by Dr Nehad helmy
At the end of the lecture, The Student will be able to Define self disclosure Discuss the Johari Window List Types of self-disclosures Identify benefits and risks of self disclosure
The process of letting another person know what you think, feel, or want Revealing private personal information. Usually involves some degree of risk.
The Johari window classifies an individuals relating to others according to four windowpanes
The Open Pane includes information such as hair color, occupation, and physical appearance. The Blind Pane includes information that others can see in you, but you cannot see in yourself.
The Hidden Pane contains information you wish to keep private, such as dreams. The Unknown Pane includes everything that you and others do not know about yourself.
1- Deliberate self-disclosure Intentional, verbal or non-verbal disclosure of personal information such a placing a certain family photo in the office.
2- Unavoidable Include disclosure tone of voice, pregnancy, obesity and many forms of disability, such as blindness and deafness.
3- Accidental Occurs when there are (unplanned) spontaneous verbal or non-verbal reactions, unplanned occurrences that happen to reveal personal information to others.
4- Clients (others) deliberate actions Clients can initiate inquiries about you by conducting a simple Web search such searches can reveal a wide range of professional and personal information, such as family history, criminal records, family tree, volunteer activity and much more.
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Men tend to engage in report talk to share information, negotiate, and preserve independence.
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Self-disclose the kind of information you want others to disclose to you. Self-disclose more intimate information only when you believe the disclosure represents an acceptable risk. Continue intimate self-disclosure only if it is reciprocated. Move self-disclosure to deeper levels gradually. Reserve intimate or very personal selfdisclosure for ongoing relationships.
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Reciprocal self-disclosure has the greatest positive effects.
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A way of gaining information about another person.
To be able to predict the thoughts and actions of people we know. To learn about how another person thinks and feels.
Mutual disclosure deepens trust in the relationships and helps both people understand each other more.
To feel better about self and own relationship when the other person accepts what you tell them.
Benefit the individual and others .
Improvement in communication. More personal and significant points. More satisfying relations.
Owning feelings and opinions
Making I statements
People often dont do this for two reasons
To strengthen the power of their statements To escape responsibility
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The person will not respond favorably to the information. It does not automatically lead to favorable impressions. The other person will gain power in the relationship because of the information they have . Too much self-disclosure or self-disclosure that comes too early in a relationship can damage the relationship.
Self-disclose the kind of information you want others to disclose to you. Self-disclose more intimate information only when you believe the disclosure represents an acceptable risk. Continue intimate self-disclosure only if it is reciprocated. Move self-disclosure to deeper levels gradually. Reserve intimate or very personal selfdisclosure for ongoing relationships.
Likes and dislikes
Fears and anxieties feelings and anxieties about something another person has said or done.
Attitudes and opinions
Interests
Personality choices
Feelings and reactions about events that have just taken place
Masking Feelings
Concealing verbal or nonverbal cues that would enable others to understand how a person is feeling.
Displaying Feelings Expressing feelings through facial reactions, body responses, or paralinguistic reactions
Describing Feelings
is the skill of naming the emotions you are feeling without judging them. Increases the likelihood of having a positive interaction and decreases the chances of creating defensiveness
Disclosure may make you vulnerable.
People might judge you. Might cause harm to others or the relationship. What to do if pressed to disclose something that you are not comfortable sharing
Change the subject
Self-disclosure and privacy are cyclical and should be balanced to manage the dialectical tension between openness and closeness.
Women tend to engage in rapport talk to share experiences and establish bonds. Men tend to engage in report talk to share information and preserve independence
definition of Self-Awareness What is Self-awareness?
What is NOT self awareness Self monitoring vs. self awareness
Why Develop Self Awareness? How to become self-aware?
The Self Self-Esteem The Personal Self-Image The Real Self Development of our Self-Image Areas of Self Awareness Benefits of Self-Awareness The Sensitivity Line Crossing the Sensitivity Line References.
At the end of the lecture, The Master Student will be able to Define self awareness Identify areas of Self Awareness List Benefits of Self-Awareness
Ability to assess ones personality, behaviors & skills accurately.
About knowing who you are and what you want. It is about being aware of your own individuality. The ability to know and understand ones self. About being aware of your own behaviors, motivations and emotions. It is about understanding how and why you behave the way you do. About realizing what your strengths and limitations are. About being aware of your attitudes, beliefs and what you personally value.
