ABC of Parenting Skills
- 1. A Journey towards Effective Parenting Parenting from the Heart
- 2. Parenting is a gift of God
- 3. Parenting is Gardening The Universe blossoms in face of child. By bringing out the best in your child, you bring out the best in this universe.
- 4. Parenting is Trust The biggest trust is being entrusted with a life. The biggest responsibility is to live that trust through out your life.
- 5. Parenting is Labor of Love The sleepless nights, the career sacrifices, the postponing of your so many activities. The prize of parenting comes at a price.
- 6. Parenting is Enjoying Smiling together, singing songs, playing together with your child…..are most enjoyable moments of life.
- 7. Overview • Practical Meaning of Parenting • Myths and Facts related to Parenting • Different Parenting Styles and their outcomes • Effective Parenting Skills (A-Z of Effective Parenting)
- 8. Practically, Parenting is…… • Meeting the child’s needs to age of 18 or sometimes longer. • Guiding the child toward the goal of becoming a competent adult.
- 9. Parenting Myths and Realities
- 10. Myth #1: All parenting skills are instinctive
- 11. Facts: No one is born with all the preparation needed to be an effective parent Many parenting skills must be learned through gaining knowledge and experience
- 12. Myth# 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parentA mature adult can be a perfect parent adult can be a perfect parent A mature adult can be a perfect parentA mature adult can be a perfect parent
- 13. Facts: Humans are not perfect, so no one can be a perfect parent Mature adults should strive to become competent parents, not perfect parents
- 14. Myth 3#: Good parenting guarantees good children
- 15. Facts: Influences outside the family, such as peers, adults other than parents, and media affect children in healthy or unhealthy ways
- 16. Myth #4:Parenting is always fun
- 17. • Facts: – Like any other job, parenting can be fun, sad, exciting, boring, satisfying, and frustrating – Adults should have realistic expectations about parenting
- 18. Parenting Styles and Outcomes
- 19. Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom These parents are extremely strict and are often cold. They communicate through lectures, yelling, punishment, and one-sided discussions.
- 20. OUTCOME •Obedient •Distrustful •No expression of freedom •Withdrawn •Unhappy •Hostile •Not High Achievers
- 21. Permissive: Freedom without limits On the other extreme of the parenting spectrum is permissive parenting. As the name suggests, permissive parenting is more of an "anything goes" attitude. These parents do not attempt to exert any sort of control over their children.
- 22. OUTCOME •Aggressive •Least self—reliant •Least self- controlled •Least exploratory •Most unhappy
- 23. Democratic: Freedom within limits Democratic parenting is the middle ground approach and is often considered the parenting ideal. Democratic parenting is based on warmth, love, guidance, and positive discipline.
- 24. Outcome •Happy •Mostly self-reliant •Mostly self- controlled •Content, friendly, generous •Cooperative •High-achiever’
- 25. A-Z of Parenting
- 26. A-Accept your child for the wonderful person he or she is
- 27. B-Be a good role model in all you say and do.
- 28. C- Communicate respectfully and listen attentively to your child.
- 29. D- Discipline fairly, firmly and with love
- 30. E- Encourage good eating habits
- 31. F- Find ways to get and stay fit together
- 32. G- Give chores that built responsibility
- 33. H- Hug your child to build self- worth
- 34. I- Instill respect for other people
- 35. J- Join PTMs and other school activities to assess child’s progress
- 36. K- Keep your promise or do not make them
- 37. L- Laugh together and enjoy each other’s company
- 38. M- Make family rules and enforce them consistently
- 39. N- Never Use physical force on your child
- 40. O- Offer your help whenever it’s needed
- 41. P- Praise your child for achievements as well as for efforts
- 42. Q- Quickly stop your child from harmful activities.
- 43. R- Read together often and make reading fun
- 44. S- Show patience and remember nobody is perfect
- 45. T- Teach health and safety rules.
- 46. U- Use every opportunity to show your love
- 47. V- Value your child’s thoughts and opinion
- 48. W- Wait until you cool down before disciplining your child
- 49. X- Xerox and save records of your child’s achievements
- 50. Y- You can make a difference in your child’s life….so parent with pride.
- 51. Z- Zoom over this ABC again and again.
- 52. What are some appropriate solutions to the following situations? • Your daughter/son is throwing a ball in the living room and knocks over a lamp. • Your daughter/son leaves dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the bucket where they are supposed to go. • Your child refuses to do homework and keeps on watching television. • Your son takes her brother’s money from his piggy bank and spends it.
- 54. Parent’s Pledge
- 55. I Promise…I will show my children I LOVE them.
- 56. I will listen and value what my children say.
- 57. I will praise my child’s efforts towards accomplishment.
- 58. I will respect my children as individuals.
- 59. And….. I will enjoy with my children everyday.
- 60. HAPPY PARENTING