Tips on How to Apologize
Whether you are in a romantic or platonic relationship, arguments and disagreements happen. Knowing
how to work through the problem and offer an apology can be an invaluable skill. Use these tips to guide
you.
Assess the Situation
Before you talk to the other person, spend some time alone thinking about the situation. Did you do
something to upset that person, either intentional or unintentional? Did they misunderstand something you
said? If you think through this and are still unsure as to why they are hurt, calmly ask them.
Regardless of who is “right” and who is “wrong,” if you have upset or offended someone, an apology is
appropriate.
Offer an Apology
When it comes time to offer an apology, do so without qualifiers or conditions. Explain that you are sorry
your actions hurt them and you are interested in reconciling and working through it. Apologizing, only to
immediately put some blame back on them, can backfire and make the original problem worse.
Once they have accepted your apology, you can let them know you are also interested in discussing the
circumstances surrounding the situation.
Strengthening the Relationship
After apologies have been offered and accepted, it is appropriate to move on to discuss the situation as
whole. When done in a calm and respectful matter, this will give you both the chance to better understand
one another.
Be sure the other person knows your motives for this discussion. You should not talk about the conflict in
order to pass blame. Rather, only have this discussion if you truly wish to learn more about the
disagreement to avoid future situations. When there is mutual respect for one another, you will likely leave
the conversation with a stronger relationship.
If an Apology is Not Accepted
There is a chance, despite your best efforts, that your apology will not be accepted. If this happens,
consider taking a short break and revisiting the situation at a different time. Giving both parties a chance to
calm down can make a future apology and discussion possible.
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