to venereal diseases and, above all, to
AIDS. Do not have sex without a condom, even if you know your partner. If he happens to
refusing to use a condom, simply don't have sex. And never do something you don't like.
just to please the other person. Always be yourself!

Now that you have the man you want in your hands, I will teach you some tricks that will make
so that it stays exactly where you want it.
In whatever situation the couple finds themselves, as you will see, it is very important
As you remember, the atmosphere is everything - it matters a lot! So, whenever possible, turn it on.
scent, perfume or place, light some candles; make the environment cozy and pleasant and everything will turn out well.
sure.
A- The phone call
Call him at work, but first make sure he is not busy or in the middle of something.
something important. With a sexy voice, tell him everything you will do when you see him. Tell how and
where do you want to touch him - be erotic and convincing. This is a great way to fantasize,
break the routine in a pleasant way.
B- The indiscreet gaze
Humans love to see and be seen. We like to know everything that is happening around us.
our surroundings. We love to spy and snoop on others. So imagine what it is to spy and snoop.
someone or something that is forbidden. Tell your partner that they may violate the laws without
major problems; he will observe an unknown woman through the keyhole.
Make him sit on a chair in front of the door. Now guess who will be inside the room?
A "mysterious" woman will be slowly taking off her clothes in a very sensual way. Dance a
a little, touch your body, apply cream on parts of your body that he never dreamed of seeing.
After that, just wait for him to break down the bedroom door and pick you up in his arms.
C- The massage
Tonight you need to be ready to surprise your loved one with a session of
intensely sensual massage.
Dress sensually, after all you are not a professional masseuse. Prepare a
tranquil environment, really comfortable, with music and candles. Use lotion or some oil of your choice.
preference - make sure he is not allergic. Don't hurry, forget your worries, the
watch and its routine. Start playing with its body, touching it in various ways. Start with the
feet and start going up, skip the genital area and go straight to his shoulders and face. Play with the
his body, enjoy! After a full massage, start rubbing your body with the
hands and then rub your body against his in a sensual way, using your instincts. Feel the
the texture of his skin against yours, his muscles and everything else!
I guarantee that this physical contact will be extremely intense and will increase intimacy between
you two.
D- The Night of the Fragrances
If you like pears, this trick will be sensational. Pears are aphrodisiacs; their texture and
fragrances are simply magical. Send a note or an email to him, or a message in
your answering machine saying: "tonight you will visit the land of peaches."
Once again, don't forget to prepare the environment with care and attention. Try to find a
white or peach satin fabric and perfume it with the essence of the fruit. Next to the bed, place
a bowl of peaches. Don't forget to light many candles. Just be careful not to
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Could you take a bath and add a little peach essence to the water,
then wear sexy lingerie, preferably white. But if you really want to drive him crazy,
put a little peach oil on the nipples and the navel, and wait until he has the surprise!
The steam room
Put a note in his folder or pocket saying: 'The benefits that the sauna brings for the
health is known. Tonight, one of our exclusive representatives will visit you to
Show the advantages of a steam room. Be ready for our visit.
The most important thing you have to do is not to reveal anything to him - make a surprise!
Get thick and large towels to put on the bathroom floor and have some ice cream at home.
obviously of the flavor he likes the most.
Cover the bathroom floor with towels. Turn on the shower very hot, close the door and wait until the
The bathroom is full of steam. So, turn off the shower and call your 'client' to come in. Lay him down.
on the floor and leave it waiting for you, while you go undress and get the ice cream in the kitchen. When
come back, already undressed, kneel and say that he will experience the benefits of that sauna. Pass a
a little bit of ice cream on the nipples, neck, chest, navel, and the rest of his whole body. And how about you
If you don't want the ice cream to melt, start licking it right after you have taken the ice cream.
I guarantee that the ice cream won't stay in his body for long. It will end up...
spreading also throughout your body, causing all types of sensations.
F- The tasting
Tell him that tonight he will be the judge of a tasting, and that for each flavor he gets right
he will be rewarded.
You will need to sell it and have a box with chocolates, fruits, or anything else he
I liked it, very varied to liven up the fun.
Have him sit in a comfortable chair or armchair, sell it to him, and explain the rules of the game: for each
Right, you will take a piece of clothing from him; but if he gets it wrong, nothing will happen. What he still does not
You know that you won't be using 'anything' and he will be experiencing different flavors in different ways.
parts of your body. Pass whatever you have chosen for tasting into your
thigh, belly, breasts or anywhere else you want! And if by any chance he starts to make mistakes
lie a lot and say that he got it right. After all, you are the one who will be gaining the advantage.
situation.
G- The call girl
The fantasies of men regarding prostitutes are common knowledge. So, why not
use this to your advantage?
More or less around the time you go to bed, after a long day of work, show up at
door of the room wearing a spectacular corset and ask in a very provocative way:
Did you call requesting my services for a night of absolute pleasure?
I guarantee that he will wake up very quickly and wish that a night like this will happen again with more
frequency.
H- The delivery
Send a box to him at work, but first make sure that no one will intercept it and
Don't open it before him. Inside the box, you will put a sexy scented panty of yours and a
ticket saying the following: 'When you get home, you will find me wearing just this and I
I will be ready to satisfy all your wishes.
I- The teacher
Leave a note somewhere visible that he will see as soon as he arrives home at night.
The anatomy class starts at ___ o'clock sharp. Be ready.
Now get ready. Wear the sexiest lingerie you have, preferably a black one, with garter belts.
