The Art of Self-Coaching @ Stanford GSB, Class 1: Beginnings
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This document provides an overview of a self-coaching course led by Ed Batista, emphasizing the importance of coaching, partnerships, and self-directed learning. It outlines the course's agenda, working agreements, and core principles of coaching, including inquiry methods and the role of empathy. Additionally, it details course logistics, grading criteria, and assignments structure.
![The art of
Photo by Seth Anderson [link]
self-coaching
Ed Batista
Class 1: April 3, 2015](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-1-320.jpg)
![Class 1
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![Beginnings
Photo by Judy van der Velden [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-3-320.jpg)
![Photo by Alex Eflon [link]
Where are we
Learning community
High-level concepts
Logistics
going?](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-4-320.jpg)
![How will we
Very brief lectures
Two activities
Photo by Chloe Fan [link]
get there?](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-5-320.jpg)
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Working
agreements](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-6-320.jpg)
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Working
agreements
I ask you to…
Start on time](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-9-320.jpg)
![Working
I ask you to…
Challenge yourself
agreements
Photo by Daniel Oines [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-10-320.jpg)
![Working
I ask you to…
Respect
confidentiality
agreements
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![Working
I ask you to…
Minimize
distractions
agreements
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![Who am I?
Coaching/self-coaching
An exercise
Coaching tools
Partnerships
Logistics
Today’s agenda
Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-14-320.jpg)
![What’s coaching?
Not advising or mentoring
Not diagnostic
Coachee owns the agenda
Coachee has the answers
Photo by Seth Anderson [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-18-320.jpg)
![Guiding our own growth & development
Not a solitary experience, but self-directed
Coaching partners are essential
You’ll have 2 in this course
& self-coaching?
Photo by Seth Anderson [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-19-320.jpg)
![Positive
Photo by Susanne Nilsson [link]
psychology](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-20-320.jpg)
![Joyful learning
Photo by Harry [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-23-320.jpg)
![Safety, trust,
Photo by Carly Lesser & Art Drauglis [link]
intimacy](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-30-320.jpg)
![Coaching team
Photo by Yahoo [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-33-320.jpg)
![Coaching tools
Photo by zzpza [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-34-320.jpg)
![Modes of inquiry
Photo by Garry Knight [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-37-320.jpg)
![Modes of inquiry
1. Pure inquiry
Begin with receptivity
Avoid presumptive questions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-38-320.jpg)
![Modes of inquiry
1. Pure inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
Focus & redirect
Feelings, motives, actions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-39-320.jpg)
![Modes of inquiry
1. Pure inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
3. Confrontational inquiry
Introduce new ideas & hypotheses
Substitute the coach’s narrative
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-40-320.jpg)
![Modes of inquiry
1. Pure inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
3. Confrontational inquiry
We tend to move too quickly
Critical to check our assumptions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-41-320.jpg)
![Ask better
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questions](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-42-320.jpg)
![Listening skills
Photo by Ed Yourdon [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-47-320.jpg)
![Shame &
empathy
Photo by Tuomas Puikkonen [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-51-320.jpg)
![Traps for the
coach
Photo by Casey Fleser [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-57-320.jpg)
![Traps for the
coach
Giving advice prematurely
Overpowering resistance
Taking on the problem
Stereotyping
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-58-320.jpg)
![Photo by Juhan Sonin [link]
Partners](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-59-320.jpg)
![Course logistics
Photo by Glyn Lowe [link]
Everything’s on Canvas
Syllabus = Home page & PDF
All readings = PDFs or websites
Assignments = Left menu & bottom of Syllabus](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-60-320.jpg)
![Grading
Photo by O C Always [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-62-320.jpg)
![Attendance
Photo by dcjohn [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-64-320.jpg)
![Written work
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![1:1 Meetings
Photo by crabchick [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-70-320.jpg)
![For next time…
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![Change
Photo by Earls37a [link]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/ed-batista-self-coaching-class-1-slideshare-150405190748-conversion-gate01/85/The-Art-of-Self-Coaching-Stanford-GSB-Class-1-Beginnings-73-320.jpg)
The Art of Self-Coaching @ Stanford GSB, Class 1: Beginnings
- 1. The art of Photo by Seth Anderson [link] self-coaching Ed Batista Class 1: April 3, 2015
- 2. Class 1 Photo by Judy van der Velden [link]
- 3. Beginnings Photo by Judy van der Velden [link]
- 4. Photo by Alex Eflon [link] Where are we Learning community High-level concepts Logistics going?
- 5. How will we Very brief lectures Two activities Photo by Chloe Fan [link] get there?
