These Are A Few of My Favorite Things
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The document discusses the tendency of people to talk about themselves, largely driven by neuroscience findings revealing that such conversations release dopamine, creating a rewarding experience. It emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and knowing others during networking, suggesting that engaging with personal favorites can enhance relationships and reduce anxiety during job searches. Additionally, it encourages readers to allocate time for discussing favorite things to improve networking and professional development.
These Are A Few of My Favorite Things
- 1. Favorite Things “Why, in a world full of ideas to discover, develop, and discuss, do people spend the majority of their time talking about themselves? Recent research suggests a simple explanation: because it feels good.” – The Neuroscience of Everybody’s Favorite Topic
- 2. Research: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-neuroscience-of-everybody-favorite-topic-themselves/ Study Shows 1. On average: Ppl spend 60% of conversations talking about themselves; 80% when on Social Media 2. Why? Neuroscience: Brain Chemicals! Dopamine! - Harvard University Social Cognitive & Affective Neuroscience Lab (functional magnetic reasoning imaging: fMRI) - Medial Prefrontal Cortex (MPFC): high levels of brain activity - Mesolimbic Dopamine System: 2 other regions (previously not discovered), which are associated with ~ reward ~ 3. Crux: Unclear if, when others talk about themselves, the info really sticks … Application to Job Search 1. Know You:eTake time to know yourself! - Feels Good: can be a coping tool – this isn’t just about the destination, but trying to enjoy the journey as well - Helpful When Networking: makes networking that much more natural & perhaps enjoyable 2. Get to Know Others: It may help you standout! - Feels Good to Others: when you ask questions about them – even something as simple as, “What’s your favorite…?” - Remember Something about Others: this will definitely make you stand out! Keep it as a goal or an objective, it will help you know you’ve been successful while networking 3. Crux: We don’t often value this practice of “Favorite Things” & so don’t set aside time © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 2
- 3. Benefits 1. Get to Know Others 2. Have Fun! 3. Temper Anxiety 4. Improve Performance 5. Learn New Things Professional Development 1. Get to Know You 2. Have Fun! 3. Temper Anxiety 4. Improve Content for: resume writing, networking, interviewing 5. Discover New Ideas Personal Development © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 3
- 4. She Knows Best … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33 o32C0ogVM © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 4
- 5. She Knows Many Things Too … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V CMl-620to © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 5
- 6. Brainstorming What are some of our Favorite Job Search “Things”? 1. Organizational Tools 2. Thinking/Working Spots 3. Tiny Treats & Rewards 4. Coping Mechanisms 5. Resources (like books & websites) 6. Topics of Conversation for Networking 7. Positive Self Thoughts 8. Misc. © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 6
- 7. Reflection Felt Nice/No Change Relaxed Energized Brain Fog Misc. Nice . No ▲ . Felt Awkward Relaxed Energized Brain Fog Misc. Felt Awkward . © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 7
- 8. Skills Integration Model - Kristen Fragnoli, Quest Potential Coaching Awkward Skills Competent Integrated © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 8
- 9. Relate this to Job Search (when) A B C A. Coping Mechanism - Stressed - Annoyed - Bored B. Getting to Know Yourself - New Routine - New Topics of Conversation C. Getting to Know Others - Questions to Ask: “What’s your favorite …” - Goal: to Remember 3 Things - Bonus: This is a version of Focus Management, where taking the time & space to do this can replace anxiety © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 9
- 10. Brainstorm (where) Where can We Set Aside Time in Our Daily or Weekly Lives for “Favorite Things”? - AM Routine - PM Routine - Downtime/Bored, Etc … - Warm Up Routine – before resume writing, attending networking group, or interviewing - . - . - . © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 10
- 11. Takeaway Summary: We set aside time today do this, so … Task: Identify 1-3 pockets of your life where you can do this • Ex: When Networking - have a goal to share 3 things about you & to remember 3 things about someone old or someone new To Do: Keep a running list of your Fav Things! Think of your Fav Things when stressed - Notebook - Planner - Notes App © Copyright 2020, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 11