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Tell him to sit in a comfortable place, sit in front of him and start the class showing the
most important points of your body. You need to be sexy and say things like:
First of all, this is the mouth of a woman. A woman can do many things with her mouth,
I can show you some if you want" - then kiss him passionately. After that, you can
Say: 'These are the breasts of a woman (take his hands and place them on her breasts), they are
warm and soft... smell them" – then pull his head and press it between your breasts. And continue:
These are the softest hands you will feel in your entire life, now look and enjoy what
they can do for you.” Do what you feel like doing with your hands. The class of
Anatomy is in your hands, your wills, and your desires. Don't be afraid, fight for it!
Fashion Night
Send an email invitation saying that he has been selected to be a judge for a parade.
fashion – don't forget to mention the place and time. But you'll only tell him that it is a show of
lingerie when he arrives.
When he returns home, arrange a comfortable place for him to sit and inform him that he can
give awards to the pieces he likes. However, the awards must be kisses, caresses and
anything else he has in mind.
K - Prisoners
Both men and women know that tying up their partner or being tied up by them is
extremely sexy has a great effect on the libido of both. For those who are tied up, it is a
incredible way of torture - seeing the partner do all kinds of things with your body and being unable to do anything about it
I respect that.
You should try this, obviously with mutual consent - use handcuffs or something like that and the
your imagination! Torture him with provocative kisses and exciting movements and touches. And, of course,
After releasing him, you must surrender to him and offer to be his prisoner. Try it, you
will like.
The strange one
Tell him to meet you at a restaurant, but you need to choose a restaurant inside.
from a hotel and book a room.
Choose a very provocative outfit and schedule the meeting at the restaurant. When you are there
choosing the dessert, ask for permission, say you are going to the bathroom to wash your hands, and leave the table. Leave
an envelope with the waiter with the key, the room number, and a note saying that the dessert
It will be served in the room in fifteen minutes.
Go up to the room and get ready. Place rose petals from the door to the bed and over the bed.
Also. Wear sexy lingerie, a mask that covers your eyes, and lie down on the bed to wait.
for him.
One detail, you need to resist if he tries to take the mask off you. You will be a stranger to
all night long, don't forget that.
M- Man or woman?
The image of an executive conveys virility, responsibility, and leadership. That man of
A blazer with a serious air sharpens your imagination, doesn't it? So, what do you think that
What would happen if you could embody your powerful aura for just a few moments? Discover!
I assure you that you will not regret it.
Choose a complete suit from your husband's wardrobe: pants, shirt, tie, jacket, and of course,
your best high-heeled shoe.
Get dressed and wait for him to come home from work. Choose a sexy and calm song, let it play in the background.
pleasant volume and do a strip tease that he never dreamed of. Don't worry if you
If you've never done a striptease before, now is a good time to learn.
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N- The nurse
Call him in the afternoon and tell him that his health hasn't been very good lately and that when
when he gets home at night he will have a private nurse who will take care of him in a very
special.
Prepare the bed and don't forget the 'medicines': a basket with juicy fruits like peaches,
grapes and strawberries; ice cream; oils; and lotions.
You need to be dressed as a sexy nurse when he arrives. Sell it and start touching.
in his body, ask where it hurts and, gently, start to remove the clothes he is wearing.
Gradually offer the medication. Put a bit of ice cream in his mouth and fill him with
kisses. Rub ice cream all over his body and lick him all over. Put a grape in his mouth, then a
peach, then hold a strawberry in your bosom and tell it to try to grab it. Put one of the fruits
between your toes and make him suck them.
And finally, slowly and gently, massage your penis with the oil or lotion – or both.
The delegate
Write a 'warrant of arrest' for him and put it on the bathroom mirror. The following order must
According to article 69 of the sexual code, without the right to bail or appeal, the law tonight
it must be obeyed and a police officer must ensure that this order is maintained. Be ready and
Remember that resisting arrest is against the law.
At night, dress as if you were a very sexy police officer, and don't forget the handcuffs.
put your man in a chair and put handcuffs on him. Now, dance in a very provocative way at
in front of him, but make sure he still can't touch her. Kiss him; give the best oral sex.
that she has already experienced and whispered erotic and provocative words in his ear. Use your
imagination and make him sweat! Let him pay for all his crimes...
The maid
Choose a day when he is not expecting anything special and dress up as a maid.
sexy – like those French women with a feather duster and everything. Wear a very short uniform and, of course,
don't think about wearing panties. Serve him a glass of water or a glass of wine on a tray and
Tell him that you are going to sleep. Ask your 'boss' if he wants anything else before you.
withdraw. Now just wait for him to request your services.
The sailor
Leave a note saying: "Tonight, I will be the sailor who will guide you on an adventure"
wet and exciting.
Dress up like a sailor in a sexy way, with a very short skirt. Prepare a dinner.
wonderful with seafood and put a bucket full of ice next to the bed.
When you are in bed, place an ice cube in your mouth and move it across his body. The sensation
incredible that your warm lips and the ice cube will cause sensations that he will never experience
forget. Don't forget any part of his body, none! You will drive him crazy! Ask
then for him to do the same with you; you can even put a little stone inside yours
vagina. But be prepared, you will orgasm quickly!
R- The key
Ask him to meet her at a restaurant and make sure he, before leaving home,
I found an envelope with the restaurant's address and a key with a note saying: 'At'
At the right moment you will know how and where to use this key.
Wear a long dress and find him at the restaurant. Before or during dinner, show that instead of
a sexy thong you are wearing a chastity belt! Tell him that you spent all your
life as a prisoner and you don't know what to do to change that.
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