- 6. Photo by U.S. Army [link] Working agreements
- 7. I will… Give you my best Welcome input End on time What else would be helpful for you? Working agreements
- 8. Working agreements I ask you to…
- 9. Photo by Luz Adriana Villa [link] Working agreements I ask you to… Start on time
- 10. Working I ask you to… Challenge yourself agreements Photo by Daniel Oines [link]
- 11. Working I ask you to… Respect confidentiality agreements Photo by Vox Efx [link]
- 12. Working I ask you to… Minimize distractions agreements Photo by Robert S. Donovan [link]
- 13. Working I ask you to… Start on time Challenge yourself Respect confidentiality Minimize distractions Can we all commit to this? agreements
- 14. Who am I? Coaching/self-coaching An exercise Coaching tools Partnerships Logistics Today’s agenda Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]
- 15. Who am I? Instructor Leadership Labs & Fellows Touchy Feely Class of 2000 Executive coach & HBR contributor www.edbatista.com
- 16. Why coaching matters to me… Started as a client Changed my view of leadership Impact on hundreds of students & clients
- 17. Why self-coaching does, too 1% 6 to 24 months Help my students & clients help themselves
- 18. What’s coaching? Not advising or mentoring Not diagnostic Coachee owns the agenda Coachee has the answers Photo by Seth Anderson [link]
- 19. Guiding our own growth & development Not a solitary experience, but self-directed Coaching partners are essential You’ll have 2 in this course & self-coaching? Photo by Seth Anderson [link]
- 20. Positive Photo by Susanne Nilsson [link] psychology
- 21. Positive psychology Study of what makes life most worth living Equally focused on strengths & weaknesses Robust research to date
- 22. Risk of social comparison Sense of agency We blame ourselves Avoid triumph & despair Get curious instead The downside
- 23. Joyful learning Photo by Harry [link]
- 24. Joyful learning Yerkes-Dodson Law (Harvard, 1908) Arousal improves performance up to a point Some stress increases learning Too much stress diminishes learning
- 26. Joyful learning Hans Selye, Université de Montréal Eustress & distress
- 28. Joyful learning Judy Willis Teachers limit stress levels Students learn more
- 29. Joyful learning Stress Learning Eustress Distress Critical to avoid the tipping point
- 30. Safety, trust, Photo by Carly Lesser & Art Drauglis [link] intimacy
- 31. CONTEXTLearning, Awareness, & Behavioral Change Experimentation, Risk-Taking, & Vulnerability Safety, Trust, Intimacy Initial Conditions
- 32. Safety, trust, intimacy Built through relationships A critical skill for self-coaching You’ll practice in here with partners
- 33. Coaching team Photo by Yahoo [link]
- 34. Coaching tools Photo by zzpza [link]
- 35. Coaching tools Ask, Listen, Empathize
- 36. Coaching tools Ask Edgar Schein Help doesn’t always help What’s a better way?
- 37. Modes of inquiry Photo by Garry Knight [link]
- 38. Modes of inquiry 1. Pure inquiry Begin with receptivity Avoid presumptive questions Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
- 39. Modes of inquiry 1. Pure inquiry 2. Diagnostic inquiry Focus & redirect Feelings, motives, actions Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
- 40. Modes of inquiry 1. Pure inquiry 2. Diagnostic inquiry 3. Confrontational inquiry Introduce new ideas & hypotheses Substitute the coach’s narrative Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
- 41. Modes of inquiry 1. Pure inquiry 2. Diagnostic inquiry 3. Confrontational inquiry We tend to move too quickly Critical to check our assumptions Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
- 42. Ask better Photo by Alexander Drachman [link] questions
- 43. Ask better Get beyond Yes or No What…? & How…? > Why…? More reflection, less defensiveness questions
- 44. Ask better No leading questions That’s advocacy, not coaching questions
- 45. Ask better One more tip… Ask once & stop questions
- 47. Listening skills Photo by Ed Yourdon [link]
- 48. Listening skills Hearing ≠ listening How they feel > what you hear Make them feel heard
- 49. Listening skills Focused attention > time Cultivate presence Eye contact No multi-tasking Eliminate distractions
- 50. Coaching tools Ask, Listen, Empathize Brené Brown* Shame & empathy Edgar Schein Shame in helping relationships
- 51. Shame & empathy Photo by Tuomas Puikkonen [link]
- 52. Shame & Shame = We are flawed & unworthy of love Empathy = The antidote to shame empathy
- 53. Shame & Shame = Unravels relationships & connections Empathy = Creates closeness & meaning empathy
- 54. Shame & Seeking help typically triggers shame (or embarrassment or vulnerability) empathy
- 55. Shame & But typical helping responses block empathy 1. “My problem’s worse” 2. “Look on the bright side” 3. “Here’s some advice…” empathy
- 56. Shame & Instead… 1. Respect their view & avoid judgment 2. Look for, sense & validate feelings 3. Express understanding empathy
- 57. Traps for the coach Photo by Casey Fleser [link]
- 58. Traps for the coach Giving advice prematurely Overpowering resistance Taking on the problem Stereotyping Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
- 59. Photo by Juhan Sonin [link] Partners
- 60. Course logistics Photo by Glyn Lowe [link] Everything’s on Canvas Syllabus = Home page & PDF All readings = PDFs or websites Assignments = Left menu & bottom of Syllabus
- 61. Course logistics Contact me (also in Syllabus) Email, phone, text are all fine Generally 8am-6pm
- 62. Grading Photo by O C Always [link]
- 63. Grading Attendance 30% Weekly assignments 40% Final paper 30% Pass/fail allowed 3.45 mean GPA
- 64. Attendance Photo by dcjohn [link]
- 65. Attendance It matters A lot Unexcused absences = grade impact More than 1 may = U
- 66. Written work Photo by Anonymous Collective [link]
- 67. Written work 8 weekly assignments, 1000 word limit Final paper, 5000 word limit Deadline is always Wednesday @ 6pm
- 68. Written work The content is up to you Responses to course materials & experiences No specific questions, prompts or requirements
- 69. Written work 5 grading criteria: Timely Personal Conceptual Well-crafted
- 70. 1:1 Meetings Photo by crabchick [link]
- 71. 1:1 Meetings Entirely optional, no impact on grade Wednesdays & Fridays Default = Meet in front of Bass & go for a walk
- 72. For next time… Photo by Earls37a [link]
- 73. Change Photo by Earls37a [link]