Self monitoring extent to which you monitor, regulate &/or control behavior/appearance in social situations. Self monitoring vs. self awareness
Knowing oneself accurately (self awareness) is different from being able to change, monitor, or regulate behaviors in the presence of others (self monitoring) Self awareness and self monitoring may be related to each other
To improve performance: High performing personals are more self-aware.
To manage oneself: set appropriate goals, choose appropriate careers, manage stress. To understand differences between oneself and others . To accept oneself tendencies of behaving, thinking & feeling (example: understand why you enjoy some things and Not others)
Get to know yourself. Ask yourself questions like what am I motivated by? Ask your friends to give you feedback too.
Keep on reflecting on the way you behave in different situations. Realize the moments when you feel de-motivated and unhappy or motivated and happy and ask yourself what caused you to feel this way?
Become your own mirror; take every opportunity to learn about yourself, your likes and dislikes, what interests you, how your behavior makes you feel and what motivates you
1- Personality Traits
Openness Independent, imaginative, broad interests, receptive to new ideas Well-organized, dependable, careful, disciplined
Sociable, talkative, friendly, adventurous Sympathetic, polite, good-natured, softhearted Emotional, insecure, nervous, self-pitying
Dimension
High End
Low End
Conforming, practical, narrow interests, closed to new ideas Disorganized, undependable, careless, impulsive
Reclusive, quiet, aloof, cautious Tough-minded, rude, irritable, ruthless Calm, secure, relaxed, self-satisfied
Conscientiousnes s
Extraversion Agreeableness
Nervousness
2- Describe oneself Goals Immediate causes of behavior. Concrete, specific ideal states
Motivations Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation Intrinsic: Enjoy performing task itself, challenge of task performance Extrinsic :Enjoy consequence of task performance (e.g., obtain reward or avoid punishment) Values Abstract guiding principles of behavior
3- Learning Styles Preferences An individuals inclination to perceive, interpret and respond to information in a certain way.
According to Rogers, the Self: Is organized and consistent Includes ones perceptions of all that comprises I or me Includes the relationship among I or me an other people and features of life, as well as the value and importance of these relationships
Is available to consciousness but it is not always conscious at any given moment. The shape of the self is constantly changing, yet always recognizable
The overall evaluation of oneself
How we evaluate ourselves is a crucial element in our psychological adjustment. Positive self-esteem effects our physical well being as well as our likelihood for success.
The part of the self that includes physical, behavioral and psychological characteristics that establish uniqueness, it includes racial/ethnic identity, age, and statuswho you THINK you are.
In order to discover ones Real Self, one must separate what is real from the Personal SelfImage.
One cannot really discover the Real Self until one is ready to accept the possibility that everything you believe about yourself at this point may be wrong
Early emotional experiences influence our concept of Who I am.
Because we are influenced by all of our experiences, self-image is not a singular concept but rather an array of understanding.
Self awareness is developed through practices in focusing oneself attention on the details of personality and behavior.
If you have an emotional reaction of anger or frustration, you notice many of the thoughts and small triggers that build up towards those emotions.
Making changes in your behavior is much easier to do when you catch them early in the dynamic, before the momentum of thought and emotion has gathered steam.
Human beings are complex and diverse. To become more self-aware, we should develop an understanding of ourselves in many areas. Key areas for self-awareness include
Personality We don't normally change our personalities, values and needs based on what we learn about ourselves. But, an understanding of our personalities can help us find situations in which we will thrive, and help us avoid situations in which we will experience too much stress.
Values It's important that we each know and focus on our personal values. For instance, if your first priority is "being there for your children" or "your relationship with God," it's very easy to lose sight of those priorities on a day-today, moment-by-moment basis.
Emotions Understanding your own feelings, what causes them, and how they impact your thoughts and actions is emotional selfawareness.
Habits Our habits are the behaviors that we repeat routinely and often automatically. Although we would like to possess the habits that help us interact effectively with and manage others, we can probably all identify at least one of our habits that decreases our effectiveness.
Needs Maslow and other scholars have identified a variety of psychological needs that drive our behaviors such as needs for esteem, affection, belongingness, achievement, selfactualization, power and control.
One of the advantages of knowing which needs exert the strongest influence on our own behaviors is the ability to understand how they affect our interpersonal relationship
Skill development Knowing self strengths and weaknesses Developing intuitive decision-making skills. build better rapport with others understand more about own personality and how to manage own emotions improve personal communication skills
The Sensitivity Line The point at which individuals become defensive when encountering information about themselves that is inconsistent with their self-concept.
Crossing the Sensitivity Line
When information is verifiable, predictable and controllable. When we self-disclose so others can provide insights into own behavior
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