Presentation of John c Maxwell
The lens principle The Mirror principle
Presented By : Amina
Presented By : Belkacem
The Hammer principle
The Pain principle
Presented By : Ibrahim
Presented By : Mohamed & Mehdi
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The Lens Principle
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“who we are determines how we view others”.
The Lens Principle 3
1 Who you are determines what you see
How you see things it’s in your lens because we
can look at the same thing but we don’t all see
the same thing.
Who you are determine how you see others
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The way people see others is reflection of
themselves
3 Who you are determines how you view life
1. Genetics.
4 Who you are determines what you do 2. Self-image.
Question: what determines who I’m and who you are?
3. Experiences in life.
4. Attitude.
5. Friends.
The Mirror Principle
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“The first Person we must examine is our selves”.
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I must always ask my self this question :
1 Have I examine my self and take a responsibility for who I am???
“know the self” is a good prescription .
2 You must have self-awarness; and have a good idea of your strengths and weaknesses , desires and
motivations , your feelings and your problems .
We all now that to cope with deficult people is always problem , especialy if the deficult person
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happens to be you .
The Mirror Test Words 6
1 “the 1 st person i must now is my self : self-awarness”.
2 “the 1st person I must get along with is my self : self-image”.
3 “the 1st person cause me problems is my self :self-honesty”.
4 “the 1st person I must change is my self: Self-improvement”.
5 “the 1st person that can make difference is my self : self-responsibility”.
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“At the end I would like to tell people , look to the mirror
and take an honest look at yourself , and then find the
courage to change whatever it is that you find difficult to
accept within you , because before you can change others
, the 1st person you must change is yourself”.
The Pain Principle
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“ Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them . ”
Do I hurt people ? Or Am I too easily hurt by them ?
The Four Truths 9
01 There are many hurting people
02 Those hurting people often hurt people
03 Those hurting People are often hurt
by people
04 Those hurting people often hurt
themselves
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Don’t take it personally Look beyond the situation
because hurt people are often very because the situation might be silly for a
confused and frustrated and usually don’t person to be angry about it can sometimes
mean what they say or what they do.., So gives hints on what the real big problem
it is better to not a make a huge issue of is...,so it is ideal to study the person’s
it. behavior and to act accordingly in hopes on
making the best out of the current situation.
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Look beyond the person for the problem Don’t add to their hurt and help
sometimes hurt people suffer great problems them find help
and they have no hand in controlling their or suggest quick solutions that can aid the
actions and sometimes it is better to give person in the given time ,talk to them through
them advices Rather than making the their pain so they can open up emotionally to
problem bigger. you , or try and help them get help from a
professional.
The Hammer Principle
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“Never use a hammer to swat a fly of someone’s head”.
The psychologist ABRAHAM MASLO observed "if the only tool you have is
a hammer ,you tend to see every problem as a nail" It means we must ask
ourselves "would others say I overreact to small things in relationships"
we understand that the hammer principle is a principle that we really
need in life.
we just don’t have to beat someone up to prove a point to temper our
behavior.
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1 Total Picture
Before we overreact, before we use a hammer we have to ask ourselves do we see
the whole picture? when someone is sharing with us his point of view we try to listen
m, ask questions listen again, ask more question, listen some more, then respond
2 Timming
The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to
live inside the wrong thing at the tempting moment. we need to ask our selves two
questions : 1are we ready to confront?
2 is the other person ready to listen?
3 Tone
In our life there are many small problems transformed to big problems because we
used the wrong tone of voice
4 Temperature
If the reaction is worse than the action the problem usually increases and if the
reaction is less than the action the problem usually decreases.
The Hammer Principle
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Finally Jhon C Maxwell said :“Never let the situation mean
more than the relationship”.
General Conslusion
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